What are the Four Communication Styles? Background Types: ISFJ, ISFP, INTP, INFP | CS Joseph

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  • CS Joseph discusses the communication style for the Background types: ISFJ, ISFP, INTP, INFP.
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Komentáře • 159

  • @theresefrancis9283
    @theresefrancis9283 Před 6 lety +265

    My brother is an ISFJ, I'm an ISFP, and my older sisters INFP and INTP. Needless to say, we didn't do too many social outings as kids.

  • @louiseavannorden4710
    @louiseavannorden4710 Před 4 lety +72

    An INFP feels betrayed if they are “exposed.”

  • @Marwa-in7rz
    @Marwa-in7rz Před 4 lety +74

    Initiating: Exxx
    Responding: Ixxx
    Direct: xNFJ, xNTJ, xSTJ, xSTP
    Informative: xNFP, xNTP, xSFP, xSFJ
    Control (Milestones oriented): ENxJ, ESTx, INxP, ISFx (In Charge and Behind The Scene types)
    Movement (Progress oriented): ENxP, ESFx, INxJ, ISTx (Starters and Finishers)

    • @Quraishy
      @Quraishy Před 4 měsíci +1

      Very good summary
      Thanks 👍🏻
      Still so had for me to grasp all of this.

  • @SinksYourBoat
    @SinksYourBoat Před 6 lety +70

    My ISFP personality can't help but pay attention more to that beautiful hike you're taking rather than what you're saying.

    • @CSJoseph
      @CSJoseph  Před 6 lety +17

      I know right. I should do it more often.

    • @FARAHOLICS.
      @FARAHOLICS. Před 9 měsíci

      My ISFP always thinking that's a good scene to be in film.

  • @Raphael0654
    @Raphael0654 Před 3 lety +32

    This was a particularly good lecture; one of the best I've seen from CSJ.
    0:00-2:12 Intro
    2:12-3:02 Caffeine puts ISFJs in their ESFP shadow (+19:57-20:31)
    3:02-3:22 ISFJ's ENTP Sub
    3:22-5:41;12:35 Responding+Control (w/ focus on IxFPs)
    5:42-7:31 ISFP art thrives in freedom
    7:44-10:21 Informative info
    10:22-11:27;12:40-13:06 Behind-the-scenes realm
    11:28-12:25 IxFP's vs. ISFJ & INTP's Te+Si
    13:07-14:42 INPs' comfort zone ruts & pained compliance
    14:42-15:55 ISFPs = most naturally diligent (values freedom > comfort)
    16:18-17:15 These types REALLY value 1-on-1/introverted relationships
    17:20-18:05 They get an unduly bad rap for this
    18:06-19:29 Especially INTPs (+INFPs' daydreaming mentioned @ 19:29-19:56)
    19:57-20:31 ISFJs' retiring nature (+continuation of 2:12-3:02)
    20:33 Ct. ISFPs constantly looking for the opportunity to go back to their art

  • @Jess-yv7zc
    @Jess-yv7zc Před 6 lety +85

    Sooo accurate: life to the INTP is a giant puzzle-box and they need it. INTPs only understand pain; make them uncomfortable in order to get them out of their rut: yeah. And hitting rock bottom before growing and growing up: yes. Thanks for saying that we can get a bad rap for thriving in one-on-one relationships and to navigate carefully when more than 2 people are added; this is a thousand times harder for us than people realize (or care to understand). And I absolutely remember every single instance a trusted person has thrown me from the behind the scenes realm... I directly state (lol, being an INTP) that I don't appreciate that behavior and the really strange thing is that some people either get defensive or continue with the crap behavior, or both. You're so right in that we will remember and it does not bode well for the relationship. Appreciate your material as it's very helpful for understanding myself and others, both in working and in personal relationships.

  • @mariamattya8545
    @mariamattya8545 Před 3 lety +38

    " very shadowy individuals, always sneaking around " i laughed so much
    Yup exactly, I'm basically like a ghost
    People don't notice me
    I swear to the point where they don't see me when I'm in front of them sometimes!
    I unintentionally freak them out all the time 😂
    a teacher once didn't believe i was in her class😂
    I passed most days in high school without saying a word xD
    I love staying in the shadows:)

  • @stuge2589
    @stuge2589 Před 4 lety +35

    "They only understand pain". Ok that just kills me. Also, when I find myself in a social situation with 3 or more people, I very soon find myself disappearing into the safety of solitude :) -INFP

  • @david_oliveira71
    @david_oliveira71 Před 5 lety +20

    So imperative to understand this.
    "Let them stay in their shadow and be private."
    Thanks so much!

  • @zzulm
    @zzulm Před 4 lety +27

    Let's be honest, we have a high risk of codependency. I had a big problem expressing my needs and was expecting others to catch my clues. Now I know that I'm responsible for meeting my needs and sometimes I have to speak up.

    • @t-man5196
      @t-man5196 Před 2 lety

      Did you realize that it’s kinda selfish to expect others to read into your body language and hints and whatnot to try to decipher what it is you’re trying to communicate, rather than you communicating like an adult?

    • @zzulm
      @zzulm Před 2 lety +5

      @@t-man5196 I do realize that that's why I commented with honesty and shining a light at something that might be wrecking our relationships anyways 🙏 bye

    • @t-man5196
      @t-man5196 Před 2 lety

      @@zzulm wow how saintly of you. Don’t waste your time on a lowly subsaint like me

  • @heatherhafer3333
    @heatherhafer3333 Před rokem +5

    I am an INFP and I go into "why bother?" mode when things feel out of my control. Amazing that you and the science has identified this intimate detail about me.

  • @helocdr
    @helocdr Před rokem +8

    I'm an INFP and what you said about not wanting others to expose us is so true, it's the cause for most of my relationship problems

  • @Sing4God87
    @Sing4God87 Před 5 lety +31

    So many nods. INFP here. Yep, I will remember everything people have done to me. I try to forgive and move on, but I won't forget and I'll know what not to do next time or who to stay away from. I will not face something until it gets really bad, especially if it's something I'm afraid of. The only way I grow is to have the situation get so bad that I have to face it or do something different and then I'm like, "Hey, I did it!" and I grow. Yes, I give up when I can't control things. -_- If I don't give up I end up being extremely unhappy and possibly blow up at some people. I don't know that letting go of control is necessarily a bad thing. I don't realize I'm hinting a lot of the time. I expect people to pick up on subtle cues because I do, but I've tried to learn to be more direct. Even then, it doesn't always help, but at least it's clearer. Oh, and yes, definitely need time to daydream. I tend to be really cranky in the morning if I have time for that before events.
    I don't know that I can advocate making people uncomfortable, even for their own good. (Makes me think of that girl that got pushed off the bridge :P) I like to let people live their lives. It's their life. You can't make someone grow. People largely don't know what they're doing or if it's even truly best, so if someone tries to push me to do things I dig my heels in and I will never forget it and their ability to help me is gone. Some of the more severe cases then caused me to have anxiety attacks being with those people in a similar setting because of being pushed previously. For some of us with mental health challenges, it becomes way more than just holding it against people. Now, God allows me to experience things that push me and cause me pain so that I will grow, but I don't hate him because he understands me, and at least knows what he's doing and has a 100% success rate. I just don't trust fallible people to do that job. God is also more gradual about it, whereas people try to help me grow by pushing me to do too much too soon, and that's when there's the greatest amount of pushback, and I tend to hate them without even getting any growth out of it.
    So anyway, my perspective on the subject. You've given a pretty accurate description. ^.^

    • @CSJoseph
      @CSJoseph  Před 5 lety +5

      awesome, much appreciated

    • @sibestfunction4400
      @sibestfunction4400 Před 3 lety

      *INFP voice* bOuNdArIeS lol

    • @sash8099
      @sash8099 Před 3 lety

      Exactly not everyone grows at the same pace. This advice for a general situation is really terrible and not well thought out.

    • @elisabettaeaglesham1858
      @elisabettaeaglesham1858 Před 3 lety

      I can see how true what you're saying is in my INFP sister. I'm an INFJ, so basically my whole existence revolves around growth, my own and helping others achieve it. I can't stand being stuck, or seeing someone else who is, so I want to help them. I tried helping my sister, but any time I pushed her to get out of her comfort zone I could see her feeling betrayed by me and just retreating even more in her hole. I really don't know how else to help her, it makes me really frustrated, and I end up feeling betrayed myself because of her not letting me help and not trusting me. So how could I help someone with this interaction style?

    • @sash8099
      @sash8099 Před 3 lety +3

      @@elisabettaeaglesham1858 No can convince an Infp to do anything. Just be by her side. As long as she knows you have her back. She needs to come to that realization by herself. You can't force an Infp or any IxxP type to do something they don't want. Also you might not realize this but xNFJs can be extremely judgemental and alienating. They don't realize they do this but it can be hard to trust them or open up to them again once they've demonstrated that they really don't understand you but instead judge you and talk behind your back. Enfjs do this more often than Infjs.
      Don't shame her unless you want to ruin your relationship with her for good. Better or for worse she needs to come that decision on her own.

  • @CountessCarmilla
    @CountessCarmilla Před 4 lety +16

    Yeah I've had extroverted friends who assumed I want everyone else to know the things that I've told them, assuming that I do things for the social value only. Definitely respect the behind the scenes.

    • @CountessCarmilla
      @CountessCarmilla Před 4 lety +2

      @@t5396 There's probably a more proper term, but having interests for the interest alone, as opposed to having an interest because others are into it, it gives you social credit, you are into it for appearances only. Granted people don't mind having their hobbies and passions respected but those topics don't have to be in the spot light, and can remain very personal with out the need for other peoples approval of them.

  • @multicrogamer
    @multicrogamer Před 5 lety +25

    Why bother , i am INTP and i suffer from nihilism , yeah you are right i was doubting this psychology , i watched a lot of it but this got my attention.

  • @HARUNOboy17
    @HARUNOboy17 Před 6 lety +15

    I can remember a situation a few months ago where I was totally drained from a conflict the day before I was supposed to drive several people to an outdoor event and back, so instead of really engaging with my passengers I just turned on a little music and let them talk as I drifted in and out of my dreamworld. I could tell at least one guy thought I was genuinely pissed at someone, but I really wasn’t. I just knew the event would require a lot of extraverted energy and I wasn’t energetic enough to keep small talk flowing. I’ve held onto a spot of guilt for having needed that time to simply listen to my music and drive... until now. Thank you as always, C.S. Joseph. ☺️

  • @alannacarlson6715
    @alannacarlson6715 Před 4 lety +10

    You just explained something about me really well. Respect my privacy! I WILL hold a grudge.

  • @endofpixel3712
    @endofpixel3712 Před 3 lety +5

    The disengaging bit reminds me of this one time I was out in the woods with my cousins friend group. I didnt know anyone and I was socially done by the time we set up the firepit and so as we sat around it I didnt say another word, but for the first time ever I just thought nothing. I was just in this space between reality and my mind. And so for 5 hours I said nothing and thought nothing and heard nothing. It was the most amazing thing ever honestly.

  • @Minzee1000
    @Minzee1000 Před 5 lety +23

    I’m always exhausted as an INTP cause my mom is an ENFJ and my sister is an ENFP and they both love talking about what they’re gonna do and such, or always have an excuse to talk to me which is fine I guess but throughout the day it stresses me out haha

  • @ThePhi96
    @ThePhi96 Před 6 lety +45

    1:30 They are not movement they are control

    • @CSJoseph
      @CSJoseph  Před 6 lety +39

      Bruce yeah, Freudian slip, my mind is faster than my mouth

    • @usa4287
      @usa4287 Před 6 lety +5

      ISFJs are all about control and respectability. Do not make your parent look bad! Or, go to the opposite end of the spectrum and be the black sheep, and your ISFJ parent will single you out among the kids and coddle, commune with, and adore you. If you like to debate to come to a conclusion, to Speak The Truth, to be whimsical and imaginative, to demand that people be respected but also stand up for themselves, to be an idealist living for an ethereal purpose, and you have very little need for or Si comforts, you will probably NOT fare well. At least that is my experience as an INFJ.

    • @ChunkUhDunk
      @ChunkUhDunk Před 5 lety +2

      Thanks, I was confused for a bit too. Had to rewatch a few times.

    • @sash8099
      @sash8099 Před 3 lety

      @@usa4287 In my experience Enfjs and Infjs can be extremely judgemental without ever seeing their own faults and they alienate people. They often get abandoned because of that. Infjs are better and more understanding than Enfjs though. Enfjs will literally castigate and execute someone without any proof based on their perception alone.

  • @lavendarcharleston873
    @lavendarcharleston873 Před 4 lety +10

    I love that you mentioned how although we may be very private people and often prefer to be in one-on-one social situations. And that that doesn't make us inherently bad at interacting with people, or that we don't care about/are scared of social situations. Especially when you brought up the labelling us "hermits or "not good with people."
    I'm an INFP, and although I'm a student, I help teach one of the dance classes at schools (which consists of 25+ students my age). Which I might have found daunting if were to say give a speech of try to get hang out with at a party or something. But I will also disengage myself entirely when I feel like I need to, to go do something some sort of art activity for myself. So I both enjoy and am able to interact with many people, as well as disengage when I need to.
    It bothers me when people assume that we are anti-social or that we live in our rooms, when they often only see half the show.

    • @Jana-zp4to
      @Jana-zp4to Před měsícem

      Love that point you made ...
      ISFJ: I'm an hermit (Spent 3 years completely alone, no interaction not even by phone) but I'm not anti-social or afraid of others at all. And i'm very good to other humans.
      🙌 😊

  • @thescribe4742
    @thescribe4742 Před 3 lety +2

    I think that's the biggest give away. I'm not comfortable in my rut, not in the slightest. It's like a living hell inside my head. But I'm getting on things now, understanding no one is coming to save me but me.
    I think the biggest realization I've had recently that helped with that is that I feel so much rage because I've allowed people to walk all over me to an almost literal degree. Not putting up boundaries, not protecting my child function (or inner child) and as a result you get that Si critic "you remember when" kind of grandparent like statement that makes me feel like garbage, and get lethargic/idle.
    But now I understand. Now I see why boundaries are so important. Not just for me but for others too. So that way they know when they've crossed that line. That way I don't spend the next 4 years regretting things I did or didn't do because I was too weak, or didn't set boundaries at all.
    It's also why i need to start working on racking up some actual life achievements. My therapist says it's a miracle all on it's own that I can even smile, considering some of the crap I've seen and been through. But that's not enough.
    I need those achievements, and I know I do. Because when others legitimately feel good about the things I do, I feel good about myself. Albeit uncomfortable because I always had those moments robbed from me as a kid pretty much at every turn. But the days of abusing my own inner child through my depression are over.
    It's amazing how all these pieces started to fit so neatly together once I understood that. Like now I can see the whole picture, the reason why.

  • @jeremyjean-pierre4977
    @jeremyjean-pierre4977 Před rokem +2

    I’m an INTP.
    I didn’t understand what you meant by cryptic and hinting (I’m usually the one calling it out if not mistaken)
    But then I realized this is what I do with my friends: I lay a trap by starting a conversation a certain way, then I wait for them to get caught in it, then I use Ne-Si to bring back an inside joke or something embarrassing I remember about them. With my INFJ sister, I do this all the time to get responses out of her. Especially when she clams up in social settings where i end up « being her mouth » and reading her thoughts out loud when presenting knowledge we learned together. (I use that vulnerability to tease her mercilessly while doing it too)

  • @shaedanna
    @shaedanna Před rokem +2

    Yes. One on one = discussion mode; more than two = observation with occasional commenting mode.

  • @sarahamin10
    @sarahamin10 Před 2 lety +3

    It's amazing to watch how people are so different in the way they need to be loved and respected and how they express their care for others. 💖 You're making magic right here. Your efforts are much appreciated. 💖

  • @Moana_moo
    @Moana_moo Před 3 lety +3

    The phrase:”ISFPs are super digilent but if they don’t have freedom they’re lethargic” confirmed i’m an ISFP over ESFP or not minding my family and friends being out while i’m in working on my projects or hanging out and being sociable but after that my friends won’t hear from me a week straight

  • @un_realekztermin80r
    @un_realekztermin80r Před 4 lety +5

    Man, the worst part when I was first introduced to MBTI was using all the descriptions of my type (INTP) as an excuse for all my actions like 'hey I'm an INTP and they INTPs act this way, therefore what I'm doing is fine'. A month later I realized what I was doing and decided to put everything I learned about typology (MBTI) in the trash - It was very difficult tbh but I was able to anyways. Few months later, since the initial lockdown due to Covid, a video from Objective Personality showed up in my recommended and I thought maybe I should give typology another chance and this time I'm going to learn the cognitive functions. Since then, instead of using typology as some kind of horoscope, I tried to connect what I know about myself and people I'm close with to what I learn every time I study the types. Still, I think I'm an INTP, with comfort zone problems. Although I don't think I'm taking psychology when I go to college (I prefer biology over any other sciences, especially taxonomy and nomenclature, and bits of paleontology and prehistory), I want to try to go as in-depth as I can with Jungian analytical psychology and hopefully this does help me in a lot of ways especially in developing relationships.
    - INTP, love from Ph

  • @zahra7755
    @zahra7755 Před 6 lety +26

    'For them life is a giant puzzle box' make humans our puzzles because relationships are fundamental in life. Problem fixed.

    • @SJaye-zv9er
      @SJaye-zv9er Před 5 lety

      Exactly. It's the same for me, an INTJ. I'm fascinated by how personalities are put together.

    • @gurlycash7394
      @gurlycash7394 Před 4 lety

      My soulmate

  • @bananasrock100
    @bananasrock100 Před 5 lety +5

    ISFP here. Just subscribed, great video.

  • @user-de9lz3td1o
    @user-de9lz3td1o Před 5 lety +6

    LOL the conclusion of this video makes me feel like the 5 of us spent our life times in our separate caves

  • @CerceiLannister
    @CerceiLannister Před 4 lety +8

    Isfj is spot on. Just like I am. Just that caffeine’s not helping anymore 😂

  • @valeriepriso8606
    @valeriepriso8606 Před 6 lety +10

    CS, where are you?? The background is soooo beautiful! (of course when I have time to listen I will also pay attention to what you're saying hehehe!)

    • @CSJoseph
      @CSJoseph  Před 6 lety +4

      Valerie Priso this was done out by Sacramento, CA

    • @mementomori6992
      @mementomori6992 Před 5 lety +9

      There is a background? ~INTP

  • @darkisfp5543
    @darkisfp5543 Před 6 lety +10

    Yay finally I know why I’m lazy because I don’t have any freedom to do anything

  • @Oilofmercy
    @Oilofmercy Před 6 lety +9

    I am giggling about your ISFJ mum with the cup of JOE. Did she think you talked too much growing up? My ISFJ husband would sometimes tell me, " YOU can't stop talking." very funny. I really do talk alot. ( ESFP)

  • @dannydanny2217
    @dannydanny2217 Před 5 lety +5

    So I told an ISFJ i like her and she distanced herself to me. I was not able to see her for two days now come out of her room (i mean she does get out of the house without me knowing), considering we're living under the same roof. -INTJ

  • @ayarafi7144
    @ayarafi7144 Před 4 lety +7

    Imagine being an INTP and having a (finisher) mother... she always criticizes me for being too slow and takes me forever to do things .. and i criticize her for doing things "not the right/perfect way" just because she wants to finish it

    • @taketheredpill1452
      @taketheredpill1452 Před 4 lety +1

      I don't have to imagine. I'm INFP and sMother was a finisher; haven't talked to that bitch in 12 years.

  • @kbg12ila
    @kbg12ila Před 5 lety +5

    Even when at a job I didn't like which was very controlled I found a way to do things at my own pace. I did not like working with people because they'd go at different speeds and expect me to do things at different times. I never confronted them because I was too shy though.
    A lot of the time I will do things for people but I do not like it as much when I am asked to do things for them. My whole life I was told by my parents to lose weight and given timetables and taken to do things and it never happened and I hated it. I only ever lost it when I did it in my own way and at my own pace.
    Also as a kid when we had huge family gatherings I'd often seperate and just sit upstairs in the dark for a bit listening to the charter and daydreaming. Also at my last job I'd often go upstairs into the filing room or find an isolated place in the warehouse to just be alone with my thoughts.
    And saying one on one is still Introverted is very telling. When at someone's house I'll often seperate from the group to speak to one person. At my own house I spend most of the time alone, or with my brother, or just my dad watching TV for a bit. When they hang and ask me to be with them I rarely ever do it.

  • @nethercords
    @nethercords Před 2 lety +1

    about the time i learned i was an introvert, i had discovered that i was compartmentalizing all of my friendships based on my level of comfort and the social needs of my intj best friend the other two types were more extraverted and had difficulty understanding this behaviour which made me feel truly alien, granted i didnt know what an infp was back then.

  • @cheryl8873
    @cheryl8873 Před 6 lety +10

    One close friend is a INFP plus son .. Omg so true .
    ISFP other son ,more private emotionally I'd say then a INFP.
    INTP are hilarious ..

  • @aidenparca
    @aidenparca Před 5 lety +1

    DUDE YOU'RE THE BEST THANKS FOR ALL THAT
    I usually dont leave comments but this one was GOLDEN, TNX

  • @akaboo69
    @akaboo69 Před 6 lety +6

    I like freedom.and comfort. My dad's the same way

  • @younestft
    @younestft Před 5 lety +5

    the camera movement is screwing my Si Sensors xD , anyway thanx for these videos, very informative :D

  • @xuanius
    @xuanius Před 6 lety +10

    oooh this one is helpful. I definitely need a lot of freedom and control. If I feel like I have no control over how I do things, I get very ragey and quit-y. :'D

  • @namii4649
    @namii4649 Před 5 lety +1

    thanks for this! i was always typed as an INTJ, but really felt that my interactions were more similar to those of INTPs - i am very organized and plan alot so i think that threw off alot of tests, but this video helped me figure my type out

  • @cherramos3727
    @cherramos3727 Před 4 lety +1

    I just want to thank you again for this video... my heart is so happy that somehow I have left my son to go at his INTP pace, but understand my ISFJ mom also needs similar things too and I just wasn’t getting it...

  • @ninaivana1106
    @ninaivana1106 Před 3 lety +2

    Thats very interesting! I´m not aware of how background I am until watching videos like this one. It bothers me a bit actually, as I don´t want to rely on other people recognizing me / pulling me out of the background. As you said in the social engineering INFP video, nobody will be free until we INFP´s are willing to expose ourselves, it might be this pressure I feel to do it on my own.

  • @bostanmariana2512
    @bostanmariana2512 Před 3 lety +2

    Would like to see a video about intj vs. isfp

  • @bluejjay
    @bluejjay Před 3 lety +1

    19:00 This story about the INTP lady disappearing and playing puzzles is so awkward, cute, and highly relatable!

  • @keithlamm1126
    @keithlamm1126 Před 2 lety +3

    What's the "cup of personality" for INTPs?

  • @yustinussetyoyuniarto4816

    As intp/isfj, i am very private. The thing is, i have trained myself to be not that private. The result is, i still really private. After getting hurt, it's extremely hard for me to forgive, EVEN AFTER I SAID I FORGIVE SOMEONE AND BE KIND TO THAT PERSON. The feeling is barely moving on.

  • @isabelle2717
    @isabelle2717 Před 3 lety +2

    Thanks for the interesting content. I'm not that much into the idea of human personality being something fixed, but sill I find the accuracy of your theories very intriguing.
    Have you ever thought about how birth order or how much attention we get from our parents determines our personality types? I'm most probably an INFP, second-born (background type). My older brother is an ESFP (starter) and my younger sister an INFJ (finisher). So: starter - background - finisher. It makes perfect sense. My father is most probably an ISFJ (background like me) and is also second-born. My mom is an ESFP (starter), first-born like my brother. I can definitely see an analogy here.
    Also many psychological studies show that middle-born children usually get the least attention from their parents, so they tend to do things on their own, might be very much in their heads and feel unseen, which is actually something background types often suffer from according to you. Of course, it's not always the case that middle-born children are somehow neglected, but I think they're at greater risk of this happening to them. I always tried to be independent, prove my worth to others and ''show them all'', which my little sister finds hilarious, because she doesn't have such a strong need to prove anything to anybody. Our birth order and in result our personalities might explain it though.

    • @azuwithworld
      @azuwithworld Před 3 lety

      woah, as middle child.... it's really true

  • @suhazareer200
    @suhazareer200 Před rokem +1

    Thank you CS Joseph, super educational.

  • @SJaye-zv9er
    @SJaye-zv9er Před 5 lety +2

    I have more questions than I have time to watch videos. I've watched the Direct/Informative lecture, but I don't remember what it said about this.
    I've felt certain about my parents' respective types since I first read through the descriptions years ago. I've been sure for years that my dad is an INFP and that my mom is an INFJ. Since I started using the type grid I've been thinking INTP for him. But the interaction style is the same for him either way, so never mind.
    The problem I'm now having is that Dad isn't very talkative. Information does not flow from him like it does from my ISFJ dad-in-law. Even the name of the interaction style fits him. He's informative in that he'll tell you that you're out of milk, but he won't give you the history of the dairy industry the way both my father-in-law and my ENFP husband will.
    And Mom isn't hugely abstract. She is, but not like me and my dad are. He and I get into abstractions about the goofiest things and from some pretty unusual angles. That's not her.
    How abstract does a person have to be in order to qualify as abstract? And how talkative does an informative person have to be? Actually, never mind the question about abstractness. I just answered it for myself.
    My mom recently took the test at 16 personalities and got ISFJ. I know that's wrong. I'll ask her a few questions from the type grid to get her set straight.
    Oh. Mom took one of the tests. That's huge. I've been talking about all of this for at least ten years and she's never been very interested. For her to have taken a test, something must have changed. She didn't say so, but it's obvious. Since I've found your work and have started applying it to my (her) family, she's gotten interested. I never thought that would happen. It didn't occur to me as possible. What I'm doing with it now is new and making a difference for my family and Mom noticed. Wow. Thanks, Chase.
    Okay. I know that behind-the-scenes types can be talkative because my husband's dad would go forever. But are they necessarily? That's the hitch in my typing my dad.

    • @CSJoseph
      @CSJoseph  Před 5 lety

      they are abstract if they talk about what if more than the what is.

  • @karismoffat1968
    @karismoffat1968 Před 5 lety +2

    O gosh!! Am I that predictable?? Lol Great analysis on ISFPs, but how to improve then? C'mon guys, the truth is J types love deadlines, have high expectations on us, and we can't just be always on our own. It is just how it is, life happens out there. Some of us have our 9am-5pm jobs to do, planner bosses, coworkers or friends. That can be tough, big time!! I would rather improve my time management/planning skills. In fact, I have been already doing this to get more things done. Let me know if you have a series of videos on self development.

  • @johonanandrewgomes7593
    @johonanandrewgomes7593 Před 6 lety +15

    After some time it looks like I am a ISFP by my personality. But I am not much of a artist I do like drawing, photography, etc.. but I do like getting more knowledge. Would I be a ISFP really not sure, I am more of a Athlete and more to the logical side too. looked at many of your videos was really helpful.

    • @CSJoseph
      @CSJoseph  Před 6 lety +9

      Why not an ISTP?

    • @FARAHOLICS.
      @FARAHOLICS. Před 9 měsíci

      I am ISFP. I also do not like art so much, and i like to gain new knowledge everyday especially about culture and history. I'm into logical thinking but my introverted feeling is very strong too. Only my age at 30, i really knew i want to pursue filmmaking. While watching film, i prefer film with a good message rather than a good art that need to dissect everything about it's ending (metaphor). Before this, i just going with the flow in work and my work before this do not related with any form of art.

  • @gitu_tg
    @gitu_tg Před 4 lety +6

    ❤🌻 thanks
    Why is this not taught in school?

  • @ehegarty2010
    @ehegarty2010 Před 6 lety +3

    spot on.

  • @traditionalgirl3943
    @traditionalgirl3943 Před 5 lety +1

    ISFP here, my Te manifests not as fear of what people think of me so much as me never being surprised if people who like me change their mind revealing a truer negative attitude they have. Most don’t but I have let go of minding what others think of me because I cannot control that and people change their minds rather easily.
    Plus, as you have said before, we SFPs are poor at reading people’s ill intention on the spot. I may get home and know clearly I was scammed because my Fi felt uneasy during the interaction then my Se remembers the details and corroborates my feelings but by then I have made a poor decision or something.
    Another note is that I was in a group and the president made fliers in which our two names and phone numbers as contacts were given for everyone to see. Needless to say she had to arrange to take my info off the fliers before there were released. Being an extrovert she didn’t conceive of someone not wanting that info out there but I was very willing to black-out my info myself if necessary.
    C S Joseph, your videos are a gift to humanity. I appreciate your efforts and investment of heart and hours you give to produce such insightful videos! Thanks over and over!

  • @purplemind93
    @purplemind93 Před 6 lety +9

    Hmm, I think I've accidentally pissed off some behind the scenes types in my past, while being one of them myself...

  • @shadynail4723
    @shadynail4723 Před 5 lety +3

    Yah if I had any secrets, I'd be pissed if someone told them

  • @sachinbharti9634
    @sachinbharti9634 Před 3 lety +1

    Infp ,watching in 2x speed little weird to watch but I can understand your words

  • @inzaynstylesx4964
    @inzaynstylesx4964 Před 4 lety +2

    The ISTP in me, will expose them one on one(not public, I respect you not to do that) because I can't get your subtext, I don't have that much brain power or want to understand those subtexts. Tell me what you mean and only that.

  • @natashabaier6247
    @natashabaier6247 Před 5 lety +3

    Love this I'm enfp but my brother is an intp and my mom and dad are infps :)

  • @kimtopology4257
    @kimtopology4257 Před rokem

    As an INTP if I'm all tapped out yeah I detach and go to a quiet place and recharge if any extrovert tries to get me to socialize when I can't and they continue doing that that will make me dig my heels in and stand my ground if I'm stressed I'll be in my own space which I would say in not too many words to leave me alone

  • @shaneaverystarr
    @shaneaverystarr Před 5 lety +5

    Where is this? Looks peaceful; (you're definitely not in Los Angeles) 😂

  • @DaphnaFM
    @DaphnaFM Před 4 lety +2

    I've found this entire set of videos very helpful and informative, but there is one thing here I disagree with a bit. I don't feel that as a direct communicator I disregard context. I have an extremely high value on context. I think the difference is that, while sometimes I am capable of determining someone else's context, depending on how well I know them and/or the situation, I don't feel that it's my job to, I feel that they should at least reference the context that they are speaking within, instead of leaving all of it between the lines. If you are communicating something, it's my job to do my best to understand and respond and clarify where needed, it's not my job to fish for half of the communication 🤷

    • @azuwithworld
      @azuwithworld Před 3 lety

      me as well

    • @jdejesus7809
      @jdejesus7809 Před rokem

      I learned this the hard way. When I was young, I tend to give hints on what I wanted to say but got frustrated because no one would understand. Until I realized that I should be open to them at least even for a bit and be somewhat in between direct and informative because communication at work is a key to success. I am somewhat direct when it comes to giving procedures but most of the times, I'm informative + a bit of directness when sharing knowledge to people. I'm still figuring out cognitive functions because I've gotten different results from different tests until I found out about these cognitive functions.

  • @moneyvsfinance
    @moneyvsfinance Před rokem +1

    Speaking to economic regulations, they are inherently unfair, and counter-productive for that matter. They allow the government to pick winners and losers, instead of supply and demand. I'm not just talking out of my butt here either. Finance degree from a top school, top of the clase. Highest test average in econ theory classes, and even when I was arguing against what I'm saying now, I got highest essay scores, even though I knew why and how the argument for government regulation is incorrect. There should be no regulations and one law, no fraud. Off topic sure, but crucial for people to know and understand

  • @southhill6667
    @southhill6667 Před 4 lety +2

    The thing about getting into a rut is far too accurate. . .

  • @rumelingecristescu6046

    19:18 XD lmao, that's so me, standing alone on a radius of 2-3 meters playing sudoku or 2048

  • @cookiediangelo8511
    @cookiediangelo8511 Před 3 lety +1

    Reason for those stariotype is because most cryptic types are Fs, and most Fs are women.

  • @itsbygrayce1
    @itsbygrayce1 Před 6 lety +3

    Watch for their hints, and decrypt what they say...might their hints manifest as "passive aggressive?" What about in the positive? What might be some examples?
    How might one help them out of "their ruts?" I mean HOW do we make them uncomfortable enough to motivate them?
    I probably ask too many questions.
    Grace

    • @CSJoseph
      @CSJoseph  Před 6 lety +3

      You dont ask too many questions. Yes it can be seen as passive aggressive. What do you mean by positive? Usually its Se users who make Si users uncomfortable, but a true answer would be to not enable them.

  • @therealyeti1482
    @therealyeti1482 Před rokem +1

    Would caffeine help an INTP be productive, even if they build up a tolerance to it?

  • @Gadget_2161
    @Gadget_2161 Před rokem

    19:00 lol I don’t have to feel guilty anymore, isfj leaving makes perfect sense now, I gotta tell my wife

  • @user-de9lz3td1o
    @user-de9lz3td1o Před 5 lety +1

    Infp me | isfj sisters (who are bringing up things from 15 years ago even though they bullied me) | isfj mom had a job here | isfp dad hs to start rock bottom rock rock bottom here to impress his in-laws who still don't care ~ phew ~ don't know if this is good or bad but it's rough as any life is

  • @RR-ei7wo
    @RR-ei7wo Před 6 lety +1

    I love your mind

  • @user-de9lz3td1o
    @user-de9lz3td1o Před 5 lety +1

    Oh damn. Ty.

  • @therealyeti1482
    @therealyeti1482 Před rokem

    What are some downers that INTPs could use to transition into their subconscious?

  • @travmonster6251
    @travmonster6251 Před rokem

    Idk if you respond to your earlier videos; which I really enjoy because they seem the most imperative to building a foundation to learning all of what you're teaching.
    My question is does the comfort and recharging time only apply in no more than 1 or 2+ people settings or are their exceptions. An example would be a family. Husband 3 kids and ISFJ wife. Can she still recharge in that setting or not?
    Bonus question: You talk a lot about the importance of raising/ nurturing a child as well as nuclear families, but I haven't found any seasons dedicated to that. If you plan on it then great. If you haven't... Then you're welcome for the material. That would be incredibly helpful for parenting a generation properly, but also educating them on this to bring about change.

  • @vinnypiazza9240
    @vinnypiazza9240 Před 4 lety +2

    C.s Joseph, I have always been good at drawing but don’t really have a passion for it. I’m much more into sports. I some what agreed with most of the video but disagreed with the “decoding” communication part I would say I’m more focused on being direct as possible. I think I might be ISTP but my parents say I was really sensitive as a kid which makes me think I might be an isfp. Do u have any insight on to whether I’m an isfp or ISTP

  • @nelsontragura1441
    @nelsontragura1441 Před 5 lety +12

    I'm INTP and I tell other's secrets, so, meh.

    • @bonogiamboni4830
      @bonogiamboni4830 Před 4 lety +2

      I know this comment is a year old but do you mean you tell your secrets to others or other people's secrets to others?

  • @cultureshock72
    @cultureshock72 Před 3 lety

    Are there other types that also extremely hate their privacy being disrespected?

  • @M.Moadeli123
    @M.Moadeli123 Před 3 lety +1

    Enfp here. My ex was an istp. I found him sneaky and not transparent at all. Could an istp be that way or was he an isfp mistyped as istp?

  • @katjerouac
    @katjerouac Před 6 lety +4

    Why do you insist that the ISFP focuses on their art so much? I dont think that is always the case. As good an artist as they can be, they dont always make it a priority in their lives; its just something they can do well and thanks to Se-Ni and enjoy when doing it because it's a form of self validation; they're creating something they consider to be a rare natural skill set weather its whether its in the fine arts, Music or language. Not all of them are amazing dedicated artist posting their shit on instagram who can't wait to get home and keep working on their art. For a lot of them its true, but at least not at every point in their lives. 🤔

    • @katjerouac
      @katjerouac Před 6 lety +2

      On a side note the rest of the information was awesome. Nice vid.

    • @CSJoseph
      @CSJoseph  Před 6 lety +11

      21Sandoval not all art has to be paintings or photos. Sometimes using an excavator can be art.

  • @Roogy88
    @Roogy88 Před rokem +1

    10:31 you're a gamer I see haha

  • @danielmorales6151
    @danielmorales6151 Před 5 lety +1

    im super frustrated right now. I keep doing a test and i keep getting different results and each time i try to be as honest as i can but i feel like i keep making decisions based on my feelings and i remember things i do and i can say that i agree or disagree according to what ive done.
    so how can i type myself.

    • @CSJoseph
      @CSJoseph  Před 5 lety +1

      watch season 2 and season 15.

  • @samnorth4287
    @samnorth4287 Před 4 lety

    I can't figure out if I'm an Isfp or an isfj. Taken many test. Get different results. If I read about them I agree and disagree on both. I just cant figure it out. Can one be between two? I feel like a used to be an isfj before mom died, I took care of her my whole life from childhood. It's been a few years and now I feel more like an isfp.

  • @Gadget_2161
    @Gadget_2161 Před rokem

    13:27 I feel attacked by that person, I promise I want to connect with others it’s just like I’m traveling through life with out the manual that everyone got

  • @bloomberg2618
    @bloomberg2618 Před 6 lety +2

    Is there a severs for mbti types in discord

    • @CSJoseph
      @CSJoseph  Před 6 lety +1

      Yes there are plenty, I will be starting my own shortly.

  • @kristie3333
    @kristie3333 Před 3 lety

    Isfp~ mortified and pissed if someone talks about me publicly.

  • @cherrymarriedindiscord1404

    I grew to let people invade my surface privacy
    Everyone likes to get the secret, so I make things easier for the both of us by expecting being outed about anything I say or show
    I became so apathetic towards people tho

  • @Martinus777
    @Martinus777 Před 3 lety

    Sorry I can't listen to this video - the sound of walking sets my teeth on edge.

  • @Marinaaccoount
    @Marinaaccoount Před 2 lety

    Why is that so? (Fi hero, 5:30)
    Do Fi aux do the same?

    • @CSJoseph
      @CSJoseph  Před 2 lety

      Yes because Fe users absorb the Fi users feelings.

  • @yellowlenny
    @yellowlenny Před 6 lety +2

    What is your mbti type?

  • @jaweriaabbasi4250
    @jaweriaabbasi4250 Před 2 lety

    Is the caffeine thing applicable to all types or just isfj? if it's applicable to just isfj then why?

    • @CSJoseph
      @CSJoseph  Před 2 lety +1

      stimulants move you towards your subconscious for everyone.

  • @CarolineKershaw
    @CarolineKershaw Před 3 lety

    I wish this video hadn’t been left until last because it seemed like you had less enthusiasm for the topic. I think it would have been better to leave your own type until last as you would naturally have a greater interest in that video. I found this video rather negative especially about INFPs. All of it was true and yes it is helpful for typing people, but it seems to come from a perspective that omits the reasons for why this way of being can be beneficial. No mention of any good sides of being behind the scenes and why the world needs these people e.g. to balance out the structure group in a similar way to your starter group balancing out the finisher group.

  • @nobska09
    @nobska09 Před 6 lety +2

    Pretty much nailing it. But, INFPs and INTPs can’t be forced out of their comfort zone. Try doing that in real life will fail. The only thing they can’t overcome is that game of will.

    • @CSJoseph
      @CSJoseph  Před 6 lety +3

      I do this to them all the time. All I have to do to INFPs to make the uncomfortable is cause those around them to think less of them as a result of their own actions. Aka, arrange for a hit to their reputation among their peers. For INTPs its similar, I just have to convince people that the INTP is selfish and uncaring as a result of being in their comfort zone.

    • @brucewayne2184
      @brucewayne2184 Před 5 lety +1

      @@CSJoseph But a smart one isn't going to fall for that bullshit. Lol.

    • @destinyc1382
      @destinyc1382 Před 4 lety +3

      Silent Seeker ditto for INTP. That kinda manipulation pisses me pff

  • @judahgirl5153
    @judahgirl5153 Před 6 lety

    IM confused because @ 1:33 you say Movement but then at @ 3:30 you say Control , please clarify

    • @michellemota398
      @michellemota398 Před 5 lety

      He just made a little confusion for a second, don't worry

  • @user-de9lz3td1o
    @user-de9lz3td1o Před 5 lety +1

    😳😳😳 *shudders*

  • @BlackWolf-gh8hr
    @BlackWolf-gh8hr Před 4 lety

    I suspect one of my best friends is an INFP. However, he is a man of few words and doesn't really open up unless he is asked to by someone he trusts. Is it possible that an INFP gets mistyped because they speak so little that they end up looking direct?

  • @ramashakaroun2863
    @ramashakaroun2863 Před 4 lety

    🥺🥺🥺 I am an immature INTP

    • @seabeejg
      @seabeejg Před 3 lety

      Meh, just strive to better yourself at your own pace, but give yourself some challenges and do some things outside your comfort zone. It'll start working out. Growing INTP here.