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The way Adam reaches out to Britt and she smilingly pushes his hand away sums up this entire video so well.
Loved this
That and the "Keep smilling" from Ben were great at showing lack of empathy, but for me the kicker is that eye twitching from Phoenix after the "other people have it worst"
I saw that too lol
I love those kind of fine touches they do. So good
I don't get it .
2:23 The way Britt shoves away Adam's hand just shows how supportive she is by signaling him to fix his own problems. Truly inspiring.
A true fan notices the little things like that.
@@D3voidofsoul I see a ship growing on the horizon.
@@D3voidofsoul or someone who just stumbled upon these videos but have basic observation skills.
@@will-oftheconvictionsforge please don't ship real people.
Best part is 2:23 when Adam puts a hand on his "girlfriend"'s leg and she pushes it away >.<
They nailed the facial expressions!
Also the 3 day money back guarantee on a free product was a highlight for me too.
Normally, I'm not affected by obvious jokes, but this hit me hard.
I've heard plenty of people that regularly demand others "suck it up," while they themselves complain about how "nobody listens" to their problems.
If you want a good friend, be a good friend.
If you want to be a good friend, don't push your superficial self-diagnosed mental issues onto your other friends and demand to be treated like a special snowflake for it.
That is where a good amount of my anger comes from but because a lot of people around me think they’re depressed, my issues are no longer valid! “You’re not special” Wow thanks for that, captain obvious!
@@imtoogoodatpvp1252 Suck it up, don't be selfish.
@@teck1756his is a bit short-sighted. Even if they 'made up' their mental illness, they're still mentally ill for making it up in the first place, they are not well mentally in both instances and it's clear they need help, even if the mental illness is self-diagnosed.
Pretending depression isn't real definitely doesn't help.
But ignoring problems normal people face because your depressed also doesn't help.. I can see both sides.(I have had depression for a decade.)
As a serotonin challenged individual, I'm loving the attention these therapy videos are getting and the love shown by the community around said videos!
Same. That last monolouge by Phoenix about chemical imbalance really hit me, like "wow, they GET it," and it made me laugh harder than I had in a while, while internally crying that a sketch comedy team can get it but people in real life just don't have the same ability for sympathy.
no one asked
@@3ffinawesome459I'm getting the feeling you're in the wrong community.
Major props to Phoenix in this skit, her performance at the final message in particular was outstanding, the minor twitches were beyond convincing
That was Britt in the final message.
@@theladyamalthea preeeeety sure they were talking about 2:50..
Alan was also very good in this, the way everything that Ben did (like putting his hand on him) made him twitch nervously was incredibly realistic and relatable
@@jonathankay9803 And to round this out, complimenting all of the sufferers: Adam was fantastically convincing as a depressed person. That "smile" was hiding tiny facial tics that showed he was trying not to cry. (Sometimes I wish I wasn't as familiar with that as I am. But at least it teaches me empathy.)
simp 🤣😂😂
This is exactly where I like comedy to be. Confronting difficult subjects that are often ignored or misinterpreted and the absurdity with which they're often treated, in a way that highlights the difficulty of the situation in a manner that is actually accessible, making it thus more easy to actually address the serious aspects of it as well.
It's sooo easy ... ;-)
You must be fun at parties
Underrated comment. Much love. ❤️
@@matix676 you mustn't be tired of copying others' dialogues and memes.
This is exact kind of comedy I don't find funny. Like you said its confronting difficult subjects and it's often serious aspects. So laughing at that is like not taking it seriously and these aspects are more concerning than funny to me.
Its just my opinion. I don't want to start a war. I just want to see if I'm not the only one.
Phoenix's last scene nailed it, and my past 12 years in the military; "other people have it much worse than you." Nothing you have going on is bad, because someone else always has it worse...Thanks! I'm cured!
There's always a bigger fish
Yeah. That sort of thing is *profoundly* unhelpful coming from someone else. Ironically, reminding *myself* that loads of people have it worse by watching medical and crime documentaries helps *me.* Much to the confusion of my sisters. With the one, it's probably because she's neurotypical and *can't* understand what goes on inside my head. With the other, it's probably from our different approaches to having depression. She prefers filling her head with happy endings and all things "Rated E for Everyone" so there isn't as much "bad" that can run on endless loops when she's feeling low. I'm terrified of that day when I couldn't feel *anything,* even the slightest *concern* over my lack of emotion, and want to experience *everything.*
This is exactly how I feel about my depression. My life isn't horrible, I have zero trauma and my childhood was good, despite minor bullying at school. Yet, I have major depression. So I always feel like a total asshole for not enjoying my life, when there are millions of people who would probably gladly trade lives with me... Luckily I've never had anyone tell me, that others have it worse. But I know they have it worse.
@@brigidtheirishWow, I'm the total opposite, lol. Hearing about other people's suffering always makes me feel like shit (not just cause I feel guilty).
@@IHMyself "Individual differences" as my dad likes to say. I think a lot of it is cultural, too. I grew up in a *very* Germanic and Scandinavian part of the Midwest, so a response of "it could be worse" to "how are things" indicated that life was pretty good. Kinda like we don't want to jinx ourselves by actually *saying* that life's good.
Some of it may also be from the Asperger's. I recognize that my depression is from my body not producing or properly utilizing certain chemicals more than anything else. It'd be like feeling guilty about a personality trait. Granted, I *have* felt guilty about personality traits, but the more I learn about how the human mind works (and *doesn't* work), the less guilty I feel.
Brutal satire. Absolutely perfect way to bring much needed attention to a real pressing problem. Thank you all for making this.
Rowan is thoughtful enough to expand his business to help millions 😊
God bless him.
I wonder if there's a "find happyness: work more, get paid less" sentence in there as well. 😀
Millions of 💵? 😉
@@Dornpunzel "Hard work cleanses the soul, and money just corrupts it"
Adam: “Rowan, I don’t know what to do. I just feel like there’s no reason to go on.”
Rowan: “Have you thought about taking a pay cut?”
@@Coogan2003 Because, Adam, you know... paycuts show that you actually care for something. Something bigger than stupid money. That is your chance to give something back. The the world. To actually really MEAN something.
I love that Britt smacked Adam’s hand away when he tried to show affection. 🤣
I did too! 😂
This is honestly really relatable. I tried to reach out to a few of my really close friends about my depression and I got a response along the lines of, "Dude, you are so selfish," or, "Why don't you just be happy? It's not hard, look at me." I slowly stopped talking to them.
Did you try to be more positive or doing a push up ?
You never were hit with the "others have it worse than you"? Especially when they barely know what it is to have it on the crap side themselves...
It's kind of hilarious how people having it easy believe they are in position to lecture those who have it really rough at all.
But you know what? There's no such thing as "friends", really. Humans just use each other without a second thought, and when you become not so useful - quickly discard you. That's why it's best to simply accept the fact and start building relationships based on this simple concept (if you need any).
I know it doesn't sound as inspirational as the "love and friendship" BS they are trying to stuff into your brain from the early years on, but after you've realized what it's all about and how you should not expect help from anybody - it becomes easier to just be your own you and do what YOU want to do instead of wasting your time on catering to others' quirks.
Live your own life, find the way to become emotionally independent from the others.
@@getsideways7257 First of all, I am very impressed with your essay. But to answer the question yes. My Grandma overheard me talking to one of my cousins (who actually helped me) about my depression, and she said, "Don't you be talkin about how bad you have it when people in the world have it way worse."
@@wasuel_gaming7242 Why, thank you. Just thought it would be a good idea to share what I so far learned about humanity after having had studied it for quite a few decades already and then some.
As for the older relatives - especially Grandmothers - I guess we can cut them some slack. After all, in a certain sense they do tend to "play a role" of "an NPC" of sorts when it comes to things like this. In my previous post I was mostly talking about the so called friends or just acquaintances of mostly the same age or even younger. Now, THESE guys shouldn't be the ones to talk - and even less so when they barely seen or felt trouble in their lives.
Can you imagine that one day a "semi-friend" of mine tried to "boost" my morale by saying that there's a guy he knows that despite having no arms, nor legs is a CEO with a loving wife - or something similar along those lines? Good for him, I guess! But what does that have to do with MY woes, especially considering that in a certain sense my health related situation is even worse... That's not to mention the "lecturer" himself fared greatly and I'm not even sure if he ever had a serious problem in his life.
Pretty much like VLDL showed here (a talented bunch they are indeed), humans don't really give a damn about other people's problems... unless helping you can benefit them in return. And on the other hand there is this obligate "support your friend" programming that makes them feel they need to "say something". They don't give a damn, they want to get it over with ASAP - and all these little societal clichés come to the rescue. They'll just "push the button" (a few times if need be), and their social obligation is fulfilled! So nice to have canned responses to inconvenient situations nobody wants to deal with in depth and on their own. Just buy the button people. Satisfaction guaranteed!
I mean, sure, "the friend in need" could have had jumped out the window, but "nobody can say now I never tried anything to help!" And to rephrase the closing line of VLDL's clubbing video, "the friend was sh.t anyway..."
Get Sideways is right about humans use each other, that's how our species is designed. Someone that isn't useful has no purpose to anyone. It may sound mean but it isn't a bad thing. It's enough as it is to take care of your own life, let alone do charity work for everyone you come across. The only people in this world that have a unconditional responsibility to you are your parents, but most people with good responsible parents and homes don't usually end up being mental cases.
Friendships are just one form of a relationship. If the only thing you provide to a friendship is your problems, eventually people will get tired of you. You have to bring more than what you take. If someone tires of you and your mental problems, it just means whatever you provided in the relationship doesn't outweigh all the heavy baggage you're asking them to help you carry. It doesn't make them mean or a bad person. Just like if someone asked you to come over and clean their house for them and you said "no, clean it yourself", that wouldn't make you a bad person.
It may sound nice to say that other people should be there to help someone with their issues, but what are you doing for them in exchange? Everything in life is a transaction. It's not fair for the other party to also have their time and mental health sapped away by someone, especially if that person isn't actively doing anything to get better and just likes to complain. At that point you're just using your 'friend' as an unpaid therapist. At the same time, if you're a good friend and providing a lot to the relationship, but whenever you have a problem they aren't there to help you then that would make them the leech and you should discard them.
Know your worth and react accordingly. Recognize if you're being a leech in relationships and improve, or recognize when others are being a leech and stop giving them your resources. That's something everyone has to decide on for themselves.
I'm crying right now while watching this. I'm appreciative of this video and everything this team does to assist mental health awareness. Thank you.
Of course Rowan's voice is the button narrator 😂 What did I expect.
Thank you guys for using your public voice to address serious issues, and spreading awareness through your superpower - brilliant, spot-on humor. This channel is literally one of the few non-toxic corners of the internet left. Though I don't know you personally, you all just seem so nice and radiate a comforting presence. I'd love to hug you all 💜
2:23
I love the small detail of Adam putting his hand on her leg, and then her pushing it off. It sure is a mystery as to why he had the big sad...
Oh I did not spot that. Hahaha nice.
Lol I don’t think that was planned but either way it’s genius
@@michaelharris1884 im pretty sure that was planned - all of them continue displaying signs of severe stress and just being forced to smile and play along
like alan flinching when being touched on the shoulder for example
@@SharienGaming yeah true
Oh yeah. It one hundred percent looks like someone is holding a gun off camera telling them to look happy
As someone clinically diagnosed with depression and cptsd, I cannot count anymore the time I've heard all of this.
Thanks for satirically showing how harmful indifference can be
I have chronic pain and an anxiety disorder. I read somewhere awhile back that its helpful for people with such things as chronic pain and an anxiety disorder to laugh, so for the last year or so since I discovered you guys, I often watch your videos when I need a dose of comedy. Thanks for doing what you do.
Loved the subtle bit where Adam put his hand on Brits knee and she pushed it off. That quick tiny moment spoke volumes about their characters relationship, and very likely the primary source of Adam's depression, in just one second with zero dialog needed.
That's top notch writing guys!
I wish I was a billionaire at times like these.
They'd have all my support on their Kickstarter.
u also see the pain in his eyes as he's smiling
he's a good actor
@@mikekasich836 yeah, that was such a terrible smile that conveys mood of entire situation in most descriptive way...
"It's all just in your head"
Why yes it is, and that's where the TBI killed a portion of my brain. I keep my brain inside my head, because the alternative is so messy.
But when I tell a person with a broken arm "It's all just in your arm", somehow **I'm** the asshole.
You know why you've got a broken arm? Because you don't eat healthy enough.
I never did understand "It's all just in your head"
What am I supposed to say? "Excellent, it's not in my left knee, it must not be a real problem then."
@@Aethelia there's nothing to say to such phrases, there are even not 1500 of them - the number is countless, but the ground of it is the same indifference combined with "yeah-yeah, it's not a real[=my] problems. Now cut that off and do what I want from you". I've heard such "mood" phrases so many times in my life that I can't count.
Back in January, “It’s all just in your leg” me: Then why am I making eye contact with my tibia?
Technically the pain from your arm is also *all in your head*
I love how with Alan's anxiety you guys referenced your DND character! "I did a push up, and now I'm cured!"
Pure brilliance!
I love these guys. They're videos always cheer me up and the fact they are putting a light on mental illness is amazing. We've all had some one tell us what the red button says. "I did a push-up and now I feel better." Lol that was a good one. I hope this site keeps growing and growing. I'm donating to the cause as soon as possible. You guys are amazing.
I'm a consultant psychotherapist, and I'm considering including this in my "how not to..." section when I'm teaching trainees! I'm not sure whether to laugh or cry when I watch your Mental Health videos, but please keep them coming!
Something about the concept of Dr. D made me chuckle a little bit.
@@FfsNoGoodNamesLeft Consult now with Dr. D he’s the only D you need…..😂😂😂
please do
wow a copied comment
Wow imagine copying a comment.
As someone who is medically diagnosed and deals with OCD attacks, I can confirm that "wow I have OCD too!" is a statement I commonly get whenever I mention my condition.
Guilty of that... Watch some videos about OCD - being slightly annoyed that something isn't straight is not OCD... Still learning.
Even if another has ocd ...yeah. I got similar with anxiety and depression.
Can't say they had heard voices like I did and it freaked those out when explaining such a break down while falling through the cracks. Better now.
Any ways hope your getting help you need and better support.
@@Chamelionroses bro you don't hear voices from anxiety and depression
I'm sure that helps! Because misery really does love company.
@@windycity7042 ........ and your a psychologist with a full PHD?
Yes you do. Anxiety is a royal pain, add it to any minor mental unwellness for a major problem that acts in compleatly unpredictable way today!
So grateful for your efforts to increase awareness of mental health issues and to encourage others to approach them with compassion and empathy and not with judgment and laziness.
I love how you can see how everyone's satisfied with the patient looking and acting healthy as opposed to feeling good. And the patients play along, just to shut up those obnoxious "friends". I would do that when my friends started shaming me for not wanting to get better. I still do around people I know to either not care how I feel internally, or just don't understand.
I've been told by people how I feel so often, I started making the difference between subjective experiences (=what I feel) and objective experiences (=what people say I feel). Then pissed off most of my "friends" by concentrating on being subjectively happy and ignore everything that makes me objectively happy. (do people even exist, where the two overlap?)
Alan's flinch is a wonderful touch. As someone who's suffered with mental health issues, but who's also prone to suggesting things like exercise, a good diet, routine, and so on, thank you.
You actually ultimately get the reason for each person's issues just by watching closely. Phoenix's issue is chemical (which is explicitly stated), Britt pushes Adam's hand away when he tries to be close to her and Alan flinches when Ben touches him without warning and makes a fist.
It's not bad to suggest things like exercise though, a doctor will do the same as it's proven to be helpful, just don't expect it to instantly cure your mental issues, it's only one of the first steps you can take on the road to recovery. It has certainly helped me with anxiety, depression and insomnia when I was going through a dark period in my life.
@@SirMcAwesome absolutely. I get quite a lot of exercise (have done physical jobs my whole life, walk about 2500km per year, would go to the office gym 3 mornings a week before lockdowns), try to get as many daylight hours outside as possible in my current job, and in general eat a very healthy diet. It absolutely helps keep me sane.
My wife suffers worse mental health issues and sometimes I have a hard time not superimposing my beliefs onto her.
@@JvS1711 Yeh and it's not just about keeping yourself busy, exercise releases endorphins in the body which improves your mood and makes you feel good. Plus of your body feels strong and healthy the mind often follows suit.
Holy heck. As someone who is in this exact situation and in therapy, I get so frustrated with this. Sometimes a loved one will ask me how it's going and then starts to respond to me with, "You need to..." I completely stop listening. Thank you for raising awareness. Mental health IS health. Removing the negative stigma is important. Thank you guys so much.
Yes, I agree. In every conversation you can't just include everything, but there are people who JUST need to do things. Examples: you need to quit porn. You need to eat better. You need to be more active. You need to learn how to healthily cope with the incessant barrage of information from media (movies, games, news, social). People DO ignore sound advice without truthfully trying it.
Sometimes you're a submariner that has ridiculously low vitamin D catalyzing a deep spiral of unhealthy coping mechanisms that have to be painstakingly rewritten to have a ghost of a chance of recovering from complete anhedonia.
Sometimes you have to understand that we're in the information age with access to an incredible many things due to microproccessing they people fifty years ago might never have even thought possible, and now you've played your sixth Far Cry game, or watched this one show, and it just wasn't the same. Well, as it turns out, many of the sound advices to reset yourself are the same thing as what people are saying.
Yeah, brain chemistry is important. Some people are really just predisposed to having a shitty experience. However, sometimes it's just as the video mentioned: insomnia-induced dissociative events. Which many gamers can attest, is their own fault.
The point of this message is that it isn't the same for everyone. Telling someone they need to do "X" might do nothing, but sometimes when they take that advice, it works.
@@austinellison3766 Yes, resignation from unhealthy habits and addictons is important. But it is not easy. Often people know what they are doing wrong, but they are unable to stop. That's why they need regular help, not just advice 'do this, do that'. Also people that are addicted to something are generally prone to addiction, childhood trauma makes people very prone to any form of it. So those people need a lot more than just information that they have to stop doing what they are doing or start doing something they don't.
@@austinellison3766 For example gamer can play too much, because he has social anxiety and it helps him socialize in a non-stressfull way. Quitting from games won't help him with social anxiety. Or he can be unhappy with his live and depressed, so he can't do anything with what he feels. Again quitting from gaming isn't the answer for that person's problems. People smoke and drink to relieve stress and quitting won't help with their problems. What can help is going to therapy. Changing the world also could help.
@@Nashleyism I agree with everything you said. Though, therapy is expensive and can add insight you can get online for free. Everything I've ever been told between psychologists, therapists, counselors, and to a lesser extent, psychiatrists, were things I already learned from the internet. I suppose it's just another option. Like not using shields in Dark Souls.
@@austinellison3766 You are right. I am using internet for my psychological development too. It's free and helps me a lot. Heck, some time ago I was in therapy and it was a disaster. In my statement I just didn't include option of learning by internet, because I know there are people that are doing self work, but they take only what they want, putting band-aids on deep wounds, when a good therapist could really help them. So it helps me but I am not sure if it's good for everyone.
being an 80s/90s child, i just missed out on the mental health awareness advances that are taking place nowadays, so it's too late for me. but i'm at least glad that first world humans are gaining more and more empathy so people will be able to be heard and cared for like they should be.
I was born in 88. It's never too late. Sure wish it had been there when I was a kid though, maybe I'd have had a childhood worth being nostalgic about.
Same age, and i assure u it's never too late to seek and get help, as long we r alive. Cant help with what was ofc, but still worth it to go for a better future. It's always possible, so dont despair.
You still can, I was born 1971 and got help in my 40's. For me what really helped was finding the reason I feel the way I do. I still go through episodes but it is much easier when I, and those nearest me understand why.
More awareness can lead to more problems. Cus it's starting to be mainstream in some sense and U have people actually can want to imitate or create mental illnesses for a sake of attention and if they young & they psyche really attach the positive reinforcement from imitating the problems or having these problems especially in teen ages. It can lead to no good, may they actual build malfunctions in the personality. But I'm not sure this or people have less resilience to mental things and even online comments or events can lead to trauma but I'm really sure something deeply going wrong in Z and the New gen I'm on the older edge of Z. So I had less technology then who came after me. Seeing actual patterns on social media and apps with addictive design echo chambers, what deeply concerning me.
@@crowd175 If people pretended to be sick to get attention, that'd be indicative of a mental health issue and dealing with that would be the perfect solution.
You wanna know where the actual problem is with this many people suddenly being diagnosed? They've always been there but they hadn't been diagnosed because we had dollar bills glued to our eyeballs. And now that so many people are miserable, the figures are too high for us to believe them.
Like if you noticed that the number of people infected with a virus is in the millions, you'd be skeptical of the method instead of instantly trying to deal with the pandemic. Because it's unlikely that this many people are now infected. So it has to have been a mistake. So there is no cause for alarm. Right?
We could also just go on full alarm and deal with the issues and celebrate that not everyone is infected yet, instead of trying to cover them up and pretending like the problem isn't really there.
I've been a fan of VLDL for a while now, but my respect for them has just grown by leaps and bounds.
This is why I love these people. They joke about a serious topic while also giving resources to help those struggling
And the butt of the joke is the people that are apathetic, instead of the people suffering. This is how you make fun of serious stuff.
I clicked on all the links. Now I'm cured [ *thumbs up* ]
If professional help works why we need to joke about it?
@Fred Mitchell what if I tell you that everyone who have healed - healed on their own. And the profession was just there to hold the hand? We had these professionals before for free in every church and every kichen. Maybe it is time to understand something about our lifestyles?
was about to say the same. They're very lovely and talented.
No joke: This skit made me cry a little bit.
Thank you a lot. This makes me feel understood and less alone.
I really want to hug you guys right now.
What the fuck.
@@noxinabox3506 what's your problem?
I hope you find the support you need
feel well
@@oddeda For real. Mate needs a shit ton of help if they are crying in a comedy skit and oversharing pathetic shit to randos online who don't give a fuck. And the hug part? I repeat: What the fuck.
look all these guys want is you to keep paying their patreon and not listen to your sob stories.
Somebody who struggles with mental health on a daily basis this one really hit home because I have been told absolutely all of those useless pointless platitudes design for the sole purpose of making someone feel better about themselves because hey they had something pointless to say because you were experiencing real pain they can't possibly comprehend because they refuse to try let's just throw out some pointless words that we heard on TV or that we read online that's basically what I live with everyday and sometimes it gets hard to want to continue living absolutely feel that one
I just watched your channel ...... And now I'm cured !
Hearing some of this was actually kind of difficult. It reminded me of some very familiar and unproductive thought cycles where I start to blame myself for the way that I feel. But then I did a push-up…
It hurts to know that things like "stop being so selfish" are still being said to people who genuinely need help. Good work with another great video adressing a serious topic.
true but there are a lot of people that dont put the effort in themselves and expect other people to drop everything when theyre feeling down. most people suffer depression at some point and they best thing to fight it is help yourself
Ah yes, the thing I need to fix my depression issues.
A porn bot.
Stop being so selfish.
It's not like anyone WANTS to be depressed. Right?
RIGHT?!
@@sertiana2512 It could always be worse.
"yeah it hurts me too"
Oh my god you have absolutely NAILED the line between parody and education. I work in mental health and I adore the wonderful skill that went into this video. This is the kind of "make you think" that the true jester or harlequin would provide. So well done!
I've found in faith the incentive that my motivation needed to keep going, and I hope each one watching this find it's own way to deal with mental issues: everyone has a different pach. You guys are awesome, I thank CZcams for letting me know your work. Hugs from Brazil
Me: "I just got Covid-19 positive..."
*pushes the button*
Button: "Have you tried being more positive?"
😂
I feel like I should be more ashamed for laughing at that.
Correct, the best fix for COVID is more COVID
*Covid-20 unlocked*
"You should get out and socialize more"
*cough cough*
"I'm depressed"
BUTTON: That's Outrageous! Stop feeling down otherwise you'll get a pay cut!
" ah thanks I feel much better" 😄
No crying allowed, cry in the bathroom if you really need to
I just wanted to say Thank You to you guys for making this video! It had an immediate impact on my life.
I've been in and out of the hospital since January, (I'm an inpatient right now actually) and some of the issues have been pretty serious. I've been getting more and more desperate and depressed with my situation. Feeling hopeless, like this is going to keep ruining my life forever.
Then I watched this video and followed the links. I was able to get help within minutes and have someone professional that I could talk to about this whole messed-up situation.
Thank you again guys. You are making a difference.
I know this comment is 8 months old now but I hope that you've turned a corner and that things are improving for you.
OUT-FREAKING-STANDING!!!! I am sharing this with so many folks that could voice that button. Things can't be fixed that easily. Thank you so much for this video and your other ones you have been doing on mental health. They are a God send
Far too relatable. Well played, Kiwis
Reminds me of a "mental health" seminar we had at work with one of the directors where, among other things, he said not to let your brain dictate how you feel, to just stop listening to negative thoughts and go out there and grab the positive ones, to not rely on psychologists to prescribe a whole bunch of medication for you (I wanted to point out to him that psychiatrists do that, not psychologists, but I don't think it would have mattered), to simply do more fun things instead of the things that make you sad, and then followed up on that last one saying he feels down sometimes when he works on weekends a lot so he set aside more time to go golfing or boating with his family. I absolutely cannot make this up.
Also, THANK YOU VlDL for making this video. It's extremely well done and really makes a great point that so many appreciate seeing. Well done, gang.
Wow, he sure used a lot of words to say "I'm ignorant and have no idea what I'm talking about."
@@allthefandoms92 Yeah, every single thing about it was so bad and I was really upset that something so badly presented was done on behalf of the company. I particularly liked the bit about going out on a personal boat to feel better, while talking to people who had actually been under a pay freeze for a year and a half at that point.
@@galmorzu I know right? Like yes because everyone obviously has that kind of money, like how out of touch are you? I'm sorry you went through that
@@allthefandoms92 More really annoyed than upset. Just really irked me that work and this guy were both so tone deaf to think this was a legitimate presentation on mental health awareness. It was honestly bordering satire, which is why this vid reminded me of that.
Mental health is a tough thing to address delicately.. I've had my own share of issues, yet I hardly know what to say to someone who's struggling. On one hand, changing up your diet and getting more exercise can REALLY help. On the other hand, it might not, maybe the person feels like they've tried that, and in any case, they're in no mood to hear it. Depression is a paradoxical disease, that cuts off the mental tools you need to address it. Perhaps the best thing a friend can offer is the motivation that the sufferer currently lacks (ie., let's go on a bike ride TOGETHER, Right now, even though you don't feel like it.) Sometimes "go see a doctor now" is the best advice, but there's surely more we can offer each other for starters.
This sums up the problems with how many people relate to and tries to handle mental health issues. Instead of empathy, they take it as a chore.
That nervous twitch from Alan at the end was perfect!
I noticed this mental health trend when you started your therapist session series. I think it's a good thing that you're addressing these concerns.
Insofar as the problems that each of you face, someone half a world away struggles less with their own mental health issues because of what you guys do every single day. I hope the kickstarter is a complete success and I hope you guys never stop doing what you're doing! Thank you so much for it! You are wonderful people for bringing such light and laughter into this world!
AMEN! Serously... Comedy is the best cure. Everyone's always so worried about offending others but when a comic comes straight out and just says what everyone's thinking... it's like I can breathe easy again.
Love how Alan is using push-ups as in d&d to reduce real-life anxiety
I hope there's a way they can cross this over into the D&D episodes. You know, bring it full circle. ^^
Deserves an award nomination guys. Seriously. The concept of "normal people" is a pipe dream. The concept of "normal" facilitates disorders enough as is. One size does not fit all. This is one of the few of these I have seen that hit nearly every single damaging interactions with people who don't understand mental health issues. It is ok to want to help, sometimes the best thing you can do is help them find help for themselves and understand that it may be treatable but is rarely curable. They struggle each and everyday with it, and will. The important part is to be there to support structured treatment provided by qualified professionals. We all can make a difference.
Superb! My favourites are, "have you tried exercising", "it could be wise", "choose to be happy".
Alan: ,,But then I did a pushup and now I'm cured."
Well, I think you did more than that.
Pushups randomly in the middle of a conversation.
Pushups while you're bleeding out and are on your possible last breaths.
And now also pushups against drepession.
I guess pushups are truely the cure for every uncomfortable daily situation!
And he gained +1 strength from it!
He’s cured!
@@VivaLaDirtLeague so Rowan you turn into a button ha ha ha ha looks like they finally laid you off from playtech 😂😂
@@VivaLaDirtLeague But what if he just levelled up +1 Speech and lied to you about being cured? #levellingupthewrongstats
@@VivaLaDirtLeague You may be be depressed but at least you have your health... Try it today!
@@kingsly3690 You should try to do one push up than.
Thank me for fixing your body later
When Adam touches Britt's legs and she just pushes him down...my god the burn...
Watched that 3 times :)
After five sessions with a psychologist when I was at an extremely high risk of suicide, all she told me was to exercise, travel, wait for a psychiatry appointment (a whole 2 fucking months away because every psychiatrist was heavily booked) and to get out more 🙄. It feels like VLDL understands the struggles of mental illness more than my doctorate level psychologist did.
I love the details. How jumpy he was, and how she pushed his hand off. So relatable 💖
This is legitimately really well made. I like that it's funny, but at no point, not even once, was there any attempt to make fun of the mental illnesses.
It's in a similiar vain as some college humor skits - but it has it's own style :D Like it.
@Zantonny I couldn't agree more.
Giving people good advice that would help them and them refusing to take it is kind of mocking really.
@@robertnett9793 college humor was ok, but Viva is in a whole ‘nother league. League. See what I did there?
@@jasongrundy1717 except none of that ‘advice’ was helpful… that’s the whole point.
As someone with a father that always says - Its all in your head, when i had those problems i just worked harder - and a brother that says - just work out, it helped me - while he still has obvious inferiority complex problems, I love that all of their answers are here.
If you have people that actually support you to get over it, it's easier and it probably helps a lot. If someone just want you to shut up and saying these phrases, that's a different story. The best advice becomes shallow when the messenger doesn't mean what he is talking.
My family's favourite one is "you're just being silly" in response to any sort of panic attack.
Thanks VLDL! My friends always reach out to me when they're feeling down and need somebody to talk to and understand what they're going through! As I sit there listening to them gabble on and on about their struggles, I always feel left depressed too, and like I have nothing to say about it! Thanks to you, now I don't have to think at all, AND I don't even have to spend the energy needed to listen! You're the best!
These videos are brilliant. Please make more in this series. It's provided a great way to open up conversations that needed to happen.
I have literally heard all of these. Worst for me was the “happiness is a choice. Just get over yourself.”
Worst part is that if they just thought about it for literally only 30 seconds they would realize how wrong that is...
@@Call-me-Al yeah but thinking 30 seconds about sth is really hard so giving these quick fixes is much more effective ;)
In all fairness, a lot of the time they don't actually understand how wrong they are because they can't. Trying to understand the cause behind mental health issues when you haven't experienced it for yourself can be incredibly difficult.
Not saying it makes it better or even acceptable (especially today, where resources on it are everywhere, but back in the day this was far less apparent), but generally I don't believe 'most' of it comes from a place of malice. It's more them trying to help with something they have no physical understanding of. As is usually the case in that situation, it just makes things even worse though.
@@Grigeral oh for sure. Even back 20 years ago, there was “no such thing” to them. My dad actually said at dinner the other night that back when he was a kid, “depression didn’t exist. It’s all because of smartphones and the internet”
@@Scalvenger Perhaps try reminding him that even if he was a child in the 1930's, there was a period of time called the great depression where people literally threw themselves out of office windows to kill themselves because of the situation.
But in all honesty, you can't teach people who don't want to be taught.
OMG, finally something relatable. The hollow, almost victim-blaming and dismissive platitudes are a blight on human interaction and empathy. I have raged against them for years but they are all anyone ever seems to have. I hate it more than I can ever express.
Victim-blaming usually occurs because the "victim" is playing the "victim". Stop being the victim, and people will stop telling you off. If so many people are responding to your dilemma with this, then you gotta put two and two together and get to the real cause of all your problems: You.
@@noxinabox3506 what utter BS
@@noxinabox3506 “It's all in their heads, obviously”
@@lifeinanutshell7147 Literally every single mental disorder or bout of depression is in their heads. Technically, of course. Not to say that there aren't many that are valid.
@@satyasyasatyasya5746 Yep, keep playing the victim game. I'm just wrong, poor you.
I love the "other people have it worse off than you" hear so much! It's like I recognise that, but I would still like to not be wanting to die everyday and have some sort of level of contentness with my life.
“Is your friends disassociative anxiety making your day worse?” 😂
It sure is, but now I don't hang out with them anymore and I'm much happier now
Wow, this hit a LOT harder than I was expecting a comedy skit to do. Very well acted and written.
Thank you for talking about this topic! I am struggling with this every day and am always happy when people break the taboo and talk about it!
Well done as always. It takes real empathy and compassion to tell a story like this with humor, and without going over the heads of those who approach mental illness as a 'quick fix' problem.
As someone suffering from depression, this is both savagely sarcastically accurate and savagely tragically accurate at the same time.
This is god-tier ambivalence in video form!
Just snap out of it, for happiness is a choice.
Actually it is usually a hard struggle. I hope you get better.
I'm going through a break up 4 years relationship right now. It hurts asf. She cheated on me, she started talking to other guys but when i ask her who he is. Shes saying "we are just talking as friends" but now she started to have feelings for him. Sigh..
@@kingboji958 that one, you actually can snap out of. Accept that you are not for eachother and move on to something better and what you deserve.
@@PalleRasmussen i know. I will be fine. Time will only heal me day by day. But all the effort i put, all the memories i have made, all the dumb silly soulmate and future kids name bs stuff. Sigh.. It just came crumbling down So quickly. I will be fine tho.
@@QWERTY-gp8fd except it’s not how it works, nobody else is you, ever think maybe you never actually had a problem, just a bad attitude? Real depression is clinical , deep rooted, and very difficult to cope with on your own. Go tell a combat veteran to get over it, and then you might wanna start running. This video should never have been made, but now they’ll all make money from the mental anguish of others. I’m really disappointed, they should stick to NPC man type comedy and leave this stuff to professionals, not actors and comedians. You can’t just stick phone numbers and web links in the description and make everything you just did OK. I hope none of you ever have to actually deal with real depression and anxiety because with friends like that you’re on your own
"I need more pushups!" - yep that's what Greg the Garlic Farmer's words of wisdom.
As somebody who has struggled with mental health illness, this video still calls me to task to listen and be compassionate. Thank you for making this and inviting me to be a better friend for others
I love that you are doing these! Being able to address a series issue but also in a way that helps people smile. I'm on medication, I see a therapist and I think I laughed more at the relatability ❤️❤️
“But wait, there’s more!”
Gosh got the Shopping Channel vibe utterly cracked!
Great to see almost the whole VLDL gang in a single skit.
It’s awesome to have almost the entire VLDL gang in 1 skit 😍
@@VivaLaDirtLeague I guess given Byron's gruelling experiences in a typical Bored episode he's over-qualified to talk about mental health tribulations
@@VivaLaDirtLeague The question is - is there a point when it reaches critical mass and destructs your (hopefully soon aquired) new studio in a comedic mushroom cloud explosion...
@@VivaLaDirtLeague There is no 'entire VDL gang' with Hamish.
Three friends came to me separately recently to talk to me about their various problems. I did very little and just spent time with them and chatted openly. Afterwards they were all very grateful, and I felt I might have done it right, for once in my life. However I also felt like I had been genuinely useless, as I actually don't suffer from these issues, so without trying to or being able to offer solutions I sort of felt like they probably didn't gain anything from our discussions. But watching this is really an eye-opener for what not to do. Given these recent experiences, I found it a bit too real to be funny, and yet I loved it. Great sketch, but way WAY too close to the bone for me. Nonetheless I am really glad to have watched it and I hope I am a better listener in future, since my first reactions would very often typically be the platitudes and "Yes me too" approaches. Thanks for opening the door to better and more productive discussions about mental health issues and how to try to offer proper help.
Don't feel bad for not coming up with solutions, on the contrary it is part of being a good listener. Your friends don't want you to fix their problems, they just need to get stuff of their chest with someone they trust. Listen, empathize, reassure them you're here for them when they need it. You seem to be doing well already.
Like Gaëtan said, it's not about a solution. When we're depressed, or suffering from anxiety or whatever else, and we go to someone it's not looking for a cure. One time for me I had a very severe anxiety attack which left me paralyzed with fear. One of my friends saw it and all he did was stand there with me. No words were spoken, nothing, he was just there. That helped WAY more than he could ever realize. Depression works very similar. We're not looking for a way to not be depressed, we're wanting someone to just be there with us. Someone who cares enough to just sit there. If we talk, they listen. That's it. maybe a few words of understanding and relation, but mainly just be there for your friends. It means more to them than you will ever know.
Everything these folks said.
thats the thing. In 95% of cases just being there is more than enough. We dont need people to "fix our issues" for us - thats not how it works. Just be there and listen. Thats all that it takes. If they need something specific, they will tell you :)
Offering solutions is generally the worst thing you can do when trying to listen. Because it's not about solutions. I mean it is, but they don't come from YOU after a 5-minute chat, on a problem people have been dealing with for years. Anytime you offer a solution in a talk about deeper issues, it's like posting on Facebook that you found a solution to [extremely tough maths problem] that's easy and totally intuitive and wondering why the scientist guys are struggling with it.
On the other hand, if you "simply" listen and empathize (which is actual work and requires a lot of effort), it'll usually do way more in terms of problem-solving than going gung-ho about a platitude solution.
As an example, I've got this memory of a really nice old lady who talked to me about my struggle with depression. When I explained to her that I've been through the hoops of diagnosis with all the formularities but there is an overwhelmingly higher number of people requiring urgent therapy than there are available insurance-paid therapy spots because insurances want to save moneymoney, she, in an effort to help me because she thought I was smart and polite and that it felt like I wasted my potential, recommended that I just try. And put myself on a waiting list. And then it'll be okay. Somehow. And I couldn't help but just smile and say I would love that, too.
I really liked that lady. She wasn't stupid or condescending or mean-spirited, she really made a short-lived effort of understanding my situation and just couldn't, due to lack of knowledge about that stuff. And she wanted to help and tried to figure out solutions to help me. So the spirit was good. But she's really just throwing everything plus the kitchen sink at a monster that someone else has been battling for a while.
Offering solutions just shows clear as day that you don't trust the person you're listening to. If they tell you they've been struggling with a complicated computer problem for months and you ask if they have tried turning it off and on and maybe checking if the power plug is really plugged in, you're essentially demonstrating that you have zero faith in that person's ability or honesty and the conversation just ends by default. You might as well bluntly say: "I don't trust you. I don't think you're smart. I have no respect for you." And you'd do more good being honest than having this pretend-samaritan hamfisted "have you tried" fix-from-the-outside approach.
So absolute kudos to you if you managed to avoid that for the most part. I think someone who hasn't had the same issues will find it impossible to relate, but it is not impossible to empathize and listen. It's just hard, but very worth it if you care about the other person's well-being in the long run.
Thank you so much. I literally heard million of times this: "just smile/go to gym/work harder", "many people have more serious problems than you", "you just imagined this". And i simply try to survive with bipolar disorder and OCD. Your videos are very cool (especially the one with the Fisherman and the Princess ^) ). Thank you so much many more times, and i beg your pardon for my bad English.
First of all, if you are watching this video, struggling with mental illness, and don’t know where to turn, I strongly encourage you to start with your primary care physician (if you have one), a school counselor (if you’re a student), or visit the hospital emergency department if you are having thoughts of harming yourself or others. There is no need to go it alone.
@Viva La Dirt League, as someone who has worked in the mental health field for years and struggles with my own, I really love that you guys are opening dialogue about it. The humor that you use in the video brings to light some all-to-familiar tropes of how neurotypical people view mental illness.
This video was a great satirical way to help bring more light to the topic, while finding a light hearted way to tell people how NOT to respond to mental illness. The humor will hopefully make it more comfortable for people to have genuine dialogue.
Also, good on you for providing resources, as well. Many people struggling with mental illness do not know where to start.
What really hits home for me are their pained smiles/forced "happy" expressions when they say "I'm cured!" I know that feeling too well, pretending that whatever was presented to you as the button irl helped because explaining/acknowledging that it didn't seems more painful than pretending.
(If you are feeling the same way - in the long run, it's more damaging. Please don't pretend you're okay when you're really not. You deserve help and support. You're not a burden because you are ill. ❤️)
As a psychologist, I just want to thank you SO much for making this video. You've nailed it exactly.
This should be globally broadcast and on every major streaming platform. You guys do great work. ❤
i honestly think this is one of ur best vids imo, theres very few ppl in my life that would understand how delightful this mockery is of them then the few who do instantly relate, love all your vids you guys are amazing
2:20 how his hand is being pushed away xD
I've been going through a really bad rough patch lately (depression, passive suicidality, etc). I haven't laughed this hard in weeks. I love you guys. Thank you for the hilarious video. It helps put things in perspective.
*pushes button*
See? Just try harder! Just forget about that psycho mumbojumbo and you'll be right as rain in no time!
But srsly, me too , bro. Been there. Seek help when you need it, talk to friends, partner, or family. You ARE LOVED!
I had to check myself into mental health for almost a week for basically a reset. Get back on meds and whatnot. And told myself that everything is temporary, I can get through this, and focus on the things I CAN control, one step at a time.
Big hugs.
*hugs*
hugs (going through the same)
Stay strong Kelly. You're braver than you think!
I know it's not you who came up with it and I'm by no means trying to make fun of mental health (I have my problems too) but "passive suicidal ideation" (that's how it's called according to google) is very dumb name imho. For example I like the taste of gin and tonic but I don't like getting tipsy so I am passive alcoholic? lol
I have been working as a mental health nurse for 6 years and I think the family and friends of people with mental illness deserve more credit and less shame. When someone is suffering it does effect the people around them. Thanks for sticking around friends and family, we are all doing our best.
I am so glad for the these videos, especially this one - after my brother's suicide and my own descent into depression, my 'friends' at the time initially avoided me and later came crawling back with crap platitudes like in the video. They kept making excuses like 'I don't know what to say' instead of, you know,... LISTENING. Surprisingly, a large amount of Samaritans still use a lot of platitudes - I'm not sure how well meaning these people can really be, especially when I repeatedly advised them that 'maybe' I might know a little more about what I was going through than they did.
I'm not knocking seeking help, I just think that there's a big need for reform and education. So, again, videos like this really help.
Wow, who knew that "just don't" would solve my traumatic experiences fighting in an active warzone! Thanks, I'm cured!
I'm halfway between thinking well played and you cheeky bastards
@@LJAndrews1986 Hm? .... Oh. OOOOh... Yes. It took me a second but than I saw it.
I had to join the military into order to have ANY chance of a positive future, but was drafted to fight in a war I didn't believe in. I was made to see my friends, some of the bravest, funniest, most intelligent people I've met die right in front me in rapid succession like their lives were completely worthless. I suffer from multiple nightmares every night and sometimes have hallucinations about them.
But then my boss, a dude I've nearly know for a 6months told me to "Stop being so selfish and remember other people have it worse. And you don't shape up right now, you're fired!" Now, I don't even remember what I was so upset about.
THANKS BUTTON, I'M CURED.
*Cocks gun, puts in mouth.*
I have ADHD, I’m an introvert, I’m living alone, almost 40, never had a relationship, I live in a place I hate and I work in a place I despise. My life is a mess.
But your videos keep me company and entertained 😊 thank you.
And this video is very funny 😆
Wow really no one here cares about your life's issues. We are here to watch an entertaining video, not have you try and bog us down with your shit in a sad attempt to get attention. If you want attention then go out of your room and do something, you'll always stay an "introvert" if you keep using that as an excuse to avoid people.
So you are cured now? Does that mean the button really works?
@@noxinabox3506 the video and entertainment is up there, not down here.
@@noxinabox3506 You really missed the point of the video didn't you mate.
I've heard these void sentences so many times... Your video made me smile and feel understood. Thank you for this ! ❤
You're writing is impeccable. Thank you so much!!
As one of those struggling, I would give this a billion likes if I could. Thank you for the resources!
Well done... Glad to see Phoenix again. The smile on Greg's face when Ben tells him to just keep smiling is fantastic lol.
Why does she look older in this video compared to Baelin's route?
@@geoffreygerawat6429 I guess because of lighting and colors ... and the facial expression. Joy does make you look and feel younger.
@@geoffreygerawat6429 They did a great job at making her look quite young on this one. But either way she hold her youth really well.
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She's 22 but it's like Tom Holland looking like a young teenager I guess
@@geoffreygerawat6429 cus, you know, curves...
This means a lot to me, thank you. As someone who has been dealing with bipolar disorder since adolescence, I've had to deal with "advice" like the button describes. Sometimes it's from people who mean well and genuinely want to help and don't know how, but it's also come from people who are just automatically dismissive of mental health struggles and that is what really frustrates me. @2:40 really hits home because there are so many people who don't associate mental health with the brain. Thank you for making me laugh and for your genuine compassion when discussing mental health.
As someone with depression and anxiety, spot on. Going outside and doing things can HELP, but it's just a band-aid. To suggest it as an actual cure is pure ignorance, and it doesn't work for everyone, it depends entirely on the individual. I'm a tech hobbyist who likes to tinker and being outside, unless it's a special occasion like a vacation, just makes me wish I was inside again. Doing that stuff is my "outside," but it's just a temporary distraction from the issue at the end of the day.
Hey man! I don't think you've watched the all thing, at the end of the video they "get real" and suggest, to the people who are experiencing this type of things, to seek for help. So, please, seek for help! 😊 I did it too, and is changing my life little by little, there is no shame in it, is a very courageous thing to admit that you need help ☺️
Just do a push up.
@@antax7252 just wondering, what were some of the things that the help you sought suggested that actually worked for you?
you guys are going outside and doing things?
Anti-depressants are ameliorative, hence why you need other changes in your life
This hits different when you know Alan actually struggle with panic attacks
I need this button, I discovered today I have ASD along with my ADHD (that I already knew for a long time). maybe the thousands of times people said to me "you have to fight this!", "you need to make a decision to change", "try harder", "just get rid of everything that takes your focus away", "you have to go outside more" wasn't enough...
Your videos about mental health are a blessing ! Thanks you !
As someone who has struggled with my mental health all my life, and heard a bunch of these things, it really hits home. Especially those forced smiles at the end.
3:15 thank you for including this. I can't tell you how much it means that you're all using this awesome platform you have to help normalize mental health issues and share your own experiences.
Tbf, that "other people have it worse" helps me a fair amount when i'm feeling down.
I'm so grateful for this video and so impressed how you handled the topic.
Thank you all so much for this!
2:30
"Then I did a pushup"
Oh Greg, always doing pushups
It's folks like you, presenting an issue like this in this manner, that's seriously helping people become more aware. You approach it with humor, yet with a very real undertone and message. My, unfortunately now Ex, wife has some issues but would never discuss them or seek help. Those issues are what cost us and prevented us from fixing the issue. Seeking help for your mental health should never be something someone is afraid to do. I've had to before and there shouldn't be any shame in it. Thank you VLDL. You folks are a treasure and I hope you continue to find success as you grow.
Brilliant, guys! Thanks for putting the spotlight on something that too easily gets ignored. And for doing it in a non threatening way
loving the effort to remove the stigma of talking about mental health issues.
its even worse if you dont fit one of the known paths for treatment so the open forum does mote than you think. thanks guys.
Alan's push-up was such a great tie in to what Greg tends to do during their D&D gane when he finds himself in an uncomfortable situation. 😅
I was having a hard time, enjoying this skit, but the message from Brit at the end made the video worth watching! Thank you for raising awareness!
The video made the video worth watching...
Yeah I'm so glad they addressed that at the end.
I view it as people who have these struggles writing how it feels to get this kind of useless advice. This might be a method for Britt & Co's to process these feelings. If it helps them open up, good on them!
If you're enjoying the skit, then that makes it worth it by itself!
I just kinda assumed even before she mentioned her own problems that of the six in the video, the three depicted as not having mental health issues have probably all dealt with mental health issues in real life and have been on the receiving end of the things they said in the video.