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Komentáře • 199

  • @Chasing70
    @Chasing70 Před 6 měsíci +45

    Two of the earth’s best teachers on toxic dynamics. Thank you both!❤❤❤

  • @jerrywise
    @jerrywise Před 6 měsíci +98

    Thank you for having me on The Royal We, I really enjoyed our dynamic conversation. I’m reading everyone’s comments here as well, thank you all for watching! I would absolutely love to do this again!

    • @sheenamartinez3587
      @sheenamartinez3587 Před 6 měsíci +8

      Thank you for the great advice Mr. Wise God bless you and your family 🙏🏻✝️❤️🇺🇸🌎

    • @shynenstar
      @shynenstar Před 6 měsíci +4

      Thank you for being awesome Jerry! ❤

    • @muma6559
      @muma6559 Před 6 měsíci

      the cliche "let go" doesn't mean anything. It needs a qualifier. It's too broad, it could mean anything to anybody. "Hoping in justice" makes one miserable... ?? No way! I don't know if you agree with God but take a look at Micah 6:8

    • @muma6559
      @muma6559 Před 6 měsíci

      anger, resentment or bitterness is not pursuit (narcs are the ones who pursue and then when you share your experiences they flip the script and now you must be the one pursuing since you are sharing your story... aaaa.. not so! How they would love to control your speech, your voice, your talk, your words, your life. We were put on this earth to talk. ... these emotions are a state that says there is no harmony, and that is ok. We don't have to be in harmony with everyone. If two parties want harmony, then they would have to process and get rid of these emotions with good enough reasons for some sort of togetherness. There would have to be a good basis and good reasoning for this. But it is wise to choose where you want your harmony.

    • @MeCynthiaAnn
      @MeCynthiaAnn Před 6 měsíci +2

      I just love watching every one of your programs and I just watched you on awesome awesome Dr. C. Please, dear Jerry, go on many peoples videos, because you are so so wise and every video I see your face pop up on Igo and watch it. You have such wisdom, and we thank you and you just have a way of explaining it. Please get together a lot a lot with Dr. C because we love love love him bunches and bunches and his doggy Gus.
      From Cynthia in JANESVILLE, WISCONSIN USA

  • @singstreetcar5881
    @singstreetcar5881 Před 6 měsíci +46

    As a scapegoat child youre not supposed to succeed. When u succeed theres always a fight

    • @cindy7733
      @cindy7733 Před 6 měsíci

      And they will do everything to prevent you from succeeding.

    • @muma6559
      @muma6559 Před 6 měsíci +4

      yes, always hatred. They have a lot of hate and bitterness at the good of others. Stand strong. Do good anyway. And be successful. I am happy for you! God bless.

    • @lo-ul8nq
      @lo-ul8nq Před 6 měsíci +3

      We can succeed , don't listen to what they say. Keep up the great work and do what's best for you.

    • @nicolebenson4517
      @nicolebenson4517 Před 14 dny +1

      No way, you “must be” subservient and lowly at all times to bring glory to the narcissists! Break free friend, you are not alone in the insanity! ❤

  • @Cat-sx6ep
    @Cat-sx6ep Před 6 měsíci +46

    two of the wiser men who honestly speak the truth about narcs.

  • @carolinekamya2339
    @carolinekamya2339 Před 6 měsíci +25

    I finally got the place of NOT CARING and NOT TALKING ABOUT THEM ....its a good place

    • @godzillamanstreb524
      @godzillamanstreb524 Před 13 dny +1

      I’m just about there 🩷….it does feel so much cleaner, free and exciting…..finally let go of toxic npd sister 👺

  • @rootsiebee
    @rootsiebee Před 6 měsíci +16

    They want to ‘take’ our joy and happiness, not to share in it . They don’t seem to know it is ‘given’ without strings. Nope they have to rob and steal it, squash it because it isn’t really theirs., and they don’t understand what healthy sharing is.

  • @angelacahill9460
    @angelacahill9460 Před 6 měsíci +43

    Love this collaboration! Jerry Wise has been a longstanding valuable resource for me. Love to see him here on the Royal We channel. You both have so much wisdom and wealth of information. Thank you!

  • @marywolfe6598
    @marywolfe6598 Před 6 měsíci +27

    Church is a "system" too that has become a business in some places. Don't forget about the "medical" system! Yes.... Please do a part two.... Much appreciated.

  • @ZenZone-li4fr
    @ZenZone-li4fr Před 6 měsíci +34

    "Neutrality and detachment " Yes! Most of us need help breaking our chains after we go no contact. Thank you.

    • @jasonjones4492
      @jasonjones4492 Před 6 měsíci +4

      It's been years since the worst of my entanglement ended and I'm still struggling with trusting people when I'm able to block everything out like it never happened im at least able to be social and friendly with people!

  • @joey5816
    @joey5816 Před 6 měsíci +31

    You two have been a blessing for me. 5 years ago I didn't even know about narcissism and I grew up with the whole mess. At this point I am very happy with my life🙂. No contact was the best thing to do.

  • @jeankipper6954
    @jeankipper6954 Před 6 měsíci +24

    They hated, simply hated, us being happy or content. Instant enragement, guaranteed. Starting when a baby. Awful people.

  • @ccm8620
    @ccm8620 Před 6 měsíci +10

    Narcissism is everywhere. I wish I had this knowledge many years ago. I divorced a narc and then many years after I got into a relationship with a covert. I then realized several people around me including my mother is a Narc. Still can’t believe my eyes just opened to this. My circle is now shrinking and I just have to be ok with this. And yes they are still in my system.

  • @WoodenFeather-xm3vl
    @WoodenFeather-xm3vl Před 6 měsíci +21

    A dynamic duo! These two are not playing when it comes to recovery from Narc Abuse! Round of applause to you both.

  • @whitehorse3828
    @whitehorse3828 Před 6 měsíci +26

    Both of you are the very best at unraveling the damage narcissistic "torture" can do to people. If possible, could you guys arrange to do these interactive interviews between you both at least once a month?? The chemistry you have is fantastic!!

  • @onlyonce1707
    @onlyonce1707 Před 6 měsíci +37

    Woah - Kevin and Jerry Wise! Great stuff!

  • @vintagedressromance
    @vintagedressromance Před 6 měsíci +19

    Reclaiming our authenticity, personal agency , and sovereignty is unacceptable to the narcissist

    • @muma6559
      @muma6559 Před 6 měsíci

      yeah. Let it be that way. The only difference is that they don't get to have a say in other people's lives anymore

  • @helenenorman3598
    @helenenorman3598 Před 6 měsíci +28

    Nice to see the both of you together! 🙏
    Greetings from Sweden 🇸🇪

  • @annastone5624
    @annastone5624 Před 6 měsíci +22

    Two of my favs! 💖
    But.. Just because you get away from them.. doesn’t mean you won’t walk straight into another narcissistic system, community, peer group.. that’s been my experience
    In fact surely that’s the norm? Because narcissistic systems are everywhere.
    Also if it’s been bad narcissistic abuse - you are probably majorly physically and financially depleted.
    And that depletion is what makes you vulnerable to those new narcissistic systems, unless you manage to find some sort of protection.
    Love the analogy ‘the moment they see you trying to build a castle..they’ll storm it’ wow.. ‘ghosts’ another excellent analogy

    • @SuperBlakes2
      @SuperBlakes2 Před 6 měsíci +1

      I agree. I have been caught up, over and over by the same type of systems and people. I'm beginning to think there are no people that aren't affected by this hideous way of being 😮

  • @smustipher
    @smustipher Před 6 měsíci +14

    The Royal We × Jerry Wise = DREAM TEAM. Love this! Been following you both for some time and Kevin, got to give it to you for keeping the content fresh and sharing your personal style along the way .

  • @agnieszkazurek2253
    @agnieszkazurek2253 Před 6 měsíci +19

    Jerry, you didn't say: "Have a great day and be wise" 😂 I always wait for your warm smile while you are saying that. Love you both, Kevin and Jerry, please continue your talks ❤ Greetings from Poland!

    • @jerrywise
      @jerrywise Před 6 měsíci +3

      Hahaha. It was Kevin's show so I thought I should respect his sign on and sign offs. But thanks. LOL

  • @Durhamcricket543
    @Durhamcricket543 Před 6 měsíci +10

    Demonic rage with a narcissistic husband is something I will NEVER forget. “Satan” literally beat me. I find it very hard to like anything. Obviously our “30” year system did NOT work😢

    • @Durhamcricket543
      @Durhamcricket543 Před 6 měsíci +2

      P.S. this marriage has ended!

    • @sylon7717
      @sylon7717 Před 5 měsíci

      @@Durhamcricket543glad you got out! Enjoy freedom

  • @christineribone9351
    @christineribone9351 Před 6 měsíci +19

    Kevin I had PTSD for 23 years from the narc. I just woke up last week.
    The parents cant fill you with love.
    Jerry, you made a valid point "you're still talking to them in your mind". THEY DON'T MATTER!
    stop pursuing them! Pursue YOU!! Big statement!
    Don't abandon YOU!
    Seek peace and justice in yourself!.
    Great Video. Jerry is to the point. I 💗 his perspective!

  • @jenniferpoitier
    @jenniferpoitier Před 6 měsíci +15

    Hey Kevin, I just wanna let you know you are greatly appreciated. You’re doing really good work. Your videos really hit home and make a difference to me.

  • @annastone5624
    @annastone5624 Před 6 měsíci +11

    I’d love to hear about the experience of leaving one narcissistic system after another.. only to keep be repeatedly unable to find safe work-places, safe friend-groups, safe ways of making money.. and end up having to re-enter narcissistic systems simply to survive.
    I am healing, but I will say that the “mean-time” how to survive in the meantime, usually means enduring more narcisstic abuse.
    I’ve kept having to choose safety and healing from chronic illness, over financial fears.. I will admit I have survived doing that, much to my surprise. It involves forgetting about the future and just saying to myself ‘nothing matters more than my health and getting away from abuse, no matter the financial cost’ emm I answered some of my question there, but would definitely love to hear thoughts.
    Great discussion, thank you both! Love 💖💖

  • @AnnaMishel
    @AnnaMishel Před 6 měsíci +17

    Narcissism is not new . .but it was always around 5% of the population. What’s new is that it is now close to 50% of the population (IMHO).

    • @kiddytube3915
      @kiddytube3915 Před 6 měsíci +7

      God save us.
      End times is nearly here..

    • @ironfist859
      @ironfist859 Před 6 měsíci +9

      ​@@kiddytube3915I agree. Mankind cannot survive long with the amount of evil that walks among us.

    • @jemilsense3972
      @jemilsense3972 Před 6 měsíci +7

      My mom to me I just want to just spend. Mom, my laminate flooring is 21 years old. You are 1400 miles away still trying to run my life. THEY gave us nothing but physical, verbal and phycological abuse. I had to cut them off. Too much of mess to re live.

  • @jennylynn82173
    @jennylynn82173 Před 6 měsíci +13

    AWESOME! Jerry Wise is wonderful!

  • @mariehughey5390
    @mariehughey5390 Před 6 měsíci +10

    The very topic I have been in need of. I will be enlisting a therapist to help me remove the narcissists from inside my head.

  • @nicolehayes6020
    @nicolehayes6020 Před 5 měsíci +2

    My justice is walking away and never speaking to them again and I can’t wait for it!

  • @rootsiebee
    @rootsiebee Před 6 měsíci +4

    Wow, I think I went no contact with my family when I was 10. I still saw and heard them, I just didn’t get caught up in their drama, strings, or games. Though the family I grew up in was never about celebrating holidays or laying any guilt over us. Sadly it cost me my voice later in life if a narcissist slipped through a crack. It was always surprising and sickening how holidays made so much madness and fakers out of other family systems.

  • @CC-wy1gn
    @CC-wy1gn Před 6 měsíci +3

    Excellent! Super insightful 💡
    Please have Jerry on again and talk about individuating and overcoming learned helplessness after a lifetime of being infantilized and enabled by narcissistic parents.

  • @rascallyrabbit
    @rascallyrabbit Před 6 měsíci +4

    Great vid. Jay Reid calls narc parents denying us the right to be happy "the fun police".

  • @user-j7t8u
    @user-j7t8u Před 6 měsíci +9

    Two of my favourite people ... together!! Made my day! Love you both ♥♥

  • @markar6395
    @markar6395 Před 5 měsíci +2

    I was a scapegoat child, in the latter stages of life and just realising it and there is freedom

  • @monaj33
    @monaj33 Před 6 měsíci +9

    Love this..2 top therapists I respect ❤ ... 🔥

  • @annastone5624
    @annastone5624 Před 6 měsíci +10

    Two of my favs 💖

  • @wingsly
    @wingsly Před 6 měsíci +4

    Thanks Kevin, The Royal We and Gerry! I think you both worked well together providing valuable ideas about family systems and healing. The last segment on justice is precious. Would love to see you both again exploring these topics!

  • @karenchmielewski4541
    @karenchmielewski4541 Před 6 měsíci +4

    Yes 😊Bring Jerry Wise back for more conversation. Many points tonight have opened my eyes. Thank you!

  • @LuxyFairy
    @LuxyFairy Před 4 měsíci

    “You almost have to go for everything you’ve been told to go against” 🎯 you nailed it Kevin

  • @lo-ul8nq
    @lo-ul8nq Před 6 měsíci +8

    Thank you Kevin and Jerry
    Great advice 👍

  • @Michael_Arguello
    @Michael_Arguello Před 6 měsíci +8

    Yes! This is going to be powerful. I’m a subscriber of both you and Dr. Wise. And I only subscribe to the best.

  • @ctoland12
    @ctoland12 Před 6 měsíci +3

    You are spot on about being cautious and feeling afraid. My mother has been dead a long time but my brother sometimes wants to put me back in that SG slot. I do put up my boundaries. I’m still afraid of dating again, flipping ridiculous!!!!!!!!! Having been raised by a narc mother, my attachment style is all screwed up so I find all of the narc men out there. It’s like I have a narc magnetic chip embedded in me. Ugh! At least now I can spot them and RUNNNN. But I’m exhausted from the vetting process.

  • @Ocean1688
    @Ocean1688 Před 6 měsíci +3

    They will never change. EMDR helped me get past all the anger and hurt. Thank you both!!!

    • @ctoland12
      @ctoland12 Před 6 měsíci +1

      EMDR was life changing for me as well.

    • @Mrs.GrayMan
      @Mrs.GrayMan Před 6 měsíci

      Thanks for the tip!

  • @LuxyFairy
    @LuxyFairy Před 4 měsíci

    “If you’re waiting for someone else to give you justice, you’re going to be the most miserable person on earth” … let go and begin to heal so you can live your best life and GIVE YOURSELF JUSTICE. Jerry spitting facts 🤘🏽 🔥

  • @emmab4323
    @emmab4323 Před 6 měsíci +2

    I have an aging mother that 3 sisters (including me) are taking care of. So I am honouring my father and mother to the best of my ability, but have learned with my sisters. No reaction. Take time to think and answer in a monotone manner. No emotions, they just love making you cry, angry on their behalf etc.... they are tiptoeing around me unsure of what has happened

  • @claracollins3496
    @claracollins3496 Před 6 měsíci +2

    The person or persons you hate, or you hold anger and bitterness toward hold the key that keep you entrapped within yourself. That's why forgiveness is so important. I was so angry with the narcissistic people in my life, I couldn't see how I attracted these people in my life. It was only after I started forgiving them the fog began to clear in my own consciousness in order for me to see the role I played in this. Then I was able to connect the dots. If you're not willing to take ownership in what was going on in your life, than your healing want come. I had daddy issues, low self-esteem, the need to please, so I over compensated. I didn't except my own self worth. I knew it was there, but I was afraid to be me because in my own twisted way of thinking it felt like I was some how hurting them. Whenever I tried to stand in my greatness, I got push back. "Why do you want so much out of life when we're comfortable with what life throws at us?" And I would think to myself, how do you become comfortable with a cheating husband. It wasn't until two years ago, I found out about narcissistic people. I didn't even know what kind of people I was dealing with. Thank God for people like Kevin who has dedicated their lives to educate people like me. Knowledge is power. My healing is still on going. I cut them all off. Nobody is worth you being sick and broke. Like so many others out there, I was afraid of being alone. When you're in narcissistic relationships you are alone. They are empty shells on the inside. They will never be able to feel anything for you but contempt. When a person hate themselves, they will never be able to feel anything for you. Who needs it?

    • @ctoland12
      @ctoland12 Před 6 měsíci +1

      Spot on. Being with a narcissist is the worse kind of loneliness.

  • @nicolebenson4517
    @nicolebenson4517 Před 14 dny

    It’s so hard , to pull away. I give my life to God, for Him to bring justice, to help me forgive and live my life for what He created me to be. It’s absolutely apart from my family of origin, I have my own thoughts and goals. Apart from them and into focusing on our Creator. Let God deal with them. Let go.

  • @toomanypages
    @toomanypages Před 6 měsíci +4

    Change comes from within. 😉 End of story

  • @MeCynthiaAnn
    @MeCynthiaAnn Před 6 měsíci +1

    I SURE DO LOOOOVE JERRY Wise!
    I watch ALL his videos….. when I saw his face pop up on CZcams on your program, I knew I needed to watch this video. God bless you both.
    FROM JANESVILLE, WISCONSIN USA

  • @heathermixson1265
    @heathermixson1265 Před 6 měsíci +6

    Awesome pairing.....great wisdom and advice!! Thank you both!

  • @jdoc7627
    @jdoc7627 Před 6 měsíci +1

    Emeshment systems feeling. Fake guilt. They are struggling and in pain and we are expected to respond accordingly. Thanks!!

  • @ctoland12
    @ctoland12 Před 6 měsíci +1

    This was SOOOOO great. I ‘Was’ the scapegoat child of a narc mother. Awful 17 years and have been in therapy my entire life. EMDR, Al-Anon, somatic breathing, and PTSD therapy was life changing but have to be acutely aware of shame and victimhood mentality.

    • @karinteeples9715
      @karinteeples9715 Před 5 měsíci

      Shame and victim hood mentalities attract the Narc big time!!

  • @Lyrielonwind
    @Lyrielonwind Před 6 měsíci +5

    Thanks for this interesting conversation.

  • @Zoelife23-AO
    @Zoelife23-AO Před 6 měsíci +2

    THIS IS TRUE.... WHEN ID GET A NEW ANYTHING' THIS NARC BABY DADDY WOULD BE SO BLAH" ABOUT THE WHOLE THING!!!! NOW I AINT GETTING ANYTHING UNTIL HES GONE!!!!!!! "GOD YOU HEAR MY CRY" THANK YOU SIR ROYAL WE AND SIR JERRY WISE... THIS IS SO HELPFUL🦁🦁🦁🦁🦁🦁🦁🦁🦁🦁🦁

  • @anAngelisHard2find
    @anAngelisHard2find Před 3 měsíci

    Two brilliant speakers on NPD family systems. THANK YOU. I remember being told that one day seeing any of the three members of my NPD psychopathic dysfunctional family would no longer impact or affect me. I could not believe it. I was to work towards being so UNAFFECTED by seeing them on the street that it would be equal to seeing empty trash cans by the side of the road. I'm not there yet, but i'm getting to that place. Thank you gentlemen. You are immense.

  • @marianhoover8206
    @marianhoover8206 Před 4 měsíci

    I am finally learning that the battle is the Lord’s, the victory is mine. Mature no contact is not easy and quieting the monsters in my head is producing in me faith as my mind is being renewed. Alone, yes, but never lonely.
    I pray for “my enemies” and bless them. Letting God heap coals of His firey love upon them. They are after all, His kids. He will discipline as needed. Leaves the focus on me and my eyes open to my own falling short. This has taken 72 years! 😅

  • @goodenoughgirl8102
    @goodenoughgirl8102 Před 6 měsíci +3

    I’m excited about all these collaborations I’m seeing lately. You guys. The Minimal Mom and Crappy Childhood Fairy. I guess it’s a small world after all. Lol.
    Ya. It’s Bcuz it’s a parasite/host relationship. They’re in panic mode Bcuz they feel like they’re losing their host. It seems that the nature of the parasite is such tho. If we “split” they go back to dead nothingness. I also think for awhile it’s hard to shake the same dead nothingness we picked up from them. So I reckon to them its that the sick enmeshing (with them sucking our life force to live) IS life. And not having it to them is “death.” But as it were. Some things need to be allowed to die.
    I wasn’t able to go full no contact forever but I did have to do temp no contact with some. But boundaries and low contact has been absolutely crucial for me. When I refused contact with one of the parents, I thought it would be forever tho. I wasn’t playing. Lol. But without them around for that season, I was able to get my balance. Gain strength. Learn and grow. So next time I saw them, I was so much more less affected and they just became more and more irrelevant. And mostly it was Bcuz in all my learning it finally clicked that they have no real power over me. So why would I now care if some crazy person hates me or whatever crap they think about me. I just don’t care anymore. Lol. (Sort of like oh here crazy comes again. Prepare for the stupidity lol). So when they call me a nobody I’m like whatever. Too late. I already found out I’m a SOMEBODY. And then you find out you never had anything when you had them anyways. It wasn’t ever real. So if you survived all this time with nothing (with them) then you can still survive without them. You finally realize that with them it was “plus zero” and you were the strong one always towing the line. You can’t really “lose” what you never really had anyways. Plus once you start to find your adult self, you don’t need their “teat” so much anymore. And you even find it kind of a gross thing. Such as I’m just too old for that. Time for me to feed myself now.
    And true. Lol. Forgiving them really was just realizing that any control I thought I had over justice was not real. So I gave that to God who DOES have more control over something like that. Plus God can’t deal with them justly if we never let go anyways. We are “holding them” in limbo until we let go. When we keep them there like that, we in effect delay potential justice. I went around the mountain long enough to see a bit of justice for some, but by the time I heard about it, I already no longer cared so much and I wasn’t all that shocked about it either. Lol. Karma is a slow bus but we can make it even slower by not letting go and “handing them over to God.” (Of course there was a time for that so when that time came, it was just a natural progression for me. The cart can’t come before the horses).
    And yah. It sounds like a very tidy story but that was actually about 10 years of my life to get from ground zero to here now. However long it takes. And I’m glad I kept going.

  • @Gemisnotmyname
    @Gemisnotmyname Před 6 měsíci +5

    My two fav channels!! Smashed into one🎉

  • @tararichards1433
    @tararichards1433 Před 6 měsíci +5

    You guys are the best!

  • @redfox78330
    @redfox78330 Před 17 dny

    29:07 - 30:00 crushed me in a healing way…
    my mom is very religious and used it to manipulate and control my emotions and thoughts through shame and many other aspects. But I didn’t want to go against my beliefs to grow. But I realize that I don’t have to.. just their beliefs they put on me.
    I’ve been working through this for decades and this finally hit me hard. God loves me for me and my road is different than my parents and sisters.

  • @ctoland12
    @ctoland12 Před 6 měsíci

    Kevin and Jerry this is seriously enlightening. The hate leaves us stuck in the past. I don’t want to give them one more minute of MY life. I have worked on this through my relationship with God, praying for forgiveness to FREE me up.

  • @trisholer9761
    @trisholer9761 Před 6 měsíci +3

    Power team! Yes, can’t wait for the next one. ❤

  • @Megmdob
    @Megmdob Před 6 měsíci +5

    Awesome

  • @saskiajonkhout1840
    @saskiajonkhout1840 Před 6 měsíci +4

    I never knew I still am keeping contact with my ex partner by telling friends of him how bad he was to me during my relationship with him! I will try to not let him matter anymore.

    • @di_decaire
      @di_decaire Před 4 měsíci +1

      Their point is very good - get them out of your head. But to demand that of a client is also fraught with guilt and shaming. It takes a lot of time and help to let the good memories fade, after all, it was love on some level. We are all creatures of needing others. When it's an unhealthy other it's painful as hell, I know. But everyone just wants to love themselves now as a solution and end up very alone. Just take your time, cry and make new bonds, Don't blame yourself too much.

  • @ChaplainCris
    @ChaplainCris Před 6 měsíci +1

    Wow Jerry Wise on Royal We this is great! Love the conversation!

  • @jennylynn82173
    @jennylynn82173 Před 6 měsíci +4

    So excited to listen to the two of you!!!

  • @JoeyCalisthenics
    @JoeyCalisthenics Před 6 měsíci +3

    i like how yall mention emotional system which is deep

  • @KateBruce1
    @KateBruce1 Před 6 měsíci +4

    Great video, thank you 😊 YES MORE OF JERRY!!!

  • @gloriacoleman7012
    @gloriacoleman7012 Před 6 měsíci +3

    Yes like to see more of Jerry WISE he is isn't he?

  • @rootsiebee
    @rootsiebee Před 6 měsíci +4

    Individuation ❤😊

  • @akanicolerocks711
    @akanicolerocks711 Před 6 měsíci +7

    This is such a good video

  • @benbrown411
    @benbrown411 Před 6 měsíci +2

    Great dialogue. Would have appreciated giving Jeremy more airtime.

  • @marilynschmidt6400
    @marilynschmidt6400 Před 3 měsíci

    Hate is a strong word. Would rather say I don't like them instead as like attracts like. I don't like what they've done to create the mess in my head but am grateful I can now see it all unfold.

  • @NeeCeeStar
    @NeeCeeStar Před 6 měsíci +3

    Part two please!

  • @Sissy317
    @Sissy317 Před 6 měsíci +1

    Thank you for addressing this. This is/was happening to me however knowledge is POWER and I need this freedom for my own soul. ❤ thank you so much!! 👍🏼💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼

  • @sonjabrady1032
    @sonjabrady1032 Před 28 dny

    I work on standing on the promise of God REMEMBER see and receive

  • @francesca3453
    @francesca3453 Před 4 měsíci

    I love Jerry’s expressions.

  • @MeCynthiaAnn
    @MeCynthiaAnn Před 6 měsíci +1

    The Lord God, Almighty does not slumber, and he says vengeance is mine, and there is always SOW TIM3 AND HARVEST. Just focus on the Lord God Almighty, and the healing we need to do because all that bitterness and anger inside of you will carry through any relationships. The Lord God will deal with people who do not change their hearts, and we also can pray that the Lord God will weaken them and touch their hearts.
    God bless you all here .
    From JANESVILLE, WISCONSIN USA

  • @jillclark4876
    @jillclark4876 Před 6 měsíci

    I really like Jerry, and I’ve seen his videos before. Thank you for introducing him to your followers who grew up in dysfunctional families.
    The most striking thing that really hits home for me is that we aren’t really no-contact when we ruminate. They still live in our heads.

  • @gloriacoleman7012
    @gloriacoleman7012 Před 6 měsíci +3

    I do not fit in anywhere now I know why, any big group there are problems.

  • @Ay-B
    @Ay-B Před 6 měsíci +3

    Two of my favorites!!! Thank you.

  • @roywillis8492
    @roywillis8492 Před 6 měsíci +2

    Jerry aint half wise and the work from kev is gold standard thank you guys love being on the healing path with you both ❤

  • @JAMESCARNEY273
    @JAMESCARNEY273 Před 5 měsíci

    Such a fruitful conversation from two people I have such respect for!

  • @johnskrovoza
    @johnskrovoza Před 6 měsíci +3

    Big fan of both of you! Thanks for getting together1

  • @yeswing10
    @yeswing10 Před 6 měsíci

    When i heard that, "you were always alone".
    It hit hard and swift.
    I can do this now.

  • @tracycampbell3060
    @tracycampbell3060 Před 6 měsíci +3

    I would love for you to have Kris Reece, or Shannon from Narc Free Living too. ❤

  • @miriam100ful
    @miriam100ful Před měsícem

    more from Jerry please, I have listened to him before and you Kevin, and this is all very useful. Thanks.

  • @buttnakedsignatureseasonings
    @buttnakedsignatureseasonings Před 6 měsíci +4

    Thank you for the content 💯

  • @claracollins3496
    @claracollins3496 Před 6 měsíci +2

    I had to change my inner dialogue. I had to change my speech even. I had to watch my mouth. What word's am I putting out into the universe? When you began to focus your attention on you, you will find out you are enough. God created you in his image and likeness. Except you are Great. Than own it. The universe will respond to you in kind.

  • @AmandaHall-it3og
    @AmandaHall-it3og Před 6 měsíci

    I am so thankful I found your channel 😢

  • @freeandfabulous4310
    @freeandfabulous4310 Před 6 měsíci

    Loving feedback… it’s hard to listen when people are talking over each other. Silent listening flows so much better.

  • @sonjabrady1032
    @sonjabrady1032 Před 28 dny

    Thank you my friend liking ur wonderful program love u my friend and thanksgiving and grateful for you

  • @markar6395
    @markar6395 Před 5 měsíci

    Wonderful dialogue with two amazing and authentic men. More please!!😊

  • @shellyfister106
    @shellyfister106 Před 4 měsíci

    Thank YOU BOTH .. I NEEDED THIS 🙌 I haven’t gone NC but, set up boundaries and if FEELS GREAT 🥰 I’m FINALLY becoming FREE of the Shame & Guilt of NEVER doing enough.

  • @Ocean1688
    @Ocean1688 Před 6 měsíci

    This is my MIL to her husband and the rest of us! Wow!!

  • @lynnettsites925
    @lynnettsites925 Před 6 měsíci +1

    I liked seeing both of you talking together. I watch both of you and have gotten help from both of you. I struggle with this topic. I’m the family scapegoat, have went no contact, but struggle with thoughts of family members and other relationships every day it seems. I would like to see you guys keep collaborating together.

  • @cindy7733
    @cindy7733 Před 6 měsíci

    YES! I want to see more of Jerry! He's great! Thanks for the video. It would also be so very helpful to perhaps add some scripture to the mix.

  • @dianejefferies
    @dianejefferies Před 3 měsíci

    Such an excellent session with Gerry Wise. ❤

  • @clearance4274
    @clearance4274 Před 6 měsíci +1

    PROFOUND REVELATIONS - thank you both 🙏🏻❤️

  • @madguruJ
    @madguruJ Před 6 měsíci +1

    Yes, wow what a brilliant guy, I don’t think I’ve heard anyone explain it with more insight and clarity, wish he was my therapist!
    Would like to hear him speak more

  • @marygoodman9530
    @marygoodman9530 Před 6 měsíci +2

    Thank you Kevin and Jerry. Great information ✨