I feel this! My youngest is 4 yrs old now. I don’t want to be done with the baby phase. I’m praying that God will somehow change my husbands heart, to be open to more babies. I believe in miracles so I know he CAN. I will continue to take this to the Lord. Thank you so much for talking about this. Glory to God!
Hi, Katie! New sub here. Thank you so much for speaking so candidly about a topic that is so hard to articulate. I turned 40 a few months ago, and my children are now 10 and 7. After my 2nd daughter was born, my husband and I made the decision not to have any more children (we are not exactly spring chickens! 😉). I was perfectly fine with that decision until a few years ago when I no longer had a baby/toddler and it seemed all my friends were having more babies. I wasn't able to articulate what I was feeling until recently, but you summed it up so well. It is a loss even if it was your decision. I don't want to have any more children, but I also miss being pregnant and taking care of babies. I love how you pointed out that we can take our grief and reach out to others who may be struggling. I really needed to hear this today as I have been considering serving in the mom's ministry at our church. I served for several years when my children were younger and lately have wondered if I still have something to offer as an older mom with older kids. Thank you for sharing your heart on this and encouraging fellow mothers to foster community with each other. I think fellowship with other moms is so important as motherhood can be so isolating. Many blessings to you!
I am so sorry that I am just now replying - comments sometimes are held for some reason. You ABSOLUTELY have something to offer! Open arms and heart are the biggest gifts that we can give other mamas. God bless you, friend.
Thank you for bringing up this difficult subject I no longer can get pregnant I had three children but had three miscarriages after my last child For a while I kept thinking and saying I’m done having babies and I’m okay even happy with that Then a few years past and it hit me all of the sudden I still want that last pregnancy last birth. But I cannot It is really hard and bothers me almost daily I’m praying that it will get easier that the pain will fade away Thank you again
Just seeing this, Jennifer. I grieve with you - so much loss to endure, friend. (HUG) We tend to try to convince ourselves that we're okay, don't we? It's incredibly important that we lean into the Lord's comfort and then share our stories with other women. The Lord brings so much healing there. I love that the Lord doesn't waste our enduring love of pregnancy, birth, and babies - somewhere out there is a baby, mama, and family needing that from us. Praying for you, Jennifer.
I am sorry that you cannot have children any more. I am encouraged that you have found purpose in this situation. I had a scare and I thought I couldn't conceive and my husband also wanted to be done. I was only 30 so this was hard. I decided to do what Samuel's mom Hannah did, I went to the front of the alter and I prayed and asked God to put on my husbands heart to have another child and that I would not ask him any more but I would wait for him to ask me. My husband out of no where asked me if I was sure I wanted another baby and of course I said , "yes!" Then I didn't know that the way my hormones were prevented me from getting pregnant. But then they stabilized with change in diet and hormone therapy. I am so grateful that God used this to increase my faith.
Oh, friend I am just seeing this! What a beautiful story of God's faithfulness! And I think that's just it - even when we can't see it, He is stirring us and others to seek Him first, for our good and His glory.
I feel this! My youngest is 4 yrs old now. I don’t want to be done with the baby phase. I’m praying that God will somehow change my husbands heart, to be open to more babies. I believe in miracles so I know he CAN. I will continue to take this to the Lord. Thank you so much for talking about this. Glory to God!
Hi, Katie! New sub here. Thank you so much for speaking so candidly about a topic that is so hard to articulate. I turned 40 a few months ago, and my children are now 10 and 7. After my 2nd daughter was born, my husband and I made the decision not to have any more children (we are not exactly spring chickens! 😉). I was perfectly fine with that decision until a few years ago when I no longer had a baby/toddler and it seemed all my friends were having more babies. I wasn't able to articulate what I was feeling until recently, but you summed it up so well. It is a loss even if it was your decision. I don't want to have any more children, but I also miss being pregnant and taking care of babies. I love how you pointed out that we can take our grief and reach out to others who may be struggling. I really needed to hear this today as I have been considering serving in the mom's ministry at our church. I served for several years when my children were younger and lately have wondered if I still have something to offer as an older mom with older kids. Thank you for sharing your heart on this and encouraging fellow mothers to foster community with each other. I think fellowship with other moms is so important as motherhood can be so isolating. Many blessings to you!
I am so sorry that I am just now replying - comments sometimes are held for some reason. You ABSOLUTELY have something to offer! Open arms and heart are the biggest gifts that we can give other mamas. God bless you, friend.
Thank you for bringing up this difficult subject
I no longer can get pregnant
I had three children but had three miscarriages after my last child
For a while I kept thinking and saying I’m done having babies and I’m okay even happy with that
Then a few years past and it hit me all of the sudden I still want that last pregnancy last birth. But I cannot
It is really hard and bothers me almost daily
I’m praying that it will get easier that the pain will fade away
Thank you again
Just seeing this, Jennifer. I grieve with you - so much loss to endure, friend. (HUG) We tend to try to convince ourselves that we're okay, don't we? It's incredibly important that we lean into the Lord's comfort and then share our stories with other women. The Lord brings so much healing there. I love that the Lord doesn't waste our enduring love of pregnancy, birth, and babies - somewhere out there is a baby, mama, and family needing that from us. Praying for you, Jennifer.
I am sorry that you cannot have children any more. I am encouraged that you have found purpose in this situation. I had a scare and I thought I couldn't conceive and my husband also wanted to be done. I was only 30 so this was hard. I decided to do what Samuel's mom Hannah did, I went to the front of the alter and I prayed and asked God to put on my husbands heart to have another child and that I would not ask him any more but I would wait for him to ask me. My husband out of no where asked me if I was sure I wanted another baby and of course I said , "yes!" Then I didn't know that the way my hormones were prevented me from getting pregnant. But then they stabilized with change in diet and hormone therapy. I am so grateful that God used this to increase my faith.
Oh, friend I am just seeing this! What a beautiful story of God's faithfulness! And I think that's just it - even when we can't see it, He is stirring us and others to seek Him first, for our good and His glory.