7 Simple Steps to Calm an Argument

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  • čas přidán 29. 12. 2022
  • In this video, we're going to teach you how to deal with arguments effectively. We'll discuss the different types of arguments and give you a step-by-step guide on how to resolve them.
    No matter what kind of relationship you have, you'll find that arguments happen from time to time. This video will teach you how to communicate effectively with your partner so that arguments don't become destructive. By following these simple steps, you'll be able to resolve conflicts peacefully and in a healthy way!
    #howto #arguments
    When dealing with conflict, some people may act passive aggressively. But why? Here is a video all about it: • Why Are Some People Pa...
    Writer: Daila Ayala
    Editor: Denise Ding
    Script Manager: Kelly Soong
    Voice Over: Drew
    Animator: Dinda
    CZcams Manager: Cindy Cheong

Komentáře • 198

  • @Psych2go
    @Psych2go  Před rokem +70

    Did you guys check out our second channel here: www.youtube.com/@WholesomeAnimationbypsych2go

  • @Partyqueen594
    @Partyqueen594 Před rokem +373

    0:52 1. Keep temperature even
    2:05 2. Have a sense of humor
    2:53 3. ask questions and listen carefully
    4:11 4. Realize and accept you might be wrong
    5:20 5. Agreements are not forbidden
    6:22 6. Research and use facts
    7:05 7. Appeal to higher values

  • @krisztoth8475
    @krisztoth8475 Před rokem +86

    From my experience.
    Just speak calmly and listen well.
    Don't just hear what you want. Don't forget that just because you're right that doesn't mean the other person is wrong.

  • @yolzahelm9783
    @yolzahelm9783 Před rokem +36

    HAPPY NEW YEARS EVERYONE! Cheers to happiness ☀️
    I’m so afraid and anxious I would love to be calmer and happy!

    • @listeningtomusicistalentidgaf
      @listeningtomusicistalentidgaf Před rokem +5

      Hope u be happier, healthier and better (in all senses) in 2023!! All the best.

    • @TheMonacleSpy
      @TheMonacleSpy Před rokem +1

      Whatever it is you've dealt with in the past I hope you find that thing which helps you to feel more comfortable in your own skin. It isn't much but reframing your thoughts is a good starting point that you can do without much practice. Keeping a day journal or replaying affirmations you are confident in can help. The point isn't to replace negative with positive emotion but rather to make yourself aware of your own emotions to turn your thought process into something you control, instead of your emotions controlling your actions.

  • @wes2326
    @wes2326 Před rokem +59

    ✨ Timestamps & major points✨
    1. 0:51 Keep the temperature even
    2. 2:03 Have a sense of humor
    3. 2:52 Ask questions and listen carefully
    4. 4:09 Realize and accept you might be wrong
    5. 5:19 Agreements are not forbidden
    6. 6:21 Research and use facts
    7. 7:02 Appeal to higher values

  • @gaminghost2025
    @gaminghost2025 Před rokem +13

    When im in an argument and realize this is just going to escalate more and more i just take a breather and stare them dead in the eyes Wednesday style lmao they then either just get scared or keep screaming at me and realize they have gone to far

  • @barnazsoka2218
    @barnazsoka2218 Před rokem +208

    Oh a hidden video!

  • @frlnm_gutierrezzz
    @frlnm_gutierrezzz Před rokem +16

    God literally recommended this to me for some reason.

  • @Ell1e_th3_mushr00m
    @Ell1e_th3_mushr00m Před rokem +16

    I actually needed this like 5 hours ago but it's fine- thank you btw!
    (Yes, I somehow got into an odd argument but we calmed down and fixed everything :D)

  • @MorgueInTheVoid
    @MorgueInTheVoid Před rokem +2

    I WAS LITERALLY JUST SEARCHING THIS ON GOOGLE OMG THE TIMING IS IMMACULATE

  • @jjaa_joyjoyartist
    @jjaa_joyjoyartist Před rokem +15

    Yep, making sure that you approach each case as an individual and calmly assess the methods that work best. For some it's reason and debunking misinformation. For most it's personal experience and other (non-lethal) ways of persuasion ;)

    • @TrueHey
      @TrueHey Před rokem

      Ah so it's ok to permanently cripple someone! 😃

    • @jjaa_joyjoyartist
      @jjaa_joyjoyartist Před rokem

      @@TrueHey refer to number 2, buckoo

    • @TrueHey
      @TrueHey Před rokem

      @@jjaa_joyjoyartist I mean it's not lethal

  • @klrklr6784
    @klrklr6784 Před rokem +9

    Yeah! I NEED THIS🔥I AM ALWAYS CALM🔥EVERYTIME I HAD AN ARGUMENT WITH SOMEONE, NO HESITATION, STRAIGHT TO THE FACE🔥

  • @akinr954
    @akinr954 Před rokem +3

    To be honest I always go into arguments and I love it

  • @A55a551n
    @A55a551n Před rokem +8

    Timestamps
    1). Keep the temperature ever 0:50
    2). Have a sense of humour 2:04
    3). Ask questions and listen carefully 2:51
    4). Realise and accept you might be wrong 4:09
    5). Agreements are not forbidden 5:17
    6). Research and use facts 6:20
    7). Appeal to higher values 7:02
    Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late.💙💙💙💙💙💙

  • @nick27march
    @nick27march Před rokem +3

    Ahh...this video reminds me of THEM.
    How they used to calm down me when I used to agitated or hyper.They used to say that you need to cool down during heated argument.I would get ignited very easily and early during that times.
    Now when I look back I am more tamable and easy going person.
    Adapted methods like deep breathing, counting one to hundred,squeezing stress ball,pressing the tips of pens continuously, bursting the popper etc.etc.
    All these techniques I have imbibed within self so that neither me nor others gets harmed.
    After continuous therapy and medications I am more of a social amicable person.
    Thanks to my doc and to THEM too.

    • @listeningtomusicistalentidgaf
      @listeningtomusicistalentidgaf Před rokem +1

      I'm really happy for ya!!
      Hope ur doing good.

    • @nick27march
      @nick27march Před rokem +1

      Oh ! I forgot to mention.
      Keeping quiet and listening to the accusations and not giving a reply to the argument are some key factors.
      I prefer keeping quiet and calm and listen to the blaa-blaa instead of giving a befitting reply.
      If possible I try to move away from that place for the interest of both.
      This is my success mantra to be jovial and happy even during argument..
      Ssshhh ! Please don't tell anyone.
      Especially to THEM..🤫

  • @listeningtomusicistalentidgaf

    Y'all calm down. This voice is beautiful too. I love it sm!! Thanks a lot psych2go team for all these informative vids. It has helped us a lot. Happy new year everyone!!
    Lets look forward to making new experiences and memories in 2023 and become a slightly better version of what we are now. Cheers!!
    Edit :- i hope autocorrect cooperates with me in 2023 😭😭

  • @wolfieabby5919
    @wolfieabby5919 Před rokem +2

    new voice actor? love the changes in voice & editing, it's awesome to see how you guys rotate in jobs (hopefully rotate ;-;)

  • @Ayirassi
    @Ayirassi Před rokem +12

    I love all your videos! I wish I see these videos earlier! ❤

  • @Heavenly_restricted
    @Heavenly_restricted Před rokem +5

    I’m like the calmest person ever tbh you could yell at me and I wouldn’t have an bit of anger at you

  • @socheata643
    @socheata643 Před rokem +7

    Thank you for the help! but even though my emotions had been rough for a bit and also a few didn’t understand how I look or feel. And saying things and calling me ugly and asides from that. I had a conversation with my classmate named John, we sorta talked different things but we got along, and yeah. And my little brother too, and not rage! But Anyways Thank you and take care and if your experiencing these. your not alone. especially even they misunderstand or they looked at you as something bad. Don’t bring your anger and all. Just remain calm and you’re going to be okay! Like me when I experienced these. But we all are human. And we had accidents, and mistakes and most lies. Just remember don’t overthink, even life is tough. We all matter and May had those things but we can do this. And not give up! No one is a loser and a winner. We’ve all had theses! Even when the world changes hard and makes people like that, don’t get to hard on anyone and don’t judge their races and anything even Asians! Everyone loves everything they loved and we may act differently but it takes practice. I apologize if I’ve made a longer paragraph!

  • @charlottet7379
    @charlottet7379 Před rokem

    Thank you for this video and tips. I’ll try to think of them, especially the quote about: “most people don’t listen to understand but to reply/retort”

  • @jungwoorex6841
    @jungwoorex6841 Před rokem +1

    Had an argument with my friend. Thanks to this video, the argument did not heat up much.

  • @juwel_draws
    @juwel_draws Před rokem +8

    I needed this tbh

  • @southasianbrat3878
    @southasianbrat3878 Před rokem +5

    Please make a video about how to check if someone is manipulating you or not

  • @Damons-Old-Soul
    @Damons-Old-Soul Před rokem +2

    If someone is outright yelling at you and it is someone you care about, the best thing you can do is stay quiet. Let them argue themselves down to whatever has gotten them so heated. At this point the argument isn't between you and them; it is between them and themselves. If you are not actually part of an argument or discussion, there is no way to prove your point.
    Acknowledging an understanding of their perspective, is not agreeing with their perspective. It is though, proof to the other person that you have been listening.

  • @neofulcrum5013
    @neofulcrum5013 Před rokem +3

    Just know that if you resort to insults, you’ve already lost.

  • @tilia8
    @tilia8 Před rokem +6

    If everyone watched your videos, the world would be such a better place :'D

  • @stacyharvey3554
    @stacyharvey3554 Před rokem +1

    Another one that can be added to this is know when to take a break or walk away. If emotions do get to high you may want to take a break, calm down, and then return to the conversation. If you are getting no where in the conversation and both sides are feeling frustrated or angry it might be best to just end the conversation before permeant damage is done to the relationship. This is not always an easy thing to do but can be extremely helpful.

  • @brianaocasio9760
    @brianaocasio9760 Před rokem +2

    Ty 4 the new tips

  • @LunarPhantom0O0
    @LunarPhantom0O0 Před rokem +5

    Thanks for your amazing content

  • @marionbenson6094
    @marionbenson6094 Před rokem +1

    Thank you for the help and your right thank you

  • @indianaweather9837
    @indianaweather9837 Před rokem +6

    *Me, studying this video before i come out to my family*

    • @yayyp
      @yayyp Před rokem

      oof hope it went good

  • @charlottet7379
    @charlottet7379 Před rokem

    2:19 had to rewind to listen to it over and over. “Enforced one-way shots firing: is bullying”!

  • @me-zs7tr
    @me-zs7tr Před rokem

    topics like this are so important

  • @thelonelytheatrekids4366

    Love the video!!! 😍😍😍

  • @juicebox2263
    @juicebox2263 Před rokem +1

    Thx so much this will be extremely useful 😁

  • @karatepie67-93
    @karatepie67-93 Před rokem +1

    Not this being uploaded right after I was involved in an argument 💀

  • @rukudzomanzini2318
    @rukudzomanzini2318 Před rokem +1

    Such a calm voice

  • @swatisaini6447
    @swatisaini6447 Před rokem +2

    Drew has lovely voice ❤️💖

  • @itsovermyhead940
    @itsovermyhead940 Před rokem +1

    Don't think I've heard this person. Love how they speak. Has there been male speakers. I've only heard 3 voices

  • @honeylainebernales4716
    @honeylainebernales4716 Před rokem +2

    Thank you

  • @churchbass8230
    @churchbass8230 Před rokem +1

    I needed this video ❤

  • @pauligrossinoz
    @pauligrossinoz Před rokem +1

    *No.4 needs to be No.1 ...*
    ... and _it needs to be explicitly stated by both parties._
    Both people need to openly concede to the other person that it's just _possible_ that they could be wrong about anything they currently believe is true.
    Do _not_ proceed into any argument where both parties cannot concede their own human frailty. The simple fact is that we could all be wrong about anything. If somebody can't just concede that, then just walk away, and state that the reason that you are walking away is that it's pointless to argue with somebody who will never, ever change their own mind.
    As soon as both parties agree that it's possible that they could be wrong about anything, the argument instantly cools down, and instead turns into two people exploring each other ideas and way of thinking. That's much nicer!

  • @christophquedenbaum6224
    @christophquedenbaum6224 Před rokem +1

    Great massage

  • @balloonzosama
    @balloonzosama Před rokem +1

    The thing is people come to me and start arguing even when I did nothing to them

  • @-YukiKosmo-
    @-YukiKosmo- Před rokem +1

    Tapping into a person’s mouth for me can become worse with the meaning in their mind of me telling them to quiet off.

  • @gurunext
    @gurunext Před rokem +1

    Well I will never try to calm an internet argument because those things are very rare anyways and should last forever

  • @hmklegend2791
    @hmklegend2791 Před rokem +1

    Oh, thank u Psych2go🥰❤️😍

  • @fightingtosurvive6527
    @fightingtosurvive6527 Před rokem +4

    YAY! 🎉 😄

  • @hamsterstyle6152
    @hamsterstyle6152 Před rokem

    Practicing for dinner with my family later, thanks ❤

  • @generoberts7648
    @generoberts7648 Před rokem +2

    Thank You all at Psych2Go. Bringing a spoiler to the discussion is that we are all not at our best at all time's. That being related, the world's people have created antagonist. In an ideal population the validation is a reasonable objective. As we are now we have discrediting people that we threaten with honesty, respectful behavior's ,and so on. The are adept at picking fight's and know our passion's. I relate this personally , and hope to clue other's in.

  • @edclark6543
    @edclark6543 Před rokem +1

    Sadly I've found some unable to even begin to handle their own emotions, and become completely out of control. It's hard then

  • @skylight.exe_
    @skylight.exe_ Před rokem +1

    "but cereal before milk is common sense"
    Le mood-swinged me: _I put cereals and milk before bowl_

  • @camokazi1313
    @camokazi1313 Před rokem +2

    Thousandth like! 🤗

  • @ChunterInfo
    @ChunterInfo Před rokem +1

    Milk before cereal indeed

  • @MosheT076
    @MosheT076 Před rokem

    That is an extremely cute art style

  • @drinasun6984
    @drinasun6984 Před rokem +1

    Yay!

  • @cloudedmoon7174
    @cloudedmoon7174 Před rokem

    if only i had found this video yesterday.

  • @wizerlnd563
    @wizerlnd563 Před rokem +5

    Sending this to my boyfriend:)

  • @soraiaafonso8662
    @soraiaafonso8662 Před rokem +1

    So, i did all the steps a long time agoo, i learn to understand the humans, and whith this theme, more and more i learn to understand the bonds, witch i respect above all, so what can i do to calm my patner with life??

  • @vlazarus124
    @vlazarus124 Před rokem +1

    🔥

  • @nathanaelmwaniki2441
    @nathanaelmwaniki2441 Před rokem +2

    Hello Psych2go!🥰😀😁🤗🤩😍

  • @GaasubaMeskhenet
    @GaasubaMeskhenet Před rokem +2

    my healthy autistic/ADHD household functions perfectly fine without constant calm emotes

    • @GaasubaMeskhenet
      @GaasubaMeskhenet Před rokem

      I really can't focus on the rest of the video with this being point one. I'm so sick of people not taking me seriously when i can clearly communicate my needs during a meltdown but so many people have demanded i calm down before they help me calm down.
      And i mean simple needs like some alone time or for a light to be turned off because i'm having sensory over load

  • @A_Guy_With_A_Girl_pfp
    @A_Guy_With_A_Girl_pfp Před rokem +1

    Start a respectful argument to practice what we learned:

  • @charlottet7379
    @charlottet7379 Před rokem

    2:14 scared to always say the same mean things because I just KNEW he would EXPLODE, making it worse for me on the receiving end 😓

  • @superking100
    @superking100 Před rokem +2

    New voice actor?

  • @DeRez19
    @DeRez19 Před rokem +3

    Does this help me when I combat my depressed brain?

  • @professorJorge11
    @professorJorge11 Před rokem +3

    What. ? New voice?

  • @kenesufernandez1281
    @kenesufernandez1281 Před rokem +1

    ♥️♥️

  • @jessicarodriguez1217
    @jessicarodriguez1217 Před rokem +2

    Can you please do a CZcams video of how to deal with a toxic manipulator😉☢️ love your CZcams channel😎🤍

  • @davidg1829
    @davidg1829 Před rokem +1

    🌷

  • @charlottet7379
    @charlottet7379 Před rokem

    2:02 hmm, I was told “its not MY problem that you put feelings into how I say things. That’s a YOU problem” (because he said something very harshly, while his body language was also aggressive / closed off ) 😓

  • @food8386
    @food8386 Před rokem

    How we actually handle arguments
    1. Get mad
    2. Start getting defensive
    3. Yelling starts
    4. Yo mamma jokes form
    5. tears pool
    6. Self-esteems crush
    (Both exit opposites sides to hide their feelings)
    and scene

  • @jayj.manalo2271
    @jayj.manalo2271 Před rokem +5

    She has a great voice but the inconsistent intonation makes these videos harder to understand

    • @legonosh
      @legonosh Před rokem +1

      This. I skipped some because of it.

  • @galaxy_mooncat779
    @galaxy_mooncat779 Před rokem +9

    Wow I’m early

  • @ShrishGamerTV
    @ShrishGamerTV Před rokem +2

    Secret Video???

  • @nickv.s125
    @nickv.s125 Před rokem +1

    Be like GoW's Thor and ask if they are a calm and reasonable person.

  • @sarahearl9169
    @sarahearl9169 Před rokem

    wait a second
    is the thumbnail Grian and Scar or am I insane and also obsessed with hermitcraft

  • @charlottet7379
    @charlottet7379 Před rokem

    5:33 😂😂😂

  • @PyrosgunReturns
    @PyrosgunReturns Před rokem

    Ok but this all seems like how you can stop an argument BEFORE you have to try to calm it instead of when it already has become heated and it needs to be calmed.

  • @sophiaburnett7764
    @sophiaburnett7764 Před rokem

    Yea but my parents when they argue with me they always take me the wrong way and that’s why I can’t go to cheer next week because I told my dad I finished in the shower and i guess it sounded like slightly rude😢

  • @joandarc441
    @joandarc441 Před rokem +2

    We have to act like Batman very calm

    • @Richiehawk
      @Richiehawk Před rokem +1

      Really??😆😆
      Then we're Superman 😂

    • @chloecreel5387
      @chloecreel5387 Před rokem

      Lol🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😋😋😋

  • @PandasticVoyage
    @PandasticVoyage Před rokem +2

    That's not Amanda 🫨

  • @United_Wings
    @United_Wings Před rokem +1

    🤔

  • @cleangoblin2021
    @cleangoblin2021 Před rokem +3

    Accept the L, even when you are right😅
    Especially with women

  • @EditorCxB
    @EditorCxB Před rokem +1

    Early

  • @RubyMcKee-kk7np
    @RubyMcKee-kk7np Před 2 měsíci

    Hi. I live with a very argumentative mother, who yells at me if i try to argue with her. Is there any way to combat this?

  • @yougotsnipedbro6060
    @yougotsnipedbro6060 Před rokem +1

    32 seconds or to say half a stack

  • @Alexanlite
    @Alexanlite Před rokem +1

    Is that grian and scar I see in the thumbnail

  • @akidmuzaffar
    @akidmuzaffar Před rokem +3

    Cereal before milk at all times.

  • @alridach.1749
    @alridach.1749 Před rokem +1

    Halo Cindy sis.. how are you?

  • @that_0ne_guy30
    @that_0ne_guy30 Před rokem +1

    Hi:D

  • @matchmasterqueen5054
    @matchmasterqueen5054 Před rokem +3

    What is this voice? A 6am sleepy me sounds less tired than whoever is talking.

  • @keiron.4612
    @keiron.4612 Před rokem +1

    What is her name love her voice 😍

    • @keiron.4612
      @keiron.4612 Před rokem +1

      @mothgirl your welcome your cute haha

  • @Piraat2
    @Piraat2 Před rokem +1

    view streak #16

  • @o_Haich_o
    @o_Haich_o Před rokem

    Damn that voice!

  • @Cup1dzzz
    @Cup1dzzz Před rokem +2

    early..?

  • @milyrrrr566
    @milyrrrr566 Před rokem +1

    This isn’t you your better than this

  • @clumsypotatoe388
    @clumsypotatoe388 Před rokem +1

    but war is the only way to live in 2022 D:

  • @youtubekingshaun928
    @youtubekingshaun928 Před rokem +1

    o7