Things You Have to Forget in Order to Live
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“(1)We tend to imagine that in order to live a good life, we need to have to have an appetite for the truth.
(2)But what if, in reality, in order to keep going and get anything done, we actually need to blind ourselves to a range of realities and have to swallow a number of illusions without which we couldn’t possibly have the willpower to continue.
(3)Here are some of the blind spots necessary to our flourishing.
(4)First and foremost, we need to pretend that we’re not going to die and therefore have to convince ourselves that all the things we fervently trust are so important and so urgent, really do matter and won’t look like incomprehensible, futile mulch within a hundred years or less.
(5)We have to care manically about what ‘others’ think - though they hardly give us a thought, let alone a fair one.
(6)We have to imagine that we could (one day) be loved and understood - though few things are, in fact, ever more in doubt.
(7)We have to stay on our side - though we know, in our hearts, how beastly and strange we really are.
(8)We have to melt at the cuteness of small children - though we know how most of them will turn out and that the world we’re teaching them about doesn’t really exist.
(9)We have to look forward to the next few years with excitement - though almost every new day is a scratchy six or below.
(10)We have to believe that we’re collectively making progress - though every invention unleashes a necessary set of appalling unintended consequences.
(11)We have to care about humanity - though most of its members are insufferable from close up.
(12)We have to look forward to the future - though if we had a chance to learn what fate had in store, we almost certainly would not want to know.
(13)We have to keep being excited about buying things - though we know how seldom any of them make a difference.
(14)We have to keep going travelling - though being somewhere else is always better in memory or anticipation.
(15)We have to keep seeing our so-called friends - though we would be crushed by hearing a fraction of what really goes through their minds.
(16)We have to believe in a comfortable, wise old age - though it will mostly be agony, aches and catheters.
(17)We have to not properly notice how beautiful, interesting and opportunity-filled life is - in case we were to go mad from excitement and regret.
(18)In short, let’s not fool ourselves that we really want to know the full truth. We require only so much of it as is compatible with making it out of bed. We have to confront an uncomfortable fact about self-awareness: those who most know how to enjoy life may also be those who - at points - are masters at fruitfully lying to themselves.”
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It feels like we have to forget nearly everything about the world in order to live a happy life nowadays.
Its like when we were just kids back then, we don't know anything yet we are so happy
Exactly what I was thinking as I listened. But perhaps I need to take heed and accept the illusions in order to be happy!
I just was thinking that @@shweepa2061
Good Point
Been thinking exactly that for quite some time now
“The strength of a person's spirit would then be measured by how much 'truth' he could tolerate, or more precisely, to what extent he needs to have it diluted, disguised, sweetened, muted, falsified.” -Friedrich Nietzsche
It’s the people who go into denial about their lack of agency and responsibility in the world while gaslighting themselves to Truth that is all around them. Truth tellers go nuts snd like your man here are so disillusioned because it’s not about knowing everything it’s about not turning a blind eye to the narc in the office that is making everyone’s life intolerable or the narc on the road to success because natural consequences of conflict with others is often avoided by those with their head in the sand. It’s a bout Truth to OUR part in seeing what our responsibility is and doing the next right thing.
Love this!
He looked into the abyss and remained standing.
Afta the many many Skool if Life books, articles & CZcams shorts...I finally fing the 1st I could disagree wiv more. Fir many years I'd have wholly agreed wiv this outlook & all the statements herein. But, afta 26 years of depth Jungian Psychoanalysis & a decade of practicing BuddhaDharma...I realize...this is just a further decent in2 adding more suffering. Sorry guys...4 me, the icones from a lack of experiential insight & awareness. Yes we have 2 titrate our exposure 2 the unpleasant...but we also have 2 realize much of this pessimistic view is skewed by the Negativity Bias plus our childhood conditioning. Denial is useful 4 survival...4 a while...then it just becomes the "2nd Arrow". Pain is inevitable, suffering is a matter of choice.
Truly, the strongest people I know are those who can handle the truth, regardless of how unappealing it may be...
I don't think I've ever disgagreed with one of your videos more. I don't think the answer is to lie but to better accept truths. That's the real strength of mastering happiness in life, I think.
Are there better truths? For exmaple could we reasonably prove a truth where our actions do matter and aren't lost to time?
@@dummythin5378 I certainly think so
@@dummythin5378Absolutely. Think of the butterffly effect. Take up studying entropy, and enthalpy. Everything we do has an effect on everything else in the world- that's why it should be our duty to make everything positive for ourselves, and for everyone else.
@@chaimgoldstein4585 I mean you're basically saying what I'm trying to say.
@@AtticaTay that's pretty cool right? It's a concept I learned recently. It's a beautiful abstraction of the world, and really gives meaning to things.
The world needs more kindness not lies
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and if that made your ego happy you need to check ur Priveladges and keep that guy in check buddyy!!!
More authentic & genuine kindness, not shameless lies & fakery.
You chose to miss the point.
@@benjaminRhodesLEGOhow so?
Fact
The moment I became politically aware my hapiness was over.
Totally true
Same 🫤
Add to that, that a lot of people are children inside adult bodies
That's why I stopped reading the news. Very little is important and life changing enough to warrant the depression caused by seeing such negativity daily
I was politically aware for years and felt miserable, ever since I became politically unaware my level of happiness increased exponentially, my advise to people is, just know enough to vote but never get emotionally invested in any party or news related to politics.
if you want to go deeper into the rabbit hole, 'Unveiling Your Hidden Potential' by Bruce Thornwood is a must-read
I'm 35 and was diagnosed with ADHD and autism last year. People have been angry at me my whole life because I tell the truth and don't pretend. I have only learnt this year that's it's both normal and completely expected to pretend and lie. The more I understand the world, the more it repulses me
I’m sorry it hurts. I know it, too. Maybe try the pretending as in this video, consciously, when it helps you feel better.
Same here, though I'm a bit younger. I surround myself with people who don't want me to pretend. In their company, I've built myself up through knowledge and growth untill I have genuinely become a person that a lot of people love and accept for being themselves. Embrace what makes you you, no matter what you do, there is always going to be a crowd of people that likes you, and one that hates or dislikes you, though they might differ in size from person to person.
@@StarlightNkyra wise words - thank you. One quote I have kept coming back to is, "don't compromise who you are". I've learnt the hard way, but it's the right way to live your life, especially if you are neurodivergent.
I am in a very similar boat. I have fortunately been able to build a life around myself that I enjoy most of the time. I still have a hard time talking to my parents about how I really feel and see the world because I am afraid they will be angry and upset with me and I am starting to feel like my relationship with them is in jeopardy. I can't give them what they want but I also don't want to disappoint them. Some days are really difficult.
you're unique and special just like everybody else.
I've tried to not care so much about what other people think, as they're usually so preoccupied with what's going on in their lives.
I have very little regard for the opinions of fools, which helps a lot.
I'm confused. He said to care manically about what everyone thinks of us
@@tiabeanie3411 yes, that's maybe because it might add some purpose. I was confused too
Be stupid and happy or aware and depressed. Too bad I’ve been frightfully aware since I was a a small child.
Same here.... Hang in there
yup,i dunno how to unsee it or play pretend and be a happy zombie...its like pandoras box, once you can see and know what is really there... you can not go back to the time before,it just latches on to your shadow
"Happiness is good health and a bad memory."
- Ingrid Bergman
also...
“What need is there to weep over parts of life, when the whole of it calls for tears”
- Seneca
and...
"...oftentimes, to win us to our harm,
The instruments of darkness tell us truths,
Win us with honest trifles, to betray’s
In deepest consequence."
- Banquo ("MacBeth" - Act 1, scene 3)
❤
This made me think of that quote from gladiator, “death smiles at us all, all a man can do is smile back”
wow, this was depressing, thanks
But I like Pizza what are you saying about me?
Yup, Jesus Christ
Life-threatening in the wrong ears.. 😮 😩
@@tuffisEN that's what I was thinking. Half the time this channel seems like it's trying to push you over the edge. This one went further than usual.
Brutal
As an autistic and physically disabled person, I live day in and day out unable to forget these things and the result is that I live in a near-constant state of existential awareness and anxiety. I have a deeper understanding of myself and the world that many people yearn for, but it often does not feel worth the cost of entry! I often yearn instead for ignorance.
I sense the problem lies in us all living more in our subjective mind versus "reality"/ presence. In presence life is bliss! Living in the mind most often is hell! Psychedelics are able 2 clear the mind 2 experience this truth 4 me.
Ignorance is bliss..!!
that was a missquote
@@benjaminRhodesLEGO but its certainly the message of the video
Its true , when I didn't know about world politics I was happier
Pretty sure to live fully you need to know the truth or youre gonna be a shadow floating in the wind. And if you go with videos advice you might actually falsify all of reality and how much is that worth? This video advice is wild and wrong. You would only take it if you couldnt bear the suffering from truth, which alot of people do actually because theyre not equipped to deal with it, and arent strong internally but it is needed to actually live in full reality and not be a shadow floating in the wind.
the ultimate truth
“The most merciful thing in the world, I think, is the inability of the human mind to correlate all its contents. We live on a placid island of ignorance in the midst of black seas of infinity, and it was not meant that we should voyage far. The sciences, each straining in its own direction, have hitherto harmed us little; but some day the piecing together of dissociated knowledge will open up such terrifying vistas of reality, and of our frightful position therein, that we shall either go mad from the revelation or flee from the light into the peace and safety of a new dark age.”
― H.P. Lovecraft
I think this video is a good way of describing the concept of 'hope' without using the word itself.
These aren't all the 'blind spots' or 'illusions' either, but in every scenario it's about the importance of hoping.
Lies hurt most of the time, the truth will only hurt once.
Cite your sources.
We have to accept that every day is a scratchy 6 or below...damn. Ouch. Another hit, thank you for expressing what so many of us feel.
What does "scratchy six" mean?
@@nalianalianalia I took it as barely a 6. Barely passable. How do you take it?
@@thebakedkorean Is that a scoring system at school over there? What's the scale then (I'm guessing): from 1 to 10 (highest)? I don't think so, coz 6 would be a pretty high value then. My apologies, I hope you don't feel annoyed, I am really trying to grasp the meaning here and compare it with my life. Thank you
@@nalianalianalia Just understand it as: "(almost) every day is "meh" at best. :)
Much of this video is just depressive nonsense not in touch with reality. Also claiming that almost everyday is barely passable is obviously entirely subjective and just his opinion.
At the same time we are unhappy because we have forgotten a few other important things, like the present moment, our innate loveliness, the way we are all connected. The superficial world is a depressing illusion, hiding within it the truth of love 💗
Nice! Some Buddhist principles in your post?
And most importantly… God.
Maybe I misunderstood but I think that I have different opinions than the ones in the video.
1. Nothing in life matters. Which means everything you choose to matter in your life matters and nothing really more.
2. Care about what the people you care about and who treat you good think (the kind and honest people). Not random ones.
3. Be honest and kind (both in every way). If you are you will find people who accept and love you for being human.
4. Deep down everyone is a weirdo. As long as you don't hurt anyone be free.
5. A lot of small children are cute haha. Teach them about honesty and kindness (remember in every way).
6. Be excited about your days my mates. There is so much to be excited about. Enjoy yourselves and if you don't remember to be kind to yourself (we often need it the most). Once you figure out to think and feel for yourself appreciation for a lot of things, moments, thoguhts, feelings etc hits different.
7. In reality we are collectively making progress. Even if politics etc don't push that narrative and yeah a lot of people with a lot of money are slowing down positive progress for greed etc but we are as humanity not doing so bad even if it sometimes doesn't seem that way.
8. We all should (don't have to) care about humanity because there is so much to care about. All those beautiful souls and all those lost ones.
9. Look forward to the future, be thankful for your past (you chose which parts) and enjoy the now.
10. Be excited about buying new (fake) things but not because they matter but because they really not. Things don't have to matter to be enjoyed. (Do be aware though of the industries tricks. Buy what you want, appreciate it and try to be conscious about it if possible).
11. Traveling can be fun haha
12. I talk with my 2-3 closest friends (partner included) about everything (we want to talk about). No filters. It's the best. No shame, no lies, just being honest, kind (forgiving) and a lot of fun. Be who you would love to be surrounded with and surround with the same. Honesty can be bliss.
13. Being old can be pretty nice. Take care of yourselves while being young (physically and mentally). Try to do all the things you want to. In this situation worst case scenario for a lot of western people when becoming old to the point where it eventually is not fun anymore could be overdosing peacefully on sleeping pills. You could even prepare letters and all. Make it good you know. (Just saying)
14. The truth shouldn't make things bad. Often seems point of view is the problem. Being frankly the truth is there no matter if you look at it or not. Might as well look, feel, accept, forgive, grow.
I hope you have an amazing existence. Enjoy the fun and sad moments to it's fullest. Think for yourself and gather knowledge. Exist and breathe.
And above all, be human my humans ❤
I think you understood the video the best.
I hope more people read this. I hope they pin this comment to the video for people struggling with depression.
Facts of life. On the surface it's depressing but if you can truly grasp the true meaning, it's calming and liberating.
Dude you’re thinking way too much into this. You can’t unsee what you’ve seen but you can choose what you focus on. The simple beauty in things. I’ve stopped “going deep” and I’m much happier lol.
Is that not specifically what this video is advocating for?
We need to accept reality as it is. The world's brutality and fleetingness make the good and beautiful things that much more important and special.
the key is to finding a balance between self awareness and choosing to ignore the things that doesn't serve us or brings us happiness. don't wanna be too smart or a fucking idiot either
It's a question of whether you want to enjoy conventional life or enjoy truth.
Literally. This video speaks to us as if the only way to be happy was to be blind and ignorant to some harsh truths... But that's true only to people who want to live a conventional and superficial and fake happy life
@@yupindeed5422 It's not about enjoying the cold truths, it's about enjoying life while keeping in mind those truths and not fool yourself
@@yupindeed5422 Its not about just hedonism, you pursue truth to live fully rather than be a shadow floating in the wind like video suggests to forget, hedonism is just drowning yourself in pleasure to forget as well its own form of forgetfulness, but hey you seem to have your mind set on forgetting so i can propose psychedelics which change perception of reality which might mean you forget the truth? How about it? Youre not equipped to deal with it youre not strong enough internally, get psychedelics.
@@yupindeed5422 Truth appears cold - to one attached to warmth. One cannot throw away attachments - they must be outgrown.
@@yupindeed5422truth is indeed cold. or rather its the absence of warmth and niceties that we can use to comfort us.
from my pov its like eating too many sweets and then getting off of them.
at first everything tastes bland and boring. but over time your senses adapt and suddenly you notice how blind you have been to all the tasteful nuances of every food you ate before.
its also a matter of preference. someone might choose to prefer the simple but strong enjoyment of everything sugar. someone else might choose to prefer the enjoyment of variety and nuance.
same decision you can do with life, knowledge and wisdom.
there is no right or wrong here. it doesn't matter anyway.
so do what you enjoy most and let others do the same, even if it varies from your choice. :)
I’ve stopped telling myself these lies. They’re not necessary for happiness once you awake to being present and appreciating life as it is. ❤
It works for you because you're good looking
And this is why I'm depressed I know too much and yet not enough
I am likewise depressed. People have often told me that no one really knows what they are doing in life and I always found that a bit infuriating. True, I do not know exactly what I am doing, but I also understand enough of my own life that it is impossible for me TO know what I am doing. I think depression (at least for me) is often a painfully acute understanding of the sorrows of the world and a lack of focus on the joys of the world.
@@XenHen yeah it kind of scared me a bit when I figured out nobody really knows what they are doing because not only does that mean the world is a big confusing mess but it also means it's likely I'll never know what I'm doing too. I also definitely focus on all the bad more so than the good these days but is it so wrong to be concerned about the many wrongs of the world and concerned for my own well being and future? I don't believe so which is another problem I face because I believe I am right to feel how I do given everything I know and have experience myself. Yet people don't understand that fully and I'm actually afraid to get into a debate about it with people I know because I fear they will start thinking like me too.
@@edgelessuser5 Yeah, I get that. I dunno if this true for you, but I really hate it when people tell me I shouldn't focus so much on the negatives
@@XenHenI also don't like that but they have a point I suppose, it's just not that simple usually
That's quite sad, that's a lot to unlearn and things to convince ourselves after seeing too clearly. Onto the stage where, Our mind can know the truth yet our heart feels free
Alain, I often tell people that you are extremely underrated and do not get a fraction of the attention you deserve. I'm certain that in a few hundred years, like many other geniuses who have remained poorly known as their own time, people will start to realize the genius of your ideas. 🌹🌹
I agree, but he's got 9m subscribers, so word is getting out there.
what if u acknowledge the truth and despite how tragic and meaningless it is u chose to find fulfilment and happiness.
,,One must imagine Sisyphus happy"
-Albert Camus
Thank you. I shuddered at "Agony, aches and catheters". 😂
"A comfortable, wise old age even though it will mostlybe agony, aches, and catheters.."
*flinches and grabs groin"
What I learned in life:
1. I am going to die one day but how I go will be on my terms after many years of happy life.
2. Remember that death is inevitable so only do thing things that are important to me.
3. Doing those things don’t hurt others but don’t make them happy either.
4. Life is meaningless so don’t try to give it meaning based on others’ beliefs because those beliefs have had thousands of years to do their magic🤣 and yet we are in this shit
4. Be happy and nothing is important enough to go through that fucking depression again😊
But, my own happiness doesn't
Make me happy. Afterall, happiness is just a sensation created by the brain to force you to do things. How can you say you have free will, and that you only do things that you want, when you mindlessly spend all of your life, chasing a purpose in the form of happiness?
I am not searching for happiness. I am just happy and satisfied 😊 it took me 5 years of severe depression to come where I am today. Happiness isn’t a luxury. Happiness is our god given right and I had to lose it for 5 long years to understand what happiness is 😊 I wish you luck dear friend.
Agree and have come to similar conclusions. Reconciliation with my death as imminent and natural is of most importance. Sets one free to make mistakes on purpose 😊
@@fatherburning358wish you all the best 😊
Wrong on point 1 already 😂
Lying isn't the right term. It's acceptance and understanding.
I came across some thought model which I would call "Schrodinger's life" which basically means if you don't ask how life is, it would be both good and bad. In days of adversities, it means to write a longer 'to-do' list and just fulfill the missions. In day of bliss, it means to still fulfill the missions while enjoying the greens of the trees and the lively chirps of the birds. To not focus on the one thing that you think can make you happy and enjoy everything else life delivers, is already good enough.
That's quite insightful. Can you enlarge on that?
Detachment, patience, acceptance, ignorance/understanding, gratitude and kindness
I'll have a beer, watch a movie and try to forget that I ever watched this video.
The lesson of the video in one line would be “Don’t be a Smartass. You can never try to understand the world in its entirety and come out of that process sane and in good health”. Let the world be and focus on your own life and the lives of the people you love.
Or you could lean into acceptance in the truth, and derive peace from the fact that you are the master of your own life, and that your emotions and the way the world see you are of your doing alone. Live a wholesome life free from harming others, and not letting others harm you... that would be one of the keys to happiness.
You don't control your emotions. You listen to them. You pay attention. You accept their wisdom.
💯 reality is selective for sanity's sake. Wonderful to hear your voice by the way that helps keep me sane x
Some of the biggest themes I've encountered in trying to fix my depression hinges on the concept of non-attachment, and on focusing on the things that are within our control. We get disappointed when the results we wanted don't come to be. And there are many things in our lives that affect us that are out of our control - like our social and political environments, our upbringing, the conditions in which we were made. Worrying about things we can't change only brings us suffering, and the less we feel we can control, the easier it is to just give up on trying. Non-attachment can be tough to accept - pretty much to not care about any specific outcome of a given interaction. This makes sense for things like (dis)regarding the opinions of strangers, but certain things like the acceptance of people we care about or the option of being able to survive a potentially life-threatening situation are much harder to simply turn off, because there is quite a lot of rational motivation to care about these things. At the same time, sometimes it's easier for the things we want to come to us when we aren't trying, rather than when we chase after it. It really does make me question to what extent is it healthy/focusing on the positive things in life, and to what degree are you just numbing yourself emotionally in order to avoid pain.
I believe that we don't have to intentionally blind ourselves from the truth as much as try to discern how much of our internal reality is based on negativity bias magnifying the worst of our lived experiences and disregarding the good ones. For a long time (and even still now), I haven't trusted people to be rational or nice, and felt like the ones that did accept me were more of a rare exception. But looking back at my life, even though past bullying or the upbringing from my parents made a huge impact on me, they were from otherwise relatively few people, as opposed to the many people who simply didn't react to me at all, or numerous people who have been kind or friendly, either as one-off encounters with strangers or actual friends. Human beings on average are very motivated by their own self-interest, but I believe most people also want to do good. I feel like if we look at our own motivations, it informs us of what others also feel, that we all really just want to feel loved and understood, and many of us see ourselves as outcasts for one reason or another. We aren't as different from each other as we think we are. It's amazing how much our own perception can shape the way we feel about the world, like if we begin to see cruelty as more the exception and not the rule (news likes to capitalize on the bad and shocking things because it gets more attention, but happy news is more likely to go under the radar), then maybe it'll become easier to feel at ease with other people.
I say all this as someone who is an introvert and suffering from social anxiety, so trying to find the right sort of facts to remind myself that not everyone wants to be cruel to me has definitely been challenging - but are absolutely necessary if I want to get past these anxieties, my depression, and maintain the will to live. Yes, there are a lot of people who do bad in the world, and many of those people have a lot of power to do much greater acts of harm than the average person, but we also aren't good at looking at things from the right scale that they really are. Even if say there are a million terrible people in the world, that is only 1/8000th of the total people on Earth. The vast majority of people won't even interact with us, let alone have an opinion that we know about or affects us in any way. There is so much we miss and take for granted when we focus only on the bad things, even if most of our days will simply be average.
TL;DR: You don't have to become ignorant in order to be happy, finding the right perspectives rooted in facts is still possible and might even be more convincing than lies. Focus on changing the things you can control and not on the whole picture, and things might not be as bleak as they appear. Finding the positive in things is difficult, but is absolutely worth it for maintaining your sanity.
The key is being in exclusive control over the creation and maintenance of your own reality. Believe the lies you tell yourself without question as much as the truth you tell to others. It’s all just an illusion in the end so you may as well be a good magician.
I dont think its healthy to just try and forget about the cold hard truths you face on a daily basis. Knowing that im going to die is more of a motivation for me than anything else. I want to do things, not because they matter in the grand scheme of things, but they matter to me - if others find it interesting or important too thats just a bonus.
Well I'm sufficiently depressed but thanks to this video I'm going to ignore it
This is such a depressed take on life. If you believe any of these points, rather than "forgetting them", odds are you're really just suppressing sadness and intellectualize the way you feel.
"Nothing I do matters 100 years from now" - how is that important, if it matters to you? It's not. But if you don't value yourself, and don't value things for the sake of making you and your loved ones happy, then you'll be tempted to tell yourself that it's because "Nihilism is the one true philosophy based in science" ... but it's okay, you're just depressed, your emotions are valid, and it's okay to feel them and adress them. It takes time.
2:51 "Let's not fool ourselves that we really want to know the full truth. We require only so much of it as is compatible with making it out of bed" And that's the main issue of the video: making "getting out of bed" a foregone conclusion. Quoting Albert Camus, "there is but one truly serious philosophical problem and that is suicide. Judging whether life is or is not worth living amounts to answering the fundamental question of philosophy. All the rest - whether or not the world has three dimensions, whether the mind has nine or twelve categories - comes afterwards". The more information you have, the better decisions you can make, which includes not only whether you want to live but also how you live life (how much you "like" that information doesn't change that). I think it's still possible to live while being painfully aware of everything brought up here, but it requires a serious shift in perspective (which basically boils down to not caring about most stuff people usually care about - that can be either despair-inducing or freeing, depending on how you look at it).
To pursue life and experiences with a glass half full sort of thinking even when reality points to it being half empty. Since our thoughts shape our reality and perspective, this makes absolute sense.
There'll always be reasons to be happy, and there will always be reasons to be unhappy....The choice is ours.
I had this conversation with myself last night. For me to find any real lasting happiness, it would have to involve life somehow becoming worth all of the pain that I've undergone and witnessed, which I can't even imagine at this point. I believe this is where this "truth amnesia" might come in handy. It's much easier said than done though.
You don't choose your emotions. The sadness or disappointment is there for a reason. Explore......
@vettie life is an adventure to be lived, not a problem to be solved.
Buddhists believe that 'life is suffering', but it is also full of wonder, joy, and love.
I reckon we should enjoy the moments when they come along. Just pause, focus, and enjoy.
Remember the purpose of your life, my life, and every life, 'is to experience and enjoy as much life as possible'.
@From-Hurt-to-Healing Emotions occur and result from our interactions with life and people. Like any thought, we can either entertain our emotions, or we can dismiss them.
We really can and do control our thoughts.
We can go with our emotion if it is going to serve us in the situation, or we can suppress or dismiss that emotion if it's going to make us feel worse.
It really is our choice.
So your proposition is choosing the truths you can stomach? The truths which arent sufferable? Isnt this kinda in line of the video? That you forget the sufferable and leave the non sufferable? Gotta have it checked out you might not be equipped or strong enough, you can always do psychedelics they change perception of reality and might make you forget truth that way.
Such comforting words and the voice is a bonus 😊
Comforting how?...
I find this backwards. We are ALL going to die, so with that in mind we should live well and in truth.
Otherwise y'all will live in denial. Seek eternal things.
This channel isn't theistic
@@d.bcooper2271it is curious though that the message in this video boils down to "have faith" without imposing any religious beliefs... as if it were so easy, but one can certainly dream.
My view on this video is that it doesn't say that we should live in denial - i think what is being adviced is to be aware of what we would rather not know, and with that knowledge of those things- like that we are all going to die - do nothing except for being aware of it deep down, and then move on (and living lifeto your fullest).
There are no eternal things to seek. The universe is functionally eternal, but what are you going to do with that?
Finding happiness in looking at a hypothetical condition that is not ours is a bit odd. On the contrary, non-theistic schools of thought posit that happiness can be approached by acceptance and embracing of our condition of being temporal and with an expiration date.
I often struggle with forgetting the realities of life. I think I've always been more aware of the pains of life than most (but not all) of my peers. I often look at my friends with envy for how carefree they go through life. I know one day they will become more aware of the world and become less carefree, but I wish they didn't have to. The older I have gotten, the more death has seemed to appeal to me. It is difficult to live. I think it is commendable to live just one more day and that there is no shame in seeking death for those who do cannot find any other way to survive with their sanity.
It explains why sports and 'reality' game shows are so popular. These along with mind altering substances are forms of escapism. My mentor at work once told me stress is not accepting 'what is' and/or 'expecting an outcome that's not attainable'. The content life for me is to not swing too high or too low, manage my expectations realistically and not get attached to outcomes that I cannot influence. All of this is easier said than done. I still yell at the stock market and government officials. Just not as long and loud as I used to though.
Psalm 27:13. I would have despaired unless I believed that I would see the goodness of God in the land of the living.
Ever once and a while I get a glimpse of that goodness but definitely not very often lately. 😢
"...and that the world we are teaching them about doesn't even exist." I love it. The School of Life is excellent. Thank you.
Psychological : "our ideas are a mess, traumas and devastating felling are too dangerous for us; we are all broken"
Spirituel:" You're not your mind, what You really are is the unbreakable Silence that heard the noise of your mind"
The two have reached the same conclusion: we all are mad. But not for the same reasons: one of the definitve sickness of our mind, the other for our definitive identification to it.
Delusions and blind spots are inevitable to survive overwhelming negatives, but it's healthy to work to notice them and understand them so as to improve. Simply pretending things are fine is what keeps people stuck in destructive behavioural patterns. There is a healthy balance to knowing and dealing with reality (truth / accurate perception) while not dwelling on things we cannot change. It's healthy to be aware of our limitations and finite lives, while not letting ourselves resign to the idea that nothing matters. People's experiences matter, and the only way to exert positive change where possible is with the truth.
No. We don't have to do any of these things. I think the more reality you deny the worse reality gets, especially on a societal level. Everyone needs to peruse real truth more, not less.
Indeed, when the mind speaks, the passage is more than wonderful👏
I prefer the term prioritizing what's important and knowing when I can make a difference.
The teachings of this school r such a great blessings! Thank u guys! 🙏❤.
All this lesson speaks about, n few ppl dare 2 admit, r true and frank! 2 handle these truths n still find joy in this life is the most successful life imo!
So, no wonder I've been depressed as long as I can remember...
I can't lie, not even to myself.
“Truth is not what you want it to be; it is what it is.
And you must bend to its power or live a lie.”
-Miyamoto Musashi
I find this interesting to compare to their videos on pessimism. Some of these I agree may be truths we ignore, but some of these (consumerism not making us happy, for instance) should probably be confronted and adjusted to accordingly.
Martha Beck has good advice for this. Find not what's true, but what's useful. Jacob Collier also once said, there's enough evidence to support any world you want to live in. This is what I go by.
Many statements in this little diatribe are dogmatically made as if they are facts but are really just the subjective opinions of the author.
There may indeed be some truthful aspects but it is certainly only part of the picture from one perspective, not an accurrate portrayal of the whole.
Beautiful work as always, SOL. Thank you.
The balance between the little self-deceptions we confer on ourselves and opening our hearts to the richness of living is key to a flourishing and contented life.
"Those who desire the most live the longest."
(Kahlil Gibran)
Are you okay, buddy? Don't worry, you're wrong on almost every point you made..I hope that brings you some comfort.
First: he is Not your 'buddy'... if you're not a philosopher! Second: I don't think you're a philosopher because this video is based on irony - the speaker's words mean one thing, but the speaker means something else!
@@AniSxuxu okay, I'm not a philosopher, what do you think he means please?
@@heartofartichoke4340 The creator of the video advocates for forgetting the truth because youre not equipped or strong enough to deal with it, rather giving ways to actually be and stomach the truth. To live fully you need the truth, or you will be like a shadow floating in the wind. Its comfort and comfort is numbness and apathy. We need better ways to forget drugs to forget, why know the truth and make world better place? For what?
That's very depressing. We have to know the truth, avoiding it can only bring more pain, don't believe it can help at all. Actually I think it can bring more chaos, since each one will try to push their illusions in one another. Maturity is very important to handle it, sadly a materialist world we live in today doesn't allow any other explanation than the one in this video. Truth will always worth it, follow Socrates exemple.
I never know whether these videos will leave me inspired or really depressed
I believe it's better to accept that the world is negative in itself but to focus on its greater parts without lying to ourselves and trying to bring the positive change we want!
From a place of illusion there is no real solution.
Those who lie to themselves are doing it because they're not happy and can't stand reality. They might be pleased with themselves, but are the ones who live behind a worse world for the generations to follow🤷
So, some happy people might be the worst kind of people there are.😂
I said "happy" just to play along, but there is an important difference between happiness and joyfulness. So actually happy people don't need to lie neither to others nor to themselves 🤷
I don't agree that we should pretend we are not going to die. Personally I find thinking about death and people I know getting really sick and dying focuses me to realise how short life is and there is no time to waste, I need to live life to the fullest because before I know it I will be really old and weak and then dead.
We give up hope for some things and then forget we have given up that hope. We dont remember even that we given up on that and subconscious doesn't even remind about it. It is just not there anymore.
Jack Nicholson is a Few Good Men:
"You can't handle the truth."
Wow. This one was dark... truthful... but dark.
Can you be happy and then take action, or can you only take action in order to sometimes be happy?
If your condition of being happy is that a happy world exists first, you'll waste your whole life waiting for that day. But if what you want out of life is a happier world, then maybe what we can contribute to this world... is happiness/joy, itself.
A man with out imaginations will never survive in this world of illusion
i am not a master at fruitfully lying to myself, actually i am not even able to do so.
“I swear, gentlemen, that to be too conscious is an illness - a real thorough-going illness.”
(Dostoyevsky, Notes from Underground)
It all comes down to one's decision between taking the blue or red pill.
Wow, this is really perfect timing.
I dissagree
honestly its hard to emagine why anyone thinks Pizza is not really the perfect timing.
I respect this video and its bold approach it takes on these subjects. However, there are truths much deeper within our realities that allow us to accept these truths while still living a happy and sincere life.
Let's go point by point.
1 - we must forget we are going to die. Yes, we are all going to die. Many of us, particularly nowadays, believe that when we die, it's the end, and we get put into the ground, with no impact on our world. However, many people use the fact that we are going to die as empowerment for living their best lives. We only see the very direct results of our actions and not the infinite difference even the most mundane of actions can create. This is a truth not many people truly understand in their lifetimes.
2 - We have to manically care about what other people think. No, you don't, and you never did. Kids, and particularly teens, are different, but adults will judge you one of three ways; good, bad, or somewhat of both, and once they made their mind up, it's becomes difficult for them to change that opinion. First impressions do matter, but don't think too hard about everything, In fact, the less you think about it, the more people will like you, because you'll be more confident. You can literally go up to most adults and just talk to them. Many will enjoy your company. Most of us just think we can't do that because kids at school teach us otherwise.
3- We have to imagine that one day we can be loved and understood. There is one person who matters more than anybody in loving and understanding, that is, yourself. It is a choice we make consciously, though many don't know its one that can be made. When you love yourself, you are happier. Others will love you more, too (as a person and romantically), and life will seem much fuller. No matter what, it can only be up to other people to choose whether they love and understand you, but when you love yourself, that doesn't matter. (Self-love isn't egotistical. Don't be afraid or ashamed to love yourself.)
4- We have to stay on our side - also known as having to wear a mask. This kind of touches on the others, but how can you expect to be understood if people don't know the real you? You don't have to wear a mask (besides in professional settings, and also with certain people who are pretty much jerks anyway). If you just be your real self, at first people won't like you because they just liked you for your mask, but most people will really enjoy being around you, and many will also find you funny; We are all a lot more similar than we all think we are.
5-We have to melt at the cuteness of small children. This is actually a very valid one. A lot of parents WILL get defensive if you don't also find their young kid cute, even though I really do not find any babies or toddlers cute. About the second part, yeah, that's valid too, though it's not a good or bad thing. They'll get a better childhood, at expenses of having a harder time growing into adulthood, and always being noalstalgic about being a kid
6- We have to look forward to the next few years . Nobody is pressuring you to do this, and also, turn every day into an 8 or 9. Happiness always comes from within. You just need to find the will to do so. will say, for most of us, it is a very tough lesson, and one that so many people never learn. You can start by deliberately paying attention to all the little things around you, like how the leaves sway, or watch a bug you found on your patio. If you can learn to make yourself happy about these things, your life will be much more exciting. Also, make your life exciting by actually doing things to help progress twords the things you are looking forward to! You are the accelerating force in your life, not the calendar, and even a little bit of each day goes a long way.
7- we have to believe that we are always making progress. Well, we are. Collectively, this isn't a belief. It's true. Every day that goes by, 99.9% of people (who are open to learning something) learn something! That collective knowledge builds, and not linearly. We may start to think things that aren't true, challenge notions that are better not to challenge,and do or make things that end up being failures, sometimes that end up in catastrophe. But we learn more from those than anything else, so they are still on collective growth and progress, even if on a physical or mental level, they look/feel like progress has regressed.
8- We have to care about humanity, even though most of its members are insufferable close up. Although this is valid and true, for the most part, we can observe why this is valid and true, and that's our imperfect and primal emotions that most of us still naturally latch onto. "Insufferable" people are just people who are emotionally charged, and it serves as a lesson for some of us to avoid using thin labels like this to describe people. Society is far from perfect, and it would do us a lot of good to try and rework traditional systems, such as schooling to help decrease the issue of people who are holding onto a lot of emotional baggage. But we would probably make a lot of those people angry by trying to do that, so the point is still very valid.
9-We have to look forward to the future... I have already touched on this, but our future will most be determined by the people who take action to affect it. small things have large, unseen impacts, big things have massive, seen, and unseen impacts. Are you passionate about something? Put the effort and time into putting yourself in a position to have an impact.
10 - We have to be excited about buying new things. This is the one I disagree with the most. Don't buy new things if you are not excited for them, they will not make you happy, or you have no use for them. You are just feeding an executives' wallet at that point while limiting your own space. Again, happiness can be found through MANY means, and much of those means are not material in nature. Sure, if you do get somthing you are genuinely excited about, be as happy about it as possible, but If you lock yourself into being happy with almost exclusively material things, you are almost destined to be super depressed, or a shopping addict, and neither are good.
11 - we always have to keep traveling... Again, if a vacation won't make you happy, there is no point in going on one. However, what is mostly the issue here is that you aren't vacationing. You are just moving from one spot to another. This goes back to the lesson about happiness. Don't take a thousand photos. Just genuinely take in the environment moment to moment.
12- We have to keep seeing our friends... Trust should be with your friends if you truly believe they are friends. It again sounds like you are meeting the wrong people to be friends with precisely because you think you have to wear a mask. You don't have to be friends with these people. After all, they don't sound like real friends. Take off that mask, and make some new friends who like you for what makes you you.
13- We have to belive in the possibly for a wise and comfortable old age- I don't have much of anything to say here, this is valid, though we shouldn't pretend like our older years will be too much, besides storytelling. Your life right now is most important. Do what you want to do.
14- I genuinely questiined whether or not the video was supposed to be like a satire at point. Nobody is stopping you from seizing the opportunities and experiencing the beauty around you (besides property owners, and in certain cases, the police). You just have to hit the gas pedal.
End: I am one of the happiest people in my life that I know. I stayed happy through a near poverty window and a near-death illness I had to get an operation for(that gave me unprecedented growth and understanding to my mental state.) None of the time i've lied to myself, to clear up any misunderstandings. I genuinely believe in what I speak, preach, and advise to others. Many people who accept these all as truths haven't grown or been through enough to understand what I and people like me know that allows us to be so fulfilled and happy all of the time. I'll leave all of you with three last truths: a truth can never become a lie, but a lie can become a truth with enough belief in its truth. You are the brain of your body, how much control you have is up to you.
The happiest, most effective people i know are tye least self aware, even though many of them are convinced of their ninja level self awareness. Sometimes (increasingly) i envy the ones who barge through life blissfully ignorant of their impact.
True. We have to gather stories, put them together and live them. Of course, tell ourselves a healthy story, one in which we can believe and act upon.
We have to learn and know the truth about the world so we aren't sheep, but then we have to go from Doomers to Bloomers.
What if you're miserably inadequate at lying to yourself and you're constantly haunted by the ugly truth?
Just when i think you've given the deepest level of insight, you have more to provide with.
Why do you reveal the sad truth...so calmly?
Couldn't come at a better time, the whole " Life is short you never know is almost condescending and unsupportive. I love the whole we have to look forward to it excited works much more better and more real,thank you.❤️
He's joking right??
He is joking??
I embrace all thes truths and live a mostly incredibly enjoyable fun life
Like I actually wouldnt even know where to begin how nice it is to embace all thease truths and see how much they are all totally fine~
Like, what a giant ego I would have to have to be bothered by the fact I wont exist soon?
So what? I mean genuinely so what?
Everyone might hate me, I might go through extreem pain getting old and slowly dying in the appocylips like at least the sunsets would be neat
Reality actually makes life that much more incredible and interesting, even the harshest of truths.
Trauma is personal. Everyone experiences it differently and some people's definition of "truth" means accepting things that happened to them that are utterly unimaginable to you. Try not to judge them for wanting to forget such pain.
No guys is serious. All of this he says is wild and wrong, its a resignation from living. Why? Because if youre not equipped and strong enough you cant stomach truth. and without knowing truth you dont live fully. And youre more likely to be exploited. It doesnt work. To forget truth.
This video is depressing. I have to forget that I've watched it.
Wow, I’m not sure anyone has to believe any of this, nor do they. Furthermore, perhaps the title should be, “things you have to believe in order to STRIVE.” And perhaps if we STOP trying to believe lies, beautiful things might arise.
I think we need to accept the reality of the world that is our strength. People do wrong and it is that how many people are. Sufferings are inevitable in nature. We need to be strong and be happy if we aren't like them and embrace all other natural inevitable suffering. Socrates didn't just liked that hemlock and drank it. It was indeed his courage to always challenge the wrong done by people and accept natural phenomena such as death.
A great video for a cancer survivor, but still a patient, who at times feels like going mad with the discomfort of treatments and clumsiness of others.
I don’t believe, "forgetting," is the answer. Practicing acceptance of these things and tolerance is preferable and a higher goal.
The truth is painful mostly, but living a lie is shadow of the beauty of life. Truth is the most important thing there is. Above all, do not fool yourself!
This is exactly the crossroads that I'm at. Perfect timing.
This is a nice way for Alan to declare his Nihilism 😭
Why does this make me smile and feel normal within my
and misery :)
I believe these types of videos are very good therapy, and reality check
Wisely said.
Well said
Well as they say : ignorance is bliss