My Son Isn't Paying Rent, Should I Evict Him?

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Komentáƙe • 697

  • @taahdaah3813
    @taahdaah3813 Pƙed 5 lety +843

    The son will not understand how bad he messed up until he has to pay a real landlord.

  • @roydelacruz1741
    @roydelacruz1741 Pƙed 6 lety +746

    never rent to relatives and friends!

    • @TheAazah
      @TheAazah Pƙed 6 lety +51

      roy delacruz
      It depends. I will always pay my rent regardless of landlord.

    • @jacobg8640
      @jacobg8640 Pƙed 5 lety +15

      I'm the worst at giving out loans or money since I'm so stingy and always worried about running out, but my mother is the one person I have no problem helping out whether she wants it or not. She deserves it. I just hope when I the giving step that I can give to others and not be so caught up with wealth accumulation.

    • @SherCC
      @SherCC Pƙed 5 lety +12

      Absolutely truth, and don’t even share rent with relatives and friends.

    • @ampmri2434
      @ampmri2434 Pƙed 5 lety

      True!!

    • @nightfangs2910
      @nightfangs2910 Pƙed 5 lety +14

      Friends is friends family is family and business is business ALWAYS keep those separate always

  • @cattsmahal1005
    @cattsmahal1005 Pƙed 4 lety +293

    It drives me crazy when people have this kind of opportunity and sabotage a good thing. â˜ș

    • @user-ot7jd9dt7t
      @user-ot7jd9dt7t Pƙed 4 lety +5

      Just down to the having it to easy i guess, cant see what they have, a false prospective of life

    • @redcomic619
      @redcomic619 Pƙed 4 lety +10

      Well he already has a child at 22 so he’s obviously been making bad decisions his entire adult life.

    • @aslscott78
      @aslscott78 Pƙed 3 lety

      Fire đŸ”„ for

    • @irrelevantideology9640
      @irrelevantideology9640 Pƙed 3 lety

      Riiiiight!!!

  • @ChadKirk
    @ChadKirk Pƙed 6 lety +506

    I don’t understand how parents let their kids run their lives

    • @Darius_Marx
      @Darius_Marx Pƙed 5 lety +15

      SantaOMG because love. wouldn’t happen if they raised em right.

    • @bcardamone
      @bcardamone Pƙed 5 lety +6

      Valenz ... do you have children?

    • @Eubones
      @Eubones Pƙed 5 lety +9

      SantaOMG you must not have kids

    • @redlavish7027
      @redlavish7027 Pƙed 5 lety +19

      Because parents love their kids more than the kids love their parents.

    • @daejonmoody3304
      @daejonmoody3304 Pƙed 5 lety +6

      My kids would know my house my rules and that’s it

  • @plumeria66
    @plumeria66 Pƙed 7 lety +702

    The son will not take care of her when she's old. Just watch.

    • @gigi8528
      @gigi8528 Pƙed 6 lety +115

      Parents always forget about that one! One thing about tables...they turn.

    • @Celti_
      @Celti_ Pƙed 6 lety +6

      I love this song!

    • @ryliestoyboxbryner9103
      @ryliestoyboxbryner9103 Pƙed 6 lety +219

      Do you really think he'll take care of her while he's not paying rent now? He doesn't respect her at all. He needs to adult up!

    • @sfkitty1
      @sfkitty1 Pƙed 6 lety +78

      She doesn’t need him, he’s a waste of breath

    • @sakurakou2009
      @sakurakou2009 Pƙed 6 lety +108

      Her son can't even take care of himself

  • @christianmetalpwns
    @christianmetalpwns Pƙed 8 lety +371

    $740/month for a house? I live in NJ and I pay $1500 for a 3 bedroom apartment.

    • @JohnWilliams-uy7xg
      @JohnWilliams-uy7xg Pƙed 8 lety +43

      Move down south.

    • @ImprovementisGrowth
      @ImprovementisGrowth Pƙed 8 lety +8

      That's what many people say and the homes and apartments are much better.

    • @christianmetalpwns
      @christianmetalpwns Pƙed 8 lety +16

      yea .. with $1500/month you can live like a king .. or queen lol

    • @chrisarguello1170
      @chrisarguello1170 Pƙed 8 lety +41

      Try Orange County, California. $1800 a month for a 1 Bedroom apartment haha

    • @Scorpiomaj27889
      @Scorpiomaj27889 Pƙed 8 lety +7

      North of PIttsburgh PA, you can get nice places for even less than that.

  • @alonelychristianmale2624
    @alonelychristianmale2624 Pƙed 7 lety +237

    no rent = no gas, water, electricity, etc.

  • @jbw53191
    @jbw53191 Pƙed rokem +15

    Right, just don't rent to family or friends. Or even lend money. My nephew recently called out of the blue wanting some money because he was unemployed. Instead, I offered to help him look for a job and create a resume for him. (I'm a recruiter in human resources). He got mad and I never heard from him again. I think Dave would have enjoyed this story!

    • @thejakefort
      @thejakefort Pƙed 10 měsĂ­ci

      Because that’s not what he asked you could simply have said no, and it would have been better but you made him feel like a child telling him you’ll help w something he just has on a usb be happy he’s always asking all my age lives w the family

  • @princessmcadoo
    @princessmcadoo Pƙed 3 lety +20

    So he basically wants all the freedom of living like an adult with none of the responsibility. He should have stayed at home with his parents. đŸ€·đŸŸâ€â™€ïž

  • @Mr.Mister1974
    @Mr.Mister1974 Pƙed 7 lety +246

    Mom spoiled him.

    • @csApollo11
      @csApollo11 Pƙed 4 lety

      @49jubilee Not on the phone call

    • @angelpaige1500
      @angelpaige1500 Pƙed 3 lety

      thats what she get for not standing up to him

  • @alexguy96
    @alexguy96 Pƙed 6 lety +216

    ..... my parents dont ask me to pay rent im also 22 (they make it a point for me to save) but i got 2 full time jobs and when they get older my life’s purpose will be to look after them no retirement home for my folks

    • @ladybugjenkins3229
      @ladybugjenkins3229 Pƙed 5 lety +85

      Until you meet some sexy thing that says otherwise.

    • @rsbenz702
      @rsbenz702 Pƙed 5 lety +37

      Ladybug Jenkins i was gonna comment I wonder what your spouses life purpose will be 😂😂

    • @ev25zv
      @ev25zv Pƙed 5 lety +31

      Haha, 22yo's are so cute, having the next 40-50 years all planned out perfectly.

    • @albertogonzales2854
      @albertogonzales2854 Pƙed 5 lety +5

      alexguy96 I don’t believe you. Life isn’t like that. You are just not a responsible adult.

    • @cybersasho
      @cybersasho Pƙed 5 lety +1

      Im in my mid 20s, crypto millionaire, I rent to own my house, but I have debt.. not selling my bitcoins to pay my debt tho, as they will make me a billionaire in 20-30 years

  • @chrisreynolds6391
    @chrisreynolds6391 Pƙed 4 lety +46

    I'm so addicted to these dramatic calls.

  • @elvismendez1460
    @elvismendez1460 Pƙed 3 lety +20

    I WISH my parents were fortunate enough to give me this opportunity. All I can do is shake my head

  • @Vivazee
    @Vivazee Pƙed 6 lety +88

    The solution is so perfect. Don't destroy the relationship and keep your $$$.

    • @najaf9184
      @najaf9184 Pƙed 4 lety +4

      @Anthony You know you're a POS right?

    • @emelypolanco6609
      @emelypolanco6609 Pƙed 4 lety +2

      Anthony how do I say this, Your racist.

    • @rosalindhopesreece
      @rosalindhopesreece Pƙed 4 lety +4

      @Anthony Here's a prayer for you, Anthony. "Lord, please free Anthony from his demons of racism and arrogance. Let him know that You created one race, the human race, and that a person's shade of skin color is insignificant. Remove his pride in thinking that he is better than someone else because of their skin color. Grant him the heart to love people, which is one of your most serious commandments. In Jesus name I pray, amen. " God bless you, Anthony.

    • @sudhanvakashyap297
      @sudhanvakashyap297 Pƙed 4 lety +1

      @Anthony ...do you still have this racist mentality after 10 months?

    • @sanafarooq9828
      @sanafarooq9828 Pƙed 3 lety +1

      What did Anthony say? I wanna know!

  • @D-M32725
    @D-M32725 Pƙed 8 lety +369

    Pack your bags, Jimmy.

  • @ecamormex
    @ecamormex Pƙed 5 lety +53

    It was a bad idea to let them move-in in the first place. Boundaries 101.

  • @kebinyo
    @kebinyo Pƙed 5 lety +118

    "he knows better, he's been taught better"
    Well apparently not.

    • @stuflikethis
      @stuflikethis Pƙed 4 lety +10

      I’ve seen many clueless single mothers not realize how bad their parenting is. Cases like this are glaring. He turned out horrible

    • @triggered577
      @triggered577 Pƙed 4 lety +25

      No it’s not “apparent”. People can be taught better and know better but still choose to do wrong. Are u really that naive?

    • @bachibouzoul
      @bachibouzoul Pƙed 3 lety +2

      @@triggered577 bad mom

    • @gamingwitharlen2267
      @gamingwitharlen2267 Pƙed 6 měsĂ­ci

      Exactly@@triggered577

  • @salvyy
    @salvyy Pƙed 8 lety +172

    This is a very sad story. I can not believe that people like these exist for real.

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      @TheRamseyShow  Pƙed 8 lety +10

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    • @catpirrello
      @catpirrello Pƙed 7 lety +27

      I didn't believe it either. Then I became that* person who kicks the family out. It was one of the worst experiences of my existence. Extreme irresponsibility is damaging. I'm still sick about it because I saw the way it affected kids that were involved. And I learned the hard way that I cannot ultimately save people from themselves. Incredibly painful and humbling lesson to learn...but I guess it's also important to learn it. I pray to God that I can impart to my kids this lesson so that they never have to be that* landlord or that* tenant.

    • @mariachapman-precisioninst4652
      @mariachapman-precisioninst4652 Pƙed 6 lety +9

      My parents kicked me out at 17 for not paying rent I couldn't afford

    • @alakani
      @alakani Pƙed 6 lety +7

      Which people, the kids or the parents?

    • @rocksolid6494
      @rocksolid6494 Pƙed 4 lety +5

      I moved out at that age. If I paid my mom, I would still have to deal with her complaining over nothing. Peace of mind is priceless.

  • @creativereinvestor
    @creativereinvestor Pƙed 6 lety +60

    Never rent a house or apartment to a friend or relative, you must keep it strictly bussiness, and when you have this kind of proximity becomes impossible and people will take advantage

  • @muspower
    @muspower Pƙed 4 lety +35

    My dad called me crazy when I offered help to pay the monthly household expenses.

    • @muspower
      @muspower Pƙed 4 lety +19

      @SARA I know and I really appreciate their support. I've been able to work and pay for my college tuition without having any loans.

    • @thomasnguyen6144
      @thomasnguyen6144 Pƙed 3 lety +3

      That’s so mature of you to do that.

    • @Phoenixguy357
      @Phoenixguy357 Pƙed 3 lety +5

      It sounds like you were raised well by a respectable dad. Sadly western culture dictates that offspring 18+ are required to pay rent either because of the parents own financial shortcomings, vanity, narcissism, greed or stupidity.

    • @IbrahimMohamed-kw7vi
      @IbrahimMohamed-kw7vi Pƙed rokem

      @@Phoenixguy357 its disgusting godless atheist western culture, even if i earned more than my dad he would still pay the rent in our house 🏡

  • @beatplugprod3320
    @beatplugprod3320 Pƙed 5 lety +42

    Yeah I’m 22 living with my folks still but I’ve been saving $270 a week for a down payment on a house and $10,000 will go towards my emergency fund. Helping your kids save by not charging rent while they’re still at home is the biggest kind of help you could provide financially (as long as they’re actually saving) I just wish I didn’t start so late. But I’ve learned a good lesson from it because I know my plan for my children when I do decide to become a father is for them to save money for a house or college while they’re living at home.

    • @dantan1249
      @dantan1249 Pƙed 5 lety +2

      Cody Lee yeah. My parents didn’t get that. Just gave my stepdad 500 extra for spending money.

    • @andreoduwole1618
      @andreoduwole1618 Pƙed 5 lety +1

      @Sugar&Spice and a kid. You could compare on contrast like this family does this and that. so why don't you do it, but this situation was two sides to it. On one you want your kids to have the best start possible on the other you may need help with cost of living. By allowing a person to stay work and save. You give your children a better chance at survival as long as they do save. Thus allowing the person to be fully independent and able to fend for themselves not having to live pay check to pay check like so many people do in this world. Yah you can say money isn't everything yada yada, but at the end of the day you got an E fun for 10gs o no life hits you okay... compared to o no life hits now im 10g in debt cuz I can't afford the house payments, school, car, transportation to work, backed up on bills? Do you really want that for your children? or Future generations?

    • @andreoduwole1618
      @andreoduwole1618 Pƙed 5 lety +1

      @Sugar&Spice Ohhhh HAHA Then yah your right I didn't catch that part. In the context of this situation where it's a rental property. I understand why that would be an issue
      now.

    • @ashleelalasmith2792
      @ashleelalasmith2792 Pƙed 4 lety +1

      He’s living in a house that could be bring her in positive cash flow. So he’s gotta go

    • @renskedj
      @renskedj Pƙed 4 lety

      She says she has money enough. My rich nephew just gave his kids a house. But he has a girlfriend. She should work too. My dad helps me out for his grandkids, but not a partner who doesn't want to work. I wouldn't mind paying everything for my sons if I could and they work. I'd go live in a room and give em my house if they work and their wives work. But for a girlfriend who just wants to stay home.. nope. They won't have those though. I warned em already to never be as dumb as I was.

  • @mommacita2069
    @mommacita2069 Pƙed 3 lety +8

    I love how he took the time to so clearly go over what to say and what to do.

  • @SherCC
    @SherCC Pƙed 5 lety +7

    When you have everything, money, house and life, you will have family member like this, and they will NEVER call you when you in difficulty. That’s just how amazing those people are.

  • @GussAGaming
    @GussAGaming Pƙed 5 lety +74

    30 seconds in and I was screaming “evict him”

  • @ovrjoyd4u2
    @ovrjoyd4u2 Pƙed 5 lety +40

    The son has made some adult choices that aren't productive for him being independent and responsible. He is 22, chose willfully a low paying job, is shacking with his girlfriend, and they have a child together. Not really very responsible, but what is done is done. Mom is trying to be helpful by charging them less than market rate rent, but the two adults living there must feel entitled or can't afford to be out on their own and take care of their child. But whatever the reason, mom is NOT responsible to pick up the slack and support them. It is nice to want to do it for the grandchild's sake, but long term it breeds more entitlement and irresponsibility on their part, and contention in their relationship. Selling the house is an excellent choice, but if mom needs it has an income property, giving them 2-3 months of rent free living and then requiring them to move would be best. Good advice Dave.

  • @nidah9957
    @nidah9957 Pƙed 6 lety +169

    In asian households the kids live with the parents don't pay rent but eventually they do anyway to look after their parents

    • @jkwanyn
      @jkwanyn Pƙed 6 lety +28

      Nido I agree. I am quite shocked with Dave's solution of selling the house just to kick the child out.

    • @jet4415
      @jet4415 Pƙed 6 lety +76

      Americans do not take care of their parents like Asian children.

    • @rainermolla3075
      @rainermolla3075 Pƙed 6 lety +30

      truee! I'm from an asian household also - it's a cultural thing. For us, it's normal to live with our parents and take care of them when they grow old (parents would never ask for rent since we family) - same thing with my future kids, who'd take care of me when I grow old.

    • @joshuaalvarez8108
      @joshuaalvarez8108 Pƙed 6 lety +7

      Completely agree, definitely true with my family

    • @DrAmmr
      @DrAmmr Pƙed 6 lety +8

      "Thy Lord hath decreed that ye worship none but Him, and that ye be kind to parents. Whether one or more attain old age in thy life, say not to them a word of contempt, nor repel them, but address them in terms of honor. And out of kindness, lower to them the wing of humility, and say, "my Lord! bestow on them Thy Mercy, even as they cherished me in childhood." (Quran 17: 23-24)

  • @ThatsSoRaechel
    @ThatsSoRaechel Pƙed 6 lety +100

    I'm in Columbia and I would pay $520 a month and be an amazing tenant! 😂

    • @ShiaGirl18
      @ShiaGirl18 Pƙed 5 lety +4

      Appreciation is a thing that is seen differently by many. I believe our background/experience has a lot to do with it.

    • @morganboyd6057
      @morganboyd6057 Pƙed 5 lety +1

      Raechel B I second that sis!

    • @jamesflowers4508
      @jamesflowers4508 Pƙed 4 lety +3

      Amen to that i pay 650 haha in columbia! Woot woot haha

  • @simonwoodson8029
    @simonwoodson8029 Pƙed 5 lety +13

    When relatives ask you to move in or borrow money get any agreements in writing. Sometimes you're better off helping strangers than family.

  • @debbiep99
    @debbiep99 Pƙed 4 lety +10

    She clearly does not like the girlfriend and wants to blame her for the son not doing what he should.
    If he was taught better he would go out and get a better job. If he was taught better he would be sticking to the agreement he made with his mother.
    You raised an entitled twerp and then are trying to blame the girlfriend for that behaviour.

    • @Dreamer-by4nk
      @Dreamer-by4nk Pƙed 2 lety +1

      Don’t blame this on the parents. These type of people know what they are doing and they don’t care the type of person they are.

  • @anastasiascott1774
    @anastasiascott1774 Pƙed 7 lety +107

    Bwahaha! I wasn't expecting Dave to say to sell the house. It literally made me laugh all the way out loud!! Woooo! Thank you for what you do #Babystep2

    • @MsJoyce31202
      @MsJoyce31202 Pƙed 4 lety +4

      Yield not to temptation to let the son back in, nor to rent to other people you may want to bless with this kind of deal and THEY won't pay neither. She has to draw up legal documents now and doesn't want to. Imagine if this continues.

  • @plr7806
    @plr7806 Pƙed 5 lety +14

    Really liked Dave’s guidance on this. Saving the relationship is key

  • @brian15961
    @brian15961 Pƙed 5 lety +6

    A legal eviction in court is public record in my town.

  • @cjay233
    @cjay233 Pƙed 5 lety +6

    One mother tried to throw her grown son out of the house; he killed her.

  • @amydoran9987
    @amydoran9987 Pƙed 4 lety +9

    Let them deal with a real land lord and see what true life really is.

  • @dpeagles
    @dpeagles Pƙed 4 lety +15

    As a son and being 49 years old myself, I am astounded by this. My parents paid for little after I was 18. I would be ashamed. He probably likes to get high at work at the restaurant and knows electrical work will be...work.

    • @donnafontaine2799
      @donnafontaine2799 Pƙed 3 lety +1

      Exactly because being an electrician is real labor and work ... something he could get ahead with if he is motivated!!

  • @thomasnguyen6144
    @thomasnguyen6144 Pƙed 3 lety +3

    Marriage and financial stability first. Then, you can decide to have kids. That’s the mature and wise way to do it.

  • @McGregorGirl
    @McGregorGirl Pƙed 5 lety +8

    When I was pregnant with my firstborn, my dad gave me the best advice. Don't get so caught up in raising children, that you forget you are raising future adults. That child now puts himself through school working 3 jobs so he doesn't have student debt. My other son has CHOSEN to pay rent since he got his first job at 17, contributing to other expenses too. That son was a born capitalist LOL I was a single mom making little, so I could not give them allowances. So he would ask me to buy him a thing of cool press on tattoos at the Dollar Tree. He turned around at school and sold each tattoo individually. He took the money he made from those, put some aside, and used the rest to buy more to sell ( Mind you this was in 2nd grade ). That carried through high school when he'd buy day-old donuts and sell them one by one. Turned a $1.50 investment into $12.00 a day. I'm glad I listened to my dad! I think you would have gotten along great, Dave!

    • @williamwallace1385
      @williamwallace1385 Pƙed 5 lety +1

      McGregorGirl its illegal to charge rent at 17 and great story your sons will live as slaves because they didnt have a father. I hope my kids can suffer just as much one day smh

    • @williamwallace1385
      @williamwallace1385 Pƙed 5 lety +2

      McGregorGirl what even is working 3 jobs ? Literally what three jobs can you work at the same time

    • @McGregorGirl
      @McGregorGirl Pƙed 5 lety +1

      @@williamwallace1385 He works for a factory Monday thru Friday 8 hrs a day. He works at a convenience store 4 hours a day in the evening varying days. He delivers pizza on the weekends. He goes to school online.

    • @TheAlchemist1089
      @TheAlchemist1089 Pƙed 2 lety

      @@McGregorGirl what a legend
      Both your kids are legends
      So are you

  • @magicworld3242
    @magicworld3242 Pƙed 4 lety +3

    My sister and her boyfriend are doing the same thing to my Mother. Her son and his girlfriend are not going anywhere. It's a free ride.

  • @jenniferculpepper856
    @jenniferculpepper856 Pƙed 4 lety +4

    This is what my husband had to do with his adult children and they are 24 and 26.

  • @COINsimp2024
    @COINsimp2024 Pƙed 4 lety +10

    She straight up cackled when he mentioned the girlfriend. Lol.

  • @yellowbird5411
    @yellowbird5411 Pƙed 5 lety +16

    This can end up sticky. Maybe she doesn't want to sell the house. Maybe she would be much better off renting it for $1,100 while it increases in value over then next years. And if she doesn't sell it, then she is a liar and a manipulator. If she does sell it, if that's only because Dave told her to, she may regret it for a very long time, because that was not her plan, it was Dave's, and she will feel that she was forced to do something because her son put her in that situation. It's a lose-lose. I say give them one month to pay the rent, or start eviction procedings the way you would with any tenant if they refuse to leave on their own. Being a landlord is a business, it is not a charity.

    • @williamwallace1385
      @williamwallace1385 Pƙed 5 lety +1

      Lynn Proctor cool but being a mother isnt a business so its up to her to pick be a good mother or a good business man or woman...

    • @sklanguage589
      @sklanguage589 Pƙed 4 lety +3

      @@williamwallace1385 She doesn't have to pay his rent forever to be a good mom.

    • @sklanguage589
      @sklanguage589 Pƙed 4 lety +1

      She might as well show it to potential renters in one mo th and if her son isn't out in two months, evict him.

    • @shoazdon7000
      @shoazdon7000 Pƙed 7 měsĂ­ci

      Selling the house is a bluff, as soon as they move out she can rent the property and he can become a man. But, it will probably end his relationship. Once his girl loses some of the financial freedom she has she’ll start to blame him and then boom relationship is done.

  • @michael567jober
    @michael567jober Pƙed 4 lety +2

    over $700 making $9 per hour? that's way too much. I understand but you gotta have an understanding of your son struggle. be has a kid and a woman to also take care of. he should pay something definitely but not over 700

  • @awesomeone465
    @awesomeone465 Pƙed 5 lety +6

    That's a ploy that landlords do to get nonpaying renters out. Sometimes they really do sale property. Cause no way stay there with new owner.

  • @MrWhite-pn7ui
    @MrWhite-pn7ui Pƙed 6 lety +18

    EVERYBODY SAY "FREE RENT!"

  • @WreckINCrewAce
    @WreckINCrewAce Pƙed 3 lety +6

    How Dave just automatically gonna blame the gf??? Maybe the son is just trash

  • @anubisgod23
    @anubisgod23 Pƙed 5 lety +4

    The son isn't living WITH her mum then yes, kick him out. If he was under the same roof, its a bit harder but if you own the property and he is living at this place then he is just like any other tenant

  • @elsayalexa
    @elsayalexa Pƙed 2 lety +2

    OMG!!!! I am so happy to come across to this channel! My daughter is 23 years old she has a 2 year old baby boy. She treats me really bad. I want to get her out of my house. But I feel guilty.

  • @Swedetwin
    @Swedetwin Pƙed 3 lety +5

    DR throws the girlfriend under the bus as being the bad influence. The caller laughs devilishly. He has absolutely no first hand knowledge of the actual dynamics.

  • @amandacoles5932
    @amandacoles5932 Pƙed 3 lety +4

    My nephew making $40k at minimum wouldn't pay his mother $400 per month rent. Meanwhile, he traveled all over and had lavish meals out

  • @softwater88
    @softwater88 Pƙed 8 lety +75

    A lot of people know how to handle their kids but don't want to.
    I like how she tried to hold up the grandkid card to get pity.
    So many enablers these days because they "love my grandchildren."
    Oh, puhleeze!!
    Tina Turner said it best when she said: What's love got to do with it?

    • @bryanjacobs1423
      @bryanjacobs1423 Pƙed 5 lety +3

      Exactly. They know what they need to do but they want someone to validate their emotions instead.

    • @williamwallace1385
      @williamwallace1385 Pƙed 5 lety

      softwater88 i dont think i have ever seen a more boomer comment.can any of the 30 people that liked this explain what this means?

    • @williamwallace1385
      @williamwallace1385 Pƙed 5 lety

      Bryan Jacobs exactly she needs to put her grandchild on the street to show how much she cares amiright?

    • @MsBrendalina
      @MsBrendalina Pƙed 5 lety +2

      That's pretty heartless.
      I don't think she's weak for being scared that her tough love will impact an innocent baby who isn't responsible for his parents being leeches. I think the blame should lie with the parents using their kid as a human shield to take advantage of Grandma

    • @blk88
      @blk88 Pƙed 5 lety

      Amen, thts some Facts, for ya... Whts Love got to do with it....

  • @mr.clapyourcheeks8496
    @mr.clapyourcheeks8496 Pƙed 4 lety +6

    If that was my family I’ll be out on the street already 😂.

    • @mr.clapyourcheeks8496
      @mr.clapyourcheeks8496 Pƙed 3 lety

      @port nut I guess it depends on the parents too, how much of life they thought their child. I’m glad since young I wasn’t blind and I saw the struggles.

  • @leticiaurbach1720
    @leticiaurbach1720 Pƙed 3 lety +3

    How sad that she has to sell the house , why not just ask him to move out?

  • @offgridjack5779
    @offgridjack5779 Pƙed 6 lety +17

    I wonder what he would say about that 30 year-old Michael Rotondo that had to be evicted by his parents?

  • @ChasingMidnight001
    @ChasingMidnight001 Pƙed 4 lety +4

    Learning heaps from this channel...more than just $

  • @markbrown5117
    @markbrown5117 Pƙed 6 lety +4

    wow Dave u give great advice. Excellent conversation. I would have never said this.

  • @july713x3
    @july713x3 Pƙed 5 lety +6

    Plz. They aint going nowhere. they wont let realtors in. It will still be an eviction if she has the guts.

  • @sunnysunshine6271
    @sunnysunshine6271 Pƙed 8 lety +60

    What a sad world, when folks can't handle conflicts anymore without the help of the internet. How did we exist the last 2000 yrs?????

    • @luckybumtoro
      @luckybumtoro Pƙed 8 lety +2

      Is the answer, 'with a lot of therapy"?

    • @sunnysunshine6271
      @sunnysunshine6271 Pƙed 8 lety

      Or that lol

    • @luckybumtoro
      @luckybumtoro Pƙed 8 lety

      Glad i could help... LOL!

    • @triad6425
      @triad6425 Pƙed 8 lety +17

      You know we used 1) not live that long 2)had little choice 3)we murdered each other WAY more back then 4)they settled conflict with the town elder or equivalent. Dave Ramsey is our Town Elder now.

    • @sunnysunshine6271
      @sunnysunshine6271 Pƙed 8 lety +1

      Lmbo....my bad...I had no idea Dave was our Town Elder...hahahaha....Dave, did you hear????

  • @harrychu650
    @harrychu650 Pƙed 5 lety +2

    Where is the father? Why would someone want to legally evict their son and grandchild.

    • @sklanguage589
      @sklanguage589 Pƙed 4 lety

      Because they don't want to pay his rent and utility bills for the rest of their lives.

  • @theklrdudeoo9173
    @theklrdudeoo9173 Pƙed 5 lety +7

    i can hear jimmy when his mother gets old , he will say , " ok. mom you looked after me all my life and now that you're old and decrepit , you only have to take care of yourself "!

  • @christinaheuer7169
    @christinaheuer7169 Pƙed 5 lety +20

    There’s a generation of 20 somethings just like this. Mommy and daddy creating their own little monster.

  • @gn6300
    @gn6300 Pƙed 6 lety +4

    Great advice! Ingenious! Tactful! Probably the only way to save their relationship.

  • @marknc9616
    @marknc9616 Pƙed 6 lety +9

    After he leaves he will go to rent another home where they will request his rental history. Then the new prospective landlord will call his Mom. Interesting.

    • @MsPants1632
      @MsPants1632 Pƙed 5 lety +4

      Mark NC and if she wants him gone she’ll give him a glowing review😉

  • @privateprivate8366
    @privateprivate8366 Pƙed 5 lety +2

    It reminds me a little of a situation I know - only it may be worse.
    My mother is so narcissistic that she’s gifting my sister a home a few doors away from her, that my sister can’t likely afford - although it’s mortgage free. My sister is used to working 4 jobs to hold onto a 1 bedroom apartment. My sister has also barely been present for decades, while I’ve been putting in all the work. But, as my mother doesn’t like an independent 50+ year old, she’s decided to scapegoat me and will not likely leave me the house she currently lives in. So, my sister doesn’t realize that she’s being used as a bat to bear me over the head with.
    I’m staying away from the whole thing. My mother and sister will likely kill each other at some point. But, for now, they’re huddled together, feeling that I’m all they’ve got and that I need to take abuse from them. That, although I’m the one with most of the information about the family business, I need to give it up - and still expect abuse.😆
    At least this woman owns the home her son lives in and can sell it. My MotherShit to sign over the deed and I bet my sister is ready to run to the bank (my mother), every time she can’t pay property taxes, electricity, heat or for other repairs. Then, when the SHTF - they probably think they’re going to come to me, stuck living in my 1 bedroom and actually ask for help!😆 Then, they may think I’m going to help provide care for my mother - on the off chance I haven’t been future faked into thinking I’ll inherit anything - after my mother gives her the other house OR she completely loses her narcissistic mind and my sister signs that deed over to herself, too!
    Tweedle Dumb and Tweedle Dee with a “plan”. They don’t know, they’ve both alleviated me from ever lifting a finger! I’d much rather never see that wicked pair ever again!
    😂😂😂

  • @CrazySC833
    @CrazySC833 Pƙed 4 lety +4

    LOL what is with these parents asking Dave parenting advice? This is WHY he is the way he is.

  • @shanecoles2115
    @shanecoles2115 Pƙed 3 lety +3

    This is actually really good advice. Dave is so smart.

  • @geraldinepebdani4972
    @geraldinepebdani4972 Pƙed 4 lety +6

    I am in the same spot with my 24 year old son. I gave him a boundary of a move out date and if he doesn’t move by that date then I am evicting Him. So I would rec do the same.

    • @sl4983
      @sl4983 Pƙed 2 lety

      What happened?

  • @lizwick
    @lizwick Pƙed 5 lety +1

    I have no problems doing that. I kicked out my son who was 19 years old at the time for selling drugs in my home. Cops rated my house. He has been gone since.

  • @icelineman
    @icelineman Pƙed 6 lety +5

    He is getting a deal he should be happy to be helping his mom.

  • @NewportSelect
    @NewportSelect Pƙed 3 lety +2

    I’m 24, single with no kids and still live with my dad and I pay about $230 a month for my part of rent/cable and I also pay my part for utilities, so all together I pay like $300 a month, but the bills are also split 4 different ways (since there’s 4 people living here)

  • @keithjohnson7594
    @keithjohnson7594 Pƙed 5 lety +4

    “ you don’t want to drive a unhealthy wedge between you and your son” so tell him I’m gonna sure you if you don’t move out. đŸ˜‚đŸ€ŠđŸŸâ€â™‚ïž

  • @wanmanda
    @wanmanda Pƙed 3 lety +1

    My sister and her husband barely pay my mother. And when I talk about I’m the bad guy đŸ€·đŸŸâ€â™‚ïž

  • @calebniederhofer678
    @calebniederhofer678 Pƙed 5 lety +20

    Dave is 100% correct on this one

    • @Eaglejake
      @Eaglejake Pƙed 4 lety +2

      Um, you mean like sell the income producing rental property, because the son doesn't want to pay Mommy the monthly rent? Dave is "supposed" to be giving financial advice. I would never say "Well, the easy way out is to sell the rental property, and give him free rent until it is sold/on the market". SMH.

    • @rayj.9568
      @rayj.9568 Pƙed 4 lety

      @@Eaglejake I agree. Put the bum on the street even if you got to call the sheriff to assist.

  • @chevy6299
    @chevy6299 Pƙed 8 lety +2

    Love the way you handled that Dave. Was thinking the same but got a shock when a few seconds later you said what I was thinking.

  • @melreadjoy17
    @melreadjoy17 Pƙed rokem +1

    My brother told his girls that they needed to pay rent if they lived with him. He understood that his girls needed to see that money leave their account like it would be if they lived somewhere else. One out of four girls got the blessing. The one who stayed and respected the rules received most of that money back. My brother was saving it for my niece. He thought that she might blow through the money. So she was already accustomed to paying rent before moving to her first place. She had money for moving expenses and more from dad because she listened.

  • @nhgriff1
    @nhgriff1 Pƙed 5 lety +4

    I would pay a deposit and first month's rent on an apartment for them (rented in his name), and then they would be on their own. I will make sure my grandkids are fed but I'm NOT paying my kids' bills.

  • @brendahere
    @brendahere Pƙed 4 lety +2

    Better yet. Tell him you can't afford the property and your putting it on the market. When the house sells your will give him $1000 for a deposit and once he is out another $3000.
    I use the word "afford" not in the money sense, but it the worry and stress of your relationship with him. From that point on you can not longer "afford"" cash gives except for planned events like birthdays and Christmas that have a set amount in your budget.

  • @Solidsnake999
    @Solidsnake999 Pƙed 5 lety +4

    What kind of parents that takes rent from their own son

    • @tyronemartin8680
      @tyronemartin8680 Pƙed 5 lety

      solid snake I’m 18 and gotta pay my mom 200 a month for rent plus I just recently graduated from h.s this some B.S

    • @imawesome5841
      @imawesome5841 Pƙed 4 lety +2

      It's called growing up and establishing good habits and financial responsibility. Nothing is free in life.

    • @Eaglejake
      @Eaglejake Pƙed 4 lety +4

      The kind of parents that produce responsible, accountable, and independent children. Next question......

  • @bettysmith7045
    @bettysmith7045 Pƙed 4 lety +1

    D.R. you need to have a follow up show, that would be awesome!! Get a hold of your old callers, and find out what the outcome was to these more prominent calls.

  • @mikelomeli1316
    @mikelomeli1316 Pƙed 6 lety +9

    I would like to know the outcome to this

  • @ryangilly5096
    @ryangilly5096 Pƙed 4 lety +1

    She was stupid to rent to her son if she wasn't prepared for the potential fallout. That's like co-signing on a lease and then being shocked when you're also on the hook to pay. We're also not hearing the whole story here. We don't know the kid's household income (including the girlfriend). The mother presents the situation like either he can afford the rent and just isn't paying, or he can snap his fingers and start earning enough to afford the rent. The core issue is the kid's income, and kicking him to the curb does nothing to solve that problem. Dave's solution here is...wacky. I agree with the spirit that she needs a plan to get him out on his own (perhaps she should have done this in the ~20 years before taking him in as a tenant?), but selling a potentially money-making asset to do it is simply brain dead. Unless he's saying that it's all a lie? Lie to the kid to get them to move? It's unclear. I'd prefer she come at this from a position of empathy as opposed to vengeance, acknowledging that she got herself into this mess, and any pain she inflicts on her son will also be inflicted on her grandson.

  • @stellarocquie7957
    @stellarocquie7957 Pƙed 3 lety +1

    I agreed with the brilliant plan to sell the house, but with the threat and ultimatum - not so much. Why not sell it and let the chips fall where they may, that is, if the new owner or the bank evicts him, the Mom is out of the loop.

  • @Kangaroojumper
    @Kangaroojumper Pƙed 3 lety +1

    I want the follow up to this video

  • @MrEherndon5
    @MrEherndon5 Pƙed 8 lety +25

    This is really good advice though Dave.

  • @writerconsidered
    @writerconsidered Pƙed 4 lety +1

    Only issue is she never said she wanted to sell the house, she agreed to on air but it was never brought up by her. If it worked for her fine but what if she wanted to keep the house?

    • @Marylina-
      @Marylina- Pƙed rokem

      Exactly đŸ€ŠđŸ»â€â™€ïž

  • @person-ey2ct
    @person-ey2ct Pƙed 5 lety +7

    I wud rather have my son off the street and help him than a few dollars. ....you already pay for the house. give him time and encourage him to do better in a Godly way....don't loose your son

    • @Eaglejake
      @Eaglejake Pƙed 4 lety +3

      Um, you don't understand "enabling" then. Remove the $$$, and he stays for free at Mommy's rental. He already is qualified and trained to earn double the income, but Mommy is paying his rent and utilities. HE HAS NO INCENTIVE. When there is no incentive, then people do the minimum, or nothing at all. He could possibly not work at all, and live on Mommy paying his rent and utilities. What happens if/when Mommy gets sick or dies????.....at 37 years old and now he has to pay his own bills?? This is probably the same boy whose Mommy bought him a car when he turned 16, and said "Here is your new car, I'll pay the insurance, repairs, and all the gas........just get passing grades in High School." SMH.

    • @cristianmunoz2480
      @cristianmunoz2480 Pƙed 4 lety

      That's the reason why hes the way he is. He was probably babied his whole life and hasnt gotten the taste of dealing with a real landlord that wants their money on the 1st.

  • @patrimill7
    @patrimill7 Pƙed 8 lety +57

    they may end up living with her unfortunately!

  • @Apollyon-sz9sn
    @Apollyon-sz9sn Pƙed 4 lety +13

    If the tenant was her daughter, old double standard Dave would have asked "is the boyfriend working"

    • @shonshamuratov7308
      @shonshamuratov7308 Pƙed 3 lety +4

      of course, bf has to work. After giving birth woman needs to take care of the kid and recover from labor and trauma. After kid starts going to school then woman can work part time if she wants.

    • @dknowles60
      @dknowles60 Pƙed 3 lety +1

      @@shonshamuratov7308 yes that is the way it should be

    • @ugladden
      @ugladden Pƙed 3 lety

      @@shonshamuratov7308 women give birth and go RIGHT back to work all the time. So what are you talking about?? My own mom went back to work only 4 weeks after giving birth to me. Again, double standards. Quit screaming equality.

  • @thomasnguyen6144
    @thomasnguyen6144 Pƙed 3 lety +1

    I let my sister move into my condo. It was a big mistake. I didn’t make her help with rent for a year. In a sense, I enabled her. When I finally asked her to help me with rent, she said no. So, I asked her to pack up and move out. She also wouldn’t respect my rules.

  • @MoneyMan28
    @MoneyMan28 Pƙed 2 lety +3

    Don't date and don't have a kid when you're making $9 an hour

  • @PC4USE1
    @PC4USE1 Pƙed 5 lety +6

    I would also remind him that if you evict him,it will stay on his financial record and he will have a hard time for a long time afterward.

  • @gorgly123
    @gorgly123 Pƙed 4 lety +2

    They won't qualify to rent another place with a $9/hr job.

  • @khoado123
    @khoado123 Pƙed 5 lety +3

    you can tell it's a mom being mad at her son by the way she said "Hi Dave, thanks for taking my call". That means for "my son is pissing me off and i need to know way to whoop him into shape"

  • @anilu3021
    @anilu3021 Pƙed 5 lety +3

    There may be reasons he can’t get things together. Unfortunately, he needs to be pressured to face the problem.

  • @prophetsharise5572
    @prophetsharise5572 Pƙed 5 lety +1

    trying to evict 2 family members....i pay my light and gas bill then they call and get extensions making the bills double with late fees and revolving door of shutoff notices every month So now i wait to pay my portion so they pay what they owe first i cant afford a lawyer to evict them i hate it i want them out NOW

  • @isolverubiks
    @isolverubiks Pƙed 8 lety +13

    That was some excellent advice.

  • @jacobromero7844
    @jacobromero7844 Pƙed 4 lety +1

    He makes about $700 before tax every two weeks and has a child. She wants him to put up the $520. Okay, so he now has about $400 a month on top of whatever the girlfriend makes to get by with a child for an entire month. The Mom has every right to kick him out, but she couldn’t afford the house before? It sounds like she’s not saying everything. Charge your kid rent, that’s your right, but at 22 with a kid, I don’t think he really has a lot of options right now. He obviously is at fault for that, but she seems so ready to cut her son out of her life. If she evicts him they may never talk to each other again.

  • @Jaisee14
    @Jaisee14 Pƙed 5 lety +20

    No girl would be living in a house owned by me with my son and not being married. That would never be allowed. The 22 year old needs to get a better paying job so that he can support his child. That is his RESPONSIBILITY . Also, the child's mother needs to also get a job PERIOD! Even IF they started paying their rent, garbage, water, waste water, electricity/gas I would still sell the house and put that money towards my retirement. He is taking advantage because his landlord happens to be his mother. He needs a good @$$ whipping.

    • @jacobg8640
      @jacobg8640 Pƙed 5 lety +1

      The child is what makes this situation messy. As much as I agree that boy needs a whooping and needs to take responsibility for his child, I don't want that innocent boy suffering if he doesn't. I wish there was some way to threaten him with taking custody of her grandson if he doesn't get into shape. THAT should wake him up and if it doesn't, that kid doesn't belong with him.

    • @williamwallace1385
      @williamwallace1385 Pƙed 5 lety +1

      Jacob Greenstone youre talking about taking a kid away from a father who is employed because he doesnt make enough money.this is why young people want socialism they take one look at people like you and say i want to be furthest from that as possible

    • @nicholasalonzo3499
      @nicholasalonzo3499 Pƙed 5 lety

      @@williamwallace1385 he could make $20 an hour but chooses a job that pays $9. And people say that poor people don't choose to be poor.😒😒

    • @williamwallace1385
      @williamwallace1385 Pƙed 5 lety

      Nicholas Alonzo i dont believe that you even believe that

    • @williamwallace1385
      @williamwallace1385 Pƙed 5 lety +1

      Nicholas Alonzo i promise he doesnt just “choose” to make less money to even make such a statement is just ultimate cringe

  • @grannysweet
    @grannysweet Pƙed 4 lety +4

    Sell the house? He'll wheedle the sale money out of her.

  • @harichandana.chetty817
    @harichandana.chetty817 Pƙed 6 lety +3

    Best advice you’ve ever given...

  • @jamesqwerty131
    @jamesqwerty131 Pƙed 8 lety +49

    Good advice

    • @mr.w8802
      @mr.w8802 Pƙed 8 lety +6

      Love the way he handled it it just leave them with no way to complain about how its now "unfair"

    • @williamwallace1385
      @williamwallace1385 Pƙed 5 lety

      Mr. W im confused