The Effect Fat Acceptance Is Having On Kids

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  • @ThinkBeforeYouSleepYT
    @ThinkBeforeYouSleepYT  Před rokem +2995

    On the Cosmopolitan article with Callie Thorpe. They always seem to pick the worst kinds of grifters for these types of things instead of genuinely picking good people who have had unfortunate things happen to them. Jessamyn Stanley too. She's like a full blown racist. Anyway, if you go on Callie's channel, she has a video called "Dealing With Online Abuse." Comments disabled of course. In this video she says that body positivity was originally about being fat; which is something we all knew. It was never about people with disabilities. Then she goes on to talk about all of the hate comments she gets and makes the horrendous mistake of actually showing the comments. Jeez. If you are going to grift, take a few lessons from Anita Sarkeesian and don't prove the hatred. Just say it happens with no evidence.
    Most of the comments are just saying, "It's not healthy to be fat" and "Stop promoting obesity." That doesn't sound like hate. It sounds like criticism. I don't think she was even able to come up with a KYS comment. Like these were the tamest "hate comments" I have ever seen. Then, because people saying, "Stop promoting obesitity" has deeply harmed her psychology, she calls for completely authoritarian censorship. Stating that social media companies should not allow this kind of speech... You mean people should not be allowed to disagree with your viewpoint? Of course she then goes the sexist route and makes it about "the abuse WOMEN are experiencing" instead of the more realistic route which is that EVERYONE who enters the public space will get criticism and mean comments. Ironically she says "I will not be silenced" at the end of the video after spending 20 minutes talking about silencing people who disagree with her.
    Well, these are the heroes that mainstream media wants you to look up to.
    I'll wait to enjoy all of the misspellings of Talulah and Pavia in the comments.

    • @Saberdud
      @Saberdud Před rokem +1

      god I hate single moms

    • @nonegativo4168
      @nonegativo4168 Před rokem +171

      Woke = risk of heart failure

    • @troy612
      @troy612 Před rokem +1

      Funny how body positivity only seems to apply to fat and obese women.

    • @one7decimal2eight
      @one7decimal2eight Před rokem +91

      Mind bottling how when I was growing up in the early 80s up to the late 90s that hardly anyone was overweight and now it's the majority.
      Those skin tight leggings were awesome to look at when they first came out but now I realize they just hide their fat, along with the high waist pants women wear now. Not only are they butt ugly but they are like this to cover their fat stomachs.

    • @cactusman8980
      @cactusman8980 Před rokem +117

      I'm fat and I find NONE OF THIS OFFENSIVE. I do get annoyed when people talk shit about my weight. I do want to lose weight but its difficult for me not because of genetics, I'm incredibly unmotivated which is largely because I have severe depression. However I am doing better while I'm getting my GST training (GST: General Service Technician, car repair stuff) and I am working on being unmotivated.

  • @laur131306
    @laur131306 Před rokem +24246

    If I take my son into his doctor and he's way underweight, serious questions will be asked, tests will be insisted on, and I'll be accused of neglecting/abusing my son by not feeding him. I've never understood how an overweight child isnt treated with the same seriousness. Both are neglectful and abusive situations that are detrimental to the child's health.

    • @johndough8115
      @johndough8115 Před rokem +993

      I agree.
      FYI: I used to be very under-weight, as a child. The reason would not be clear, until I was an adult. I was partially allergic to wheat. This would cause me to absorb less nutrients. That of course, made me feel like I was constantly Staving. No matter what I ate, nor how much I ate... I could never gain weight... and eating more (if the food had gluten in it) ...just made me more hungry.
      This allergic response was made 1000x worse, when something caused me to get a condition I now realize is "Leaky Gut". Where Unprocessed foods and proteins are getting directly into the bloodstream and body. This caused an Auto-Immune response, and my body started attacking itself. The kinds of pains and other issues it caused, were unbearable. It eventually led to three major surgeries, in less than a 15yr period.
      I strongly suspect that the allergy to wheat is based on a reaction to childhood vaXX1nati0nz. I also strongly suspect, that Leaky Gut, is a result of GMO ingredients, that were put into Candy. That, and potentially the SAND (silicon dioxide), that is put into many Spice jars... to make things flow freely.
      Furthermore... I believe Most of the Obesity in the west, is due to Hydrogenated fats and oils. This type of fat/oil seems to stick to your internals like GLUE... and is 1000x harder to get rid of through exercise and diet.
      Before the 60s... people in the west had little issues with Obesity. Used to use plenty of natural butter.. and cooked + fried with Animal based Fat (Lard). Heck, the Ancient Chinese used to Wok Fry a good portion of their foods.

    • @david-468
      @david-468 Před rokem +557

      @@johndough8115 very interesting, yeah I do find it weird how we’ve used butter and salt for thousands of years in cooking but just recently doctors have exclaimed it to be the cause of modern obesity, it may have something to do with how those ingredients are now produced

    • @johndough8115
      @johndough8115 Před rokem +280

      @@david-468 Most people are not using real butter. They are using Margarine. Which is probably made with hydrogenated oils/fats.
      That said... Everything in Moderation. The body is good at dealing with things, at certain scales. If you go way over-board... the body loses its ability to regulate the excess, effectively.
      Also, I believe certain things help to clean the body. I drank red wine with a steak at this fancy dinner party... and when I went pee... I noted that some of my pee came out cloudy (in spurty sections), as if some of the fats were passing right out. It was strange, but interesting.
      Certain spices might also be helpful in keeping the body clean and effective.
      Also... remember what I said about Hydrogenated fats... sticking to your internals like Glue? Well... lets say that you have some stuck to the wall of an Artery... and then you eat more hydrogenated fats... and those new fats end up sticking to the EXISTING fat deposits...
      Well, even if you stopped eating hydrogenated fats... that existing fat in your body... will might be attracting other natural fats, such as butter.. to stick much better to it.
      This is all a theory, of course. I personally do not eat that much butter. But Ive cut out all hydrogenated fats / oils out of my diet, for decades. Ive never been obese, and I still have healthy blood pressure levels. (Im also a martial artist, that used to practice hardcore Kung Fu regularly)

    • @david-468
      @david-468 Před rokem +66

      @@johndough8115 I mean your theory is pretty close to how cholesterol is calculated specifically hdl, I’m sure you’re more “right” then what will ever be revealed to us

    • @johndough8115
      @johndough8115 Před rokem +2

      @@david-468 Thx. I forgot to mention, that I LOVE salt.. and I season all of my food with a lot of salt. Ive been known to dump some garlic salt into my hands every now and then, and eat it just like that.
      Ive always found it strange that people keep saying that salt increased blood pressure... when Ive had standard, to low blood pressure levels... and Im just about to turn 49 yrs old.
      The Western Health system, and the "Food Pyramid", is a totally corrupted system. It seems most designed to make the Lemmings as unhealthy as possible, and in the shortest amount of time.. without it being too "Alarming".

  • @CoolPapaJMagik
    @CoolPapaJMagik Před rokem +7017

    “Do whatever you want and feel no shame about it” will never build a great society. Moral standards matter

    • @localretard3779
      @localretard3779 Před rokem +105

      Facts

    • @jackgill6519
      @jackgill6519 Před rokem +254

      The way it’s going, these types of irresponsible people will all be dead by their 30s, leaving the rest of us to fill the space they leave

    • @ryanunknown4181
      @ryanunknown4181 Před rokem +160

      This is the slogan of a society on life support

    • @dessertlimbo
      @dessertlimbo Před rokem +76

      @@jackgill6519 that will be a lot of shit to clean and dispose

    • @GlitchPoachers
      @GlitchPoachers Před rokem +132

      "I think everyone wants an easy life" flabbergasted me. The best moments of my life weren't easy at all. To be remarkable, you actually have to do something remarkable. Although I suppose achieving these levels of laziness and ignorance is a bit remarkable in itself...

  • @TheHappyHousewife89
    @TheHappyHousewife89 Před rokem +1444

    Imagine if parents weren't afraid to tell their children "no" every once in a while.

    • @gemstar7286
      @gemstar7286 Před 11 měsíci +40

      Exactly and when they get older ,it will just get worse .

    • @JarethTheGoblinKingForever
      @JarethTheGoblinKingForever Před 8 měsíci +34

      If their parents don't tell them "no" today, it will be a cop or a judge or an employer or a landlord telling them "no" tomorrow. The real world won't engage in the whims and fancies of these kids, nor should it be obligated to.

    • @consideredthoughts1791
      @consideredthoughts1791 Před 8 měsíci +16

      It's just lazy parenting, nothing more.
      And this problem is spreading like wildfire in the West.

    • @te6607
      @te6607 Před 8 měsíci +2

      ​@@consideredthoughts1791it's treating your kids like slaves¡!!!!!!!!!!!

    • @raidenfan7712
      @raidenfan7712 Před 8 měsíci +11

      I heard "no" a lot in my childhood, i didnt understand it then, but now i am greatfull that they did

  • @pizzaboynizza1
    @pizzaboynizza1 Před 11 měsíci +297

    My parents would always do shit like this.
    I was heavyset so the doctor told them to stop buying snacks but my parents refused because “they weren’t on a diet.”
    They’d tell me to exercise while sitting around, unemployed, watching TV all day. I’d ride my bike 4 miles a day yet I still wasn’t exercising enough for my dad’s standards despite him having Type 2 Diabetes and heart disease at only 48 years old.
    The modern obsession with consumption astounds me.

    • @boosqueezy2418
      @boosqueezy2418 Před 5 měsíci +6

      they’re out of control

    • @cashewnutfan
      @cashewnutfan Před 2 měsíci +5

      Same! I went though something at age 5/6 and grew very quickly after age 7 and up, i was a very very big kid and obese teen, my entire life my mum picked on me for my weight but would never change the food in the house. Iñst age 8-12 had to beg her to stop buying crap like cakes etc and she’d say no they’re not yours to eat. So I’d say well can’t you hide them from me? And she would say they same thing.
      I take responsibility for my own weight as an adult, and as a teen too, but parents hold the responsibility ultimately..

  • @MetroidMan90
    @MetroidMan90 Před rokem +1020

    She caused her daughter a month of tooth pain by missing that appointment, what an absolute monster.

    • @zxyatiywariii8
      @zxyatiywariii8 Před rokem +27

      Exactly! 😲🤬😢

    • @ThanhTriet600
      @ThanhTriet600 Před rokem +122

      And this is how she acts ON CAMERA.

    • @Naadeneo
      @Naadeneo Před rokem +38

      Where's CPS for that?

    • @reptilemama939
      @reptilemama939 Před rokem +80

      @@Naadeneo I’m a dentist…I would have absolutely reported it to CPS

    • @SSTVdd
      @SSTVdd Před rokem

      Fat monster*

  • @Fanny-ge6ge
    @Fanny-ge6ge Před rokem +3214

    Seriously, how hard can this be? My mom told me when I was around one year old, she tried giving me fruit juice, but when she realized I would cry to have a drink but refused the water because I would only want to drink juice, she simply stopped giving it to me, saying "if you're really thirsty, you'll drink the water". End of story.

    • @cristiplopeanu
      @cristiplopeanu Před rokem +249

      It's REALLY hard for most people, you're not realizing how lucky you are to know all these valuable life lessons.

    • @hanscapon222
      @hanscapon222 Před rokem +433

      I sometimes babysit for a family friends 6 year old son. He’s one of those kids who has meltdowns if he has anything but chicken nuggets for dinner. Fuck that. I buy groceries as I go to their house and cook him a good meal with real meat and lots of vegetables. He has a meltdown, and I simply tell him he doesn’t have to eat it, but I’m not making him anything else. This lasts about 10 minutes before he gives up and just eats the damn vegetables. And you know what? He likes them. But I only babysit once every few weeks or months, so by the time I come back he’s decided he hates vegetables again. Sigh.

    • @nuvember
      @nuvember Před rokem +150

      @@hanscapon222 you could try getting the kid somewhat involved with the cooking process. Like showing them the ingredients, while cooking show them certain seasonings and asking them if they think you should put it in (also telling them what they taste like so they can learn something) etc… the food would feel less foreign to them and they might feel more eager to try it? Idk if it will help, just throwing an idea out here

    • @friendshipismagic7896
      @friendshipismagic7896 Před rokem +88

      My mom prevented me from drinking coke since I was a toddler and it affected me so much that I can't even enjoy it at parties or restaurants with my friends... Well on the other hand I was able to maintain good health so habits can also define a child's personal preferences I think.

    • @oliviaahn66
      @oliviaahn66 Před rokem +95

      @@friendshipismagic7896 yeah good parenting tbh. Toddlers shouldn’t have soda, there’s too much caffeine and sugar

  • @user-yf3mw5ge1m
    @user-yf3mw5ge1m Před 10 měsíci +809

    The sad thing is, it takes a lot for a child to get this overweight. Kids normally have so much energy that they naturally burn a lot of calories. This is 100% on the parents

    • @Chad2353
      @Chad2353 Před 7 měsíci +9

      That is not always true not all kids have good sleeping habits. But I know many kids who have injuries which doesn’t allow them to train properly workout.

    • @Sandstheskeleton
      @Sandstheskeleton Před 7 měsíci +44

      ⁠​⁠@@Chad2353you are correct, but assuming the kids in this video are normal children except for the weight problems, then they still have a point.

    • @naomimoran5564
      @naomimoran5564 Před 7 měsíci +5

      ​@@Sandstheskeletonfrom memory this kid had a genetic condition which impacted appetite qnd metabolism

    • @countrysunshinegal3038
      @countrysunshinegal3038 Před 5 měsíci +7

      I thought this same thing, but then I even told my husband, they might have energy, but they probably get tired way sooner than an average weight child, so they more than likely tap out early and grab a soda instead of water 🫤

    • @Whiskerman
      @Whiskerman Před 5 měsíci +2

      Agree 100%. Kids usually are naturally picky and not a big sit down and eat type of people.

  • @caitiehancock9626
    @caitiehancock9626 Před 9 měsíci +405

    My dad worked in a childrens hospital and one time there was an obese child that was there for diabetes and he was acting out and the mom said if you are good well get mcdonalds after and the doctor called her out and said thats child abuse at this point. Her kid was sick because of the food they were eating

    • @angiev1840
      @angiev1840 Před 6 měsíci +48

      Once you have started a habit of rewarding with food, it's going to be very difficult to break. A parent is going to have to be willing to do the hard thing and endure the screaming and tantrums for the health of the child and come up with another reward system. It can be done.

    • @spehhhsssmarineer8961
      @spehhhsssmarineer8961 Před 6 měsíci +17

      What happened to rewarding kids with a doll or something?

    • @Psilomuscimol
      @Psilomuscimol Před 5 měsíci

      Grandparents gave me a pepsi or coke and sent me outside to dig or smash stuff. I drank tons of soda and whetever other goodies. Grandma constantly gave me her snacks and candy, but since i was out digging and stuff i never gained weight. Untill I got on antipsychotics ​@spehhhsssmarineer8961

    • @_nicole_6965
      @_nicole_6965 Před 5 měsíci

      @@spehhhsssmarineer8961and stickers?!

    • @Kenny-yl9pc
      @Kenny-yl9pc Před 5 měsíci

      What happened with rewarding kids by not slapping them? @@spehhhsssmarineer8961

  • @palaceofwisdom9448
    @palaceofwisdom9448 Před rokem +3249

    "Fat children rarely have skinny parents."
    The importance of good habits and example cannot be overstated. I was raised by fat parents and weighed 210 lbs. by age 15. Only sheer will and my mom's otherwise unused exercise bike allowed me to turn it around. Once I was a healthy size for the first time since around age 8, I felt so much better that I would never go back.

    • @dryfox11
      @dryfox11 Před rokem +85

      Maybe the reason they don’t want to work out is because they use all their energy eating all that shit lmao

    • @GingerSpiritSmurf
      @GingerSpiritSmurf Před rokem +86

      Same, I was over 200 after around 13 years old, and then 245-250 at 18. I didn’t do anything at 19 but blame EVERYONE but myself. I have a lot of childhood trauma, and used food to cope. Did I go to therapy? No. Did I seek mental support? No. I went running. And kept running and lifting (I posted a tiktok before and after on my channel). At 20-22 I maintained 170/180lbs (I’m overweight now, not obese anymore, but active, and I’m finally happy) And now, I’m 25 weeks pregnant and still only in the 190s. I plan to teach my kids the importance of health, fitness, and food choices. Using the fuel of my trauma, I used it ALL to make me a disciplined person

    • @Ocyla
      @Ocyla Před rokem +55

      Yep. My house had no juice, cookies, candy, chocolates, etc, AT ALL. Don't buy it, can't eat it. I mean we'd have it on rare occasions but not as a regular thing and it was put out of reach anyway kids.

    • @mitigamespro8757
      @mitigamespro8757 Před rokem +31

      My man grew younger using the bike 💀

    • @gibby3767
      @gibby3767 Před rokem +17

      Im the same, my father was in the military and my mother took painkillers for something wrong in her back and my dad got fat after he injured his knee and became a trucker, i was 270 5'9 at 15 and i started working out after i got friends who roasted me, and i got down to 200 but i slacked when covid hit so im still 200 and 19 and i have a baby brother and im worried hes gonna get fat, 2 of my other siblings are and one is super skinny, i cant let my baby bro get fat to hes gonna be ripped

  • @esmee6308
    @esmee6308 Před rokem +4321

    As a disabled person, I've met the most hate for my disability in body positive groups and most support from gymbros. Really hope other people's experiences are better...

    • @rd-lw4td
      @rd-lw4td Před rokem +445

      I think it's because they're are insecure about their bodies. We care about health, so we'd try to figure out solutions around a disability to help.

    • @blueflamingo4526
      @blueflamingo4526 Před rokem +332

      As someone who's a bipoc I personally find it offensive when body positivity groups try to compare themselves to people like us. Because they can CHANGE. They're big because they don't make the effort to lose weight. Us? We're stuck like this and people make fun of us for no reason. It's not fair a lot of people are ignoring how wrong it is for them to be doing that.

    • @777_
      @777_ Před rokem +222

      as a gym bro, we’re non judgemental of all individuals who aren’t in a negative situation physically that they can get out of by going to the gym or changing their habits. I believe body positivity groups are full of individuals seeking self validation - they can’t judge individuals who have the same problems (obesity) so they judge the people within the group who are different.

    • @sswiftbreeze
      @sswiftbreeze Před rokem +83

      I relate to this as a trans individual - body positivity groups often do not actually support other “body types”.. when I heard of a new movement“body postivity” I was sure that they meant disabled or transgender people since weve been in such a rough patch lately with new laws. only to find out that they meant able bodied cisgender people who put on weight and called it activism. How could they start a movement called literal “body positivity” and leave us out??? And of course corporates are eating it up because if they can support only cishet abled people and still look good while doing it then you know theyre going to.

    • @picachugirl2036
      @picachugirl2036 Před rokem +45

      As another disabled person yes... But most of the hate ive gotten was from employers, id like that to change too

  • @edres7563
    @edres7563 Před rokem +266

    I breastfed all my children until about just under 2 years old. From the moment they were able to eat solid food, they only had home cooked meals made from a huge variety of fresh vegetables, meat, fish and dairy.
    They only had water or milk for drinking and a wide variety of fresh fruit, sandwiches, whole foods and nuts for snacking.
    The only time they had any processed foods such as biscuits, crisps and sweets, was a handful of times a year at birthday parties, and even then it was in very limited quantities.
    I did this all the way throughout their childhood and adolescence and I never had any issues with my children's health and wellbeing. They werent fussy eaters, and unlike most children, they loved all types of fruit and vegetables. They had a very developed palate and ate everything I put in front of them.
    They were always in the excellent phsyical shape and fitness, full of energy and enthusiasm for life, and happy sociable children who got along with everyone.
    What our children eat and grow to like as foods, is 100% up to the parents and no one else. When we allow harmful influences such as advertising or unhealthy social narratives, that promote bad lifestyles and habits, into our children's minds, then it just becomes difficult to intstill good habits as a parent. Better to avoid these harmful influences altogether and NOT create a rod for our own back

    • @michasokoowski6651
      @michasokoowski6651 Před 8 měsíci +22

      When people say that their child is a fussy eater they truly mean that their child is either spoiled on sweets or that they can't cook.

    • @3namechangezalowdevry90day7
      @3namechangezalowdevry90day7 Před 7 měsíci +11

      People from working poor families have to feed their kids whatever from food bank/dumpster diving/ free school lunch, so they have less control. Some landlords prohibit container gardening because of the water bill.

    • @Psilomuscimol
      @Psilomuscimol Před 5 měsíci

      I like almost all food. Except "salads" that are meat and mayo or anything with mayo. Or undercooked onions.

    • @Kenny-yl9pc
      @Kenny-yl9pc Před 5 měsíci +4

      That is normal and nothing special. Before 1970 that was how any ordinary family's diet looked like. In most countries it still is today, fortunately...

    • @Brotha6168
      @Brotha6168 Před 2 měsíci

      W mom

  • @pennyburroughs6615
    @pennyburroughs6615 Před rokem +260

    I was really fat as a teenager. Obese. If someone had stopped to question me, or what was going on it would have been obvious. It was a really rough environment I was in. Trauma. Fear. I left home at 16 and the weight fell off.
    I was desperately unhappy and coped using food. Later in life I used alcohol. It’s an addiction. It’s all mental health. I can only speak of my experience, but pushing the fat acceptance is INSANE to me. Praising any harmful addiction is a form of madness

    • @dddux
      @dddux Před 11 měsíci +4

      Being aware of this is the first step towards a better life. An applause for you, lady. 👋 If you can, try to learn how to cook food for yourself. Food that is healthy. The Internet is full of great recipes! My personal favourites are Indian and Mexican dishes. Easy to make, tasty and healthy. YUM! 😛

    • @angiev1840
      @angiev1840 Před 6 měsíci +4

      Exactly. Emotional trauma and disorders need to be addressed because many people are overeating due to emotional problems and not exclusively lack of discipline. If you don't heal the root, any weight loss will be temporary.

    • @boosqueezy2418
      @boosqueezy2418 Před 5 měsíci +4

      it’s like handing out crack pipes and putting dope fiends on the cover of health magazines

  • @playedit0ut290
    @playedit0ut290 Před rokem +2457

    Child abuse. The most straightforward description for this mess. Thanks for agreeing with me because I never thought I would get so many likes.

    • @defaultworkouts
      @defaultworkouts Před rokem +55

      your battery almost dead

    • @andrewevans6826
      @andrewevans6826 Před rokem +31

      My sister had multiple dogs.. couldn’t take care of them.. now she is a single mom who feeds them garbage

    • @meddlingmage23
      @meddlingmage23 Před rokem

      Doctor is a bitch ass too. Just being overly nice. If I was a doctor. I would say: "I know you're trying to leave, so I'll keep it short. Your current life expectancy is 35 years. You might want to eat less. Next."

    • @playedit0ut290
      @playedit0ut290 Před rokem +30

      @@defaultworkouts think of it being fed up and burnt out from the SJW mess.

    • @giantent763
      @giantent763 Před rokem +3

      Better her own that someone else's.

  • @Deathground
    @Deathground Před rokem +2777

    We heavily restricted our daughter's diet when she was under 6. Veggies, protein, and healthy fats; little to no sugar. As she got older, she ate the healthier food as junk was not in the house. Now as an adult, she has good habits. Parents are in charge, not kids

    • @denniscoen8175
      @denniscoen8175 Před rokem +111

      Agree! You lead by example.

    • @Deathground
      @Deathground Před rokem +52

      @@denniscoen8175 That's what I learned in the Corps. It worked back in the day and works now.

    • @Bonzi_Buddy
      @Bonzi_Buddy Před rokem +57

      Everyone is different. Some people need highly restrictive diets and others can be a bit looser. Family history plays a lot into this but even so, there are people with heart disease who die young and their children live healthy lives and still die of heart disease. DNA matters more than anything and we can't change that but we can modify things that are under our control.
      Having physically active children is as as important as a healthy diet...and in some cases more.

    • @laragulisano7323
      @laragulisano7323 Před rokem +101

      I hear, ALL the time, things like "I tried but he/she doesn't like vegetables, he prefers *sth unhealthy*"
      OF COURSE a child will always choose sweets or chocolate over anything else. It's your job as a parent to impose certain food and get them used to it. I believe changing these habits in adulthood is extremely hard (at least my experience) if you weren't taught how to eat healthy while being a child

    • @Deathground
      @Deathground Před rokem +16

      @@Bonzi_Buddy Agreed, there are statistical outliers. A one size fits all approach will not work in such case. These are recessive genes rearing their ugly head. Our heart goes out to such people. As for the rest of the folks out there, dietary restrictions away from processed foods can work miracles.

  • @NrdciAlein
    @NrdciAlein Před rokem +403

    I was overweight from age 12 then obese at 13-14 years at a weight of 88kg which is huge for my height of 5'3...my parents did nothing, they even encouraged it.
    Somehow I learnt about nutrition and got the real facts and decided I'd do something about it. All I did was start tracking my calories and try to eat healthier.
    Now at 24 years old I can happily say ive maintained a healthy weight since I was about 20 (my weight continued to fluctuate until about then) and I can safely say ive lived a better life because of it.
    Im having a baby soon and ive had no complications and doctors say they have 0 concerns...unlike most other Woman these days.
    I have 0 health issues...like legit NONE.

    • @GalaxxE_Gaming
      @GalaxxE_Gaming Před 10 měsíci

      I can’t believe your parents encouraged obesity

    • @sandy-7715
      @sandy-7715 Před 9 měsíci +7

      Well done

    • @Andrew-pq3lj
      @Andrew-pq3lj Před 8 měsíci +7

      Dangggg MAJOR props for not only losing weight but having zero health issues. That is MUCH easier said than done nowadays, and it’s more common to have some kind of health issue than not.

    • @ssjsage5208
      @ssjsage5208 Před 7 měsíci +6

      Good job I’m proud of you stay healthy and fit

    • @DocBree13
      @DocBree13 Před 6 měsíci +3

      Congrats!!! You are an inspiration, and I’m so excited for you to become a mom! I hope your baby is happy and healthy, too ❤❤❤

  • @The_hot_blue_fire_guy
    @The_hot_blue_fire_guy Před 11 měsíci +58

    About the “if you don’t buy it they can’t eat it” part. I have a friend who is overweight and has overweight kids. His “solution” to his kids weight issues was to buy a big box and put all the junk snack foods in the box and put a lock on it so that his kids couldn’t get into the snack box.
    When I asked him why he bought the snacks in the first place he said that they were for him and not the kids.
    He then explained that he put a lock on the snacks box so that his kids wouldn’t be tempted to eat the snacks but he could still eat them himself.
    Essentially his plan was to only offer healthy snacks and food to his kids but eat unhealthy snacks and food himself because “I’m an adult so I can decide what I eat myself”
    Unsurprisingly this idea didn’t work. The kids refused to eat the healthy snacks and food and would always complain that their dad was eating snacks so why can’t they? And the kids broke into the snacks box three separate times. (The oldest was about 14 when this happened) apparently one of them even went as far as to watch lock picking videos online just so they could brake into the snacks box.
    The moral of this story is that if you want your kids to be healthy then you should be healthy yourself!
    Kids aren’t as stupid as some people might think. They will notice when things are unfair and they will complain or retaliate against that unfairness.
    And you should definitely not underestimate what kids can learn from the internet. This “strategy” might have worked better if you did it 30 years ago before the internet was a big thing but nowadays kids have access to more information than ever before and they will use that information against you as the parent if the kids feel like they aren’t being treated fairly!

  • @JordanRenaee
    @JordanRenaee Před rokem +2900

    I got bullied to hell on Facebook saying a calorie deficit works for weight loss. People were saying that “starving yourself” doesn’t work. The world has such disordered eating habits that eating less sounds the same as starving. And it’s totally based on taught habits, I was never taught good eating habits and now have to do that for myself at 23.

    • @user-vw5vf5pe3r
      @user-vw5vf5pe3r Před rokem +195

      Those people just know NOTHING about weight loss, neither they want to. Calorie deficit is not about starving, it's about burning more than you consume. It's about moving and activities. Those who are too lazy for moving just see it as starving.

    • @standard-carrier-wo-chan
      @standard-carrier-wo-chan Před rokem +48

      @@user-vw5vf5pe3r To be fair, if you're used to eating a certain amount of food, then any amount of reduction will feel like you're starving yourself. If your body is conditioned to a certain situation, once the situation changes your body will start withdrawal symptoms to keep the routine steady. Of course, there's a difference between actual starving and withdrawal starving, so it's best to calculate your calories by the day so you're certain that you're not underfeeding yourself in the process.
      I used to have 3 meals a day, but ever since covid forcing most of my classes and activities online, I had to literally starve myself to stop eating the 3rd meal because I wasn't moving nearly as much. I managed to brave it out and now eating 2 meals a day doesn't even feel abnormal anymore.

    • @harbimidiyosunkanka
      @harbimidiyosunkanka Před rokem +19

      Bro ur lucky you are teaching yourself at 23. Im 28 & have no clue how to learn. My only mode is either binge or starve.

    • @JordanRenaee
      @JordanRenaee Před rokem +37

      @@harbimidiyosunkanka nah bro. It’s as simple as eat less food than you do now. Just because it’s simple doesn’t mean it’s easy tho. If you’re binging, figure out the root of why you’re binging, get that root out and start replacing that habit with better ones. And start moving a little more. Once you see some results, you’ll want to keep going. And lmk if you need any help, I’d be happy to assist you.

    • @AudiRSAvant
      @AudiRSAvant Před rokem +24

      @@harbimidiyosunkanka Even eating a few hundred calories less than what it takes to maintain your weight will show results over time. Not eating that one extra snack or bag of chips does make a difference

  • @Jake66564
    @Jake66564 Před rokem +2239

    "Don't buy it" is the BIGGEST thing. My mom is a prolific snacker to this day, and when I started taking my weight seriously, I begged her not to buy stuff because I couldn't control myself. She finally listened after finding a few full boxes of sugary snacks in the trash

    • @catherineb6889
      @catherineb6889 Před rokem +132

      Honestly, it's the best way to stop.

    • @KyleBruhVloski
      @KyleBruhVloski Před rokem +154

      I can't control myself either. You did the right thing. I'm working on losing weight myself. I should do this, it would probably help.

    • @marcospiazza2961
      @marcospiazza2961 Před rokem +38

      @@KyleBruhVloski Keep at it! I wish you the best.

    • @gothica3605
      @gothica3605 Před rokem

      My mom would have told me to f off

    • @kyleralmond6598
      @kyleralmond6598 Před rokem +41

      The best way to really stop is to constantly be around sweets and not consume. You're just putting a bandaid on your food addiction by just having nothing near you. The moment the food comes back, is the moment you relapse. Stay strong king. Keep at it.

  • @DonjiKong
    @DonjiKong Před 10 měsíci +62

    If I were the doctor, I would have addressed the mom and the daughter equally telling both of them they are overweight.

  • @jMichaels878
    @jMichaels878 Před 11 měsíci +97

    I remember going to the mall one day with my friends as a teenager and passing a woman in the food court who had a tiny little baby in a stroller and she was giving her soda. It blew my mind and still makes me so annoyed. Having children that are underweight is seen as abuse/neglect if you're a parent, having significantly overweight children should be treated the same.

    • @3namechangezalowdevry90day7
      @3namechangezalowdevry90day7 Před 7 měsíci +9

      The acidity of even sugar free soda can harm their little teeth.

    • @YarbroK
      @YarbroK Před 4 měsíci +4

      I see this a lot in retail. People giving very young sodas or super sugary juice all the time. Most of the kids are overweight. It’s freakin sad.

    • @boosqueezy2418
      @boosqueezy2418 Před 2 měsíci

      yes!!!

  • @venus1nspace
    @venus1nspace Před rokem +2127

    I’m a 14 year old girl who was raised by an obese mom so I grew up obese, I played sports but I never had a good diet. It has seriously affected my mental health and body image. In November I started my weight loss journey starting at 220 pounds. Months later I have lost over 20 pounds and I eat better and try and incorporate more exercise!

    • @i_fuze_hostages6
      @i_fuze_hostages6 Před rokem +113

      Keep it up I’ve been trying to get lower myself I dropped about 100 pounds last year I’m about 250 right now

    • @aliensoup2420
      @aliensoup2420 Před rokem +108

      Never forget, weight management and fitness is a LIFESTYLE not a temporary modification. You are reinventing yourself as a new person, and the old person dies. Never quit, always improve.

    • @pistashleyo5897
      @pistashleyo5897 Před rokem +43

      A little tip that would help kickstart that new lifestyle. Try just having water to drink. Nothing else. Once you do that you focus on walking whenever possible! Love to you ❤I’ve had only water for a year now and trying to inspire my 11 year old to join me. Helps kick the sugar addiction!

    • @aliensoup2420
      @aliensoup2420 Před rokem +17

      @@pistashleyo5897 Good tip. I've been drinking mainly water for years. I occasionally indulge in other beverages, but I can afford it because I've been in shape all my life. As you say, it is important to start easy - walking - and add things as you gain confidence and enthusiasm. Add some difficulty, such as inclined hiking trails or stairs. Fitness is a progressive personal challenge. Its all about developing good habits. Keep adding new things to your habits - new foods, new exercises. I'm 65 and my habits are still evolving.

    • @icre8
      @icre8 Před rokem +11

      Good for you! I also have been overweight/obese all my life. I started my weight loss journey about 1 year ago and have lost over 18 kgs. Still on my way to lose another 7 kgs.

  • @stephenschuster9929
    @stephenschuster9929 Před rokem +879

    "You rarely see overweight children with fit parents" so true but not talked about enough.

    • @jackblades90
      @jackblades90 Před rokem +16

      Ones i saw a woman that looks like a bodybuilder and her kid was overwaight.
      Ever since then i been curious how that hapen

    • @gravelroad1228
      @gravelroad1228 Před rokem +39

      @@jackblades90
      It’s pretty rare, but it’s possible.
      It happens if the parent has healthy eating/workout habits, but failed to cultivate those same habits in their child because they’re too lenient. Trying to be the “cool” parent they let the kid eat whatever and they get fat.
      But again this is unusual because eating habits and genetic metabolism are often passed over from parent to child.

    • @ionescho
      @ionescho Před rokem +9

      @@jackblades90 maybe bad influence from the father or from the grandparents(from the father's side or whatever)

    • @Mayrita77
      @Mayrita77 Před rokem +7

      @@jackblades90 That was the exception that confirms the rule

    • @mariad9362
      @mariad9362 Před rokem +1

      My uncle is very fit but his children are obese

  • @gregoryreview
    @gregoryreview Před rokem +82

    Most of my baby teeth was pulled, I was almost toothless at age 7. It's beyond just eating habits, it's the lack of discipline inside of the house. My dad lost his teeth from an accident when I was 3, not seeing him brush his teeth made me think it's not that important so I didn't either. My mom would howl say us to brush, but we would just tune her out.
    Your 20s aren't so fun with messed up teeth

    • @Coloriey
      @Coloriey Před 10 měsíci +4

      I had 3 teeth removed as a child (one grew in wrong so it wasn’t my fault) they were all baby teeth and I remember how painful it was. Can’t imagine that with adult teeth and it is literally a phobia of mine that keeps me up at night

    • @Psilomuscimol
      @Psilomuscimol Před 5 měsíci

      My wisdom teeth broke some of other grindie tooth when it came in.

  • @heyitskoryn
    @heyitskoryn Před 8 měsíci +70

    My dad has been dieting recently, and he’s cooked all the meals himself. He also exercises every day. My mom, who feeds my sister and I, gives us a lot of processed food and sugar. We’ve both had cavities over our lifetime, and that led to me thoroughly brushing my teeth. I’ve never been overweight myself, but I have been starting to gain weight to where I’m worried I may soon be overweight. I think I’ll start asking my dad to cook enough of his meals for two. A little exercise couldn’t hurt as well.

    • @ssjsage5208
      @ssjsage5208 Před 7 měsíci +2

      You got this I believe in you jus ask him for help and he should help you but remember you got that

    • @vaska1999
      @vaska1999 Před 4 měsíci +1

      ... who feeds my sister and *me* ....
      It's easy to tell which to use, I or me, if you try it this way: she feeds me (she feeds my sister and me). He tells me (he tells John and me). I see him (I see Louise and him).

    • @zacharyisrael7264
      @zacharyisrael7264 Před 4 měsíci +3

      @@vaska1999​​⁠​⁠​⁠You serious? You’re going to be on this one specific site, watching this very specific video, replying to this very specific comment (which was a very respectable comment coming from a presumably young person) correcting her grammar? Go flunk yourself (CZcams is not a supporter of free speech) you’re part of the problem.
      @heyitskoryn
      That is legendary self awareness! With that attitude, literally anything is possible for you. Put in the work, and receive infinite rewards, health of which, is the sweetest. Best of luck and I hope your journey is nothing less than fulfilling.

  • @TheGingerMale
    @TheGingerMale Před rokem +1621

    Dude that lady can't say "I want an easy life" and then have a child. Children are a commitment, they're part of a lifestyle that you HAVE to take seriously. Plus, they're gonna grow up into adults one day with genuine issues that they may not be able to control because their parents were selfish

    • @sagetusk
      @sagetusk Před rokem +94

      a lot of people, my mother included, see children more akin to a pet or a hobby than a tiny human who will eventually be a fully fledged member of society. it's like the link just isn't there for some people and they have no business having children

    • @gofres_8540
      @gofres_8540 Před rokem +35

      She took the easy life route and didn't use contraception.

    • @raulw858
      @raulw858 Před rokem +28

      I want an easy life, with plenty of free time and disposable income. I’m not naive enough to think that I can have kids and still have that. So I don’t plan on having kids

    • @elz2787
      @elz2787 Před rokem +14

      @@raulw858 same. My life wont be easy, but certainly a lot easier than people who have kids, even if those kids were the best well behaved children ever

    • @arianaventi5165
      @arianaventi5165 Před rokem +19

      that's why abortion right is worth it. not everyone capable of rasing a decent human being.

  • @baileejaydee
    @baileejaydee Před rokem +1051

    For anyone who hasn’t seen the whole documentary, when Talulah (the little girl) goes to get surgery she gets eight teeth pulled out and is left with no top teeth. It’s hard to watch. It made me feel physically sick watching her wake up with so many holes in her gums and blood on her face, knowing it’s diet related and preventable.

    • @naturazpolski9213
      @naturazpolski9213 Před rokem

      Oh dear. That's going to be another reason for children in school bullying her! That she has no teeth and can't chew. It's gonna take some time untill the new ones will grow, so much time she will spent on drinking liquid food? And her mother, what a disgusting person. I doubt she would see the fault in herself

    • @username.not.known2473
      @username.not.known2473 Před rokem +97

      Jesus. That's sickening.

    • @JWSoul
      @JWSoul Před rokem +26

      Omg

    • @timhanser1943
      @timhanser1943 Před rokem +60

      The mother should be ashamed.

    • @miltonbates6425
      @miltonbates6425 Před rokem

      When we allowed the vgan and "plant-based" agnda (which is deficient in bioavailable nutrients) to supplant traditional foods (meats, fish, eggs, vegetables, cheese, butter, tallow, etc), and allowed food suppliers to lie about the safety of RBD seed oils (which are toxic over the long-term and contributing heavily to insulin resistance), we sealed the fate of the ignorant masses.

  • @GreyLifts
    @GreyLifts Před 10 měsíci +38

    I used to be extremely underweight pretty much all my life until end of high school. My mom would be questioned by doctors suspecting that she was neglecting me when in reality I just didnt like eating much. Doctors should have this same attitude when an obese child comes in because both of these conditions lead to really bad health problems

  • @robertcls3110
    @robertcls3110 Před rokem +35

    Man, this guy should've been a life coach, he's got the best advice and say exactly what needs to be heard, even the things you or I don't want to hear but, deep down we need to hear.

  • @charlieklausmeier9222
    @charlieklausmeier9222 Před rokem +665

    I had parathyroid cancer that leached all the calcium from my bones and teeth. I also became allergic to the sun and gained 50lbs. All that calcium? It ended up in my kidneys, creating truly massive kidney stones.
    Thyroid issues are dramatic and intense. The whole "must be my thyroid idk" bs is such a slap in the face for people who actually are sick.

    • @Lunalla
      @Lunalla Před rokem +40

      That sounds debilitating. My mother has thyroid issues as well, so I can imagine the stress that has put on you dude. Hope you’re healthier and recovering x

    • @samsonthewyrm9396
      @samsonthewyrm9396 Před rokem +11

      I fully agree sir.
      My Gma was fit until her thyroid starting acting up. She gained like 150 lbs, started having lung problems, problems with her gut, heart issues...
      I understand this sentiment nowmore than ever.
      Some people just down reasons to be entitled.

    • @Anon.G
      @Anon.G Před rokem +12

      Not to discredit you at all but thyroid issues aren't always so extreme

    • @Anon.G
      @Anon.G Před rokem +7

      Hope you're doing better medicated however, best of luck

    • @ironboogsie1187
      @ironboogsie1187 Před rokem +2

      that’s horrible i hope your better now

  • @thefangirlfromhell9627
    @thefangirlfromhell9627 Před rokem +1370

    The mom looks so gleeful when she talks about thyroid issues like holy hell I’ve struck gold! Now I can’t be blamed for abusing my child and causing all these health issues for them

    • @shredwerd009
      @shredwerd009 Před rokem +78

      MUH GENETICS
      MUH THYROID

    • @hoi-polloi1863
      @hoi-polloi1863 Před rokem +64

      Not to mention, your thyroid doesn't manufacture pounds and pounds of food...

    • @santsi7306
      @santsi7306 Před rokem +55

      The gleefulness when talking about her thyroid.... Weird. That's nothing to be fucking excited about.

    • @hellacoorinna9995
      @hellacoorinna9995 Před rokem +5

      @@shredwerd009 "Yew foookin wot owzat"

    • @whimsybomb7929
      @whimsybomb7929 Před rokem +41

      I was wondering if someone else would say this. That smug look on her face when she just says "Thyroid." made me irrationally angry.

  • @laurawhitbeck6488
    @laurawhitbeck6488 Před 11 měsíci +28

    I started rapidly gaining weight around 11-13, and I'm so glad my mom knew what to do. It might not work for everyone but I was homeschooled so she had almost total control of what I ate. She would force me to stay at the table without a phone till I finished what was on my plate, which always included veggies, I wasn't allowed to eat more than what I was given and no snacks. No eating at night and no sweets. When i wouldnt listen she took away all of my privileges including phone, television, and spending time with friends, replaced with helping neighbors with yardwork. Of course I hated her for it and of course I sneaked food for the next couple of years, but she healed my relationship with eating and body image. After getting mental health issues sorted and finding my purpose in life I'm a healthy weight adult. If it wasn't for her being so severe I would have turned out a failure

    • @nianichole2856
      @nianichole2856 Před 7 měsíci +2

      I wish my parents had done that for me. Still trying to sort out the consequences of previous/ current actions haha. I have lost 50lbs overall, got around 20/ 30 more to go

    • @BloodSweatandFears
      @BloodSweatandFears Před 3 měsíci +1

      I am a homeschool mom!! I’m so happy to see someone young say they appreciate it ❤❤ it’s a lot of work but totally worth it!

    • @blindsey1043
      @blindsey1043 Před 3 měsíci +1

      Now thats the best MOM❤ once she got u here after pregnancy she still carried u to success I love this! Thanks for sharing

    • @nastbshkaa
      @nastbshkaa Před 2 měsíci

      Dunno how prohibition can help to heal the relationship with food and body image. I've almost had the same experience with mom, when sweets and snacks were not allowed and i weren't even obese or overweight. Now, when i eat 'unhealthy' food like chips or sweets i start blaming myself and feeling anxious about immediate weight gain after that. And i don't think it's okay. ED and body dysmorphia are my friends for the rest of my life, thanks

    • @superethangaming.
      @superethangaming. Před 22 hodinami

      This could have just as easily caused an eating disorder

  • @Forcommentingpurposes
    @Forcommentingpurposes Před 5 měsíci +14

    Chiming in as someone with thyroid issues. I was 210 at my heaviest before I was diagnosed and treated with hypothyroidism (thyroid not producing hormones to metabolize food) and while I did drop a significant amount of weight on the medication, now that I’ve stabilized, I lose and gain weight according to SHOCKINGLY my diet and exercise routine.
    That excuse can only get you so far and plenty of fat people DONT have thyroid issues.

    • @BloodSweatandFears
      @BloodSweatandFears Před 3 měsíci +1

      Exactly! I have the opposite so when I was younger I looked really sickly. Let me tell you my mom got interrogated multiple times about why my weight wasn’t high enough. A lady even had to come look at our house to make sure I wasn’t being abused. They figured it out and I just need to take some supplements and a controlled (shockingly!) diet 😂
      (Edit: I needed medication as a teen but was luckily able to come off of it later.)

  • @alaia-awakened
    @alaia-awakened Před rokem +586

    “She’s crying because she’s needs to have her rotting teeth surgically removed.”
    “Let’s give her a few sweets to make her forget about it.”
    🤦‍♀️

  • @ava.and.jasper
    @ava.and.jasper Před rokem +750

    The mother is so happy to tell the camera crew about thyroid issues because it takes the blame off her, you can see it in the way she smirks. But she knows it's a load of bs, she just doesn't want to be accountable.

  • @IrinaZumba
    @IrinaZumba Před rokem +100

    I was a fat kid. Not this bad, but it still made childhood and socializing very difficult. It made self esteem impossible.
    My parents weren't very concerned with it and were fat themselves. I tried to lose weight myself and didn't have much luck until i was a teen. Even then i gained a lot of it back because i had no support or guidance. This was before the internet.
    Even with education and knowledge, children need support and encouragement to be able to lose weight. It's terrible that parents don't understand the damage they're doing.

    • @jessickalush3305
      @jessickalush3305 Před 9 měsíci +1

      Seeing obese children breaks my heart

    • @IrinaZumba
      @IrinaZumba Před 9 měsíci +1

      @@jessickalush3305 me too 😖💔

    • @Insitika
      @Insitika Před 8 měsíci

      My friend in 6th was obese other obese children had alot of friends and her esteem was terrible because she thought they would use her weight in the event of an argument.

    • @angiev1840
      @angiev1840 Před 6 měsíci +1

      It's very difficult for the child if the parents are bringing unhealthy food into the house. It's hard to resist it so if they don't get that basic level of support, it's so much harder for them.

    • @IrinaZumba
      @IrinaZumba Před 6 měsíci

      @@angiev1840 that is very true! 😭

  • @Mouse73
    @Mouse73 Před 9 měsíci +82

    These parents truly make me feel disgusted by our society. My daughter is a camel, she loves water. Even at age 10, if she is given a choice of pop (she hates pop) or juice, she chooses water every single time. She also chooses to eat vegetables of all kinds over sweet snacks. She eats this way because I raised her to make healthy choices. That was my responsibility when I brought a child into this world.
    For the people who don't understand the camel reference, no one cares about how dumb you are.
    Also, I am a recent sub and really enjoying your thought-provoking and honest content. Thanks.

    • @Psilomuscimol
      @Psilomuscimol Před 5 měsíci

      If your daughter is a camel, well unless you're a camel I feel sorry for you. The pain I can't even imagine. Wait, how big is a newborn camel?

    • @understanding77
      @understanding77 Před 4 měsíci

      Must be nice having a camel 🐪

    • @eric9604
      @eric9604 Před 4 měsíci

      What’s the point of bragging about your kids?

    • @eric9604
      @eric9604 Před 4 měsíci

      Full of yourself?

    • @Mouse73
      @Mouse73 Před 4 měsíci

      @@eric9604 I'm a great mom and I have no problem stating that. If you think I am full of myself, ask yourself why you're projecting your flaws onto me. Maybe if you focus on being a better parent, if you're even one in the first place, you wouldn't be so upset someone else is raising their child to be healthy and make better choices. Or maybe you're the one who is unhealthy, obese and unable to show any restraint and you feel inadequate compared to my 10 year old. Again that's your problem and I don't really give a fuck dude.

  • @CoolPapaJMagik
    @CoolPapaJMagik Před rokem +876

    People don’t have any love anymore. Not even for their kids. It’s not “love” to give your kid everything they want. You’re teaching them to follow the wrong set of instincts. Delayed gratification and all that. Kids need real love, which means showing them by example how to do for themselves

    • @JSFGuy
      @JSFGuy Před rokem

      Correct, indulging kids turn them into brats spoiled competitive dysfunctional juvenile jailbirds.

    • @lost_spacebunny2769
      @lost_spacebunny2769 Před rokem +43

      I know right... Ever since I was born, all the way up to age 10, my mother always did this. Instead of spoiling me and calling it "love", she showed me how to do things right, and how to do things myself. That is what real love is supposed to be. Not spoiling your kids in the false pretense of "love". That isn't love. That's ruining your child. Destroying your child. Not love.

    • @Firestorm-613
      @Firestorm-613 Před rokem +6

      It like dogs who tried to get food not for them. Some dogs eat anything, sometimes even deadly to them. They don’t know about what food is okay or not. Is very important to teach them or watch over them. They might whine or whatever but it better than being unhealthy.

    • @booleah6357
      @booleah6357 Před rokem +14

      Giving them whatever they want is more like abuse by coddling them and failing to not prepare them to live on their own in the real world imo. It's also so infuriatingly common to meet kids who end up dysfunctional because of this.

    • @koal18-
      @koal18- Před rokem +11

      Exactly! I actually know several women who do this. Spoil their children with junk food and give them everything they want but don't teach them the correct way and give them REAL love and affection. Teaching them horrible habits, very sad.

  • @Upioornica
    @Upioornica Před rokem +1688

    "For those who aren't British, one stone is 14 pounds, so that's 266 pounds for a thirteen year old girl"
    And for those who aren't American, that's 120 kg. Stones and pounds are as helpful here as measuring height in carrots and football stadiums XD

    • @FreshMedlar
      @FreshMedlar Před rokem +124

      Always blow by American measurement system ahahahhahaha

    • @fanofcodd
      @fanofcodd Před rokem +28

      Btw a carrot is around 16.8 cm

    • @lukelblitz3627
      @lukelblitz3627 Před rokem +156

      @@Raya-ir4tm no,we just use measuring systems that make sense

    • @jamessewake8285
      @jamessewake8285 Před rokem +158

      @@Raya-ir4tm They said measuring weight in pounds/stones is like measuring height in carrots/football stadiums. In what sense is that bad English?

    • @puma8262
      @puma8262 Před rokem +2

      @@Raya-ir4tm His english isn't bad, your reading comprehension is ass.

  • @dgray8720
    @dgray8720 Před rokem +38

    Maybe if we actually held these parents accountable, we’d see some serious change.

    • @boosqueezy2418
      @boosqueezy2418 Před 2 měsíci

      it’s child abuse and should be regarded as same

    • @dgray8720
      @dgray8720 Před 2 měsíci

      @@boosqueezy2418 100%

  • @wakingupat2pm349
    @wakingupat2pm349 Před 11 měsíci +18

    Dude, your psychologal anaylsis of this whole thing has given me a new found repsect for you. The psychology of how to address the Pavia situation that you presented was so good man. Well done brother

  • @murkorus7147
    @murkorus7147 Před rokem +1510

    I'm 16 and overweight, with a single mom who, according to this video, doesn't really put much effort into parenting.
    Thanks to you, I *want* to succeed. I have a reason to, and I have the advantage of learning from you. Out of sheer spite, I hope to become remarkable. Thank you.

    • @MetalheadChristian
      @MetalheadChristian Před rokem +75

      Good luck man, you can do it

    • @SELFF
      @SELFF Před rokem +29

      Good luck!

    • @Chebab-Chebab
      @Chebab-Chebab Před rokem +28

      Use the lessons as what not to do. Stay strong.

    • @factsandlogic4709
      @factsandlogic4709 Před rokem +41

      Do the hard work, even when you don't feel like it -Hamza

    • @greenthunder1000
      @greenthunder1000 Před rokem +20

      Do the hard work while you’re young so that you won’t have to when you’re old. If not that, then at least for the feeling of accomplishment.

  • @bigware9588
    @bigware9588 Před rokem +1502

    PLEASE continue to make videos on the Fat Acceptance movement. It’s such a hypocritical thing. They shame skinny people and expect people to not shame them. It’s a huge issue. So many TikTok’s on it as well. I’d love to see a deep dive into the TikTok’s.

    • @Gehddjdje
      @Gehddjdje Před rokem +30

      A HUGE issue lol

    • @thecabbage84
      @thecabbage84 Před rokem +17

      @@Gehddjdje Bloated issue If I do say so myself

    • @Gehddjdje
      @Gehddjdje Před rokem +6

      @@thecabbage84 and there is a humongous amount of people in this world that are obese too, making it more big.

    • @evelynfidler6285
      @evelynfidler6285 Před rokem +2

      Don't dare challenge a fat acceptance believer that those underweight have no voice

    • @quadzilla561
      @quadzilla561 Před rokem +8

      @@Gehddjdje the fat acceptance is a delusional movement 💀💯

  • @giusepperesponte8077
    @giusepperesponte8077 Před 11 měsíci +17

    My mom was a neglectful parent and was just ignorant on parenting. She gave me straight apple juice when I was really young all the time and I had to get 7 root canals before I was 5. They couldn’t just pull them because it would’ve deformed my jaw because I was so young. It would’ve been a while until my permanent teeth came in. It was extremely painful.

  • @libertyblue159
    @libertyblue159 Před rokem +5

    I really admire how you dissected respect and conversation skills when talking about such a complex issue.

  • @kasan8495
    @kasan8495 Před rokem +713

    Last time I checked, body positive is something that you can’t change about your body (disabilities, amputees, skin discoloration, people suffer from illness side effects, etc,…) not being fat and lazy 😬

    • @Shadow_Sonata
      @Shadow_Sonata Před rokem +54

      It originally was, but at some point the "Fat Acceptance" Movement (aka; Obesity pimps) took it over. To make a gamer reference, it was originally for Katawa Shoujo's Emi, Rin (amputee) and Hanako (burn scars) but was taken over and eaten by Ellie Hodunk from Borderlands 2.

    • @akuoumaru7562
      @akuoumaru7562 Před rokem

      @@Shadow_Sonata lmfaooo ellie hodunk

    • @emily7195
      @emily7195 Před rokem +4

      Lizoos big girls...they are all working out 12 hours a day, eat super healthy for their stamina, yet theyre till big 🤷‍♀️ some people are just big?! How do you explain this?! I couldn't do 10 minutes of their routine without dying!

    • @mig.25
      @mig.25 Před rokem +38

      @@emily7195 >they are all working out 12 hours a day
      bro unless theyre working manual labor in fucking siberian work camps that is not possible

    • @luthars485
      @luthars485 Před rokem +32

      @@emily7195 i call bs on this comment. Nobody working out more than 3 hours a day is going to be overweight. They can have the physique of a Strongman/woman but that's totally different from being fat.

  • @sergioorozco1087
    @sergioorozco1087 Před rokem +2490

    The most unbelievable part to me is that a large amount of people have accepted the concept of "fat phobia" and often include fat people as some special protected class alongside racial/religious minorities, LGBT people, etc. I'm really surprised no one finds it repulsively offensive that unhealthy people are pretending they have any kind of mass suffering in history like the other kinds of groups, or comparing "I need to pay extra on the plane!!!" to real discrimination that's occurred throughout history.

    • @ericvulgate
      @ericvulgate Před rokem +263

      There shouldn't be 'protected catagories' of people.
      We should have a baseline respect for humanity in general.

    • @billybussey
      @billybussey Před rokem +150

      I don't think any of those groups should be protected. It helps no one.

    • @trayltank1015
      @trayltank1015 Před rokem +101

      Yes the lefts “phobia”-framing is very “good”, they enabled to lable any doubt, any criticism, any concers as an irrational fear.

    • @pain5627
      @pain5627 Před rokem +94

      well they do have "mass" suffering if you know what i mean xd

    • @brianensign7638
      @brianensign7638 Před rokem +12

      @@pain5627 Eh, eh…I see what you did there.

  • @dopekidrepublic
    @dopekidrepublic Před rokem +3

    Your videos are really insightful and helpful. I've calling myself out on a lot things and it has helped make me a better person. Your videos have lead to that so thanks, keep doing what you're doing.

  • @lantrycliff4260
    @lantrycliff4260 Před 9 měsíci +3

    I love this channel, thank you for making this type of content. Well done sir.

  • @Lightgreen57
    @Lightgreen57 Před rokem +494

    “Kids never lie”
    It should be rephrased to “Kids never lie when it doesn’t benefit them.”

    • @user-mp6ov5gy3r
      @user-mp6ov5gy3r Před 11 měsíci +17

      Well, if a kid is surrounded by liars, or in a scary environment then sure.

    • @user-mp6ov5gy3r
      @user-mp6ov5gy3r Před 11 měsíci +14

      Naturally, kids are not liars, so even when they do lie, they're terrible at it.

    • @missys7823
      @missys7823 Před 11 měsíci +42

      ​@@user-mp6ov5gy3rI lied all the time if it meant not getting grounded. Kids lie to avoid negative outcomes. It's natural, and they just need some guidance and direction. I think it's weird when people believe children never lie. Like, what are you basing that belief on?

    • @JohnSmith-zw8vp
      @JohnSmith-zw8vp Před 10 měsíci +1

      Or when someone in a position of authority tells them to.

    • @agniesia1984
      @agniesia1984 Před 10 měsíci

      So true😅

  • @xyloftalexander4369
    @xyloftalexander4369 Před rokem +663

    Let my child try his first soda ever at the age of 8. He hated it. The bubbles terrified him. As long as you give your kids healthy meals and drinks early on they’re fine.

    • @darlingditzypinkfloweremoji
      @darlingditzypinkfloweremoji Před rokem +50

      I have similar feelings about soda like your child does. I rarely drink soda because I hate how the fizz goes through my nose when I burp. To me, it’s uncomfortable!

    • @nicholasdarrylh.9062
      @nicholasdarrylh.9062 Před rokem +28

      Soda sucks compared to water, and it only gets worse when it's lukewarm. One time my family went out, the only drink was flipping Pepsi. Hated it.

    • @andreasanchez1453
      @andreasanchez1453 Před rokem +13

      I was addicted to soda it wasn’t until 2021 that I quit due to an anxiety attack/panic attack. I’m almost 2 years clean. I’ve lost weight and I feel much better.

    • @xyloftalexander4369
      @xyloftalexander4369 Před rokem +3

      @@andreasanchez1453 Curious, do you think it was the caffeine and high fructose? Or just the sugar that caused your anxiety

    • @Trigorastronomology
      @Trigorastronomology Před rokem

      Thx for the parenting advice. I’ll keep that noted.

  • @aisa2954
    @aisa2954 Před 10 měsíci +1

    You're crude, honest but always positive 👌🏻
    I liked this documentary. Thank you.

  • @SueRosalie
    @SueRosalie Před 4 měsíci +1

    Great channel with tons of sound psychology in the commentary. Excellent.

  • @WabbaJackson
    @WabbaJackson Před rokem +658

    Hi, nursing student here. Another often unforeseen problem with the “overweight is healthy” body positivity movement is that it makes dealing with cases like these much more difficult. The social stigma has shifted so far in the other direction that medical professionals are required to pussyfoot around the problem or risk being labeled as “fat shamers” that the patient doesn’t take seriously. The doctor/nurse is required to downplay the severity or risk the patient shutting down.

    • @wombat4583
      @wombat4583 Před rokem +33

      To be fair there are just as many skeptical and resistant doctors who who prefer to blame weight rather than actually do thorough examination, or any at all. Both ends are problematic and by doing so it's unfortunately giving people reasons to be skeptic of health advice.

    • @caileyrookids
      @caileyrookids Před rokem +16

      @@wombat4583 My mother has this issue. She's had several problems all her life, long before she started putting on weight (PCOS makes it rough to lose it again), but the doctors would always blame her weight until she just gave up.

    • @garyclarkiii730
      @garyclarkiii730 Před rokem +23

      Another nursing student here, I already know I’m not gonna tiptoe around this shit, it just completely goes against the oath we take to care for patients and be an advocate for their health. Idc if it even gets me fired somewhere, if a hospital will fire me for trying to encourage an overweight person to get healthier, I got no business being there, and I’ll go from hospital to hospital until I find one that isn’t playing along with this complete insanity

    • @wombat4583
      @wombat4583 Před rokem +7

      @@garyclarkiii730 Perfectly fine as long as you actually take their concerns seriously and don't only attribute all things as weight issues.

    • @Goldencat44
      @Goldencat44 Před rokem +11

      @@wombat4583 I am sorry but PCOS is and hasbeen used as an excuse, it makes it harder not impossible to maintain a healthy weight

  • @Bearssuperfan
    @Bearssuperfan Před rokem +1073

    “Don’t buy it” is pretty much the best advice. My parents never really kept a lot of soda or candy around, but we were surely always stocked with ice cream and chips or snacks and that was my crux. I was never close to obesity because I was in sports all year, but I was overweight. Now that I buy my own groceries, I just skip the aisles with junk food. I save money and my health, and finally got below the overweight category threshold.
    Portion control is also huge. I was always told to “finish my plate” but it should have been “eat until satisfied”. In my teens I was pretty much always getting seconds or thirds because I kept needing more. Teens do that sometimes, but it was excessive and consistent.

    • @feuerschlange6374
      @feuerschlange6374 Před rokem +28

      I always liked the portion control system my fathers side of the family tree had in place. Put the pan on the table and then take how much you want. You can always have more, but if you have taken it out, you're gonna eat it. Or with smaller kids, say stop when you think it's enough (of course the adults knew usually how much was too much and then said something like eat this and then we'll see if you want more).
      The most important lesson in this was probably if you've eaten your plate, wait a few minutes before taking more.
      The other system was you get a plate (sometimes too full) and then you eat that. Which lead to me eating just one plate, and then not taking more even if i was still hungry, to balance it back out.

    • @msf2000
      @msf2000 Před rokem +14

      Right, I nearly never drink any soda or soft drinks my entire life bcs my parents don't buy them, and my weight now is pretty stable, not skinny and not fat either. Though I imagine it's harder to avoid soft drinks in America, since in my country drinking water takes the majority rather than soda, and I rarely see people who often drinks soda here.

    • @internetgirl4617
      @internetgirl4617 Před rokem +2

      I have a rule to never eat more than what’s on my plate

    • @graygreysangui
      @graygreysangui Před rokem +3

      I don't buy my own junk food. I usually get it as a gift (Christmas.) I will spurge on vacation only because my walking miles jump up into around twenty a day. I will burn through breakfast and eat lunch but then won't feel hungry enough before I go to sleep. I am just bad at staying hydrated.

    • @Blacksunstoneful
      @Blacksunstoneful Před rokem +13

      "Finish your plate" is a poverty mindset that's been passed down for generations, it was understandable in the Great Depression where THAT meal might have been your last full meal for the week; it doesn't make sense in a society and time period where a dinner plate can breach 3000 calories in nothing but processed meats and carbs

  • @seanjeremiah3908
    @seanjeremiah3908 Před 11 měsíci +3

    your understanding of human psychology is really impressive. What i found most interesting about your commentary is how simply you explained these concepts. In reality, they ARE simple. Everyone inherently knows how to influence people from the time when their a baby crying cuz they want food or milk. However since they don’t understand the mechanism and idea behind doing so, they can’t use it all the time or to their full advantage. This video was commentary on a show investigating weight related issues within families, yet i could see myself using the information you gave in many other aspects of my life. very good stuff 👌

  • @intuitive_duck
    @intuitive_duck Před rokem +4

    The advice you said about being more involved, conversation wise, is so good. Honestly, I think having a strained relationship or lack of communication with your parents can exacerbate weight issues. You don’t feel loved if the only times your parents talk to you is to discipline or lecture you. You don’t feel motivated to change or might want to fight change because your semi-absent parents suggested it.

  • @JoulesJuly
    @JoulesJuly Před rokem +446

    This mother saying she “honestly don’t think whatever they eat is the problem” is the actual problem right there!

    • @emmaphilo4049
      @emmaphilo4049 Před rokem +12

      She is crazy and in denial. Very sad for the kids.

    • @verisimilitudeteller
      @verisimilitudeteller Před rokem +5

      I think kids CAN get away with eating some really shitty junk food, but not in the vast quantities these kids are getting. I don't have kids but I see friends/relatives kids, 4 to 8 year olds, eating chicken mcnuggets and French fries sliced apples and milk... but reasonable portions and the kids more often than not don't "finish their plate". And no parent should force them to, that was the biggest food abuse parents did to kids back in my day as a kid.
      I was always told to finish my plate and I did... then as time went on I'd want second helpings, and that's the problem. Overeating leads to more overeating. Eating carbs spurs hunger, so when a kid says they're done, leave them be, don't try to alter their natural appetite controls.

    • @CircumcisionIsChildAbuse
      @CircumcisionIsChildAbuse Před rokem +1

      What did the fathers think? OH WAIT. Everyone kinda missed that piece of the family equation. How difficult it is to raise children in broken families, they end up lacking respect for authority. Voila. I'll do whatever I want, when I want, because my mommy loves me no matter what. Addiction has less to do with the substance, more to do with the need to escape a painful life.

    • @eatmeatandliftweights5754
      @eatmeatandliftweights5754 Před rokem

      💯

  • @isaachayman9231
    @isaachayman9231 Před rokem +1374

    As a kid (and even still), my family was incredibly overweight. I was the only exception because I found it so disgusting. I could not imagine myself being overweight. I used to control my diet and workout, eating literally anything that wasn’t processed or sugary. Did wonders for me. The worst part about that was when they thought I was anorexic instead of lean like I was. It’s incredibly frustrating seeing people say “oh you’re fatphobic” or some bullshit like that, as if I magically have “thin privilege” because I detest the modern American diet.

    • @user-cs4su3ng9l
      @user-cs4su3ng9l Před rokem +8

      How do you know what's is and isn't processed?

    • @o_sch
      @o_sch Před rokem +143

      Honestly if they’re gonna keep calling it fat phobic and saying exercising is somehow fat phobic then Im proudly fat phobic.
      Im done pretending that obesity is normal and should be supported.

    • @Follower967
      @Follower967 Před rokem +88

      @@user-cs4su3ng9l Basically, don't buy any meal in a box or bag. You gotta make everything from base ingredients.
      Also, don't eat anything with ingredients you can't pronounce or if you don't know what it is.
      Crock pots, cooking on days off, and freezing stuff to thaw during the week lighten the work load.

    • @isaachayman9231
      @isaachayman9231 Před rokem +32

      @@user-cs4su3ng9l at least in the US you can take a look at the nutrition facts on the back. Anything with trans fats, corn syrup, any kind of oil that isn’t from an animal (soy, corn, etc). Also no microwave meals or prepackaged meals or kits. Also, just because something is organic or “healthy” does not make it healthy. Nowadays I grow a portion of my vegetables and I purchase meat and eggs from the farmers market or work in exchange for it.

    • @KopperNeoman
      @KopperNeoman Před rokem +5

      @Issac Hayman Avoid soy. It wreaks havoc on your hormonal balance. Lard also has an unfairly bad rap - animal fats are the best fats for non-caloric health. Watching your calories is important, but so is avoiding rabbit starvation.

  • @lanaburismo5231
    @lanaburismo5231 Před 9 měsíci +6

    Both of my parents were fat. I made the decision when i was little that i wouldn't be like them. They'd tell me to finish my plate and I'd refuse because i was already full.
    They're both dead because they couldn't control themselves

  • @elhombrebilingue
    @elhombrebilingue Před 3 měsíci

    Best video I've seen online in a long time. The bombardment of truth is amazingly awesome. This is the kind of truth that everyone needs to speak and listen to. 😊

  • @madxprofessor
    @madxprofessor Před rokem +665

    I was almost 400lbs at age 19 and the second I moved out on my own I dropped 60lbs, then 80, then 100, then 120, and still going. I can't believe my dad bought me that shit and yelled at me for asking for vegetables and fruit. He would buy fast food almost every day because it's "cheaper and salad won't fill you up" and I always hated meat since a baby. I've had a ball trying all the earth has to offer, pomegranate is one if my faves.

    • @santsi7306
      @santsi7306 Před rokem +40

      I want to be surprised that your dad yelled at you for that, but I've seen a dad yell at his family about this before, so while I'm not completely shocked, I am wtfing here with you on that.

    • @candyman9635
      @candyman9635 Před rokem +35

      Pomegranate is lit

    • @raulw858
      @raulw858 Před rokem +43

      Lmao “salad won’t fill you up” is the most ridiculous thing I’ve ever heard. Also I can get enough vegetables for a salad and a veggie heavy stir fry both in 1 day for like a week for $15-$20. That’s 14 meals. Your dad was just lazy, I’m sorry you went through that

    • @emmaphilo4049
      @emmaphilo4049 Před rokem +8

      I am so sorry :( some parents really are a handful

    • @corilia9529
      @corilia9529 Před rokem +8

      Congrats on the weight loss

  • @jenniferdaulby5519
    @jenniferdaulby5519 Před rokem +387

    A supermarket chain, here in Australia, gives every child a piece of fruit. So if the child is hungry whilst shopping - it's a free apple, banana, mandarin, etc. Such a good idea I think.

    • @joimumu
      @joimumu Před rokem +39

      Iceland does the same thing and I wish it was like that when I was a child

    • @sreekar5691
      @sreekar5691 Před rokem +15

      Same with Fry's in the US! Though I doubt most kids eat them.

    • @animeloveer97
      @animeloveer97 Před rokem +12

      fruit aint that healthy either modern fruits have way more sugar

    • @janys6502
      @janys6502 Před rokem +5

      That's a great idea, especisllu since a kid would see some sweets or snack while hungry and ask their parents to buy it for them

    • @SY-ok2dq
      @SY-ok2dq Před rokem +33

      @@animeloveer97 What do you mean by "modern fruits"? Do you mean the popular supermarket fruits that have been around since the 60s? Because the fruit available for sale has not changed all that much from the 60s through to the current time, with the range of fruits available widening but at the budget end, there has been little change. Yet the vast majority of kids and adults in the 60s, 70s and even the 80s remained within a healthy weight range in the Western world. It seems to me that obesity gradually rose from the 80s to become the problem that it is now.
      The top selling/most widely stocked and sold bananas in supermarkets today would be the Cavendish variety. That's the same banana that was everywhere when I was growing up in the 70s/80s. And that's what I regularly ate, along with other fruits. I remained very slim throughout my youth. And at school, there were only a very small number of young children and teens who were chubby, and only a few who were obese.
      The sugar content etc. of Cavendish bananas have not changed at all since they were introduced since - after all, it's the same variety. And Cavendish plants are all genetic clones of the original plant, being propagated by cuttings not by seed.

  • @dohaops4635
    @dohaops4635 Před rokem

    I have had ground for almost a year and it has been very good for keeping me up to date with the world(no socials)

  • @yehmen29
    @yehmen29 Před 11 měsíci +41

    'If you don't buy it, they can't eat it'. Perfectly put. When I was 18-25, I tutored children (teenagers) from wealthy French families in Paris and its posh suburbs. Many of them were doing drugs. Not just cannabis, but also Ecstasy and even cocaine. Many of them were sexually active too, and some of them had started having sex (usually with other teens) before they were the legal age for sex, which is 15 in France. As a result the mothers would take their daughters to the gynaecologist so that they could get a prescription for the contraceptive pill. As they didn't use condoms (yet they could afford drugs) some of them would get venereal diseases. I had a 18-year pupil (3 years behind at school) who had been sexually active since he was 14 and had managed to catch drug resistant syphillis when he was 16. He had been expelled from 3 private Roman CAtholic schools in a row because he was dealing drugs. His parents paid £20K pa (in today's money) for his current school, which was non boarding. That fee didn't even include the canteen. The boy's mother gave him around £20 every morning so that he could have lunch in a brasserie or similar with his friends. Whenever the parents asked me for advice about their kids' school results, I suggested they get them off the drugs. No one can focus on their English or Maths homework while on cannabis or ecstasy. The parents would counter that if the kids didn't take drugs, they wouldn't have any friends at school. If I suggested not giving them so much pocket money in the first place (these kids were receiving the equivalent of the net minimum salary from the age of 12), the parents would be horrified. THey would argue that if they didn't give their kids so much pocket money, they would end up having to prostitute themselves to buy the drugs, the designer clothes, etc. that they 'needed'. That money could have help bring up several kids who were living in poverty, buying food, clothes, stationery, sports kits, etc.

    • @3namechangezalowdevry90day7
      @3namechangezalowdevry90day7 Před 7 měsíci +7

      Wow. The US is kind of like that in how the teacher is blamed for low grades no matter how bizarro the kids' home lives are.

    • @Psilomuscimol
      @Psilomuscimol Před 5 měsíci

      I did way harder drugs than weed and still graduated fine.

    • @Psilomuscimol
      @Psilomuscimol Před 5 měsíci

      Meth. Heroin. Xanax. Fent. Xylazine once even.

    • @Psilomuscimol
      @Psilomuscimol Před 5 měsíci

      Xylazine was after I graduated and I blacked out for a whole car drive.

    • @lintera5157
      @lintera5157 Před 5 měsíci +12

      ​@@Psilomuscimolbragging about using drugs is fucking sad yo😭

  • @cheddarmx5969
    @cheddarmx5969 Před rokem +598

    My parents almost ruined my life like this. I was 200 pounds at 13 and 5’8”. At 15 I was depressed I started going to the gym. I started eating in a very steep calorie deficit. I lost my appetite for sugar and corn syrup and lost 50 pounds (with no help from my parents btw, they still bought junk food and i struggled at the start of my journey). now I’m bulking again but this time I’m putting muscle on and becoming a better version of myself.

    • @diamondking169
      @diamondking169 Před rokem +16

      They obviously don’t care about your health as much as they should. I know it’s hard hearing and accepting this because they are your parents. Or sucks. But good job turning your life around! Keep going!

    • @miltonbates6425
      @miltonbates6425 Před rokem +13

      Seed oils and sugar are the main culprits behind the obesity epidemic. Add to that the plant-based agenda that promotes nutritionally-deficient foods in forms that aren't bioavailable to the human body (not to mention the fact that they're often loaded with antinutrients) and you have the recipe for weight gain and disease.

    • @Arizona_lilly
      @Arizona_lilly Před rokem +3

      So proud of u!

    • @cheesefart570
      @cheesefart570 Před rokem

      Become the peak of what you can be and prove everyone who doubted you wrong

    • @Trigorastronomology
      @Trigorastronomology Před rokem

      Inspiration is everywhere. You just have to look. - wise man.

  • @pat7785
    @pat7785 Před rokem +317

    I actually have Hypothyroidism, and I have a normal BMI (21.9). My mother is a dietitian and she made sure to feed me normal amounts of healthy food as a child. Even with poor genetics, childhood obesity is almost entirely to blame on the parents.

    • @themissakura599
      @themissakura599 Před rokem +4

      And kids see their parents as role models. Mines had a healthy diet and practiced sports. We all grew up as healthy sporting children.
      I can't eat fast food now, it's tasteless and way too sweet.

    • @debanydoombringer1385
      @debanydoombringer1385 Před rokem +3

      @thesmileyone It would depend on the cause. It won't "cure" my autoimmune disease. Hashimoto's has recently been discovered as the leading cause of hypothyroidism. Before anyone comes back with "why are autoimmune diseases so much more prevalent", it's because testing for them as improved. That's always been the leading cause, we just weren't able to find out why. It's the same with diabetes. If it's not caused by weight, it's almost always autoimmune.

    • @Orangecataura
      @Orangecataura Před rokem +2

      My family history is full of obesity, diabetes (both types) and hypothyroidism, my mom has hashimotos... I have hypothyroidism as well and I'm still not overweight, I am actually quite muscular because I like to lift heavy, I'm also short and I gain weight easily. There's no excuse just explanations, but explanations too are not reason to not want to be better.

  • @BriceTheOne
    @BriceTheOne Před 9 měsíci

    why is this the first time im hearing of you i think you deserve way more subscribers than any other channel on this platform

  • @NoctLightCloud
    @NoctLightCloud Před 9 měsíci +24

    my mom was like this, she did NOT care what unhealthy food she gave us to eat😅 In my 20s, I struggled a lot to lose all that weight. I've read somewhere that if you've been overweight as a kid & teen, it becomes even more difficult to lose that weight as an adult. It ofc didn't stop me but I sure as hell suffered unnecessarily, both physically (in the gym) but more importantly: mentally. My self-esteem was so low, I had to build that one up in my 20s, as well😅

    • @blindsey1043
      @blindsey1043 Před 3 měsíci +1

      Wow I'm proud of u and sorry I honestly it's was neglect

    • @NoctLightCloud
      @NoctLightCloud Před 3 měsíci

      @@blindsey1043 Thank you. I had to stop the self-pity when growing up, cause I guess it happens to many kids. I'd say over 50% of kids experience some kind of malnourishment.

  • @justrenderin1279
    @justrenderin1279 Před rokem +733

    I feel like the most important thing that's being neglected is a lack of knowledge on how to cook. Regardless of gender, EVERYONE should know what to eat and how to prepare for it. It's such an important life skill and yet I come from a household that only knew how to make food involving tons of oils, fats and sugar with very few vegetables (We never even had carrots).
    Learning to take care of myself is so huge that I'm grateful for services like Hello Fresh because it taught me more about healthy cooking than my own mother ever did.
    Nutrition courses should be a thing in school, you should know how to read the back of an ingredients label. And you should know what to watch out for.
    Exercise is hard to do but we all eat every single day. We need to know how to do it right

    • @123SuperBeast
      @123SuperBeast Před rokem +7

      I've been thinking about getting hello fresh, worth it for a single guy?

    • @ShasOKais117
      @ShasOKais117 Před rokem +25

      Cooking more food from scratch, particularly since I live alone, has been an improvement i'm glad i started sooner rather than later. Not only do you know what's going into what you eat, it's enjoyable to do and often tastes better to boot!

    • @cookiecreep9204
      @cookiecreep9204 Před rokem +18

      I concur, especially with CZcams. As long as you are sentient enough, you can follow a recipe as you see it, thank you Babish and Ramsay I've eaten way healthier and cheaper, and till I started I thought I'd burn even water.

    • @breakthecycle5238
      @breakthecycle5238 Před rokem +8

      No excuse when you can just use CZcams

    • @GlitchPoachers
      @GlitchPoachers Před rokem +11

      At my middle school, everyone took a home ec class. We didn't even spend that much time on food, but it was enough to teach us how to follow basic recipes and got us familiar with basic kitchen tools. I wish that was more common, and I wish the high school would've offered a more advanced cooking class, but it's something.
      Eating out healthy gets expensive real quick, cooking healthy is dirt cheap.

  • @melissam.6652
    @melissam.6652 Před rokem +438

    I gasped out loud when she said she gave her daughter a bottle of juice in the night to make her go back to sleep. Jesus Christ no surprise her poor baby teeth are rotting away.

    • @_Iseah
      @_Iseah Před rokem +18

      Water is better

    • @wilsonweiseng6485
      @wilsonweiseng6485 Před rokem +32

      whatever happened to drinking good old H2O?

    • @_Iseah
      @_Iseah Před rokem +15

      @@wilsonweiseng6485 I wish Water tasted like Soda without damaging our health, but it never will.

    • @jell-opop9431
      @jell-opop9431 Před rokem +4

      @@_Iseah I think there is an invention similar to that, I'm not sure though

    • @irxosm1
      @irxosm1 Před rokem +2

      @@jell-opop9431 sodastream?

  • @vickiesorenson2383
    @vickiesorenson2383 Před 4 měsíci +1

    lol . Love your straightforward approach. 😊

  • @hiorpnana0479
    @hiorpnana0479 Před rokem +3

    I appreciate of your analysis of Pavia's part of the video. Being a young girl, a preteen is so extremely difficult emotionally. No wonder she was fidgeting with her phone during the consultation, or being snippy. There was so little effort put into gaining Pavia's trust or consoling her in any way even from her own mother until Paul reaches out to help.

    • @DocBree13
      @DocBree13 Před 6 měsíci

      Yeah - that was really impressive to me - he had some excellent advice

  • @Papi_SpringRoll
    @Papi_SpringRoll Před rokem +1015

    I’m on a weight loss journey guys. At the beginning of March I was 295 Ilbs at 6’3. I’m proud to say that after roughly 5 months of working out and eating normal portions of food I was able to slim all the way down to 229. I’m not done yet, at most I want to be at 200. Wish me luck on this final stretch I really need it. Also, love the videos dude!

    • @atari9665
      @atari9665 Před rokem +39

      Right on dude. You got it!

    • @shinske3564
      @shinske3564 Před rokem +16

      Final stretch is the hardest but keep going bro you will thank yourself you will be so happy! Please keep going and come back n tell us how it's going

    • @WebberLongplays
      @WebberLongplays Před rokem +25

      Good on you man. I went from 320 down to 250, so far. I'm gonna keep going too. I already feel a million times better.

    • @xconner2452
      @xconner2452 Před rokem +9

      I also started working out around March! Proud of you for taking the steps to get active and stay healthy. If you’ve gotten this far, that’s proof enough you can keep going and feel even better! You’ve got this.

    • @EKFgamingtv
      @EKFgamingtv Před rokem +6

      Great work man I'm looking to start my journey aswell and seeing others in similar boats do it tell me I can too.

  • @chaplainnormie
    @chaplainnormie Před rokem +275

    I extremely hate it when others tell you that weight lose is unnecessary. It’s definitely not! When you loose weight you become a better person and feel better.

    • @FurbyParade226
      @FurbyParade226 Před rokem +8

      How do you spell 'loss' but not 'lose'? Lol jw

    • @hadi_drums
      @hadi_drums Před rokem +5

      agreed, but it's "lose"

    • @chaplainnormie
      @chaplainnormie Před rokem +3

      Ah crap lol just noticed that.

    • @user-zs9ux1ru8u
      @user-zs9ux1ru8u Před rokem +5

      Honestly it depends on the situation, but for the most part I agree. Speaking as a person that long since recovered from bulimia, weight loss is indeed important as long as you're doing it safely and have a diet plan in mind rather than throwing up, taking diet pills that have adverse side effects, or starving yourself.

    • @genox3636
      @genox3636 Před rokem

      You are beautiful as you are.

  • @wolfensponge_fan
    @wolfensponge_fan Před 2 měsíci +1

    I was originally 263 back in my middle school years, so I started to go with my uncle to lose weight, I am still on my journey to reach below 200lbs, im right now at 223, I still got a long ways to go, I am trying new foods with my grandma and plan to grind during summer break to around 210, 195. Wish me luck!

  • @pb95-bn4fc
    @pb95-bn4fc Před 10 měsíci +17

    As someone whose obese and ashamed of myself, I am thankful for your content. It gives some insight on psychology. I love to eat meat and vegetables but get tempted by carbs. Getting help for it now. Thank God!

    • @olgajones7530
      @olgajones7530 Před 9 měsíci +4

      Vegetables have carbs, and carbs aren’t necessarily bad depending on what you eat. I really recommend visiting a nutritionist, it will help you plan meals better and wish you the best of luck ❤

    • @davidcox3076
      @davidcox3076 Před 5 měsíci

      @@olgajones7530 Another vote for the nutritionist. They can provide a lot of tools to get on a healthy eating plan.

    • @FransceneJK98
      @FransceneJK98 Před 3 měsíci +1

      I got on the keto diet and it’s completely erased my cravings for sugar and fast food. I keep my carbs under 30g a day now. Lost tons of weight and many medical issues cleared up too. Can definitely recommend looking into

  • @badrequest5596
    @badrequest5596 Před rokem +306

    I have lived in the UK and i noticed that people do use children as a pay check. The governement gives fat benefits per kid. The more you have the more money you get. I heard young women saying they needed to get pregnant so they can afford to get out of their parents house. It honestly horrified me. It gave me the impressiona they dont actually care about their children. Obviously this isnt everyone, but a lot of people seem to think like this. Things may have changed since then. This was over 10 years ago

    • @connordickerson6815
      @connordickerson6815 Před rokem +24

      I have met people that won't work over 16 hours because if they worked 40 they would end up with less money.

    • @tristanbackup2536
      @tristanbackup2536 Před rokem +15

      Sometimes I wish we need to take away daddy government. Want kids? Find a man who will settle & support, take responsibility.

    • @meelodeshmeeelo2034
      @meelodeshmeeelo2034 Před rokem +5

      @@tristanbackup2536 yes in an ideal world. We do not live in an ideal world. Relationships breakdown, people die, accidents happen et et etc

    • @meelodeshmeeelo2034
      @meelodeshmeeelo2034 Před rokem +11

      @@makingadjustments one of the problems here in the UK, as someone mentioned, wages are so low for many so they have to top up on benefits - earn a wee bit over the threshold and boom they have to pay for things they would have gotten free or reduced when claiming top up. The system kinda sets low earners up to NOT work more hours and I don’t blame them.

    • @meelodeshmeeelo2034
      @meelodeshmeeelo2034 Před rokem +4

      @thesmileyone where you getting those ‘facts’ from?! 😂

  • @HappywifeTaylor
    @HappywifeTaylor Před rokem +248

    I work in a pediatricians office and we had a 12 year old come in who weighted almost 400 pounds. She could barely lift her foot a inch and a half to step on the scale.

    • @mangersavoir4213
      @mangersavoir4213 Před rokem +28

      I had a pre K student that just turned 3 years old and he was 74 pounds.

    • @1439315
      @1439315 Před rokem

      Grocery store; see a fat guy & fat girl walk in, right behind them, chubby son & chubby daughter. Later when you are about to check out you pass them & look into their food cart; If i ate the crap they do then i would weigh what they do. Trash i snot food.

    • @rationalbacon5872
      @rationalbacon5872 Před rokem +69

      This should be considered child abuse by the parents. At the very least it's severe neglect. I just can't understand how we tolerate parents doing this?

    • @laur131306
      @laur131306 Před rokem +30

      @@rationalbacon5872 I was about to ask this same question! If a child is brought into my pediatrician that's severely underweight, the parents are usually in trouble...unless it's a rare case where it's a medical problem but USUALLY it's due to some form of neglect....but the parents of overweight kids arent looked at the same way. It's so odd. They're both serious abuse and neglect.

    • @Firestorm-613
      @Firestorm-613 Před rokem +18

      I am 14 and I can’t believe 12 years old can get 400 pounds. That’s terrible.

  • @Starclap92
    @Starclap92 Před 5 měsíci

    I like how you analyze the situations. You look at the BIG picture.

  • @michellemcgill9328
    @michellemcgill9328 Před rokem +19

    I worked in Pediatrics for 14 years. The advice we always gave was to never allow a child to go to bed with a bottle & to limit the amount of Juice given because of dental development.

  • @sumwitegurnm6558
    @sumwitegurnm6558 Před rokem +674

    My biggest gripe with the obesity epidemic is that it’s treated like a physical health issue not a mental one. It’s a mental condition with physical effects. There is something wrong with u in your head if u have those self destructive habits necessary to become obese (like under eating and anorexia). A lot of tense parents are coping with eating and There kids pick up on it! Treat the mentality and the body will be fixed in time.

    • @Loserstakethebait
      @Loserstakethebait Před rokem +47

      This is half true. Many people just really like food. I can't even count the number of people of I've met who just eat because they have easy access to food. It isn't like they are sad. They just like food that tastes good.

    • @Meatwad650
      @Meatwad650 Před rokem +2

      Great. Then have health insurance pay for it.

    • @Cybele1986
      @Cybele1986 Před rokem +17

      I think a lot of overweight people are susceptible to making bad food choices. However, pretty much every obese person I know has psychological issues around food.

    • @zo9690
      @zo9690 Před rokem +6

      Exactly it’s an eating disorder

    • @zo9690
      @zo9690 Před rokem +10

      @@Cybele1986 I mean sugar and salt addiction. if it’s not binge eating disorder… it’s a literal food addiction

  • @Zathren
    @Zathren Před rokem +810

    Fat acceptance may even be more sinister than we all think. I see a lot of obese customers where I work. And there's about twice as many female obese as their are men. With women being so over weight, they're less likely to want to take the effort to raise their kids responsibility. Hence obese kids.
    Edit: and to those asking "why do I care?" let me relate to you. Why do you care about an alcoholic? Or a drug addict? The homeless? These are people we can and should help. The men and women who are eating far to many calories every day are no acception. I'm only just starting to realize food addiction may be a real thing. Trying to lose weight when all you can think about is the delicious but worthless food you can buy is a terrible hole to be in. My day to day is a constant battle of will, hoping I lose another pound at the end of the week. As a fat guy trying to get healthy, I HATE that people seem to encourage the opposite these days.

    • @rizkiramadhan9266
      @rizkiramadhan9266 Před rokem

      They're not women. They're womanatees

    • @Red-jt6uu
      @Red-jt6uu Před rokem

      It's amazing that these cows manage to get pregnant in the first place. Are there really that many desperate men?

    • @xanthippus9079
      @xanthippus9079 Před rokem +83

      And they are given priority access to children in case of divorce 🤡

    • @samsonthewyrm9396
      @samsonthewyrm9396 Před rokem +54

      Single moms destroy children.
      Look at Arnold's son that lives with his mother vs the one that lives with him.
      Perfect example

    • @livedhill1640
      @livedhill1640 Před rokem

      I'm ask why do you care? Fat accepted is not a problem. If you wanna be fit go be that way. But going out your way pointing at fat people is dumb. Like along as your family is so call healthy then why you care?

  • @ryla22
    @ryla22 Před 10 měsíci +6

    I actually knew a girl when we were in the fifth grade (2012) who had a thyroid problem that made her fat.
    Nobody cared that she was a little fat because of it. And once she explained it to 3 or 4 other kids everyone stopped picking on her about it and we got on with the usual 11/12yr old drama.
    (I know she was properly diagnosed because she had yo leave to get surgery for it around 3/4 through the school year and she eventually got her weight fully under control not long after)

  • @UncleJoeLITE
    @UncleJoeLITE Před 6 měsíci

    Beautifully put.

  • @KlausSgroi
    @KlausSgroi Před rokem +251

    The face that mother does when she says "thyroid" (10:23) says everything. Even she doesn't believe what she's saying.

    • @CircumcisionIsChildAbuse
      @CircumcisionIsChildAbuse Před rokem +23

      yah I noticed she kept trying to stop herself from laughing and smiling. She really doesn't care. This is her paycheck to appear on this show. She doesn't care about her life just like she doesn't care about her kids. If she did, maybe the person who gave her 2 kids would still be around.

    • @yehmen29
      @yehmen29 Před 11 měsíci +4

      It's so quickly to test too, as the narrator pointed out. I have an overactive thyroid, ibs, cancer... and I can produce the test results (blood work, biopsy results, mri scans) to back that up.

  • @pete6300
    @pete6300 Před rokem +205

    Its harder for parents to stop their kids from drinking soda or eating healthy if they don't stop themselves. I used to drink a lot of soda until I had kids. I stopped buying any soda at all, even for myself, so my kids would drink more water. Having a soda at parties or a restaurant is more of a treat for my kids.

    • @mrmoustache8574
      @mrmoustache8574 Před rokem +9

      Good Example

    • @toastedsniper9248
      @toastedsniper9248 Před rokem +5

      same w my parents, it was like a treat. same w watching tv and stuff

    • @andrewevans6826
      @andrewevans6826 Před rokem +7

      I love pepsi but damn those 24oz bottles have 84g of carb in them.. thats like a whole meal you can chug in 10 seconds. Least in carbs

    • @SkylineFTW97
      @SkylineFTW97 Před rokem +3

      I drank a lot of soda as a kid. Stopped on my own in my late teens. Haven't touched a single one in almost 6 years now. I definitely won't be keeping any around the house should I have kids.
      Leading by example is always the best way to instill habits and values in kids. For instance, my dad was big on honesty and taking pride in your work. He had been taking me on his plumbing jobs since I was 12. I saw that with everything he did and developed the same tendency. I'm an Auto mechanic myself. I routinely find that I'm one of few technicians who will take the time to do things like torque wheels by hand. Yeah, it takes longer, but the end result is the best by far. And if my name is on the repair order, I'm liable if I mess something up. Even if for purely selfish reasons, taking pride in one's work means you get more people recommending you and coming back, which means more money for you.

    • @Marky-Mark1337
      @Marky-Mark1337 Před rokem +2

      Transitioning to citrus flavored sparking water helped me curb my soda addiction.

  • @iambox_face
    @iambox_face Před 10 měsíci +6

    My mom did the right thing in training me to eat healthy foods at a young age. We only get to drink sodas and things whenever we go out (not too often especially that school is starting for me) and I only get sodas rarely because all that bubbles and fizz just doesnt sit right with me. Especially with Sprite. We don't buy chips when we go grocery shopping. My mom is trying a fish and vegetables diet (the rest of us gotta do that too) to improve her health and it actually tastes GOOD since she knows how to make "boring" food taste better.

  • @themanbehindyou7290
    @themanbehindyou7290 Před rokem +4

    this man is like a therapist for your communication skills.

  • @gemmagreene362
    @gemmagreene362 Před rokem +804

    When people say that obesity is “genetic”, they are talking nonsense. I was a child in the UK in the 70s & there were about 2 overweight kids in the whole school (and when I say that, I mean slightly chubby, not obese). Genetics can not work that quickly. What they mean by “genetics” is having fat parents/grandparents/siblings, ie an obesogenic family environment. But calling it “genetics” or “thyroid problems” places the blame outside of the family & makes it less likely that they will take any real steps to change it.

    • @larajones175
      @larajones175 Před rokem +13

      Genetics does have a part in it . A Thyroid from Mom and Dad . The eating disorder from the thyroid, I don't understand. Mom is still 120 at 5'4 and I'm 137lbs at 5'9. It's metabolism . Once addressed , There's no issue with weight. You'll gain a bit of weight knowing something is wrong . About 15 - 20 (Not 100 ) pounds. You are what you eat, Ignor your teeth, They'll go away , And an apple a day keeps Doctor away! Responsibile active parents that didn't indulge or have excuses was so appreciated looking back. Children emulate their parents. We must be accountable for their outcome, Instilling great habits from the start.

    • @animeloveer97
      @animeloveer97 Před rokem

      i remember my ex best freind saying obesity ran in her family when we were 12/13. even then i was like nah dude yall all just eat like shit

    • @davidortiz3094
      @davidortiz3094 Před rokem +39

      @@larajones175 People act like they can't lose the weight by going to the gym. Lazy people always make excuses.

    • @connorself
      @connorself Před rokem +31

      Although weight is “genetic” in a sense; it’s often misinterpreted and twisted. The genetic predisposition to be obese does exist, but that does not mean you will become obese, just that you have a higher likelihood than the general population due to XYZ. However you can take extra steps to prevent this from happening. I am at an extreme predisposition for diabetes as my entire father side has type 1 diabetes and my mothers side has a lineage of type 2, however I’m still in good health due to me being proactive about my body care. These people can take care of themselves but choose to blame genetics for their inactivity.

    • @wolfywonder8480
      @wolfywonder8480 Před rokem +1

      My mom has thyroid problems and, as a result, has difficulty with her weight. Sometimes she will inexplicably gain or lose weight despite not changing her eating habits and taking medication to regulate her condition. However, she is nowhere near morbidly obese because she has good eating habits and outright refuses to get fast food or even eat out period, except for a few times a year when it comes to going to a nice restaurant for a family member’s birthday, or something similar. These problems do exist and can be hard to work with, but they’re no excuse for poor habits

  • @adamwest5625
    @adamwest5625 Před rokem +619

    My dad had a ‘difficult chat’ with me when I was 11 - l was getting quite fat and my dad suggested that I take up a sport to get healthier..
    ..picked up basketball and that became obsessed with the game. That also got me into other sports and now I’m 44, I’m in the best shape of my life with 7% body fat.
    My dad who is now 64 remains in unbelievable shape as he has been active all his life. He is the one who inspired me to become the best version of me to this day.

    • @plexyglass429
      @plexyglass429 Před rokem +18

      How did that chat go? How did he approach it?

    • @cruelreality6789
      @cruelreality6789 Před rokem +22

      7% is really low, is not not near dangerously low?

    • @diamonddogs6037
      @diamonddogs6037 Před rokem +9

      7% is low, my son is 16 and I just recently started him working out.

    • @Ryan-wx1bi
      @Ryan-wx1bi Před rokem

      7% isn't healthy... But I doubt you're actually 7%. Most tests are inaccurate

    • @goulash6737
      @goulash6737 Před rokem +30

      @@cruelreality6789 typically you wanna add 4-6% to someone's BF% claim

  • @turna1216
    @turna1216 Před rokem +1

    23:48 this is really a british moment. The mom is like 😐, the kid is like 😒, the doctor is like 🙂

  • @sophie9419
    @sophie9419 Před 11 měsíci

    Really love all the stuff in this video about influencing people.

  • @THEBIGNADZ
    @THEBIGNADZ Před rokem +831

    When I was a personal trainer my boss was ripped, she had a 6 pack at 40, gorgeous woman. Then she revealed she has had thyroid issues her whole life among a tonne of other health issues.She never let any clients get away with using their thyroid as an excuse. I really do feel like sometimes when people get answers the answers turn into excuses. " well I have ______ thats why" . Through intuitive eating and listening to my body I lost 40lbs and managed to keep it off for 10 years so far. There was nothing positive about being overweight. I can never get behind this "movement" that is based in a lack of movement 🤣

    • @afrozoldyck
      @afrozoldyck Před rokem +7

      Lmao

    • @kittycat8222
      @kittycat8222 Před rokem +36

      Thank you! So many thyroid cryers in these comment section. I was literally born with deformed feet and ankles along with bones spurs in my knees and I never let that cause me to make excuses. I am only .7 lbs over my BMI.

    • @THEBIGNADZ
      @THEBIGNADZ Před rokem +8

      @@kittycat8222 good for you, for not letting that stop you! It's easy to find examples of people doing nothing about their problems. Its inconvenient for people to believe that others actually push through and don't let set backs completely stop them.

    • @andreab9
      @andreab9 Před rokem +14

      Your boss is so right. I was diagnosed with Graves Disease (hyperthyroidism) and was told that my medication may make me gain up to 10-15 pounds, but no more than that. I did gain 10 pounds over the course of a few months, but it’s slowly coming off as I get better. Throughout the entirety of my treatment I have been avoiding inflammatory foods like gluten and soy. I’ve also been prioritizing an active lifestyle. Not to say that I didn’t do these things before, but when you are being treated for Graves, weight gain becomes SO much easier. But at some point you have to hold yourself accountable. It’s been quite a journey for my body but I’ve prioritized keeping stress levels down, getting all my nutrients in and staying active to AVOID excessive weight gain. People are allergic to accountability I guess.

    • @ihavenonameforyou1
      @ihavenonameforyou1 Před rokem +11

      Your boss has her life revolved around fitness and working out and it somehow proves that it is not genetic to an extent. Most people have lives and things they need to achieve not just train 24/7. For some to be fit you need to sacrifice a lot of your life while for others it comes naturally.

  • @FishAnvil
    @FishAnvil Před rokem +437

    Every time I'd go to my doctor with my mom I'd be around the 10th percentile of underweight boys for my age, so maybe 3 or 4 pounds under where I should be. The amount of questions she and I were asked to see if I was being abused or neglected was insane when you consider that forcing your child to be in constant pain is met with absolutely no concern.

    • @rwsd343
      @rwsd343 Před rokem +62

      In primary school, I had to get a blood test because one of the teachers thought I was being neglected. If I had been a fat kid, she would have done nothing.

    • @splicerbabe
      @splicerbabe Před rokem +16

      my sibling is 6’7 or something ridiculous, tall parents, short me(5’3). But they were always extremely tall and lanky, taller than parents now, and growing up we always heard people talking about them, even though they would leave no food for us and has a sugar addiction.
      On contrast, I didn’t have weight issues until college, campus food plan and a new bf who took me out to eat every weekend or more was too many calories. I was about 140 at my highest, spent a lot of time counting calories, tracking what I burned on the treadmill, being strict with myself. I got down to 115 and then a bit later i got food poisoning and got almost below 100 since food made me nauseous and still to this day does it effect my relationship with food, but I gotta push through it and eat or overeat when i can to make sure i never get to such a scary point again. It scared everyone I knew, I wasn’t advocating for acceptance, I knew it was a problem and was trying to fix it.

    • @AdriCr4ft
      @AdriCr4ft Před rokem +11

      I’m guessing it’s because if a child has access to no food and is being abused or neglected then that child isn’t going to be alive for many more days.
      While a child that over eats, even tho it’s neglectful, it’s a different kind of neglect/abuse.

    • @leifmeadows3782
      @leifmeadows3782 Před rokem +7

      @@AdriCr4ft CPS is so overwhelmed by cases that they probably can't start coming after children with severe obesity.
      I also wonder if this is a case of the laws not catching up with the times. We have laws in place to deal with parents not feeding their children because for years and years THAT was the most likely problem.
      Whereas now, severe childhood obesity is also common.
      Oh and also you would have people rioting int he streets if you tried to criminalize letting your child get morbidly obese.
      You then have to decide where to draw the line: are parents allowed to let their child get a little overweight? If so, by how much? If they're 10 pounds overweight do we leave them alone or do we have to do a CPS visit or do we just leave them alone? Should we wait until they're obese class 1, 2, or 3?
      It would be a logistical nightmare and I'm not necessarily saying we shouldn't sit down as a society and figure it out, I'm just saying it would be a logistical nightmare AND there would be rioting in the streets AND no politician who could possibly be up for re-election is going to want to wade into that mess.
      Oh and also CPS can't even remove children who are being physically abused half the time, so there's that.

    • @AdriCr4ft
      @AdriCr4ft Před rokem

      @@leifmeadows3782 well what I meant was that being obese isn’t as dangerous as being in an actual abusive home. So CPS should put deadly cases first than irresponsible behaviour.
      Let’s be honest here.
      They feed the kids what they feed themselves.
      You must have heard that phrase or sentence before, if you are cold then your child needs 2 layers more. Something like that.
      So they overfeed their children thinking their as hungry as them. They have food in the house and they clearly don’t lock their cupboards. Otherwise they would be skin and bones.
      They don’t hit the kids or physically beat them. They love them enough to fatten them up.
      So in my eyes this is a lowest of the lowest rank for neglect and isn’t going to get attention which I agree with.
      Sexual abuse/r@pe/ physical are the ones who need most attention to.

  • @VeepoDota2
    @VeepoDota2 Před 11 měsíci

    Watching this and other videos by yourself like it I have touched nothing but water for weeks now and never felt better

  • @justindent496
    @justindent496 Před 11 měsíci +6

    I like how he uses random pictures of Earth for the background instead of Gameplay, it is a really nice change of pace.

  • @chocolatebunny3221
    @chocolatebunny3221 Před rokem +263

    When you have children, there’s never an easy life😡. You have to absolutely work your butt off to provide for yourself and the children. This woman is the very reason why not everyone should have children.

    • @deionmolina2758
      @deionmolina2758 Před rokem +19

      This is absolutely true. My son is turning 8 now and all he wants to do is be like his dad which is eat the same foods and do the same things. I work out every day at home for my potential career and maintain my shape and him seeing me do this also causes him to want to partake. I haven't seen a comment like this but my main point is that kids will mostly follow in their parents footsteps alot of the time. You eat healthy and avoid the sugars and poor diet they will (most likely want to) too. You exercise and show them how fun and accomplishing it is and they will try to imitate you. Alot of parents just let their children do what they want and eat anything as long as they leave them alone but that is a problem, obviously. I was on top of my son (not so much any more) when he was given drinks or sweets and would limit it all. Now he will mostly drink and ask for water and likes seeing the different colors in the foods we eat. It definitely is up to the parents, or parent, to show their children a good example and they will in turn reap the benefits as they grow and maintain those same habits.

    • @nostrum8
      @nostrum8 Před rokem +2

      This mom is a perfect example not the very reason. Other than that you are obviously right.

    • @supermaximglitchy1
      @supermaximglitchy1 Před rokem +2

      every child deserves a parent
      but not every parent deserves a child

    • @lautaroka5847
      @lautaroka5847 Před rokem

      No one should have children, though.

    • @CircumcisionIsChildAbuse
      @CircumcisionIsChildAbuse Před rokem

      ​@@lautaroka5847 yah? why? That's like saying "no dogs should have puppies" why? says who? someone who hates puppies? To me, anyone with those views usually don't have a very high regard for humanity in general. Which one are you? The type that thinks they're saving the planet by putting it into a population crisis? The idea that your choice to have children or not, is determining the fate of the planet, fails to address the fact that most of the worlds pollution, comes from very specific areas of the world that your choices have no real influence on. So when India and China continue to pollute for the wellbeing of their offspring, you stop producing offspring. Nothing really changes except there is now less potential technological innovative minds in the planet helping us create technology to solve the problems of pollution. Then, when the population bubble bursts, it's going to be even worse. You'll be burdened with taking care of an elderly population far more because there is less people to shoulder that responsibility. It's like handing an adult couple 20 kids all at once. That's what the population crisis is going to end up doing, cause a massive amount of trauma, stress and problems when the old are dying, sick, in need of care, but there's no one to take care of them. The same way its a problem when there's too many kids and not enough people to raise them.

  • @Purple0fairy0bunny
    @Purple0fairy0bunny Před rokem +505

    My daughter was 168 lbs at 10. We were concerned woth her weight and her dr said they dont worry about weight until 15 and then will start process for bariatric surgery. We changed drs and was immediately able to get blood work done. Changed eating habits and within 6 months had lost 30 lbs but also gained 4in in height. Shes now 13 and has been steady at 150 and (currrently 5' 4") for over 2 years but her labs are all now normal.
    On the flip side my son was underweight and they hospitalized him for a week to get him to gain but he gained .4 oz so released him.

    • @ThinkBeforeYouSleepYT
      @ThinkBeforeYouSleepYT  Před rokem +291

      What a horrible doctor. He was literally pushing you towards expensive surgery when it was completely unnecessary.

    • @umbreonfan0369
      @umbreonfan0369 Před rokem

      @@ThinkBeforeYouSleepYT Doctors gotta get money out of you somehow. Probably why they are pushing for it.

    • @emmaphilo4049
      @emmaphilo4049 Před rokem +101

      @@ThinkBeforeYouSleepYT not only expensive but also a quite heavy one with consequences on daily life.

    • @fatmakucuk837
      @fatmakucuk837 Před rokem +14

      That's what kind of a parent I want to become

    • @mangersavoir4213
      @mangersavoir4213 Před rokem +20

      @@ThinkBeforeYouSleepYT I'm sure the doctor was getting a kick back from that.

  • @intuitive_duck
    @intuitive_duck Před rokem

    I agree, I think it’s great advice to stop gaining first then focus on losing weight. It took me a long time to figure out how to maintain weight vs gaining.