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Boyfriend must be a stud to attract the ladyâs while living in his moms basement đ
BBC OR BWC only you can decide
@@rollingacresfarmstead206 you are a ingger.
Basements are really nice though cause it's always a nice cool temperature.
@@derekmpfinance3793 Yeah. Especially in the summer.
Deff has a 10 inch hog
Did Dave just say WHEN you break up?đđ
Right!!! He literally changed it from if to when lol. đ€Łđ€Łđ€Łđ€Ł
Yeah cuz if you're not married then ultimately you will "break up" đ. Kinda like divorce never happens lol
@@thedaveramseyshow1426 scamming A hole
@Er Sc hate scammers ! It's not the real dave Ramsey channel, they just stole Dave's logo to seem legit. Obviously I'm a fan of the real Dave .
27 living in mama's basement, Dave knows she's there for the minute
Dave was trying really, really hard to keep his composure when he first started giving his advice đŹđŹđŹđ€Łđ€Łđ€Łđ€Ł
Lol...true, and I love him for that!!!
Lol âIâm gonna pretend that I care deeply about your futureâ - Dave ROFL
You got me at boyfriendâs moms basement, is the reason why I clicked on the video
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Me too. I drew in a sharp breath and thought "She's calling DAVE with this? Shes brave!"
Me too đđđđ
Yes
â@@andreamcintyre9952- brave, crazy or a glutton for punishment and embarrassment
I swear when these people who live together but arenât married call Dave Ramsey Iâm always like...do you even know this man or his principles?! You are about to get a talkin tođ
I donât get it. One thing living in your own apartment. You living with you boyfriend mom! Loser
@Johnny Five She's with this guy either because she can't find that kind of man (so they just date the bottom of the barrel because the average guys want nothing to do with them), or she likes the struggle. I used to see women with broke guys, neglectful guys, sometimes even downright abusive guys, and used to think they just needed "saving". Now I've learned, they don't want to be saved. They want what they have.
They lack self awareness. This caller specifically was so nonchalant about cohabitation then dropped living in the momâs basement at 30 and 27 !!!!!
God's principles!
Yeah she said she listens religiously. People always think they are the exception to the rule and that their situation is unique. It almost never is.
My favorite part of these interviews is when people ask Dave how heâs doing. âBetter than I deserrrveâ it really puts life into context. We are so blessed no matter what we are going through. If you woke up this morning thatâs something to be thankful for.
Aged 30 and 27 and they canât afford to move out of the basement? This is a sad thing. Are they going to be able to afford the rent once mom stops paying?
Act like you know anything about them. Obviously they want to get their own place. Jesus. đđđ
@@kauigirl808 Act like you read my comment. My point was, can they afford it on their own. Since they are 27 and 30 and still living in the basement, Iâm thinking, NO.
@@hollyb6885 still? How long were they there? You heard the man. Coupled shouldn't be leasing an apartment together. They should be READY. How do you even know they are ready?!!
They aren't married. đđ
@@kauigirl808 The fact that they are living in the basement for ANY length of time AND mom is going to finance their move, would indicate they canât afford a place on theyâre own.
From a father's heart. I hope she listens
27 and 30 and yâall canât get your own apartment without mommy?
Yeah there isn't really an excuse. I would guess it's because one of them won't get a job.
so mad he didnt ask anything about a job
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Yeah. It's very comfy and mom's food tastes better
"We listen to you all of the time, but we don't follow a thing you say."
Iâd definitely go with option one, would not want my partnerâs mother to be my landlord.
Agreed. I actually support living together before marriage before marriage, just not owning property together before it
Similar. I would let her pay the deposit. If she is paying on the rent, they are more likely to get into a place that they canât afford on their own income.
Exactly - the apartment thing is fine, the rent-to-own thing is a big NO đ đœââïž
Finding affordable housing in Boulder, Colorado is a mission doomed to failure. I wish he had asked Emily why, at 30 and 27, they are struggling to afford an apartment.
Sheâs in her boyfriends momâs basement making tic tok videos.
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You don't know that. It could be OF videos...
@@yamamancha chase that bag
@@yamamancha you can make serious $ on OF. She doesnât sound that lucrative considering sheâs going to let her boyfriends mom fund her living situation.
Wow. 30 and 27. Neither is self-reliant. They are both dependent on his mommy, and she seems to think that this is normal for adults. I think that the most critical message should have been PLEASE DON'T BREED.
It actually is normal in most of the world. The whole get out at 18 is a 1950s WASP concept that doesn't hold up with modern asset prices.
@@Jay-pf2cn 18 isn't realistic for most but this dude is 27 and his gf 30. Thats crazy that he's still at home with mommy nd living in basement
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@@Jay-pf2cn30 and 27. Not even close to 18
ââ@@Jay-pf2cnand yet the mother is kicking him out because whether u think the world changes America has not. Parents often kick their 30 year old children out. They have had 10 years to get it together. It's not natural for an adult child to stay with parents this long. You have kids and they start their own lives esp by 30.
"When you break up" ouch Dave! Lol
Some people just must live a complicated and difficult life. Maybe its the drama thing......they need drama.
Don't know if this is the case here but yes, lots of people are bored (aka boring) so they create new problems for themselves and others.
Yes! My wife and I have seen this over and over again! We refuse to deal with drama filled people
That is a real thing. They grew up in chaos and are attracted to it because it gives them comfort.
This is a real thing. My mom was a person like this just always has to be in a argument, sadness, depression or something and even put on me. She would look at me happy and laughing and she be like why you laughing you sound like an idiot smh Iâm glad I moved out never been happier in my life
Drugs and alcohol are a thing
As a 27 year old male renting a 1 bedroom apt, I agree. He needs to earn enough money or learn some kind of skill to get his own place and stop living with mommy. There's no better feeling knowing that your 100% independent knowing you can support yourself and others.
With asset prices soaring, and incomes stagnant, the 1950s concept of independence is quite honestly hilarious.
@@Jay-pf2cn That's the honest truth. Unless you live with your parents to pay off debt and/or build up investments. Good luck ever getting ahead this day in age.
I mean yea if you like living in a pod with no space and no prospect of ever saving any money.
We don't care about feelings. We care about money.
I hope this woman is strong enough to stand up for herself.
A grown 30yr old woman Living with a 27yr old in his mommy's basement đ€đ€đ€
Can you say Democrat run city? LOL đ
Not ideal.
@@SisyphusJP lol
@@shadowsmith1386 dude I gotta laugh at my self man, lol Iâm 26 my fiancĂ©âs 23 we stay in the basement, saved over 130k but guess what in my area thatâs barely enough for a down payment lol
@@SisyphusJPmove lmao you could buy plenty of houses in cash here in Texas with that
Isn't it funny that she claims she listens religiously and yet has done nothing that follows his ways at all. 27, broke and live with bf in a basement. Dont sound like anything Dave would tell you to do.
Buying an apartment with her boyfriend is a bad idea... letting your boyfriend's mom buy an apartment and then rent it to you is a TERRIBLE idea!!!!!!
Renting An apartment together is not a bad idea imo. What is he doing living in mom's basement at 27 years old? Lol. It's better off if they lived at a homeless shelter really. What goals, motivations do they have living in moms basement? If he's a doctor and isolated, that's different story.
She listens to Dave âreligiouslyâ but does everything wrong if Dave was a religion đ
Probably how God looks at most Christians lol
@@talyahr3302 lololol omg right lulz lulz lolololololollllllll
He manages Ramsey solutions like a s c a m a r t i s t
@@sami-9233 whyâs that?
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Stay. SIngle. Get your OWN apartment...27 YO guy and lives in HIS Mom's basement?!?!?! WHY?????
Red flag..warning...danger Will Robison...
Maybe he wanted to wait to leave until marriage
27 is the new 17
Also itâs called saving money
@@insideoutsideupsidedown2218 LOL I haven't heard that phrase in a VERY long time (unless it's me saying it)!
"When yall break up!" -Dave
If I was 30 I'd just leave and get my own place. There are 18-year-olds (and younger) with their own place
I doubt there are people younger then 18 having their own place.
@@humantrash7980 out of 7.6 billion people in the world, you find it improbable that anyone under 18 have a place of their own?
So theres 16 year olds with their own place?
@@michaeltren4910 famous teen singers probably don't live in their parents basement
@@brucewayne3892 yea clearly millions of famous teen singers see it all the time.
When I was a teller, I would see so many people get mad because I couldn't cash the security deposit check the landowner wrote out to both the exboyfriend and exgirlfriend cuz they refused to talk to each other, but the landowner has to return the funds to whoever signed the lease. Money down the drain over a bad relationship.
Some people like to learn the hard way...great point you raise...
You must live in a big city. That would have been cashed in a small town lol
@@spaceshiptomoon Fresno isn't that big or that small
Iâm proud of Dave for not going off in his response đđ
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The ONLY reason my husband and I would live in either of our parents basement, is if we come across a very difficult time and canât pay our rent. Weâve had help with groceries in the past, and have a tight budget to begin with. We always make sure we can pay rent and other bills first.
30 đdealing with this? Get your own apartment
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She's not a serious person
another red flag was that she said she was not in the conversations about the plans... not good.
So many things wrong with this situation
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Sometimes the truth is beautiful, and this is one of those times. Truth, wisdom, honesty, compassion - expressed with kindness. At least several hundred million couples need to hear this. Please give it a like and share it! Brilliant advice!
I love Dave very caring †for this lady. The wisdom he gave (and gives) is truly from a place of love and care for other.
Sounds like the mom is trying to expand her real estate portfolio
Nailed it
Sounds like her son is a mooch and she wants him and her out
Sounds like mom is desperate to eject her loser son out, and will do and say anything to entice them to move forward.
She wants them out
âWhen you break upâ đ
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Next time ask Judge Judy. She loves helping people who play house! đ
As one who has went through exactly what Dave said. I would definitely not do that again, because you never know what will happen in the future even if your married.
Just move out and live on your own. Itâs worth the money. You are young. Donât waste your life on many bad decisions.
0:28 That moment "Mothers basement" came out her mouth I knew right then and there Dave was going to get on her tail his face changed quickđđ.
Bad idea, I did it, I was miserable!!
I don't get how people that listen to Dave Ramsey religiously, like she does, call in and ask the dumbest question you could ask Dave! Everyone knows how big Dave is on not living with your boyfriend or girlfriend and it's like they think he is magically gonna change his mind when they call lolll. Do they think that none of his previous advice applies to them???
Excellent point.
I agree. I knew his answer before he opened his mouth.
He has no problem with living with your boyfriend or girlfriend. The problem he has is putting both names on legal documents when people are not married.
That's basically it. They think their situation is so unique and the rules don't apply. They're wrong, of course, but that doesn't stop them.
@@PowerNGlory Dave Ramsey used to ask people (like this) when they were planning to get married. I don't think he cares anymore...
The Ramsey show knows I watch their videos on my lunch break. They always post at 1pm on the dot.
When âweâ do anything together financially âweâ should get married before hand. Two strangers donât make financial decisions together.
...its not even a moral issue but legal one
Yeah. Being being married is going to solve all of your problems lol.
@@stevenporter863Tell that to all the jokers that insist you donât need to be married to have married benefits.
30 yo gf living with 27 yo boyfriend in his mom's basement. I feel for that mom!!!!!!!! At some point, you've got to say, "I love you and I want you to have a good life, but you have GOT to break out on your own." For HIS sake, if not hers. Maybe can't afford to live in Boulder, but that's how it goes.
I don't feel sorry for the mom. She was likely the one who enabled her son in the first place.
The guy has nothing going for him, he must be absolutely packing.
women can be losers too
@@seabreeze4559 Absolutely, and men are much more likely to be with a loser woman with an amazing body.
I just want a women who cooks and does dishes
@@saelaird Seems to be the case here. He's packing, she's smoking hot ... and that's all they got going for them.
@@crack1270 Awww ... that's sweet! Do you cook for her sometimes too and put the dishes away? Then that would be a real relationship.
What is not mentioned in this video is whether the 27-year-old boyfriend has a job and, if so, does he make enough to afford an apartment in Boulder, CO where the median rent for a 1-bedroom apartment is not quite $2K.
If the area is too expensive, then move elsewhere. When there's not enough opportunity in one area, you go somewhere else. That's what humans have always done.
I am her age and I was in this exact type of situation with someone when I was in my early 20s
I left home because it was a bad situation, but lord nothing made me and my family seem more sane then my ex bfs TOXIC family. My ex even abused me when I was pregnant (I had a miscarriage from the abuse) and when I went to tell his mom she said my son isnât like that you must have done something wrong
Although my ex would yell at her and punch holes in her wall
Bad all around
Not saying her situation is this bad, or that it needs to be...but maybe you need to take a step back and really figure out if this is whatâs best for you (mentally, financially, etc) because when you marry someone you marry their family as well
I am now happily married to a man who I trust and makes me happy, and we have our own house. We didnât live together until after I was married. I get that old fashion values are looked down upon as antiquated, but honestly I feel like they are meant to protect you if executed correctly. With my ex marriage wasnât even an option, and I remember being very scared to sign a lease because I wasnât sure what would happen if we broke up (thank goodness I never did it would have been a disaster).
Just want to say that I am so sorry that you were abused and you miscarried as a result, that's so unfair. God bless you
For the person who asked how I got out (I think they deleted their comment) I opened up to my friends and family about how badly I was being treated. I let it go on for about 2years because I was scared they were going to judge me, most were above and beyond helpful and caring. I should have done it sooner. With their help I was able to reframe my ex as someone who âneeded meâ to heal đ...to see him as a person who was hurting me, and love isnât supposed to hurt that way. I made a plan with my best friend, and packed up my things slowly so he wouldnât notice, and when him and his family were out of the house I called her up and we grabbed my things, threw them in her car and booked it. Never saw him again, and refused to go back despite all the crying and begging. Good luck to anyone in an abusive situation, please learn from my mistake...always put yourself first.â„ïž
@@LR-jl3sv thank you, thatâs very kind of you to say. All the roads Iâve been on, led me to where I am now...so at least for that I am grateful.
@siren electric -- I am SO sorry for the pain you went through. AND I'm SO PROUD of you for telling your story to a complete stranger, hoping that she won't make the same mistake. I'm glad that you found a way to escape your situation and find hope and healing. God bless you.
No you didn't miscarriage from that stop trying to blame someone
So my friend was in the boat, she ended up with $1000âs in apartment damage and legal cost from the boyfriend who ended up damaging it when she moved out.
Alcohol and drugs
There I finished your story
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By the title I thought they were like 18 or 19.
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right?
I thought the same thing.
Ken's face was the best part!
Honestly what hes speaking is the truth as someone who is currently living through this exact situation i hope she follows through because i was stck on a lease and got sued and my boyfriend at the time didnt care he said f you and left me with the bill
@Arlene Dominguez - I'm SO sorry this happened to you.
We know deep inside when we are wrong and off track! Some ppl just donât want to accept it. Grow up ! Get your own life and apartment ! If he wants you let him work for it !
She is not taking his advice, no chance at all.
100% sheâs going to continue to shack up with her boyfriend
Iâm surprised that Dave didnât ask their income come and debt info. But on the other hand living in the basement says it all đź
I know this became very common in todayâs world but I seriously cannot understand why youâd move in with someone youâre not married to. To me it screams lack of commitment and respect for your SO.
"I'm going to pretend I care deeply about your future" lol.
"Don't be on a lease with someone you're not married to". Has he heard of roommates?
CLEARLY he's speaking from a relationship POV. Even then, it gets tricky and nasty with roommates.
Iâve never been in a lease WITH a roommate, Iâve always insisted on my own legal lease agreement. No sharing, just a timetable and fees for little ol me. Itâs very easy to do.
I have had roommates and was not on lease with them. I signed my lease separate and paid my portion of rent directly to landlord.
I shared a phone plan with a friend. Thereâs no way in hell do I advocate even getting roommates.
I don't get why the mother is kicking them out. That is important. Also, why is she offering them money? It's not up to her to figure out their living situation. It must be pretty bad for her to go to those lengths. "Here. Take my money and get out of my house." The devil is always in the details, but we seldom get the details in Dave's advice videos.
Mom wants her own place she probably want a boyfriend. Kids time to go live in a car. I did
Maybe mom guilt.
If she's willing to finance a home for them, I'm going to guess she's got some money so it's not a money issue it's a 'I want my house back issue' but also a 'I don't want my spoiled son to go through a hardship' So, you just pay him to move out lol.
It doesn't sound like she's kicking them out. The caller said the mom doesn't want them to leave
also the part that she wasn't in on the actual conversations was a red flag... it was 2nd hand info told to her by the boyfriend?
The ole saying âlove you till the end of the leaseâ
sell the boyfriend.
Way better than living in my wifeâs boyfriends basement đ
Michael your wife and I treat you pretty well, you have nothing to complain about.
Great advice.
I have to admit. I could not resist the title of the video. I couldn't walk away from it.
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I haven't even started watching but boy is this gonna be a good one!!!
"When you break up" lol
We love you papa Dave!!
Dave did a good job on this one. Usually he screams about how lazy people are and is callous about peoples situations. Good job Dave.
@@thedaveramseyshow1426 scamming a hole
@@thedaveramseyshow1426 you need to get a life
Some people need the screaming
@@kuestudio882 & Robert collins - Thanks for pointing the scammer that seems to invade every single Dave Ramsey video.
Dave is awesome!
I donât understand parents who allow their kids to move to the basement and bring in other people.
Agree
My dad and step mom let my step brother and his girlfriend live in their 5 bedroom mobile home. My step mom really didnât like that. She wouldnât let my dad in the house unless they were married, but she let her son shack up with his girl.
It was very weird.
Apts in boulder are like 2000 a month min, move to longmont and get your own places.
Some women have absolutely zero self esteem, they will be with anybody. Youâre are 30 years old maâam. Even if you worked at Walmart, Iâm sure you could afford to rent a cheap apartment. But, you would rather be with mamaâs boy living in the basement. Grow up kiddo!
I didn't realize this was for Boulder Colorado lol. Now I get it, it's way too expensive to live in Boulder on your own unless you make a lot of money.
@dedalliance -- And the culture there is "everything goes."
If that's the case, adults move to where the housing is cheaper.
@@mysticaltyger2009 You'd have to basically leave the state lol. Obviously you can do that, but it can be hard and 'scary'. Or maybe not really an option if you have family you fee obligated to stay by and help.
Amazing content!
I'm been in this situation... worked out nice financially but emotionally I'd stick with Dave's advice...
"red flags all over the place and that's what I would tell my daughter except I would take it a step or two further than I did with you in terms of other paradigms through which we would look at it as well that we just ran out of time and can't get to".
I want to hear that conversation! Sounds ripe for another rant. "NO DAUGHTER OF MINE IS GOING TO GO SHACK UP WITH SOMEONE SHE'S NOT MARRIED TO..."
Not just that. No daughter of anyone should Date a loser living in the basement
She got the jackpot so far because she is in the danger zone and the wall is closing in fast. She's holding on for dear life and she wants to pop out a kid asap.
5:04 Exactly what happened to my cousin. He is in a lease with his ex
Just go.
No need for drama.
"This is all dumb!"
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27 still living in moms basment and still taking moms money? What women would be attracted to that? Yikes. WAY past time to grow up bro!
She should know better than calling Mr Ramsey and tell him that they live in sin in his mother's basement!!!
Dave is correct!
Grow up. Make ur own money. Get ur own place. Depend on urself. It's pretty obvious.
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What a foolish woman!! This man CANNOT even afford rent and you're with him for what????
Ladies, you must read 23 Types of Guys You Might Meet.
PLEASE choose another man!!
Lots of women love this kind of stuff. The stable guy is "boring". Lots of women, given the chance to pick a man, choose Dusty Rusty or Ike Turner. Don't ask why, I'll never know.
@@hornetguy9063 They feel safe with dangerous men. Evolutionarily, they feel like heâs a hunter and they will get food and protection. In reality, these guys ainât cuttingâ it in the modern world.
@@genxx2724 What's funny is that a good chunk of these guys can't do anything, both physically and mentally. I've literally seen decent looking women throw away their romantic future by dating trailer trash type guys who look like they've never seen the inside of a gym. The lack of security is like a drug.
@@hornetguy9063 Oh, my . . .
Just because a man isn't financially stable at 27 doesn't mean she should leave him. I'm 27 and rent a 1 bedroom apartment and I'm 100% financially independent nobody supports me. Having said that if she really loves him and wants to be with him she should put in some work to help him out.
Mannnnn..... That was a good one.
30 and canât afford apartment, whaaat?
Dave is spot on here
Never take money from people you have tensions with.
This was .... Unique. đ€Ł
Be on code with leveling up, not stagnation
I need to write into Dave for sure
This generation does not have any shame about 'Shacking Up'.
None whatsoever.
What's that chill music they started to play at the end of the call?
My friends that never moved out of their folks' house never moved into basement. They use the same bedroom they had growing up. Having the whole basement would be sweet.
My cousin had his own house, really nice too. Then he up and sold it and moved back with his parents. Not sure why? No different financial situation as far as I know. I guess they didn't mind him being around and he could save money.
Interesting. There was an implication that 'he' needs to commit to 'her'. Is it possible that she isn't committed to him?
I am surprised they did not ask about what she does for work... both need to grow up, pay your bills, do they have savings. She said they listen to this show, do they take the advise?
I don't care if you're living together.
BUT to be living in his mother basement AND she has to financially help him, at 27!?!? HECK NO! Move on girl
Girl donât do it. Everything he said Iâve went through before and thank God I make it out with my head still attached. I wish I got the lease in just my name and it was the worst experience in my entire life. Iâm still paying for it till this day. Dave literally just told my life in 8 mins so no this is NOT an exaggeration. Run like hell
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"Old fashion Dinosaur"... never gets old!!! 30 years old and shacking up??? What in the world??? Get married or break it up lady!!!