falling in love with a messy life - a note from the wilderness
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- falling in love with a messy life - a note from the wilderness
In this video I wanted to talk about ‘messiness’ and ‘imperfection’ in regards to our lives, and how we may sometimes feel things have fallen apart or that we are just not where we thought we would be. Perhaps the past is dragging us down, or the future is frightening. Through recovering from an era of addiction and disordered eating, I had to begin a journey of healing my relationship with anxiety - and consequently, with myself. I’m still figuring things out and am not an expert whatsoever, so I wanted to share some of my thoughts and what has helped me move forward, in hopes we can open a dialogue and support eachother. To me, embracing the simplicity of the days and deciding that I have enough to grow and thrive, has helped me (wise examples from nature have certainly inspired me along the way).
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Having gratitude is really the biggest blessing in life. It's also very important. It keeps one peaceful at heart and soul
Absolutely vit G
Very true. Gratitude drives contentment.
You’re beautiful, I’m 62 and I’ve experienced a terrible childhood and have made great strides. I love your warming messages and soothing videos.
May healing keep finding you, Sandra 💐
your videos help me to value my life and feel so much gratitude rather than just wishing for something different and not noticing the treasure of life itself. thank you.
Let me know if there are any topics you’d like me to cover next month! ❤ I am planning a little property tour/update, home updates, one more bookish video, as well as highlighting some local artists in my area.
I hope you enjoy this, I will see you again very soon 😊
*I completely invented the recipe in this video and don't yet have an official one to share, sadly. However, I just made a standard vanilla cake mix but infused the liquids with dandelion petals (I left the petal in as well, though that depends on your preference). I put honey as an icing and layered with a simply blueberry syrup and whipped cream! Hope to have an official recipe soon.
Do you have a drone to see from above ?
That is awesome..will wait for the next video..💖
Anything you do will make us happy ❣ and make us feel peacefull calmly inspired so deep 🌼🌾🍁🌻🦄❣
Updates on all of your fur babies
Paola, you make my heart dance with joy 💚 every time I see you!
“If everything was easy I’d have no reason to grow. Like the wild shrubs on my property, it is only harsh conditions that make their roots venture deeper into the soil to find something to help them withstand the storms” My new favorite quote from you. Thank you 💛☀️💛
Que lindo
mine too!!
yes, that one was truly amazing and so true, I loved that one too!!!
i was broken tonight. sudden overwhelm with work, family and stress of life, to the extend i felt breathless and part of me died off. then this video came just 5 mins on. kinda put back on track and fight on.
I am in the same boat. I hope some peaceful times are ahead!
Sending you love and care. Goodluck with what you’re going thru❤
A terrible night today for me too. A big hug ❤
Remember the movie line "tomorrow will be better". Always believe that there is a silver lining. Bless you and your tomorrows.
I am suffering from chronic stress right now and your videos really help me. Thank you and keep being so creative! ♥
Same here Sophie. Her videos touch my heart even during these chronic suffering times for myself.
Same here with my chronic anxiety. Sending love from British Columbia Canada
Dear Paola, I hope you know that no matter what is next, you have already contributed abundantly to the peace and joy of millions through your channel! Sharing your talents and thoughtfulness during years that presented so many challenges and filled so many w so much fear is an epic accomplishment. I hope you feel all the love and thanks we hold in our hearts for you😊
My husband and I agreed to not mow our lawn this year . It is now a wildflower meadow in bloom . I think of this glorious mess as the wild tangle . It's literally healing my soul as I take it in through my eyes . Messy can be so good .
Can't wait to hear what's coming Paola ❤ .
Aw!! Sounds lovely, we did this same this year and it’s bursting with clover and so many happy honey bees! ❤
I love this idea! Unfortunately, I live in an HOA and they mow and spray everything constantly. I've tried to appeal to them about the spraying, especially. No luck so far!
Your videos radiate peace, serenity, and an abundant visual beauty. But it's also good that you sometimes focus a bit on your negative emotions. I love the fantasy aspect of Cottage Core, but the beauty you show us is always paired with emotional depth and wisdom, and that's what makes your channel so unique and special.
Yes! Even with all the peace and serenity she doesn't lack realism. That's what it makes this channel so good and so unique
@@Henrique.Souza0601 Thanks, love your words, you summed it up perfectly!
A mantra I have fallen in love with lately is “I’m rich!” I look around my messy life filled with the people, pets, and things I love and I know it’s true ❤
"I still experience uncomfortable emotions but I've improved on accepting things as they are messy and otherwise." Paola, I needed to hear this at this exact moment. Thank you my dear. You are an old Soul and that is a beautiful thing.
At 64, after many challenges and very difficult times in my life I’ve learned that we grow and develop gratitude through those difficult times. If we didn’t have the “messy” times in our lives, we’d never experience gratitude and growing❤
Soo true,my pain has made normal days miracles..
"Where do I go from here?"
I love that, I have been feeling so trapped by my terrible life decisions and I feel like I have so much to learn from that single phrase.
Herbs 🌿 are treasures that lie underfoot, and only those who know their value will receive the prize🎉❤
Thank you so much for your video and that you share with us your story ❤😊
I keep watching your old videos as well as new ones.Your mesmerizing valley, unknown wild flowers, berries,and your humble words soothes my soul.
Lots of love ❤....
The older I get the more I understand that too much introspection results in even more unrest and dissatisfaction with life.
Yes! A contemplative life is best when balanced.
Overthinking is as bad as no insight into one's self at all!!
Balance, balance, balance!! 🤗
I always love your videos, but I really needed this one today. My life is a mess right now, and I’m struggling to see the good. Hopefully my roots will just run deeper.
I love the fairy mail idea!
In the garden of life, we can only flourish when faced with problems and struggles. It is through these challenges that we grow and reach our full potential
When you got something easy it’s lost value for you
I totally resonate with what you stated about not giving your power to people who hurt you. This is something I'm working on myself. As I take my power back I am more grounded and free and I'll won't let people steal my joy ! Thanks for the video😊
Not giving power to people who hurt you…..how do you overcome that? I am dealing with a lot in my life right now and I just feel totally unable to live with joy and victory. 😔
Nature truly is medicine.
The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it. From the gospel of John. Having hope in Jesus Christ is what keeps me going. Nature is a beautiful gift from God as well.
After going through some really difficult things just recently your peaceful video was so welcomed and needed.
Sending a big hug ❤
@@TheCottageFairyPlease,what is your social status?❤
I’m 75 and have had a normal messy life, lol, I find your thoughts inspiring 💜
Such a beautiful place...I long to live in such a place..
Thanku..❤
Nature teaches us how to see the beauty in chaos, or messy situations. It is mindset that determines how.
Nature is everything.
"I've improved on accepting things as they are messy and otherwise".... I love that quote. So true, so true!
That is so good that you are not running away from your emotions! I am glad that your mom was able to find things to help cheer herself up. It actually has been scientifically proven that when you view simply pictures of nature, it sends of the same brain chemicals as being in nature.
I am so grateful for your presence in my life. Thank you. ❤
I will always remember the brilliant statement that you made, "I stopped giving power to the people who have hurt me and now give that power to myself." Thank you.
❤️😊 Simplicity of Joy & Acceptance. Thanks for shining 🌟
This was beautiful to watch. Seems like you're genuinely passionate about spreading positivity all around you.
Every morning I say “thank you Jesus for this day” ✝️💐🕊🌺🕊
The story involving the photos (landscapes, etc.) that your Mom cut from old ‘Reader’s Digest’ Magazines which she pasted to her childhood bedroom door to look to for warmth in the beauty of nature… to inspire her to keep going… this touched deeply. Always, this will stay with me for the profound gift that it is. ~Thank you for sharing.~
I'm really struggling at the moment. Your videos are always very timely. I appreciate your channel. Thank you, beautiful soul. ❤
I hear you. I can relate❤❤❤
@@WWGWGA-bi2rv so many of us are 😔 it breaks my heart 💔 🫂
Thank you Paola for this another relaxing, calm and wonderful content of yours ❤.
Can I just say that I love that you are consciously creating a life you love. You are so inspiring. I love the artful way you share your heart visually and verbally.
Comforting and beautiful as always 💛
It’s wonderful how kind and caring souls like you, Paola, are able to create a safe space for so many people! Thank you for all those words and messages that are sometimes needed so much🌻
I Appreciate your style of life and the camps around of you.. flowers..plants.. sounds of the nature..me like Christian I like to see that things that were created by God!!!
i am torn between pursuing my passion of being a doctor or just living a calm rural life like yours. your videos always makes me want to run away from everything and just live instead of studying all the time. whatever i choose, i’ll just let fate lead the way to what im meant for
Why don't you look at naturopathic medical school. Once you get your ND degree, move to a state where you can legally practice then open a clinic in a rural community. You'll have the best of both worlds! (It was my dream at one time...). 🍵
Hi! Just curious, how would your rural life look like? How would you make a living? Much love and luck making the choice that feels best.
Be a Dr in a rural area
Why can't you do both?
mimimimoine22, May I suggest that you look into becoming Naturopath. You can really help people treat root causes for their ill health.
I've often heard about getting stronger from our hardships, but what resonated with me this time was when you mentioned roots going deeper. I lovvve that because it made me think of how I turned inward and am learning about myself on a much deeper level because of my current hardships. Thank you so much for that analogy💖☀️
I bought your book and I love it !!! Did you ever consider to write a cook book with all the magic cackes cookies " syrups " ect that you make ? Love from Denmark ❤
Ooh! I’m so glad you enjoy it!!❤ I’d love too, I am not very confident with my baking skills yet but I hope to get there someday 😋 I still burn and ruin a few too many experiments haha! I’ll keep practicing!
@@TheCottageFairy I think what you cook or backe is so meaningfull and almost every time I watched your videos I go backe something 🐇🤍💮 - Its such peacefull moments even with my rescue cats involving all the time ❤❤❤😀🙃🐰🐾 - I think your backing skills are very wonderful and for me truly puuurfect 😻 - I love how you deal with life and critism ...always turn everything into something posetive and something we can choose to grow and learn from beeing it posetive or a challenge - I LOOOVE DEEPLY how you respect your animals souls 🙏 You love and respect them in every way ...This make my heart smile deeply ...Im excited about your bunny rescue and I hope for a cat rescue too at your place but I do know this will probably be too much as it really takes a lot of work ....In my work with the cats there is ONLY one way ....endless unconditional love and deep respect for them ....they will feel it - I started to post some of your videos on my face book in hope some might find the unique lost values that you elegantly and 100 % honest express in a way no one else can 🙏😻🐾🐰🐡❤🌸💖 Your videos is such joy and blessing in a very stressfull day and world - Hugs from Denmark 🤍🐰🐇🌸💖🌻🦚🐱
And write and illustrate CHILDREN's books, you would be a natural!!!
Oh yes, such a book would be wonderful, I‘m especially curious about the dandelion and honey cake in this video and would love to try making it!
I have the same inclination. There are so many distressing things that come our way these days. But that's exactly when iI feel like I need to focus on the charming, the uplifting, the sweet, and the delightful. I think that's exactly why people love your videos!
Today is my birthday and your beautiful message is a special gift. Thank you so much for all that you create, embrace and share. May you continue to see the deeper beauty of life. Love from Canada.
Happy Birthday from Canada. Have a wonderful day.
I also enjoy her videos and the calming and peacefulness she creates for all.
Thank you for the serenity this video brought me. I needed that today. Sometimes when we get mired in our own messes, having a glimpse of beauty and peace from other sources helps us begin to climb out. Take care! 💐🐝🥀
The cinematography in your videos is just magical, and you have improved so much over time. All time favorite CZcams, you've probably inspired and brought magic, light and peace to more people than anyone else on this platform.
I'm happy I found your video in my recommended. Ever since that day I've been keeping up with every release ❤
Love your work, and your channel ❤
Your Etsy idea is so cute. You inspire me so much, you are so loving and humble.❤
After your last book video, I got from the library James Herriot’s Treasury for Children and at the same time downloaded from the library the audio version. What a special treat it was for this getting-up-in-age “child” to soak in the beautiful illustrations while listening to a gentle, British voice. Thank you for all that you share-words, visuals and sounds.❤
Thank you, for being you 🧚🏼♀️💐
You are such a blessing.
I love your Etsy shop.
Please consider a Christmas Card series with flora, animals and fairies.
I think nature can learn us many things about our way in life 💚
I am feeling weepy today. Thank you for your video
Sending you lots of love and warm wishes. Things will improve soon. Hang in there.
@@aamnahere6250 Thank you kindly 🤗
@@gojiberry7201 You're welcome dear.
Watching this, and many of your videos, I am reminded of my younger self, who struggled to maintain an even keel, but was constantly cast to and fro by my feelings. I just couldn't regulate them, even though later in life I had developed pretty sophisticated coping mechanisms. Still, I would be caught out as a victim of my emotions too frequently, which always threw me into days of regret and depression. Little did I know that depression was the cause of my inability to regulate. I finally visited my doctor, at the suggestion of my best friend. Without disclosing too much, that was the best course of action I could have taken. It's been 6.5 years since then, and life is so much better now. Sometimes a doctor's visit can make all the difference!
I love your videos so much. As I watch you cutting flowers and wild bushes I tell myself I'd like to do that and look as serene as you do but then I remember I live in Alabama and it's 100 degrees out there with 100% humidity.. I can just see a meme for that, haha! More humid than humid! imagine what your beautiful curls would do♡😅😅😅 (smile).
Blessings, bnb
Warm video from you to cure the messy life that I’m facing now. Really appreciate ❤❤look forward to your next video 😊
First of all, I would like to thank you for sharing your life, dreams, fears and joy with us so honestly! I found your videos quite recently and enjoyed them all, both for their beauty and depth. But most of all, I love your ability to notice small things, whether in nature or in the human soul. You are beautiful, Paola. In the deepest sense of the word. Thank you! My best wishes to you from Estonia.
Hello Paola! ❤
I'm watching you after a long long while. It's nearly two years, I have been experiencing some most difficult periods in my life. Everything has been messed up. This not the first time I'm in trouble and stress. In fact, several times I have suffered a lot terribly because of my emotional attachment and wrong life decisions. Being a single woman, I choose to live independently. I performed all my duties to my parents, my full family. And that was my only one satisfaction in my entire life. I learned to be satisfied with whatever I have. I lost my closest ones in some horrific incidents. I never gave up, each time I have fallen on hard times I faced it, and tried to stand on my feet and live with a positive attitude. But this time it seems there is no way out, few things are not in control. All of a sudden job market becomes volatile in the last few years. I turned out my fifty, and I become jobless, no savings, no possessions. I lost my energy keeping up lots efforts.
Material things was never been important for myself before. Now I realised I shouldn’t be so unrealistic. It is so shameful to accept when I have to depend on others for my living. Meanwhile, I learned to live with less- which is one positive thing. I totally messed up. Nevertheless, I'm still trying, if there's any light at the end of the tunnel! Love for you always ❤
The dessert looks so delicious! Another calming and soothing video. I suffer from anxiety as well and your videos always make me feel better.
Something vibred in my heart when you pronounced old copies of reader digest ..I used to keep the very few copies I found here and there. .reading them when thinks are @ low vibes..those little magazins nourished hope in my heart. .inspired me and helped me keep going ..
When I grew up and had a job ..reader digest magazins were among my absolutly to buy list ..❤❤❤
Could you please give me the recipe for the dessert you made? It looks delicious! Thanks for the video 🎉❤
Thank you from Ukraine. God bless you.
You are lovely and it is such a joy to watch your videos. 💖💫💕💥🌺🌿🌸🌿🏵
I believe we all ruminate on the past from time to time. I love that you have chosen not to let those that have hurt you to have the power to continue to do so. Wise words from one so young. ❤
Thank you Paola, another beautiful video
Hi Paola yes life throws at us some very challenging times. I am very lucky to be alive , and now loving life. I love the delicious food that you make it made me very hungry. I love your garden and the calm gentle way you speak to us. Thank you for this video ❤❤
Always enjoy your lovely videos. You are a very lovely woman and look forward to seeing what the future holds for you and Luke. ❤
Ugh I can definitely relate to this! I sold my house in the UK last year and bought a dream stone cottage in Denmark in the forest with studio, library, lake view, roses etc. The house is amazing. However, that was not enough and only a year after buying it we have put it for sale and are going back to the UK. We miss our lives there and our friends. We could never afford such an amazing house in the UK so whatever comes next is not going to be as nice as this house... but at least we will be with what is familiar and comforting. Sometimes obtaining the dream is not what is meant to be. So many people who see my house say they would be so happy here... I feel so guilty that I was not able to be happy here...
Home is where your heart is. It doesn't matter the beauty of the house or place. I miss my old grandmother's house so much, where I grow up, and it was a humble old house. When I think of warm memories and comfort I think of that old messy house.
Dear Paola, I just love what you make with the forest foraging ingredients! Awe inspiring 🥰. You bring light and love to all who view your channel. You confirm to all, to know that “we are enough”. Have a wonderful weekend ❤❤❤❤ Francesca xx love your dress 👗
Hello Paola your subject today is one I understand, thank you for sharing. Like you, I've learned to like who I am. Much love.
Paola, you are such a treasure! Your videos bring so much peace and inspiration to me. 🧡
Your videos are the thing that helps me to keep going. Right now, my life is so messy, but I watch your heartwarming videos, and it helps a lot. Thank you so much, dear Paola. With much love from Ukraine.❤
I suffer from anxiety and I find your videos so soothing…leaving me feeling calmer and hopeful that I can overcome this long chapter of my life. Thank you so much ❤
The secret is to love the walking, not just the destination. So, whatever your goal is, do it in a way you enjoy.
“I have enough “ is a quote by our beloved Thich Nhat Hanh. So glad you found it. How can you be so wise at your age?
Before we are born, our souls set challenges for us to overcome, very much like an athlete or an explorer sets up a challenging course to overcome. This is why our beginnings are not easy.
What your mom did with the cutouts of old reader's digest is actually creating her future. It's an amazing creative technique.
Our lives are journeys with ups and downs, learning experiences, adventures. When we accept this, it is easier. When we fight it, it is always a struggle.
The shot of those beautiful tulips seemed like a painting🌷 It feels so magical there the nature and your creative beauty esthetics. It's food for my soul✨💕 I'm so grateful. Thank you beautiful Paola🌟 thank you😘🦋🌷
Beautiful messages 🌼❤️
I like the way you express yourself with words, I find it very difficult to do.
I've no idea what you went through but the feelings and emotions are the same I feel. Sometimes acceptance is there (or seems to be) but then at some point in life something or someone revives all the pain and hurt. It's hard to navigate. I've always been attracted to forests and lush green landscapes.
May Allah bless your heart. Whenever I feel overwhelmed with life I come here. Thank you for the beautiful reminders.! Your videos are such a light
If everything was easy there is no reason to grow - beautifully stated. Thankyou for inspiring us and all the blessings.
I enjoy your videos so much. You are always so sweet and soft spoken. I welcome your softness. Also you bake unique things I’ve never heard of let alone eat? Thank you for being you and sharing with us your gifts and talents.
Thank you so much for the message in this video, I appreciate you sharing the beautiful, bittersweet and hurtful times of life and everything in between with us. ❤
Thank you for your lovely thoughts and comforting video. 🌷
Love your video, Paola! So many gems for me to think about instead of getting in a negative downward spiral like I've been in lately. Thank you!
Striving in challenging conditions expand the capacity and bring to better understanding of the self. It maybe how we evolve and get refined. All the natural lives are great teachers. Thank you as always, please enjoy and take care.
Your videos are very inspirational and beautiful to see. However sometimes I close my eyes and just listen to the sound of your voice and all the nature sounds. This helps me focus deeply on the message and I find it therapeutic. It calms my mind and soul and helps me see things differently. For this I thank you 🙏. I wish you blessings.
Beautiful little vlog again and I totally understand about invisible scars and how they make us who we are. With acceptance and gratitude it makes us appreciate everything we have for today 🙏
Loving your idea of fairy 🧚♀️ mail! ❤️✨
Looks so beautiful of cottage!!! ❤❤❤
This has instantly become my most favourite You Tube channel, after a few short minutes of listening and watching , my mind racing gradually slowed down, thank you!
I love nature to. Is soooo peaceful. You take care be healthy God bless you ❤
Just be careful with wildlife
One of my greatest discoveries on CZcams was your channel, keep it up, I really love your videos and they help me learn English, thank you very much،In addition to the comfort I get from your words, it is very reassuring to I listen you. I love you with all my heart ❤❤
Love your words, and especially your authenticity and openness. In this often complicated world, you are truly a breath of fresh air!! ♥️
Im in awe of the wisdoms you said about negativity.I wrote them down and it was at a sycronic time that it came through.❤
Hey Paola ❤ What a beautiful property you both have! Oh, that row of Poppies looked sweetly picturesque. Your videos continue to impart gentle breezes on my stress. God bless you. T. 🇦🇺🐞
I think you offer so many wise words that are character and spiritual building. I always look forward to your channel! Love the dandelion cake idea! Bless you!
I'd love to see a ground level exploration of your natural environment. Something close-up and intimate, perhaps with a snail or busy bugs to say hello. What world goes on down there? I just think you could make it fun. 😊
A beautiful reminder. Just what I needed to hear right now ❤
I always say that the dog hair and the cat hair on my clothes is the latest fashion and all of “the cool kids” are wearing it! I’m 67 years old but still a cool kid. 😉🤣😉