Stephen Fry: “Lost, alone and I wanted to take my life” | E201

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  • @TheDiaryOfACEO
    @TheDiaryOfACEO  Před rokem +1100

    If you enjoyed this conversation, please do me a little favour and like the video 👍 By doing that, you’re showing this conversation to even more people ❤

    • @zamiadams4343
      @zamiadams4343 Před rokem +32

      Fantastic interview with Stephen, cheers!

    • @farizaakhmetova8433
      @farizaakhmetova8433 Před rokem +2

      😍

    • @hilarypowell9802
      @hilarypowell9802 Před rokem +25

      @Genesis One What’s wrong with trying to be the best at what you do ??? Steven is an amazing interviewer, and seems to be getting better and better at the job.
      Why begrudge someone who is doing an excellent job whilst helping a hell of a lot of people in the process ?
      Look to yourself before you criticise others !!!! 😊😊😊
      Happy Christmas 🎄

    • @hilarypowell9802
      @hilarypowell9802 Před rokem +20

      @Genesis One A very simple solution then. Don’t listen to his interviews if you’re not getting anything positive from them.
      Have a wonderful Christmas 🎄 😊😊😊

    • @Marc-xc9uo
      @Marc-xc9uo Před rokem +15

      Brilliant and very interesting interview

  • @jennifermcdonald5432
    @jennifermcdonald5432 Před rokem +889

    One of the scariest things about depression is you feel so incredibly alone, and unique, like your the only one in the world that endures these horrific, stupid things. The huge gift Stephen Fry gives us, is the knowledge that we’re not alone, and maybe there’s a way out! What a wonderful man!

    • @ripdbtpoo1441
      @ripdbtpoo1441 Před rokem +7

      I'm sorry,jennifer, but we ARE all alone. "You lives alone, and you dies alone. You might as well get used to it". (Character in Kinky Friedman book).

    • @jennifermcdonald5432
      @jennifermcdonald5432 Před rokem +32

      @@ripdbtpoo1441 Sorry but I couldn’t disagree more! What I meant was that most of the feelings associated with depression are universal! They are part of the human condition! They are in no way unique or special to you alone, many others have felt them AND have found ways to deal with them! No one is that special!

    • @morbidmanmusic
      @morbidmanmusic Před rokem +13

      I don't agree.. I have been diagnosed with extreme clinical depression and I still feel for others, and don't feel like I'm the only one suffering. I feel I'm suffering because we all are...

    • @jennifermcdonald5432
      @jennifermcdonald5432 Před rokem +18

      @@morbidmanmusic I feel that you’re a lucky person. I spent most of my life believing that everyone else knew a secret that I didn’t. That everyone knew how to be happy except me, I only pretended to be happy. That if anyone found out how desperately unhappy I was they’d lock me up.

    • @darrylschultz9395
      @darrylschultz9395 Před rokem +10

      @@ripdbtpoo1441 We're not alone, it's the mind that creates the illusion of being a separate individual. Just as people believed centuries ago that everything revolved around the earth, we suffer under an illusion. One that's very convincing, but an illusion nonetheless. Because all our behaviours and feelings etc, are the inevitable and unchangeable result of interactions with others. Even choosing to deliberately isolate oneself is the effect of the person's relationship to others. We're actually all a part of the whole-even as we may feel like we're apart from the whole.

  • @kasondaleigh
    @kasondaleigh Před rokem +763

    He is spot on about not being able to share depression with most people who would consider themselves “there for you”.
    Most people freak out at the words suicide or depression and get angry at you for your sadness. It’s so lonely being manic- depressive. It’s impossible to explain or describe, but it just takes over and suddenly you forget what normal feels like.

    • @TheJohnpandy
      @TheJohnpandy Před rokem +50

      Showing vulnerability can frighten friends away.

    • @Zu3sUK
      @Zu3sUK Před rokem +42

      If showing vulnerability to your friends could frighten them away, they aren't really your friends in the first place mate.

    • @alexandrialeonora6542
      @alexandrialeonora6542 Před rokem +36

      This exactly. 👏👏👏 This. Exactly. Friends tell you they’ll always be there for you. Until you work up the courage to tell them that you are having suicidal thoughts…and then suddenly those friends are all gone.

    • @tomorrowmely3624
      @tomorrowmely3624 Před rokem +12

      @@alexandrialeonora6542 exactly.And I live in a country where friendship doesn't exist or is considered as something that is only for teenagers or very young adults. People are distant. Who do you show your vulnerability to? No one accepts it.

    • @georgelewis1664
      @georgelewis1664 Před rokem +28

      Kasonda , I identify very much with your comment ( for the time in the past when I suffered from bi-polar disorder ), however in the past five years or so , this horrible “thing” seems to have left me completely . No medication ( of any kind ) , no alcohol , no therapy of any kind . . . simply a change in lifestyle . . . lots and lots of exercise , close attention to eating good foods ( in moderation ) , meditation and recognizing how very fortunate I have been to have an amazing wife that I love immensely ( and viceversa ) . I have come to realize how important gratitude is in one’s search for happiness/contentment . I wish you ( and everyone else who has suffered that “plague” ) the best , in your journey towards health .

  • @javer9706
    @javer9706 Před rokem +416

    What I like about the interviewr, is how well prepared he is for his guests. He does his research on them and knows what to ask them. Also, he leaves them talking which is so rare in nowadays media.

    • @SkyeMpuremagic
      @SkyeMpuremagic Před 8 měsíci +17

      Yea, I appreciate that too. Most interviewers cut in and don't even allow the guest to finish a thought. People want to hear what they have to say and the interviewers always feel like they have to redirect the conversation. That can be very annoying. I like how this gentleman simply allows Stephen to express all that he has to share. That's how interviews should be done! Let the guest speak! Ask questions when appropriate or when a thought is complete. No need to constantly interject. I wish this would catch on.

    • @waderands8145
      @waderands8145 Před 8 měsíci

      That's a very good point. I hate listening to interviews whereas speakers are continuously cut off almost as much as I hate being cut off while explaining something myself. I have learned that people who interrupt you always, without apology, just don't care about what you have to say, and therefore, are not worthy friends, and should be discarded as such.

    • @Acadia26
      @Acadia26 Před 8 měsíci +2

      He's very good at what he does. That was so interesting to watch! Great respect for both of them.

    • @kbaker9804
      @kbaker9804 Před 7 měsíci +3

      Agreed. The answers are why we’re listening and he can draw out great answers.

    • @Chubby_auntie
      @Chubby_auntie Před měsícem

      He doesn’t interact with the subject, so it feels like you’re watching an interrogation.

  • @7arboreal
    @7arboreal Před 6 měsíci +63

    'I just wanted to be somewhere else, even nowhere'.
    Such a simple and profound statement.

    • @Ruby570
      @Ruby570 Před 2 měsíci +1

      Funny, there is a Neil Young album called: ' Everybody Knows This Is Nowhere'.

    • @theenglishbiker8293
      @theenglishbiker8293 Před měsícem +2

      Having felt like this recently, I know exactly how perfectly this describes it.
      I even explained it to my girlfriend in a similar way

    • @bobb6342
      @bobb6342 Před měsícem

      @@theenglishbiker8293I fully agree with the explanation

  • @heleneocleary5888
    @heleneocleary5888 Před rokem +1588

    What appeals to me about Stephen Fry is his honesty and humility. I also find his vocabulary admirable, his pronunciation enjoyable and his humanity endearing. ❤

    • @christinebuckingham8369
      @christinebuckingham8369 Před rokem

      @@iociccio936Your homophobia is showing- watch the film American Beauty- your comments remind me of the highly strung, homophobic Dad who fell to his knees in the garage scene. If you were more secure in your masculinity, then
      other men being gay wouldn't bother you so greatly. You'd be so busy being happy dating women or being married to a woman instead of obsessing over hating Gay men. So what's your deal?

    • @Ragnarok6664
      @Ragnarok6664 Před rokem +19

      @@iociccio936 ok bot

    • @bayoubabe6698
      @bayoubabe6698 Před rokem +13

      A perfect description of SF🥰

    • @stunnedmulletblah9714
      @stunnedmulletblah9714 Před rokem +10

      @@iociccio936 lol ya weirdo

    • @zapkvr
      @zapkvr Před rokem +2

      Honesty? You and me are using different dictionaries

  • @vitorfilipe2597
    @vitorfilipe2597 Před rokem +307

    " Don't take my devils away because my angels will fly away aswell " - absolutely awesome

    • @saschamayer4050
      @saschamayer4050 Před rokem +3

      Well. I'd rather live the rest of my life without any demons, even if that meant there wouldn't be any angels as well. As long as my family and friends are alright, I don't care.

    • @idaclement2994
      @idaclement2994 Před 11 měsíci +4

      He doesn't believe in neither....so why throw out this quote..

    • @davekelley4076
      @davekelley4076 Před 10 měsíci +3

      Makes absolutely no sense at all though does it?

    • @CADTE
      @CADTE Před 10 měsíci +13

      ​@@davekelley4076 what he is saying is that the depression and dark moments allow you to appreciate the good moments much better. You don't realize what you have until it's under threat of loss.

    • @davekelley4076
      @davekelley4076 Před 10 měsíci +3

      @@CADTE I know what he's saying. It's basic common sense. He's a bore.

  • @stevefmelb
    @stevefmelb Před rokem +349

    If ever there was an argument against self harm,. suicide and depression, it would be the premature loss of a man such as Stephen Fry. Thankfully, for all of us, he survived and the rest is history.

    • @andreaknowles78
      @andreaknowles78 Před 8 měsíci +1

      I couldn't agree more. ❤

    • @stevefmelb
      @stevefmelb Před 8 měsíci

      @@andreaknowles78 ❤

    • @TruthSeeker-rn1tm
      @TruthSeeker-rn1tm Před 8 měsíci +15

      Nope. A premature loss of anyone in the world would be as strong an argument.

    • @sabbracadabra8367
      @sabbracadabra8367 Před 7 měsíci +2

      You can solve all those things by going to Cambridge.

    • @SandraNLN
      @SandraNLN Před 7 měsíci +6

      @@sabbracadabra8367 Well clearly that didnt solve much, since that was hardly the end of his problems or suicide attempts. Cambridge merely saved him from going further down the criminal rabbit hole, and helped with his future career trajectory.

  • @wjl3138
    @wjl3138 Před 10 měsíci +63

    My dad was a RAF pilot. He flew Spitfires. And Stephen is completely right. The war ended, and every day after that, until his death in 2005 was chopped liver. He struggled with depression and finding meaning and purpose his entire life. Very very sad.

    • @cecileroy557
      @cecileroy557 Před 5 měsíci +2

      I wrote about the history of Malta. Spitfires were one of the very nec. things that helped save Malta from total destruction. War is horrible & it destroys people no matter what "side" they fight for. I'm so sorry for your father.

  • @ChoppingtonOtter
    @ChoppingtonOtter Před rokem +543

    This is the great tragedy of depression. No matter how loved they are it doesn't help. This man is admired and even loved by millions, is wealthy and yet horrible depression still gets to him. Keep a close eye on your friends. I've lost one to this awful condition and none of us saw it coming. :-(

    • @drhintjens4915
      @drhintjens4915 Před rokem +48

      That's a very much needed message. I am told this again and again and I still say "Oh just cheer up, meditate, take a walk". It's not good enough. We need to be there for them, completely and without judgement. xxx

    • @ligiailean1852
      @ligiailean1852 Před rokem +13

      So very true! 🙇

    • @jujulionesselsa1416
      @jujulionesselsa1416 Před rokem +9

      @@drhintjens4915 very true.

    • @elizabethgrogan8553
      @elizabethgrogan8553 Před rokem +26

      @ChoppingtonOtter Very true I lost my beloved younger brother to suicide. He carefully hid his condition and planned his end, writing a long letter and leaving his affairs in order. It was brutal to those of us left behind.

    • @cwarpaint2763
      @cwarpaint2763 Před rokem +34

      Depression is awful. I hate it, yet really struggle myself.
      It affects everything in your world, much like chronic pain.

  • @andreiaknuts3033
    @andreiaknuts3033 Před rokem +128

    My 13 year old daughter has recently tried to commit suicide and we then found she had been cutting herself too. We don't think she is manic depressive as she doesn't seem to have the manic side but we are still waiting for doctors to get us an appointment. We have talked and we try to understand and be there, but it's easy to feel frustrated. Not because we don't care or feel angry at her, but because with all honesty we don't know how to take the sadness she feels and we feel frustrated and useless...and basically a failure as parents. So far, the best we can do is keep an eye on her, talk to her, accept how she feels and be there for her. And try to smile when all you want to do is cry inside. To all of you who are feeling depressed or are with someone who is- the warmest of hugs. Its tough 😪

    • @louisehogg8472
      @louisehogg8472 Před rokem +23

      If she happens to have naturally low serotonin at present, it's no more your fault than if she had naturally low insulin and was diabetic. We all have a 'weakest point' in our constitution.
      And the cutting might not just be low self-esteem or even trying to make invisible mental pain visible physical pain. It can also be 'self medicating'. By triggering the flow of endorphins that provide BOTH types of pain relief. (Stroking and cuddling to produce oxytocin is also effective. Rubbing someone's back especially. That's why parents instinctively soothe babies that way.)
      Diagnosis of bipolar can take time. Often depression is diagnosed first. And schizoaffective takes even longer. But be reassured. A lot of folk with any of these, get a medication mix that balances them for many years to a very good quality of life, full time job, study, marriage etc.
      I pray things improve for you all.

    • @JN-wr9he
      @JN-wr9he Před rokem +15

      So sorry you are all going through it. I assume you have looked into her social life and social media use? Kids are so good at hiding what is going on in their lives, and so sensitive to the smallest slight at this age, it is really scary what can cause them go off the rails sometimes.

    • @spill1t
      @spill1t Před rokem +1

      I can't imagine what you're all going through. Sorry man!

    • @jamiebottomley1422
      @jamiebottomley1422 Před rokem +1

      Cyclothymic disorder sounds like an option but most people don’t know if it 😢

    • @JN-wr9he
      @JN-wr9he Před rokem

      @@jamiebottomley1422 I don’t mean to be dismissive, but from what I read it sounds just like another case of pathologizing normal human states - normal ups and downs in mood. I mean, there is no other information about it other than a description of ‘symptoms’ as alternating moods - and how does have a steady mood??

  • @asmith6006
    @asmith6006 Před rokem +214

    I remember watching his Secret Life of the Manic Depressive just after I was diagnosed, and it was revelatory. I'm glad both of us are still here.

    • @carisaunders2346
      @carisaunders2346 Před rokem +5

      I didn't know this, I've had bipolar since around 10 or 12 years of age. 60ys old now. My son, who loves Stephen Fry, has recently shown signs and symptoms of bipolar. When I see him next, I try to have him watch with me. Thank you

    • @mugogrog
      @mugogrog Před 11 měsíci +5

      Just think of how many people he's helped by simply sharing those stigmatized things! It baffles me that people can sit in these comment fields and talk about how the guy is evil through and through because their religions of peace and love tells them so. Very glad it helped you as it has helped so many others.

  • @mihaimoldo
    @mihaimoldo Před rokem +44

    Stephen fry is my favorite human being . He's not a national treasure , he's a global treasure that should be cherished .

  • @carolking6355
    @carolking6355 Před rokem +265

    This was truly glorious. I thought my life at boarding school was horrific at 8 and 9. I wanted to die. A few years later our lauandry maid the kindest lady in the the world, a Mrs Hurring, steared me into roller skating God bless her sweet soul. I became an Otago junior roller skating champion in figures aged 11. At 80 I will never forget her I adore Stephen. There is always a great life ahead if you meet the right people.

    • @louischapman1209
      @louischapman1209 Před rokem +8

      It was always the matrons that got us through the dark times 🙏🙏

    • @ttbko
      @ttbko Před rokem +18

      @@iociccio936 did you really feel it beneficial to minimise someone else's contribution that they gave in celebration of survival over adversity?

    • @wendyhannan2454
      @wendyhannan2454 Před rokem +22

      Bless the Mrs Hurrings of this world. A child never forgets such kindness.

    • @georgielancaster1356
      @georgielancaster1356 Před rokem +1

      @Paul W.A I Lol'd but felt guilt.

    • @georgielancaster1356
      @georgielancaster1356 Před rokem +6

      @@iociccio936 Do you need someone to tell you where the CAPSLOCK is?
      If you are pushing your religion or politics, a lot of people will be offended and annoyed. Tjis is not a place to preach your random beliefs that most people do not share - either religious OR political/social.

  • @louisemcelhill5748
    @louisemcelhill5748 Před 10 měsíci +153

    Steven Fry! Our lives are so much better, for having you in them. ❤ Never forget that!

    • @ninthusiva7546
      @ninthusiva7546 Před 6 měsíci +1

      Who is steven?

    • @elishmuel1976
      @elishmuel1976 Před 4 měsíci

      I found Stephen over 10 years ago through QI on youtube and have been following him since. I can't get enough of this true Renaissance Man 💜💙💚💛🧡♥

    • @dvl889
      @dvl889 Před 4 měsíci

      Yes!

    • @engfigint
      @engfigint Před 2 měsíci

      @@elishmuel1976 A Bit of Fry & Laurie was popular on UK TV in the early 90;s. Stephen went walkies at some time around then.

  • @ladyB59
    @ladyB59 Před rokem +26

    I met this gorgeous man once at the Groucho Club in London.
    I was shy, tongue tied and totally overawed by the people there.
    He realised this at sat a chatted to me. He made me feel as though I was the only person in the room.
    Thank you Mr Fry you sir are a darling.

  • @schnaftipufti
    @schnaftipufti Před 11 měsíci +80

    He is so eloquent. He speaks like written text, has incredible vocabulary, and has a deep understanding of language usage - absolutely stunning!

  • @richardrickford3028
    @richardrickford3028 Před rokem +313

    I think Stephen Fry is a kind of wonderful combo of Oscar Wilde and Socrates. As someone who has also had severe trouble with their mental health I am presumptuous enough to think of him as a friend even though I have never met him. Thank you Stephen Fry. You rock!

    • @leonardemiletaylor6229
      @leonardemiletaylor6229 Před rokem +7

      Your post is enigmatic! The honestly is priceless.

    • @ros8986
      @ros8986 Před rokem +8

      we'll create a society Friends of Fry!

    • @eldona7747
      @eldona7747 Před rokem +5

      I often think about what the world/people/me would be like had I been taught Stoicism and or the like. Atm I'm learning it, Seneca etc and its helping me so much! Better late than never. Great video!!🙂

    • @donaldsweeney784
      @donaldsweeney784 Před rokem +3

      I felt the same way. He seems like a old friend.

    • @LGBTQ71
      @LGBTQ71 Před rokem +2

      His secret life of a manic depressive. You helped me get better.

  • @miriamfarrelly9822
    @miriamfarrelly9822 Před rokem +426

    He’s a wonderful soul, an absolute joy to listen to. Reminder of the fragility of our humanity and equally the potential for hope.

    • @Commentator-tb8ku
      @Commentator-tb8ku Před rokem

      He is a disgusting pervert

    • @77raymann
      @77raymann Před rokem +1

      Well said 💕

    • @nordstrandmusicinternation9518
      @nordstrandmusicinternation9518 Před rokem +1

      Anyone who shuns god actively isn’t a beautiful soul

    • @mugogrog
      @mugogrog Před 11 měsíci +10

      @@nordstrandmusicinternation9518 If your belief forces you to think Stephen Fry is an ugly soul, there might, just maybe, be your belief that is fucked up.
      In none of the writings or talks I've seen of Fry does he "shun" god though, he simply doesn't believe in god. God being able to show Fry exactly what he would need to see to believe but not doing so is the one doing the shunning it seems to me.
      Anyways, consider it. If your belief system makes you think Hitler is a better person than Fry based only on the virtue of Hitler being a believer, it might be time to think it over.

    • @ianmarshall9144
      @ianmarshall9144 Před 10 měsíci

      @@nordstrandmusicinternation9518 another religious fascist , we dont need a god were English , we have physics , evolutionary biology , geology , which all point to a world that requires no man made deities , coupled with humanism we have all any adult needs , i will take Stephen Fry over you any day , Stephen is a model Homosapien in deed and thought , unlike you and your stupid statement

  • @JesterRiddles
    @JesterRiddles Před 9 měsíci +26

    As someone that's suffering physically mentally, I myself feel so lost and neglected. I hope anyone that is feeling this way finds the light.

    • @xKaRBoNiTe
      @xKaRBoNiTe Před 4 měsíci

      Your comment reminded me of this song. Hope is the light that we all need. Things will get better.
      czcams.com/video/SgTdc_Cx0VY/video.htmlsi=jrBIyQTlQW3D-esa

  • @delilah28100
    @delilah28100 Před rokem +64

    37 right now, experiencing that "lost, alone and I wanted to take my life", and I badly need this stories of recovery. Stephen Fry is a gift to humankind.

    • @diyaelaaroussi7812
      @diyaelaaroussi7812 Před 6 měsíci +1

      28 right now , i feel the same thing and more

    • @dlz124
      @dlz124 Před 6 měsíci +1

      30 and feeling the same.

    • @topy706
      @topy706 Před 6 měsíci +1

      32 and have been living in isolation for 12 yrs since i left school. Now my grandma is dying and my mom is sick and i feel so alone and hopeless i just want to end it all

    • @brostelio
      @brostelio Před 5 měsíci +1

      Let life surprise you. It won't be static, and in my experience things tend to just happen. Sometimes for the better.

  • @Lollypoin
    @Lollypoin Před rokem +447

    This is one of the most professional podcasts I have listened to. You really let the guest shine to their fullest. How it flows is just magnificent. Well done! :)

    • @Mcfreddo
      @Mcfreddo Před rokem +11

      @@iociccio936 Your myths held can leave town dude troll.
      Boring.

    • @4kassis
      @4kassis Před rokem +13

      With Fry, all you have to do is let him talk :)

    • @ATLmodK
      @ATLmodK Před rokem +9

      @@iociccio936 you obviously have a very difficult time letting an acknowledged national British treasure who is exceptionally talented in various fields discuss his own humanity because he is gay. If he had the skills as well as the problems he developed but had been straight, you apparently would have a completely different reaction

    • @ATLmodK
      @ATLmodK Před rokem +8

      @@iociccio936 Sorry, I simply don’t pay attention to arguments that have homophobia as the core

    • @zsazrutkowski601
      @zsazrutkowski601 Před rokem +1

      had the EXACT same thought. well done!

  • @chrisberry9017
    @chrisberry9017 Před rokem +478

    Watching this during a depressive episode has been a genuine salve. Stephen Fry manages to put into words the complexities of bi-polar disorder. The knowledge that it will pass is what I’m clinging to at the moment. Thank you Stephen for being such a understandable voice for our ‘situation’ in life. You are much loved.

    • @transamination
      @transamination Před rokem +4

      I don't believe he has bipolar disorder. I think he just likes the idea of having it because it's mysterious and sexy.

    • @nathanbell6962
      @nathanbell6962 Před rokem +6

      Your unique, did you ever feel that's a gift from God?

    • @vb1816
      @vb1816 Před rokem +47

      @@transamination he has talked about having it and has articulated manic episodes in detail. It’s not sexy.

    • @transamination
      @transamination Před rokem +2

      @@vb1816 Yeah I just think he's faking it.

    • @electricbreeze
      @electricbreeze Před rokem +10

      @@transamination Bye.

  • @bobbybox3968
    @bobbybox3968 Před 9 měsíci +59

    I’m a Scottish 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿 61 year old and can totally relate to to Stephens description off this horrible disease 🦠. His explanation and his journey through it was so comforting for me and gives me so much hope knowing I’m not alone in this world

    • @TCW1977
      @TCW1977 Před 9 měsíci +2

      It is so comforting like a warm blanket in winter

    • @rosemarieolsson798
      @rosemarieolsson798 Před 7 měsíci +3

      Someone said exactly how I feel; "I don't want to die, I just don't want to live". It is absolutely awful trying everyday to keep up everything for children and family. The energy just drains and when one wakes up in the morning, especially after a dream, it feels awful to have to manage another day and not be able to stay in that dream, whatever the dream was about.

    • @joostkiefte7683
      @joostkiefte7683 Před 6 měsíci

      Just out of curiosity: what has being Scottish got to do with anything?

    • @HopeUnquenchable
      @HopeUnquenchable Před 6 měsíci +1

      @@joostkiefte7683I think it’s got something to do with the OP🤓

    • @jimlawlor6789
      @jimlawlor6789 Před 6 měsíci +1

      The world is a better place for you being in it Mr. Fry.

  • @sherryseeton6749
    @sherryseeton6749 Před 11 měsíci +44

    What a wonderful person. At the age of 68, I've just been diagnosed with ADHD, and possible/probable bi-polar disorder. It's been a challenging 68 years, and now I'm doing my best to adjust my perspective on my life. How amazingly gratifying to learn that I share many experiences with none other than Stephen Fry. It gives me hope and reassurance. I thank you and him sincerely for this interview. I feel so lucky to have found it. I have subscribed to your channel(?) and will read The Body Holds the Score, and look for more of Stephen's thoughts on the subject of mental health. Much love and gratitude. ❤ P.S. I love his comment on the execrable Piers Morgan.

    • @maggiefirhouse3884
      @maggiefirhouse3884 Před 9 měsíci +2

      The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel Van Der Kolk is such an excellent book. Life changing, it makes the case very well for the benefits of bodily creative expression, whether that be dance, song, theater or yoga. We were made to move in expressive ways. 🕺🏼

    • @TruthSeeker-rn1tm
      @TruthSeeker-rn1tm Před 8 měsíci

      So you want to be an unhealthy man that denounces God?

    • @HopeUnquenchable
      @HopeUnquenchable Před 6 měsíci +2

      ⁠@@TruthSeeker-rn1tmI doubt he wants to be a self-righteous judge of his fellow man🤷🏻‍♀️ When you know the acceptance the Father has for you as _you_ are, you can’t help but look at others with the same acceptance and treat them with the same grace☝️

    • @moonbeamchaos
      @moonbeamchaos Před 5 měsíci

      @@HopeUnquenchableInteresting comment about an atheist.

    • @eSheeep
      @eSheeep Před 4 měsíci

      ​@@TruthSeeker-rn1tmBend off you sparkling thunderbussy.

  • @janemilroy2667
    @janemilroy2667 Před rokem +299

    I love Stephen Fry, his fragility and emotional intellligence make him even more attractive , so bright and articulate, he would be one of my dinner party guests 😀

  • @stephc3522
    @stephc3522 Před rokem +687

    I could listen to Stephen talk for years. What an incredible man.

    • @-kattya-
      @-kattya- Před rokem +2

      me too! ah

    • @rajivfindlay1747
      @rajivfindlay1747 Před rokem

      Which one?

    • @lindanoble7047
      @lindanoble7047 Před rokem +6

      Me too... His voice is so soothing

    • @marypartridge5154
      @marypartridge5154 Před rokem +3

      My ex husband who was an actor told me to tell Stephen Fry that he should write a book about the daily life of living as a homosexual and all the nuances. As it would be great to hear about this in more detail. Like who cookd and who does what. So please tell him. Im a painter and I know the artistic temparent.

    • @caiolinnertel8777
      @caiolinnertel8777 Před rokem +9

      I love him, adored his comedy and still watch it now!

  • @francoantonelli7723
    @francoantonelli7723 Před rokem +47

    It is extraordinary how sad such a successful person is… Me myself, had a rugby accident, that left me paralysed from my neck down, at 18. I’m 55 now and have always found “my” happiness from loving and being loved by those around me. Its hard and took me a long time, but the joy and laughter I’ve found through my family, wife, health care workers, friends or however, is where I recharge or thrive and am so glad of it….

    • @chasvonplatten1298
      @chasvonplatten1298 Před 6 měsíci +4

      I am in awe of anyone, not unlike yourself, who has been able to overcome such incredibly difficult personal circumstances that would cause most situational depression. Your ability to choose to overcome it through loving relationships is quite admirable. By contrast, clinical depression rooted in a biological illness of the brain affecting mood (Bipolar disorder in this instance) is typically not overcome by an act of the will no more so than you might be able to choose to stand and walk should you have the right positive attitude.
      Imagine being condemned or shamed for not being able to will yourself to do so.
      Respectfully speaking, that is the equivalent to confusing one's reasons to be grateful and happy in their life circumstances with their brain's capacity to produce neurotypical mood with an organic brain illness with which one does not suffer. I am not suggesting that you are implying such. Rather, I mean only to highlight the difference that most miss.

    • @hanorabrennan9202
      @hanorabrennan9202 Před měsícem

      You, Franco are amazing!

  • @kevincross9206
    @kevincross9206 Před rokem +23

    How can you not love Stephen, so brutally honest, funny, humble. Truly a national treasure.

  • @mcooper593
    @mcooper593 Před rokem +158

    I love that Steven allows his guests to speak uninterrupted. Very refreshing. Great Podcast, as usual 🤗

    • @clovermark39
      @clovermark39 Před rokem +2

      @@iociccio936 You really have something against SF. Why would u troll something you didn’t like. What is the purpose?

    • @msmltvcktl
      @msmltvcktl Před rokem

      Homophobic.

  • @shellyhill6804
    @shellyhill6804 Před rokem +198

    I could listen to this conversation all day. Stephen Fry’s existence almost makes up for…well…everything. Love him so much.

  • @MollieHunt-yi4bp
    @MollieHunt-yi4bp Před 6 měsíci +6

    Stephen, do you think maybe real happiness comes from love. I am 87 years and lived a interesting and reasonably colourful life. Looking back I now realise the times I have felt the most joy was when I truly felt love, or maybe the word is empathy. I have sat quietly with nature, hearing, watching and feeling the beauty around me. I have felt the peace of my environment.
    I have held my child in my arms fully aware of the touch, smell and sound of this beloved child. These are the moments I have been completely happy.
    Now I am old my happiness is with the contentment I constantly feel. When my son hugs me goodbye and whispers “ love you, mum.” When either of my grandchildren greet me with a warm, tender smile and appear to enjoy an hour of my company. When my few close friends bother to spend time with me probably listening to stories I have repeated numerous times.
    These are the things I value more than life itself, these are the things that make it all worthwhile.

    • @susanbrodby2158
      @susanbrodby2158 Před 2 měsíci +1

      Can't agree more. The ups and downs of my life have brought me to a place of peace. At 74 I'm at last content. Family is the rock we cling to.

  • @danbrooke2618
    @danbrooke2618 Před rokem +93

    I just love the way Steven just let's the guests tell their stories, And the quality of guests is just amazing.
    Mr Fry is a unbelievable man

    • @simonmatthewwright1221
      @simonmatthewwright1221 Před 5 měsíci

      And should be 'also' + 'an' unbelievable man is a Paradox in this Context!?

  • @CurveGlider
    @CurveGlider Před rokem +110

    One of the most intelligent interviewers I have ever seen. You gave them space to talk and when it stalled right in there with a spot on question. SOLD

  • @WesternAustraliaNowAndThen

    As someone who suffers from depression and has attempted suicide seriously at least once, I discovered my way to deal with depression was to do something, anything, physical. Something as simple as mopping the floors or, in fact, going for a walk. There must be chemicals the body produces when undetaking some sort of activity that help fight the chemicals the create the depression. 'Just go for a walk' is certainly something that works for me and it may just work for others who suffer from depression. Perhaps just don't go for a walk near a cliff or over a bridge :) I agree totally with Stephen about it being difficult or impossiblt to discuss mental illness with family because in my experience, they simply want to deny it. It is only when somebody takes action and causes themsevles harm that the recriminations begin. All the time you hear stories about people who have comitted suicide and the families are saying things like, 'Why didn't he reach out and say something.' I can pretty much guarantee that most people who have taken their own lives have tried reaching out for help many, many times before taking the final step. Others were simply in denial or just completely misunderstood the cries for help...

    • @stevefmelb
      @stevefmelb Před rokem +4

      I would agree. I think its a matter of achieving 'something', no matter how small & trivial.

    • @AnitaSouthall
      @AnitaSouthall Před rokem +3

      So absolutely correct with your comments, because of shunning so many have failed to be heard when all they needed was a genuine empathetic ear. I support #mentalhealthawareness 💙

    • @hopefulforhumanity5625
      @hopefulforhumanity5625 Před rokem +3

      My husband has a physical job. He rarely has a long weekend but when he does, he will get depressed after about 2 days if he doesn't do some hard work of some kind.

    • @louisehogg8472
      @louisehogg8472 Před rokem +4

      Any physical movement produces endorphins. Maybe not as much as runners get addicted to, but enough to ensure captive animals pace up and down, institutionalised people rock back and forth, and so yes, physical movement can keep just enough endorphins flowing to take the edge off the mental pain.
      The distraction aspect of being grounded in 'action' helps to break the cyclical thinking too. That's also what mindfulness relies on.
      Some people who self-harm also do so because they've learned that the physical pain of the non-life threatening injury triggers endorphin pain-relief in a similar way. It's a multi-purpose painkiller similar to morphine and acts on a lot of systems.
      Same way that serotonin is triggered by digestion (comfort eating) AND accumulated by SSRI anti-depressants.
      The physical exercise also uses up adrenaline and lowers stress. We're designed to fight-or-flight for survival, not sit there worrying and ruminating for months.
      And outdoor walking adds nature, which is soothing to our senses.

  • @annaoneal4709
    @annaoneal4709 Před rokem +52

    I love Stephen Fry, I discovered him in the 80’s his humour and Acting is Brilliant his spoken word work is excellent and his film of depression was absolutely ground breaking and comforting . I could listen to this all evening , he’s so down to earth, so real. He gives hope to everyone. A beautiful Soul indeed.

  • @YuriPerezPreciado
    @YuriPerezPreciado Před rokem +198

    What a mind that man has! Fry is wonderful, warm, wise, intelligent and funny. Thank you for producing this great interview.

  • @Fiawordweaver
    @Fiawordweaver Před rokem +214

    How I respect this man. I’m a trauma warrior who failed two suicidal events. As I am healing I’m relieved I was successful at surviving. 70 here and send MR Fry applause in his growth and support to keep making this world a better place because he is in it. He is brilliant and so insightful. I love the metaphor your hear the hooves of the horses coming. My experience came with my body being on fire on the inside and I thought I’d implode. Imploding actually was the panic attack that you are convinced each time that your brain is melting and you’re having a heart attack and then lights out on the worst ones. Live and healing diminishing the drama.
    I came back to applaud you, the intelligent interviewer, who has the wisdom to give his guest the precious time to share his story without interference. Some interviewers like to hear themselves talk. Thank you for gifting us with giving dear Mr. Fryes his time to tell his story.

    • @litaperna1128
      @litaperna1128 Před rokem +7

      He is an inspiration.

    • @bluebellbeatnik4945
      @bluebellbeatnik4945 Před rokem +8

      bless you. i hope you are well.x

    • @tazpoochie
      @tazpoochie Před rokem +12

      Listen on CZcams to bukowski’s“ The laughing heart “ . I was raised by a mother who was lobotomised when I was a child . My life was traumatic to say the least , constant anxiety and misery . Her life was worse ! . ........This poem I have memorised and repeat to myself often

    • @heleneocleary5888
      @heleneocleary5888 Před rokem +6

      Wonderful that you are healing. Life is so precious and we are here a short while. I now try to live on the sunny side of the street, so to speak. I focus on the happy things, though if anyone I love is suffering I do find it difficult. ❤️

    • @Fiawordweaver
      @Fiawordweaver Před rokem +3

      @@heleneocleary5888 ❤️

  • @pv4685
    @pv4685 Před 10 měsíci +15

    What a wonderful wonderful human being. Im so glad he is still with us. ❤

  • @KathBorup
    @KathBorup Před rokem +27

    As someone who also has bipolar disorder I can confirm sometimes your emotional states don't always match the persons circumstances. When Stephen talked about wanting die after the play despite being a successful person was relatable. I have had so many times in my life where I have felt deeply depressed and hopeless even though my circumstances were fine, or manic and unable to sleep when nothing was different in my life. It's hard to put into words how confusing it is to not be able to trust your own emotions. Really enjoyed the BBC series he was in (about this topic) too.

  • @DaveDiggle
    @DaveDiggle Před rokem +222

    A sobering and honest example of how fragile we all are, despite our levels of perception of success - A voice we should all hear and remember his words

    • @vb1816
      @vb1816 Před rokem +5

      Insight into a bipolar brain. He is an important voice for people who share his illness, which is like having your brain hijacked by an unrelenting terrorist squad. It’s hard to articulate it, and even the best psychiatrists have no idea what it’s like unless they’ve lived it. He’s my hero.

    • @karenbearman3351
      @karenbearman3351 Před rokem +1

      Wonderfully put,
      Thank you

    • @imaner76
      @imaner76 Před rokem +3

      Very well put. Remarkable how fragile we all are.
      But we must all play our part. However that looks.

    • @meesamagill1193
      @meesamagill1193 Před rokem

      @@iociccio936 you are very hateful

    • @belindamay8063
      @belindamay8063 Před 8 měsíci

      @@vb1816 That is so true. And he is a lesson in humility - a forgotten virtue in this age of dynamism and pride.

  • @catherineboland6751
    @catherineboland6751 Před rokem +55

    The way Stephen articulates mental health issues is always ever so insightful. Could listen to him talk forever.

  • @user-oo1wh4ow2q
    @user-oo1wh4ow2q Před 7 měsíci +11

    I am 63 and you have described my hole life, I’ve been on meds for 22 years, this round but have felt this way since childhood, I have a psychologist but have not seen her for 3 years . Too hard to act positive . My mum is 94 and that is why I am still here, I could never hurt her by hurting myself, thank you for helping me understand psi so much more

    • @cecileroy557
      @cecileroy557 Před 5 měsíci +2

      So sorry to read about how you feel. I so understand. Luckily I've been able to "come back" through therapists and meds... but I am aware I'm not 100% but I am happy I don't have that horrible, helpless feeling. I hope you find some solace.

    • @OpenheartOneMind
      @OpenheartOneMind Před 3 měsíci

      How are you doing now? Watching Eckhart Tolle videos always seems to help me when I'm feeling low. Sending lots of love and light ❤️✨️

  • @tshireletsomokhuwa5618
    @tshireletsomokhuwa5618 Před rokem +25

    Stephen Fry is a wonderful man.

  • @newtonianromance
    @newtonianromance Před rokem +169

    A beautiful mind, a wonderful man...a genius never to be replicated.

    • @Mcfreddo
      @Mcfreddo Před rokem +9

      @@iociccio936 you obviously love trolling.

    • @farawaysoclose9572
      @farawaysoclose9572 Před rokem

      @@iociccio936 hit the nail on the head, he feels free to absolutely condemn those he doesn’t believe in, if we didn’t have the internet he wouldn’t appear to be so clever

    • @TheFreedomGypsy
      @TheFreedomGypsy Před rokem +2

      @@iociccio936 Thank God for that.

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      @oscarwilde5473 Před rokem

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    • @JR-xo5jp
      @JR-xo5jp Před rokem

      @@iociccio936 are You ill?

  • @pixio710
    @pixio710 Před rokem +141

    I love Stephen Fry, the man is an incredible human being.

  • @nzdefrag
    @nzdefrag Před rokem +30

    I love Stephen Fry.
    As a 52 year old New Zealand Kiwi male, who had a hard core farmer for a dad, I was brought up with a no nonsense, no fags, no homos kinda attitude.
    It was listening to Stephen over the years that fixed my attitude. I have so much respect for this great man and his wisdom. Those words above are no longer in my vocabulary.

    • @Paul2377
      @Paul2377 Před rokem

      Then maybe don't use them, unless with quote marks. Better to just say something like "my dad used homophobic slurs".

    • @deanpd3402
      @deanpd3402 Před rokem +2

      @@Paul2377 what happens immediately after you are offended? Nothing, that's it! Now grow up and get on with it. I used to be as sensitive as they come. I grew up. Now I am not offended, I know who I am and what I do and people can say what they want. Seriously there are far more important things in life than whether someone gets the words they use correctly.

    • @nzdefrag
      @nzdefrag Před rokem +6

      @@Paul2377 I already toned it down. How I worded it was on purpose, and for context. The actual words and phrases my Dad used were far worse.
      It took me a long time to overcome the bullshit 'macho, manly man' attitude he had. To say that my Dad "used homophobic slurs" would be putting it very mildly and not convey his true attitude.
      Happy new year to you and your family. 🙂

    • @OnlyHumanMe
      @OnlyHumanMe Před rokem +2

      @@nzdefrag I actually appreciate your comment being "real" and not being too censored, Thankyou.
      Well done on breaking the "cycle" of your forefathers and being so honest 👏 👍

  • @pmfg875
    @pmfg875 Před rokem +44

    Good on you to create such a gem of an interview. Stephen is a role model to every open minded person on the planet.

  • @nikkimetallinou5992
    @nikkimetallinou5992 Před rokem +142

    The guy we all want as a neighbour.....kind, gentle and generous

    • @andrewmartin3250
      @andrewmartin3250 Před rokem +5

      Speak for yourself. I wouldn't want him anywhere near me.

    • @greenstarrysky9881
      @greenstarrysky9881 Před rokem +4

      Twisted? How do you mean? I think he’s got a very beautiful view. Also it’s so cute that you added the earth emoji after “WORLD”.

    • @mabo4165
      @mabo4165 Před rokem

      @@iociccio936 OH SHUT UP YOU TROLL!

    • @Commentator-tb8ku
      @Commentator-tb8ku Před rokem

      You would have to be careful if you have a young son, brother or husband - he might try to seduce them and have sex with them.

    • @JR-xo5jp
      @JR-xo5jp Před rokem

      People love to judge wow some perfect people i'n this world that are so perfect they have the time to fix others .

  • @Darraghs
    @Darraghs Před rokem +124

    Definitely one of my favourite episodes.didnt want it to end. I could listen to him talk forever. Such an exceptional mind. ❤️

    • @miriamb3226
      @miriamb3226 Před rokem +1

      ​@@iociccio936
      Like your bitchy little comments?

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  • @nigelskipping7941
    @nigelskipping7941 Před rokem +35

    What an honest man! A decent man! A national treasure for sure.

  • @funnypantshd150
    @funnypantshd150 Před rokem +16

    stephen fry might be the best human to have ever graced this space rock we call home. So charming, down to earth, intellegent and wise. I praise him highly

  • @chrisreynolds3351
    @chrisreynolds3351 Před rokem +61

    Darling Stephen, we, the public, are so very pleased you did not end your life. So many of us first met you when you presented QI. Your demenour, your humour, your self effacing character together with your wit and intelligence captivated millions of us. And, even now, if you check out the replays of your TV appearances, you are still liked and loved and appreciated. Take care and wishing you every possible happiness.

    • @owensims7491
      @owensims7491 Před rokem +11

      @@iociccio936 Maybe not; he probably knows how the CAPS lock key works, though

    • @owensims7491
      @owensims7491 Před rokem +6

      @@iociccio936 Something in there about casting the first stone, is there not?

    • @helenbartoszek243
      @helenbartoszek243 Před rokem +2

      You should check out his early work(if you haven't already) such as Wooster and Jeeves with Hugh Laurie and A Bit of Fry and Laurie plus even earlier work with Emma Thompson, Robbie Coltrane(RIP) and many other comedians from Cambridge who went on to have professional careers in acting.

    • @helenbartoszek243
      @helenbartoszek243 Před rokem +10

      @@iociccio936 How about you keep your religious opinions to yourself. This is not the platform for it. The topic is Stephen Fry, not Jesus Christ and I can assure you most people watching this are not interested in your rude opinions.

    • @mariajoaofmd6698
      @mariajoaofmd6698 Před rokem

      @@owensims7491 😁 don't feed the troll

  • @gregorioeduardo
    @gregorioeduardo Před rokem +60

    So I’m about the same age as Stephen and every time I hear him talk about this subject I identify. It’s been a struggle for me staying alive through these years. Best of luck to anybody out there in the same situation.

    • @MrZanderLaw
      @MrZanderLaw Před rokem +3

      It was my 50th Birthday Yesterday, I don’t like fuss, I do and Have totally struggled with my Mental Health, So at my Party I wasn’t just celebrating my Birthday, I was Celebrating Staying Here for 50 years!! I don’t know how I got here, but I Am still here! I do feel thankful but on the flip side I Am a bit Unsure how long my life will be! 💖

    • @reba738
      @reba738 Před rokem +2

      @@MrZanderLaw happy belated birthday, I hope your doing ok and have many happy, healthy years ahead of you.
      And to the original poster, best of luck to you too.
      I hope your doing well both.

  • @marjamerryflower
    @marjamerryflower Před 9 měsíci +7

    Dear Stephen and Stephen, what a delightful conversation. Thanks for having us!

  • @Sw4de
    @Sw4de Před 11 měsíci +12

    Stephen Fry’s stories and knowledge has saved me in every which way it can, a national treasure

  • @thewatchmanstudios6257
    @thewatchmanstudios6257 Před rokem +41

    I only meant to have a glance at this.. An hour and 35 minutes later, my coffee is cold, and my soul is satiated.
    Brilliant interview, you asked the right questions, and stayed out of his way. Very well done

  • @jodywinter8171
    @jodywinter8171 Před rokem +43

    I was at that Saturday night performance of Cell Mates. A 23-year-old Kiwi in London, I was awestruck seeing two of my comedy idols together on stage. I was so worried about Stephen when I read the next day that he had disappeared. I'm relieved he got help and went on to do so much good in the world.

    • @magiclife1998
      @magiclife1998 Před rokem +14

      @@iociccio936WHAT GOOD HAVE YOU DONE EXCEPT GIVE YOUR CAPSLOCK KEY A GOOD WORKOUT?!

    • @JR-xo5jp
      @JR-xo5jp Před rokem +2

      @@magiclife1998 🤣💪

    • @lesleyhughes3174
      @lesleyhughes3174 Před rokem +1

      @@magiclife1998 😆😅👏👏👍👍

    • @louisehogg8472
      @louisehogg8472 Před rokem

      I certainly remember the TV coverage.
      The headlines about the play, being shown. The images of the abandoned car. The concern that he may have drowned himself in the sea.
      The suddenness of it, but also my complete lack of surprise. His depression had been visible, but only close up.
      As he says in the interview, look at the eyes. That episode of Jeeves and Wooster only a few months before (about either monogrammed hankies or silk socks). Not sure how long before that was recorded, but depression can take a while to build. The camera zooms in close and for once the eyes don't match the supposed Jeeves character.
      It was both eyes though. May have been more obvious in his left eye, I can't remember that detail?

  • @YomsterFUT13
    @YomsterFUT13 Před 6 měsíci +8

    I have probably watched this specific episode at least over 30 times since it came out last year. Finally I’m writing a comment to put into words how incredible this episode was. As an avid podcast listener of all types and kinds this has somehow turned into my comfort episode to listen to when I have nothing. Stephen Fry really is not only so beautifully honest and transparent he is also so eloquent and smart. Truly genius. Feel like I have so much to learn from him and feel like every time I listen to him my conversating and reasoning skills just improve. This is supposed to be a sad podcast but one that I always leans on in how rational while also being empathetic he is. Makes me want to be smarter and improve my vocabulary and as someone who was 22 first time hearing this it really has been a part of my growth in my outlook on life in the past few years. This immediately caused me to go on a Stephen Fry talks/interview binge plus he really is someone I would one day just love to speak to about literally anything in the world as I guarantee it would be interesting. He really has such a unique aura and power of keeping you transfixed and someone that you really want to know everything about and all their views on random bits of life. I know I’ll end up adding to this later on throughout my life in replies but seriously what a truly beautiful episode.

  • @lorettokennedy4647
    @lorettokennedy4647 Před rokem +12

    Stephen Fry is always so frank, open and honest ...it's really refreshing... he literally leaves no stone unturned and opens up unashamedly every interview, I really admire him

  • @kerryholland4822
    @kerryholland4822 Před rokem +27

    Fry is one of the greatest treasures. I sincerely hope he’s found his peace and happiness

    • @kerryholland4822
      @kerryholland4822 Před rokem +1

      @@iociccio936 you described the most perfect and glorious type of person so of course I would call him the greatest treasure. Probably one of the only people my country can be PROUD of

  • @jacquelinekabugo-raderson1878

    I love Stephen Fry. He is unapologetically himself. So inspiring, creative, and self-deprecating. I find his life story, and indeed his storytelling, quite riveting. I too have a love of language ❤️✨️✨️✨️🤗

  • @Gixer750pilot
    @Gixer750pilot Před 9 měsíci +20

    If I was going to be stuck in an elevator with one person , it would be this man !!! He’s fascinating and we could all learn so much from him

    • @TruthSeeker-rn1tm
      @TruthSeeker-rn1tm Před 8 měsíci

      He could learn just as much from you, you know.

    • @cecileroy557
      @cecileroy557 Před 5 měsíci

      @@TruthSeeker-rn1tm Not necessarily. Most people don't have his wisdom.

  • @abd4175
    @abd4175 Před 6 měsíci +10

    I love his analogy about the storms in your head and the reality of the weather...such a nice way to help others understand that don't suffer with mental illness. Such an interesting podcast, thank you.

  • @onewillow8511
    @onewillow8511 Před rokem +48

    Love the mind of this man and his gentle and empathetic character. Listened and watched hundreds of hours of his "expressions". Tremendous human.

  • @lincasteel-butler531
    @lincasteel-butler531 Před rokem +82

    Going trhough a depression right now. It was a pleasure to hear Stephen Fry.

  • @ControversialChristian
    @ControversialChristian Před 7 měsíci +7

    My favorite part of the internet is the ability to meet people through conversations like this. This episode showed up randomly in my feed as a suggestion. Though Ive heard his name before, I know so little about him . I love how he took conversations about some pretty tough topics such as class , ADHD, depession, homosexuality, and even suicide and mad them so easy to understand without all the usual hostility. I am looking forward to seeing more from both him and this channel. This interview was amazing in its laid back, yet highly informative style.

  • @gemmaparkes1876
    @gemmaparkes1876 Před rokem +18

    I LOVE Stephen Fry. Just fantastic and so honest and aware.

  • @mariaryan8519
    @mariaryan8519 Před rokem +62

    Stephen has always been beyond his years , and an empath to the core . We question everything and express ourselves through words , and expression , arts etc . Its a heavy load to carry because of the years of trauma from different aspects of our lives . I love your vlog , its so natural and calm . Love from Ireland .

    • @heleneocleary5888
      @heleneocleary5888 Před rokem +2

      How judgemental!

    • @christinebuckingham8369
      @christinebuckingham8369 Před rokem +1

      @@iociccio936You're spouting Russian/Putin propaganda hate mongering. Why are you even watching the interview if it "offends" you so? Or is Putin paying you to spread misinformation and hatred at one of his many Troll Farms?

    • @miriamb3226
      @miriamb3226 Před rokem +3

      ​@@iociccio936
      Who hurt you, poor thing?

  • @michael5089
    @michael5089 Před rokem +109

    Outstanding interview. As someone who suffers immensely with mental health this resonates so much. Lovely man.💙💙💙

    • @kekboss3812
      @kekboss3812 Před rokem +3

      🎉

    • @DanielFranc35
      @DanielFranc35 Před rokem +5

      My place of recovery! From a funny little Spanish man, great fan of him for some time.

  • @theauthentictaste2469
    @theauthentictaste2469 Před 9 měsíci +13

    Absolutely love this man. I cried just listening to him because I related so much. Love his humility, sense of humour and his rawness. Why is that the most kindest people suffer with depression,😢

  • @humantribemember
    @humantribemember Před rokem +6

    I love the fact that he is constantly self reflecting and becoming a better version.

  • @zedrake
    @zedrake Před rokem +104

    Stephen Fry gets a like at 1 second in. A legitimate national treasure. Not in a jokey meme way or the overblown way it gets used these days, very genuinely he is a great example for anyone and everyone

    • @timanderson6005
      @timanderson6005 Před rokem +2

      National Treasure. So is Emma Thompson. Possibly even more so.

    • @createone100
      @createone100 Před rokem +4

      @@iociccio936 You’re the reason that we screen our twitter responses. Don’t be vile.

    • @createone100
      @createone100 Před rokem

      @Ed Because he has je ne sais quoi.😄

    • @marksimons4108
      @marksimons4108 Před rokem

      Hell is paved with good intentions

    • @marksimons4108
      @marksimons4108 Před rokem

      Example for what?

  • @ascgazz7347
    @ascgazz7347 Před rokem +9

    Misdiagnosed with depression and anxiety most of my life, discovered I’m autistic and adhd at 43.
    Such a strange bittersweet feeling..

    • @LoudMinded
      @LoudMinded Před rokem +1

      What changed in terms of treatment? Different approach with a psychologist or something entirely different?

    • @ascgazz7347
      @ascgazz7347 Před rokem +1

      @@LoudMinded honestly?
      Very little. There’s no support where I live so I’m on an indefinite list for psychotherapy, 3 months so far no sign of an appointment.
      Medication wise concerta just about does enough.. so far.
      My psychiatrist is terrible too. My GP, psychiatrist both blocked me from seeing psychotherapist for months.
      I have an autism service but I feel guilty when I use it because it’s so poorly funded.
      I live in Powys, Wales, UK.
      It’s like living in the dark ages here.

    • @ascgazz7347
      @ascgazz7347 Před rokem

      @@LoudMinded I’m pretty much on my own besides the concerta.

    • @LoudMinded
      @LoudMinded Před rokem +1

      @@ascgazz7347 For all the changes we see in open conversations around mental health, it's disgraceful that the truly needed support is lacking. Getting a good doctor is surprisingly difficult all over the world. Like mentioned on the podcast, we have to include the "walk it off" type of advice as well, daily walks were actually the first thing a psychiatrist recommended to someone I know.
      Thank you for your answer, I wish you all the best ❤️

    • @ascgazz7347
      @ascgazz7347 Před rokem +1

      @@LoudMinded I have ME/Fibromyalgia too so walking takes too much energy most days, but I do believe it’s valuable, especially a wall with a friend..
      But it’s no panacea.
      Maybe have an apple a day too? 😂
      Thank you, all the best to you too. ❤️

  • @winros
    @winros Před rokem +40

    I remember when, Steven did a documentary on himself.... being diagnosed with bipolar! My Heart broke for him! ✌🏻✌🏻🤟🏻🤟🏻

  • @Chingloves
    @Chingloves Před 5 měsíci +7

    Stephen is a national treasure. I grew up watching him in Blackadder, a bit or Fry and Laurie and much more. I remember when he had the breakdown and was very worried for him.

  • @eldritchmonsterofnorfolk7253
    @eldritchmonsterofnorfolk7253 Před 10 měsíci +10

    I do love how Stephen unconsciously provides some background info for audiences unfamiliar with the British way of life eg mentioning during what ages kids attend prep school in Britain. Fantastic storyteller and a true wordsmith. As someone suffering from severe anxiety since my early adolescence, I can attest that mental illness doesn’t care about facts or reality unfortunately. You can have all the love and admiration in the world and still be terribly sad. In my case you can be safe and sound yet be almost crippled by anxiety and paranoia. All the best to Mr Fry and everyone battling their own mental issues.

  • @nicolevance8705
    @nicolevance8705 Před rokem +18

    I don't know if you read the comments Stephen, but I search for your videos when I'm stressed. The sound of your voice is the most calming thing I have EVER heard. Please know you're loved and wanted/needed in this world.

    • @kel110uk
      @kel110uk Před rokem

      Same, I put these on to fall asleep to in the background, I find his voice so soothing!

    • @Gar96229
      @Gar96229 Před rokem +1

      I can confirm! Stephen is a shining example of what the world needs. If Stephen were to ever meet himself, he’d never know suffering again.

  • @RICHARD.WRIGHT1
    @RICHARD.WRIGHT1 Před rokem +29

    One of the greatest honest actors of our time, an authentic guy, loved this interview.....Takes me back to 80's when I used to watch BLACKADDER........... Thanks so much for this episode.

  • @claudiabTV
    @claudiabTV Před 8 měsíci +7

    STORMS IN YOUR HEAD weather/emotional analogy - beautiful❤️ Bravo. Love this IV. Well done, guys x

  • @peterb9407
    @peterb9407 Před rokem +21

    What an amazing podcast and such a brilliant interviewer! As a fellow person with bipolar, i understand the metaphors more than anybody. The way I first described it to my psychologist, is that mania is like building a house piece by piece and then you leave it (depressive phase). By the time you’re back manic again, you go to the house and it’s all fallen down, so you build it back up again, brick by brick but there’s a brick missing now and you go back into the depressive phase. Then you become manic again and you go back to the house and it’s fallen down again, so you build it back up again but this time there’s 2 bricks missing, rinse and repeat until you have no fucking house left🤦🏻‍♂️😂

  • @snowpixxie6673
    @snowpixxie6673 Před rokem +44

    Such an intelligent, funny, open man. I am from Romania, but I've loved him since I saw the first sketches of Fry and Laurie. Would be nice to see them together now, reminiscing on shared adventures. I just discovered this channel, while I was searching for sketches of Fry. Very nice podcast, very articulate host, allows the guest to speak and listens politely. I subscribed :-)

  • @Geoplanetjane
    @Geoplanetjane Před rokem +47

    I have loved Steven since I first saw him with Hugh Laurie in the Bertie Wooster and Jeeves series, which is truly marvelous, for anyone who hasn’t seen it. I hope he continues to be around. Thank you, Mr Fry, for being you.

  • @stefangomez9343
    @stefangomez9343 Před rokem +9

    I love this man. He is so knowledgeable and kind. I would love to have the chance to sit with him for a coffee and just listen to what he has to say for hours.

  • @iangriffiths9840
    @iangriffiths9840 Před rokem +26

    In my last job of 10 years, now retired, I was always honest with my colleagues about my depression and asked that they tell me if they saw something wrong. As a benefit I made so many friends and was approached by many who were struggling at some point.

  • @nebamelago8049
    @nebamelago8049 Před rokem +23

    "I don't know what I'm talking about but I'm having fun". Listening to Stephen is always a delight, a journey and a glimpse into what I ask of my friends in conversations.

  • @bushratbeachbum
    @bushratbeachbum Před rokem +28

    I've adored Stephen since I've been aware of him.
    A truly delightful and amazing human being.
    Excellent interviewer too, beautiful style and skilful in his trade.
    An absolute joy throughout.

  • @louisehogg8472
    @louisehogg8472 Před rokem +5

    One of the scariest things I've had happen, was when watching Jeeves and Wooster (ie Fry & Laurie) in the '90s, only a matter of months before that sudden disappearance. I suddenly spotted the depth of his depression.
    I'd been totally absorbed in the story and his acting was superbly in character, when momentarily a camera close up caught 'Jeeves' NOT looking 'hurt professional pride', but instead devastatingly lonely. To the point that I instantly started crying, didn't take in the rest of the programme and was frantically asking mum 'how do I contact the BBC? That actor is at serious risk of suicide.'
    I had no idea of his personal life, realised the show was pre-recorded, assumed his employer or loved ones would have the matter in hand, did nothing further.
    But I felt the colour drain out of my face when I saw the TV news headlines a few months later, across the Students' Union cafe bar. Talk about feeling guilty!
    Went on to predict 2 other suicides that DID then happen that year.
    Yet folk whine: 'we didnae ken.'

    • @louisehogg8472
      @louisehogg8472 Před rokem +2

      Still, it drove me to trust my instinct and cling like a limpet to a fellow student who was being difficult due to PTSD.
      On the basis that however annoying that person found me, they'd find 'being abandoned' (by succeeding in driving me away) even MORE lonely. Energy spent attacking me, was time they weren't attacking themselves.
      I got ostracised by others for it, but my 'target' pulled through and is still with us.

    • @lauraarcher1730
      @lauraarcher1730 Před 7 měsíci

      To be fair it isn’t always that obvious even to loved ones.

    • @gillianfranks7349
      @gillianfranks7349 Před 6 měsíci +1

      I’m sorry that you have that “ken” and hope you can channel it well for yourself as well as others.

  • @rivkaruthgolan
    @rivkaruthgolan Před rokem +21

    Oh my! Never want to lose Stephen Fry in an untimely manner, especially after learning more about him through this interview. I hope to meet him one day. His world of ideas is. a gift to us all

  • @dacksonflux
    @dacksonflux Před rokem +50

    For a while I only knew Fry as a comedy actor. It wasn't until a few years ago that I found him to be quite the intellectual scholar.
    I'm currently reading his book "The Ode Less Traveled" and it's been incredibly helpful in my journey to understanding poetry.

    • @owenhunt
      @owenhunt Před rokem

      Left that unfinished 11 years ago. What are the best chapters to dive into?

    • @ripdbtpoo1441
      @ripdbtpoo1441 Před rokem

      Thanks. I shall buy it. Why the hell haven't I heard of it? I've got the novels(buy The Hippopotamus!)and the autobiogs and the 3 Greek m & ls but l've never heard of a volume of poetic criticism...to the bookshop!

    • @ripdbtpoo1441
      @ripdbtpoo1441 Před rokem

      Incidentally,there'd better be two Ls in travelled,as there are in ENGLISH, or Stephen (my name also)can keep his damn book...shame he'll never know!

    • @owenhunt
      @owenhunt Před rokem +4

      @@ripdbtpoo1441 He's English why would he Americanize his book title? I can check my library if you want, or you could simply check Amazon

    • @ripdbtpoo1441
      @ripdbtpoo1441 Před rokem +4

      @@owenhunt Yes, indeed I could. I was not being entirely serious, but you were not to know that. Sorry to have wasted your time, and good evening (here, at least).

  • @maximusthe1st
    @maximusthe1st Před 5 měsíci +6

    Stephen Fry is a British treasure and must be protected at all costs

  • @pedrohenriquevilarmiranda1904
    @pedrohenriquevilarmiranda1904 Před 7 měsíci +4

    Honestly I kept avoiding seing this video despite being suggested by CZcams all the time.
    One of the very best I watched so far. Touching and emotive. A lovely human being!

  • @atypicalenglishbloke3487
    @atypicalenglishbloke3487 Před rokem +70

    And now you’ve got one of my favorite entertainers and biggest idols on the podcast! How the hell are you getting such great guests?!

    • @TheDiaryOfACEO
      @TheDiaryOfACEO  Před rokem +10

      Let me know what you think of this one!

    • @atypicalenglishbloke3487
      @atypicalenglishbloke3487 Před rokem +13

      I have to say this was fantastic! You asked great questions and Stephen wasn’t afraid to be honest in answering them. It might be my favourite podcast you’ve done so far. Thanks Steven for the great conversations you’re letting us witness.

    • @TheDiaryOfACEO
      @TheDiaryOfACEO  Před rokem +23

      To answer your question! The more you guys engage and subscribe, the better the guests get so thank you!

  • @jamespeplow8701
    @jamespeplow8701 Před rokem +24

    A wonderfully articulate man. There is a type of sadness that comes with this type of intelligence.

  • @TheBaronme
    @TheBaronme Před 2 měsíci +3

    Stephen Fry, Thank you for your art, for your voice and for the love on everything you do. ❤️

  • @ivodjonev2910
    @ivodjonev2910 Před 10 měsíci +5

    What a humble, compassionate, courageous and intelligent human being!

  • @amandamargaretbaker2023
    @amandamargaretbaker2023 Před rokem +48

    Stephen is always a delight.I could listen to him all day long. I hope he makes more documentaries on various topics . My 13 year old son has just discovered Harry potter being narrated by Mr fry on audible and its the first time he's been able to enjoy a book as he has severe dyslexia. He says you are the best storyteller thank you.

  • @ougoah
    @ougoah Před rokem +97

    This conversation has such a wonderful combination of spontaneity and depth!

  • @steveharesign8324
    @steveharesign8324 Před rokem +7

    A hug from Stephen Fry is at the top of my bucket list - I couldn't think of a more wonderful experience in this life..

    • @steveharesign8324
      @steveharesign8324 Před rokem

      @@iociccio936 - I think you mean ADVISABLE - and, absolutely!

    • @steveharesign8324
      @steveharesign8324 Před rokem

      @@iociccio936 - Unsure what you mean - would you like to elucidate?

    • @steveharesign8324
      @steveharesign8324 Před rokem

      @@iociccio936 - Thank you for your comment. Your parents must be so proud of the person you👆have become...

  • @m1sfit_l0v3
    @m1sfit_l0v3 Před rokem +10

    He's grown a LOT and it's great to see him keeping up with the times.