Why YOU Should Dress Modestly || Get the attention you deserve!
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We dress “immodestly” for the girls and the gays that’s it
period
Yess❤❤❤
Haha YES queen
PERIODTTT
That’s it girl 😌
The female body is not always sexual. The female body is not always sexual. The female body is not always sexual.
THIS !! lmao perpetuation of modesty culture only enforces the idea that women’s body’s are inherently sexual. no thanks!
Female bodies are fetishized.
SAY IT LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK
Thank you.
If you feel confident in it wear it.
I AM INDIVIDUAL dont think thats what they ment . but ok
As a by-choice hijabi, modest clothes do not stop you from being sexualized. If males want to sexualize a woman, they will do it no matter how clothed she is. Rape and assault is always the rapist's fault, never the victim. I dress modestly because it makes me feel good and does somehow draw more respect.
👏 thank u
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Yess queen. Thats why i love hijabis more. They know what modest means. Its about boundaries rather than doing it for protection
@@thepink3798 but the Qur'an literally says it's for protection.
@@thepink3798 hijabis in the west*
Here in the middle east they are the same if not worse than abby
(I am arab and know it)
I just noticed a pattern. Women who tell others to dress modestly usually dress to impress men, to prove them that they are not sex objects. While women who dress revealingly usually just don't care about men, its all about her body, comfort and style.
One person's opinion cant be a pattern, some people dress modesty because they feel better "don't forget that", it has nothing to do with man. "It is about privacy,". I like to keep some of myself only to myself because it is my right to privacy. Some people feel naked when they are wearing revealing clothes some don't feel that. For some people regardless of men or woman clothes makes them feel safe because they are able to keep parts of themselves only to themselves not for everyone to see. hope you understand what I mean.
1. Women aren’t here to satisfy men.
2. Men aren’t sex driven machines
Yes
especially the second one, as a girl who was raised very religious, my mom would constantly say that to me, ever since i was like 12. "all they think about is sex", "they think makeup is sExUaL". basically, if i put extra effort is how i look, i'll look "sexual" to men. 🤢 so glad i never believed her.
edit: ok here's an example, when i was 16 i wanted to put on lip gloss that my friend got me as a gift & it had a little pink tint. my mom literally told me i couldn't wear it outside bc men would see it as sexual if i made my lips more colored. i was 16. 16!!!😐
Naseem R one of my teachers tried telling me that I should not wear makeup and certain clothes because little boys will be distracted ... I laughed in her face why doesn’t she tell little boys to control themselves
sirius my teacher kind of told me something like that but it's because i was fighting with this girl because she kept calling me a 'slut' and she told me if i didn't want to be called that to not dress like one and not to be seen with so many guys but i am sorry you had to go through something like that.
It’s at 666 likes. I don’t wanna ruin it
POV: You’re reading the comments while a conservative women lectures you in the background
*Jewish oml.
Literally me
Nah I pause it she’s too annoying
Nah, I hit pause.
I’m literally just here to read all the awesome comments (and hit the like button on them)
@@InktoEcho sammee
“Ladies, you better treat your bodies with respect and start recognizing reality.” Imagine a man saying something like this...
Men say things like that all the time. It's completely uncontroversial. This is the root of all sexism: masculine hyperagency and feminine hypoagency. If you suggest that a man will be judged based on how he dresses and presents himself, absolutely no one will bat an eye. Men are always held responsible for how other people treat them. Women, on the other hand, are treated as stupid, brainless children who can't be held responsible for their choices and actions. Which often means women can't be judged for their choices and actions.
Thus if you say something like "Of course no one respects you, you dress like an immature slob." to a man, everyone agrees that's fair. But if you say "Of course no one respects you, you dress like an immature slut." to a woman, morons and idiots start screaming how that's sexist against women because how dare you assert that women aren't brainless morons who are incapable of understanding that others judge them based on how they dress.
Yall would call him a feminist ally. 🙄
Yeah it would still be the truth. You'd just whine about it more.
@@rayweaver8295 Ray Weaver everyone, world authority on how women these days should dress, because in his day they were just more modest and seeing women's skin is just plain indecent.
Women being overly sexualized is really the fault of men and women tbh. There’s men out their that just act like creeps to be funny and there’s also women that are overly self-conscious or are attention seeking constantly. It’s a two pronged issue.
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Do you know the word "patriarchy"?
@@flexibleskedulePatriarchy is the state of human society. Without it you wouldnt have food in your table and without it you wouldnt even be able to have sex with whoever you want without getting pregant.
It has its downsides for women and men tho.
For women it comes oversexualisation.
Since you are the natural selectors, males interact with you because of sexual attention.
This creates issues(rape,creeps and oversexualisation)
For men it comes higher competition for mates,to the point where most of them will either be incompetent and die alone or either have to actively become far better than the mate they want to atract. Also this highly hierarchycal competence comes with more agressive and dangerous actions. So yes, technically they are less apreciatted,more likely to die and less likely to feel wanted.
I always hear the "patriarchy" thing but if I am being honest no man or woman created it,its subconsequence of human nature so It cant really be changed.
The invisible hierarchy in males is created by women by sexual selection of the "strongest" but it isnt women who created it,its the environment for humans to continute to exist,women MUST be selective thats why that hierarchy exists (it wasnt intentional)
The notions of what society is will alwaus be based on and driven by biological motivation.
Specially when it comes to surviving.
Also dont blame the guys who sexualise you in their minds,a healthy human male with healthy dopamine receptors gets a dopamine rush when he sees naked woman that he finds attractive and most men find most women somewhat attractive.
Your body objevtively isnt like the male body,due to sexual dimorphism so you cannot function logically with the same rules if you want efficiency.
Patriarchy is not a system,it is the human society's evironment and driven by gender interactions.
And no,nowadays in western world this environment is not trying to dominate women.
People are fighting an enemy that doesnt exist instead of solving a problem breaking it down logically
Yes it is both the women's responsibility to not dress overly provocative and also the men's responsibility to turn their vision away and not stoop down to that level and feed onto that scream of attention from women
@@SophiaHernandez-fp2uuit’s the women responsibility only before they leave the house they know what there doing they look at themselves and know what being put on display to say men should just not look is foolish I guess men should just walk with their heads down women just hate accountability
she really just said "men are visual creatures, not emotional ones." that is very harmful to say.
I hate this idea that men can't control themselves and need women to do it for them. It not only dehumanizing men, but also excludes female predators.
Then why do men stare at other women?
I also hate the idea of referring to men as creatures. Like wtf.
Toxic
Janille Gendron ok listen here. In school most of my sexual harassment was from lesbian women. Don’t think men are the only people who “stare” mkay. Let’s boil it down to a person. No genders involved. And this type of person can be referred to as a predator. Predators come in the form of female male or gender fluid people or whatever the heck else. Point is not all women nor men are predators but predators do exist. Within humanity
She’s probably the type to blame a woman for getting sexually harassed🙄
Most def
"Well what were you wearing when you got harrassed?" Yep
Lmao, probably.
Here's the thing she doesn't seem to get. Sexual harassment, assault, and sexualization can happen no matter what you're wearing because it's not within your control. It's the fault of the man, or even woman, who was unable to control themselves.
Sexualization is not the fault of what the victim wore, it is the fault of the person who sexualized them.
Sexual harassment is NOT the fault of what the victim wore, or the victim at all, it is the fault of the person who harassed them.
Sexual assault is *NOT* the fault of what the victim wore, or the victim at all, it is the fault of the person who assaulted them.
Personal story coming up, slight warning here:
I was sexually harassed for 3, almost 4 years, and there was an attempted assault the 3rd year.
After the first few months of harassment I felt awful. I felt like it was because I was wearing off shoulder tops and shorts, I thought I just looked too sexual or something. I was rather young, so I believed things similar to what she mentioned in the video. So I started wearing layers and layers of clothing, oversized jackets, and jeans with leggings underneath them. Not a single bit of skin showing other than my face. Because I thought that would stop it. But it still didn't stop.
I did manage to solve my problem, though. So if you read this much, don't worry about it.
Mother Onion thanks for sharing something personal and I completely agree❤️
She definitely is
You of all people should know that dressing modestly does not stop people from sexualising you.
And you think people would sexualize her the same amount if she didn't dress modestly? Braindead.
Greatly reduces the risk tho
@@sandels5805 So do you think it's a baby's fault for getting sexually assaulted because it was obviously the babysuit that provoked the sexual thoughts? What about muslim women who wear covered top to toe. They get raped all the time.
Rapists don't care what you wear. They only care about rape.
@@sandels5805that's true but it shouldn't haveto be like this.
@@sandels5805 Instead of blaming clothing, let's blame the person who can't control himself in front of women hm?
Would you really blame a baby in a nappy because of sick people that are attracted to kids?
The dislikes according to the API stand at 157k.
“Men are visual creatures, not emotional ones.” Is so ignorant and sexist, I can’t even. I know tons of emotional men and emotional women who don’t look at other human beings as objects. Granted there are people who are that way, it has nothing to do with gender. That’s a stereotype.
Thank you for saying this. So true and I hate stereotypes
Yeah I don’t like how that statement reduces men to animals. They are generally fully developed human beings who have many different sides to them, so are women.
and this assuming and treating ALL men like they're all hungry criminal beasts that can't control themselves just because of the ones that are. that is not treating them as human. that's not the point of feminism. 🙄 we want equality not more unequality.
As a general rule, male sexuality is visually driven. That’s simply a fact. I’m not defending this video, but calling that statement an ignorant stereotype is just incorrect.
Not to mention that all creatures with working eyes are visual creatures and that she literally and immediately directly contradicts herself to claim men aren’t emotional creatures. If simply what they see is making them emotional (and I highly recommend she and males of her mindset look up “emotion”) then actually men _are_ the more emotional beings and being emotional is usually fine but being so emotional that you become dangerous or can’t handle existing next to fellow humans because of their body shapes, then you’re definitely the problem and need to get your emotions in check. Our species was not designed for the males to lose their shit over female bodies. Naked is our most natural state afterall.
"I'm not criticizing anyone" 5 minutes earlier: "Dress modestly, not garishly"
This is how I imagined the reception in hell
@@marinpapillon1269 Well i dont believe in religion. Just saying.
Yeah lol same
perfectly said lol
If you view someone as an object, it doesn’t matter how much clothing they put on, you’ll still view them as an object. So maybe the problem lies with you and not with them 🙃
No, I very much view a woman in a suit vs a woman in lingerie differently.
Tell that to your feminist friends who complain women are being "objectified" whenever they are cast/depicted in revealing clothing.
@@CaptainBones222then that's your issue babes 😘
@@wheresthelambsauce8273 Nope, they start the issue first when they wear certain clothing. If I dress up as a cop, you will think i'm a cop.
So according to this logic a woman wearing extremely revealing clothing out in public is going to be sexualized the same amount if she dresses modestly? Yeah I don't think so.
The way she says this but would lose her mind after seeing a Muslim woman's Hijab...
Exactly
Exactly
RIGHT lmao
You know it 😒
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Alternative title: *downgrading woman to a Standard that men shouldn’t be held accountable and everything is our fault for 5 minutes and 4 seconds*
THIS SO TRUE WHAT ARE THESE ADS
yes! thank you!
YUP!!!!!!!
And agiesm
Real talk
You may need to know this, men aren't stupid dogs. They're humans who don't always have a super small attention span. Women don't need to dress for others. They can dress how they want. Just because they dress a way, doesn't mean anything.
Try and show up at a job interview in your pyjama's and see how it goes.
She never said men were dogs where are you getting that from??!
how naive can a person be?
Actually it does mean something
I think u need a course in evolutionary psychology, there are evolutionary reasons for why men and women do certain things such as dress a certain way for example, these reasons are not always conscious
1:12 maybe the people in that family shouldn’t be paying that much attention to your body in the first place 😭
imagine thinking people dress “immodestly” just to be seen by men LMAOOOO
This entire video is literally about serving men lmao
Shit, I thought I was doing it for lesbians......
BACK TO THE DRAWING BOARDS PEOPLE MODESTY IS FOR THE STRAIGHTS. PACK IT UP! PUT THAT CROP TOP DOWN!
Period
Like no babygirl I ain't dressing for no man I'm dressing for myself to admire when looking at a mirror 😌💅
witttlewholesome Ah, you’re a victim blamer. I see.
who tf curled this chicks hair. they committed a hate crime
I AM INDIVIDUAL ur hiding too bud ...
It looks like dried discharge in her hair.
@I AM INDIVIDUAL found the secret alt account you aren't slick you're impeccably stupid.
Let's see your face how about that?
@I AM INDIVIDUAL and you’re just hiding behind a meme lmao, how’s that any better ?? you’re a hypocrite ❤️
It was probably herself. Multiple hate crimes have been committed in this video...
„I hope that when I‘m fifty I hope that people will be talking about my accomplishments as a mother and a wife and not my muscle tone“ man, imagine being only remebered in connection with other people that sounds so sad
You liar, she also said she wants to be known for HER values. She literally said it in the same breath.
If men aren't emotional creatures, then how come I cry every day since my ex-wife left me? Haha, checkmate
I love men 😭🤚
Because we first see what we want and then get emotional about it?
this gives me “she was asking for it” vibes that i really don’t like. NEXT.
This whole video was just that but in a more bulshitty way
100% agree
Ngl I feel like because victim blaming has become such a taboo (and very rightfully so), we tend go overreact when people are talking about clothes in a different context. She was talking about the attention you get and the impression you leave, not whether or not you are responsible for being sexually harassed.
Her ads keep popping up and so I wanted to see what she was and she seems like she’s apart of a cult😬
Exactly. Victim shaming is horrible.
“You should look attractive” “men are wired to have one thing in the brain” “as a woman with values” she sounds like SUCH A JUDGEMENTAL dummy.
löser exactly!
She does sound that way, but at the same it’s true that as a women if your going somewhere in general and dress modest, it’s an easy way to prevent rape. But instead of that, we should be teaching men to keep it in their pants.
@@bcjfjcjdjidicicuf6326 dressing modestly isn't going to prevent rape, all kinds of people get raped wearing all kinds of things get raped.
Bcjfjcj Djidicicuf rape still occurred during centuries when women would completely cover up and travel from place to place in modest clothing and floor length dresses, and even now in our current society women still continue to get taken advantage of regardless of what they wear, so covering up in public doesn’t help “prevent it”, if a man truly has that desire to hurt and take advantage of a women he’ll do it regardless of what they have on
@@bcjfjcjdjidicicuf6326 nope, its not. I am a Muslim woman. i have never in my EINTIRE LIFE showed my stomach, arms, legs, feet, etc, but i have been sexualized and catcalled. i have even been raped in my ABAYA (dress that covers almost the entire body except face and hands) MULTIPLE TIMES. rape is not preventable in a misogynistic world. stop victim blaming.
Wow it's so cool that we get to use time travel to give women from the 19th century an opportunity to vlog
Women in the 19th century knew how to survive and keep society together in harsher circumstances than you will ever know. Maybe we should listen to them, instead of modern people choking on comfort-induced stupidity.
The best comment lmao
I'm dead 😭
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"Men are visual creatures!"
Stevie Wonder: :'(
She's the type of girl who doesn't let her friends wear shorts around her boyfriend
ADGSDSKJJ
And the type of woman who won't let her Daughter wear shorts around male family members
She’s the type who will blame the victim if her friend tells her she’s been assaulted
The type of person who scolds her daughter for wearing shorts and tank if she was assaulted. Telling her she should have known the risks for dressing "sexy".
@@Alice-gd4sx wait. my mom does this
You can tell how much she's just repeating whatever Conservative-Christian propaganda she's told when you realize this Jewish woman is literally not followed Jewish modesty laws in this video. I can see your collarbone dear...
And she’s showing her hair even though she’s married 😬
Also the fact that an entrepreneurial content-creating Jewish woman is telling the rest of us to stay at home in accordance to traditional Christian values feels insanely ridiculous. This video itself earned her a few thousand dollars in ad revenue lol
Why are y’all mad at this video lmfao
They filthy
Basic women who cant have a debate and understand another opinion …. Pretty much
As a Christian, dressing modestly in not just about demanding respect to men. Our primary aim is to honor, please, and glorify God including the way we dress.
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@@MaryLab2930 got a problem?
@@adeleisnamedafterme “dressing modestly is not just about demanding respect to men” babes men deserve NOTHING from women. keep in mind that you can be assaulted no matter what you wear 💕 even if u dress modestly u can still be harassed by a man. maybe instead of telling women to cover up, tell men to keep their eyes and hands to themselves.
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amen
This woman is talking down to every woman who dresses in a way that makes them feel comfortable that doesn't go along with what she thinks. No thanks.
Ho ho ho
PREACH
She did say this right near the end: "I understand the pull to dressing immodestly, and I'm not looking down on anyone for it. I'm just offering you an alternative."
she's looking down on men too. we need to have higher expectations of ppl(men and women), not lower expectations.
Please stop advertising I’m almost certainly not the demographic you are looking for.
ROY G. BIV are you a guy lmbo
Chill 💀
Emma _ no
She’s targeting opposite of who would normally watch her 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
Okay guys I get that you don't agreed with her. I don't. I disagree with everything she says in every video, but you gotta understand that's her way of living. She is Jewish, so I'm assuming she is just doing what is within her faith. She is dressing modestly because that's what's acceptable in her religion. I know many of the things she said in the video are highly disagreeable for you, but just accept that's her. If you don't like her, don't watch her videos. It's not that hard. Just ignore it. Don't comment anything hateful. She's just trying to educate people of what she believes is right, and you will NOT change her views by leaving hate comments or anything. Just stop. She seems like a nice person despite her beliefs, just listen to her and understand her point of view, not that hard.
Again, if you don't like it you can leave
Men are visual creatures, not emotional ones.
Me:"And I took that personally."
On a more serious note men generally are not supposed to be emotional, it doesn't men we are not. We don't normally show it.
Modesty is important for both women and men. Both genders can be a distraction to the opposite sex if they are immodest.
The amount of dislikes on this video is what gives me a little more faith in humanity
it just keeps getting better 😌
Bunnyicypop control yourself on that crazy shake, can’t you see you’re a bully?
@@complexunity4533 How? The person in this video talks about how women shouldn't dress how they want to dress (except for the whole places with children part, she is right about that), how women who wear more revealing clothes dress like "sex objects" and how men apparently fixate on a woman's sex appeal like they're some sort of sex-driven animals
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ma’am quit telling everyone that dressing immodestly is dressing like garbage... let us wear what’s comfortable 😤
What's popular or comfortable isn't always right. Treat your body with respect and take care of yourself.
@@Heather-oj7ps We can dress however we want and still be treating ourselves with respect and taking care of ourselves y'know 💁♀️
Heather if you’re wearing something uncomfortable that’s basically disrespecting yourself and making yourself feel like you have to meet beauty standards. Wearing what makes you comfortable is a great way to show your personality and your interests. You wasted your time replying to me.
W h o r e 💙
Mary Lennardi if you’re talking about me then no, I’m a little bitch is what i am💅✨
Oh nO! God forbid a girl wears a short skirt 😨😱😱
I mean, it's about basic respect to those around you in public. There's short and then there's SHORT
OMG THATS NOT THE FREAKING POINT
"men are visual creatures, not emotional ones"
men are human beings goddamn
But we still get attracted to women wearing revealing clothing.
@@CaptainBones222 yeah but you can still control it. You aren't an animal and you have emotions
@@mitskilover_jenna You can also control what you wear and if your clothing sexualizes your or not
@@CaptainBones222 people can wear what they're comfortable with. It's your responsibility to treat them like a human being regardless of what they're wearing
@@CaptainBones222 again, I'm criticizing her comment because its like she thinks men are animals
Honey I dress for the girls and the gays that’s it
Peroid!
Omg me too 😌💅🏽
PERIODT
Periodt poo
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Why would you assume that all men are sex chasing emotionless animals-
men are not! BOYS are 😌
Yeah, she saying men arent emotional creatures or whatever, all I can think of is what the fuck is wrong with her lol. Idk if she's ever had a chat with a guy or well, if she knows how emotions work. Really sucks too cause how men are told to repress their emotions and saying shit like that only makes it worst or just really shows the stigma of an emotional man. Really is fucked.
They’re not, she never said that.
She's not.
00:49 “men are visual creatures, not emotional ones.” ??? she clearly thinks of men as animals and women as people who have to provide for them. neither of which are appropriate.
“Men are wired to have 1 thing on the brain”
how does her husband keep up with her
Very well said!! Modesty is respect 👏🏻
That depends
This is discriminating against curvy women, calling their body type “slutty”. If I put on the same outfit as a conservative skinny woman It wouldn’t be considered conservative on me.
I'm currently working through trauma from being sexualized at 11 because I had boobs. I didn't wear skin tight clothes, I fit into the conservative religious mold I grew up in. But I was not allowed to participate in a lot of events in the summer or swimming because if I wore comfortable clothing, I was considered "rebellious" and a "bad influence". 🙄 Swim suits were either a two piece, which was never allowed because God forbid a middrift shows, or a one piece where it would fit but cleavage would be out, or it wouldn't fit and my bottom/down there would be exposed because it was too big. From 11. Because boobs.
Tbh, the only creepy men who sexualized and groomed me were in churches who were extreme about modesty. I genuinely hope others experiences are much different than mine, because yikes.
Right like if ur skinny Nd wear the same thing as a thicker person to school- the thicker person is more likely to get in trouble about it Nd it’s rlly annoying
exactly!
Exactly
She lives in her own world where women aren’t sexualices for just existing at ANY age
“Men are visual creatures, not emotional ones” well that’s sexist.
Yeah 100%. This girl has major issues and it's women like her that make most women look bad.
I disagree With your opinion. Obviously not all men are visual creatures, and this woman knows that. For the most part though, these days men are pretty much all visual creatures. If you’re lucky you will find those rare men in the world who are not, and they are emotional ones. But like I said, they are rare. If you want a good guy, you shouldn’t be showing your body like that. Dressing provocatively just shows that you have no respect for yourself. Don’t tell me otherwise, I know from personal experience and watching it happen to others. And then when women get harassed by men, they get all mad about it, but the only reason they’re getting harassed is because of the way they were dressed. Their just telling the men that they’re a piece of meat ready to be devoured. I know there are some women who dress provocatively and have gotten good men, I know that, there are all kinds of people in this world but for the most part what I said is the truth. I’ve also heard many men share the same opinion as I do. Obviously everyone has their own opinions and there are guys who disagree with this, but I’m just saying that there are many, many, guys in the world who would agree with my opinion. Thank you for reading, if you did! 😁
Artsy Me how would wearing something revealing change that that isn’t fair at all no matter what you wear is fine
@@maple9670 The problem is that men sexualize the female body no matter what they wear. It shouldn't be up to us to control a man's thoughts or actions, regardless of the way we dress.
It’s true though.
Saying that women are only seen as sexy when the dress immodestly lacks nuance. Women can be seen as sexy and beautiful and interesting all at once.
had no idea Ben could be such a gorgeous woman. 😆 I jest, you're beautiful and very well spoken! Subscribed!
She’s saying that men not being able to see you as anything other than a sex object is YOUR fault for what you wear. Just no.
this comment right here is why i love women(as friends)
I don't think she's saying it's your fault. I think she's just being realistic. Men see female bodies as objects due to evolutionary traits. You can pretend it's not true or use this knowledge to your advantage.
Sophia Troanska that is exactly what she’s saying. “being realistic” idm what you’re wearing, bad things will still happen.
Sophia Troanska Yep! I agree, all of that is true, except the woman in the video is saying essentially that it’s your fault they think like that due to what you wear. Does that clear things up? If not, let me know :)
Sophia Troanska what you’re saying is “boys will be boys” and that it’s not an Evolutionary trait, it is a learned behavior due to centuries of oppression against women. Just cause SOME ‘men’ objectify your body doesn’t mean ALL men do. Just like not all women are blindly helping this men objectify women like the creator of this video is.
How could someone think of men as “visual creatures” rather than actual people with emotions? That’s completely dehumanizing and wrong! This woman needs to check her facts because she doesn’t know how the human mind functions and IT SHOWS.
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Amen 🙏🏾
Haha, 69 likes
Yeah, not only is this oppressive and misogynistic to women. But she simultaneously dehumanized men as well. It’s all fucked.
megan delcamo how does she manage all that in five minutes? It’s astounding
They are visual creatures. Sorry to tell you that. When it's just men alone, your man is talking about how fine and beautiful another woman is
Just because men don’t express their emotion as much does not mean there level of emotion is any less
Try saying that to yourself a few more times
Abby, I know this is a bit old now but I absolutely agree. It's amazing to see all of the seethe in the comments here
Y'all need to stop commenting
I can't like them all
Lol
Lmao 😂 seriously my thumb hurts
periodt
lmaoooo ikr
And that’s the tea
This video manages to be insulting to men and women at the same time lol
I know right! Men should be pissed about this video too. Seriously, she's insulting their self-control, men are able to control themselves, saying they can't is so insulting.
Also, what if you are gay? And not looking for a man at all. She is so infuriating.
Most of them all.
"Men are visual creatures, not emotional creatures." What the fuck? I know plenty guys who are just the opposite. Getting tired of her generalizations, seriously.
Omg yes- as a trans dude I wasn't sure which part to be more insulted about-
I’ll just be non binary then...
For Victorian people, what you dress is considered revealing and inappropriate. But not anymore, because the world has progressed, and you’re part of it…
So by your logic why don't we just all go naked?
@@Dennis-nc3vw And by her logic we should not even show our ankles because conservative is so good, and she’s not conservative enough.
Progress gave us weapons capable of destroying the world many times over, I dont think that progress is always something good to brag about it
@@MyViolador That’s why I’m suggesting her to dress more “modest” like a Victorian🥺
Came here for the comments, did not disappoint.
I’m cringing so hard. She deadass called “modesty” an “alternative” as if women weren’t forced to be covered up in the past.
back in the past people believed God was real, and actually had morals. In today's society, there is no such thing as morals.
Just Ashley yikes. “back in the past” people had other religions, not everyone believed in god.
Just Ashley morals are a human concept and are subjective. everyone has different morals like some people dont eat animals bc it goes against their personal morals and some people do eat animals bc it doesn’t go against their personal morals. people still have morals but people aren’t forcing woman to cover up every inch of skin anymore. also not everyone believes in the abrahamic god.
she really said “women are responsible for keeping men from seeing them as objects”
girl 💀💀
She’s a whole mess
Hannah Telvanni or they could just learn how to do it themselves cause this isn’t kindergarten and no we’re not easing anybody into anything
Hannah Telvanni nah i’m going to dress however i want. i shouldn’t need to have to teach men how to control themselves so i can wear what i want.
For their own good lol kinda makes sense
if im 50 and have a good body then thats amazing 😼
i am a visual creature and i have no emotion. can confirm that i am indeed a literal fucking husk and should have less human rights than a doorknob.
Did she seriously say men are “not emotional creatures” Wow.
Yeah, this is exactly the opposite of what they teach you in sex ed. Actually, they teach that such a stereotypical line of thought is harmful.
I know ,that was a VERY bold statement that can easily be argued
Her husband must be a great guy
“Men are visual creatures not emotional” how freaking toxic! Stop putting your men in these gross boxes!!! Also you can be sexy dressed modestly this is stupid. Over it.
period katelyn
THANK YOU! Men are NOT ‘visual creatures’ they are human beings with minds and hearts!! Geez 😒
I am a male and I agree to what she said
?? What who said?
Exactly. It’s so harmful when men feel like they can’t express emotions. That’s why the male suicide rate is so high
Came here for a female Ben Shapiro and I wasn't disappointed
same
Why is it just so funny to click on these videos and there's a 13% like to dislike ratio LMFAO
literally doesnt matter what you wear, you will be sexualized.
SAY🔇THAT🔊🔇LOUDERR!🔊 I'm literally a muslim girl and you can easily guess that i dress modestly yet i STILL get catcalled keep in mind I'm only 14👁👄👁
iheart Animatins I’m so sorry girl you don’t deserve that
pretty much the entire life of every woman
Men can control themselves. We shouldn’t have to worry about their “urges”. That’s bs
CIA wtf that makes no sense
@CIA So you are blaming women for some men being creepy?
@CIA so porn makes a man unstable and horny all the time? 😂 understandable, have a nice day
manda panda yes it does, it ain’t rocket science
They can, but women also don’t make it easy for them to not think that way when she’s basically half naked
Would love to see a video with outfits for examples on how to dress modestly but stylish!:)
I like how she's assuming lesbian and bisexual girls don't exist hahahah
Only 2% of the population is in same-sex relationships. Get over yourselves. Your constant need for acknowledgement and validation shows you hate yourselves.
“Men are visual creatures, not emotional ones”
Incredibly sexist. Maybe if men stop getting emotionally repressed as children (because obviously showing emotion is a feminine trait), this wouldn’t be an issue.
period women like this are why half of men are like this she seems like a person who says men can’t wear makeup
Well read a little biology if you have questions about biological genders' differences and how we perceive things before you start bullying others for expressing another opinion that the one you have. The "sexist" card is just as outdated as the "racist" one. It loses its meaning and value when you use it for everything that you feel as offending because it doesn't match your point of view
Alexandra Gialama But, it is? My best friend is a guy, and he is VERY emotionally grounded. You’re probably one of those people who think men and women can’t be friends. Stop trying to justify the notion that sexualizing women is ok, because “she was asking for it”. People like you remind me how closed-minded people can really be. And also: racism and sexism is still VERY prevalent. It shouldn’t even be an argument in the first place.
I swear i heard this all my life growing up. Im 20 now and still to this day lowkey believe in the back of my mind that men arent capable of real emotion and it genuinely surprises me when i can relate to them on an emotional level. Veryy harmful.
Alexandra Gialama nah, it’s sexist as fuck. Men are human too, they express emotion like any other. It’s society that forces them to repress these emotions because it’s seen as “weak” for boys to cry. Which is ridiculous.
can y’all stop buying this woman’s ads i’m tired of seeing them
RIGHT
Fucking same
Omg CZcams has been pushing this crap on me forever.
Same! I hate her toxic videos
ikr these types of ads that piss me off are the only ones i get
Her eyebrows: ⬆️⬇️⬇️⬆️⬇️⬆️⬇️⬇️⬆️⬆️⬇️⬆️⬇️⬇️⬆️⬇️⬆️⬇️⬇️⬇️⬆️
Last time I checked there was over a 100k dislikes lmao
CZcams removed the dislikes
imagine saying modesty is embracing femininity but then basing your whole argument on whats appropriate based off of what men do/say. hell no, this the typa person to ask a woman/girl what she was wearing when she got raped, absolutely disgusting.
Yes she would
She’s the type of person who asks “what were you wearing” when a girl says she got assulted
or ‘boys will be boys’
or both
That’s a legitimate question to ask to offer some form of recompense to the situation. It also provides information that can be used in statistical analysis to determine sexual misconduct patterns.
Mirandahunt 23 wow how’d you even get to that perspective of my opinion in the matter? Did I say I believe assault isn’t assault? No I didn’t
Solomon King when somebody confides that they have been assaulted, a decent friend should NEVER say something like “what were you wearing?”- that is rightfully interpreted by the traumatized victim as dehumanizing & victim blaming. and it’s really not a legitimate question: rape is not and has never been a result of a woman’s clothing. women were sexually assaulted in EVERy time period- think about fashion in the 1800s, what we consider today to be conservative dress. rape is solely the result and fault of the perpetrator and a society that enables and normalizes rape. i believe it was upsetting to Mirandahunt 23 (and myself) bc your comment comes off as more of a what aboutism or a distraction, not to mention the defensiveness in your tone in your reply.
“Who do you want to be desirable to?” Zendaya and Billie Eilish
PERIODT
Respect, some people claim that men will sexualize you no matter what and this can be true, but the difference between dressing modestly and provocatively is the difference between having a do not trespass sign and having a welcome to all sign. Sure, some people will trespass no matter what, but if you say welcome to all then otherwise normal people who would normally not step into your house will trample all over it and feel justified. If you can’t distinguish between the effects of provocative dress and modest dress and you just pretend it’s the same because terrible people exist in the world, then you basically are a child who has no idea what surviving actually looks like. Surviving in a truly dangerous world means reducing risk of terrible stuff, you can’t escape it entirely. If you think men can escape the terrible stuff think again, we are always assessing how to avoid bad things happening to us. The world is dangerous, grow up, and realize that all we can do is our best to reduce our chances of terrible stuff, the rest is chance.
Top comment. Not the basic “my body my confidence” crap. Completely went over their heads, but this is all we (conservative men) are saying
i was assaulted wearing jeans, a t shirt, & a jacket. it was winter & no skin was showing. the idea behind “the attention you get = what you’re wearing” is so. so. entirely. wrong.
I’m so sorry people who think like that are awful
I am pretty sure she means in attracting a potential mate/future husband. She isn't suggesting that someone should get assaulted because they wear something in particular. NO ONE SHOULD BE ASSAULTED FOR ANY REASON. EVER.
I am so sorry to hear that happened to you. Hope you are doing okay. Love and hugs. God bless
i was wearing a baggy shirt and sweatpants in the summer i agree with your point completely
Chelsea Fletcher what if you don’t want to get married?
I’m sorry that someone would do such a terrible thing to you and I hope you’re doing okay despite what happened to you.
so basically she’d be a victim blamer? If a man can’t control himself that sounds like it’s his fault
definitely his problem😭
It’s not about “controlling himself”. It’s about having respect for others.
man cant control himself? sounds like a personal problem to me 🤧💅
Its SOMETIMES a dual thing, but if she leaves signs saying no, then yeah, it's his fault.
Definitely a victim blamer!
Y’all need more women like this it’s hard to even rest left y’all anymore fr
I’m not going to adapt to dress a certain way because men can’t “think” because I have some leg showing.
Us male folk wear shorts that go down to our knees even when its 100 degrees out. You wouldn't last a day in our shoes.
@@Dennis-nc3vw Says who? No man I’ve ever seen has had to deal with that. In what setting?
wore a thong around a bunch of mostly lesbian women and all i got was respectable compliments about my outfit. wore skinny jeans around men and got my ass slapped. maybe it’s just a men’s problem... 👀
stfu😂
Anita King or you just lying
THIS. I’m a lesbian and did theater in school, which meant constantly changing in front and with other women. I’ve never taken advantage or assaulted any of them. In fact, most of the time I just stared at the wall or looked down.
@@Animeow08
wait what?
Skippy Kay same here, i’m a lesbian and a swimmer so i’m in a locker room with a bunch of girls changing and i’ve never even had the desire to do anything to them..
Here's a thought: stop caring about how people present themselves and let them dress how they want. Perhaps people wear certain clothes because they, idk, like them.
YESSS !
PREACH INDEED
Is she not allowed to share her opinion? She’s not telling people what to do, and even if she was, people are still entitled to make their own decisions.
Or how about care about the parents and children thats shouldn't be seeing you half naked, guys too
Joanna Boll The title is literally called "Why YOU Should Dress Modestly"
She's literally telling people how they need to dress, saying it's wrong for them to dress any other way, and even going as far as saying they look like "trash" if they don't dress the way she likes. I get her point about certain people being idiots who only care for tits and ass, but it's not her decision to make for others. I'm sure anyone who shows a little skin knows exactly what they're signing up for when going out in public, and has the courage to do so anyway despite those risks because that's what THEY like, not what they think others will like. If a person isn't completely naked or making public porn, then I don't see the issue. The way another person dresses isn't my problem to deal with, because to me, I'm the only person that matters. People need to stop focusing on how others live their lives and stay in their own lane. I dress basically as a dude with my oversized t-shirts, jackets and hoodies, and jeans and you don't see me getting peeved when a girl walks by in a crop top and booty shorts. I'll just think to myself how confident she is being in her own skin, not worrying about what those around her might think. And I respect that so much because honestly who gives af what others think? They can shove their opinions up their ass for all I care. This girl's opinion was just not needed, and outright disrespectful. I have absolutely no idea why this is showing up in everyone's recommended, but I'd say a majority of viewers can agree that she just needs to shut her pie hole according the the like/dislike ratio. If she cares so much about what others think of her, she could take the hint and take the video down. Or at least make an apology, because dear lord, she was insulting people left and right throughout this entire video who did not deserve those attacks.
While I don't appreciate the way you talk about people who don't dress modestly, I completely agree with the rest of what you said. Modesty is not a virtue that is appreciated anymore, sadly.
But why doesn’t society police men’s clothing in the same way? Oh right, because women treat them with respect no matter how they dress. So shouldn’t we teach men to behave instead of control how women dress?
POV: she hasn’t left ur ads alone for WEEKS so u finally clicked to see what tf she’s has to say and roast it
pretty much
yep
No matter how many times I get rid of her ad she keeps coming back I hate this
Yea exactly
Nailed it.
“i’m not like other girls, i dress ✨ 𝑛𝑜𝑡 𝑓𝑜𝑟 𝑚𝑒 𝑏𝑢𝑡 𝑓𝑜𝑟 ᗰᗴᑎ ✨
QUIRKY!! 🥺💜
Just cuz I wore a crop top doesn’t mean that I don’t respect myself!
I understand her opinions to this. As a woman who live in a country that rape culture exists. I completely understand what she is saying, but telling women what they need to wear will not stop the toxic mindset of people that it is the victim's fault for them being sexualized and worse raped, when it's clearly not. Because, men have control over their body and mind. It's like normalizes the way older generation see how sexual assault works. "You provoked the man because you are not dressing appropriately". I understand this thinking and it is still prevalent to a certain culture or place like Islam countries. She is a conservative, of course they will the mindset of "protecting oneself" rather than teaching that it's not okay to see a woman's body as a sexual object. While, I choose to wear conservative clothes to protect myself from men and people that have wicked thoughts, at the end of the day it will always depend on how comfortable the woman is. I don't hate you for sharing your own beliefs that I assumed is influenced by religion and experience the same with Muslim women who choose to wear what they want to wear.
If you describe men as “visual creatures” don’t you think we should be teaching men to respect women instead of regulating how women dress
Right? Like humans are violent by nature but you dont see people going around attcking each other (generally speaking). Because society tells us its wrong, and we're taught so from a young age.
Parents need to start teaching their sons that women/girls are not there to be gawked at like a pornagraphic image.
Girl preach!!!!
Also she’s SCREAMING man hater and woman hater at the same time
I feel like both men and women can be sexist, but I 100% agree with you on there.
Yes
So she’s really out here saying if woman don’t dress “ modestly” then we’re just asking to be identified as sex object??!
Yesss mam! I am a gay woman and if I can control myself when women are in tight clothes and a guy can’t.. then there is something more problematic than the clothes she wears
i hate that we have to treat men like rabid animals who we can’t tame it’s ridiculous
Yeah... I am a lady who usually dresses modestly but I do not see myself as better than someone who is more comfortable showing their body. You want to dress modestly do so, you want to flaunt what you got? Do so? Yes there are times where modesty is best church, work, court, etc. but any other time dress however you want. No way is better.
Silesia Johnson This is the way to think 100% 👍🏼
Silesia Johnson this
Who’s here after watching Coutreezy’s reaction vid😜
If a man cant look me for what i am, and only sees muy body i dont want that man
Why tf did youtube put this on my recommendations.
This is the second time on mine and I already went off in the comments👾🙄😒
Em Me Karen
I thought the exact same thing like CZcams r u trying to tell me something like ruuuude
@@NataliesArt Karen for the other side😆 I not bein told how to dress no thank u
Em Me I’ve literally been getting this ad EVERY SINGLE time I’ve been on CZcams for what’s felt like an eternity smh my one source of comfort is that it’s wasting her money to be putting it there
“Men are visual creatures, not emotional ones.” Stop. Don’t throw all of them into a category.
And, as a dancer of 15 years, “dancing in leotards,” has been the norm since the beginning.
Men are emotional. That’s so weird that she made that false statement.
This video somehow managed to be misogynistic and misandrist all at once.
👏👏👏👏👏
Same(the dancing part)!
like...I've heard men say this...and like...do they realize that they are insulting themselves...
bruh i- i CHOOSE to dress in big ass t-shirts and sweatpants and baggy clothing because it is COMFORTABLE! idc where i am, i fucking wore sweatpants and a 3xl t-shirt to my senior prom. this woman is def not a “girls support girls”
Misogyny just means holding women to 1% of the standards men hold ourselves to. Even when its 100 degrees outside guys still wear shorts that go down to our knees. A guy going to 7/11 at 3am in a speedo becomes a viral video, but I found myself behind a woman in a thong twice at 7/11 this summer.
Anyway man who dresses like a woman does on a regular basis is assumed to be a gay streetwalker.
She’s literally saying that you’re not respectable if you don’t dress “modestly”
Which is rape culture and one of the ways men devalue and take advantage of women. Wow.
She's saying it's easier for people to not reapext you if you don't dress modestly
Well...she’s not wrong.
Lacey Martin she is actually very wrong, the way someone dresses do not give up their autonomy. Women’s bodies should be respected regardless of the clothing they are in. And if a man only respects my wishes to not be raped because I am dressing modestly than that is not a man I want in my life. How about if we stop constantly victim blaming and actually hold men who rape women accountable for their actions.
stephanie pennington YOU are actually very wrong. You are assuming she’s victim blaming and suggesting women are giving up their autonomy by dressing immodestly. Had you listened to the entire video, you would have known she not only addressed this but admonished those who do. Whether you like it or not, you will not be taken seriously dressed like a stripper. Just like men wearing thongs to a business meeting would not be taken seriously.
The whole “women should do -this - so men don’t do -this-” thing is stupid. I feel like it’s harder to follow that than to just teach men at a young age how to behave...
Yeah if a hot man comes up to the mall dressed in hardly anything I'd like to see how all the ladies keep it in their pants. Our eyes are there for us to perceive the world around us. What you wear/ don't wear projects to society things about your personality whether you like it or not. Why do you think uniforms are a thing for most professions? Especially serious ones....???Can you imagine a doctor showing up in your room during an emergency dressed as a one-man-band??? TELL ME you wouldn't JUDGE THAT. lol Similar thing on a different level.
@@mikestarkly9226 i think anyone would understand with a braincell that dressing for work/clubbing/hanging out/date/visiting family...... Etc is different dumbass.
Mike Starkly I don’t condone ANYBODY sexualising anybody unless there is that level of consent. And uh yeah smart people don’t wear extremely revealing clothes in the work place.
You act as if women are saying that they don’t want to be sexualised but they can sexualise others. The lesson here is to teach people to fucking keep it in their pants.
Of course there’s certain places were there’s dressing etiquette. People know this.
The way you’re talking is acting as if your clothes justify being sexually harassed. When we should teach EVERYBODY. From a young age that consent is needed for those kind of remarks.
No form of sexual harassment is okay, so stop trying to justify one form of sexual harassment with sexual harassment.
If I decide I want to wear something I feel comfortable enough wearing, whether it is revealing, or completely covering me. I can still get sexually harassed or assaulted.
Instead of blaming it on clothing blame it on the education system that failed to teach our students about the importance in consent. If you remark something and the person looks uncomfortable or you two aren’t at that level of flirting whatsoever then don’t do it. It’s so easy.
Teach all students to respect each other’s boundaries and consent. If there is no level of consent don’t do it. Especially if somebody tells you to stop or they look uncomfortable.
lem_ahn He’s a Men’s Rights activist probably, I bet if a woman complains about period cramps he would go “MEN HAVE PERIODS TOO!!!”
@@mikestarkly9226 Guys walk around without shirts or with low hanging bottoms, or with those tank tops where the under arms are cut all the way down, like, huh?? They don't usually get harassed or cat called, and that's literally what youre saying lmao. Also, not shit a doctor would be in a ✨uniform✨ because they're ✨required to✨, and dressing professionally in the work place is also a given, so idk what you were trying to prove with that
Abby, Thank you for being out there. The comment shows reality of the women in our society
“Let me know what you guys think in the comments” we sure do 💀