When I was a stay at home mom…

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  • čas přidán 6. 09. 2024

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  • @cabeirwin1565
    @cabeirwin1565 Před 8 měsíci +361

    Such a good representation of a healthy marriage. That saving “your own money” to treat your husband with, respect!

    • @alissanguyen_
      @alissanguyen_  Před 8 měsíci +65

      Thank you! I’m glad someone else is able to see it this way!

  • @LynnD0109
    @LynnD0109 Před 8 měsíci +187

    The biggest gift he got was you! Fabulous mum and wife ❤

  • @Ater_Draco
    @Ater_Draco Před 8 měsíci +197

    The reverse cowgirl sass lol.
    I'm so happy you are doing well as a content creator. You deserve success

  • @collin333
    @collin333 Před 8 měsíci +604

    THE REVERSE COWGIRL LMAO YOU OUTTA POCKET FOR THAT ONE SIS
    I gotta say though, it’s so nice to come across a SAHM who seems well adjusted and exists in a relationship that is healthy, well balanced and based on mutual respect. With the tradwife movement being what it is (based on super oppressive religiosity/gender norms) it’s nice knowing that a healthy dynamic CAN exist when people want to model their relationships in this way.

    • @pepperspikes1849
      @pepperspikes1849 Před 8 měsíci +31

      i forgot what SAHM was for a sec and i was like southeast asian…homemaker?? and then i was like ohhh stay at home mom 😂

    • @jasminehernandez17999
      @jasminehernandez17999 Před 8 měsíci +3

      ​@@pepperspikes1849hahahahah!!!

    • @scholasticbookfair.
      @scholasticbookfair. Před 8 měsíci +14

      I love the tradwife movement ❤️❤️. There's just so much negativity surrounding being a housewife and SAHM that you're giving your spouse leverage to mistreat and abuse you. My gosh it's so toxic. I love being a SAHM (yes I had a career before 🙄, no I'm not uneducated and I have a lovely husband who never complains about being the only one working). ❤️❤️❤️.

    • @batacumba
      @batacumba Před 8 měsíci +1

      @@scholasticbookfair. uh, yeah the tradwife movement is toxic af and you love it? You may not like it but the truth is that being a stay at home parent does give the earning partner more leverage to abuse and control you. I’m not saying that always happens by any stretch but there’s a reason the past generations of women just grinned and bore all kinds of horrific things *because they had no choice.* You can be a stay at home parent without subscribing to all the religious, misogynistic bs that the tradwife movement brings to the table. We’re more than just baby makers and homemakers.

    • @glazedgazes
      @glazedgazes Před 8 měsíci +5

      The fact she hit reverse cowgirl line and that wild laugh twice is exactly why I am subscribed 😌

  • @pixierainbow7
    @pixierainbow7 Před 8 měsíci +156

    You're one of my fave content creators. Glad this platform is so empowering for mothers like you. 🎉😮 Andy is so lucky to have you as wifey ❤️

  • @tssmitty15
    @tssmitty15 Před 8 měsíci +37

    "That looks bloody as hell"💀🤣

  • @knjparadise
    @knjparadise Před 8 měsíci +130

    thank you for admitting that this is a job for you. i’m tired of seeing all these trad wives going on and on about ‘traditional values’ meanwhile running 6 figure businesses

  • @amoryantoine
    @amoryantoine Před 8 měsíci +187

    I don’t even get money from neither my parents during any occasions 😭

    • @boomboombaby9140
      @boomboombaby9140 Před 8 měsíci

      When I was a kid I use to get money from my mom an allowance 120 bucks a week.

  • @mobbnasty9804
    @mobbnasty9804 Před 8 měsíci +16

    Love your story much love to you for saving up and buying him a gift I bet when he gets old enough and watches this it’s gonna bring a tear to his eye !

    • @planarian
      @planarian Před 8 měsíci +4

      Lol he turned 40, I think old enough to appreciate the ways she shows her love for him.

  • @pijeonncorn2493
    @pijeonncorn2493 Před 8 měsíci +39

    Haha same! I relate with you on a spiritual level about the steak part like I cannot have it be cooked any lesser than well done. Idk I just can’t pull myself together to enjoy the steak that I can still basically hear mooing like my friends and family do hah! The meal looks delicious as always and happy belated birthday to the hubs!!

  • @flowtonowhere
    @flowtonowhere Před 8 měsíci +25

    A food that describe your marriage to Andy is: Surf and Turf 🦐🥩😂 Great love chemistry, good flavors all in one dish

  • @Theaterkid4L9733
    @Theaterkid4L9733 Před 8 měsíci +29

    Her reaction to medium rare is exactly my thoughts as well 😂
    I do love a good steak though. Or maybe I just like crispy butter

  • @ericbea_1
    @ericbea_1 Před 4 měsíci +1

    You are the funniest easy to watch cook on CZcams. You always make me smile, thank

  • @elizabethl5294
    @elizabethl5294 Před 8 měsíci +9

    Oml “reverse cowgirl him later” 😂😂😂💀

  • @goated42
    @goated42 Před 8 měsíci +13

    not the reverse cowgirl 😭😭😭

  • @msfracha
    @msfracha Před 8 měsíci +15

    Thinking of buying a gift for your husband with your own money is crazy kind of attitude of a great wife you are, also bet Andy is a great husband, hope you live well, luv your contents❤

  • @guavagirl8344
    @guavagirl8344 Před 7 měsíci

    You are such a sweetheart in how you treat your husband and kids.

  • @ritasnider2998
    @ritasnider2998 Před 7 měsíci +1

    I love watching you. Your boys are so sweet. I have 4 children 8 grandkids and 13 great grandchildren. Been around for awhile. Lol❤

  • @bridgettejohnson9085
    @bridgettejohnson9085 Před 8 měsíci +9

    As a SAHM of a 3 and 1 year old, don’t know how I came across your content but I’m glad I did! So refreshing! 😊
    And not naming all the positions while cooking 😅😂🤣. As soon as you said “Face down a$* up”, I thought about that Ludacris song! 😂

  • @TheRachelHaircut
    @TheRachelHaircut Před 8 měsíci +1

    Thats actually the sweetest thing ever. Im a sahm, not paid in money but I used to use my tax refund to buy my mans present cause his birthday was right after. Last yr I didnt get the refund so was guttered I couldnt get him something with my own money too😢 I would have used my bday money whch is two days before Xmas bt I was actually given alot of things this yr not money which Im still grateful for, will have to think of something else this yr😊

  • @ivandominguez6287
    @ivandominguez6287 Před 8 měsíci +5

    Most relatable CZcamsr- yassss maam! Love her ❤

  • @dawgcatcha1907
    @dawgcatcha1907 Před 8 měsíci +17

    That feeling of wanting to buy him a gift that ISNT from his wallet! 😅 it’s so real. Im sahm too but I do find little ways to make money here and there and I want to spend it on my man!! Bc he buys me everything lol

  • @tronbui9613
    @tronbui9613 Před 8 měsíci +2

    Wolf oven? That's a premium oven!

  • @adriennemcmillan9637
    @adriennemcmillan9637 Před 8 měsíci +2

    That is so nice! I be like, "do you like the present I got you with your own money?" 😅 I do look forward to working part time once all three of my boys are in school in a few years.

  • @ulisesqx
    @ulisesqx Před 8 měsíci +5

    Been watching your vids for a while now bestie. You’re a real person. Never lose that. ❤️

  • @pandoodihimchi4451
    @pandoodihimchi4451 Před 8 měsíci

    i love her i can watch her for ever,,,

  • @jaypac7126
    @jaypac7126 Před 8 měsíci +1

    Save your birthday and Christmas money to buy your husband gifts that's sweet and thoughtful, selfless is the right word I think correct me if I'm wrong, but your amazing and hearing this melted my heart on this cold snowy Canadian day up here in Toronto, where did Andy find you and is there anymore like you 😂. God bless you and your family love this channel

  • @freespeech.7254
    @freespeech.7254 Před 8 měsíci

    I am already committed can't turn back now!!!🤣🤣🥰

  • @iheartastrology7877
    @iheartastrology7877 Před 8 měsíci +1

    This is the best channel you’ll find period

  • @idkwuzgoinon
    @idkwuzgoinon Před 8 měsíci +5

    The steak looks amazing!

  • @meagan.868
    @meagan.868 Před 8 měsíci +4

    You’re so wholesome .. reverse cowgirl and all 😂😂😂

  • @scareglare
    @scareglare Před 8 měsíci +16

    I used to dream of being a stay at home mom with my husband paying all the bills but it seems terrifying to me now, not having your own money. Just so scary.

    • @pbear7814
      @pbear7814 Před 7 měsíci +2

      Not at all if you have a good husband.

    • @scareglare
      @scareglare Před 7 měsíci +1

      @@pbear7814 You're absolutely right. There are many great men out there that make wonderful husbands. It's just hard to find them...I've dated several men before of all backgrounds and life experiences and it's tough. Not impossible of course.

  • @beachobsession29
    @beachobsession29 Před 8 měsíci +1

    Happy Birthday!

  • @tunasteve5402
    @tunasteve5402 Před 7 měsíci

    I need a woman like you in my life.

  • @blacksea6608
    @blacksea6608 Před 8 měsíci

    Thick .. thic like me ....haha😂love ur humor

  • @reannavaladez3290
    @reannavaladez3290 Před 8 měsíci +1

    I used to hate steak but my second pregnancy with my son I craved steak and ever since I love steak and if I could I would eat everyday

  • @nicolebecker2272
    @nicolebecker2272 Před 8 měsíci +2

    Love your shirt!!

  • @aleb_equine
    @aleb_equine Před 8 měsíci +3

    I love your shirt

  • @veganhomeschoolmom
    @veganhomeschoolmom Před 8 měsíci +1

    Love you girl.

  • @redrooster1908
    @redrooster1908 Před 8 měsíci +5

    Sweet story with a great steak on the side😊

  • @nicolenomnom
    @nicolenomnom Před 8 měsíci

    I feel like she is probably making more than Andy cause she’s awesome and so is her content (if she isn’t currently, eventually will haha)

  • @PillsburyDROboy
    @PillsburyDROboy Před 8 měsíci

    Not the spatula😂😂

  • @lorenzocorley7516
    @lorenzocorley7516 Před 8 měsíci +1

    Looks good 😊

  • @StrawberryBanana86
    @StrawberryBanana86 Před 7 měsíci

    That butter has been recalled! I was so sad!

  • @humansomewhat2167
    @humansomewhat2167 Před 8 měsíci +2

    Steak looks damn good, could see it was going to be great just by the way the knife slid through it. I'd smash that whole dinner

  • @sarahm.4926
    @sarahm.4926 Před 8 měsíci +6

    oh that steak 🥩😋 yes

  • @alessandrav2748
    @alessandrav2748 Před 8 měsíci

    Omg I a made the lemon & fish sauce dip for wagu was chef kissss

  • @yadanaoo4627
    @yadanaoo4627 Před 7 měsíci

    I am lost at reverse cowgirl 😂

  • @amythompson7700
    @amythompson7700 Před 8 měsíci

    I have a friend who’s been in the restaurant business his Whole life. He says leave steak outside fridge 45 minutes. Brown 2 minutes on each side and leave it in the oven at 350 for 5 minutes for medium rare. Rest for at Least 5 minutes, I think tent with foil for 10.

  • @juanitawhite7486
    @juanitawhite7486 Před 8 měsíci

    That steak looked DEVINE!!

  • @kimmy0868
    @kimmy0868 Před 8 měsíci

    My husband would love this steak!!! He likes it on the hoof 😂

  • @cynthiap9793
    @cynthiap9793 Před 7 měsíci

    Ohhhh the steak looked good ☺️. Would have liked to see him eating it to see if he liked it 😊

  • @coles1277
    @coles1277 Před 8 měsíci

    You’re fucking hilarious!

  • @waiying05
    @waiying05 Před 8 měsíci

    i love your recipe :))

  • @blacksea6608
    @blacksea6608 Před 8 měsíci

    Sushi and steak are my favorite food too

  • @Afro56
    @Afro56 Před 8 měsíci

    Next time get a nice big cornbread skillet. Cover it with foil. Season the meat really well of course. Then cover the meat with foil. Check on it evey 15 to 20 minutes. Keep adding a combination of beef broth and water. It will be extremely juicy after 1 hour.

  • @ImpetuousPorkus
    @ImpetuousPorkus Před 8 měsíci +18

    I’ve always been genuinely curious about the finance situation for SAHMs who are *only* homemakers. Do they get an allowance? I imagine there are budgets for food, entertainment, etc. I’ve always wondered how gifts worked. Like the way Alissa saved her money makes sense, but how do other SAHMs manage it without a job?

    • @humansomewhat2167
      @humansomewhat2167 Před 8 měsíci +5

      I would say most SAHMs have some sort of budget, if they don't then the relationship is not a good one and it would result in the mom working anyways to help support the children's needs. You cannot fully support a family on government assistance and that's not even easily available to a mom who is married to someone with income because the gov takes into consideration how much the husband makes then. depends on the couple whether the breadwinner just has the one shared account. My parents have the shared account that automatically has a portion of my dad's paycheck deposited into it, as well as my dad having his own separate account and using that for savings from there too. I guess it just depends on the couple's trust for one another, in terms of how financially responsible the other typically is.

    • @alissanguyen_
      @alissanguyen_  Před 8 měsíci +38

      FOR ME WHEN I WAS A SAHM, I had a credit card that was paid off every 2 weeks or every month. I spent as I pleased but have always set a budget for myself on groceries and household necessities. Dining was always done as a family so we never budgeted BUT we agreed to only dine out 1-3 times a week . Entertainment was the same.. never budgeted but again, we only did it 1-3/ week as a family. If either of us wanted to buy something over $100 FOR OUR SELVES that was a WANT (not a need), we ran it by the other person to make sure we don’t have any other big bills we need to prioritize first.

    • @silviamagda
      @silviamagda Před 8 měsíci +3

      I am a stay at home mom at the moment. I don't get an "allowance". The bank account we have is mutual, and we take the money we need from that account.

    • @BlancheDeverOh
      @BlancheDeverOh Před 8 měsíci +1

      I have my own accounts, plus our joint account. My husband added me to his job’s payroll, so whenever he gets paid I automatically get a deposit as well. I have access to our joint account for whatever I want to use it for, whenever. He also hands me cash randomly sometimes. We have health insurance, life insurance etc and I am not being financially abused like so many people assume of SAHMs. It’s a blessed situation ❤️

  • @vaeh18
    @vaeh18 Před 8 měsíci

    I have the same shirt as you! 😋

  • @WhatAudryEats
    @WhatAudryEats Před 7 měsíci

    Steak and sushi is all my 3 year old will eat 😂

  • @nurulabidahnajihahjaini9317
    @nurulabidahnajihahjaini9317 Před 8 měsíci

    Oooohhh. Boujee by association!!!

  • @ICantUseHanguelHere
    @ICantUseHanguelHere Před 7 měsíci

    Lmao the final comment. Me too though I can't eat bloody meat it all needs to be fully cooked so I don't bother with steak. I remember I once ordered a beef bourges and it was so red inside, the smell of raw meat, I don't know how anybody does it, the smell of undercooked umseaoned meat is 🤢 I never even asked for that burger to come that way, obviously. Immediate refund for a fucked up burger.

  • @thegatekid
    @thegatekid Před 7 měsíci

    Wolf oven?! Say no more. You ARE successful lol

  • @BijinMCMXC
    @BijinMCMXC Před 7 měsíci

    Reverse sear is the only way I feel comfortable cooking a steak 🤣

  • @alexiatorrez7680
    @alexiatorrez7680 Před 8 měsíci +5

    😂😂😂😂😂

  • @laurelshade
    @laurelshade Před 8 měsíci +1

    40?!

  • @lovexperfusion
    @lovexperfusion Před 8 měsíci

    I’m not a fan of steak but my husband loves steak too. I like sushi and can eat some raw sushi (meaning I can 1-2 pieces) and that’s about it.

  • @kylinaustin7596
    @kylinaustin7596 Před 8 měsíci

    So fine

  • @iheartastrology7877
    @iheartastrology7877 Před 8 měsíci +2

    Hahha reverse cowgirl steak raw dogged lol yes girl!!! You’ve become my favorite CZcamsr in one video

  • @tajr.2650
    @tajr.2650 Před 8 měsíci

    Meat thermometers are LEGIT.

  • @beeonce6871
    @beeonce6871 Před 8 měsíci

    Keroppi ❤

  • @jilliannotice8852
    @jilliannotice8852 Před 8 měsíci

    I live in struggle and I need a job as an unmarried woman .. y’all thought what y’all was doing was cute .. confrontation with the authentic me has to happen eventually, and the facts will be exposed ❗️❗️😘😘

  • @Spacedog2236
    @Spacedog2236 Před 8 měsíci

    "...and reverse cow girl.him later..."😅 you won 30.12 hun

  • @anakelly76512
    @anakelly76512 Před 8 měsíci +10

    You can rest easy. That's not blood coming from the steak. It's a combination of H2O & a protein called myoglobin.
    It looks good to me. Though, I prefer rare.

  • @stevem3002
    @stevem3002 Před 8 měsíci

    CAAppp. 😏😌🤣

  • @Nvgrrrrl
    @Nvgrrrrl Před 8 měsíci

    You were Aaaallllllllwwaayyyyysssss a work at home mom. You get those duckets now and you deserve it! Have you tried sous vide?

  • @suan333
    @suan333 Před 8 měsíci +5

    Same, I'm a well done steak girly.
    Like if i see the blood coming out I'm on the verge of puking the f out off myself

    • @mercedesvelasquez8781
      @mercedesvelasquez8781 Před 8 měsíci

      It's not blood it's a protein & h2o

    • @Coran_06
      @Coran_06 Před 8 měsíci

      It’s not blood though it’s myoglobin which is a protein. All blood is removed from meat when it’s butchered. Y’all are eating steak with like over half of the nutritional value and flavor gone.

    • @suan333
      @suan333 Před 8 měsíci

      @@Coran_06 i don't care and people who preaches about "the right way to eat steak" sound like stupid condescending snobs to me so 🤷🏻‍♀️

    • @Coran_06
      @Coran_06 Před 8 měsíci

      @@suan333 I think people who continue to deny facts after being told otherwise sound far more snobby and condescending. Like you’re choosing to live in ignorance, if you don’t want to eat the steak that way that’s okay, but it’s undeniably not blood.

    • @suan333
      @suan333 Před 8 měsíci

      @@Coran_06 I never go to someone else to tell them the are eating their steak wrong because i don't like it like that way and try to make them look like they are stupid and ignorant because they are not getting their nutrients and whatever. And that's what you did and what you just confirm yourself.
      It's *PERSONAL* preference, not only i don't find it appetizing, but it barely tastes like nothing to me. Let people eat their food however they want to.
      Edit: and i call it blood just because it's red. I know how it works in a butchery. I live in a country where every year there's a thing called "matanza" with pigs, so i know animals get their blood drawn before. But again, you were assuming everyone is stupid because they want their steaks well done.

  • @ps.iloveyou4ever
    @ps.iloveyou4ever Před 8 měsíci

    ❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @user-fc2xk3uv8y
    @user-fc2xk3uv8y Před 8 měsíci +15

    thank you for not pretending bloody meat is actually just juicy

    • @anakelly76512
      @anakelly76512 Před 8 měsíci +6

      That's not blood.
      All the blood was drained when they processed the cow.

    • @user-fc2xk3uv8y
      @user-fc2xk3uv8y Před 8 měsíci +6

      @@anakelly76512 its blood with extra steps to make it not blood

    • @anakelly76512
      @anakelly76512 Před 8 měsíci +1

      @@user-fc2xk3uv8y
      It is not blood. The protein called myoglobin is what gives the juice a red hue. That's all.

    • @sfkdsxzjkcfjldskaf99sddf809sdf
      @sfkdsxzjkcfjldskaf99sddf809sdf Před 8 měsíci

      @@user-fc2xk3uv8y Myoglobin and blood aren't the same thing, blood is drained at the butcher

    • @Coran_06
      @Coran_06 Před 8 měsíci +1

      @@user-fc2xk3uv8yAka it’s not blood and you just want to believe it is

  • @chickennuggets9031
    @chickennuggets9031 Před 8 měsíci +1

    if you want to be saved say this" dear Lord come into my heart I believe that you died on the cross for me and rose again come into my life" Amen

  • @Vanecita96
    @Vanecita96 Před 8 měsíci

    Lmaoo

  • @innocentnemesis3519
    @innocentnemesis3519 Před 8 měsíci +6

    Omg no it’s good you didn’t scoop the oil out, it helps the butter not to burn as you baste it! 🤌 Beautifully done

  • @HumanimalChannel
    @HumanimalChannel Před 8 měsíci

    To me, it is so crazy how you're such a foodie and you cannot eat steak/rare meat or sushi! Maybe it is some type of common sense (parasites?) But, raw beef... it is delicious and easy to digest. I wonder if you would eat fish cooked in lemon juice with coconut milk rather than with heat.

  • @fkaroundhandleit
    @fkaroundhandleit Před 8 měsíci

    That is some steak sin....

  • @ashton8878
    @ashton8878 Před 8 měsíci

    Must be nice to be a SAHM.

  • @nomizak
    @nomizak Před 8 měsíci

    No no no no no no that thing was still mooing! Lol. I don't like my steaks well done but that was too bloody and underdone looking to me. Ick!

  • @veecee8842
    @veecee8842 Před 8 měsíci +1

    She married an older man for money I don't think she should be giving out financial advice ..🤣

  • @godbelow
    @godbelow Před 7 měsíci

    This chick acting like they're scrounging for money while cooking on a Wolf stove in that house.

  • @MaxCastles
    @MaxCastles Před 8 měsíci +1

    I think it's not good too press the meat with the spatula. You'll push the juices out. I think. Idk.

  • @chickennuggets9031
    @chickennuggets9031 Před 8 měsíci

    Jesus loves you and cares about you. Have faith.

  • @Kristoker420
    @Kristoker420 Před 7 měsíci +1

    Oh please, you def don’t have a job still hahahaha

  • @chickennuggets9031
    @chickennuggets9031 Před 8 měsíci

    Jesus still loves and still saves come him as you are. Repent and change your ways and you will be saved.

  • @chickennuggets9031
    @chickennuggets9031 Před 8 měsíci

    My the Lord soften your hearts. Jesus loves you , and died on the cross for the whole of humanity.

  • @jobisrael8313
    @jobisrael8313 Před 8 měsíci

    Just by what I'm hearing you say for the sound of it sound like you are a good woman. Other than your face and body I will tell you what I do like. 1)You said you was a stay-at-home mother but the money your parents gave you you wanted to buy your husband something so that means you are not selfish. 2) you like your food well done😂 3) you did not just lay in the house you came up with a way to make money. 4) even though you make good money you still cater to your man💣. 5) you are fit, friendly an feminine woman💣😎😍. 12-30-23

  • @JinxedJax
    @JinxedJax Před 8 měsíci

    Stay at home mom? She looks like she just started high school. 😂

    • @JinxedJax
      @JinxedJax Před 7 měsíci

      @janiahfladger8048 That was a compliment. Especially after she had kids. My post wasn't for you anyways. You're the one who needs to stop trying throw 💩 on someone.

  • @chickennuggets9031
    @chickennuggets9031 Před 8 měsíci

    Jesus is coming back and you might be left behined give him your life and he will help you with all your troubles it wont be esay but He will be with you all the way. I love you all but Jesus loves you more.

  • @chickennuggets9031
    @chickennuggets9031 Před 8 měsíci

    Jesus is the way the truth and the life no one can get through the Father exept through me.

  • @chickennuggets9031
    @chickennuggets9031 Před 8 měsíci

    Jesus is coming back repent before it's to late, no one knows the day or the hour.

  • @chickennuggets9031
    @chickennuggets9031 Před 8 měsíci

    JESUS is the WAY the TRUTH and THE LIFE.

  • @mamaA6
    @mamaA6 Před 8 měsíci +12

    Why did I cry when you said you saved your birthday money for your husband 😫🥹 maybe because I'm a stay at home and I don't earn and I completely understand the feeling but I was literally crying 🤣

    • @lolaottinger3038
      @lolaottinger3038 Před 8 měsíci

      If you and your husband had to pay someone to come into your home daily to do the things you do, how much do you think it would cost? It would cost a lot. The money your husband earns is for both of you, and you should consider it as such, if it’s a problem, check fees for someone, or actually several people to come to your home on a daily basis that will do what you did and you take a job outside the home if that’s what it takes for your husband to understand your worth and for you to understand your worth. Then
      you won’t need to feel that you are spending his money on him, but rather y’alls money. I didn’t work outside our home for several years, only went to work part time because all of my friends went to work, but I always considered my husband’s paychecks to be for us, and I bought him many gifts with it, we put all of the money earned by him and me when I went to work in a joint checking account or joint savings account. We didn’t have to explain purchases to each other, but as far as big ticket items went, we discussed those purchases, neither of us would just willy nilly go out and spend thousands. Please consider changing your thinking about your importance and contribution to your household. You are worthy.