Why didn’t I apologise? and why allowing space during shutdown is crucial. (Taken from episode 6)

Welcome to Taking Autism On The Road. In this series of videos I am reflecting on what autism means to me and how I am learning to accept myself as I am. This video is a clip from Episode 6, my lengthy discussion of how my autistic traits affect me and my family. You can find the full video here: • Episode 6 - Taking Aut...
In this video I reflect on why it was often so difficult for me to apologise in my relationship. I also talk about a sense of victimhood that arises from episodes of shutdown. That it can feel that shutdown happens to you (without having any apparent control over it, hence the sense of victimhood) and yet you can be blamed or confronted for not being the partner you should be. I end the video with an important recommendation to avoid a sense of victimhood: to allow your partner with autism to undergo the episode of shutdown with the trust and realisation that they will find their way through it and will be ok on the other end. Thereby relieving the pressure for them and avoiding unnecessary arguments. Have patience and trust in eachother, there is light at the end of the shutdown 🤗💚🙏
To learn more about autistic shutdown, please watch my video on shutdown here:
My experience of autistic shutdown as a husband and father. (Taken from episode 6)
• My experience of autis...
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