Trans Bottom Surgery | Sensation, Periods, & Peeing
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I tend to describe my hysterectomy as having my uterus scooped out and incinerated but uterus yeeterus sounds good too.
It's already half Latin so it kinda sounds like a spell
Yeah a trans man I follow on Twitter called his a yeeterus and I wish I’d heard that word before I had mine!!!
Wow, fucking cray, are you on the spectrum, y muy loca. mande loco
@@bitchenboutique6953 That is so perfect I might need to start using it myself.
Omg I just thought of something!!
"Oh yeah, I got my Ute yeeted a couple weeks ago"
I think your journey of acceptance is similar to my own with coming to terms with my disabilities following a stroke in my teens: I don’t see any point in dwelling on the body I could have had because it’s just not possible. It’s been difficult but I’ve made myself appreciate the things I can do.
That’s an interesting comparison, and I hope to be more comfortable with that mindset soon. I’m pre surgery and pre T so I still have a long way to go and things to achieve, but just because there are limits doesn’t make it wrong or pointless, and it’s only going to cause me more pain to dwell on what could be. Good for you for coming to terms with that sort of thing, I’m sure it’s very difficult to have something like that changed in your life, whereas I’ve never had the things I’d like, it’s like it was taken from you. Hope you’re doing well
I've noticed there's a lot of intersection between the body image issues of trans people and people with disabilities, to say nothing of the overlap in the discriminatory attitudes society has towards both groups. I have a disability that developed in my late teens, specifically a neurological chronic pain condition, and I too found myself dwelling on what could have been if I'd been given a "normal" life. Ironically, since I'd spent so many years associating any body image issues with my disability, it took me a lot longer to realize I was trans as well. My mind did an automatic, "What? Me, trans? No way! Sure, I wish I had a different body, but that's _only_ because of my disability."
There's also something to be said about how disability would not even exist in the first place, if society had not defined it into existence by demanding people function in a specific way for a specific reason. It's the fault of society for failing to provide accommodations, not the fault of individuals for circumstances of life beyond their control.
@@FrozEnbyWolf150 Eeeh. That idea, that disability only exists because of society, really doesn’t work with chronic pain tho. It doesn’t matter what kind of accommodations society creates for me, my particular chronic pain is still going to be there, causing pain. It’s actually really frustrating to be told that social changes would fix my problem. 🤷🏼♀️
@@khills I never said that social changes would make a particular medical condition go away. I said that the category of disabled only exists because society places unreasonable demands on people and fails to accommodate those with different needs. In my case, due to my chronic pain condition, I can't function at the same physical capacity for the same length of time as the average person, yet most full time jobs would expect me to. I have to go out of my way to either find someone who can support me financially, or to get disability benefits, because things aren't set up that way by default.
If survival necessities were not commodified, that would go a long way towards ameliorating the challenges of living with a disability. My medical conditions would still be there, but I'd be able to spend my time doing things that make me more comfortable, instead of worrying about being too sick to work.
My best friend, who is disabled, has had conversations with me in the past about this sort of thing. We have had similar experiences with coming to terms with ourselves. No wonder why we get along so well, haha. I'm a trans guy, btw.
This is very interesting even as a cis woman, I've learnt so much just listening to trans people like you. Not that I was ever judgmental or anything, I just didn't know a whole lot a few years ago. So thank you! Must take a lot to be so open about it and share so much, but you do it in a great way. :)
It's very cool that you're educating yourself and not being bigoted to people who just wanna live their life :)
@@RaidenKunii Its not as black as white and that. Ive noticed that any questions towards the trans community is deemed as 'bigoted', which doesnt help anyone.
@@manatteegiggles7743 Depends on how the question is framed and the motivation behind it.
@@manatteegiggles7743 that's not even remotely true, the trans community are generally very open to answering questions unless theyre extremely invasive (eg. asking for a lot of details on whats in trans peoples' pants, esp if theyre minors) or transphobic remarks disguised as 'genuine questions' (hard to provide an example bc they can be actual questions in some contexts but things like tone and context clues are important, but i do have one example and its when somebody spammed my comments on tt with 'whats the difference between being transgender and transethnicity' after being disgustingly transphobic to me just minutes before)
@@Bee-pb9nj Yea some are bad faith for sure but some people are smeared for genuine questions. Its all just a mess, good faith discourse would help both
I'm delighted to see how open and honest you are - this must be really helpful and reassuring for anyone contemplating going down this route
I'm not aware of any other trans man offering this opportunity to learn as comfortably as you do it.
Precisely the comment I wish I left a minute ago 😄 ! Yes, this. What ^this says is YEPmuchagree 💜🌈🏳️⚧️ (ps 🦕 S ARE COOL TRANSPHOBIA IS NOT!!! )
@@learabee the only thing i got from this was dinosaurs are cool 🫠
*and yes they are* 🦕🏳️🌈🦖🏳️⚧️
yeah its still a scary concept for me at least, but it is nice to find someone who went through it and is happy with it. like you said, it's reassuring.
Noahfinnce is a trans guy who also has some pretty great and helpful content. :) Jammi is definitely great too though
Problem is tho that most people have severe complications and botched bottom surgeries. His wonderful experience is a rarity
Trans girl here...It's good to see and hear about how our trans brothers deal with and go through their transitions..thanks for sharing! xo
Lately I've been feeling so hopeless and like giving up on a transition would be better for everyone involved [edit: except me] ... But watching you, seeing how happy and alive you seem, I know that I'll have to face this despite my fears.
I'm rooting for you!
I hope you're able to finally face your fears and become the person you were always meant to be one day but until then just know that your fears while valid shouldn't be what stops you because only you know what's best for you nobody else knows you like you know yourself
@The Werewolf of Somalia where’s your proof? There’s no proof of what you’re saying
This sounds like a discussion to have with professionals, both doctors and counselors.
I’m semding you love❤️ take your time; you are not alone in this
I just started testosterone, last week was my first shot. I'm so excited, and thanks to your videos I know what to expect, and they really help with dysphoria. I love you n shaaba
wait wait same! 7/11 for the win babey
Im so happy for you!!! congrats on the T!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I started my transition a full year ago now!
Congrats man!
Congrats, I'm happy for you!
This video put me to sleep! I say that 100% as a compliment. I have insomnia so falling asleep is hard. Today in particular I was on the verge of a panic attack over gender dysphoria and general body dysmorphia, not the best conditions at 3am. However, your words helped me calm down almost completely. I know this is weird to say on a bottom surgery video, but thank you, Jamie. The likelihood of you seeing this is small, but I just wanted say that your impact in others lives is huge!
Hey I’m proud of you!
Thanks for these answers, transmasc enby here, and meta with the ure-rereouting is one of the goals on this end. Looking like things won't be starting for me til I'm pretty much in my 40s (I'm 39 next month), so the more info the better. And wow scrotum without vaginectomy?? That's good to know that's even possible 😊
You sound like me (about to be 42). I wish I lived in an alternate reality where I could just do all this amazing stuff and live my happiest life!
@@ArtemisMS wishing you a smooth journey ahead fam, and thank you ^_^
Jamie always make me feel more comfortable in my body, he literally seems so nice
jaime helped me realize who i am and made me more comfortable in myself :)
Same! He helped me realize the best thing for me was to start hrt.
Jamie is a groomer and looks like he’s groomed you into thinking that to be comfortable as yourself, you have to change everything about yourself and become a life long medical patient.
@@gimmemore9709 education is not grooming. do you even know what grooming is? it’s gaining someone’s trust, typically a minor, to pursue a sexual relationship and make them think it’s okay and normal. jaime being supportive and educational is not “grooming”, it’s suicide prevention. if i tried to live as a girl again i would probably end up killing myself. when i get called she or ma’am, the sting is indescribable.
having support doesn’t make you “groomed” it makes you feel less alone.
@@gimmemore9709 do you know the meaning of grooming?
YESSS
Uterus yeeted killed it for me! I hope whoever asked that question is seeing this- based on your creativity alone I am sure you are an awesome person and thank you for this new terminology in my vocabulary.
Just wanted to thank you for being so open and answering all these questions that some people would think are too invasive.
I am blown away by how open you are. I seriously commend you for making these videos. It’s such valuable information that I can see people really struggling to be willing to ask about. And your videos make this info so easily accessible. I watch your videos for many reasons. I am a 42 year old cis woman, so your videos are mostly just informative and entertainment for me. But I truly adore you and Shaaba so I love watching your videos and her’s just for fun, I also respect your guys integrity and how informative you both are. I also love the “am I the a hole videos, the meme videos and so much more. I love that any time I come across people either online or irl that have genuine questions about trans issues or the lgbtq+ community in general that I can link a specific video from you or Shaaba, or just your whole channels in general. That’s for the great content, from informative to hysterical, to ranty and the whole range.
I am also a cis female. A lot of these are questions that I have been curious about, but would not ask out of fear of being too invasive or rude, as none of the trans men I have met have been close personal friends of mine.
I'm a cis mama and one of my (grown) kids is a transmasc enby. This channel has been a great place to learn, so I can be a better ally/advocate, and be entertained as well. I also refer people to this channel if they want to learn.
Question and answer videos about transition like this are helpful. Thank you for making one!
Jamie, you and your content are such a treasure. 💜 This is the closest I've ever seen to a mainstream resource for not just trans or possibly trans folks but even nosy cis people with manners 🤣 to ask specific FTM questions that have been pre-welcomed by a transman. You also set an important example by knowing and gracefully enforcing your personal boundaries. I do generally come here for the welcoming vibes and the laughs, but one of the best things about your channel is its educational value. You're one of those rare people whose presence on CZcams is actually making the world a little better.
I love how you are open and honest about your transition. When you do videos like this one I find it so informative and it helps me understand the journey trans people have to go through to become their authentic selves. Never stop being the wonderful, inspirational man you are, much love 💖🤗
The last time I was this early I still thought I was a lesbian
LMFAO HELL
Same but when I thought I was a girl
Same except I thought I was agender turns out im just a trans woman
@@Pandastra I love your name its Paw-Some
I DIED BECAUSE SAME
Thank you so much for doing this video! You answered medical questions that I've been confused and curious about for years now. Your willingness to share, explain, and teach is a beautiful thing.
Thank you for exemplifying good personal sharing boundaries around such a sensitive topic. As someone learning boundaries in my 30's I am so happy to know that young people can find good boundary in praxis from creators like you.
I love hearing Jamie talk about accepting just what you’ve been given by life and your body and I’d honestly love to hear more about that. I am pre T and pre op as I’m not old enough yet (less than a year away tho!) to medically transition without parental consent (or legally either) so dysphoria is really tough sometimes. I’ve transitioned socially and pass most the time, but really want to medically and legally transition. It’s been several years since I socially transitioned so just accepting my situation and what I have at the moment has been the best way to deal with it. Obviously I’m always waiting eagerly for more transition steps, but if that’s all I was focused on and always dwelling on my lack of facial hair, curves, chest, etc, I’d be absolutely miserable. I think the mental ways we deal with dysphoria should really be discussed more so it’s great to see Jamie doing it. Obviously we need social, medical, and legal transition (though not all trans people, but some of course), but until we can do those things dealing with dysphoria mentally is so important but also so incredibly hard.
And, of course, for people post whatever transition steps they desire, like Jaime, it’s still important because we’ll never be cis. For many of us, our body won’t 100% look cis (of course there’s no one way to look cis or trans, but you know what I mean). I’ll probably always have more curves than most cis men. I’ll always have smaller feet than many cis men. That’s okay. I’ve accepted that. The point is not to have a body or existence that’s as cis as possible; it’s to have one that is as comfortable as possible.
Thank you so much for making this video. As a trans man still trying to learn about options for lower surgery this is so helpful and unfortunately yet understandably not information that's easily avaliable due to the intimate nature of the topic.
Ahhhh Jamie you’re such a lovely person to take the time to let people know a first hand experience! Thank you so much for taking the time to share this x
You've been such a large part of my journey and everything you do is worth it. Thank you so much for everything ❤️
thank you so much for this jamie
I love Jamie. I love that he explains so much and I've learned so much. I'm an older Cis woman who is just curious and want to be supportive without being intrusive so this information is so great.
Thank you as always for your toil and grit in being out here, offering a voice and your experiences, normalising these conversations - I love being able to watch your videos and just count you as "that cool guy" - it feels like you're sharing not just your hard won results transitioning but also the odd unexpected hurdles along the way, not claiming to represent anyone else but still being real. Thanks Jamie x
i love you for making this video and giving such awkwardly descriptive answers to these wild questions. it's super helpful.
I’ve learnt so much from your channel. Your content has taught me quite a lot about trans people and I’m so glad I can be educated more, because being uneducated leads to misunderstands and misinterpretation- which is something I wish to avoid. Thank you for everything you’ve done, and I sincerely wish you the best, Jamie.
Your channel has made me feel so much more at ease as a newly out trans man. And by out, I mean to literally two people, but that aside, until I am in a situation where I can be open and truly begin my transition, the Internet is all I have and you have helped me so much with my worried and anxiety and just keeping myself informed. Especially with the not looking ‘cis’ down there, thing, I am also a gay man and I have always worried I would never find love because of that, but seeing you and you with your lovely fiancée, she seems wonderful, by the way, very happy for you both and thank you for making these videos.
Thank you for answering these questions! It clears a lot of things for people who might have considered surgery but had questions about it
Thanks, Jamie. This was helpful, I'm so glad you felt comfortable enough to make informative and personal videos like this ^^.
As a nurse I REALLY appreciate learning about some of the finer points of anatomy possibilities--especially thinking about what to keep in mind and ask about prior to any sort of urinary catheter insertions on someone who is transgender. Thank you for your educational content!!
I am a totally straight female and really surprised that y t suggested this to me.
I've such respect for those who go to such lengths and for you who must look after all comers .
So I’m assuming that as a “nurse” you already knew that you can’t change your birth chromosomes right? No matter how much how much hormones or testosterones you take. Man or women that’s it. Shame on your “nurse”
@@Yessi-with-a-Y as a "nurse" there are many reasons a person's anatomy might not look how I expect when I'm assessing them or performing a procedure such as inserting a urinary catheter. Cancer, obesity, genetic/birth related abnormalities, some other accident/ illness, or something elective. It's always helpful to learn about the possibilities so that I may be sensitive to the unique needs of my patients.
I really appreciate these videos! I’ve been on t for 3 years and I’m about to have top surgery. I’ve been weighing the pros and cons for me personally on different bottom surgeries, and your videos have been super helpful. It’s hard to know, though. I didn’t realize how happy testosterone would make me.
First hand information is very important for those considering procedures like this, as well as the understanding of others. Thank you so much for sharing (and for sticking to your personal boundaries)!
I just kind of stumbled here... You are an incredibly open, generous, and wonderful person. I just want to wish you all the happiness in the world! Thank you for answering questions I didn't know I had! Take care and stay safe!
Saw you at Brighton Trans Pride last weekend! Thanks for being so nice, you’re an inspiration
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thanks man! I'm also trans and have a lot of questions about bottom surgery, you've helped me a lot :)
Your firm and unwavering affirmation of the process you've gone through is very inspiring. I'm working on the progress of my transition and these qna videos always boost me up!
I don't have any questions to ask, but I just wanna thank ya. I'm working towards getting a hysterectomy approval for my own medical and transitional reasons. I'm so excited I finally got an obgyn to respect my decision. I am looking forward to the yeeting of my uterus.
What a brilliant channel you have, Jamie - I always send people here if they don't understand trans issues. You're so calm and informative. I hope Shaaba is well.
I was too nervous to ask myself so I'm glad other people did, sensation is the biggest thing I worry about in terms of bottom surgery so thanks for explaining!
Probably should be other things like look into issues with bottom surgery there are many people who have severe pain or i just watched a man who transitioned to female then back to male but also had bottom surgery and afterwards their urethra was like a bent straw causing a backup of urine and causing many other surgeries to be needed. They also have severe pain in areas of their vaginal canal that was made so they explained they are numb…numb… then severe pain. So sensation seems the least of your worries. I think more research and hearing people who everything went fine like Jamie but also the people where things didn’t go well that way you have an idea of All the things that can go right and all the things that can wrong.
Thanks for this informative video. I find it fascinating to hear the differences that exist in each transition path. Personally at the beginning of the transition years ago I was convinced that I wanted to do metoidioplasty but once I started hormone therapy and after doing the mastectomy and hysterectomy I noticed that the gender dysphoria was practically gone and I started to feel good about myself and I came to the awareness of not wanting to do other operations, at least for the moment. I really hope that these experiences can be useful for people to understand what their path may be because each path is unique and every trans person must be able to do and choose what is best for themselves. Thanks again for the video. 👏
Thank you for sharing! Always so informative. Also really nice to see you set firm boundaries for what the things you are uncomfortable talking about, don't ever feel pressured to share more than you are :)
Freshly out nb trans-masc here- i’ve been watching for years and i love all of your videos! You’ve helped me feel so much more informed and better in general and also have made me laugh and smile a lot in the lighter videos! Thank you for being vulnerable jaime ily
Thank you for making this video! I'm a cis woman but have always been curious about this since I have a few trans friends and relatives, but never knew how to tactfully ask without sounding rude or overly nosy. This answered so many of my questions, so really, thanks!
When Jamie post we all feel better.
:)
This was a great video Jamie. Really interesting and also really proud that you are willing and comfortable enough to share so much.
Jamie answering the questions is just so sweet ♥️
Hi Jamie, a fellow Jamie here. Thank you for creating such awesome content, it always helps to make me less dysphoric when I am able to remind myself what I will have one day in the future. Keep being awesome
I love that you're doing this video and that you're so open to questions! (Not that you have to be. Everyone had a right to jerk that private if they want)
I'm not as "creative" about questions, but your videos have me considering whether I sound update my PCOS treatment. I'm afab non-binary, and a lot of things I do to treat me PCOS make me feel like I'm being "girl-afied". They are even resisting me getting a hysterectomy for dumb reasons. But I've always wondered if just going on T might alleviate the issues they bring up. I don't care if I'm male or female presenting anyway. Anyway, I'm just glad you're surgery went well, and it gives me a lot to think about.
Here’s something you might consider, bio identical progesterone. It can help reverse and get your hormones leveled.
I don't really have anything helpful to say, but one of my kids is an afab enby on T (they like the beard.) Anyway, I hope you get some helpful suggestions and have a good day/night. 💛🤍💜🖤
@@missnaomi613 Wait... your kid uses T because they like a beard? How is that even legal?
@@jbird4478 I can't tell if you're being funny or serious. All of my kids are grown up. Kid 1 enjoys having a beard, which is good, because it's there.
If you were just being silly, then 👍
I really appreciate your willingness to do these videos. I have a number of trans friends but never felt comfortable asking such intrusive questions. It helps me when dealing with the anti-trans elements in my family a great deal.
the "touched on sensation"-giggle is priceless. and the whole video is serioiusly informative and a glimps into a whole different world for me. wich I really apreaciate. I like my horizon to get expanded.
Thank you, as a cis woman who is just generally curious I've learned some stuff from this vid, googled some stuff that I wasn't familiar with and gained some knowledge :). I love how honest and educational your videos are and always have been.
For those wondering about stopping periods: While a hysterectomy is the only 100% way to completely, irreversibly stop them with no breakthrough bleeding, there are other ways. Testosterone, as Jamie mentioned, but if you're not interested in those hormones, you can also use continuous hormonal contraception. This comes in a few forms: Continuous use pills (where you don't take the break week to have a period), a hormonal IUD, the birth control shot, and the implant are all potential ways. Some work better or worse for different people so you have to find what works for your body and your lifestyle.
When you're on hormonal birth control, there is *NO MEDICAL REASON YOU HAVE TO HAVE A PERIOD*! Most gyn surgeons skip theirs! You can too! Talk to your doctor, make sure they listen. If they don't, find a new doctor. You don't have to go through them if you don't want!
There is one reason to still have it if you're sexually active with a cis man: so you know you're not pregnant. I have a friend who got pregnant on the Depo shot and had no idea until she was 5 months along (she'd actually gone through a breakup, so she initially attributed the mood swings and weight gain to stress and comfort eating).
Depending on the kind of birth control you're on, especially most pills, there are indeed medical reasons to still have a few periods a year (they usually say 4). This is because the endometrial lining still continues to grow, and if it is not shed it can greatly increase the risk for endometrial cancer.
Being on testosterone inhibits endometrial growth, and some other kinds of birth control do as well (ie some types of IUDs).
Please verify all medical advice you read on the internet (mine included!). :)
TMI but while hysto stops periods as such you also have to deal with weeks or potentially months of light bleeding while the area heals. The surgeon kind of mentioned that to me as an afterthought so that was a distressing thing to have to deal with.
@@estebandelasexface8193 oh wow that sucks, I stopped two days post op can't imagine what that must have felt like for you
You did mention that not all period control methods work well for everyone, I just wanted to expand on that by adding that when I used to be on the estrogen birth control pill, I tried many times to continuously take the pill so I didn’t get a period, but it never worked for me. I either got my period exactly as usual despite still taking the pill or would just continuously lightly bleed/ spot for weeks on end until I did a non-pill week and allowed the full bleeding, at which point I would’ve rather just had it and be done with it than drag it out.
These days I have a copper iud, which does nothing in terms of period control, but I love it so much more than taking estrogen pills. For me personally, the extra estrogen was making me feel very low energy/ depressed/ no sex drive also. I feel so much more alive and with it since I got off of it.
I am sure that this is a very valuable video for so many people who are thinking of doing what u are doing. You are so brave, and sharing your experience with help so many people! Much love!❤
It's super interesting hearing more about this type of surgery ♡ I want phallo but I'm always interested in what options are available and it's nice that you are so open.
Boundaries are Boundaries and we respect your boundaries
Honestly, so many cis men aren’t super thrilled with their penises I imagine “accepting what’s there” is a common experience among both cis and trans men.
All men (except trans women) want a larger penis, women all prefer a larger penis. (Not too large obvs 😛) .
Trans men often fall below 6inches , averaging around 4 inches.
Being smaller and generally skinny then typical men there is less material for a surgeon to work with.
Imagine how bio guys with micro penis feel.
Great point! I had the same thought
3:25 the answer to this question deserves a lot of recognition. Bottom surgery, transitioning and even life in general isn’t about being “perfect,” but instead is about being happy with who YOU are. If transitioning in any way improves your life, I SUPPORT YOU! If you don’t feel comfortable transitioning, I SUPPORT YOU!
As long as you are happy, do you babes 🫶🏻
It’s so cool that operations like this exist at all. Like do you ever just pause and think wow science is really amazing ! I love it
A really educational video. i had to giggle at how you just had to give up your explaination of whats in line in the queue. Thank you for making these videos.
Its nice watching your videos Jamie, it helps me through my days.
I like how you said basically said you don’t have to have it by saying “maybe it’s not worth it”. I’m a trans guy and recently decided not to have bottom surgery. It’s a personal reason I have no desire at the moment.
Completely valid decision. Doesn't make you any less of a man.
I think if bottom surgery of the penis installation variety could make for a penis that has full sensation I’d be on board, but I don’t want to give up my current level of arousal potential for something that’s essentially a permanently attached strap-on…
@@laartje24 Exactly ^^
Often those who have bottom surgery actually get worse dysphoria, so much can go wrong and it never lives up to expectation. Then regret sets in.
It’s important to get as large a view of things as possible to help us all make informed as possible decisions.
detransitioner voices are important to listen too.
when I was younger I thought I had to have it done to be seen as a woman.
Well….. I didn’t do it nor do I have any desire too.
Once I accepted I cannot be a woman and changed my goal to just being a T Ranny life got so much easier. An achievable target.
I will always be male, I present feminine and just live my life.
You’ll still be in the same body you had before. Learn to love it, it’s the greatest instrument you’ll ever own.
Jaime, just want to send some love your way since I’m never this early for your videos! Thank you for everything. 🎶💕🌞✌️
I love how emotionally healthy these videos are
Thank you sharing, Jamie. I think many cis people do not have any trans people in their lives that they feel comfortable enough to ask these types of question of. You are doing a real service in explaining some of the things that some trans people actually have had physically changed about their bodies.
I realized that, after watching your previous anatomy videos as well as the other ones other people had made, that you linked to, I could stop thinking about what was going on "downstairs" and actually focus on trans individuals as just "normal, average" people. I did not realize that my lack of understanding was contributing as much as it was to my difficulty in overcoming what I believe is a natural level of transphobia that cis people who have had no exposure to any trans people might have. For me, I have to admit that the low level of transphobia that I had was actually just that - fear of trans people because they are different. Coming to understand how things actually work for people who have decided to have some version of bottom surgery showed me that there is nothing scary about people who have done this to feel more comfortable with themselves. It freed up that little bit of thinking space in my head, which helped make _trans people_ into just _people_ .
I get peoples boundaries when it comes to sharing about themselves online but I think the biggest question that often is asked and something I’ve always wondered is about the use when it comes to intercourse
You can find answers to that question elsewhere online. There are people who are comfortable talking about it but Jamie isn't one of them /lh
People (like to) do different things so I can't really say what he likes to do with his during sex, but I've heard from other trans guys that have had that same specific surgery that they can penetrate but need to use a cok ring to keep it.. sturdy? Stable? Enough (because they usually don't get quite as hard as cis penises for as long, according to what a metoidioplasty surgeon told me) Also depends on how much bottom growth they had aka how big their dick is. This applies to bottom growth in general though, not only after metoidioplasty. In other words, some of us have a big enough dick to penetrate even before having any surgery. But we're so good at eating 🐈 anyway by now that we don't need it. It's more for us than for them.
@Taj Lane Is orgasm possible?
Thank you for being so open and honest with these questions. I realize Google can answer some of them but a first hand account is helpful too.
(I paused this at 6:12) - You are a Hero of mine! I'm close to 2 MTF trans people, whom I Love DEARLY ! ! ! ! ! ! ! !
Shannon is the first one I met, through work (and after watching many hours of your video posts, I was able to comprehend the extent of your [and Shannon's} Journeys). It was important to me to understand the pathway of these Journeys, in order to be supportive of these individuals.
Brock was the 2nd individual with whom I encountered - and as our interactions grew, I "Verbally Adopted" him! Both are extremely special to me (and due to adopting Brock) I received my First "Father's Day Card (as I approach the age of 70).
I've encountered a couple pf other people as I continue My Journey, but, your gracious sharing of Your Journey to this 'point in time' puts you on my 'personal "bucket list" of people I'd love to "spend an evening with!"
My (now)Husband and I will have been together 26 years on my Birthday, in late August, and will celebrate 5years of Marriage on September 10th.
peril) are the things that show both, your Courage and your Love for your lovely girlfriend!
this is proof people speaking out of genuine curiosity are polite and the ones being really disingenuous are not interested in hearing a real answer
EXACTLY!!!
Whenever a comment is condescending or arrogant asking a question it feels like a red flag :(
Definitely agree but it’s also important to add that Jaime specifically asked for these questions. Even asking with politely and with genuine curiosity about someone’s genitals would be inappropriate if you weren’t at least friends and/or you knew the person would be ok with it beforehand.
I live vicariously through you Jammi. Wish I were a young guy and lived in a city where this was feasible! I love to see you thriving. ❤
Credit to your honesty and integrity xx
Honestly, the more I learn about trans stuff (and LGBTQ+ stuff in general), the less I understand transphobic views (if that's even possible). How can anyone possibly think it's "a phase" or made up or whatever BS they make up to try and discriminate against trans people?
Why people even care? You think it's "a phase", "unnatural", "only for attention", etc. Okay, good for you I guess. Why would you put your nose in somebody's you don't know business at the first place? It's just rude
That's the same for homosexuality. Its mind boggling to think people use their unawareness of things they don't know as a weapon against whatever it is that scares them
Yeah same, and actually, the more I found out about the community, the more I realized that I am a part of it, so I went from being an ally to being a bi guy! But yeah, it's just like let us live our lives people
I feel sorry for the things the LGBTQ community has to deal with. I wouldn't wish those hardships on anyone. However I do not believe a trans woman is a woman and I do not agree with trans women competing in women's sports either. I also believe you should continue to use your assigned at birth gender restroom until you have had bottom surgery. This goes for trans men also. I am happy to refer to you as whatever pronoun you identify with and would fully support your transition if you were my friend or a family member. Does this make me transphobic? I'm only asking because I have no Ill will towards anyone from the LGBTQ community and wondered if that means there is a different name for me or am I in the transphobic box.
@@SuperJJParker to put it simply, yes those are transphobic views that I would recommend maybe researching on and listening to trans folks on why.
To put it a bit longer, there's plenty of things that are in support of trans people in sports, hormones do a lot to bringing trans people in the exact range that cis people are sports wise and then at that point it's doing what's always done in sport which is just some people are better than others naturally and/or from training. More so though I think you should really inspect your thought process on your exclusion of trans women from sports but not acknowledging there are trans men in sports too. You're pulling from transphobic arguments. More so if you really want to inspect the sports views why are sports even gendered in the first place, we already sort people based on skills in a lot of sports (like wrestling there's weight classes, etc) so why not get rid of genders and literally just sort people based on more easily measured things.
Next point I wanted to talk on was your insistence that all trans people need bottom surgery to be able to use an affirming bathroom. Not everyone has access or the ability to get surgeries and some people don't even want them! No one should be required to use any medical transition if they don't want to, to be referred to correctly or to use the spaces that match their gender. Whether it be hormones or surgeries. The idea that trans people must conform to cis standards of gender to be able to navigate the world is on its base level transphobic and problematic in many ways. Gender is an experience and anyone should be able to cater it to themselves. Also you leave out any nonbinary identities in those requirements and ideas. Bathrooms themselves should be ungendered and private enough that we don't have to waste time with separate bathrooms imo.
You seem open to learning so I hope we can converse productively should you reply, I'm open to talking more and helping you learn on a base level that these views are in fact transphobic but that doesn't mean you are. Regardless I hope you try and dig into some more researching and challenge those ideas from learning by trans folks, remember it's not our duty to educate you on these things, some of us are willing to some level but we aren't required to do anything.
I wish your videos could be used (with your permission, of course!) as educational tools in schools and transgender clinics; you manage to explain things so well and in a way that's not cringey or awkward.
Thanks for sharing this information. I am a counselor and this helps with directing my clients when they have questions. A great video for me to share with them too.
Thanks for being so open and helpful. You help so many people 🌈
I know a cis woman who refers to her hysterectomy as "Yeeterus."
I remember watching your videos while you were going through the process of getting bottom surgery! Crazy that it's been that long, but I'm so happy to have followed you along your journey! Btw I've been loving your content lately - the memes, reddit posts, and feel-good 10-minute videos are always my go-to when I'm feeling down 😊
It's great that you are so open about your exprience and can answer people's questions so insightfully. I was at a meeting of trans support/social group that has just started in my hometown and as is often the case in group situations the questions of what surgeries people have had came up. I had my surgery a few years ago now in my early teens in germany,but I didn't have a metoidioplasty and I wasn't sure about a phalloplasty as like you Jamie I didn't want the very obvious scarring,I was offered a third option of a transplant,and that is what I went for it felt right to me at the time as soon as my surgeon talked about it, the risks were high in terms of rejection etc and function and sensation in the future.But It worked for me,took a while to heal and for sensation to come back,but in my lower surgery I am fully functioning as it were. I was talking about this surgery in the group and people were amazed, it seems this is rare,but I wasn't aware of this option being a surgical rarity and it happened in a short time after my top surgery. I had other surgeries to alter my face, to give me a more masculine appaerance, my ribs were altered and so was my pelvis and the bones in my hands and feet all to give me a more masculine body. I had just over six months of surgery, but was not aware a lower surgery involving a transplant was so rare,I have heard of other trans men in other countries having this,but it seems it's not as yet a widely available option for trans male lower surgery. You impart a lot of knowledge in your videos and I am sure they help and inspire so many people on their journey of their transition and help them make more informed choices too. I'm a 54 year old trans man, but even I have learnt things from your brilliant videos.(matt)
You are amazing. Thanks so much for being so open about your journey and experience!
Thank you Jamie! This video will really help me with my future choices with me being a trans man!
Thank you for sharing, Jamie. I'm a cis woman, but part of the LGBTQ+ community (I'm pan, but not out in my personal life). You do such an amazing job sharing, which I know helps others. And I love that you have boundaries of what you will discuss and won't discuss because somethings are personal. Good for you for sticking to those boundaries and I love that, overall, the community appreciates your boundaries and doesn't cross them.
I've seen a few people talk about how the discussion of bodily acceptance is similar to their own bodily acceptance when it comes to disabilities. I'm so jealous of everyone who has accepted their bodies as they are. I have Ankylosing Spondylitis and was diagnosed years ago. I just recently had a ACDF surgery for my neck. I have so many issues in my back and major joints, fingers and toes due to the AS. I've been so angry and frustrated with my condition over the past years that I feel like I can't get past it. I saw a video of the lead singer of Imagine Dragons, who also has AS, and he was on stage, just doing his thing as a singer and I got genuinely upset. Not because I want him or anyone else to suffer like I do, but because he can do something like that, and I can no longer drive. I might one day be able to again, but that's a big question mark. Walking is difficult now and I used to be a serious athlete. I see people who have AS who are rock climbers or marathoners or insert abled body activity here, and I'm so happy for them, but I get so frustrated and angry with my situation. I know the disease hits people differently. I know that in my brain, but accepting my limitations in my heart and being okay with what I have now is something I've not been able to do. There are moments when I can breathe and take things a moment at a time and be okay, but overall...I just haven't been able to. So, I'm personally both jealous and incredibly happy for those who've been able to find that peace in accepting where they are and who they are. I'm working on it, but I feel like I've been working on it for years and fear I'll never get there because my situation is constantly changing.
What does pan but not in my personal life mean?
Sorry to hear about your Ankylosing Spondylitis. I googled it and can imagine it must be awfully painful. I will say a prayer for you.
@@sunnywintermorning1941 pan is short for pansexual and I'm not out in the "real" world, meaning off the internet. No one knows me on YT, so I can be a truer version of myself than I can in my every day life. One day I may have the courage to tell my friends, although I'll never tell family. Just not safe.
And, yeah, AS sucks. I'm doing all the things I can to ease symptoms and progression, but it'll never be fixed. And I'm still learning how to be okay with that.
Thanks for asking and looking up AS. Much 💜!
I reallt love your attitude! You explain your journey very well. You are really a kind person. I hope you continue to fo really well, i am cheering you on! Keep doing what you are doing, do what works for you!
great video! i’ve been jumping back and forth between meta and phallo so it’s helpful seeing this video! i’m honestly still unsure but i’ve got time still lol. glad to hear your experience with meta was good
Thank you for talking about stuff like this - I imagine not everyone would be comfortable sharing details like this, but education in these areas is sorely lacking so it's really nice to be educated about stuff like this. I do wish LGBT+ education was better in schools though.
This video is gonna help a lot of people, and it already has based on the comments, so yeah! In fact, your videos did help me come out of my shell, but in the sexuality department. A lot of things you said about being bi really put stuff for me into perspective, and I just realized holy shit, I'm bi. So yeah!
This is disgusting
@@xxxchild_predatorxxx107 Hey, my first queerphobic comment! Didn't think I'd get one so soon lol
Just wanted to say how happy ir makes me to know you're part of the rainbow fam! Welcome and congrats on your newfound self awareness!
@@xxxchild_predatorxxx107 Ok "child predator".
@@jenhofmann Thanks! Feels surreal but also like super satisfying that I don't have to hold a part of me back anymore
Thank you for sharing so much and educating us.
The stuff you decide is private isn’t necessary for our education.
You provide plenty 🙂💙💕💙💕
Your videos are so informative! Your voice is also very soothing
this is a really great video to make for fellow trans men, thanks
I love your vids!!
Thank you, Jamie! This is very informative. I like to be well-educated about everything. It helps me understand what people go through to feel comfortable in their skin.
I have never judged people for any sort of surgical or gym-assisted self improvement and I definitely think it's great that some are able to live more thoroughly in their true gender.
If I ruled the world, anyone could get what surgeries they wanted to help their self-esteem... free of charge, of course!
Thank you for the video, very informative. I'm still years away of making my decision about this but the more information the better
Doctors: hysterectomy
Me from now on: *Yeetus that Uterus*
Wait, the v and u aren't actually removed with bottom surgery and it's a second surgery, basically? I didn't know that! This is actually really great news, as i have major bottom dysphoria but my partner and i plan on having kids. (Yes, i know it is weird to some people, but idc. I'm aware of having to stop hormones for that and all too)
its so nice to hear how this works in your favor so well! i wish you and your partner the best!
@@evi6784 Thank you very much 🤗
There is a factor that almost none of the current 8-billion people on this planet take into consideration when planning to have kids. That is the dire scientific evidence regarding our very near future due to climate change. I urge you to consider such things for the sake of your potential kids.
I believe with metoidioplasty you can totally keep the v and u if you want and just not do that stage of the surgery, I’m not sure that’s the case for phallo though
It might be weird for some people out there in the world, but not for us!! Happy to hear those are great news for you 🖤
Such a fantastic resource as always Jamie! 💓
The questions i didnt know I wanted answered thanks man!
You should really consider contacting the Line network and go on as a guest host on the Trans Atlantic call in show! You would be great!
Jamie, why are your left nails colored? Are they painted, or did you injure them? If the latter, hope you recover quickly and it doesn't hurt you too much.
Super interesting stuff! I work as a university sex educator and I really appreciate these videos, I think they make be better able to understand what students I support who are going through transition or have transitioned might have as options and how people who've gone through certain surgeries and other medical processes related to transition felt about it
This is awesome! I was just thinking about finding another video about this
I got my hysterectomy two weeks ago, and to be honest, it was a total breeze. All of the pain was from secondary effects (gas, the catheter, and constipation), it was all over within about four days, and the scarring's pretty minimal. If you ever choose to get it, it wasn't too bad. I personally didn't feel it was invasive at all, but that's just me.
Can I ask if you have sensation in your penis? I wasn’t clear in this video if he meant he had sensation in the penis or elsewhere. Also can you get an erection and have orgasm? Thank you.
@@CC-mr5xq Ah, I haven't gotten that surgery, so I'm afraid I can't help you there xP