ANSWERING YOUR QUESTIONS | teen mom q&a
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- čas přidán 4. 11. 2022
- Thank you SO much for all of your love and support!! I am truly so thankful. I know that everyone has so many questions, so I have addressed a few of the most asked questions. Stay tuned for a Q&A with Nathan!! Thank you for watching! :)
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Welcome! I am so happy you are here!! I am a 20 year old mama to my beautiful baby girl. Follow me on my journey of juggling college, motherhood, and everything in between. I cannot wait for all of the new adventures we get to go through together. Thanks for joining me!
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Somehow I got recommended this channel.. I watched 2 videos and 24 mins later, a new video posted.. congratulations!
You are so mature, I know you had to grow up really quick and everything changed in an instant… you literally had no time to prepare but God definitely chose you bc of how level headed, mature and driven you are. You are definitely being given a platform to help and inspire others. I am excited to go along on this journey with you !! I love that you have goals but also take things day by day and celebrate every little accomplishment!! Much love Kelle from Louisville Kentucky
I can’t believe your school wasn’t more understanding that you had an unexpected baby, and had complications at that! 😠
That’s been my experience with college. They were tough and said “well you’re an adult so you have to figure it out on your own” type thing. Not very compassionate. I’m sure if you get the right person it would be good but many of them just don’t care.😕
@@nikkis7375 that’s wild! My university was very accommodating
Yeah college professors are usually jerks unfortunately :(
I pray your channel blows up so you and your family can live a happy life together making a living off of sharing your beautiful life with us. When you blow up, just remember that some people are weirdos and will have negative things to say. Disregard it and stay true to yourself. There will be more love than hate and that's what you should focus on. Most importantly, have fun. You're beautiful and I really enjoy your videos 🙂
In Q&A with Nathan, I'd really like to know how he's doing mentally with all of this. Many times, we forget about the dads and how they're feeling. He spends time away from you both and that must be hard. Looking forward to future videos!
I’m so glad I found your channel! Thanks for sharing your story 😊
I'm inspired by you, you are so strong!! I'm so glad you had a supportive family/friends to help your through all the process. Looking forward to the Q&A with Nathan!
Love your videos! I wish you all the best and I’m looking forward to watching more of your videos!! ❤
Thanks for being so brave and sharing your very personal, difficult and beautiful experience. I respect you for everything but most importantly how positive you are in everything you speak about it’s such a great outlook to have on life.
Your a girl who was certainly forced into being a brave Mom. I love that you are sharing with us. You have met a lot of challenges! I love your family is supporting you and your girl. You have made some positive amazing choices and been so upfront about it! Yes! So healthy!
Glad you are finishing school and sorry the professors weren’t more supportive across the board, and as you already know it’s important to stay in school. You are well-spoken and it’s nice to hear a teenager using good grammar. Best wishes to stay healthy and thanks for these updates!
Manifesting you blowing up on CZcams!! 💛 you deserve it.
You’re doing so so so great!
Still am so grateful I found your channel. I’ll be 40 weeks pregnant in 4 days. 🙂
Spill the real tea gurlll
You’re doing fantastic Harmony!!
I love that you still go to therapy! I also made this decision after having a traumatic birth experience with an emergency c section. Kudos to you for taking the leap into therapy, it's not easy but it's SO worth it! Especially after the shock, and drastic changes you have adjusted to..
Is your boyfriend Graycens dad?
I’m watching from UW- Milwaukee!! Love your story and your perseverance
I’m so glad I found your channel….something about your voice is so….calming….soothing…positive!!🥰
Harmony, I think you are amazing!
Thank you for sharing your life with us!!❤❤ and it’s okay to not be okay sometimes, and that will happen sometimes and it’s okay and you will get past it and onto better times❤️❤️
As new parents you and Nathan are so doing great, focussing on finishing school is wonderful. Self-care is important, especially with post partum, shock of having a baby, preclampsia which is very life threatening, healing from trauma of second degree tearing and Instantly adjusting to the combination of it all. Remember we are not given manuals we all at some stage walked in the dark, but we adapt adjust and in time conquered! I'm truly inspired at your maturity and sharing your story, one day another young lady may find herself in similarity to you and your videos may give her strength and hope. Well done Harmony and if people's comments cause issues, block or even reflect do not allow hate and ignorance to cloud you, you do not got to share your life your sharing your experiences. Truly inspired by you and I'm old lol xx
I'm really enjoying your videos! Hope you keep posting, loved this video😄
I'm so sorry that the delivery was such a hard situation. But otherwise everything is so wholesome. I'm wishing you all the luck!
I was a teen mom of 18 36 years ago. Tough but just the best. I have 8 all grown now. I have PCOS and for me to get pregnant after my first 2 was to be on the birth control pill for a few months go off and I would ovulate and get pregnant. So be careful not to skip any birth control pills in case you have PCOS. Sounds like you are doing amazing. Enjoy your baby girl she will bring you all lots of joy.
Enjoying your videos!
I love your personality and I am so glad I found your channel! I'm so sorry some of your professors were not as accommodating! Are you totally virtual now? Congratulations again! 😊🎉
i went on BC when i graduated HS to regulate my cycle and the first few months felt even more irregular than normal. a couple months after starting i had a 30 day period, but then after about 8 months to a year my period was very regular and predictable down to the day! it gets better!
Thanks for sharing your experiences!! My two cents in case it means anything to you or someone else - don’t forget to keep an eye on iron and ferritin levels if you are now bleeding twice a month! I recently found out I was severely iron deficient (I had super low ferritin numbers, but not all doctors test ferritin levels for whatever reason). Would hate to see it affect your postpartum journey or cause you the debilitating fatigue it has caused me!
God bless ❤️
Good for you, it must have been such a traumatic experience. You’re doing so well. Let me tell you, even women who have planned babies and go on maternity leave have good and bad days. That’s the nature of becoming a parent. You have a good support system in place and you’ve got this. I bled for 10 weeks after the birth of both of my babies and then got my period back straight away despite breastfeeding exclusively. It sucked but there it is. As women, we learn to just pull up our socks and get on with it.
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💕If in any future pregnancies you tear down below just have shallow salt baths 1-2 day💕It stings a bit at first but it helps to heal you faster💕Also use 100% natural soap💕
Omg I’m seriously invested in your story. You’ve blown my mind with all this. I’m 33, I’m married and expecting my first child. I swear I love these kinds of stories tho 😂
I would just want to say this to you, take it as advice from an older sister figure: advocate for your health! Doctors love to prescribe birth control as the end all be all solution, but as others have mentioned, long term, it can cause havoc on your body! The truth is there is not enough research out there to determine how birth control affects our bodies. They tell you it’s fine, but it’s really not. If you have one available in your area, a good resource are NaPro doctors. These guys will actually get to the bottom of this for you. Don’t let them just poof! Put the pill in as the solution to all your problems. Like I said the last time, I’ve just got done telling another girl closer to your age to look out for that, bc it could well be serious.
I completely agree! I was on BC years ago to “treat” my PCOS and it was the worst thing I ever did to my body. The side effects were a million times worse than the symptoms of my condition. Not all of the side effects were sudden and obvious. Some took months to develop, but they were just as dangerous. NEVER AGAIN. Doctors downplay the risks of birth control. What’s funny is most people understand that hormones should not be pumped into our food and yet they don’t bat an eye at pumping women with artificial hormones. So all that being said… I second going to a NaPro doctor and ditching the pill. It’s best to get to the root cause of the condition instead of putting an artificial bandaid on the problem.
I normally don’t comment but from experience I can say this has happened to me that doctors told me I should go on birth control to solve x, y, x and now I have serious health issues and I am chronically ill thanks to many hormone imbalances that was caused birth control. Be careful!
I've been on birth control for nearly 10 years and I'm fine. I was actually put on it for medical reasons other than regulating a period.
You’re all making me so glad I never used birth control ever! It’s so dangerous!
You should be very proud of yourself !.!.!.!.!.!.! It’s very hard to be a mother of a new unexpected baby and attend college while getting good grades … you are braver then you believe , stronger than you seem , and smarter than you think …. This Winnie the Pooh quote suites you !.!.!.!.!.!.!.!❤😊
I am really looking forward to your next Q & A. Thank you for answering our questions, your Mama must have been so anxious for you and Gracelyn moving out for college. Do you think you would be able to continue college, if you didn’t have Nathan’s support?
I think you have been incredible in how you have dealt with everything!
Are you tall? Or do you have a long torso? I have a tall friend who didn’t know she was pregnant until she was 20 weeks. She was very athletic and had a six pack, and her baby was sitting further back and length ways. Even at 38 weeks she still didn’t look pregnant (we could tell she was because we knew, but she just looked bloated). So I am always curious if this is more likely to happen to tall women!
Not the Spanish rice!!! 😂 I would never have connected that but it makes so much sense now
Some professors are absolutely insane not to mention you pay for the classes….unreal they gave you a hard time.
love this
So great that you are getting counseling 🙂. You may have PCOS - polycystic ovarian syndrome. Birth control pills won't fix this issue but I understand that you don't want to get pregnant again soon. Lifestyle and dietary changes can improve the frequency of ovulation for you. You will need to begin ovulating in order to get pregnant in the future. It's amazing that you got pregnant the only time you ever ovulated (that seems to be what happened in your case).
Smart to say ….and be mature to say maybe have another child in the future…not the immediate future but sometime. Keep up the good work. Beautiful family ❤😊
What an amazing story. It’s so nice to know you have a great support system as well as awesome parents! I wish the best for you, your baby -love her name I have a Grey (boy) & Gatlin Greycee (girl)-
Can you tell us how you financially support yourself and your baby? I had a baby when I was 17 and my senior year of high school. My parents financially supported me until I graduated high school but then I had to find a job. I tried to also go to college but I couldn’t manage the schedule. We didn’t have virtual classes back then. I finally went back to school at 21. It took me 5 years to graduate but I did it. Financially supporting myself and my son was always a challenge and I worked really hard to do so. This was before social media and back when the internet was new, like dial up. 😆
I feel so invested in finding out what was going on with your lack of cycles before you got pregnant! I find that so interesting.
This is a really personal question, but I'm curious, where you using any kind of contraceptive? Or did you assume you didn't need to because you weren't getting a period? (that seems to be a common theme on the show I Didn't Know I Was Pregnant)
Yes I’m really curious about this too. Obviously it’s none of our business and her choice in whether she wants to share or not, but it never hurts to ask lol!
I mean, in my experience with high school education of "human growth and development" , they teach you a period happens AFTER you ovulate and the egg isn't fertilized, then it and the uterine lining are shed which causes the monthly bleeding. So it's easy for me to see why people think no period=no ovulation=can't get pregnant.
I’m looking forward to watching your journey. I’m probably not in the majority demographic of your followers but your video was on my feed. Strange though because I watch crafting and true crime creators. My daughter is 23 and I was fascinated by your story. Being pregnant before, I was shocked to hear you talk about not knowing that you were pregnant before giving birth! I have to be honest with you I was very skeptical but as soon as I watched your video I knew you were a genuine person. I know your mom is very proud!
I have no idea how to do that🤣
@staceyfuller same over here, I also watch crafting videos. 😂 I have a 33 year old son (when I was 17) and a 10 year old. I also enjoy Harmony’s videos. So fascinating how some women don’t know that they are pregnant.
Is Nathan Graysen's father?
It must have been so shocking to find out you were pregnant. I think you are a very strong person.
I hope you are doing well today.
I wish you well. ❤
Fun video! You are doing great!
💞 glad therapy helps you
What are you going to college for? My daughter just finished her teaching degree and is now a 1st grade teacher! Found you through recommendations! Very one of a kind birth story 🎉🎉🎉Surprise Mom Dad and everyone here I am 🤣🤣 🎉🎉🎉 as each day goes by blessings well grow Y'all got this!!!
she mentioned in another video that she was doing digital marketing x
I know a girl that was sick for weeks they did pregnancy tests just to rule out and she was on the shot BC. Blood pregnancy test at children’s hospital after her parents drove her a hour to get answers and was scared. But blood test showed slight elevated so they thought miscarriages but her kidneys was close to failing they ordered emergency kidney ultrasound. They found a full grown baby, measured 39 weeks. I seen her a week before birth and never thought she was pregnant at all she didn’t show. I woke up with her mom calling crying, I thought she had a still born. Until I seen other grandma posting on FB for baby stuff and announcement his weight and picture I wish they would have resources in hospital for young mothers in this situation. I remember finding out at 4 wks with both my kids and after birth with them it was still a big life change and hard times
Is Nathan Grayson‘s biological dad? 🤓
I have such confidence in you, Harmony. I think you could do anything!
I believe this is the first time I follow someone close if not in Wisconsin. I live on the lakefront, in Wisconsin.
You should look up Cora Shircel! She is getting a masters of communication at Whitewater and I really like her videos!
Is Nathan your baby daddy? I’m confused 😅
I’m pretty sure yes, just from what I’ve grasped from other videos ❤xx
I have watched a handful of her videos and Nathan is referred to as “Nathan” or “boyfriend”. Their word choice is very carefully worded.
You are not ovulating while taking the hormonal birth control. So those would be breakthrough bleeds and not true periods. The hormones are not regulating anything but preventing ovulation. If you want to fix the issue then you’ll have to find a doctor willing to work on it instead of prescribe hormonal birth control. Good luck!
She probably needs the birth control, therefore not needing ovulation, but the Dr. may want the bleeding regulated…ie so, lining is shed monthly to maintain healthy endometrium.
Should say so hormones are more regulated which would help maintain a healthy endometrium…it’s true the monthly bleeding on birth control is breakthrough bleeding from week off of hormone pills. Pardon me on what I said. I’m a bit “rusty” on these concepts now.
That’s not how hormonal birth control works. Thinning the lining to cause breakthrough bleeding does nothing to regulate any bodily function. It’s just an illusion, but what’s worse is that the hormones are giving her bad side effects. It’s up to her what she does, but it’s important for her to know the difference between actual ovulation followed by menstruation and a pill induced non-period bleed.
@@KMC3050 Yes, you are right.
Hi, Harmony. Good day to you. Question:. Do you nurse your baby?
How far apart will you and Nathan be when you go home for the summer?
I am concerned about your irregular bleeding now. I am praying for you.❤ ✝️
what software do you use to edit?🥲
Wow, these photos of you just days before giving birth. You don’t look pregnant at all. Your story is so unique. I wish you and your little family all the best, I‘m sure you‘re an amazing mom💛
She doesn’t answer the question about who is the baby’s father
I'm only asking because people are wondering if Nathan is the biological father of your daughter? Congratulations by the way.
Yeessss this is my question!
@@sidneyn1366 I'm pretty sure Nathan's the biological father but so many people are confused. I just assumed he was as most guys would be "see ya later" if it wasn't their child.
Hey!! @Bree Phoenix ... I've seen you somewhere else on CZcams before but cannot remember where?? LawAndCrime comments maybe?? Can't recall!!
@@puddlesplasher7 i don't follow LawandCrime but I watch a couple of true crime channels.
My only thought as to why she is not saying if he is the father is maybe she was SA
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That’s ridiculous that the professors didn’t make the process easier!
Ok, so it makes sense now from a weight stand point why you wouldn't have noticed being pregnant. But I still feel like there are enough indicators to let you know. And not having a period is not considered good birth control.
Im also mum for 2 wonderful kids and I stopped going to university this Semester and the last Semester cause my son had cancer so I stopped and I’ll back the next Semester if the university doesn’t kick me out lol
And for no reason he started a CZcams channel and he and his father made one video about colors 😂🥺🥺⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
Is Nathan the biological father? And why are you not answering that question that many have asked
I think it's pretty clear that your body must have just started it's menstrual cycle later in life than usual, and then you were sexually active at the time so the first time you ovulated you got pregnant so there wasn't a chance for you to have your first real period. But it's pretty clear you are fertile and your body is capable of having a cycle so I think you would have gotten a normal regular period after birth and the birth control wasn't necessary. Plus that isn't a real solution anyway as it just artificially induces bleeding, not a real menstrual cycle. I would recommend just going off the pills and let your body do it's thing and most likely you will get a normal menstrual cycle on your own
Why are you no longer posting?
You may have already answered this question: What is your major?
She studies Digital Marketing. She mentioned that I think in the first video.
Does the baby's father know? Or will you tell him?
Her father already knows.
She talks about that in a previous video
@@RC-cc1xl I’ve watched all the videos and I’m confused on if her bf is the dad or not
@@brittneynicole6611 same
@@brittneynicole6611 Right. I'm assuming he isn't from the way she talks about it, but hopefully she will talk about whoever the BD is in the next video.
Are you and Nathan planning on marriage?
So have they given you x-rays or ultrasounds because it sounds like you have a second cervix possibly but only one cervical opening and one vagina so that second bleeding is often from the Fill up of the other side that has no opening if that makes sense
You are amazing and such a good mom!
Just a word of caution, the pill can be bad for your body long term. Do your own research.
Yes! My doctor put me on the pill, instead of trying to figure out the cause of my period issues. When I came off the pill 3 years later, I still had period issues, and new problems besides.
Jeez those professors who were strict are total jerks especially if they knew the whole situation…
I want to know, what is your major?
A 19 year old college student tells you she just had a baby but didn't know she was pregnant. They probably hear weird excuses every year. It's not really their job to care.
Who is the dad???
I know you were getting some judgemental comments on your last video for not telling your boyfriend right away. I'm not judging you, I can understand that you were probably in shock and trying to process everything yourself, and I can understand you being mindful of springing that news on your boyfriend when he was at work...but I was wondering how he felt about you waiting to tell him. Did he wish you had called him sooner so he could have been there for you, and the birth?
Wow, the college professors misogyny is kind of crazy. The reason you bled so long is because your uterus had a wound the size of a placenta. When you don’t rest it can heal and will bleed.
I also would like for you to say if y'all are getting married that would be good
Why? It's a peice of paper.
@@breephoenix111 when God wants us to take care of our bodies he wants us to be married before we have sex it's a good thing then you don't bring kids into this world without a last name cuz if you let your kids see what you're doing then they're going to grow up doing the same thing that you did
Having a baby is not a good reason to get married. Being in love is a good reason. They are young and have time.
@@aimeebaldwin5600 I know you're probably right if they didn't love each other. Why were they together, and why were they haven't sex? Getting married gives that child a name.
Didn’t you and your guy know that following sex a pregnancy could occur but when Dr ask you if you could be pregnant you acted surprised and answered oh No well I was shocked you answered that No so fast being you did have sex. I am confused about if you were that well shocked
This is what I wanna know too. Especially never having that indicator of a cycle, certainly you’d check… Or perhaps she had the sex ed I had, which was none.
I’m glad she and baby are okay but really most of this story is tragic af from an education standpoint.
Maybe they only had sex a couple times, who knows. Maybe because she had no symptoms, she said no.
@@aimeebaldwin5600It only takes ONCE so you must be a bit dense too. I mean really, it's not rocket science. If you have sex once there is a possibility of pregnancy regardless of your menstrual history.