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I love Joy’s and Whoopi’s sister-like banter. It’s so endearing! 🥰
IKR lol They get along so well with each other to the point where Whoopi always said that it's possible one of Joy's ancestors was black, cause she's from Italy and it's just 'a boat row away' from Africa lol
Am I the only one that LOVES when Alyssa and Sunny have a moment together? I know they mostly disagree on some politics, but I can tell there’s still some love there. Hope to see more of it!
I feel like among the women, they are secretly the most alike but somehow their political differences cloud that fact.
Agreed
Then you remember back to last month when Sunny aggressively came at Alyssa for no reason
I like Alyssa and Ana alot. We are supposed to get along even if you have opposing views. We are supposed to be more alike than different. But Trumplicans are on another level.
Not because they have opposing political views does not mean you don't like the person.
It’s time consuming, expensive, etc. - I would definitely turn down being a bridesmaid.
*No one:*
*Whoopi:* I came to your wedding because I love that you found a designated plug-puller.💀
C'mon that was hilarious
Whoopiiiiii 😂😂😂😂😂 Joy did NOT marry that man so he could pull the plug 😂😂😂😂😂
That is hilarious lol
@princessm you must be NEW TO THE VIEW. joy has told that story numerous times!!! she DID marry Steve to have him as her 'NEXT OF KIN', to pull her plug & make medical decisions for her. they had been a couple for 30 something yrs at that point. as a boyfriend that's not FAMILY.
Sunny didn't have to name drop her friend like that 😂😂😂😂
Bull yes she did lol
She always does this
Hilarious....now this is the Whoopi we love! Whoopi saying she doesn't go to weddings.....but yes, she did go to Joy's because, while yes, love is great but practicality is better---and she loves the idea Joy and Steve married so you have someone to pull the plug when the time comes.....that was so darn funny....especially because Whoopi was so serious.
I was a frugal bride. Both bridesmaid dresses cost less than $150. No rehearsal dinner either just a fun Nigerian and Western wedding.
Weddings are great but being a bridesmaid is so time consuming. I get so tired and often feel like I don't enjoy the wedding fully as a bridesmaid. I'll probably say no when asked next time.
I didn't even want to go to my own wedding! My husband and I got married at the courthouse. A friend insisted on being our witness. I was going to grab a homeless person off the street. It all worked out and was quick and simple. No family or guests, just my friend. I've also made it my policy that I don't go to weddings. I think big weddings are grotesque. They are a joke. Ridiculous! I had a co-worker who told me once that if she could she would have a big wedding every year. She loved the extravaganza and being the princess. I thought a lot less of her after that conversation. I'd like to see people work harder at staying married than having weddings. And those that get married multiple times are gluttons for punishment.
It breaks my heart to hear how some couples will shell out so much money for one day, and barely have enough for a honeymoon. It's one day (for most), why not have something elegant yet budget, and splurge on a honeymoon? Btw, how did you explain not inviting family guests to your wedding?
@@FeelinErie I was estranged from my father for many years and my husband's parents were elderly and we told them we didn't want to make a big deal about it and go through the expense of a wedding. They also lived several states away. As I remember, we went to visit them a few months after we got married. My siblings already knew now I felt about weddings. They weren't surprised when Paul and I eloped. Frankly, I think everyone was relieved and that I was smart.
what makes you think you can just “grab” unhoused people off the street? please respect everyone
@@christian2747 Get a flipping sense of humor.
@@9liveslisa at the expense of unhoused people and their continued dehumanization? No thank you. Get a new sense of humor, how about that?
lol, my wedding was in our local church. We then had a dance at the local firehall. Our drinks were paid for as a gift. We then went home together. i loved it.
Very true. I was helping my mom plan her anniversary party and I called the florist and said I needed 10 center pieces for a "party"...$25 per table. Perfect. My mom called back for something i can't remember what and told them it was for a wedding anniversary party...$50 a table. I was so mad at her. Even though she was paying I was like "YOU NEVER USE THE WORD WEDDING OR ANNIVERSARY!!!"
I don't mind going to a wedding but the rehearsal dinners and other things bachelor parties count me out.
I’ve been a bridesmaid 4 times. For me, the worst part is having to give a speech. I feel like I can never enjoy the wedding until that part is over.
I turn down being a bridesmaid but that was because I knew my niece and her baby daddy weren’t gonna last. I was right. They’re not together anymore and the wedding didn’t happen 😂😂 I’m an introverted Virgo so even if I did have faith in them I’d still say no to being a bridesmaid. I was only a bridesmaid for my older sister 10 years ago and I hated it. All the attention and rules for members of the wedding party. Over it. I’m an elope and have a huge reception kinda girl.
Love Virgos y’all are so real!!
@@canaria7571 thank you 🥺🫶🏾
lol i am done
Yes, I have turned down being a bridesmaid because it was too expensive
I think the cost of a wedding shouldn't be more than a down payment for a HOUSE! 🤔🤣
Just elope!
Agreed!
My best friend eloped, went to the court and got license. Didn't purchase any wedding crap (gown, tux, etc.). They then had and hosted a huge party!
This tradition of loads of bridesmaids who pay for their hideous dresses picked by the bride is a horrible American tradition. Outside of the US the bridesmaids agree on dresses with the bride who pays for them. There is no financial burden on the bridesmaids, even their hair and makeup are paid by the bride. This is why there is normally only one or two bridesmaids.
I don't even like going to weddings but the few times I was actually apart of the wedding party was worse. Just too much.
Sunny Hostin and her constant whinning
The reason prices go up with weddings is because the hand holding and emotional toll the guest puts on vendors is intense. I would know, it almost killed me. A NY hoity toity social lite from Palm Beach was the stress I attribute to my brain hemorrhage at a Miami Vizacaya wedding I coordinated in 2008. Ask Ana, she knows me.
Lots of love ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤.😊
Good I really love you guys you are beautiful love you so much.......Nick❤
When my boyfriend's sister married, she told her bridesmaids the color she wanted their dresses to be, and they picked out their own dresses. It stayed in the color scheme, and they got to show off their style. That's what I would do!
Former professional wedding planner here 🙋🏻♀️. Weddings are more money because the needs of two entire families that you cater to, require hours of patience and grace. I credit my brain hemorrhage to a high maintenance difficult client from Palm Beach and NY. Ana knows, she came to see me in the hospital. May 2008.
Why are all of them acting like they don't have money? Joy can't afford to buy a blue dress last week and Sunny couldn't pay $1,800 for a bridesmaid dress?
In a hot minute.....And wish the couple all the best with a lovely gift. 😂
I thought I had a lot of friends! 45 times is crazy
Yes, indeed I would. I've been a bridesmaid 3 times and I hated all the dresses. For my wedding I only had a maid of honor and my husband had a best man. We got married at the justice of the peace. Done. There were 10 people at the wedding and 70 people at the reception. I couldn't deal with the aggravation of having many bridesmaids.
I think Whoopi is saying a wedding is treated sometimes as the only way to "prove" u love someone when in reality you either love me and want to be with me or not. a wedding proves nothing . so for joy she liked that there was a real life practical element to it .
It is absolutely ok to say no. I had a few friends to turn me down and I was absolutely fine with it bc I hate being a financial burden on others.
Take us back to the year of 2013 and back 😂😂😂😂
Too expensive and time consuming plus you are stuck with a hideous dress. I had turned them down before
Yes !!!
In my country, the bride and groom pay for everything. Also, bridesmaids here are often children. I was a bridesmaid at age 2,5. My grandma made my dress, my aunt and uncle who were getting married, paid for the fabric.
I’ve never heard of anyone in the wedding party having to pay anything here.
Typically the witnesses to the marriage ceremony make up the wedding party, with one or two kids as bridesmaids.
What country are you from?
This was a good segment lol
Yes
Yes, those big extravagant weddings and receptions are promoted by a consumer oriented industry and many women are suckers for that. Honestly, I think it’s outrageous. Of course when I got married to my husband of 40+years we had a nice small ceremony in our backyard. a few friends.. may be a total of six. It was quite nice outdoors with my dogs as bridesmaids.!
And yes, when I was just out of high school, I turn down an acquaintance who asked me to be one of 5 bridesmaids back in 1968..
she wanted to have shades of lavender. I told her no I wasn’t interested in being a shade of lavender and I wasn’t that close to her either. .
But that took a lot of guts on my part and I’m proud to say I stand by it to this day 50+ years later!!👍💕🌸
And Sunny is, typical of that type of women, who like a lot of fuss over themselves !!
BTW I have been a bridesmaid at least 10 times!
I’ve spent my entire life avoiding being a bridesmaid.
I feel like the show is getting better. I've been a fan for years, but idk, i feel like they are really in a groove right now.
Bridemaids arent a thing in Croatia and I believe in most of Europe if not all.
Maid of honour and Best man are a thing. But you really carefully pick these two. Most of the time those are the closest friends you grew up with.
Weddings in Europe aint cheap either BUT what I hear about american ones... I couldnt do most of it xD
I always want to go to wedding, and I would jump at the chance to be a Bridesmaid.
Yes... yes I would
Never would do this again ever. The first time was a mistake.
Probably, but only because I'd rather help where I can without all the obligation
Alyssa clearly never been to an Italian Wedding... She should really try and then really speak 😆
I stopped going to weddings years ago. Between the air fare, the hotel room, the gift, the rental car and other miscellaneous expenses, it wasn’t worth it especially since some of my friends got married two or three times. And when they invite me again, I simply tell them to elope and save everyone the trouble and expense! I never did understand the concept of marriage. You don’t need it to have children, buy a house, open a bank account, make a will or purchase a car. And who wants to be with the same person forever, especially since most marriages fail? The examples of The Carter’s and The Bush’s are rare...and I still can’t figure out why Melania stays with you know who!
Engagement party. Bride's gown shopping. Bridesmaid gown shopping. Bachelorette party. Bridal shower. Rehearsal dinner.
Ceremony. Reception. Anniversary parties.
A couple's marriage shouldn't take away that much time and energy from MY life. So, the answer is yes. I would turn it down if asked to be a bridesmaid.
I was a bridesmaid once and I will never do it again. I dropped so much money. Not to mention, all the bridesmaid has to set up the wedding decorations and then do the breakdown at the end of the night. Groomsmen no where in site. I will never.
I’m with Sunny!
TURN DOWN
I don't even have 45 friends. 😂
I have been asked several times and rejected about 3. I have been a Maid of Honor more times than a Bridesmaid
45 dresses, wasn't that a lifetime movie?
27 dresses. Katherine Heigl I think
Sunny Hostin and her constant nagging
I have... And gave exceptionally good excuses all accepted and was made into a witness. So that it's a sure thing that I'll assist.
I love my friends and it's a massive honor and deference to even be invited to a wedding, but I never feel comfortable in them, so I try to avoid them like the plague, but there is no scaping when you're made a witness to it. You can't decline that.
I believe it’s way more than $1800 .. The money I have lost on other peoples weddings is insane!! They are all divorced too which adds to my anger 🤬
What Europeans are you talking about? Born of Italian parents and deep in our culture I can tell you getting married is a year of planned events. 6-8 food/alcohol-filled get-togethers ( restaurants or halls). I didn't have bridesmaids. Only a maid of honor.
Not the gay couple doing a Glee number. Lol
I turned down an invitation to be a bridesmaid. I didn't want the responsibility and the bride understood.
One time time a person didn't show up, so I was invited on the spot, right in the church to be a groomsman. I was wearing jeans, a Disney Tshirt and snickers. The experience was horrible, I never felt so akward..
People make too much of the "wedding" thing in many cases and spend WAY to much money. We took the approach of small with only the closest to us friends and had a great reception party after. Didn't try and make a big production of it.
I Love Whoopi !
I have. Not sure I was ever forgiven, but I felt it was right.
It’s NOT an honor ! It’s expensive ! Bride is demanding ! We can’t blah blah !!!
I would and I have...
I don't like weddings either. For me, it's probably bitterness because I've never been in love and I consider my self to be un-lovable.
Really, I shouldn't go to weddings because I'm just a wet blanket on the whole thing.
My mom and dad got married
In these modern days, brides want you to pay for too many expenses just to be included! I'll just attend! You pay the expenses!!
Absolutely, I turned down being a maid of honour. Thanks, no thanks!
Lately people do not spend that much money on weddings. That money can be spend on other more important things.
Yes, I have because of the foolishness, money, dress etc.
Sounds like a professional dog
Steve won't have any problems pulling joyless plug I am sure.
TO Alyssa comment about dress prices - a 5k retail dress - WHOLESALE is around 2k. This means (lets be nice - 3x markup) total cost to make the dress - labor, materials would only be around $650. Even the cheapest non-poly dress materials is $200, the seamstress would have to be paid ONLY $10/hr or less considering the time taken to alter & fit the pattern, cut sew and embellish & finish a dress. For those who feel that making a dress is easy - great, then please make your own and don't ask professionals why they can't do it for $100. - Typical of someone like Alyssa - tbh why is SHE getting paid so much? she's literally being paid to gossip...?
I got married by a judge in my mom's back yard! My dress was a cream cocktail dress to which I had a seamstress add a lace hem. There were 40 people but still I was overwhelmed. I never got a bite of food! The whole thing was a blur. I wish we had eloped. Oh when I went to order a cake the bakery quoted me a
big price for a simple 2 layer 'wedding' cake! I went to a different bakery and said it was for a family dinner and the price was much less.
I loved being a bridesmaid when I was a child but the couple divorced months after so maybe I should turn it down anytime somone asks 😂😂
In Europe we too have lengty weddings. On the Balkans its a 3 days crap. Party for the wedding dress, party when the dress is delivered to the bride. Party before the wedding, party whole day during the wedding. The next day we go back and have party again. Its nonsense cause half of the marriages fail anyways. The new generations are stepping away from the traditional wedding which here is considereg like meet and greet the relatives you never met and so that the parents can show how proud they are. That tradition is going away and im more than glad it is. Too much money is being spend on weddings
LOL! People complaining about being in a wedding and planning.. and then "Oh I want to go to an Indian wedding." OMG.. that has the most insane planning, coordination, expenses and obligations for different events. American weddings are easy-peasy.
in my family, the wedding party is usually made of family members, sisters, cousins, nieces, sister in laws to be, preferably no matronly's but completely acceptable in a pinch. Sometimes a BFF is asked but mostly its considered to be WAY too big an ask for a non family member.
just saying
still think Sara looks pregnant.
(A girl i went to school with married a born again preacher(and had a VERY HAPPY LIFE f.y.i.), she told me: if you are never alone with an other man, then you never have to worry about him getting fresh.
i guess that comment qualifies as strange but true.)
Whoopi don't go to wedding? All the times she been married 😂😂😂😂
I don’t know why brides want their maid of honor and bridesmaids to wear ugly dresses. You want the pictures to look nice.
I was happy to be in my sisters. Hated being in a friends and my cousins. So expensive. Such an inconvenience and for this idiot who dreamed of being a princess for a day (but really for months on in) and now you have to participate in this make believe bs for a marriage that may not last. It’s lame and I’m done.
ABC. Whoopi
That's probably why my Mom wanted me to get married B4 she passed away.
No way! Love Weddings as well but to be a Guest.
I have I told the bride no thank u because I just wanted to dress up dance drink and get drunk.
It's suppose to be an honor, but frankly it's an expense most ppl don't want!
My friends know not to even ask me anymore. Because me saying no means I know they aren’t gonna last. I’m not spending time money and presents if it’s not gonna be worth it. Also, some weddings are a spectacle. No one wants to be in a 45 proceeding standing up listening to a priest. Y’all do that in private. See you at the reception.
So everybody at the table been married at a time
After your 30s you shouldn't even be asked.
Na.. I am not about to spend time and money on someone else’s wedding. 😅😂 I prob won’t even show up if invited.. I am that antisocial.
I would turn down !
Olden days, we didn't need to spoil the bride with our money😮
I turned down being a groomsmen because I was broke.
Yes it awful rather not do it 😮😮
I made money off of my wedding. Good thing I married a rich girl from a rich family lol. I insisted on paying but it all worked out.
I've never liked the idea of having brides maids (i find it out dated)
I was never asked.
what european has she gone to that its only a dinner?
65% of all marriages end in divorce, so save your money and go to the courthouse to get married.
I do know that a lot of services when it comes to weddings charge more because there’s a higher quality and weddings are more demanding as far as what is expected. For instance the catering service for a wedding the expectation is different then a business event that’s needs catering that’s why it’s more expensive