7 Major Red Flags You're in an Abusive Relationship - Haleh Banani
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- čas přidán 20. 07. 2024
- Are you trapped in an abusive relationship but not sure what to do? Muslim Counselor Haleh Banani reveals the 7 most common signs you may be suffering emotional or physical abuse.
Learn how to spot red flags like extreme jealousy, constant criticism, threats, temper issues, and unpredictable behavior. Gain clarity on whether your relationship can improve or you need to leave for your own safety.
This comprehensive guide covers possessiveness, verbal putdowns, manipulation, actual violence, anger problems, and other destructive behavior. Discover how abuse destroys self-esteem and leads to constant fear.
Get the professional advice you need to assess the seriousness of your situation. Find out where to get help and prioritize your well-being. You deserve respect and peace.
Video Chapters:
0:00 Intro
0:57 Sign #1 Possessiveness
1:25 Sign #2 Jealousy
1:46 Sign #3 Criticism
2:47 Sign #4 Threats
3:15 Sign #5 Physical Violence
4:10 Sign #6 Bad Temper
4:32 Sign #7 Unpredictable Behavior
4:50 Effects of Abuse
4:58 Assessing Your Situation
5:44 Evaluate What Needs to Be Done
5:53 Assess What is the Danger
6:33 Realize the Dangers of "Just Being Patient"
7:47 Getting Professional Help
8:07 When the Man is the Victim
8:53 Feeling with You
9:09 You are Not Alone
9:30 How I Can Help
9:44 Outro
5 Proven Ways To Save Marriages
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About Haleh Banani, M.A. Clinical Psychology and Faith-Based Counselor (Islamic Psychology)
As a Muslim mental health professional and Muslim Coach dedicated to mental health awareness, Haleh Banani has practiced Islamically integrated counseling and psychotherapy since 1998 helping thousands of Muslim families worldwide in crisis situations overcome emotional and relationship obstacles by empowering them with proven, psychological methods she's developed within the Quran and sunnah. Her modalities include Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
A faith-based mental health professional, mental health advocate, and host of her own T.V. show 'With Haleh' appearing on Al-Jazeerah and Huda TV (call-in expert) with Sheikh Mohammad Salah. An international speaker and writer fueled with the passion to spread optimism and revolutionize Islamic characteristics with the aim to strengthen the family unit and improve the overall quality of the Muslim household.
She has a thriving private practice with a two-month wait masha'Allah. She has gained a stellar reputation for achieving amazing results by using fast and effective methods that restore relationships, save marriages, build strong families, heal emotions, and rebuild self-esteem.
Founder of several online programs:
1. 5 Pillars of Marriage (a self-paced, online program that has saved hundreds of marriages alhamdulillah) www.5pillarsofmarriage.com
2. Laugh and Learn (premarital program with comedian Baba Ali) courses.halehbanani.com/join-...
Global Support Group for Sisters: The Mindful Hearts Academy themindfulhearts.com/
Website: www.halehbanani.com
She's very grateful for receiving her ijaza for the recitation of the Quran in Egypt alhamdulillah in 2012. Her biggest accomplishment is being happily married masha'Allah tabarakAllah for 24 years with her best friend Abdelmajeed Muriby and raising 3 amazing children mashaAllah Amir, Kareem, and Layla ages 22, 19 & 17. She and her husband have raised exemplary children who are carrying on the mission to contribute to the community by giving khutbahs, teaching Quran classes, and being business owners masha'Allah tabarakAllah.
Her work has been endorsed by Dr. Omar Suleiman (Yaqeen Institute), Dr. Yasir Qadhi, Mufti Menk, Dr. Waleed Basyouni, Sh. Mohammad Salah and many more faith leaders, psychiatrists, and mental health professionals. Alhamdullilah
You can find some of her videos on East Plano Islamic Center's channel (epic masjid), articles on Muslim Matters, and a Podcast on Muslim Central.
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How a depressed, unhappy wife with low self esteem and low self respect would become a good, happy and strong mother for the children. To educate, train and brought up good human beings a woman needs to be highly valued well equipped with love, care, respect and high self esteem.
Salam Alaikum. This makes me very sad.😢 Sounds like my husband.. He is always angry, controlling, very jeolous, accuses me falsely of adultery, he puts me down, he hits me, yells at me, and calls me names. 😢. He says I am not worthy because I have Autism. He is threatening me as well. We are both Muslim. I am Dutch European convert to Islam. And my husband is from Iraq. He is an Arab Iraqi. It makes me so sad. He has a bad temper too. 😢😢😢. AstagfiruAllah. All red flags. Despite all this, I still love him. I want the abuse to stop. Because domestic violence is haram in Islam. 😢. God is against domestic violence. And prophet Muhammad pbuh, was against domestic violence.
So sad 😢 to hear
What do you want to do
Now sister
I’m so sorry you’re going through this sister. I also get abused and I still haven’t left this marriage because I’m afraid of not being able to see my nieces and nephews on his side again, I just love them like my own children. But I need to wake up. May Allah swt guide us all ❤
@@nellywilde9541 I'm going through with same situation...
I'm bearing for my children..
Where are you living..have you got children?
Make dua.. Istighfar.... Dua in Tahajjud
@@r.bhanu31 Unless your husband has the potential to murder you for leaving, it is in fact very selfish to stay just for your children. If he is abusing them also, then it is your moral and legal obligation to remove them from him.
Unfortunately I have experienced every single one of these factors in my marriage. I have finally had enough and am getting professional help to deal with my PTSD.
Could I contact you somehow? I would like to share experiences if it’s okay with you and also ask you questions. I also have PTSD.
How about Narcissistic abuse husband/ parents/ siblings it's very hard to live with them I was 2 years with narcissistic abusive husband it was awful everyday he cursed at me and I walked 24/7 on eggshells I even feared to say good morning because of his mood shifts it was very abusive and I was very scared of him there was physical and mental abuse. I would love to hear about narcissistic abuse from Muslim perspective " because they will not change they never will they are always right "
We have a video on what to do if you are married to a narcissist on my Facebook Page - Haleh Banani. It is on one of our live videos and the title is 'Are you married to a narcissist?' If you have any more questions feel free to send us a DM.
I am one of the victim of Narcissistic husband.
My father was very abusive with my mother and she used to stay so scare that instill in our bodies we can’t function without fear of being scolded or insulted
I am so sorry for what you and your mom have gone through.
My husnand has all 7.I struggled for 55 years with patience and self help to deal with all just ro save my marriage and realised that we cant live together anymore and are separated now even though we know hat at this old age we need each other .
This has touched me so much. This is my husband 6 out of 7
Jazakallah u khairaa
Parents ,siblins ,partner ,in laws . All narcissistic people i have dealt with. Physical, psychological, emotional, sexual and financial abuse.
This is what many woman going through in abusive relationship include me
May Allah bless you sister! Your validation and dua was so heart touching for me, thank you so much jazakallah khair ❤
My self esteem is being destroyed already
If any sister here has been dealing with domestic abuse, specifically emotional, religious, and verbal abuse… Also has advise and reassurance to offer to a struggling Muslimah. Then I’d like to connect. Barak Allahu feekum.
people face domestic violnce by parents ,spouse and also strangrs at home Angry amd strict people create fear and insecurity in children and othrs there is also favouritism in every family
Sadly, that is very true.
All the points match with my conjugal life. For a long time I've been suffering, I became tired....
*exhausted... May The Healer strengthen us and purify our heart, ameen. ☝🏽🌌💖💫
Asalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatahu ,how can I speak to you
How do I get rid of my toxic girlfriend. She is trying to control everything of my life pls give me advise
What about women who mentally and physically abuse there husband. The constant manipulation and control. Should you report to the respective authorities
It is shameful and tragic that the Muslim community is full of abusive marriages and abusive relationships. And maybe even more shameful that there is so little help for victims from our community. Feels like we are alone.
Assalamu alaikum! Yes, definitely feel alone. There’s no help for us, the mosques give me unislamic advice…I was once told to leave my home with my kids. I was living (anf still) in a state where I knew nobody and didn’t have money so where could I go?? The churches offer lots of help, but mosques make me feel like I gotta figure it out on my own. They won’t even give me an Islamic divorce, I’m told I can only go to court…but I have no money. How are we supposed to leave???
My partner has only one of these that is he is angry always n get triggered at little issues, yelling n throwing things.His main issue is he doesn't work n irresponsible and has a small rental income. I have to take major financial n others responsibilities and I find it very difficult to respect him
I recommend the 5 Pillars of Marriage program. Send us an email at support@halehbanani.com for more details. You can also check out our website.
Exactlt whats going on with me. My husband is a extremly covert narcisist person. Always yelling blaming calling names I don't know I should leave or take any action. Still I love him and fear Allah that he is my husband so that.
can you help me?
what is the shelter for a woman with four children after divorce? when brothers are not supportive
Ask for Islamic ones because non Islamic shelters are not safe for kids….I’ve heard some scary stories so I won’t put my kids there.
As salaam WA alaykum I am being in a abusive marriage for almost 13 years now can you help but to gain my mental health and confidence to leave I have 4 kids ages 11 years, 7 years, 4 years and 1 year
Same... Pregnant with 5th child.. Stuck overseas... And I'm almost 9 yrs married
I don't understand why you women keep having kids if you know that you are in an abusive situation. Leave the older children with him and take the younger ones with and go live with your fathers.
As salaamu alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh, this is what I'm going through.
Can you lecture about what Islam says about eyebrows of women?
This man i live with me has all this traits his a very very abusive husband, evan ti the point emotional abuses if i start to love an animal.
I have so many health issues marrid to a monster control me to the point evan when to eat what i eat i listen to him yet he abuses mr me.
I live in a fight flight mode
my husband abuses me emotionally he insults me in every topic when he is not understanding with that topic he's doesn't t care he can't and don't wanna change, I don't know what to do this is my second marriage its so hard
Don't be such a coward, just divorce him before you get pregnant and ruin your life even more.
@@robotnitchka I just did it cuz he said again talaq and insulted me again
@@marziaahmadzai4565 You divorced him?
@@robotnitchka I left him
@@marziaahmadzai4565 Alhamdulillah. May Allah grant you peace.
Husband don’t have the right to know where is his wife ? Is that wrong ? I don’t think so
Is throwing things considered domestic violence?
Yes
Can a husband blame wife for death of his parent coz she was living far away taking care of kids Making them study the better way n also leading kids in acquiring quran classes in the better way .Hence couldn't stay at in laws home while husband worked in gulf country .can she be blammed?
Being a sincere wife She took care of her chasty in absence of her husband and took care of kids and guided them in the best possible way while husband worked in gulf But only thing she couldn't do staying at in laws home coz she wasn't able to fit in the culture overthere.Finally when father in law dies Her husband gives her Mental torchure up to his possible limits!!!Is she at the fault What should she do to face the situation???
Pl give me a good suggestion sister
Thank you for your comment. I'm truly sorry to hear about the difficult situation you're facing. It's important to recognize that taking care of your children and ensuring their Islamic education is a significant responsibility and a noble deed.
Blaming you for the death of a parent under these circumstances is unfair. Each person has their own set of responsibilities, and you were fulfilling yours by caring for your children and their Quranic education. It's crucial to communicate openly and compassionately within the family to address any misunderstandings and support each other during tough times.
If you need further guidance, the Banani Method offers resources that can help navigate such complex family dynamics. You can find more information and support at halehbanani.com.
Best regards,
Aisha, on behalf of Sr. Haleh Banani.
Haleh Banani's Support Team
😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
Was it necessary to show your face?
marriage breaker
You should be in it then you would know!!!!
This is oppression for someone to actually put themselves through. Life is short. Allah does not wish oppression for anyone. Of course divorce is last resort but some spouses refuse to change their ways
And refuse to put in effort.
Only one breaking the marriage is the abuser, who has failed to meet even the most basic obligations of marriage.
Assalamualaikum, sis how can I private chat u? I really need ur help consigning what u said.