How A Polyamorous Foursome Manages Their Money
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- čas přidán 24. 08. 2022
- Rachel, Kyle, Ashley and Yair are two married couples in a non-monogamous relationship. They share a house, car, dog, cat, partners and finances. They also have plans to have children together.
Obstacles they've faced having to do with rights and benefits as four partners have prompted them to meet with a lawyer to get divorced from one another and create a co-habitation agreement.
Watch this video to learn how they manage finances in their non-traditional relationship.
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How A Polyamorous Foursome Manages Their Money
Are we at the point that you need 4 people with normal jobs to afford a house
The truth of this comment though..😆😆
Yes
Bruh! 😂
Yes.
@@FriesLIVE good. More excuse to sleep around 😁
I would love to see a follow-up story 1-3 years from now.
I mean a lot of relationships don’t work 1-3 years later
They'll all be dying of STDs.
They'll still be together and you'll still be alone, most likely.
That will most likely be on “Snapped” or “Crime ID”🤨
the beta guy leaves
0:20 A mixologist, a culinary director, and a private chef
bro thats not a polycule thats a catering company 💀
Just register a company and consentually smash as co-workers. Get tax benefits, and discounts on insurance and good credit. It doesn't have to be this complicated. Unless...
Go on
Lmfao 🤣
Hey you might be on to something….
Lmao, genius. They should hire you.
Pls yes, go on
Did I miss it or do Kyle and Yair not interact much? It seems to be the Rachel show.
I wasn't expecting their financial situation to be as complicated as it is.
rocket power 😎
@@denoosoohuh
For you it’s complicated.
Kyle, blink twice if you need rescuing. These people are running all over you !
Or subtly raise you hand 🙋♂️🤚!!
We’re here for you Kyle!!
Platonically, of course! 😉
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Glad I ain’t the only one. He’s getting the short end of the stick 🥲
😆 🤣 😂
Whoever is paying down the mortgage without owning it is getting scammed 😂
I laughed harder than I should have.
This is why I live alone
The non owners should pay cheap rent. A win win for everyone
It's called rent. They are tenants
Courts won’t help with this situation either lol
@@beatricerights they’re not just tenants 😂 imagine paying down your partners mortgage and your name isn’t even on the title
I'm more shocked at how they share finances than the type of relationship they are in (their choice). I have so many questions like, "does everyone put in the same amount and get to keep whatever is leftover in a personal account?" I've only ever seen dysfunctional polygamous relationships and money is kept separately.
I'm poly and I'd say I've seen less dysfunctional than in monogamous relationships.
@@greyrock9747 Lol. You have so much to learn. Good luck.
@@vicconstruction9126 You have confused being overconfident and condescending with intellect. Easy mistake. I bet you never even been in a poly relationship and you are speaking from ignorance.
one way is i make the $$ ( im okay with them working but me/primarily-income and kids come's 1st priority's so as a example 1 is full time and 1 is homemaker or both are 20hours at work the rest of the time is homemaking ect ) and the bi wife's allocate it like congress/parliamentary does aka one big happy account and something squirrelled a side for my car/racing hobbies that there ok with my spending aka like the uk king as yep he can do anything he'd like but parliament can stop him by not funding it
@@vicconstruction9126 monogamy is successful?
This all happened during the pandemic? So, in two and half years they met, moved in, joined finances, are getting divorces, and hired a lawyer to work out their relationship? Why the rush? I still haven't figured out how to make bread.
My thoughts exactly 😂. I thought I heard the timeframe wrong.
I am here to check on your lockdown sour dough starter...
@@TheErmerm999 Polygamous Foursome relationships are very rare because you see two women and two men in altogether in this relationship.
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Kyle looks like a hostage for 70% of this video
Kyle is clearly submissive to the other man who does all the talking for him...
Evan Ward :In my Neal Brennan voice..My name is Kyle..I am ok...Tell my family that I love them....Send the ransom money...😆😆😆
"Hey I'm Kyle and this is my wife's boyfriend Yair"
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You’d have to be a hostage to agree with this nonsense…
Looks like Stockholm Syndrome to me…
Let’s see…Rachel is the ring leader
Yair often has the power struggle with her, but usually just falls as second in command
Kyle is the silent yes man and just goes with whatever they all say
Ashley is just happy to be included
Spot on!!! You could be a forensic scientist 😂
Rachel is glad she gets to take advantage of this man and his wife at the same time 😂
Silent man is the simp and is bottom of bottom.
Yeh.... the two women are into each other and the betas follow along because they have no idea how to lead.
I can’t imagine how much more complicated life is having three partners . Having one partner is already complicated enough.
Try shifting your focus and imagine how much love and support you might have!
I feel like a relationship with multiple people works better with an even number of people compared to say 3 people (I'm not polyamorous so I could be wrong, but that's my guess). I think as long as there's everyone's communicating and everyone's on the same page and consenting I don't see anything wrong with it. I don't know if I personally could do this, but it's not my place to judge others on their relationships if they're okay with it.
I know some people will use the scenario of Person A and Person B leaving Person C for each other and to that I'd say that I think it depends on how they go about it (cause not every relationship lasts, sometimes people fall out of love and that's okay), if A and B explained to C the situation and why they feel what they feel, then that's better than just running away from C or keeping it a secret
@@ghastlycandle Ah yes, maths.
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@@yukijames1321 You got bored because you smash the same partner everyday. If you have two partners and switch between those two, it feels new everyday!
Rachel is clearly the main man and boss in this four-way relationship / household ...
Its pretty bananas that a person can go off her meds for just a few months and accomplish this much in two years.
Yet she is wearing a collar. So . . . Is she?
You don’t have to use ‘man’ to describe her taking the lead
@@savvyw5891 Lmao
She's got two husbands and a wife and she owns the house which is in her name, while they pay her mortgage haha
This is Rachel's show, everyone else is just living in her fantasy. 🤡
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Rachel and Yaier... you see that connection is strong there. The other two are just there
I wish them well, they seem happy. Personally I would never want to share finances like that! It's difficult for two people to disentangle their finances when they separate, this seems even more complicated (potentially).
Sharing finances is your main concern? Brah
@@AG-en5y Yep, they seem happy and who am I to tell them that my life choices are better? If anything, in a nihilistic disconnected world they seem to have something special going on.
@@Jaime-eg4eb I'm a practice nihilism to some extent and what they got going on is doomed for failure.
@@shinji1264 I think you are probably right, but if we only valued relationships that weren't doomed in some way we'd all be pretty lonely haha. I see some good in this one, for sure.
@@Jaime-eg4eb I agree, I think it's interesting how a lot of people who haven't been in this kind of relationship dynamic automatically assume that a poly relationship won't work out in the long run. Not every relationship lasts obviously, but how can we know when something will or won't work based on a 10-min clip that shows a brief segment of others' lives? I think most see polyamory with "infidelity" glasses, I don't think they see it as a relationship where people are happy being with each other but rather people who are "incapable of choosing" or "like to cheat" or "like to sleep around". Just like any other relationship, if everyone is communicating, consenting, all on the same page, then what's the issue? They're grown adults who are okay with this relationship dynamic, no one seems to be getting hurt, who are we to judge them?
they're worried about not all of them getting credit card benefits but casually glance over the fact that the home is only in 2 of their names yet they split it equally! meaning the other 2 have no legal claim to the equity
Yea because the law is created to only accommodate monogamous relationships. Did you not hear them? They’re literally trying their hardest to get all four of them rights as a four-way-relationship.
@@borderlinenocturnal6195 that's because monogamy is the norm for human adults
It's called pair bonding
@@hollynonya6991For the zast majority of human history, polygamy was the norm. Monogamy is a very recent development
@@sd7785 men spending their seed? Yeah 😂
Not women however
But we're talking about NOW
Presentism, Google it
They should’ve just kept their account separates and had 1 account for the bills. Transferring money over is less complicated!
I agree. That's how my polycule does it.
That seems simpler to me as well.
@@ariels2730You are poly?
@@thedarksideoftheforce6658 yeah, for over 10 years now
How to make your life way more complicated.
How to be happy. It's makes them happy and our systems do t support anything else than man and woman relationship and that is sad. They care about each other and not hurting anyone in process so... Why are we care it's nothing to us to judge them! We may or may not agree with that way of life but should not disseminate :)
@@carolinestanczuk she simply stated a fact, this lifestyle choice is very complicated. The video did very little to highlight finances, it was literally a video about their complications as a foursome.
@@carolinestanczuk Average polyamory enjoyer
Yoooo why is there so much hate here? Y’all are robots LOL
Not to be judgmental, but one partner already complicates life... two more partners... I can’t even imagine ... not even talking about kids later in their relationship
This just seems like a solution for Rachel to justify her affair with Yair...
That's what I thought too!! I don't see this ending well at all
Or perhaps it’s possible for people to happily live outside of social norms.
Right???
Looool thank you!!! 🤣🤣
All this long story.. it's so obvious
and with Ashley?
Yeah, Graham Stephen is not reacting to this one.
lol
Graham is going to have fun with this one
😂😂😂😂
For sure..I’m looking forward to his take 😂
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Same, can’t wait to see his reaction video! This is so messed-up and will likely end up in flames lol
I feel like relationships like this could easily go wrong if each person does not love all the other people in the relationship equally. And then they also decided to add the complication of money, marriage, and power dynamics... yikes... I can't look.
VOLCANO WAITING TO ERUPTTTTT🌋🌋🌋🌋🌋🌋🌋🌋🌋🌋
I don't think it's ever possible to love them all equally in an intimate context. Polygamy wouldn't really be a need otherwise based on my understanding. It at least makes it easier to regularly build on their relationships under one roof, otherwise I'd just call it glorified friends with benefits in order to avoid any hurt feelings.
She is a divorced marriage counselor still living with her ex husband while also sleeping with the ex husband of another woman who she is also sleeping with. WTF....?! Who on earth would want counseling from her? She is a walking contradiction.
She’s not just sleeping around. They got divorced so they could have more rights as a four-way-relationship. When people are in “lifestyles” or relationships you don’t understand, you could actually listen to them when they talk about it
It's hard just to find one partner while these people managed to find more than one. Unbelievable
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I don't understand this problem, really.
Cause they actually have a degrees of selflessness, unlike you and most other lonely people. ;)
😂😂😂
No they didn't. The red head is into the brunett. The hubbys are tagging along because they have no choice or balls
this should be a tv show.
Why stop at 4?
😂😂😂😂😂😂
Just because they study and have an extensive vocabulary that does not mean that they are not crazy.
Well ever met a doctor with a PH D that has misdiagnosed before? I have. So high vocab and education and knowledge does not equal wisdom and they lack the wisdom of where to apply the knowledge.
No more crazy than the rest of us. Have you seen divorce rates and people still can’t get married fast enough.
I love how free and honest they are to live their truth. It might not be for everyone but they do what makes them happy.
This is definitely not going to end horribly 😅
LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL 😂😂😂😂🤪🤪
Can't end any worse than those monogamous relationships that end in murder due to infidelity....
@@hotshotx1598 double the people, double the murder lol
Not??? 🤔
@@kelechiezealaji4202 or triple ?
The therapist runs this "relationship". Her entire mannerism says it all.
Way to go! 👏
Imagine having a Relationship Therapist in a Polyamorous Foursome xD
Succes guaranteed
Imagine the litigation if they ever want to separate this arrangement. Wow.
Did I just watch 4 white people talk about being discriminated against??? please!!
also, this is Rachel's show and everyone else is obliging. the final statement in this entire video was from Rachel and she said "and frankly, it helps me." Coincidence? I think not.
White people love finding a way to be the victim LMAO
Right. 4 white, employees, attractive, able bodied straight people.
She is using them
She looks like she had a affair with the chef and convince them to share
Here’s your daily reminder that discrimination has zero bounds. The more you know
Why can't they just add all of the non-card owners as authorized users? Most cards offer five slots. That way, they all would benefit from the cards and their history.
This could get more complicated if Rachel decides she wants to bring another couple into the mix. She has to figure out a different sleep arrangement. GO RACHEL!!
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This could really work for some people but they've only known each other for 2.5 years, and that's not nearly enough time
Kinda troubling how you can tell the dynamic that exists within this group without explicitly being told just from a short video.
It seem like Kyle is the only person who has been dragged into this type of relationship, he’s just there looking like confused person about this relationship..
For everyone wondering, here is a 2 year update, Kyle broke up with them and moved out a few months after this video. Rachel and Ash both got pregnant around the same time with Yair. They seem to be doing ok based on their social media.
8:30 - Just look at the awkward subtle infighting:
Rachel: "I wouldn't mind if he got down on one knee" (points to Yair, the other man)
*Yair smiles*
*Ashley looks quickly to see her former husband's reaction*
*Yair stops smiling and feigns panic*
Totally stable! Definitely not Rachel just pursuing Yair while not wanting to breakup with Kyle.
And Kyle did leave the foursome
You know they said they switch every day right at the start?
You guys are so unreasonable.
@@RaiiiL The proof is in the pudding and their pudding spoiled.
The women are more into each other than they are to their male partners. This whole situation is sick, distributing in the fact that they also want to big in kids to this mess and confusing and complicated. Life is already complicated on it’s own. Live simple and be happy. Someone is going to age badly and this will not go well as they will lose attraction to one or more partners because they have options within their relationships. Give us a 15 year update please!
There will be no 15 year update on this mess. They won't last that long.
More like 1 year update
we need a reality show lol
15 years? Covid, Monkey pox, natural disasters? I give em 4 tops
I think that those 4 will be able to give a child or children a better life than most 2 ppl relationships. There's nothing "confusing" or "sick" about there relationship. I thin you are to quick to judge a situation where you don't have all the facts, do you know them ? have you seen them in public ? have you talk to them ? I'm guessing no. The excuse "life is complicated" is BS in my opinion, they are all adults and they will figure it out even if they have kids. There love is just as strong as the love you have for your partner, they love and show love in a different why and there's nothing wrong with that
No chance that all four of them are happy. 😂Looks and sounds like an absolute NIGHTMARE.
These people are very disciplined and organized! Sitting down to budget all expenses. That’s discipline.
Yes, they are the best role model to show this type of relationstip.
Population doesn't work out well without intelect,
a 4 man relationship is basically the same. it requires alot of intelect and discipline
It doesn't work with goofy heads.
It looks like Kyle is out of the picture (far left male) but the other three are still together. Rachel is currently pregnant
So a monogamous non-monogamous quad??
Just wait until player 5 enters the game…
That’s what happens when you live in NYC lol… you need as many people in a relationship to divide expenses. The up side is that you can split the mortgage
It looks like Rachel is really the puppet master with Yair as her second in command here and it appears that she's convinced these ppl that some of the VERY unintelligent financial decisions being made are good ideas. There is literally no reason they couldn't have separate accounts and contribute to one joint for bills. I feel like something nefarious is afoot but hey, I hope I'm wrong and they live their best lives happily ever after.
This is so complicated and probably will end the relationship. Why not split up just the basic bills: rent, light, water, etc.? Trying to share a credit card and tracking every expense among is the four is doing the most. Sounds like Rachel's plan and she is defiantly in control in this relationship.
for sure she is running things
I’m curious if you’ve been in this type of relationship and seen it fail due to finances firsthand?
Yeah, I don't get the complications with the finances. They're purposely making things more complicated. I don't think Rachel is being defiant, though she seems to definitely have a more dominant personality, as does Yair. The other two seem to be more submissive, but given that they all decided to do this, they all are fine with being in this foursome.
They could have 1 account that everyone has access to and they send a specific amount each month like a household account. They buy food from there and pay rent etc. And then everyone has their personal accounts.
They are socializing and doing it very well.
I mean we all do it. What's wrong about it?
They are very practical, the danger would be if anyone decide that they have had enough
Rachel is the mastermind behind this. Split up two marriages, Kyle is unhappy and Ashley is unhappy. I stay away from people like Rachel !
Rachel is a very toxic Narcissist. I also stay away from people like her.
What makes you state so confidently how unhappy Kyle and Ashley are? I've checked their social media and podcasts, and they're all extremely content with the arrangement, at least as of now
@@Ovprksdnw what’s their social media?
This is the background music you use for a quick documentary on a cat that’s getting his GED…but he’s literally a guy living full time in a cat costume and won’t take it off.
Rachel looks the most satisfied with this arrangement...the other not so much
You read my mind.🙂🙂
Poor Kyle lmao
I noticed that Kyle just seems like he’s going with the flow but isn’t too key on the situation. Notice how Rachel mentioned she wanted to have a baby with Ashley and the look Kyle gave was like he’s being left out of the decision
We live in a society.... They said, choose your partner's wisely ladies n gentlemen, if you're quiet and non combative it's probably best you get someone of similar attitude.
At 0:30. The sleeping schedule already sounds like it would require a simple Excel spreadsheet since this would be permutations of four people on two beds. So...8 combinations, rotating each week? Right? LOL. Can't wait to get to the Gordian knot that is their finances! Get the pivot tables ready! :D
They did one thing right and that was divorce. So, whenever they want to leave, they can just pack it up and go. No legal strings attached. Just finacial.lol
The future is uncertain, and the rising cost of living may lead to a reality where difficult choices and sacrifices become the norm. It's disheartening to think that financial pressures could shape our lives in ways we never imagined.
In poly, you don't have a best friend and partner. You have people you sleep with.
There are people in poly relationships who are asexual though...
Yair and Ashley have cooked up something that'll go from Wright to completely Wrong
Underatedd comment
this is the world we live in
yes it is. look at everyone existing together and minding their own business.
It’s not your problem.it’s theirs. You can be in and relationship you want. If you can find someone
I think polyamory is great in terms of economy, fixed costs such as property tax can be divded by many people, 3~4 people can combine their money to buy a house. Currently, the rent is expensive, while house prices are constantly going up, earlier you get your own house, more money you earn. Everyone benefit from one Costco membership. Also many people can take turns to do house chores, doing many people's work at once takes less time than doing two people's work many times.
America is wild 🤣 folks get bored and start inventing problems to over complicate their lives. My goodness. Is there a "phobia" for this yet if I don't follow along and support it?
Well, it is an orientation. It's not a choice for everyone. The only complications are legal issues, honestly, and that's the government's fault, not people who fall in love or have an orientation.
Why does it seem like Rachel is the initiator of this and the others are not entirely happy and just accepting this situation...?
A farmer and the sheep
Because you're a monogamous person who doesn't get it lmao
Don't assume that the "quiet" ones are not the ones controlling the show. Rachel may be a chatterbox, but the introverts can control things like you wouldn't believe.
What’s the household income though ?? Don’t leave us in suspense like this !!
Is this even CNBC anymore? More like BRAVO or TLC than CNBC tbh.
I was sure waiting to hear it. I'm guessing $450k
All 4 are gainfully employed professionals
Breaking news: I’m happy to announce that I’m #5!
Maybe I’m too old to understand these ppl but whatever works for them
I wish them all the best......because this could be DISASTROUS if it doesn’t work.... like Dateline, 20/20 disastrous .
Bloodbath central
They are trying to get famous on a reality show or something. Otherwise this is just stupid.
I am confuse...As she stated her sexual routine...So two days heterosexual and one day homosexual for her...I am not sure about the men...Are they also bisexual??? Can anyone please clear my assumptions??
I support them 100% … one relationship seems too much for me… 4 sounds like just too much work
I’ve always been a huge fan of just how well people are able to rationalize destructive, bizarre, and bad behaviors.
Yes, modern day clowns everywhere. Some sense is not common these days
? How is this destructive? It's what they all want, so what does it matter? Remember freedom of choice? It's no more bizarre than regular marriage, where you literally sign an expensive contract to love ONE person forever. Now that's stupid and destructive. I hate when people like you try to decide what is normal and what's not. Obviously your way isn't working out either, judging by the high divorce rate of traditional marriages.
If this relationship works for all of them, then it's not destructive. It isn't for most people, but obviously, they're not most people.
@@brynnwalk4390 That's how the followers of the Branch Davidians, Heaven's Gate, and Jim Jones felt; we see how that worked out.
@@whiteyobanion1104 yeah but those people justified their beliefs through religious dogma, rather than humanitarian logic
Grab your popcorn for this one, boys and girls!
The producers of CNBC Make It seems to have pivoted to another level of "make it with more than one"
" No more than $30 a month on video games. " Aight imma head out ...
Ikr, that doesn't even cover one game, unless it's crap.
Very interesting … I wonder does the guys also have a relationship with each other? Like are the guys bi? Or are the guys doing this because their ladies want it?
The guys were dragged into it.
I can even make a relationship work with 1 person much less 3 😫😫😫….. good for them
I expected Johny Sins brother to live with two women didn't expect him to live with another man too, maybe he's the camera guy? 🤣
Just curious if the two men have a romantic connection as well, as clearly the two women do.
😂😂
9-minute long promotion video for the "family therapist" Rachel
So does Kyle and Yair hookup also?
Fascinating. I dig it. But I hate splitting the bill at the end of a meal with 3 friends so I don't think I'd enjoy this much
But are the men ever sharing a bed together 😏😏😏
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I agree that I don’t see the point of any of them being married if they choose to live this way.
Wow so everyone is basically married to Rachel?
So are the dudes sword fighting too?? I'm confused
Getting a divorce from each other would simplify this situation. Rachel can get married to Yair since she’s hinted while the other two can exit this relationship and live freely as they wish.
I mean if a man can "change" into a woman, and a woman can "change" into a man and get married, then what's the big issue with polygamy being legal when all parties agree to it.
Exactly
Buddy that’s a really uncool way of describing trans people
Also polyamory is different to polygamy cmon
How to get someone else’s husband and do it under both your husband and his wife’s noses……… How much longer before Rachel and Yair run off into the sunset 🤣
This is a rectangle love but if the two men are also in love with each other, then it is a square love.
I believe that people can do whatever they want with their lives as long as it’s not harmful to anyone. In other words, your hole your problem. Live and let live
Why do i feel like Rachel’s doing all this just for yair 😂 She seems to be in love with him. And is making ( manipulating) everybody to follow her needs and wants
She is a 'marriage family therapist'? Who's marriage?
Her client’s marriages?
I am very curious and have a lot more questions. I need them to have thier own show. One question I definitely have is: if one of the women gets pregnant how will they know who the father is to sign the birth certificate? How would they know who the biological father is?
That's what I am thinking as well
DNA test
Apparently they want a complete overhaul of the entire process to fit this lifestyle . So all four would sign
They could do a DNA test, but chances are, the birth certificate won't have that information.
if you were one of the guys would you care. its either your child or your step child either way your there from day 1 so your dad or daddy. DNA doesn't really matter when your changing nappies.
2:40 his head 😂😂
Ashley and Kyle look like they're suffering in silence
As soon as you see their occupations it all makes sense....to each their own
Red head is the running the house. She’s the king, queen, prince and princess of the house
At 7:19. They keep dancing around the more correct term for their co-habitation agreement, using silly words like "doomsday scenario document." In the normal world of us normies this is called a prenup agreement. But this guy and the others just can't utter that terrible, terrible term. LOL...
Holy smokes, what an incredible experiment, I guess its the dynamics of modern day relationships
This relationship type is actually older than monogamy
The decision to divorce their original partners is so brave... That is so destabilizing to me. I can't even imagine.
This won’t last more than a couple years tops. Jealousy is real
The audacity that the redhead one is a family marriage therapist, lol you can't make this up. These people are LOST
This is intriguing indeed. The burden of capitalism is easier to carry if there are more than two adults in a family.
I wonder if they have thought of using a trust for all legal documents that require only one name.