100% And in the various ND communities the issue of “fawning” comes up.. the need for acceptance so you’ll fawn all over someone and change yourself around to meet their needs to get that acceptance . That ends up being a bad situation in the long run since you aren’t being yourself and eventually that will become exhausting to maintain etc..
This is a pretty wise observation. Chances are, if you had to convince someone to like you, you're going to have to do it again and again, even if it works eventually. If they couldn't simply see your worth firsthand, it will be difficult for them to see it once again when it really matters. I've also had a lot of rejection in my life but at the time it really mattered, once I met the person I want to spend the rest of my life with, I didn't have to convince her to like me at all, because she saw me the same way immediately. I never had to convince her to like me, and even when I faltered and she had every reason to dislike me, she still saw the value in me and being with me without any effort on my part. Such is life I guess. You can keep fighting against gravity your whole life, or you can learn to walk and be grounded. Sadly our reptile brains and our hormones really blind us to this, especially when we're younger.
i always highly appreciate the effort you put in writing. some people see a wall of text, but i appreciate your vulnerablity and care in what you say. thank you.
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And in the various ND communities the issue of “fawning” comes up.. the need for acceptance so you’ll fawn all over someone and change yourself around to meet their needs to get that acceptance .
That ends up being a bad situation in the long run since you aren’t being yourself and eventually that will become exhausting to maintain etc..
This is a pretty wise observation. Chances are, if you had to convince someone to like you, you're going to have to do it again and again, even if it works eventually. If they couldn't simply see your worth firsthand, it will be difficult for them to see it once again when it really matters.
I've also had a lot of rejection in my life but at the time it really mattered, once I met the person I want to spend the rest of my life with, I didn't have to convince her to like me at all, because she saw me the same way immediately. I never had to convince her to like me, and even when I faltered and she had every reason to dislike me, she still saw the value in me and being with me without any effort on my part.
Such is life I guess. You can keep fighting against gravity your whole life, or you can learn to walk and be grounded. Sadly our reptile brains and our hormones really blind us to this, especially when we're younger.
i always highly appreciate the effort you put in writing. some people see a wall of text, but i appreciate your vulnerablity and care in what you say. thank you.
you seem really kind! i love this videom thank you
my pleasure and thank you :)
Woahh your video is interesting as always. Keep it up :3
you too tdan! :)