How to Stop Being the Nice Guy | 2 Simple Tips
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@@sbaluindia lmao
If you’ve given up on love that’s your call, the rest of us want to have hope.
@David Michaels Well I wish you the best of luck. Relationships should be a healthy balance of give-and-take on both sides.
@@sbaluindia My G went straight for the head..☠☠😂
No matter how sweet , loving and caring she is to u and how big promises she makes in the beginning but when she decides to leave u she doesn't even care about your feelings.
Whether u are sad or u r crying she won't care as long as she have someone as an option. And if she is going to leave you she is going to leave you by making any excuses, she will be the rudest, heartless for you at that time. And the sad thing is woman are not even given chance to feel sad over it because she have a lot of chaser (mans) as an option and that is not a good news for loyal man.
Even I have learnt a big lesson, don't chase after a woman, just be busy in chasing after your goal. You were happy before them and u will be happy after them. Love your parents coz their love towards u is the only pure love u will find . Run after success, run after money be so busy in making money, love your self. You were born alone and u will die alone, just wait for the right time God has a plan for each and everyone of us and One day the right woman will come to u.
Perfectly put
If Oscars were given for best comments or messages, you surely deserve one of them without a doubt. If any man does what you have written down women show up out of nowhere and find you attractive. Busy for yourself on yourself, they will want you (prize) they will strive for you attention and admire your mentality. Chris always say these tips now and then, through him I am totally different now.
Facts. I think we as guys put too much energy into women, when they don't deserve it. Focus on yourself, if you find a girl that wants to come along for the ride, cool. If shes full of it? Kick her to the curb.
True words of wisdom.
The girl im talking with suddenly moves distant emotionally and comes back. Should I reply normally when she talks back or should I act distant ?
Because everytime she moves away and comes back and if im always there, wouldnt she take me for granted ?
But if I act distant when she comes back, would I be a cold fish ? Which this coach always advices against.
This is a dilemma that I've been going through recently. Kindly help me
Don't you ever lower yourself under any circumstances. Otherwise People will take you for granted
1: DONT TAKE WHAT WOMEN SAY SERIOUSLY
2: DONT BE THE "GOOD GUY"
3: a mans success is as equal as a woman's beauty in her prime
4: Dont be a simp
5: once she has a sexual imprint you cant get that guy away/ get closer to her
6: if you have a girl, them other girls you liked will be more attracted to you
7: dont take single mothers seriously
8: rejection makes you stronger
9: dont focus on that one girl theres plenty more
10: woman cant help being alone
11: woman are created to be in situations but men are created to understand the situations
12: a ring dont mean anything it's all about her respect to you as a man
13: if you want a high quality woman then you need to improve on yourself
14: when you self Improve yourself woman will want to chase you (not at the beginning but when you start to see improvements)
15: her emotions are involved in how you make her feel
16: when your a high valued man you have to walk like it, talk like it,look like it and smell like it
17: if your not mentally strong then you wont look physically strong
19: self love, self discipline and self improvement
The girl im talking with suddenly moves distant emotionally and comes back. Should I reply normally when she talks back or should I act distant ?
Because everytime she moves away and comes back and if im always there, wouldnt she take me for granted ?
But if I act distant when she comes back, would I be a cold fish ? Which this coach always advices against.
This is a dilemma that I've been going through recently. Kindly help me
@@ramborajkumar298 When she comes back, then message back just be normal. When she pulls away again, wait until she reaches back to you - mirror her actions
OMG, i love this comment. It's best
on core experiences. Thanx so much. GOD BLESS ❣🛐👍
Lol how will i remember all this
@@ramborajkumar298 You were right to not want to be too available.
So be warm when you do interact, but be more scarce. Reply to messages, but not as promptly as before. When you do talk, put her on the clock, and when things are at a high, stop your interaction to go do other more important things. She has to earn your time and her place in it again.
stand up for yourself and stop letting people walk over you. you have to expect that women and people in general are gonna test you and push your buttons
Let's talk More..........
But wait ooo I don't see anything wrong with this matter cuz she don't do her anythin now
The girl im talking with suddenly moves distant emotionally and comes back. Should I reply normally when she talks back or should I act distant ?
Because everytime she moves away and comes back and if im always there, wouldnt she take me for granted ?
But if I act distant when she comes back, would I be a cold fish ? Which this coach always advices against.
This is a dilemma that I've been going through recently. Kindly help me
@@ramborajkumar298
If she does that to you, and it has you thinking about doing it back, then you already know it’s a bad sign for you about what she’s doing.
Do it back, and if she asks what’s wrong, then throw it back by saying it or just keep acting cold. Shouldn’t take anything seriously from that one.
Much Respect from India. Make Men Great again.
Some girls dont like it when you act sweet I guess it's how she was been treated at home
'A nice guy isn't honest' - the most simple sentence ever and also the truest. Seen guys doing all sorts of 180 turns just to fit the mould they think the girl wants. It's both sad and funny.
Howfar
I'm not sure. Isn't it natural to be kind to people you like?
@@XavierY828 Kind is fine as long as it's genuine and not just to please the chick. Way too often it is just to please her though.
@@straighttalkingfitness9974
Well, I agree. If being nice is a tactic to make her fall in love with you it is bound to fail. However, even when your kindness is genuine she might simply wrongly assume you only want to get into her pants.
No no , not in all case i mean some people are born like that means innocent but then when the reality hits ots different
Craziest thing I’ve realized is that women don’t even realize that they’re testing you. It’s just 2nd nature to them
I was nice to a girl I liked before. She said, I was TOO NICE. She in turn chose a drug dealer to be with and she became a meth addict.
I guess somethings were not meant to be, and in her case she was meant to be a meth addict.
🤣🤣🤣
That’s interesting because my baby momma did the same and lost her job lost her respect from everyone and now she regrets it never been the same ever since..
Lmao
bullet dodged
😂💯😂💯😂💯
Chris is bulked up💪🏼😎
Here we learn how to be atractive to women but not how to love a women, it's a BIG difference, when attraction fade remain the love but when the love fade, remain nothing, just be YOU, be original and don't change to impress the girls, have your purpose and mission in your life and never sacrifice your gifts for girls, if a girl like and love you is ok, if not, also is ok, who want to stay in your life because love you will stay and who don't want, is free to go away.
Great advice Chris thank you! being a lot more focused on myself has really helped!
This is GOOD stuff...so true, being INDIFFERENT is the key. It's called Psychology. Works all the time! 👍🏼🤙🏽
Your advices changed my life, Thanks Chris
Stop being the nice guy.
Stop being weak and stop disrespecting yourself.
You're absolutely correct. I established strick boundaries and put my foot down when I had to. Sometimes you just have to be mean to them and that made all the difference.
You are saying you had boundries and the spine to enforce them. Good for you man. Too many guys out there only enforce their boundaries when it's convenient.
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Hold your frame. Stay strong in your frame. she wants to change you but don't. Attraction will go up. Correct me if I made a mistake.
Respectful assertiveness over nice
Like before watching. I love u. u r the best in what u r doing .
This applies to ALL aspects of life - human kindness (submissiveness) is weakness in 2021. Happy Easter, Chris.
Same to you
But that's kindness. Niceness is different.
Treat women like they are the person at the Walmart return counter. Tell them what you expect and why you are there. If they don't give you what you want, move up to her manager (a hotter woman)
Love that 😂
Just bought your book
Thank you ❤❤
Women are like children. If you keep spoiling them, they will keep misbehaving. If you are strong and don't give them the attention, they will know their place and respect you. As a man you must be indifferent, busy, and have options. Never make a woman your main source of happiness.
Thanks for helping me see my own errors.
Definitely true👍
“Fortune favors the bold.” Ben Sisko, Star Trek DS9
this is gold. this is paid stuff. it really is. this took me a long time to realize.
So true
Try going Keto! I did and for the first week or so I was a wicked grump. I'm never grumpy which confused my woman and completely changed the dynamic. She got clingy, and super engaged and loving because she didn't know where she stood with me. That was unexpected and an amazing learning experience. To all nice guys - if you feel grumpy, go ahead and be grumpy, please and put yourself first.
Keto?
@@benvergus1573 Ketogenic diet. No carbs, and typically make the person on the diet crabby until they adjust
@@westcedar Ah thanks 👍
Good book “atomic attraction “
Indifference in my case created even more distance.... This indifference was not all intentional, she expressed in many direct and indirect ways that my presence was "affecting" her and so I pulled away. Didn't really contact her for 2.5-3 months as I was also busy with work. Now things have degraded from being in talking terms to she straightaway ignores even if we happen to cross paths.
Were you even in a relationship with this girl?
Awesome video @chris canwell as always! Where did you get your degree in psychology from btw brotha?
At a place that sells degrees..you can pick one up for $6 if you have one local !!. Please...seriously if you are to dumb not to know how to get a degree..then it is something that is not for you. Honestly
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This is 100 percent true fellas, 100 percent, I used to be a nice guy but I learn that was a problem and I change and it transform my life, not only I’m I more successful with women but I feeel more confident and is light on my wallet
What steps or books did u do to change the nice guy syndrome ?
The opposite of being nice isn't being an asshole, it's being indifferent. 👍💪
guys just beleive this man my my ex contacted me after 30 days of no contact and now she is chasing me alot
I do less for my wife and girlfriend and she respects me a lot
So what do you do.. lol?
Luckiest guy
@@davorebo5790
I have my own bussiness. And i ingore her as much as possible
@@felicialartey8865 - Eventually she will leave you because of that. Neglecting your woman leads to rejection. If you don't date your wife and treat her properly, someobody else will come along and do it for you. It's about staying focused on your mission, but also not neglecting her. You must respect her. It's about balance.
@@craig8304
When people can walk away from you let them walk. Your Destiny's is not tied on the person who left. If she want to leave she can leave.
First time in life I can tell I am bad boy .😁
I just stop giving stuff, then I get what I want.
No I'm good. I'm "too nice" to get them away from me.
I wish someone would have taught me what I know now as a kid.
Read first Dr Glover's No More Mr Nice Guy and at the same time follow Sir Chris Conwell's Book and video for optimal results...
How did you get so much knowledge in woman!?
What camera do you use?
Everybody should listen to him he's the one of the best advice man in the world everything he said he works
The email Chris read screams classic "nice guy." He's whining that he does all of these allegedly wonderful things for her, yet alas, she doesn't reciprocate. Well, chances are she easily sees through his charade and understands the guy has already attached a price tag to all of his niceties. And the fact is, given his whining, he's looking at it from a purely transactional perspective. What woman is going to desire or respect that? None. The point is simple...you don't have to be an asshole to get a woman, just be yourself. Seek self-improvement physically, emotionally and intellectually and everything else will fall into place. And stop regarding relationships as a quid pro quo proposition.
Being good man is okay..if you nice guy , women won't respect you..
Lots off truth in this. A girl flaked on two dates ( even though it was more off her idea then mine ) and then she didn't even re-schedule it in pretecular. I didn't panic since I honestly don't care that much but instead made a joke about one off the reasons she said she can't come out. Then I pulled back and a few weeks went by without us texting. Well,she came back strong. She inviting me to parties,she's coming to places where she knows I will be,she's DM-ing me sexy photos.... And I think all of this comes from her realizng that I don't care.
I was always like this with my wife and she became a monster actually told me I’m a abuse guy bc I would melt down when she would insult me and put me down after all I would do for her eventually she had affair and blamed me for it too
Hey Chris, I met this girl and things started wonderful we’re on the same page with interests and what we want in a partner but suddenly things changed when I met her parents. Her parents didn’t see any “chemistry” between us and that really made her question out relationship. I should note her and her family are quite wealthy and I not but I’m also not poor. What should I do to make the relationship work
Nothing if her parents doesn’t like u there s nothing that you can do stop and don’t try to impress noone
Was it more biology than chemistry?
I always find this hard, because when i decide not to be caring for her means I don’t love her anymore.
Give her space. Focus on you
No exact example, he just saY be not the nice guy,be different.what does this means ?
Its true, iv naturally been like this and trust ne the hottest of women are attracted to the alpha demeanour that i portray
All this advice can be right and helpful to some extent, but not all women are the same and respond the same way to what men do. Was life that easy.
Make women earn your time and attention.
The girl im talking with suddenly moves distant emotionally and comes back. Should I reply normally when she talks back or should I act distant ?
Because everytime she moves away and comes back and if im always there, wouldnt she take me for granted ?
But if I act distant when she comes back, would I be a cold fish ? Which this coach always advices against.
This is a dilemma that I've been going through recently. Kindly help me
To quote Mr. Canwell: "When a woman pulls away from you, you must also pull away; when she grows distant and withdrawn, you too must become distant and withdrawn; and when she pushes you away by acting rude and disrespectful, simply withdraw your attention and refuse to empower her."
Don't act distant if she contacts you. Always mirror her emotions be it negative emotions or positive emotions.
@@Volksinformant point is. In my situation she does contact me everyday but the frequency has reduced. So how should I react now when she contacts with less interest ?
@@ramborajkumar298 If she contacts you, you'll be friendly towards her. I am quoting Mr. Canwell again: "The 80/20 rule, when applied to male/female relationships, states that a man should reach out to a woman 20 percent of the time, and a woman should reach out to the man 80 percent of the time. Here, the 80/20 rule ensures the woman chases the man, and it also ensures there’s enough space and distance between the woman and the man for attraction to flourish."
@@ramborajkumar298 - You should just be arranging dates and spending time with her in person, not messaging. Bet she kept pulling away because you wasn't leading things correctly. Just constant boring messages back and forth. They get bored.
So make yourself unpredictable to her?
how to tell that you like her without directly saying it "i like you". is there any phrases that i can use
no. stop that shit
Being too nice backfires
So I asked my girl if she wanted to talk, she said she wanted to do other things but then I saw that she was hanging out with other guys, then she said “you don’t want to hang out with me? That’s fine” and I said “ok” was that the right answer?
Yep, she’s shit testing u. Plus she’s a low quality woman, move onto a better woman
Give her silence for some days. Works like a charm
Bro move on focus on ur self she s already fucking someone else you saw her hanging out with other guys🤦🏿♂️
Guys, need advice here. I plan to use push-pull technique, by saying something like "i like you, you are like my younger sister". Is it ok? Or just worse than friendzone.
its bad fr
@@raypunn thanks for the prompt reply. Actually it was to a crush, not gf yet.
I think you should work on making her fall in love instead of exposing your feelings first.
just don't and don't even tell her that you like her at all .. show her that you like her without saying the phrase " I like you " it depends on who is she .. is she your co-worker or class mate but there's always a way to let her know that clearly you like her and you want her without saying it and after that you can just be yourself and if she wants you she will come after you
@@user-dw4dq1if1m I would just say “I like you, you are a nice person.” But don’t say it again for months. After you tell her that, invite her to whatever hobby you are already doing on a regular basis. If you like to go hiking weekends, tell her to join you, if she wants.
How to deal with long distance relationship when she pushed away?
Move on.
I can’t be indifferent now what?
Be a good guy. Be like James Bond
Imagine your gf is watching this video now
Had a fight, she didn't bother to call and clear it up whole day, whereas I've always done that. Was thinking about calling her tonight.
Not so sure about that call right now.
fuck it break up , you deserve better.
If you're always the one doing that ,then stop it and just wait
@@bassterritory1479 haha wait what ? that girl is not submissive its waste of time.
She does it sometimes actually, but the thing is this time the signal was very clear that I felt wronged and was waiting for an apology or atleast an attempt at it, she did text ' r u angry?' , I replied sarcastically " No no not at all, I'm dancing in joy" ... Her reply was just an "oh" I replied " Yes" .And then few minutes later she sent me an insta reel ( like something funny about us what we do) , I didn't reply to it .. We both were offline whole day and she came online few minutes ago gave a 👍 to my 'yes'... I've left that at seen also
That's pretty much the whole thing after the fight. She's also going through her periods rn and severe cramps( she has them very irregular and severe painful she does get quite bitchy and annoyed quickly at these times, other than that she is quite a good girl other times) , so I controlled myself whole day knowing abt it, didn't shout or talk too much as I could have talked in a rough way, I'm thinking I should just sit back and watch what she does...
Let's see how important making up is to her.
@@Rizu-kc3ze Ur just a guarantee cookie in pocket. Dude really if she is not into you no need to force relationship . You must be the guy funny , confident, love to be around other peoples . If she wants you she will move the mountains for you. It's just a waste of time as I said.
Be good,
….not nice.
My gf just ignore me idk why ,she us online then too she don't text me idk what to do she took me for granted help me 😭 how to earn that shit back I should have upper hand
do the mirror, my friend
ignore her too
if she checks your insta story then
please don't put sad relatable stories
instead, go on adventures and post something unique that she is missing
then she will text you back and if she still ignores you, then my friend she has found a new one who is entertaining her
@@calib3r403 okayy bro ☹️let's do this I don't what to do if I get to hear that she is using I will not spare her I will take revenge mentally
@@adityakamble8233 if u got to know that she is indulged with another guy, just break up with her, Do the no contact rule if she really loves you she will accept her mistake and come back to you then be the leader and let her do all the efforts and if she won't able to do it just bring the argument how she left you first
if she did not come back
Block her from all the contacts and socials
i know its hard
and as Indian, myself its very hard to get girls in india tbh
but believe me no contact worked for me too, tho it took a long time but my ex got to know my value and came back to me
But i dont want her in my life the way she left me still haunts me
SILENCE IS THE REVENGE
@@calib3r403 ok I will try my best 👍🏻
@@calib3r403 legendary advices ...
I hate myself for being too nice too my wife how the buck I change?
Why are women always testing us ? We are not students anymore 😂
This is our world broe we own it.
Do you know what an owner do??
Facing consequences and responsible of what he owns
That's women nature
How to make her invest in us?
Easy, stop doing what u are expected to do.
Be a challenge and mysterious
That guy is screwed.
Lol he's finished, what is he doing
Christopher is og Alpha male
Let's talk More..........
These simps keep writing in and asking the same questions. Have they not watched the other videos? FFS they should already know the answer - STOP BEING NICE GUY BETA SIMPS! It's really not hard. Chase success, not women.
million problems, one solution: Go Celibate
You have to be pretty hot for this. She has tons of options
Don't be a nice guy, be a fuckin hilarious guy. Make her laugh all the time and she'll take off all her clothing.
Be an alpha male..
Ends of story
😂 ok. There's nothing like that though..
@@saketautee2329 you're not getting it
Also. This video is misleading because it’s
phrased as if such things only happen to men. In fact, ‘good girls’ suffer from the exact same !! It would be great to mention and explain this concept towards humans in general, without demonising one gender. There are thousands of girls who pour love, effort, care, finances into men and then left with nothing, broke emotionally, alone, sometimes even broke financially. Beeing too nice is a universal concept.
These videos and this channel is for men, not women
Maybe when women don’t have the power. But when they do they lose attraction and want to be chased
I just think it is women in the
21st Century.
Dude you say beard is attractive and lillyle mascular is good but you don't have anything
Nice guys are weak.
Help me i have girlfriend and she loves me but she compliments all other guys calling them pretty and cute but never me,btw im not that pretty 🥺
.. very bad girlfriend you have got my friend😮😮
You Do the same to other girls, Mirror her actions
@@ishaanagarwal2220 bhai kyu aisa bol raha ho 😂 she's bad doesn't mean he had to be bad
THRASH Her for her INSOLENCE
She's cheating or will cheat on you