How to deal with your emotions and stop passing them to others | Cassandra Worthy
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- You might suppress your emotions when you walk through the door at work. But your colleagues can still feel them. Author Cassandra Worthy explains how to transform negative thoughts into positive ones.
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Cassandra Worthy, the author of Change Enthusiasm: How to Harness the Power of Emotion for Leadership and Success, believes that emotions can have a uniquely strong influence on our personal and professional lives.
According to Worthy, emotions don't turn off when we walk into a business setting or turn on our laptops, and we can catch the emotions of those around us, both positive and negative. This phenomenon is called emotional contagion, and it can have a significant impact on our mood and productivity.
Worthy suggests that suppressing emotions can lead to physical ailments and that it's important to acknowledge and transform them instead of ignoring them. Emotions can be transferred, transformed, or conserved, and by becoming more self-aware of our emotions, we can transform negative thoughts into positive ones. This transformation can help us reach our goals and fuel our personal evolution.
0:00 Emotional contagion at work
1:02 5 ‘signal emotions’ we suppress: Fear, frustration, anger, anxiety, grief
2:16 Can physics help? Conserve, transfer, or transform emotion
3:55 Unlocking self-awareness: The weeds and the soil
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About Cassandra Worthy:
Cassandra Worthy is the world’s leading expert on Change Enthusiasm®. She is lighting the world on fire with her refreshingly unique take on not just ‘managing’ but growing through change. Her leadership development and consulting company Change Enthusiasm Global creates value at the intersection of change and emotion in the workplace. Worthy's mission is to bring this revolutionary and research-backed approach for embracing change and using it to propel you to new heights with people all over the world. She is trusted by clients around the globe including Google, Johnson & Johnson, Bank of America, Sanofi, Zoom, and Cisco.
After spending nearly 15 years working as an executive within both Procter & Gamble and Berkshire Hathaway thriving through some of the biggest acquisitions ever recorded in the consumer packaged goods industry, Worthy decided to cultivate the mindset and tools she practiced to grow through these disruptions in a way that inspires, invigorates, and motivates others to grow through their greatest change challenges. Change Enthusiasm® has become much more than just a mindset, it's a worldwide movement.
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what was the error
@@irfanadamm5819 We mixed up the first law of thermodynamics with Newton's three laws of motion.
The message was awesome
@@bigthink That hot potato energy, il be thinking about that
@@bigthink I love to learn more...please explain the difference(s) ?? Thnx.
Fear --> Faith
Lust --> Love
Anxiety --> Anticipation
Rage --> Power
And the most tricky one , Pride --> Appreciation
pride ----> gratitude works too
wheres depression
So true
@@moon-pw1bi depression --> removal of Ego (Freudian)
@@jacktaipen2077epression is an Illness!!💯!!;
To Oversimplify is Not Helpful at All
💞 Also please Remember when People are Depressed they Tend to Blame Themselves..
Depressed people Need Help and Support,,,,
Not Wanting to Offend You
Just Wanted to Point this Out.
Blessings to You,
And Anyone Here who is Depressed!
Peace, Love, Light and Joy to You and Yours,
Namasté 🙏💞
Andréa and Critters. ...XxX...
The speaker is amazingly articulate and confident. Love to hear more from her
Are you saying that just because she’s black?
I liked how she illustrates the way emotions fluctuate among peers, nevertheless for me her conception of negative emotions as "weeds that need to be plugged" easily falls into the way American positivity deals with these kinds of emotions, a sun that one can easily cover with a finger. I believe it is possible to learn how one decides to face a situation, one can learn to adopt a plausible and more emotionally intelligent attitude. However, learning so goes beyond plunging negative emotions, in fact, it has more to do with learning to hear them and nurture them.
I had the same thought about the analogy not being perfectly fitting, but I think the overall insight she gave us is almost exactly as you said: the primary emotion that we feel cannot be ignored (we also cannot expect it to be dealt with just by venting to others); it has to be recognized, accepted as the compass that tell us what we are lacking or where we'd like to be going instead, and turned into the fuel that gets us there
the weeds can be eaten by cow 🐄. cow will nurture the weeds and transform them into another energy. or if you so eager to plug it, just plug don't doubting your self
0:25 I've experienced this many times with my mom. When she's feeling angry and down (as she usually has mood swings due to hormonal imbalances), I start picking up that same emotion, although I don't want to feel this way all the time. Great video and thanks for the advice, Cassandra.
I love the way she speaks. I could listen to her all day long ✨
yeah she's cool
She does have a rather lovely voice and cadence, I noticed that as well.
She's very Articulate
It's the cadence of a well meaning extremely educated passionate person.
Everything about her voice is exceptional but particularly so because it's genuine.
I was wondering why ive been so stressed lately and this video helped me realize just how much ive been keeping to myself
Key Takeaways :
- Emotions spread like wildfire, impacting our behavior and work.
- Acknowledge and handle signal emotions; fear, anger, anxiety, grief.
- Transforming these emotions can create a culture of positivity.
- Unlocking self-awareness through data and emotional recognition.
Wish I could be working as saying "Gets smarter with video from the world biggest thinker" someday. Thank you so much for this.
So well spoken! I need her to be my life coach
(Highly) Underrated topic & advice.
Thanks!!!
Before I give presentations to large audiences, I often feel quite a lot of anxiety. In the past, I tried to tell myself to "calm down". This did not work well... so a couple of years ago, I instead started telling myself that I was not anxious; I was excited! This works quite well, and if you think about it, the two feelings have many physical reactions in common...it's mostly the interpretations of these feelings that are different...
These tips for transforming emotions are amazing!
Whether you're dealing with fear, grief, frustration, anger, or anxiety, there are ways to channel these emotions in more positive and productive ways.
For FEAR try reframing the situation as an opportunity for growth.
For GRIEF, find meaning in the experience and use it as a catalyst for personal growth.
For FRUSTRATION, focus on what you can control and channel the energy into motivation.
For ANGER, identify the underlying cause and express it in healthier ways.
And for ANXIETY, challenge negative thoughts and use relaxation techniques to manage physical symptoms.
Thanks for these valuable insights!
OMG she should get a honorary PHD for this knowledge, just WOW. I could've never came up with those!!!!
Ok but what should I do practically?
Basically just like corporate life in the West - a bunch of jargon, word salads, and alphabet soups lacking any substance of meaning.
Just virtue signaling and toxic positivity.
What an incredible analogy, and speaker.
It's crazy how my mannerisms pass on to other people and they start having the same type of humor and way they express just cuz i like making a joke out of everything
I used to have a very emotional boss who would literally drive people to give their worst. She would regularly lose all her best employees because they would invariably get their fill of the crap she used to give them.
I quit my job a couple days ago, I can’t blame 1 person, but the whole place was toxic and I said ✌️
This is so good! I want more from Cassandra 🙏🏼
YES YES YES
I couldn't agree more of what she said. I personally struggled with this in the past years, and then the time came that I said to myself "this is not healthy anymore! it's consuming me from within". so I tried to seek some solution in order to learn what my emotions are telling me. and thankfully, little by little, i can finally overcome my fears and trauma that I've been carrying since I was young.
*remember to control your emotions or your emotions will control you*
The point told me recognise the emotion from myself and realize how strong is it than trasfer it into the other positive one is a great knowledge for me. I think I have a new way to treat my anxiety.
I still don't understand how to use bad emotions. Personally I just let bad emotions sit there until they eventually go away by themself.
i think they never go away by themselves u need to proces them
My understanding would be that you let those emotions inform you about what or why something makes you trigger or react, and then, with that info, let yourself take a better action, and not just because of reaction.
More people need to see this
Bruv it's been 20 minutes
this lady has very compelling analogies. thanks this was fantastic.
5 signal emotions we suppress:
Fear
Frustration
Anxiety
Anger
Grief
Energy can neither be created nor destroyed- so transform the chemistry:
1. Fear-Increase Curiosity
2. Frustration- Prioritize
3. Anger- Switch Tasks
4. Anxiety- TUC(check off things under control)
5. Grief- Experience something new, you’re born again in something new.
"5 signal emotions we suppress" Suppress? I wish some people learned how to suppress these emotions. For example I find elderly people manifest their anxiety or risk aversion frequently and it's really annoying. They really need some CBT.
What about Envy and Pride?
I really loved this video! Thank you!
I like energy. Id rather be anxious than feel nothing. If i can transform anxiety into anticipation, great.
Very well said 👏
Her voice is like music
Energy transference is a real thing. People call it empathy. It's mostly unconscious though. We mimick the moods and attitudes of people around us if we are not conscious about our own thoughts and feelings. Empathy without boundaries is self destructive.
Beautiful!
The world would be a better place if we put as much emphasis on having a high EQ as we do IQ.
Great video wish it was longer
Raise your hand if you've been watching Big Think for a long time🤚
I invented it
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I have started watching again cause of better video recommendations!!
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A long time is relative. I've been watching it for 15Min that's a long time to me. Cause I'll never get it back 😅
Alot of ppl need to see this....tired of ppl trying to pass their mental issues on to me...
The mind, a garden that yearns to be cultivated
Thanks for sharing. ❤
Whenever she say 'Emotional', my brain says 'damage'....... 'Emotional damage'........
I feel so asian....... 🤣
Thank you so much Big Think. Your videos are extremely valuable. So positive and impactful. And the knowledge is contagious. Keep up the amazing work!!!
Brilliant and concise, thank you.
Gratitude, Love and Appreciation 😇💝🌹
if emotions functioned on reason this would be great.
I think the fact that it doesn't stem from reason is precisely why it works: something makes you feel a negative emotion; that negative emotion tells what kind of adjustments you should be making. I worked at a hotel where i became frustrated at people for the tiniest requests: that felt out of place, unreasonable. Well, it wasn't: I hated working in hotels. I changed my career path, and went to a direction I'm enjoying more. I still deal with customers, but I'm never frustrated
@@saramarzoli9647 repression IS a functional strategy, that's why it's encouraged in our culture. it's the reasonable thing to do.
loved this!
Excellent - thank you!
I want to transform my emotion into fuel and make use of it because right now a lot of it is just weighing me down. And a lot of it could go towards breaking my current bad habits.
@Rays91546 Emotions, energy in motion :)
Best of luck!
What a great video
There is no bad emotion
Big think has such a cool looking, vast, studio
Love the thermodynamics analogy! ❤
ps, *her style is immaculate* 🤙🏼
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Great video! Can’t wait to learn more about her!!
When i start behaving negatively, i am understanding. When i start behaving positively,i am living with myself. example: you know where your thing should be to use again. so put it at your comfortable place.
It is such interesting this world of emotions. I recently read this: ''The more we accept our humanness and our feelings for what they actually are, rather than what we wish they were, the more we digest them and grow as a human being'' - Andrew Kenneth Fretwell. From his book Emotional Alchemy the Love and Freedom Hidden within Painful Feelings.
The "How to" part of this video was basically like saying "Just do it", or like answering an Art student asking how do they improve with "Practice".
@@Dimitris_Balf Yeah, but it's not a very detailed answer.
@@Dimitris_Balf When I look at a 6 minute long video that is supposed to be informative, I simply expect more.
@@Dimitris_Balf whats weirder is that sometimes the answers are right in front of us; an unassuming aspect or (maybe) boring detail you come across in your daily life that, when explored on a deeper level, can help you to find the solution(s) you need.
Loved this! I’m going to buy her book💯
❤❤❤❤ impressive
Always..
I want to learn more about this topics, is anybody have a link to a full video/article/course of this?
Yes!! 🫵🏾⭐️
Feel whole lot better after watching this vídeo ✌️✌️
I’m trying not to ‘transmit’ my anxiety to other people but I think that there isn’t very much you can do to prevent it
you can very much protect yourself and that you can control i think intervention is prevention
you should expose yourself to the situations where you feel anxious and over time it ll be gone. we can basically train ourselves and change our emotions if we want, that is our superpower
Have you tried journaling?? Help me not just with that but all sorts of things.
From anger, grit. From fears, courage. From sadness, wisdom.
Interview was 💯 but stopped after a bit because the stock footage and music was too much. Thanks for the interview portion.
I believe Jesus was a psychologist. Thanks for confirming the same connection I made.
Yeah yeah you could say that in that way as well
Emotions
Energy is never conserved completely, for a smaller system at least (like an individual). It has a tendency to spread out.
I have no idea how to transform rage, but I have learned to harness and focus it to accomplish my goals rather than allowing it to be a purely destructive force. Nevertheless, rage is a dangerous weapon to wield even for those adept at doing so. It's emotionally draining, and after many years of overcoming every obstacle by crushing it into the dirt through sheer force of will, it's begun to take a physical toll.
I'd say that's a pretty good clue towards understanding that it might not be the healthiest course of action? I don't know, I could be wrong, maybe ask someone who's trained
Such an eloquent speaker 👌
Is this an observation you make for all speakers… or is it that you excepted her to not be?
Why to post the video the second time?
Big think is busy
Maybe. ❤
I would like it a lot more if examples were from life in general and not just the working environment.
Just one more video trying to turn me into a powerful Sith Lord
Yes dark side of the force is the best!
Thanks for this amayzin video ❤
AMEN!
I wish more was said on the "how" to transform... I need to transform the weed on the farm. 😢 I don't know how to plug them, they are already there! A second part?
Awareness, that's the key.
Emotions need room to evolve and this room is your consciousness.
Making a habit of becoming aware of how you feel. Make a habit of checking that regularly. And that means to check your body because the emotions are in the body and not in the thoughts.
So if you dedicate some time a day, be it just give minutes to check how you feel and be fully present with that. That means in these five minutes is just feeling what you feel, no distractions, just feeling and breathing.
Emotions evolve naturally if they are given conscious space, the only thing that gets in the way is the way you've been conditioned to control them, or rather repress them.
Spend time with your emotions and you learn to understand them, where they come from, what they are about and thus you learn to understand yourself better.
From this understanding transformation will come by itself as you grow in awareness about yourself.
If you are angry for example, then you are also afraid. But the anger covers it.
If you spend time with the anger, if you walk with it or run run with it, dance, move, fantasize, draw, write then you'll find what you are afraid of eventually and when you spend time with that fear, you'll find sadness eventually and then you'll find release.
It takes time and awareness mostly. The rest is to move the emotions in the way you feel good about moving them. This is the most intimate you can become with yourself and you'll learn a great deal when you do that.
I don't recommend to force yourself to meditate though, this can end up repressing the emotions, only do that if you feel comfortable with it, otherwise it's better to move the emotions in some way, even just doodling will do. Because the emotions want movement, that's what they are all about. So if they get space to move, they will transform. That's their nature.
If you feel sad or angry and you listen to a song or watch a movie that really gets how you feel for example then you transform these emotions by listening and watching.
That's what art is for, it gives space for emotions to move and something that is safe will transform into beauty, maybe even joy.
Do what you like doing, what you love doing with these emotions. That's what makes them so simple and yet so hard because it's rarely the same for two people.
Be with how you feel for five minutes a day, just feel and move with it. Dance, sing, doodle, write, hum, nod along, take a walk, a run, whatever you like it all expands the energy that is moving inside you.
And every of these steps will one after another reveal more and more of the beauty, the joy and the love that is inside you.
@@sonkeschmidt2027 What a beautiful comment. So helpful. Thank you for sharing.
What's the end title track, gorgeous!
i dont get it. Then how to deal with your emotions? in what way can you transfer the energy into something else?
I call 483th view yay i also watched two times and been following for 6 th months
Great video, but what am I supposed to do PRACTICALLY?
@@Dimitris_Balf This is something I've been hearing for years. What does being aware mean? And what does acceptance mean? I mever get an answer
@@Dimitris_Balf I alreado do. I'm quite aware of my emotional and physical reaction. But what does accepting mean? And how do you accept?
Avoid people like this woman. :)
Watched 10th video, and realized all of them saying in conclusion that self-awareness is key here. How we are so stupid.
Is there a full video of this topic?
I found her on CZcams and she has a bunch of videos!!! @cassandraworthy7043
Can't raise my hand for that just sub'd 2 days ago, But I can say thanks very much! Looks interesting! 🙂
What’s that song starting at 3:56?
5:07 !!
Amazing love it and l o v e her!!!🔥
nice breakdown and a promising solution - poor explanation on practical steps to take to achieve the transformation
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How we transform the emotion though?
by eating a tree obviously
True
That happens by itself if you give them time and space, i.e. awareness.
We just have a detrimental habit of repressing them, that is the main problem, it makes us inexperienced about our emotions, about what they do and how we utilise them and grow through them.
Think about how natural it is for a child to move with their emotions. They don't repress naturally, that's what they get taught and to release this repression leads to what they naturally do, transformation.
So if you spend time with them, you learn how to move with them. How depends on you. Wether you move your legs and go for a walk, move your hands and write something down or doodle, or wether you move your whole body and dance. Movement is what they want and repression is to keep this movement pinned down.
Just watch when you get angry how you immediately will press against yourself to keep the anger inside you.
Get these muscles moving and watch how the anger transforms.
👍👍
Is this also known as Projection?
I still can't figure out where is intellect in emotions😵
🤚🏽
Reframing, optimism that's rooted in some truth.
Woah!!
I'm not Certain that This is Helpful for the Depressed People!!
Since they Tend to Blame Themselves....
Depression is a Liar and it Robs us of some of our Loved Ones!!
Negative Self Talk and Catastrophic Thinking,,,
and Doubts about Thier Own Worth.....
Perhaps, Remember that Depression is an Illness
and the Suffering Person Needs Help and Support!!
This Needs to Be Remembered in the Wonderful Talks Here, Please.
Apart from This, Yes I Agree 💯!!
Namasté 🙏💞
Andréa and Critters. ...XxX....
This has nothing to do with emotional intelligence. She's someone selling "positive thinking" and she's not a psychologist or someone who understands this subject. Her definition of emotional intelligence is within a totally separate conversation.
What is it then? (Not a facetious question) "emotional intelligence" has always felt very esoteric and frivolous a term for me and probably many other ppl too
@@tcrijwanachoudhury emotional intelligence is knowing how to read the room and respond appropriately. Being aware of others feelings. For instance, if your friend is going through a difficult time, someone with emotional intelligence wouldn't tell that person to, "just get over it." It's also understanding your own emotions. Everything said in the video is about manipulation as leader.
One thing is true and that is emotions are contagious. its a good thing to remember next time you talk with someone about something.
So, this isn’t about using negative energy to destroy your enemies?
We are emotional beings? Huh never felt that ever in my life.
I fe like this video is 20 minutes shorter than it should be