It’s incredible how textbook these people are and how they behave, I’m still finding myself 2 years after leaving this kind of relationship. These people are incredibly damaging on a whole other level. I totally lost my own identity and I find it very difficult to trust my own intuition now, which I felt was a very strong trait of mine before I met this guy. Thank you for your great video, awareness like this can really save lives x
26:48 How to shut down a narcissist. I did exactly this - you have to play as if it were a chess game against a worthy opponent. Plan for the very worst, hope for the best. Pretending weakness throws them off guard, it works great.
0121 bc they usually make you dependent on them. I’m married to one again. I told myself I would never let myself be put in this situation again. I thought he was different. We would always be together. Now I have no job. No friends. No car in my name bc we refinanced in his name only. No bank account has my name on it even. At least in my first marriage I was on the account.
Thank you for Sharing For Over Four Yrs I Was Emotionally Manipulated Belittled..I Was Conditioned To Feel Guilt.The More Abuse He Did The More I Chased This Person For Validation.Narcissits Are Masters Of Manipulation.
My narcissist was (in addition to being violent) a pornography addict. When I left him he began spreading rumors about me, the vilest things he could think up - including “my” addiction to porn! 😂 I later became friends with the next ex-wife ( he had 4) When she discovered his massive stash of porn movies, magazines & photos he claimed they were mine. She asked him why he kept them and he made up several different stories about that - she said that event was what made her realize she’d married a psycho. They can be incredibly charming, because they’re master actors. You are not alone. It’s easier than one thinks to be fooled by a malignant narcissist. I hope things are better for you now. 🙏🏼❤️
@@poetryjones7946 Thank You So Very Much You Are Absolutely Right They Are Master Manipulators. I Struggle Daily With Going No Contact..I Already have A Month of No Contact 😥
@@demigaines5644 If you need help and support for that there is no shame in it. I’ve listed some free and anonymous helplines here: www.vivianmcgrath.com/domestic-violence-resources/
My husband is my Prince Charming. He’s also the biggest monster I’ve ever known, but only when we’re alone. All the games he plays. I’m so happy that I see it now. I spent a year trying to change. To make him happy. But I just can’t make him happy! Hes always mad. Then when I point out he’s acting differently, he’ll tell me I’ve been mad at HIM!! He will love me so deeply. Then ignore me. When I ask why, he tells me I’m starting a fight. If he doesn’t spend time with me at all for weeks, I’m needy. I have to always let him know where I’m at, when I got there, when I leave. And all I do is go to the grocery store lately. But if I ask him if he made it somewhere ok, I’m controlling. It doesn’t make any sense. I pray the Lord can help him.
What really is going on there is that he is making you more and more addicted to the highs and lows so you are hooked to him so between he can use you as punching bag but there will b a time he is so bored that he will triangulate you with someone else and cheat spectacularly! Good luck with your self as he is disintegrating the core of you whilst you are entertaining the idea of finding how to fix him, there is no cure just get ready because one way or another he won’t only just destroy the marriage he will destroy you to friends family and you to you !
You need to divorce the person someday. Don’t be an enabler for the rest of your life. Even if life will be harder, I would say it won’t be harder than eternal emotional abuse 👌
I will be 70 years old next year, and I am only just discovering what has been wrong with me all those years.Thanks to an excellent, deeply invested counsellor, I am finally seeing reality. Her counsel and guidance, support and encouragement, have brought me to the point of detaching myself from the person who gave birth to me, so as to have space to be free to take care of myself and enjoy just being. me No longer going round and round in my head with the confusing, demeaning programming planted in my mind by my birth person, who left this world over 20 years ago, but her dreadful talk remained here, strong, alive and kicking in my head. . Far too detailed and complex to go into here, but I finally have hope of continuing to find joy as I learn to live differently. If you are struggling but can't find a way to express or pin down exactly what is wrong inside you., your head, or how your memories don't add up or make sense, KEEP PUSHING. DON'T GIVE UP. FIND THE PERSON WHO CAN HELP YOU SEE CLEARLY AND BEGIN TO FREE YOURSELF FROM THE AWFUL BURDEN LEFT ON YOUR SHOULDERS. I wish you well. You are worth it.
So many women in the relationship situation you describe. It's especially painful to watch someone in such a situation while they appear oblivious to what is going on. Y
WOW ! This was exactly like my ex. From stalking my social media for a year (while I was in another relationship which he disrespected), mirroring, lying, moving in quickly, cheating, manipulating, and gas lighting. All of it. I learned a lot after that relationship.
@@user-zm9yc2kb8x True. If not, then try to keep all emotion out of any discussion. Stick to facts, logistics (such as where and when to pick up a child) and keep any conversation brief. Document any breaches of court orders meticulously and report if necessary.
My former boyfriend destroyed my life and career...12 years after we finished (he discarded me) he’s still stalking me and destroying and ruining my life.
Get away from these creeps ..I removed my mother, sister and ex husband they l ock me up and tried to kill me 🙏🙏better stay in prayer ..They need a law for Narcissism
I’ve lost everything. Just yesterday I had started a job so I could go to school to be a teacher next I know if I try to go for two jobs somehow one lets me go. This last job I was literally lied about and cameras would’ve shown that. Yet somehow I was supposed to take accountability for something I hadn’t done. 🤷🏽♀️
I Love Your Videos I Love How You Explain The Meaning Of A Narcissists. I Have Been Given The Silent Treatment For Over A Year BeCause I Promised The Narcissists Money And I Changed My Mind BeCause Of His Abuse.He Went I Rage And Discarded Me.He a Has Conditioned Me To Feel Guilt...Can You Please Give Me Some Advice
Go no contact unless u want to continue their games and brain washing you. This is the best advice bc nothing else works with them . Its either you in or your out. Either your their slave or not! Good luck
Exactly! I studied my narcissist carefully once I realized he was a sick person & I needed to leave. By keeping detached & developing a secret, trustworthy support system, I began discovering how strangely easy it was to turn his craziness to my own advantage. Free yourself, and for the love of god, don’t just jump into another relationship! Stay alone for at least a year - learn to know and befriend your self!
Vivian McGrath Yeah! Man, that was the shock discovery through all this nightmare - that when I learned to approve of myself it gave me this sort of superpower! Weird but true!
My mother is a narcissistic... she’s groomed me to have no self worth...met a guy who’s a Drug dealer... guess what... he’s exactly like My mom... completely predatory narcissist.... fronted me drugs... uses the debt to control when I broke from the addictive substance ... so completely out of control of my life... exit strategy planned... dozens of failed attempts... trying to do my homework this time... please pray for me - please help- I’m so scared I will never know myself
Me realizing at 4am I’ve moved 2900 miles away to a different country and now am living with a narcissist, have no job, no where to go and can’t afford to go home: 👁👄👁
If you need help and support to work through this I’ve listed some free and anonymous helplines here: www.vivianmcgrath.com/domestic-violence-resources/
Thankful that modern women will not have to put up with men in personal relationships. We can master bate without being judged and go to a sperm bank. Day care centers will be state funded for women who prefer to work outside the home, or base living provided by big government for moms who want to remain with their child(ren) at all times.
Better than that. I have actually lived through this. Almost murdered by my ex when 7 months pregnant and broke the toxic cycle for me and my son: www.vivianmcgrath.com/i-am-enough/
Dont do that - your children will hate you later for that. A narcissist is a abuser, just remember every rotten syc thing that she done to you... Do you really want that for your childern ? There's no special person - no mather who it is - a abuser is a abuser and you have to protect your childern from abuse.
In my experience, this describes the monk teacher/female student of Tibetan Buddhism. I'm great at crawling on my knees. Over $10,000 in 10 years from this poverty-level person . . .
It’s incredible how textbook these people are and how they behave, I’m still finding myself 2 years after leaving this kind of relationship. These people are incredibly damaging on a whole other level. I totally lost my own identity and I find it very difficult to trust my own intuition now, which I felt was a very strong trait of mine before I met this guy. Thank you for your great video, awareness like this can really save lives x
Thank you so much for validating the things I’m experiencing. Working on my exit strategy. God bless all of us.
Plan to exit safely.
@Bushra S Good luck!
Lisa Lombardo 🙏🏾🙏🏾
I hope it went well
I am right behind you I have my exit strategy all planned out .
26:48 How to shut down a narcissist.
I did exactly this - you have to play as if it were a chess game against a worthy opponent. Plan for the very worst, hope for the best. Pretending weakness throws them off guard, it works great.
It is like a chess game, I agree
why would you play games with them..if you can get away just go..
0121 bc they usually make you dependent on them. I’m married to one again. I told myself I would never let myself be put in this situation again. I thought he was different. We would always be together. Now I have no job. No friends. No car in my name bc we refinanced in his name only. No bank account has my name on it even. At least in my first marriage I was on the account.
@@user-zm9yc2kb8x sometimes getting away is not immediately possible so you have to use stratagies to survive until you can leave!
0121 Parenting with one is another reason why
Identify them and get rid of them!
I totally agree.
I feel like I’m surrounded by them 😭. I need a cleanse.
yup me too.. Im so depressed because I see all treat everyone else so nice and me like crap..
Thank you for Sharing
For Over Four Yrs I Was
Emotionally Manipulated
Belittled..I Was Conditioned
To Feel Guilt.The More Abuse
He Did The More I Chased This Person For Validation.Narcissits Are Masters Of Manipulation.
My narcissist was (in addition to being violent) a pornography addict. When I left him he began spreading rumors about me, the vilest things he could think up - including “my” addiction to porn! 😂
I later became friends with the next ex-wife ( he had 4)
When she discovered his massive stash of porn movies, magazines & photos he claimed they were mine. She asked him why he kept them and he made up several different stories about that - she said that event was what made her realize she’d married a psycho. They can be incredibly charming, because they’re master actors. You are not alone. It’s easier than one thinks to be fooled by a malignant narcissist. I hope things are better for you now. 🙏🏼❤️
@@poetryjones7946
Thank You So
Very Much You Are
Absolutely Right They
Are Master Manipulators.
I Struggle Daily With Going No Contact..I Already have A
Month of No Contact 😥
I hope you are free now
Vivian McGrath
I Am Just Still
Dealing with Depression
@@demigaines5644 If you need help and support for that there is no shame in it. I’ve listed some free and anonymous helplines here: www.vivianmcgrath.com/domestic-violence-resources/
I don't think this is too long. All very good information. Thank you!
Awesome thank you! I always speak off the top of my head so can go on a bit ha ha
My husband is my Prince Charming. He’s also the biggest monster I’ve ever known, but only when we’re alone.
All the games he plays. I’m so happy that I see it now. I spent a year trying to change. To make him happy. But I just can’t make him happy! Hes always mad. Then when I point out he’s acting differently, he’ll tell me I’ve been mad at HIM!!
He will love me so deeply. Then ignore me. When I ask why, he tells me I’m starting a fight. If he doesn’t spend time with me at all for weeks, I’m needy. I have to always let him know where I’m at, when I got there, when I leave. And all I do is go to the grocery store lately. But if I ask him if he made it somewhere ok, I’m controlling. It doesn’t make any sense. I pray the Lord can help him.
🙏🙏🙏
I hope you left
What really is going on there is that he is making you more and more addicted to the highs and lows so you are hooked to him so between he can use you as punching bag but there will b a time he is so bored that he will triangulate you with someone else and cheat spectacularly! Good luck with your self as he is disintegrating the core of you whilst you are entertaining the idea of finding how to fix him, there is no cure just get ready because one way or another he won’t only just destroy the marriage he will destroy you to friends family and you to you !
You need to divorce the person someday. Don’t be an enabler for the rest of your life. Even if life will be harder, I would say it won’t be harder than eternal emotional abuse 👌
Head over heart isolation and mental health struggles makes leaving feel so impossible
I will be 70 years old next year, and I am only just discovering what has been wrong with me all those years.Thanks to an excellent, deeply invested counsellor, I am finally seeing reality. Her counsel and guidance, support and encouragement, have brought me to the point of detaching myself from the person who gave birth to me, so as to have space to be free to take care of myself and enjoy just being. me No longer going round and round in my head with the confusing, demeaning programming planted in my mind by my birth person, who left this world over 20 years ago, but her dreadful talk remained here, strong, alive and kicking in my head. . Far too detailed and complex to go into here, but I finally have hope of continuing to find joy as I learn to live differently. If you are struggling but can't find a way to express or pin down exactly what is wrong inside you., your head, or how your memories don't add up or make sense, KEEP PUSHING. DON'T GIVE UP. FIND THE PERSON WHO CAN HELP YOU SEE CLEARLY AND BEGIN TO FREE YOURSELF FROM THE AWFUL BURDEN LEFT ON YOUR SHOULDERS. I wish you well. You are worth it.
I didn’t really realize how fortunate I was to get away from my ex until you said 2 women are killed every week by these people
Great take.... !
Please do not forget it is about 50/50 ratio
Of female to male narcissists
Yes, I agree, narcissism doesn't discriminate. Males are victims too. Thank you for reminding us.
Ma'am, you don't talk too much. Your description of the narc is spot on.
Been there, done that.
No need to call me Ma'am and thank you for your kind words.
This is an excellent video.
Thank you for your expertise.
Thank you! Exactly the info I needed today.
I'm so glad to hear it. Thanks for watching
I really like your videos. You’re a very professional speaker, structured and articulate.
So many women in the relationship situation you describe. It's especially painful to watch someone in such a situation while they appear oblivious to what is going on.
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It’s so important to journal and keep a record of EVERYTHING 📝 No contact is best 🚷
It is indeed.
Best info ever thanks
Thanks so much for watching
WOW ! This was exactly like my ex. From stalking my social media for a year (while I was in another relationship which he disrespected), mirroring, lying, moving in quickly, cheating, manipulating, and gas lighting. All of it. I learned a lot after that relationship.
More than michelle nieves i liked hearing u u answered everything in one go keep it up
Loving your content. Thank you! Im 2 days in no contact with ex..very hard. To make it worse he is a NPD with a photographic memory.. very dangerous.
Thanks for the video
I cannot help but thinking about Harry potter and that chest when opened is going to let put whatever your biggest fear is.
Great video and beautiful lipstick 😋
Haha thank you! I am big on lippie and big on earrings too!
Vivian McGrath ❤️
No contact after discard is key
I agree.
for some that is not an option..
@@user-zm9yc2kb8x True. If not, then try to keep all emotion out of any discussion. Stick to facts, logistics (such as where and when to pick up a child) and keep any conversation brief. Document any breaches of court orders meticulously and report if necessary.
Thank you. You are very knowledgeable. I appreciate your channel.
Thank you. I just speak from experience of it
My former boyfriend destroyed my life and career...12 years after we finished (he discarded me) he’s still stalking me and destroying and ruining my life.
Very powerful tips ❤️
Get away from these creeps ..I removed my mother, sister and ex husband they l ock me up and tried to kill me 🙏🙏better stay in prayer ..They need a law for Narcissism
I’ve lost everything. Just yesterday I had started a job so I could go to school to be a teacher next I know if I try to go for two jobs somehow one lets me go. This last job I was literally lied about and cameras would’ve shown that. Yet somehow I was supposed to take accountability for something I hadn’t done. 🤷🏽♀️
I Love Your Videos
I Love How You Explain
The Meaning Of A Narcissists.
I Have Been Given The Silent Treatment
For Over A Year BeCause I Promised The
Narcissists Money And I Changed My Mind
BeCause Of His Abuse.He Went I Rage And
Discarded Me.He a Has Conditioned Me To
Feel Guilt...Can You Please Give Me Some
Advice
Go no contact unless u want to continue their games and brain washing you. This is the best advice bc nothing else works with them . Its either you in or your out. Either your their slave or not! Good luck
touta Thank
You So Very
Much
it will only end when you stop it..stay strong
Demetria Gaines get out if you can
Never telegraph your moves.
No never.
Exactly!
I studied my narcissist carefully once I realized he was a sick person & I needed to leave. By keeping detached & developing a secret, trustworthy support system, I began discovering how strangely easy it was to turn his craziness to my own advantage.
Free yourself, and for the love of god, don’t just jump into another relationship! Stay alone for at least a year - learn to know and befriend your self!
@@poetryjones7946 Perfect advice. Stay still within yourself and learn to love yourself first.
Vivian McGrath Yeah! Man, that was the shock discovery through all this nightmare - that when I learned to approve of myself it gave me this sort of superpower! Weird but true!
@@poetryjones7946 It is a superpower. Such a simple, incredible secret that unlocks everything. I'm glad you've found it too
My mother is a narcissistic... she’s groomed me to have no self worth...met a guy who’s a Drug dealer... guess what... he’s exactly like
My mom... completely predatory narcissist.... fronted me drugs... uses the debt to control when I broke from the addictive substance ... so completely out of control of my life... exit strategy planned... dozens of failed attempts... trying to do my homework this time... please pray for me - please help- I’m so scared I will never know myself
Your learning now and that's the important thing! Remember your in control not them.
Me realizing at 4am I’ve moved 2900 miles away to a different country and now am living with a narcissist, have no job, no where to go and can’t afford to go home:
👁👄👁
If you need help and support to work through this I’ve listed some free and anonymous helplines here: www.vivianmcgrath.com/domestic-violence-resources/
Vivian McGrath thank you so much, i appreciate it ♥️ and thank you for your video as well. it’s helped me realize so much.
If you are a normal
Person let’s call us... lol 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Thankful that modern women will not have to put up with men in personal relationships. We can master bate without being judged and go to a sperm bank. Day care centers will be state funded for women who prefer to work outside the home, or base living provided by big government for moms who want to remain with their child(ren) at all times.
Thank you for this video. Are you a board certified psychologist or psychiatrist?
Better than that. I have actually lived through this. Almost murdered by my ex when 7 months pregnant and broke the toxic cycle for me and my son: www.vivianmcgrath.com/i-am-enough/
You speak as if you are very learned on this topic. : )
Does anyone have tips on how an ESTJ (stubborn and Mr. Right) pacifist can leave or protect themselves from a female covert narcissist?
Should I have my kids around a narcissist mother? I don’t know what the right thing to do is because that’s their grandmother, someone special.
Dont do that - your children will hate you later for that.
A narcissist is a abuser, just remember every rotten syc thing that she done to you...
Do you really want that for your childern ?
There's no special person - no mather who it is - a abuser is a abuser and you have to protect your childern from abuse.
@@katarinatibai8396 Thank you for responding! I appreciate you.
Isn’t empathy about understanding other’s emotions?
In my experience, this describes the monk teacher/female student of Tibetan Buddhism. I'm great at crawling on my knees. Over $10,000 in 10 years from this poverty-level person . . .
Please do not generalize.
18:20 or he will hurt the pets to get you out of the hotel you're hiding in.
Please, if possible, rescue any pets that might need it.
Psycho narcissist have v2k and r n m so there's no stopping them and there's nothing you can do about them anymore the bottom line is it's Doomsday.
they are FREAKS ?
certainly different!
agtrr
Mistitled - waste of time
Thanks for your feedback
So rude of you. If you didn't identify or whatever just move on!
@@Unbeatable Thanks for your work & exemplary reply to the above criticism. Girl you got grace! x
Catherine identifies as a narcissist 🤪😂
@@jenrich111 must be a narcissist commenting that.. so just ignore them just like Vivian did 😄