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Thank you ❤ I relate

7 years after posting this, you may have saved my life. I’ve read so many books, taken so many courses, joined support groups, multiple therapists…. this is the first time I’ve seen this truth in full. Thank you.

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hi vivian im christian just wanted to tell you im 17 turning 18 currently i dated a girl which i really loved still a part of me does i feel like shit because im away from her she also gave me that high you mentioned she was a bit abusive like you said testing bounderies but i really wanna go back to her we dated like 4/5 times before she started doing homeschooling in the morning of today i told her im sorry that i caused her pain its been a year since we last communicated i really dont know what im doing currently cause everything at school just reminds me of her im in a relationship currently with someone who actually cares alot about me and sees the small things but i feel like our relationship is slowly decaying and i dont know why id wanna do all this to myself again if you do get this please im in need of help

I appreciate your video so much. I needed to hear this today.

Thanks so much for this video and for the insights. The reason i feel like a "failure" at times is that I bottled up all the bad emotion and never spoke of the things I never agreed with. The Feeling of guilt rises from the fact that had i spoken things, perhaps, could have been different (good or bad). I have learned that it helps to speak, as you rightly say that any emotion or feeling is a messenger. It's one of the lessons I take along with me.

Unfortunately when this is your family of origin is much more difficult to admit and see it, because they play mind games with us!

No, they do not lack empathy! ALSO, WHEN WE SAY NARC, WE DO NOT MEAN ONE PERSON! THEY LACK HUMANNESS! AND THEY DO NOT DESERVE ANY TOWARDS THEM EITHER! PERIOD!!! YOU ARE TALKING WITH SUCH KINDNESS AND EMPATHY ABOUT THEM AS THOUGH THEY DESERVE IT! WHICH IS MISLEADING FOR THE VICTIMS WHO UNDERMINE THE PROBLEM!

I remember when I was addicted to my lover LORD it was a nightmare after let it go I'm so much free now but I must say Prayers has God for His help no other way 🎯

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Breaking a really good person's heart is the absolute worst feeling in the world, it quite honestly nearly killed me 😞

Viviana,I hope one day i can tell to the public "he is gentlemen who undrestand that I was abused by a psychopath cult" I'm happy for you for having a great man in your side❤

Thank you for this ❤

It’s hard when you’re both good people and love eachother. I left my family, life and hometown for him and it’s been almost 2 years and I still don’t feel like home here and don’t see myself in this new state for the long run. He can’t leave not dues he want to ever due to his children. Mine are grown. I’m going back home and losing him but I feel I’m losing myself staying

I do too. I feel SO bad for my abuser....He IS mentally ill, and apparently had a traumatic and abusive childhood (if it's true) and i really don't think it's his fault that he is awful abusive person. he wasn't always that way just became it once he felt comfortable. But no matter what happens i just feel SO bad for him. My heart brakes for him. I can NOT imagine being him or living a life like that and feeling enraged 24/7 like he does.. I can't imagine not being able to change and he HAS to hate himself??? I can't imagine being so messed up to where you feel nothing but anger and hatred and want to hurt people. Especially nice people who care about you. I know he is narcicist and sociopath. But yes i feel bad and i can't stop and nobody understands. but yes, i am a empath and always have been. Actually it was even in my DNA i had some mutation that makes me more empathetic than most people. So it's genetic i can't help it. And i hate it to be honest. Would rather be an awful person so i didn't feel pain. But i know his DNA makes him who he is too. He was probably supposed to be a warrior or killer or supposed to be fighting off bears and dinosaurs or something. I'm one of those people that thinks everyone is special all types of people. And nobody is better than anyone else. I also have a history of severe childhood narcicistic abuse, so i dunno if that is what makes me attract all these narcicists. I hate it SO MUCH!!!!!!!!

Wow...video 7 years old..but so relevant right today...similar to the Bible❤. Thank u, good to know I'm not by myself in feeling sorry for my ex😊.

I feel so sorry for him, he's an orphan with no career prospects and I am a doctor, my career has always been steady. I was beaten up, abused verbally on a daily basis, financially supported him, and took care in every way I could. He has made me hate myself, he dehumanised me told me I was nothing but a horrible person who deserved it, and for the longest time (even today) i do feel that I deserve the abuse. Coming from the medical field, sympathy and empathy was deeply inculcated in my brain and I would always believe he didn't deserve such a horrible person like me. I was a rambler and would often spill out secrets, which was his excuse to isolate me from all my friends and family, never take me to meet his friends because I was the reason he had to leave all his friends. He often blamed me for ruining his life and career and made me attempt suicide 4 times within the last 6 months. One time when I was at his house I tried to end myself and he got so abusive and hit my all over my body saying "if you want to die then go fucking die but do not do it in my house as I would lose the next 30 years in jail". I still chose to forgive him thinking I was so selfish to try and end my life because it would destroy his. Yesterday I finally lodged a complaint against him and I still don't feel he deserved or that I did something wrong. I hope I find the courage to fight this

thank you for sharing Its a work in progress.

What a kind and thoughtful video you've shared. Thank you : )

Why she just didn't kick him out .

Thank you so much

How do I help out as a bestie when my female friend keeps going bak to her abuser

Oh boy 😮this explains so much !!Many many thanks 🥰💜🫶🙏

Years ago I went through a severely devastating breakup, maybe a year later all of the emotions finally hit me all at once. Immense mourning of someone I couldn’t see or touch ever again. I cried for weeks straight I literally had no more tears to cry. That completely changed my life

Thank you❤

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my mum always say bad things about me to my kids. she alwats want to be please, she always shouts at me , she domt care at all whem isbe depression she wants to be queen. perfectionist.

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Many mothers are deeply jealous of their daughters and will do all they can to prevent their daughters from being happy and having a peaceful life because they themselves are unhappy and don´t want you to have something that they don´t. Deeply selfish and utterly cruel.

You have probably saved my life, you just explained my situation perfectly, thank you, I just kicked him out.

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Thank you for video, I have been struggling after discurd. But I already have been 8 years 3 break-up and get sucked in back. Waste so long. I am glad I am able to notice this time. Yes hurts, get up and down, but I am not going back that hell. Now I know he said his previous girlfriend were drug user, alcoholic, so he separated. I believe he drove them.

What she says makes complete sense. And she described my mom to a T. After 35 yrs of my moms abuse I ended up hating her guts & I cut her from my life. I never wanted to hate my mom but I decided to drop to her level & show her the treatment she displayed on me.

You’re too sensitive or You’re so dramatic or You’re so high maintenance or You don’t live in the real world

i love this

I can't even hold my dog least properly according to him. What a bunch of idiot snobbery.

Nope. Not me. I just want them to leave me alone.

They absolutely exploit and destroy your sense of self

I feel that we are trying to fix something that when it doesn't fix, it breaks the r/s

Thanks for sharing your personal story. All the good and bad people in life are giving us lessons. Especially those bad people destroy our heart and soul. Indeed is giving us a chance to rebuild ourselves. For this could overcome the rebuild process. We become a better person. Along the process. Needa have someone to accompany with. Usually genuine friends. Wish all destroyed hearts and soul can be connected back 🤍🩵🪽

Yeah, but, Those partners WILL see them & you WILL get caught out eventually. All this advice does nothing to keep you safe, & if you DO get caught out, & God forbid, WATCH OUT, CAUSE THERE WILL BE HELL TO PAY OTHERWISE!!!. MY ADVICE IS TO LEAVE , RUN & RUN FAST & NEVER LOOK BACK!!!

My other best mate, when we were much younger. My mates parents gave her £1 to spend for the whole evening at a show at fairfields halls. Fancy been given £1 ,,& to be expected to use that throughout the whole evening. Just how financially Abusive behaviour that was!

My best mate was financially abused by her husband & her husbands daughter & his granddaughter. My best mates account was emptied. The poor girl!

LEAVE, DON'T THINK FOR A MINUTE, GET OUT OF THE RELATIONSHIP, ASAP BEFORE ITS ALL TOO LATE!!!

My ex partner admitted all of his fault when he was trying to get me back. He said he was ready to become a better person for me, that he wanted to marry me, that he would cook with me, that I was the women of his life, that I was the only thing that matters. He knew how bad he was and he addimited everything was his fault. However I did not go back. Because I've heard this promesses before and they never change :( and yes, I still love him. But I have to take care of myself first

Hi Vivien. I've never agreed with domestic abuse, never thought it was a good thing at all. The thing is, I have been a perpetrator of domestic violence. I know, its not a great thing to admit. And I'm no Narcissist, I think my problem, if you want to call it that was low self esteem and childhood abuse led me to be abusive. (Not making excuses, just explaining why I think it happened). I've said sorry to my ex wife many times for this abusive behaviour. I feel ashamed and disgusted with myself. I think the issue is that it's personal, (or in the family), so it's nobody else's business. Or that's the perception I get of domestic violence. It needs to be everybody's business, it needs to be out in the open, it needs to be exposed not hidden. I was arrested for my abuse 16 years ago, I've been in other relationships and never been violent since.. I'm glad that I was arrested, it was the right thing to do.. Now I'm expecting everyone on here to hate me and fair enough, but I'm giving people an insight from another perspective.

The most imp is to recognize that they Absolutely DO NOT DESERVE IT!!!

Thank you so much for making this video. I have been healing and learning from my mistakes to insure I don't draw another person like this. 💯

I never leave comments, but you are amazing. Seriously, well done to you🎉

Thank you so much for this wise, kind message.