The Power Of Calmness: How To Win Any Argument

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    Ye has been doing interviews recently, and they have not all gone well :-)
    It’s not uncommon for someone to get frustrated in a disagreement. What’s rare is for you to argue with someone and have them walk away liking you MORE afterwards.
    But that’s exactly what happened in a conversation between Ye and Lex Friedman.
    So in today’s video, we’ll break down that conversation to show you 8 tips to change someone’s mind AND have them love you for it.
    ⏰TIMESTAMPS⏰
    0:00 - Intro
    0:25 - First Mistake: Transitioning away from a topic without first listening
    0:55 - Second Mistake: Cutting someone off
    1:22 - #1: Listen deeply and make the other person feel heard
    2:25 - #2: Use a calm, slow voice
    4:00 - #3: Criticize specific behavior
    4:48 - #4: When you agree on something, tell them
    5:39 - #5: Express empathy
    6:23 - #6: Be vulnerable when you feel a negative emotion
    7:29 - #7: Accept playful breaks
    8:18 - #8: Give them a reputation they like and want to live up to
    10:35 - Help us make the world a better place
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  • @illyastheprof
    @illyastheprof Před rokem +1620

    Man, Piers has become the gold standard on what NOT to do in a conversation lol. The man attempts "gotcha" moments in every single sentence.

    • @WanderTheNomad
      @WanderTheNomad Před rokem +52

      It depends on what you want from the conversation. If you want to "win" and have the other person look bad and you look good, Piers' way might be better. If you want to "win" and come away from the conversation with a mutual understanding and a positive relationship, Lex's way is probably better.

    • @ethanstump
      @ethanstump Před rokem +18

      @@WanderTheNomad but few people actually want to live like that, making people look bad, and generally they don't actually like it, coming from someone who has done that. that being said, i often do think it's a false dichotomy, to believe that it's either possible to foster positive relationship's, or to be correct. you can be both or neither at the same time, you can be correct and respectful, or correct and disrespectful, and generally i do believe that more people will examine their belief's when they don't feel disrespected. that being said, i do believe some people are too far gone, and even with being logical and respectful, there are some people you just won't reach. but if you have a decent mix of both, you will be far more effective than if you are just logical, or just loving.

    • @WanderTheNomad
      @WanderTheNomad Před rokem +7

      @@ethanstump Yea I'm talking specifically when you have a conversation with someone while you have an audience. It would make little to no sense to talk like Piers Morgans does if you have no one else watching.

    • @ethanstump
      @ethanstump Před rokem +16

      @@WanderTheNomad but even with an audience, i do think even Lex's method is superior, maybe in not in term's of reaching the widest audience, but convincing the widest amount of people. but then, a lot of the TV personalities don't actually care about being convincing, as long as the paycheck is bigger than the other guys.

    • @kareandersson
      @kareandersson Před rokem +6

      In his talk with Jordan Peterson he proudly announce himself as a clinical psychopath.

  • @tomtom21194
    @tomtom21194 Před rokem +1780

    Lex has repeatedly surprised and impressed me in a lot of his podcasts. I don't think his guests, especially the more volatile ones are used to such a calm, thoughtful interviewer who doesn't play with egos. He asks, he makes dry jokes but never mocks the one he is talking to. He finds things he agrees with and tells them and points out what he doesn't in a way that isn't seen as an attack. He is really impressive.

    • @alypha737
      @alypha737 Před rokem +5

      but why he mad at JM tho its fucken true

    • @aburoach9268
      @aburoach9268 Před rokem +23

      @@alypha737 🤦‍♂

    • @NotGilmore
      @NotGilmore Před rokem +1

      Yeah it feels like he had training with Chris Voss 😂

    • @arottie4097
      @arottie4097 Před rokem

      Meh

    • @scottwillie6389
      @scottwillie6389 Před rokem +1

      Ye broke him though. Totally caused Lex to lose his cool and throw off his mask.

  • @user-qb5os5um8h
    @user-qb5os5um8h Před rokem +2984

    Lex's communication skills are next level.
    Like how carefully he uses each and every word is really impressive.
    It simply shows that a person is kind and smart at the same time.

    • @CoolPapaJMagik
      @CoolPapaJMagik Před rokem +60

      Nah... he may have seemed calm but he was very manipulative

    • @funincluded
      @funincluded Před rokem

      He jumped down Yes throat every time he pointed out someone is Jewish, but is happy to categorize evil white men- in a way that indicates being white is powerful and that they are evil.

    • @lukeburas4271
      @lukeburas4271 Před rokem +6

      @@CoolPapaJMagik in what ways? I have not watched it

    • @resir9807
      @resir9807 Před rokem +36

      Agreed. It's hard talking to an adult with the mental faculties of a 6 year old

    • @CoolPapaJMagik
      @CoolPapaJMagik Před rokem +44

      @@lukeburas4271 every time Kanye brings up a point he wants lex to address or even wants lex to understand why he would feel the way he does, lex brings up the h o l o c o s t to guilt him out of pursuing any further

  • @golu_badbola
    @golu_badbola Před rokem +2113

    Lex looks 25, has intellectual level of 55 while having patience and stoicity of a 75 year old.

    • @tigre9271
      @tigre9271 Před rokem +126

      He's Russian. Stoicism is in his DNA

    • @AustenSummers
      @AustenSummers Před rokem +4

      Stoicism*

    • @reddogbrew6895
      @reddogbrew6895 Před rokem +30

      no. lex friedman said black people can be a group, whites, hispanics and so on can be a group. but as soon as you call out the J team they arent a group and youre a nazi...

    • @scottwillie6389
      @scottwillie6389 Před rokem +5

      @@tigre9271 He is most certainly not Russian.

    • @tigre9271
      @tigre9271 Před rokem +16

      @@scottwillie6389 Are you sure? Did you research his background?
      Lex Fridman
      Russian-American computer scientist
      Lex Fridman is a Russian-American computer scientist, artificial intelligence researcher, and podcaster. He is known for hosting a podcast and CZcams series, the Lex Fridman Podcast in which he interviews a wide variety of guests.

  • @sultanmohammed4944
    @sultanmohammed4944 Před rokem +192

    Summary:
    1-listen deeply and make the other person feel heard
    2-use a calm, slow voice
    3-criticise specific behaviour
    4-when you agree in something,tell them
    5-express empathy
    6-be vulnerable when you feel a negative emotion
    7-accept playful breaks
    8-give them a reputation they like and want to live up to

    • @danieljakistam9409
      @danieljakistam9409 Před rokem

      Unless they're jewish. Then you can only praise them.

    • @kathrynhumphreys2467
      @kathrynhumphreys2467 Před rokem +1

      This is super helpful thank you for taking the time to make this list

    • @ITMT.
      @ITMT. Před 9 měsíci

      Don’t forget the constant referencing to the holocaust in order to shut down the conversation. Past tragedies can’t be used to restrict a discussion now. Especially those that are questionable in their finer details.

  • @MrHoofington
    @MrHoofington Před rokem +758

    My best technique is the Socratic method aka just asking questions and letting them explore their own ideas. You can pick holes in their argument if you want by asking leading questions, but don't do this too much or they'll feel cornered, you need to make it clear that you're genuinely trying to learn their perspective.

    • @vermiliongourd4619
      @vermiliongourd4619 Před rokem +30

      This can be condescending if you’re the one who needs to reflect your thinking too

    • @noompsieOG
      @noompsieOG Před rokem +3

      I agree with you. Although I have never needed to pick any holes , I ask 1 maybe 2 questions and people either retreat or use a common argument fallacy. So what you mean is be more careful with my questions ? That seems like work , and tbh I’d rather admit I’m wrong and they are right so I don’t have to waste any more time or energy

    • @vermiliongourd4619
      @vermiliongourd4619 Před rokem +9

      @@noompsieOG man, these are terrible responses. Are we just incapable of having dialogue? Why do you feel the need to “agree but actually disagree and walk away”?

    • @noompsieOG
      @noompsieOG Před rokem +4

      @@vermiliongourd4619 easier 🤷‍♂️ I’m just lazy

    • @Gruso57
      @Gruso57 Před rokem +3

      This is a bit too close to machiavellianism. You shouldn't lead who you are talking to into traps. Are you talking to someone to "dismantle" their views or are you talking to someone to learn?

  • @judylandry302
    @judylandry302 Před rokem +130

    When I'm feeling angry and hateful, I hate everyone and everyone hates me. But when I smile, even if I don't feel like it, and acknowledge people they smile back and are kind, and then I like them back. So simple, and I feel so much better, and so do they.

    • @petegasperson6309
      @petegasperson6309 Před rokem +9

      That might be the most valuable thing I have seen written in an online comment, anywhere, ever.

    • @luisman369
      @luisman369 Před rokem +2

      That's wholesome and all and it genuinely works at times depending of the gravity of our mental well being at the moment. But to do that as a kind of motto is a direct path to superficiality, shallowness and toxic positivity.

    • @Lyonessi
      @Lyonessi Před rokem

      Thanks Judy I'm going to try this

  • @Chuby_ubesie
    @Chuby_ubesie Před rokem +126

    This guy proves that it takes love to overcome hate

  • @RussellClausse
    @RussellClausse Před rokem +520

    our enemy is not the person who we are arguing against, but our own ego lol
    shit's just so hard to put down and actually listen to the other person but its so important to push through and maintain that state of calm... lex is fantastic at that💯

    • @wellnesspathforme6236
      @wellnesspathforme6236 Před rokem

      Ego is code for deep internal Fe-ar and insecurity. What is called the ego is the response to thr deep Fe-ar and insecurity.
      Metallic iron filings rust out the nervous system, uoregulate the sympathetic nervous system, which then drains blood from the prefrontal cortex.
      And here we are.
      Put down the toxic metallic iron infused into the processed foold supply based on lies.
      Let me know if you more details...

    • @RussellClausse
      @RussellClausse Před rokem +3

      @@wellnesspathforme6236 for now, but I am open to considerations, but I think that we do need a small amount of ego to achieve true confidence. In my opinion, one cannot exist without the other

    • @wellnesspathforme6236
      @wellnesspathforme6236 Před rokem +2

      @@RussellClausse You bring up a great point. There is probably a fair bit of nuance in this complex system. I have more ruminating to do. :-)
      BTW, your point is 100% true. Nothing I said was intended to undermine it. We often are our own worst enemy because of "ego" and all its dimensions.

    • @RussellClausse
      @RussellClausse Před rokem +1

      @@wellnesspathforme6236 haha yes of course! Such a complex system that will take us many years to get a grasp of, maybe never in our lifetimes!
      Someone recommended i read the book the power of now to change my viewpoint on ego, i had already purchased it and im gonna give it a read sometime 🙏

    • @wellnesspathforme6236
      @wellnesspathforme6236 Před rokem +1

      @@RussellClausse It is an excellent book and worth the read. Tolle's appearance is over-the-top "fufu" to me, but the data in the book is good.
      There is a metabolic component, IMHO.
      Iron overload and hyperacidosis produce bad outcomes, but that's not to say the absence of those provides good outcomes. The Money Power Famikies are alkaline bloodline narcissists out to genocide all other bloodlines, so there is that. lol
      I recommend the following four books to prime your metabolism for a "high energy/vibration level." Literally, active and efficient mitochondrial energy production.
      1. Cure Your Fatigue
      2. The pH Miracle (revised and updated)
      3. The Soy Zone (Zone Diet, soy is relatively higher in copper and it is alkaline)
      4. Irritable Brain Syndrome (and how to go after acid producing and tissue damaging candida).
      ...
      The soy boy narrative is mostly nonsense. First, in general they don't eat soy. But they do eat metallic iron filings like they are a year end sale. The first book is by the creator of The Root Cause Protocol. He explains the iron overload stuck in the tissues where not measured dynamic. He probably has almost 200 interviews on CZcams.
      Biology of Belief is another good book that Kit Campbell covers in Irritable Brain Syndrome and in interviews.
      Also, toxic seed oil should be avoided.
      Udo's Oil and similar high quality oils are about the only option, but don't heat them. I vacuum seal them with wine vacuum seal systems.

  • @ryrodriguez25
    @ryrodriguez25 Před rokem +74

    Notice Lex’s slow low sounding demeanor? It’s brilliant tactic

    • @sijenkai3928
      @sijenkai3928 Před rokem +3

      Lowkey sounds like me when i pulled an all nighter, its better for me to think so slow

  • @TakeBackYourMind997
    @TakeBackYourMind997 Před rokem +121

    Criticising specific behaviours and not the person as a whole is really good advice. Lex seems to always see the good in people and shine a light on that in conversation, that really helps with people being more receptive to criticism and less defensive.

    • @222taxation8
      @222taxation8 Před rokem

      Have you watched it? Have Fr watched it? He was trynna hoe

  • @1LadyM7
    @1LadyM7 Před rokem +433

    Lex Friedman is probably one of the most impressive men I've seen in a while. I've been listening to him on his podcast for a while now and I am absolutely in love with his thought process and the way he handles himself and his guests. The Ye interview just took all of that to a whole new level.

    • @SiriusSphynx
      @SiriusSphynx Před rokem

      @Black Lesbian Poet And you just like the security of an echo chamber

    • @lookatthisbizarre2940
      @lookatthisbizarre2940 Před rokem +16

      lex is a very weird guy, i feel like he cons people with his calm way of speaking but there is something going on with him. i dont trust him at all he seems fake

    • @trey9775
      @trey9775 Před rokem +11

      The devil is known for smooth words. Lex is gaslighting tf outa Ye

    • @scottv8124
      @scottv8124 Před rokem

      @@chiccavaquita the music and film industry is primarily run by Jewish people. That's provable fact. Kanye is in the music business and is an artist, his art is owned by people who aren't creative. Creative people tend to suffer more from mental illness because they question things and want to see things from a different angle and unless you're either highly connected and willing to do what you're told or highly creative you cant make a living in the arts. Book smart, rich kids fit into society very well because they're accepting and will get the well paying jobs, lay on top of their wives, have kids, make money, believe the news, vote and go on nice vacations. Lex, and the like would never question why wtc7 randomly collapsed, why a group of Israeli art students were having an 'art' project on the 91st floor of the wtc or why we went to Vietnam after jfk was murdered. Those people are good at managing life, accepting it for what it is and for the most part being at minimum, content

    • @ebonix33
      @ebonix33 Před rokem

      No he is not.... lex didn't give af what ye was saying... he just cared about the Jewish BS

  • @eyoelgashaw5089
    @eyoelgashaw5089 Před rokem +56

    As a person from Ethiopia, since you gave a colossal charity, I would love to say thank you for your generosity

  • @Ben.Stevenson
    @Ben.Stevenson Před rokem +52

    Lex has really built a next level podcast and next level interviewing skills

  • @brendenbowers
    @brendenbowers Před rokem +93

    Lex is a champion. A true role model. His varied guests and exceptionally long form podcast are a great way to get into a subject.

    • @silvermoneydude2044
      @silvermoneydude2044 Před rokem +2

      He's definitely good at playing the victim and talking down to people.

    • @LinkEX
      @LinkEX Před rokem +12

      @@silvermoneydude2044 Where did Lex talk down to people?
      That is true for some podcast hosts on some topics.
      But of all the interviews I've heard of him, he's actually always been very humble and never tried to push his opinions.

    • @Digger-Nick
      @Digger-Nick Před rokem +1

      @@silvermoneydude2044 I don't watch much of him but I'd like to see some examples.

    • @aarorissanen930
      @aarorissanen930 Před rokem +1

      @@silvermoneydude2044 "boohoo boohoo babababab" - you

    • @elbowblock6962
      @elbowblock6962 Před rokem

      @@silvermoneydude2044 example?

  • @matthewr7593
    @matthewr7593 Před rokem +251

    I loved this video, thank you for it. I loved how at the end Ye and Lex were closer and more open about their desire to spread love than ever before. And Ye apologized to him, not that that matters in itself, but it just shows he wanted to express to Lex that he cared about him and wouldn't want to hurt him. That's powerful.

    • @RodrigoOswego
      @RodrigoOswego Před rokem +2

      Lex seemed angry and his tolerance seemed forced throughout the entire interview. At the end he said something along the lines of "nothing is promised but death" which seemed like a thinly veiled threat or prophecy.

    • @N1rOx
      @N1rOx Před rokem +6

      @@RodrigoOswego 😂😂😂 comedy gold

    • @marceelino
      @marceelino Před rokem +3

      @@RodrigoOswego "nothing is promised but death", it just means you do not know what the future holds, we only know that our lives end in death.

  • @JKNACK3
    @JKNACK3 Před rokem +89

    This interview was THE FIRST time I heard of Lex. I was IMPRESSED and found the whole interview great to watch and see how both handled it. Lex has incredible control and can easily steer the convo in the ways he wants. He gained a sub that day, and really helped me see that I needed to calm down while dealing with people I disagree with, and really HEAR them more than I already am. Thanks for not painting Ye in such a bad light either, He's not crazy, just not taught well in how to speak or react like Lex or one of your subscribers. Love the video gang, thanks for informing others!

    • @MrFrussel
      @MrFrussel Před rokem +3

      If you want to listen more of his more 'human' conversations, I would highly recommend the following episodes.
      317 , 312, 311, 310, 301 ( highly recommended) , 288, 278 , 276, 272 ,255 , 228, 196 , 169 , 140
      Not to say the others aren't great, but they tend to be a bit more technical.

    • @davidbrook9686
      @davidbrook9686 Před rokem

      This point is Lex level and articulated my exact experience as well. Especially the point about calming down when dealing with people I disagree with.

    • @teovu5557
      @teovu5557 Před rokem +3

      Lex a respected computer scientist, artificial intelligence researcher and a professor at M.I.T. As well as a BJJ black belt who competed against BJJ legends like Gary Tonon, musician and a successful Podcaster at 39 years old
      He also has an IQ of 180(Einstein had an IQ of 200) . lex is a beast and super chill guy all once.

  • @LV_Gaming10
    @LV_Gaming10 Před rokem +19

    He's so calm and it's so rare these days.

  • @t.b.cont.
    @t.b.cont. Před rokem +15

    One thing to keep in mind is that hate isn’t a lack of love. It’s not like a void of it, that’s what apathy is. He might be lashing out hatefully, but it’s coming from a point of passion. Even if his hate is fixated on the wrong things.
    You cannot truly win an argument against a person you don’t understand. Having the capacity to empathize where your opponent is coming from is one of the strongest tools you can have in a debate. Your goal in an argument isn’t to crush your opponent but to lift them to your understanding, because you can’t win someone over by alienating them.

  • @IFGchannel931
    @IFGchannel931 Před rokem +70

    Lex is a legend. Sometimes, in normal conversations, his way of talking seems a bit slow or uninterested (also he sounds like he took sedatives right before the interviews, lol). But it's in situations like this that you see his calm and collected style really pays off. Kanye is one of the oddest people out there, but as the saying goes, "those hardest to love are the ones who need it the most". I feel like Lex could pierce through his shell and plant a little seed there.

    • @gnanasabaapatirg7376
      @gnanasabaapatirg7376 Před rokem

      Man his interview with Jordan was painfully slow

    • @sandrar.focseneau4106
      @sandrar.focseneau4106 Před rokem +1

      😂 maybe he did take sedatives. Dealing with Ye, whom I totally like and appreciate, you need to.

  • @zoeythewhitelioness
    @zoeythewhitelioness Před rokem +18

    This might be one of the most important videos I've ever seen regarding my own life and how to deal with conflict.

  • @bryanharrison3889
    @bryanharrison3889 Před rokem +38

    Lex is the most underrated host and interviewer probably in human history... There's very few people who are on this gentleman's level.

    • @H0m3r_Simpson
      @H0m3r_Simpson Před rokem +3

      Yeah, I like him, and agree with your general praise, but come on... "human history"? That part does the opposite of what you intend to do - it is so ridiculous over the top, that people will try to find flaws in his way of interviewing just to prove your point wrong. So what are you gaining by so bluntly overselling him? I really do not get it.

  • @admtech69
    @admtech69 Před rokem +9

    Lexs martial arts training comes through, his is the path of humility and infinite patience.

  • @A-a-ron888
    @A-a-ron888 Před rokem +27

    Lex is such a gem, he goes into the fire of tough conversations here and there and it's so funny cuz he's such a pure hearted guy tackling topics, ideas, realities that are so sinister, vile, dark and twisted sometimes.

  • @radfoo72
    @radfoo72 Před rokem +202

    I watched Lex's full podcast and I gotta say Kanye's joke about why people can't stay mad at him caught me off guard and had me in stitches🤣
    Being able to temporarily ease tension by bringing levity to a conversation despite your disagreement is a strength💪🏼

    • @RianJudge
      @RianJudge Před rokem +6

      I completely agree😂

    • @rougebaba3887
      @rougebaba3887 Před rokem +16

      And the way Lex responded was the perfect maneuver. The tension just drained from the conversation.

  • @noaheye3428
    @noaheye3428 Před rokem +8

    Lex is an emotional genius. He seems slow sometimes but he's really just taking his time to think it through. I would love to give that guy a hug.

  • @seth462
    @seth462 Před rokem +183

    Wow!! It was difficult to watch, as I had preconceived notions, but made it to the end and was absolutely stunned by the result. Definitely made me consider the way I will interact. I want to be as good as Lex and bring out the best in myself and others.

    • @MisterWealth
      @MisterWealth Před rokem +6

      Lex was far from stoic in this, he was mad that Ye pointed out all the people suppressing him in his life are J's. Lex lost his cool more than Ye did.

    • @Smenchevieve
      @Smenchevieve Před rokem +10

      @@MisterWealth Ye yelled a few times while Lex never raised his voice. I don't see your point

    • @dismalthoughts
      @dismalthoughts Před rokem +3

      @@MisterWealth Lex disagreed with a few things Ye said and how they were framed, and there were a few times he made that clear, but I don't think he ever "lost his cool". He expressed his dissent in a very respectful, calm manner, and I think the evidence for his great handling of the interview is evidenced in the outcome. But it's been a while since I've watched it; I'd love to know which parts you found to show Lex losing his cool. I'm admittedly biased towards Lex and might have overlooked it 😅

    • @76482
      @76482 Před rokem +2

      @@dismalthoughts , You didn't over look anything. Some people seem to think it has to mean there's an argument if everyone isn't in agreement or they aren't all saying the exact same thing. I married into a family like that and it's tortuous.. never an exchange of ideas, perspectives, or opinions. Everybody just endlessly parrots what somebody else (usually my MIL) already said.

    • @marceelino
      @marceelino Před rokem

      @@Smenchevieve to be fair, you do not have to raise a voice to show your anger. You can calmly hurt other people with just words.

  • @huxleyginsberg13
    @huxleyginsberg13 Před rokem +39

    Well done on this video. Haven’t seen a breakdown as nuanced as this one on this whole mess of a topic.

  • @kinggchile
    @kinggchile Před rokem +18

    Thank you for this vid. I just experienced a break up w/ a woman who I thought was going to be my wife, over the most trivial argument, that has still left me dumbfounded. I tried very hard to keep my cool over the course of what was like 2 hrs of nonsense drama, but I eventually wore out and folded. I will practice what was demonstrated in this video and never let anyone get my goat again.

    • @stacys8729
      @stacys8729 Před rokem +4

      I don't want to say anything negative about your gf, of course I don't know her. But I think a long term commitment , like a marriage, takes BOTH people working hard to communicate and respect one another. I don't know you, but chin up - we all learn and grow, bit it takes two. Took me a long time to understand that communicating about how we comminicate, as silly as that sounds, is vital.

    • @kinggchile
      @kinggchile Před rokem +1

      @@stacys8729 Thank you for the kind words. ❤️

  • @BaliandbeyondCa
    @BaliandbeyondCa Před rokem +38

    Great video. Lex is the Man. Love him. Thanks.

  • @masterotica
    @masterotica Před rokem

    This was such an inspiring video, I've watched a lot of debates and interviews in this day age and they usually amount to nothing more than idealogical shouting matches. This was the only time where I felt both sides listened to and understood each other, and one side even walked away with a complete change of heart. We definitely need more of this today's polarized environment.

  • @mochaest1994
    @mochaest1994 Před rokem +8

    thank you for breaking down his interviews because they certainly had me perplexed, and thank you for donating to charity!

  • @igorabdoaguilar9331
    @igorabdoaguilar9331 Před rokem +6

    This video is one of your best so far! been following your work since 2019. Learned a lot so far.
    This type od de-escalation and finding mutual agreement, common ground is probably what we are needing the most the contemporary landscape of discussions. Thanks for the content

  • @Videome123
    @Videome123 Před rokem +8

    Lex became a champion/hero in my book. How can you casually and calmly talk to a person filled with so much pain and hatred without losing it at them, especially when they start taking jabs at you and your ancestry... While showing so much empathy towards him.... I don't think I'd be able to do the same

  • @christopherdanielowski1747

    This was the most beautiful video you've ever made. That was emotionally moving

  • @KaBastian
    @KaBastian Před rokem +12

    WOW! This video was insanely well put together and will help me so much in the future, thank you for this ❤️

  • @ryannewman2835
    @ryannewman2835 Před rokem +8

    This is one of the greatest CZcams videos I’ve ever seen. Thank you for producing engaging content that will hopefully make us better people.

  • @chillokapi5225
    @chillokapi5225 Před rokem +6

    Phenomenal. My mind is more open now after watching this. Thanks for this

  • @davidogundipe808
    @davidogundipe808 Před rokem +15

    I also appreciate how you better people's behavior with video like these thanks.

  • @sulken
    @sulken Před rokem +7

    Thanks for this video...Language and demeanor are powerful when it comes to how people receive and understand eachother.

  • @maudelagarza4972
    @maudelagarza4972 Před rokem +4

    Congratulations on making such a great video on such an amazing conversation. It's a quick guide on getting better in conversations which will make you a better human. This video should be considered before every interview.

  • @MrClearlySpeak
    @MrClearlySpeak Před rokem +35

    Lex is a pretty strong interviewer, definitely one of the best.

  • @bkkaranja2873
    @bkkaranja2873 Před rokem

    Thanks for Juxtaposing the 2 interviews ... Very insightful what it takes to go into an interview to argue versus going in to listen and understand...

  • @Myeyesburnbabyburn
    @Myeyesburnbabyburn Před rokem +1

    LOVE! It’s hard sometimes when things seem to be so dark and full of chaos. LOVE

  • @sylvesterbiersay369
    @sylvesterbiersay369 Před rokem +9

    Thank you for this video and for this insight

  • @salvatoreharvey3520
    @salvatoreharvey3520 Před rokem

    I’m two videos into your channel. Already, as an “introverted person”, I’m looking forward to watching/listening to the rest of your videos and the videos to come.

  • @ArkhamsAngel13
    @ArkhamsAngel13 Před rokem

    I really appreciate these videos.they have actually helped me in a few scenarios and I can't tell you how I am grateful for it.thank you and please keep them coming, I have the utmost respect for them and for you taking the time to make them.

  • @alexanderbuchler4048
    @alexanderbuchler4048 Před rokem +14

    Lev is next Lexel. It's unreal how skilled he is at steering a conversation.

  • @GrowthMindsetChannel
    @GrowthMindsetChannel Před rokem +6

    "You have power over your mind - not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength." ~ Marcus Aurelius 🙏😊

  • @iveneverseenahealthyvegan.9885

    This is why conversation is an Art.
    Not many know how it works.
    This has helped many.
    Thank you..🇬🇧

  • @TheMusicscotty
    @TheMusicscotty Před rokem +2

    Just when I think I can't love this channel any more, they prove actions by donating again to charity water. Good gracious. I love you guys!!

  • @arslongavitabreves
    @arslongavitabreves Před rokem +3

    Tbh I've never knew anything about this Lex guy, never even watched any of his videos. But just as soon as I finished watching this, I subscribed to the man. He deserves my highest respect.

  • @johnjosmith42
    @johnjosmith42 Před rokem +4

    Must say, this was a great vid 👏 thank you 🇬🇧

  • @ryannsam5298
    @ryannsam5298 Před rokem

    Dang it I was not expecting to have the waterworks from this! 😭
    This was inspiring and I love this video! I also see inspiration to keep working on and be more aware of my own delivery. It’s so easy to get upset, to become angry or mis the meaning of important words and information…
    I appreciate the effort you put in this content!
    Cheers ♥️

  • @lilypond5158
    @lilypond5158 Před rokem +1

    I'm so glad you're soing a bit with Lex, he's great, honestly I strive to be so firm but calm

  • @nodaysback8390
    @nodaysback8390 Před rokem +3

    9:17 This is Beautiful.. Thank you Lex and Ye for teaching and illustrating to me that this can be done! It's a Good Thing.
    And Thank you Charisma On Command for highlighting this excerpt of their conversation. If mainstream content predominantly carried this tone and sentiment, it would have a very positive influence.

  • @WilliamChan
    @WilliamChan Před rokem +25

    Lex is too humble for how skilled he is, but that's what I love about him

  • @nedballjets
    @nedballjets Před rokem +1

    Great video guys! Perfect interviews to contrast and compare. Enjoying your content.

  • @supermarkgeder4452
    @supermarkgeder4452 Před rokem

    I just want to let you know that I am learning so much on your channel.
    Keep posting great contents like this!

  • @EyePlayDrumsBoi
    @EyePlayDrumsBoi Před rokem +4

    Thank you CoC for picking such a great charity to give to.

  • @AndrewRMontoya
    @AndrewRMontoya Před rokem +5

    Great breakdown

  • @cutrugs5676
    @cutrugs5676 Před rokem

    One of my favorite channels talking on one of my favorite channels! Thanks for highlighting the genius of Lex in this interview!

  • @Monkey_G5
    @Monkey_G5 Před rokem

    I recently discovered your channel for myself, and am glad this kind of content is available CZcams. Thank you for the free education.

  • @simratjitsingh5048
    @simratjitsingh5048 Před rokem +3

    wow the way Lex handled that interview is a different skillset in itself

  • @Ericarothwellunravel
    @Ericarothwellunravel Před rokem +3

    Wow Lex is incredible. I've never heard of him before.

  • @FCWW87
    @FCWW87 Před rokem +2

    Lex is a different breed. He has incredible insight for a kid. When I was his age I was just starting to make some good life choices and he is out there exemplifying how to interact under intense circumstances.

  • @83mosco
    @83mosco Před rokem

    I love his interviews. My favorite thing to fall asleep, too because I'm falling asleep pondering something worthwhile

  • @Divinii
    @Divinii Před rokem +13

    This is awesome!
    Can you please do more breakdowns with Lex Fridman? 😮

  • @JohnSmith-qx4ff
    @JohnSmith-qx4ff Před rokem +9

    I’m very conservative with my likes. This may be one of the most useful videos you guys have produced and I’ve personally benefitted from several already. I’ll be revisiting this👍

  • @onifacetheemo-g
    @onifacetheemo-g Před rokem +1

    This was an amazing video. I'm definitely watching this again

  • @nwilliams38
    @nwilliams38 Před rokem +1

    Beautiful breakdown and Lex did a beautiful job in this interview

  • @blazept567
    @blazept567 Před rokem +38

    Damn it... you're 9 hours too late... 😆
    I just had an argument with a neighbour who was being the worst person to talk to. Seemed like a robot.
    I didn't lose my composure, but I sure as hell could have made a better impression...
    Please keep posting these videos. You guys are awesome.

    • @kokolanza7543
      @kokolanza7543 Před rokem +2

      Good for not losing your composure. Practice makes perfect.

  • @TurtleHouse
    @TurtleHouse Před rokem

    Thanks for the donation and shoutout to Charity Water!! Top tier charity undeniably doing amazing things.

  • @josephendtrain
    @josephendtrain Před rokem

    The moment i heard Lex podcast I immediately thought (and hoped) Charisma on Command would make a video about it. Well done team! I found the episode and Lex super inspiring and impressive. Thanks for the breakdown and reflection

  • @SparkBerry
    @SparkBerry Před rokem +64

    Lex is the best thing to happen to the CZcams podcast space in years. If you don't follow him, I suggest you do.

    • @AfterOurs999
      @AfterOurs999 Před rokem +4

      Whys that ?

    • @TheChosenOne2023
      @TheChosenOne2023 Před rokem +2

      What's different between him and Joe Rogan?

    • @Chazzmatazz
      @Chazzmatazz Před rokem +11

      ​@@TheChosenOne2023 Intelligence, openness/courage and self discipline as an interviewer. Lex>Rogan in all three.

    • @romanianhustler3309
      @romanianhustler3309 Před rokem

      @@Chazzmatazz cope

    • @ipsygypsy16
      @ipsygypsy16 Před rokem

      Where does one find him & his podcasts, please?

  • @davidogundipe808
    @davidogundipe808 Před rokem +9

    You should also do the Ronaldo and Pierce interview and how to better yourself with it, or something like that.

  • @FlashyFoingers
    @FlashyFoingers Před rokem

    holyyyyyy 250k that’s amazing u guys are absolutely awesome

  • @lynnpetti3817
    @lynnpetti3817 Před rokem

    This was so informative. Great examples and comparisons. Lex is impressive. Thank you.

  • @MerryChristmasEverybody
    @MerryChristmasEverybody Před rokem +3

    Wow. Lex is strong!

  • @TZeroZeroOne
    @TZeroZeroOne Před rokem +11

    I enjoy this channel, and appreciate the effort in collecting the actual examples. I understand that your goal is to improve communications when the other side is not listening, changing the subject, committing logical fallacies or otherwise not playing fair. Nonetheless, I wish you would come up with videos with the same examples but for the purpose of alerting people that they may be employing such unhelpful tactics without realizing it. There is a need for referees.

  • @forsaken650
    @forsaken650 Před rokem +1

    Great job explaining and pinpointing what is so great about Lex's conversational approach. That interview was fascinating to watch and tough to listen to. I felt Lex's pain when Ye said he didn't trust Lex, and I admired how he responded when he was able to collect his emotions with a heartfelt response. 😊

  • @WealthComesEasilyAudiobooks

    This is one of the best interviews I've actually enjoyed.

  • @awsmness132
    @awsmness132 Před rokem +7

    The way Lex handles this is a truly skillful thing. Being able to articulate his thoughts above the emotions he is feeling. Being able to articulate his emotions so clearly. All with no resentment. Kayne couldn't help but apologies to him in the midst of something so authentic. Lex shows us how to be noble men once again.

  • @mandarmn
    @mandarmn Před rokem +23

    Great breakdown of the 2 situations. Question: what happens a few days after? Does Ye change his behaviour towards all? Or does he reflect? Or is it just going to be one individual at a time?

    • @Vampress09
      @Vampress09 Před rokem +5

      That's what I'm thinking. There are people are just beyond any reasoning. They have dug their feet in at their stance and won't budge no matter how you approach them.

    • @iambojangles4115
      @iambojangles4115 Před rokem +10

      I noticed in Ye's Insta posts shortly after the interview he stopped saying "Jewish media" and said something like red media.. can't remember the term exactly and he deletes his posts but that struck me as development.

  • @myflesh10
    @myflesh10 Před rokem

    I enjoy the compassion of your vids. Lex is a great communicator

  • @abbeyr5150
    @abbeyr5150 Před rokem +1

    Gosh this interview was so great!

  • @themightypen1530
    @themightypen1530 Před rokem +4

    Lex is the GOAT.

  • @FromGroundToMud
    @FromGroundToMud Před rokem +5

    I get (and even share) the point Kanye is trying to make, but I agree with Lex on how to articulate the communication of that point.

    • @adamlevy8971
      @adamlevy8971 Před rokem +3

      I'm not clear on what Kanye's point was. Could you clarify that for me?

  • @jef9688
    @jef9688 Před rokem

    Thank you. I needed to hear that.

  • @tinroof8700
    @tinroof8700 Před rokem

    I have gained a new personal hero and someone whose exemplary conduct I need to and will indeed live up to - way to go Lex!!

  • @mimimerlot77
    @mimimerlot77 Před rokem +8

    Very important topic. I wish I could find the right words without losing my calm like Lex.
    How do you handle someone who is prone to long monologues and literally doesn't listen to what you're saying? (talking about my father who only looks up from his lecture when you start screaming...) That's been bugging me for a lifetime - I really would like to have a real discussion with him sometimes instead of a one sided speech and just don't know how to do that.

    • @sofiaescobar4455
      @sofiaescobar4455 Před rokem +3

      That must be incredibly frustating, just imagining it in my head makes me upset :/. I hope you find some things that work for your specific situation within the variety of amazing videos and resources on the internet. Good luck!

  • @keencole
    @keencole Před rokem +9

    I hope more people discover, Lex after this. He’s a sincere lover of life and a friend to all people.

  • @janzalud216
    @janzalud216 Před rokem +1

    this is so valuable. i try to ease the arguments in corporate workplace setting by these ways too. I fail often (as by nature im a rather selfish, opinionated person), but i am somewhat less horrible person to be around (according to how the feedbacks have been developing).

  • @gracechurch1791
    @gracechurch1791 Před rokem

    This is among your best work

  • @ClappingForChlamydia
    @ClappingForChlamydia Před rokem +1782

    Learning communication skills from Kanye West is like learning safe driving from a drunk driver

    • @JT0007
      @JT0007 Před rokem +92

      Forget how he says it. What he’s saying could be true. 🇺🇸

    • @ashshawon6840
      @ashshawon6840 Před rokem +342

      In this vid, we're not learning from him. It's Lex who we're learning from

    • @lizzybennet5726
      @lizzybennet5726 Před rokem

      Or... The concept of self-control from a crackhead.

    • @JD..........
      @JD.......... Před rokem +30

      @@JT0007 Yes, because he repeats things he's heard from other people.
      You appreciate Tiger Woods for his golf genius, not his relationship skills. Just 1 ex.

    • @barbarossa9591
      @barbarossa9591 Před rokem +26

      Drunk drivers best drivers

  • @veneficarius
    @veneficarius Před rokem +4

    Lex is master in communication

  • @kubapietrzak7278
    @kubapietrzak7278 Před rokem +3

    Is the podcast continued on patreon or is it cancelled?

  • @GustavoSilva-ny8jc
    @GustavoSilva-ny8jc Před rokem +2

    3:45 Lex was amazing here. We're used to the message of using fire to protect our ego and doesn't look like a loser but in an argument it will look ridiculous to a 3rd person. Those emotions lose power after the event.

  • @tjslam26
    @tjslam26 Před rokem

    I listened to this pod the day it was released. Lex's way is sooo instructive. Not a surprise to see him here.

  • @arottie4097
    @arottie4097 Před rokem +3

    Can you imagine the insanity of being in a relationship, of any kind, with this guy? Knowing that even a sneeze is being interpreted to this degree! Eee~Yicks!