Why You Feel Undervalued in a Relationship & What to Do

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Komentáře • 54

  • @sammelina12
    @sammelina12 Před 3 lety +20

    Thank you for your effort in sharing your knowledge with everyone 💖 unrelated, you’re absolutely gorgeous! 🥰

  • @Mollyjak4
    @Mollyjak4 Před 2 lety +2

    I’m the PDS school I just took a course called “Rebuilding the Relationship to Yourself: Self-Love, Self Compassion & Self-Soothing” it’s pretty dang amazing… all courses have work books. I love the webinars where you can get on and talk thru stuff with other folks in the school around the world. Sometimes we work on a particular course, other times it’s open share or sharing a communication script that you’d like input on… they also do morning guided meditations … it’s the best monthly money I’ve ever spent in my life!

  • @sorakairi118
    @sorakairi118 Před 3 lety +9

    Thank you so much. 20 mins ago was in the shower pondering the last vids posted for FAs like me. I stumbled upon retraumatization in my head, and suddenly this new video brought it up. That's it for me, I'm there -- adjusting my comfort zone. Thank you SO much for being such a formative part of my lockdown year. Am looking forward to joining the school soon as I'm able!

    • @ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool
      @ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool  Před 3 lety +1

      That's wonderful to hear Elijah :) We are so happy you are growing with us and are resonating with the content. Happy to hear we helped you learn and grow during the lockdown. That was one of our main priorities to help people look inwards and try and heal during this time of isolation. Hopefully see you in the school! :)
      -PDS team member

    • @RebelforaSpell
      @RebelforaSpell Před 3 lety

      That's powerful Elijah. Thank you so much for sharing🌱

  • @BiancaTatum
    @BiancaTatum Před 3 lety +10

    First comment 💁🏾‍♀️
    Thais, I really appreciate this channel! The CZcams videos ALONE has helped me to truly understand what wa the breakdown in my last relationship and it’s helping me to understand & communicate my needs with the new guy.
    I’ve even been able to pinpoint the he has core wounds causing him to want to run when I expressed being upset about something & my need. But bc of your content I knew to affirm him in a way that made him understand that I WASN’T about to abandon him just bc I had to put my foot down. 🙄😂
    I really loved our conversation last night and I’m excited about moving forward in a really healthy way. I can see us joining PDS together as our relationship grows.

    • @lizp2512
      @lizp2512 Před 3 lety +1

    • @BiancaTatum
      @BiancaTatum Před 3 lety

      @@lizp2512 🤎🤎🤎

    • @ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool
      @ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool  Před 3 lety +1

      This! live hearing all of that. Overjoyed we played a part in you understanding yourself and helping you in your new relationship. Hope we see you in the school! Thanks for your comment
      -PDS team member

  • @ginnytilby
    @ginnytilby Před 3 lety +5

    The thumbnail photo doesn't seem to match the video or the video title. The thumbnail says "Fearful Avoidant: Bring Them Closer". But this video is about all 3 attachment styles. Thought you would want to know! Love this channel!!!

  • @universaltruth2025
    @universaltruth2025 Před rokem +1

    Sometimes the truth is we ARE being rejected for whatever reason. Throughout my life I have often been part of a group and its always clear I am lower in the hierarchy than the others - eg I’m part of the group but if its a group of three the other two will always have a stronger bond than with me. If people are talking in a group I will be of less importance than the others. If there is ever any conflict in the group the others will close ranks and no one will side with me. This isn’t my imagination or some story I’ve made up - it happens all the time. I can only assume it is an energy or look about me or my body language or my ideas and opinions. But I know it is definitely not my imagination or a story I have made up. To pretend otherwise would simply be lying to myself.

  • @nogayurveda9579
    @nogayurveda9579 Před 3 lety +4

    I absolutely love this! Thanks for the amazing content delivered so on point

  • @newlight444
    @newlight444 Před 10 měsíci

    Most times it has nothing to do with the person we're dealing with. It has more to do with our past issues. When we find someone who has similar traits as someone who has hurt or neglected us, we tend to attach to them and try to get that need met no matter what. We have to be aware of that and work out the issue internally. We were not responsible for meeting our needs as children, because we didn't know better. But as adults, we are responsible to meet the needs we have right now, instead of trying to find people who will do it for us. That way, we learn self-sufficiency and that past wound and trauma will no longer dominate our lives and relationships.

  • @Qtipz123
    @Qtipz123 Před 3 lety

    Honestly surprised that this channel doesn't have more subscribers.
    Thais speaks nothing but TRUTH!! 😁👍

  • @Krohmel
    @Krohmel Před 3 lety +5

    Your videos are syncing up with my life right now 😂😂😂

  • @lizp2512
    @lizp2512 Před 3 lety +10

    Thank you for this video ❤️ Thais , is this the correct title for this video ?

    • @skwerl81
      @skwerl81 Před 3 lety +3

      nope! lol

    • @lizp2512
      @lizp2512 Před 3 lety +3

      @@skwerl81 I just watched 3 times on rapid speed questioning myself

    • @BiancaTatum
      @BiancaTatum Před 3 lety +1

      The title is supposed to be Why You Feel Undervalued in a Relationship
      It looks like the wrong thumbnail was added

    • @ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool
      @ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool  Před 3 lety +5

      yes! because you alerted us we caught the mistake and changed it!! thank you so much!
      -PDS team member

    • @lizp2512
      @lizp2512 Před 3 lety

      @@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🥰you are most welcome :) !!!

  • @marynagorbenko3548
    @marynagorbenko3548 Před 3 lety

    Very helpful. Thank you so much, Thais.
    Glad CZcams recommended me your videos, your channel has been a great discovery. Hope you will have a lot of success and prosperity through your work. Keep it up!

  • @RebelforaSpell
    @RebelforaSpell Před 3 lety +2

    💚U 💚😍New SUBscriber! I am so grateful to have found your channel. All these seemingly small steps can open up a new life for us all. THANK U your teaching us PATH TO HEALING

  • @CJ-zs4xd
    @CJ-zs4xd Před 3 lety +3

    Please develop a course on how to have a relationship to oneself. Does it exist already?

    • @roshalllambert
      @roshalllambert Před 3 lety +3

      The closest course to what you are talking about is strengthening self identity.

    • @Mollyjak4
      @Mollyjak4 Před 2 lety +1

      Rebuilding the Relationship to Yourself: Self-Love, Self Compassion & Self-Soothing

    • @Mollyjak4
      @Mollyjak4 Před 2 lety

      It’s in the PDS school I’m just doing it today

  • @rebeccav7420
    @rebeccav7420 Před 3 lety +5

    Does PDS have a specific course to address pursuit of people who are emotionally unavailable? You mention the phenomenon here, just wondering if there's a specific place to start. Thanks!

    • @xnflg3074
      @xnflg3074 Před 3 lety +1

      Stop trying to pursue people who aren’t ready to be pursued in the way you naturally do. If it doesn’t flow, it’s not worth forcing.

    • @rebeccav7420
      @rebeccav7420 Před 3 lety

      @@xnflg3074 It did flow with an FA until deactivation. I'm interested in a course if there is one, thanks.

    • @irynaguziy1202
      @irynaguziy1202 Před 3 lety +1

      Thais said " you choose emotionally unavailable people because you are emotionally unavailable to yourself", it's the subconscious comfort zone - the goal is to tackle that first, so I would say "Emotional Mastery and Belief Reprogramming" course.

  • @marjanpourhassan3314
    @marjanpourhassan3314 Před 3 lety

    Such a great topic thank u ❤️🌹🙏🏽😘

  • @PaigeYesLee
    @PaigeYesLee Před 3 lety

    Thank You Thais 🙏

  • @nainafavs
    @nainafavs Před 3 lety +1

    Thank you Thais! ❤️

    • @RebelforaSpell
      @RebelforaSpell Před 3 lety +1

      She's awesome right? I just found her channel. Sending much positivity to you 🌱

    • @nainafavs
      @nainafavs Před 3 lety

      @@RebelforaSpell thank you my love! She is awesome ❤️ sending hugs and healing to you too ☺️💕

  • @TheFarrahX
    @TheFarrahX Před 3 lety +1

    amazing amazing amazing video!

    • @RebelforaSpell
      @RebelforaSpell Před 3 lety +2

      Yes it is Farah. It is helping me so much. Hope you are having a good day 🌱

  • @axislivedotorg
    @axislivedotorg Před 3 lety +5

    Who said “no more core wounds left?”
    What needs to be done for that to happen?

    • @sorakairi118
      @sorakairi118 Před 3 lety +1

      The loads of inner work, which Thais invites us to do here and in the school.

    • @BiancaTatum
      @BiancaTatum Před 3 lety +3

      Im also interested in this too!! Lol like is it possible to live trauma free

  • @LemansSunset350
    @LemansSunset350 Před 3 lety +1

    Do you have colored contacts on? Beautiful eyes.

  • @BiancaTatum
    @BiancaTatum Před 3 lety +4

    First Comment 👋🏾😌

    • @RebelforaSpell
      @RebelforaSpell Před 3 lety +2

      😍Hahaha.... Awesome. I love when that happens. Hope you are having a fantastic day Bianca

    • @BiancaTatum
      @BiancaTatum Před 3 lety

      @@RebelforaSpell thank you! Lol me too 😂

  • @mozartboll
    @mozartboll Před 3 lety +1

    I really resonate with your videos, but I have a hard time keeping up. I'm not american speaking, so it's a little bit too fast for me.

    • @toninatoli
      @toninatoli Před 3 lety +2

      There is a way to slow the speed of videos on CZcams. Sorry, but I can't remember what it is! GOOGLE it, as they say.

    • @mozartboll
      @mozartboll Před 3 lety +1

      @@toninatoli Maybe speaking slower would help though. Do you pick up every word? I will google🙂 thank you!

    • @RebelforaSpell
      @RebelforaSpell Před 3 lety +1

      Yes. Annika it is a very helpful video. I hope you are able to get the "slow down". I am studying Spanish and can relate to that feel. Have a wonderful day

    • @RebelforaSpell
      @RebelforaSpell Před 3 lety +1

      @UC85lfbkxVb%E2%98%BA%F0%9F%8C%B1WODoAwF3nRBQw Wow really? I didn't know.. Ok. Thanks for the tip will google. Hope you are having an awesome day Toni

    • @mozartboll
      @mozartboll Před 3 lety +1

      @@Alphacentauri819 thank you!!👍🏻😃