Trauma Survivor: Regulate Your Emotions & Repair Your Nervous System - Inner Work Library [94/500]
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- čas přidán 20. 07. 2024
- Learn How To Regulate Your Emotions & Repair Your Nervous System with this episode of Inner Work Library Q&A. Today we're exploring the important differences between Self Regulation and Self Repair when healing from childhood trauma.
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⏱️ TIMESTAMPS ⏱️
00:00 This Is My Bucket Of Books
01:00 Self Regulation vs Self Repair
02:55 Bucket Management 101
04:39 Read These Books
05:05 How To Repair Your Nervous System
09:17 Trauma Work & Self Empowerment
13:47 How To Regulate Your Emotions
15:44 Healing Can Be Simple
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Topics explored: inner work; jordan thornton; how to heal yourself; trauma healing; how to heal trauma; trauma therapy; childhood trauma; how to heal from trauma; how to heal your trauma; how to heal mental health; mental health; healing trauma; therapy; nervous system repair; self regulation theory; self regulation; how to self regulate; how to regulate emotions; how to regulate nervous system; how to repair your nervous system; how to heal your nervous system; how to repair nervous system; emotional regulation; how to regulate your emotions;
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Substance abuse, energy issues (time wasted in regulation and energy losses) and negative interpersonal relationships or attachments. Thanks Jordan. Just working on those alone would be healing in itself. like your side rants. Keep up your slightly tough love videos,. they are so needed. Peace
You’ve got this, it’s a steady process of elimination for most people 🌲
You’ve helped me have many breakthroughs watching your videos Jordan. You’ve helped me understand things way deeper than most people I’ve watched on CZcams. Thank you for all the work, time and energy you’ve put into all of your videos, I’m forever thankful for them. ❤ keep up the work
Means the world to me to read your comment. Thanks for being here and taking this process seriously. I’m sure 2024 is looking bright for you 🌲
The perfect metaphor! It seems the social media mental health space thrives off of consumeristic 'bucket management' techniques, and encourages the victim mentality. 'I have anxiety and to be okay I must *continually* buy this guided meditation, follow this yoga, essential oil, etc', when the anxiety roof-hole could be addressed with simple lifestyle changes (leading to the space and safety for deeper trauma work). As much as mercury being in retrograde can become an excuse for shitty behaviour for four months of the year! Great video as always, Jordan! Thank you. 🌲
I don’t know, I think blaming mercury is actually the most appropriate way to repair our nervous system… I can’t believe I forgot to talk about it! 🤦♂️
Fantastic analogy and supports my personal experience! I am very much aligned with your message and share/appreciate the attention to language. Self-deception is the tricky mistress who will make you believe that you’re not responsible for renewing your contracts with your own pain and suffering. Accepting that I was the only common denominator of my life and that what I wasn’t changing I was choosing, changed my life much faster than any modality, practice, or practitioner did, prior to that moment of reckoning.
Beautifully written comment, as always. I appreciate you perspective and how we find common ground here 🌲
Thank you Jordan!🙏As someone who is dealing and healing from multiple traumas, and since I did not want to fill my space with "buckets" after seeing through the commercial connotation behind "that next spiritual awekening program" from heavily engineered video reels, I came to and felt heard in your space...and this video really hits the nail!👏👍 Thank you from the bottom of my ❤
Glad you’re watching out for potential wastes of time, although likewise appreciate that you’re doing the work to move from buckets to repair!
I'll take it as a sign to reread Deb Dana's book you're quoting from. Thanks, Jordan ❤️
I'm extremely grateful for all your hard work you put in your videos. Your analogy helped me connecting the dots. It bridged two disparate ideas regarding 'hard choices'. Of course, it is hard to 'manage' buckets around the room when your roof is leaking, but it is also hard to raise your standards, to eat nutritious food, to 'clear your house' etc. After all, the question still remains: Which hard do you chose? PS: Kudos to you for handling 'the bucket incident' with grace. 🙂
Bucket management vs deep repair truly is the question for 2024 for many people!
Beautiful message❤ Thank you soo🙏
You are so welcome - happy to have helped, Jackie 🌲
Excited for this ! Ty!!
Hopefully this helps - make sure to check out the books and let me know 🌲
@jordanthornton this was good! It reiterates the work I'm doing with my IFS therapist. Mire water, good food, excercise and removing my self from distorted relationships and patterns. I am doing a nervous system regulation program as well that is designed to educate me on my own stress responses too and how to regulate my own system. I'm developing capacity to manage stress differently. I used to be so frozen and socially reserved. I'm getting better day by day. Learning how to stop self abandoning when I meet difficult situations is like gold. Thankyou for validating this all with your work. I really appreciate people like you who work this way. It's a collective effort. 🙏✨️
@@northstarearthstar Community of helpers from across the internet and world hahaha
Simple and to the point.
All about the practical work, keep going.
I love your use of props to help explain the metaphors! This is a great object lesson technique. Thank you, Jordan.
Always trying to think of engaging ways to teach complex topics!
😊Thank you Jordan 🌲
Always my pleasure - thanks again for your continual comments and attention 🌲
Appreciate this very much. Thank you.
You're very welcome! 🌲
Thank you for this video. I've been coming out of a nervous system freak out the last few months, after ssri withdrawal (back on them now to not kick all my crutches out from under me) combined with spontaneous dark night of the soul/spiritual emergency experience.....I do not recommend in the slightest.....but this is helpful to know the difference between regulation and repair, and the role of environment/lifestyle along with therapeutic work. I think part of me wishes that learning regulation would help me in my current environment (enmeshed family, realised cptsd) and from there I could move on and make informed choices, but this and I think the last few months have taught me that repair really does involve the relational in the environmental too, and I've got to allow space for newness and growth, even with the challenge, to let healing really seed.
This is correct - repair does often involve the ‘big shifts’ in relationship and environment + sustained trauma work. Good luck with your continued healing and next steps 🌲
Decades of an absurd amount of buckets, followed by an incredibly bucket-free life for a couple years, followed by, yet again, so many buckets 🤣
Thank you for this marvelous analogy, and for helping me recognize the buckets & figure out how to actually repair the damn roof while it's pouring out there! 😆🙏🙌😊
I appreciate you 😊
fantastic❤
Thank you! Cheers!
Look I love the bucket metaphor. But I think you could have found a way to incorporate mr corn.
He’ll be back when it’s his time 😉
return to me yee corn o man
@@jordanthornton
I whole heartedly agree. We 🩷 Mr. Corn 🌽
Complex video indeed Jordan and can be very personal. I was thinking, oh no more books I'm not done with Facing the Dragon yet! lol
Anyway, I went to have my APE earlier and the doctor asked me if there was something I would like to share. I shared some minor things I noticed and unconsciously projected anxiety behaviors, I got judged then labeled me to have anxiety and maybe I should see a psychologist. After I went outside, I felt rubbed in the wrong way. It was a small clinic and people were lining up there like lab rats. Personally, I don't have anxiety issues when I am traveling, walking, or even in my home writing. Must it be a sensitivity that you're talking about? Quite weird why I feel anxious in a hospital setting, I believe this is not just me.
I have the buckets on a daily basis and fixing roofs at the same time. But I do know I have to cut out some caffeine perhaps, instead of 1 while spoon maybe half a day of matcha XD
I’m sorry to hear this, but ultimately glad that you’re searching out your own information to free yourself from the ‘advice’ of less than helpful ‘professionals’ - keep going 🌲
@@jordanthornton I'm inspired by your work and the few people here in the comment section. After fixing the roofs maybe it's about time to make the house fly? Teehee. Cheers.
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Thanks for the support, I hope this one helped you 🌲 - books are worth getting!
Somebody comes in and ask
+ why you have so many buckets 🪣 all over the house?
- don’t you see all the water leaking from the sealing?
+ there’s no water leaking from the sealing, is not even raining outside.
Suddenly you realize it was all in your head and the water stops.
Nice metaphor expansions - there can certainly be situations like this too 🌲
+1
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Note to self. Coffee doesn’t help anxiety! Don’t do it! Give it up 🫢😂
Per Jordan’s suggestion that this shouldn’t be a blanket. I didn’t mean it the way it came off. I’m sure most adults understand if caffeine is good for them or not. So my apologies.
At the higher levels, it depends on the individual and what the anxieties are - would be hesitant to make blanket statements!
@@jordanthornton 😂 I’m pretty much talking to myself. But, yes, some people can handle caffeine. That’s true. I know many who do well with it. Blankets are comfortable. 🫢😂 my humor maybe is an issue in this serious forum. I’m sorry! I do appreciate some of your insights. Always. Take care.
@@calmsea8 No harm caused, and no need to apologies hahah
@calm7596
Caffeine is not good for me either. It notably makes the anxiety worse. I dislike that I am sensitive to it, because a morning cup of coffee is one of the greater pleasures of this life.
I think with giving it up short term and making those necessary lifestyle changes, I'll be able to enjoy it later on with greater degree.
Well wishes to you 🙂
@@meshavillar Thank you.
I drink decaf or herbal teas. Once in a while a tea with caffeine. But yes, I agree, it steps up anxiety and robs us of energy because of the speed up in our system.
Well wishes to you, likewise.