Bipolar Disorder: 10 Ways We Are Taken Advantage Of!
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Finally this topic has been addressed...I've been diagnosed with bipolar II rapid cycler and have been treated in three different ways. When people pick up on the fact that there's a certain vulnerability to you, one of three things happens: people either feel the need to look out for you,, they avoid you, or they manipulate and take advantage of you.
I have been manipulated so much 😮💨
Sad but true.
True. The vulnerability and treating you like a child are the worst. We are so strong it’s funny. The strength it takes to keep going, the side effects of meds and having to adjust them. I’ve been a victim of lots of abuse, but because of my mood disorder and internalized shame, I feel I deserved it or must be 100% to blame for relationship problems. We are more than bipolar. We are often highly perceptive, sensitive, creative, and compassionate. We get scapegoated in groups by power holders because we don’t go along when we can’t fake it as well. And on and on.
Thank you for sharing❤️🙏🏽
Sadly enough...
Something I heard a pastor say and I've added this to my normal routine. He said, "Just wait 3 days". Usually, my manic episode is over after 3 days and I can think about it for 3 days. This has really helped me.
As for narcissists abusing people with bipolar: I was bullied by my boyfriend for 7 years - it turned out he was a narcissist...
Narcissists only care about themselves
1: Giving away money or other possessions. 0:46
2: Assaulted or victimize when symptomatic. 1:30
3: Taken advantage of at work due to high expectations/skipped over for promotions. 2:26
4: Narcissists are drawn to volubility. 3:11
5: People talking you into buying them food/paying their bills with our benefits. 4:06
6: Careful for people we don’t know, wanting us to rescue them. 4:36
7: Hypersexuality/being exploited 5:24
8: Mania vs Love 5:49
9: Love ones putting possessions on you to talk or explain our feelings for their benefit 6:23
10: Friends might intentionally or inadvertently take advantage of our manic generosity 7:09
Closing note (self-interest/dehumanization) 8:05
Thank you for this amazing video. I found this to be very helpful.
Thanks for making the list!
Wow! Thank you so much for doing this! 🙏 💖
When my husband died of cancer after 28 years. I went into a manic phase, I was taken advantage by a family friend who squeezed his way in. A total narcissist..I told myself he was given to me by God…. He abused me, sneaky played me like a puppet. ThankfullyI detected this,and eventually got out of his claws. It makes me so sad that this person got in….
I did the same thing
i have been taken advantage both manic and depressed. By so called friends, and even family members. That is why I stay vigilant and I take my medications and remain sober. I basically trust nobody lol
Sober. Nice of you to mention this. With bipolar the best thing you can do is stay away of alcohol or drugs!
@@saelin00 Yeah sobriety is a big part of mood maintenance. I feel like my meds are ineffective when i drink or smoke weed lol
Yes, they want you around when funny but unreasonably fear me when I'm having a rare moment out of balance. I work so hard to be balanced and a productive member of society. It makes me so sad when they fear talking to me even though I go out of my way to help them when they need it. Also, I haven't done anything to make them fear me. I don't like to hurt anything.
I have been exploited during manic episode. I have solved many IT problems when I have been manic. A guy I worked with would do the "Wow your happy today". He would then lead me to the long term unsolved (by some very skilled IT techs) IT issue. Sure enough 30 minutes later, I have unstuck a $2,000,000 dollar project effecting 1,000 users. My tested IQ while I have been manic is 144. 145 and above is considered to be genius.
Couldn't have said this all better. At first I was like"I dont get taken advantage of..." then EVERY SINGLE one hit the nail on the head. It's like not being able to live up to your manic side and its exhausting... makes you shut down and not want to have a social life
The fact that you brought up assault in the hospital setting really hit me. I was molested by another patient on the psych ward when I was 12. I told a nurse and she just said "alright sweetie I'll take care of it" rubbed my arm gently and did nothing. I spent 3 more days locked on a unit with my abuser before he was discharged. I ended up back in the hospital again shortly after I discharged because I attempted again but over this incident. We are so often victims of violence and wrong doing, and I'm so thankful that people like you exist and are trying to educate on these topics. Much love to you, been watching your videos for a while and they've really helped along with my regular therapy and meds. I don't believe in God, but I know you are doing the Lord's work!❤
This is big one. This is what I have to fight ever since I got diagnosed. Stigma about the illness is harder than illness itself.
I'm live with bipolar disorder, but I didn't even realize that me getting rid of all my stuff was part of my hypomania. Wow. I get a wild hair to give my stuff away or getting rid of stuff in my apt. When I was a teen I'd sometimes take off my shoes and leave them in random places so that someone else could find them. Then I'd have to buy new shoes lol.
Me too! I thought it was because I am an empath and I feel like I want to make people happy. Had no idea it was BP. Take care✌️
My father would literally send us a "smoke screen" as a foreshadowing of his upcoming mania by going on a huge cleaning binge and with "cleaning", I mean burning. I lost track of the number of times the police or fire fighters got involved because he decided to set fire to the ditches to "clean the weeds". Of course he meant well, but some of those fires could have easily shifted to a field of wheat or someone's house. It scares me when I think of it now...dozens of years later.
I get rid of things constantly. It's like I feel an itch to get rid of something cause I don't use it enough, don't like it anymore, or it's taking up unnecessary space. I've given away & donated probably close to $500 worth of clothes to friends, family, & goodwill.
This was a tough one. So this is why... I have lost a lot of "friends", but I see now that many of them disappeared when I started to sett boundaries and say NO. I thought I did something wrong, and in lot of circumstances I did, but I see now that in a lot of them I was not at fault. They just removed themselves when I had nothing more to offer. My time, my money, my stuff. I love to please. It gives me a rush. But when I crash, I still do it because it is expected and I cant stop. The road back up, becomes that much longer. And I start to hate my self for not being able to please. I'm a work in progress. baby steps, two forward and One, two or three back.
i am exactly like this...once i set boundaries they disappeared because im a sucker for a sob story and no is a very hard thing for me to say. stay strong warrior
Same friend. Thank you for that.
Absolutely understand that you said it so well. .sad but true
The stigma of mental illness has never departed and when it becomes apparent that one is exhibiting psychopathology of any sort, your true friends come to the fore. Most people avoid you like the plague, once they discover your dark secret, so to speak. I know that they may act in such a fashion through fear and self preservation.
Great video! Unfortunately anyone who is different or struggling seems to be a target for manipulation, abuse, and bullying. I find it helpful to stick together with other people who have bipolar, disabilities, etc. We need to stick together and help each other.
Yes!!! 🙌
Thankfully I am more aware now of being taken advantage of, discovered all the narcissist in my life and cut them off the best I could. I didn’t know my BP was part of the problem as well as giving stuff away too. I do that often. Thank you.
This is sad. My Son was diagnosed at 19. He’s now 22.
He sounds so much like you-
Highly intelligent
Highly sensitive
Finds his friends in not great circles.
It’s rough .
It frustrating no actual doctor felt he was in trouble
Many therapist growing up .
It does make you feel like it’s a lost generation ❤
Angry
My heart reaches out to you. Unfortunately, this disorder has so much stigma around it, that even those of us who have it are influenced by it and often times try to hide it from everyone, especially doctors and mental health professionals, because of the fear and shame we feel "admitting" that we have something "wrong" with us. I remember when I was officially diagnosed, I took my mother with me to be a witness of my day to day life, because I knew that I could be a master manipulator of facts. It was a good thing that I did, because when the doctor checked in with my mother about what I was reporting, my mother could tell the doctor of what was REALLY going on, not just what I wanted the doctor to think was going on. At the end of the appointment, I broke down sobbing, saying "please don't put me away." That's how much the stigma of having Bipolar Disorder had influenced me. I was completely convinced that Bipolar meant being locked in an asylum for the rest of your life. My doctor calmly and confidently told me "I have no intention of putting you away." Have you gone to the appointments with your son? Would he be willing to let you come along? Maybe he is afraid to tell the doctor how he is really doing because of the stigma created by multiple sources, including movies and tv?
((((((((((HUGS))))))))))
I'm angry too. My daughter, now 20 was diagnosed at 12 yrs old. Till this day I cannot get her the help she really needs (and we have "good healthcare insurance"). I fear what will happen to her when I die. There will be no one to defend/protect her bc she's SO gullible.😢
I was diagnosed in 2000
Nobody had a clue what that meant back then and
23 years later I ,,matured,, have a job being engaged and please tust me your son deserves long time suppor and love for the good ,he is doing just great with a parent as you are commenting here, trust me
God bless
It'll be fine ❤
He has you❤️
Aww. You’re a good parent. Thank you. We are often very perceptive and sensitive to our environment and other peoples unconscious material and it gets overwhelming compared to those who don’t get overloaded as much.
I’ve had those moments Where I started giving my jewelry and clothing away, During a party or 10 And many things came up missing
Wow. I never put many of these things together. I have only been diagnosed for a couple of years so I am still figuring out how my diagnosis affects me. Slight trigger warning toward the end.
Points I have learned from this video:
I have always started a job hypo-manic and will even maintain those work levels at the expense of all of my mental and emotional bandwidth.
I will give away money or possessions at the expense of my own needs and suffer the consequences of late fees or penalties.
I fall into the “too good of a friend” category. A couple of months ago I spent more money on a friend’s wedding than he and his wife did. I also organized more than half of it, even though I had never thrown a wedding before. I put in dozens of hours of work and thousands of dollars and I doubt they actually realize or appreciate how much I did for them. The officiant of the wedding mentioned to me that few people could ever match the level of friendship I output. The manic generosity that was mentioned in the video for me will even extend to giving of my emotional energy and time to others who would not likely take the initiative to return the kindness. I end up being the emotional landfill that they can dump all of their problems into. But if I were to want someone to talk to, I would be considered needy or clingy. So I do often feel taken advantage of and unwanted or overlooked by ones in my friend group. Obviously I need to make some adjustments in my awareness of my symptoms.
Such a needed video. Thank you!
Love the term “emotional landfill” - that is me to a tee. People will dump all of their problems and issues on me, and I just sit there and take it and give advice, and I just don’t get the same type of support in return. I am distancing myself from people that use me as their free therapist.
I was diagnosed with bipolar type 1 two years ago. Your channel has helped me a lot 🎉
You are so right on. I sent it to my family. They say they understand for a day or two. Then they forget. I hate having this.
I am 49. Known about being depressed since 19. Rediagnosed to bipolar 2 w ptsd, adhd, and GAD since I was 37. I always was the guy who gave all my so called friends stuff. Thing is....we don't tend to complain about feeling hypomanic cuz it feels great and others think you are a superhuman fun machine. I really see my hypomania now cuz I know how bad I can and have messed up in all the ways mentioned in this video
This channel deserves more followers for sure. I would see if every psych department at every University recommend it. I think it is that important. I know for sure every mental health hospital should require it for reference. They suck at dealing with Bipolar in Arizona. Do you know that in all the medical hospitals in our state that they have ONE mental health team and they are social workers?! ONE! If you are brought into a hospital for an overdose you will sit there until a telehealth social worker can talk to you over the computer and then you can get mental health transferred to another hospital and most are terrible facilities. It is unbelievable how bad they are. We need to get them to do better.
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I find when relationships end, or I experience a rift with someone I discard or bury in the ground anything they ever gave me or anything that reminds me of them, right down to the clothes I am wearing. I never thought it might be connected to the illness until hearing this video.
Ding ding ding!!! I'm the "lucky" winner of the narcissist abusive husband. Who which used my disorder to abuse me!! I'm really glad you mentioned that.
I needed to see this so many times I have given away money and items that are some people's salaries for the year. I am grateful and yes Narcissistic people have damaged me but everyday I am stronger and better. ❤❤
The past couple of day's I've been having a major crisis. I have no one eccept for my wonderful hot mess of a dog who has saved my life. I literally just stumbled on this chanel. Although I'm not close to being ok. This channel has definitely helped. I don't quiet feel alone. Thank you
Hi Wolf, Rob offers one on one support on Patreon if you are interested. He also posts more personal information about his day to day struggles like his recent hospital stay. Take gentle care! 🙏
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@@PolarWarriors I appreciate it. Thank you.
An important thing people must understand, is that MENTAL ILLNESS= PHYSICAL ILLNESS both symptomatic the only difference is that the brain is extremely complicated & that's why meds work with some patients & not others with same illness. Awareness is needed and when someone argue around that point just tell them about broken heart syndrome which is simply heart failure due to strong stressor. Among others. Vulnerability & hypersensitivity are symptoms of the disease and if people can't understand, it's them whom should be blamed not the patient and as always blame the disease & don't blame the patient. Hope we all get well . Thank you very much for your videos. Looking forward for much more. Greetings to all.
Unfortunately even though mental illness causes unusual behaviors we will be held accountable for what we do when we are ill. So I try my best to take care of myself so I don't have bad consequences. It is difficult and I still mess up sometimes.
@@Catlily5 let me tell u something, when renal failure patients are disoriented and their behavior change do anyone blame them or the disease? The dis. Ofc. Same with mental illnesses, it's all about behavior, old classification of mental illnesses was neurosis & psychosis, bipolar,depression, anxiety etc are all neurosis and the symptoms of the diseases are behavioral, so it is out of our hands when we are ill either manic or depressed, so if ANYONE BLAME OR held that behavior accountable against you or any patient is an IGNORANT PERSON & there are many of them, so IGNORING THEM IS THE WAY TO GO TO GET PEACE OF MIND otherwise you will feel bad, even blame yourself & end up more stressed and symptoms will get worse (vicious circle that u must get out of it to get better). Taking care of yourself is a positive thing which means you got the insight & trying to control ur emotions which is great & mean u r doing ur best to cope during the rough times but u should do it for the sake of yourself & ur health not for other people, & by the way, it's a disability which means u have superior rights & priorities over non ill people, & should be legally protected & no judge or anyone can blame you for your behavior/ actions. Never feel bad nor care about what Ignorant people think of you cause it's their fault & defect. It's great that u are trying to manage & have control over ur disease but you must comply with medications & therapy. One last thing don't forget, we are humans & it's our nature to make mistakes cause no one is perfect, when we are not ill that's what should be held against the non ill, but being ill nooooo dear, never blame yourself, mess up it's fine until your disorder get managed & becomes stable & keep practicing self control which is extremely difficult yet seems you got the will and power to beat it. My prayers for you & everyone with any illness, especially mental illnesses 🙏. Be safe , have patience, ignore negative thoughts and people, gain support from people who loves you. & please tag me here if you have any questions & I'll do my best to help. Hope my reply helped even a little bit, please don't hesitate to ask if you have any questions. Warm regards.
I'd like to add people take advantage of our swings and the inability for a lot of us to remember what we said or did in those moments.
They'll put us in a position of constantly second guessing ourselves, apologizing, trying to make amends, AND walking on eggshells ALL AT THE SAME TIME (not yelling, just emphasizing)!!!
It's mind numbing and heart breaking the things people get away with and are excused from because we suffer/live with a mental illness. Taking for granted we really can't stop ourselves, but they can..
6:17 am Rob this is triggering for me. I’m a people pleaser and have given family members things that were important to me away and then blamed them and was so upset I did. I wanted their love and I’m always looking for approval. Lots of times certain family take advantage of my illness and are frustrated when I’m having symptoms and become insistent that I explain it to them or make them feel better. A couple of my sisters are downright mean and demand that I answer to them. It’s very frustrating as I know they’re wrong but feel obligated to explain it to them. I’m getting better at calming myself, being aware of what they’re doing and responding rather than reacting. Emotionally I’m pretty charged up so I don’t always succeed and get angry but this illness is complicated. Thanks for bringing this to all of our attention. Take care.
Thanks for the great episode. So true, every word, I relate to it all. If I can further add to it.. *TRIGGER WARNING* I find myself being gaslit by people who supposedly care about me.. I get comments such as I'm crazy, did I take my medication, I don't know what I'm talking about or not making sense. My mental health is used like a stick to poke me with to win a arguement or a disagreement or debate. It is something one of my very closest friends does to me, and I never know if it is meant the way it comes across, but it is very hurtful, leaves me doubting myself and feeling asthough there is something wrong with me, and I am viewed through the lens of Bipolar Disorder for ever single thing people don't agree with or are not benefitting from ot whatever the reason. If I am having a bad day, I get "did you take your meds", rather than just listening or cheering me up a bit after a hard day at work. I don't know if anyone relates to this or not? And words such as "sick" are used if I get upset, instead of seeing why I am upset, or if I am having an episode to rather be a bit more gentle, say I am not well, not "sick", it is asif it is deliberately used to gain control over my every word, action or thought. If I say, please stop gaslighting, it will.be turned around to say I am gaslighting, I'm the sick one, I'm crazy or must have skipped a dose of my meds. It really hurts.
😢 I understand how this feels. I’ve been upset just reasonably upset at something that’s happened to me and instantly labeled “manic” as an out for causing drama. It’s not fair that having a label instantly turns every feeling expressed into a variation of the disorder.
I concur absolutely; during marriage i was treated as though mental illness defined me completely. If i were to exhibit any strong opinions or act in an angry manner, the response was always informed by the fact that i must be crazy.
As the mother of a teen with bipolar, this is helpful. Mostly when I see him getting really down I’ll ask if he’s taken his meds because to me that’s the starting point. Without that I know everything, good or bad, will be magnified. I do always talk to him too, but it’s kind of first on the checklist to ask him if he’s taken his meds. Thank you for letting me know how that feels. Do you have a suggestion for how to approach that in a more sensitive way as he often doesn’t take his meds so it’s kind of a valid question with him when I see him really struggling? This is such a hard thing to live with I know. I wish you the best.
I suspect some people you think are your friends are not true friends. What you say really resonates as some people cannot resist the temptation to use one’s bipolar against them to put themselves in a one up position.
I can add to the “did you take your meds” thoughts . I get this when I express my anger or hurt from comments from family. Expressing valid feelings to someone who knows of my bipolar , with that response I get hurt and frustrated because it makes me feel invalid in my feelings and/or thoughts.
Love your videos Rob! This was an important subject! Workplace stigma is very real. Remember Polar Warriors you don't need to disclose your illness to everyone. I have found it's better to only tell close friends because some people in the workplace can sadly use this information against you (due to the stigma and misunderstandings that can exist).
The relief I felt seeing the notification for this video. This content is truly wonderful, sometimes we don't notice how we're being taken advantage of, and don't understand why we feel resentment when we "come down." Thank you Rob. I'm very grateful to hear from you. I know you've been going through a hard time and for that I'm sorry.
i went from never saying no. to only saying no. i just can not find that comfortable middle ground. i also went from having a group of people i thought where friends. to having no one and being alone all the time.
You've just described me and no one gets it
My daughter came back to me after 10 years of estrangement when she found out I had cancer. It was fantastic for me to have her back no questions asked. Her first visit I gave her everything she asked for. Camera, foot wash massager, bedspreads, folding electric bike. Lots more. I didn't know I had bipolar and she just figured I didn't want the stuff. I just wanted her to have anything she wanted...to keep her with me. Stupid I am.
Hi, You are NOT stupid!!! You are doing the best you can with what you have. Please be kind to yourself! Rob offers one on one support on Patreon if you are interested. He also posts more personal information about his day to day struggles like his recent hospital stay. Take gentle care! 🙏
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I absolutely loved this topic... felt a bit called out, but love that that awareness is now established!! ❤
I’ve tried to get disability with bipolar 1, severe anxiety and some borderline criteria. I worked for 6 years for DHH-LA in HR and social security was deducted from my check. For most of my adult life (48 now) I was a stay at home wife and mom which was a blessing. Bipolar destroyed my first marriage of 20 years. At one point he actually said there was nothing wrong with me, that I just liked those pills! Tried to go back to work and it was intense and stressful and I told my psychiatrist I needed more Xanax to work. He said if I need more than 4mg a day I needed to quit and return to stay at home wife (remarried). I only worked for 3 years and SSI won’t count my 6 years of employment working for the state in the 90’s which is infuriating so my psychiatrist basically said I need to quit but I don’t have enough credits since they only go back 5 years. So frustrating!
You can try to get SSI. You don't need any work history for that.
I didn't understand your whole message so if you already know about SSI I apologize.
Spot on again Rob. I could see all 10 in myself. I think self talk is so important. I operate on a speed that is very fast and when I stop and I do, I order myself to STOP, Breathe, look around, whatever I’m doing doesn’t need to be done faster than lightning! My Mom rushed all 8 of her children around because it was a necessity. The seven of us still alive are all rushers and workaholics.
That compulsion to spend our money on every needy cause that pops up says to me. Pick a couple of very worthy legit causes and support them.
Another topic is Jumping around topics in conversations with family and friends abruptly. Part of my mind racing thoughts.
Rob
I hope you find the middle ground soon!
Colleen
It's so true what you said about narcissism. Before I knew about narcissism and bipolar disorder, I was trapped in a marriage for ten years with a narcissist.
I made a lucky escape...have been on meds for bipolar disorder, learned about narcissism and the trauma...and am getting better now. When I look back, I can see what an easy target I was. Now I steer clear of narcs and toxic people...
The treatments for bipolar is similar to PTSD...phew what a nightmare!!!
How do you guys finally realize you're in a bad situation? I don't have bipolar and I'm just curious. I'm glad you're getting better!!
@@artemis2520 I was in the marriage for 10 years. The moment the ring was on my finger he changed. Back then, I didn't know about narcissism. He was Jekyll and Hyde. As time went on he got worse and as a very sensitive (empathic) person his mental abuse started to make me physically ill. And, there were children, which made things more difficult. When his anger became more physical, that's when I decided I couldn't take it anymore and divorced. I had no friends, as he drove them away. The psyciatrist said I was bipolar but now I know it's Post traumatic stress disorder.
It is very difficult to get out of a relationship with a narcissist...I hope I answered your question ok. I recommend Dr. Ramani, on CZcams, if you want to understand narcissism. All the best🙃
This is great! You are making a wonderful and genuine contribution to mankind! Thank you so much!
When I was younger I’d take my friend shopping and buy her a bunch of stuff just so we could hang out. I did that for years and continued the bad shopping habits until I accumulated a bunch of credit card debt. Now I’m doing a debt relief program and working with my husband to control my shopping habit
Great video, Rob! Thank you for the time and effort when you are not feeling well. You are in my heart.
Awe thank you my dear friend
I really appreciate the attention to when you said that you arent belived of serious things because your bipolar.
TW!
Ive been sexually assulted once by a hospital staff who when I told him what he did made me uncomfortable he told nurses I was seeing things. I wasnt. Or when I'll tell my parents a little thought of mine and they say im manic because it doesn't allign with their political/religious beliefs.
This was a great video rob. Can you talk about narcissistic parents with bipolar kids? I feel taken advantage of by my parents a lot.
Many years ago, I was speaking to my psychiatrist about how it feels to have bipolar, and what co-morbidities it can come with. How we are devalued as people by the mere word- bipolar, itself. I had arrived at my own personal conclusions re: bipolar and it's many perks by living with it and observing. One, being the shaming those of us who struggle w it.
Another, being that those w bipolar are too often made fun of, not taken seriously, or even taken advantage of. Then there's bullying and many forms of it's manipulation.
And always, there's the ever present stigma.
My truth is, we are ALL "one rock in the head" away from a host of physical and/or mental illnesses.
Not that a rock in the head or say, a bad fall, causes bipolar; -only that any rock, -rather any accident at any time- can cause any number of life long mental struggles or problems altogether.
So don't be so quick to laugh us off. You may be next. Yours just may come in a different package, at a moments notice, signed by Karma herself. Peace.
:edited for clarity
Why look! a fellow sympathizer here wants to add her 2 cents. People can be so ugly.
Among most of these I do, i always feel the need to have an activity or a plan to go out with friends or family. like we have to have a bbq or go to a restaurant or a hiking trail.. It's always been hard not to just hang out and have quality time when i don't have something else to use as guidelines or i will get very uncomfortable. Often spending money to achieve this.
That’s how things started where I was sexually assaulted by a caseworker. Also, I was almost rapped by a guy in high school. My mom is also a narcissist and I think that’s how I got this bipolar thing anyway. The only time she is nice to me is when my dad’s around. She’s the cause of everything and she has a masters degree in psychology and she uses it against me.
Love this video, especially how it demonstrates our vulnerability during a manic episode. High quality work even though you may not be currently so well yourself.
Idk how I missed this episode!! So glad you brought this up!! This is exactly what I deal with. You are describing me. My solution is isolating. Very lonely place to be.
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I really appreciate your Polar Warriors videos. I have been bipolar since the day I was born. I am 75 years old now. Why my parents kept is beyond me. People said I was spoiled and were told to spank me more. I was a very angry child. My anger still comes out periodically. Tough part is waking up with all the guilt because the things I have done in the past. I’m on meds have been a long time. They do help a lot. Still bipolar.😢
Honestly happy this channel exists helps me better understand so much of what my girl goes through
OUCH hearing and going through this list brought back bad memories but was very therapeutic and helped validate why I canceled a number of friendships in past. I may have felt lonely at times but it is better than being depressed or hurt over a mistake.
I literally LIVE for the mania, feeling the happiest days. I wish I could bottle that feeling. But then I dread the drop into suicidal depression, because the cycle happens without fail.
@@yellowiris123 yes. It's a vicious cycle, one that goes on and on.
@@yellowiris123 me too, just know you're not alone! ❤️
So true. And it hurts so much. I know i do more than people deserve but i cant say no.
I feel like you’ve followed my life path. I’ve given away prizes possessions let friends live with me given money time and most importantly myself. It hurts to hear it outloud but feels a sense of comfort.
I feel your pain. It’s a big to swallow. But we are still here.
This is so spot on & I'm glad to understand why I attract & entertain narcissists in my life. Great advise for young people to minimise avoidable pain & frustration. Thankyou!
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Great video Rob! Have you talked about bipolar parents and how we are mistreated? I feel as my dad has some sort of narcissistic tendencies with an inflated sense of self. He makes me feel as I’m dumb and never know what I’m talking about. We are not talking right now because I called him out about his lying and mistreatment. Also, I feel like he have me tag along when he has work to do cos I can’t stand to sit by and watch him work, so I’m always putting in more effort. Thank you!
I'm at the 41 second mark Robert and already I want to say thank you for making this video. I don't even know what you're going to say yet but I have been extremely taken advantage of bc of my illness. I'm going to share the hell out of this video and not just to help others with BPD but I have a few choice people I want to see this. I'm not a spiteful person so I will let you do some talking for me. And again thank you for all you do to help. I showed one of your videos with a long time friends and he told me he finally understood me much better.
Hon....you hit me HARD and TRUE when you said the words "Pack" My wolf thanks you. Stay safe everyone! -howls -
Really have give me hope & inspiration. I'm going through it with my diagnosis. My dad passed away last year. Had to leave my job as a HCA on a dementia unit. I'd had Covid and was so sick & facing eviction. So could not attend his funeral. None of the family have spoke to me since & my children are adults but not supportive. No matter how hard I try to explain they won't accept or help. At 53 just hit rock bottom lost my way & realize that i deserve a better life as I'm basically so unhappy & sick of the stigma & prejudice
Hi, Rob offers one on one support on Patreon if you are interested. He also posts more personal information about his day to day struggles. All patrons can contact him directly by private message and he frequently offers free phone calls!!! If you decide to join, you can mention my name and he will give you a free call. Another Patreon exclusive is Rob hosting and moderating weekly support groups on discord! We have many family and friends take part. Take gentle care! 🙏
Sometimes we all need someone to talk to:
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teenlineonline.org/talk-now/
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Point 9 is spot on for me. My fiance drives me up the wall constantly asking what's wrong when I'm like yo I just don't feel good. Thanks for the video I'll be showing her .
I'm 28. Your work has broken down the barriers to me getting the help I needed. Thank you so much Rob
Hey there ! Rob is available on patreon. You can message him, text or even have a call with him there. He is offering free support phone calls for all patrons right now. I think you may benefit from that. Take gentle care.
Sometimes we all need someone to talk to:
www.crisistextline.org/
teenlineonline.org/talk-now/
Dianna Polar Warriors Team Member
(H)old (O)n (P)ain (E)nds
On Patreon, you can message Rob directly, get a phone/video call, watch videos that are more personal in nature, and access a great community.
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Strong and truthful video. One of my favorites..
I've seen all 10. U worded this so clearly, Rob. I couldn't have said it better myself......thank U !
Great video about a subject that doesn't get discussed enough in the mental health community.
This channel is a god send. I just want to say thank you for all of the guidance and good work you are doing. I still have ways to go in my treatment but these videos have made a huge impact in my understanding of my illness.
Hey there ! Rob is available on patreon. You can message him, text or even have a call with him there. He is offering free support phone calls for all patrons right now. I think you may benefit from that. Take gentle care.
Sometimes we all need someone to talk to:
www.crisistextline.org/
teenlineonline.org/talk-now/
Dianna Polar Warriors Team Member
(H)old (O)n (P)ain (E)nds
On Patreon, you can message Rob directly, get a phone/video call, watch videos that are more personal in nature, and access a great community.
www.patreon.com/PolarWarriors
Thankfully, I recognized my uber generosity was a problem before I even knew I have bipolar disorder. I still struggle with the stigma. Hopefully as we evolve as a society, the stigma will fade. Great video, as always Rob! Take good care.
Once I was in a crying spell in my hospital because i was in atypical depression ( which was later diagnosed after 7 months of indoor treatment as bipolar disorder) because my senior roughed me up for some minor mistake of mine. Just at that time a representative of C*Y foundation turned up asking for donations. N even seeing me in that condition he pushed me hard to donate. I donated 7000 INR but the way the transaction was carried was awful. From that day I decided I would never make transaction when m emotional and especially to C*Y foundation .
Loved this one. Very helpful for me and my wife. We both have mental illness. Thank you Robert.
I went through some really dark shit with someone a few years ago. This man was so disturbed yet good at hiding it, that I wouldn’t be surprised if he was a psychopath. I’ve wondered if his limited emotions had anything to do with the fact that he experienced a lack of emotions while I felt everything at times.
Thank you for this video. I lost everything in my first mania. Manic me, narcisistic idiot -- horrible combinaion. For so long I felt like it was my fault, especially in my lowest depression and every depression after that, but I recognise, I was so vulnerable and taken advantage of to the fullest. Wishing everyone the best on their journey.
Hi safran, Rob offers one on one support on Patreon if you are interested. He also posts more personal information about his day to day struggles like his recent hospital stay. Take gentle care! 🙏
Sometimes we all need someone to talk to:
www.crisistextline.org/
teenlineonline.org/talk-now/
Dianna Polar Warriors Team Member
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Thank you again for another wonderful video. I never thought of my generosity as being particularly heightened during episodes, I do have one or two friends who take advantage though. Even one sister. I gave her a coupon one year for a shopping trip with me. A few years later after asking why she hadn't used it she told me she's waiting for me to have more money so I can really spend on her. 😅
Edit:spelling error & clarification
Great topic, having bipolar disease myself, I believe it’s possible for people with Bipolar Disorder to inflict these same behaviors on others. It is a sad comment on society.
Thanks Rob - it hit home 🏡 with me 👍
You are most welcome 🤗 ❤️☀️☀️☀️
-Rob
Thank you for all your videos and knowledge on bipolar. I admit I haven’t watched nearly enough of them but the ones I have have been great. I’d like to thank you for being a great representative for bipolar people. I know I could have done better at times so in the long run I would have been better.
On. The. Nose. Yet another video I need to revisit more than once! Thanks, again!
I have some good friends that take advantage of me when I am Manic.They are not here for me when I am depressed. I am not doing well.
Thank you for your videos. I am just figuring out that I am Bipolar at 40 after a whole life of suffering. I was in Iraq for a few years in the army and have PTSD too so I thought it was just that for this whole time. It is only lately that a psych looked over my whole 15 yr chart and figured it out. I have lost my whole family, all my friends and am in a mountain of debt. Also, now I am afraid that I am going to loose my disability from the VA, which I have been living off of this whole time. I have literally worked a hundred different jobs, but I could not hold any of them. My last job was a pizza delivery driver and I couldn’t even hold that for more than a couple of months. I don’t see a way to have a life anymore. So mood stabilizers work for anyone? I’ve only heard horrible things about them. Sorry to be a downer…
Hey there ! Rob is available on patreon. You can message him, text or even have a call with him there. He is offering free support phone calls for all patrons right now. I think you may benefit from that. Take gentle care.
Sometimes we all need someone to talk to:
www.crisistextline.org/
teenlineonline.org/talk-now/
Dianna Polar Warriors Team Member
(H)old (O)n (P)ain (E)nds
On Patreon, you can message Rob directly, get a phone/video call, watch videos that are more personal in nature, and access a great community.
www.patreon.com/PolarWarriors
Liking your comment t cause I am touched by your story. I hope you were able to get support and find some balance and peace 😊
You should definitely prioritise getting medical help so you can then address your other life problems when you re more stable. Talk to a psychiatrist. Good luck
I am grateful that when my loved one was taken advantage of, no physical harm came to them. Yes, a heavy topic, but a very necessary one. Thanks!
So grateful for your videos. You told what nobody dare to face before.
Another good one Rob. Opportunistic people just suck ☹️
Right?!
This video was full of eye-opening information! Thank you so much for producing this. And thank you for your work. It has been such a help to me. Sending you some good energy ✨🙏✨
That's so sweet of you Evelyn!! Sending you some back!! 🙏 💖
- Rob
I concur, I had a friend think I was giving him an item, I was just showing it to him but I felt compelled to give it to him since it would make it happy and that would make me happy. I had also noticed I am quite liberal when it comes to my possessions and money and I never drew a line to it with my BPT2 Thank you for another wonderful piece of work.
Thank you ❤️ I was asulted and then they called the police on me. Because they focused on my reaction.
I have people who think they can train the bi polar out of me...it's torture ❤ I got help with my mental health and lost my voice. I don't get a say because I've got mental health issues. I was told I didn't make a credible witness in court
I’m bawling, all these things have happened to me. I hate this for us.
Love you man! Doing God's work, I can see how much effort this video took and don't think it's taken for granted by everyone.
Thank you a lot.
2 of my family members, sister and brother in law are narcist. Nearly everday. Proud of themselves, Putting them in the first line...their opinion is the right one...
They are like that with everybody around,not only me.
But when I visit them or we call by phone they kind of abuse my diagnosis. It it easy for them to say " you are mentally sick, so you don't remember what I or we said"
They let me know, that my opinions are sometimes not important, because I can not judge because being bipolar.
It is easy for them ( also some other family members who are not narcists) to abuse me why telling things I should remember BUT they never told me. For sure.
It is easy for people to explain my behaviors who "normal" people do as well (like forget things/ like being emotional / like being excited and happy in a stable way: no hypermanic, just like a lot of peoplew without my diagnosis because I am bipolar. Even when I act "normal ".
It is like they don't see me as a human but as a mental ill woman.
It stresses and triggers me. So I still have to learn to take care of myself.
Don't let to put me down because they treat me otherwise.
Really not easy like I don't want to explain myself and my moods over and over again.
My friends understands me better.
Yes...I try to avoid people who are narcists or try not to argue with them. Going away is a good option for me by excusing me polite and just go home. Or, in the case I sleep in the house of my narcist sister and her narcist husband I take a book and go reading in a another room. Or I might go early to bed to avoid triggering moments.
I call it self defense.
I am happy that I saw your video coincidently this day like a had an emotional and triggering weekend with my sister and huseband in an air bnb. At the moment I ignore them like they absolutely didn't understand me and judged me before I could even explain.
There opinion about me is the right one. Mine count less because I am "sick" in their eyes. Respectless and unhuman.
So I am still learning to deal with situations like that. Taking care of m and listen less to this 2 family members.
It is still my life and I know me very good.
Not all of our behaviors are due to the fact that we are mental ill.
So, people in this community: stay vigilant and listen more to yourself and our real good friends.
❤😊
Mieke, living in Germany
Hi, Rob offers one on one support on Patreon if you are interested. He also posts more personal information about his day to day struggles like his recent hospital stay. Take gentle care! 🙏
Sometimes we all need someone to talk to:
www.crisistextline.org/
teenlineonline.org/talk-now/
Dianna Polar Warriors Team Member
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My mother has been diagnosed with Manic Depression Level 1 with Episodes of schizophrenia since 2003 when she was Relisten to my Care because I’m with her & again in 2018 and I got a Rogers Guardianship to help my mom !
I was told I was bipolar at 45 and now I am 67 and told that I may have anxiety and was given an anxiety pill taken off 3 of my bipolar meds. I feel normal for the first time in a long time. Every time I feel happy I am worried that I could be manic but no I am just happy.
You gave me some peace today brother. Thank you.
I’m so happy to hear that. I’ve been really struggling to find some peace today. Working on it. Hope you have a peaceful weekend :-)
Fantastic video, thank you for your work.
Great video! Spot on with everything. Keep up the good work.
I give away a lot of my stuff and then go on a shopping binge often for other people, but also myself. I tend to buy stuff I really don’t need then feel extremely guilty later for buying myself stuff.
I love this Robert, thank you for all of the knowledge!!!!
This is a fantastic video! Thank you!
This has helped me see things clearer. I love your videos. Keep up the good work man.🤙🏻
Thank you for making the video bro thanks Rob younare fucking hard-core awesome. Every time you got a video up I'm super excited to learn new things to make this difficult avatars with bipolar stuff easier to deal with thank you.
You're a good man. This video gave me insight into my actions and also awareness of what others do to me. It's not often I read or hear something new. Much appreciated.
Really important video Rob ty x
Thank you for helping us with every video!!!
Thank you so much for the kind words. I am glad the videos of been helpful. If you ever have any questions or would like to connect, there’s a link in the video description or you can reach me :-)
-Rob
Loved this!
Trigger #1 Pain!
This video was exactly what I needed.
I’m so glad 😊☀️☀️☀️
-Rob