Learn to Say “No”, Feeling Guilt, Mind and Body Connection, Dr. Gabor Mate, Intro Dr. Angie Holzer
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- čas přidán 3. 12. 2022
- Dr Angie Holzer reminds us of the first 2 limbs of yoga - Yama and Niyama. These limbs help us identify things we need to add or eliminate in our life to help in the healing process.
Dr GABOR Mate helps us learn that one of the childhood coping mechanisms is guilt. As we get older, we need to learn to say “No”.
@yogawillheal
Your intuition....is your inner Christ's protection for you. 63 years l ignored it to my pearl. Strength is needed...NO is needed. When l has suffered enough re people pleasing....l am healing that now.
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I started people pleasing at 3 years old I wanted to be loved I wanted to be a good girl it grew until o day it morphed into a suffocating blanket over me
Your stories are both intriguing and comforting to me to know I’m not the only one. Please tell me more.
Yes, yes,! Sorry for having ignored my gut feelings.
Thank you for helping me cry about my relationship to guilt and rejoice in how I can continue to change it
The same story of Moses peace be upon him told in the Quran, beautifully told. I love the story. Also great analogy bringing the story in the subject of the ability to say no.
"There are no wrong feelings" Alan Watts
I think the most difficult thing is finding a balance. Because unfortunately we will always by surrounded by people who don’t like to hear ‘No’. For some people, saying ‘No’ could result in a huge rage attack from a parent. It could result in not getting a promotion or big displeasure from a boss. Saying ‘No’ many times to a partner could also result in the partner cheating or leaving (even they are the most patient person on earth). So you people please/compromise to protect yourself sometimes. But how much is too much is the question
We have all been so programmed...through religion ...to deny thyself. Religion real meaning..."Is to link back" laten. I linked back to me...their l found what l was looking for. Best relationship l have ever had. I support me, encourage me
Thanks for sharing!
I express thing how I feel nobody cares most my family is dead growing up no one cared how I felt we did not express our emotions in my family
There is actually a book called’’ When I Say No I feel Guilty.’’
Thank you for sharing. Do you know the author of that book?
It is by Manuel J Smith Phd
Going to grab it now. Thank you 🙏
Although really internalizing what he says for the first ten minutes actually cements the whole story of guilt and why we feel it and why not invite it more into our life
Thanks for uploading this, Dr. Holzer! Question: @7:05, was the section meant to read as, "How not saying 'no' leads to diseases" instead of "How saying 'no' leads to diseases"?
Yes I believe it is. I’ll see if I can change that. Thanks!
thank you so much.. not all firstborn boys, but all boys. The death of the first boys is the final plague on the Egyptians.
This is good stuff! Why do they cut it short!
We are glad you enjoyed it! We wanted to make this more consolidated so people can get through it, but maybe we’ll make it longer next time if people will watch all of it?
@@yogawillheal you're doing great cutting it down in my opinion. Makes it more focused and digestible between two tasks
Thank you!
I haven't heard this story for many years and now it strikes me - did the Egyptians not find it very suspect that the daughter (queen?) had been down by the river and comes back with a little boy just at the time all Jewish first born boys were supposed to be being drowned?
It was the Will of Allah. When she saw the baby, she felt a strong connection with him. She convinced the Pharaoh to keep him and adopt him. To the king, the chance of that little boy to become who ended becoming was a remote thing especially if he is raised not knowing his origin. The story is beautifully told in the Quran. Check it out.
@@mohammedtjr9236 no.
She knew he was Hebrew by what he was wrapped in.
Look around at people in power they rarely live by the rules they demand others to live by.
Just look at California during lock downs, most politicians were out and about with no mask, while they demanded others no contact and masks.
Iets levendiger van toon zou fijn zijn!
HE GABOR IS IN TRAUMA ; NEVER WILL HW GET OUT ; THATS HIS CONCEPT EARNING MONEY