Culture SHOCK: a DUTCH PARTNER !?
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- čas přidán 11. 09. 2024
- The culture shock: a Dutch partner!? (= een Nederlandse partner)
- How to love a Dutch person?
- What are typical obstacles in a relationship with a Dutch boyfriend or Dutch girlfriend?
- Are there taboos? Or you can talk about anything you want?
- What about the work-life balance?
- Are Dutch guys real gentlemen?
- And how is it after marriage: a Dutch husband / Dutch wife?
These questions we asked to foreigners who are in a relationship with a Dutch person.
Error at 1:52 - country name participant Red was incorrectly written; should be Taiwant.
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"Culturally they stop living with their parents when they are 18"
Somebody should tell Ome DUO about this ...
LOL ... 'I am hungry'...- 'there's a MacDonald, get there and buy something, and I'll wait for you here' ... absolute and all Dutch in one sentence
After having emigrated to France and having married a Chinese, I agree that the importance and enjoy-ability of a good meal/restaurant has definitely increased. On the other hand, I remain a Dutch, so food will probably never be the most important thing in my life.
Richard Bloemenkamp zz
Absolute nonsense
@@ricky3180
Niet dan?
Ff een kroket uit de muur trekken bij de Febo?
Maar we eten ook samen inderdaad.
Vergeleken met andere landen besteden we heel weinig tijd aan eten.
In sommige landen zijn ze bijna 4 uur (1/6) van een dag kwijt aan eten.
Een Nederlands gezin is na een half uur meestal al klaar.
Being a Dutch person, i still dont get what she meant and why she's upset haha
So funny 😄 I love doing groceries with my Dutch boyfriend😅🙈 he’s always buying things that are “in de aanbieding” (discount)
the word “korting” was one of the first words I learned
Lol i dunno how good ur Dutch is therefore i'll write it in English. This comment literally made my day. Often we (Dutch people) are considered to be greedy, and honestly we kinda are. But this comment was so straight up, i love it! I always go to the appie cuz their kortingen especially at the end of the day are on certain products pretty high (up to 40%). But idk how to explain it, but I rlly like ur comment!
L.S. van Ahee haha😄 yes, at first I saw it as being greedy as well, but then I changed my perspective and I totally get it! Now I also get excited when I see great discounts 😅
Is goeie bonus van de appie youknowzelluf
BONUS
Selinas Inspiration that’s funny, bec the first thing I saw in Holland and word that I remember the most was actually „korting” 😂😂😂
We dont leave home when were 18, we move 2 doors down and eat at home Still everyday lekker prakkie
Hahahahah deze
Hahahahaha
Okay for me it was on the other side of the city which basically is a village in my case (Zevenaar) but the people here are a little too proud and call it a city, but certainly I ate with my parents more than I ate at home and in the weekend I always slept over. Then mom died when I was 19. Then dad's best friend died when I was almost 22. Then a year later dad suddenly got a relationship with the wife of his deceased best friend. And ever since he's most of the time on the other side of the country in The Hague and I have to cook dinner for myself. 😭 But we still do grocery shopping together in Emmerich, just on the other side of the border, every week and have dinner together and I am 29 now. 😆
Haha kicke, zo waar. 💪
@@Iv1309 en die Duitsers allemaal op zondag in Nederland boodschappen doen.
"Ik heb honger..."
-"Oké, daar is de McDonald's. Zoek het uit!"
Dat is inderdaad zó waar en zó Nederlands en dat zou ik absoluut ook doen!
hahahah geweldig!!!!
Oké,dat kan,ik ben ook Nederlander en ik zou dat niet doen.
@@jamesbond-hx4ys Idd, MD is veelste duur en ongezond, eerder iets van "daar is een appie, haal voor mij ook een broodje".
Wauw is dat echt zo??
@@eunbyeolkim9215, nu ik daadwerkelijk een vriendinnetje heb: niet meer.
I have been married to my beautiful English wife now for 48 years and remember asking her in the beginning , would you like a cup of tea and she would say “ I wouldn’t mind “ but I had to ask her again if she wanted a cup of tea “ Yes or No “ , no rudeness intended but no puzzling answers please.
To all you non Dutch people out there, the Dutch are not “ rude “ but appreciate a sober answer but there are of cause exceptions in any culture .
I must admit that after living in English speaking countries for 52 years if asked if I would like a cup of tea I will say “ I wouldn’t mind “ or “ That would be nice “
Greetings from New zealand, the land of “ Yeah, nah “
True! I brought back Dutch breakfast cake (ontbijtkoek) and my then Australian girlfriend said; it’s different, upon the first bite. I’m still puzzled after 34 years if that was a yes, I like it, or a no, I don’t care for it.
I think you were just bad in English. "I wouldn't mind" = "Ik heb daar geen bezwaar tegen" = een dubbele ontkenning dus positief = ja. Ze bedoelde het niet als "Het maakt mij niet uit".
We say Yeah, no and no, yeah where I’m from in the US as well ha! Seems a regional thing here though, as I’ve met people from elsewhere within the states who are very puzzled by it.
It's not all English countries. I'm Canadian and I also get confused and frustrated by how British people avoid saying what they want or what they mean.
OMG, that reminded me of a situation when I was invited over to a Dutch household and they asked me whether I would like a cup of coffee, I replied with: "mmm, maybe". Then a confusion started. Eventually, we all agreed on saying "yer" or "no" next time :)
I speak Dutch because of my ex and now I speak Chinese because of my Chinese lover. Dating people from different nationalities makes me being polyglot 😂😂😂
At least you got something out of it :-)
any idea which language you will learn next?
Yoooo why the hell is this soo treu😂😂
😂😂😂😂
By the time you're 50, you'll be speaking half the languages around the world!
--We do see a healthy relationship as one where the couple can talk about everything. There shouldn't be any taboos between lifetime partners.
--Most men are a LOT more tactful than just saying "oh you gained like 5 kilos". Even for us Dutch that's considered rude, not just direct.
--Yea I'd probably tell my partner too if someone else hit on me. Partially for being honest and partially as a "heh, something funny happened to me today" kind of thing.
--Our humor might seem weird to others? Not sure as I haven't visited other countries often enough to be able to tell how it is in other places.
--Your man/boyfriend just expected you to go grab McDonalds on your own while he waited outside? Either the guy is clueless or simply a bad partner in some areas...
--It used to be normal to move out of your parents' place around 18 years old. These days though it's closer to mid-twenties if not even later, depending on relationship status.
--We don't all want to have everything ordered. That wasn't a Dutch thing, but an individual thing. Maybe he was a bit of a neat freak or something.
--Yup, all work and no play makes Dutchies a dull boy. :P We care about our free time quite a bit.
--Shared accounts while also having separate ones don't happen all the time, but I do think it's a good system.
--A lot of people don't know exactly what to get at the grocery store. I personally always walk through all isles and decide what I want to get as I go. We do like knowing beforehand when we do what at what time though. :P Or at least a decent estimate.
--Older people (40+?) might not be that well-versed in English, but most younger people are. This means it's also understandable older people like you more when you can speak Dutch. You can relate to people more when you can communicate properly after all.
-Learning our language is less about "investing into the relationship" and more "making an effort to integrate into our country" imo. We tend to dislike people that come to live here, but don't make an effort to actually "become Dutch" and instead stay stuck in the language and culture of the country they came from. And if you show you're willing and trying to learn Dutch people are usually glad to be of help with that.
40 is old? LOL.
in the west of holland, many people who are 60+ speak english just fine. the more rural you get, the less english is spoken.
@@Apipoulai Yeah, true, in the big cities, most people speak English fluently or at least conversationally, but closer to the German and Belgium border, de exent gets wors, piepol don't eh.. do no de wurds not end they eh.. haha.. nou eh skrew up de volgorde of de wurds.
@@Roozyj i iz kano-ings. ingliiish not goood spoken in da Limburgs. dey prefer da strudel-spache
I am 66 years from Amsterdam and i speak Englisch as long as i can remember mostly because of the rock and popsong since the sixties a d everything on tv is subtitled so its easy to
learn.
As a person of mixed nationalities, one of them dutch I would advise you to please go with a dutch guy they are the best. At least the dutch guys are upfront, truthful, direct, organised and not full of bs. Most dutch guys are fit, strong, tall and have a cool easy going way that is romantic af, If you know the language and dialect you win. Woman has to be fit to keep up with him and like outdoor activities. Luckily my Scandi side is very tall and strong so I can fit in. Biking dates why not? If you are dutch and fit, biking is 2nd nature ; a date on a bike is blissful fun especially in the summer, biking to local swimming place, spend all day sunbathing and swimming. In winter love bike dates in the snow... going to local frozen pond, or canals ice skating. Like to compete...with the men you win. . Dutch guys love it. Sometimes 20 of us friends going out on bike dates..it is super fun. Afterwards on way home we are all hyped biking, laughing and shouting out our ideas and jokes. Even if we cycle 10km back itz all fun man. Epecially I love the banter; dialect sweet talking...that has the rizz factor. Anyway give me a fit blue eyed, blond, tall, handsome, sexy and direct dutchman any day.
And now I quote my Dutch boy: ”The patience I have with you, sometimes, I can’t believe it my self”.
That sounds indeed very much like translated from Dutch to English. My feeling says that this phrasing finds its origin somewhere in Dutch television/culture. The nice thing is, that although it states a negative sentiment, it does acknowledge and recognize the emotional implication, transformation and the hesitation of the person saying it.
het gedult dat ik met you heb soms (heb soms?) ik kan het zelf niet geloven, i mean ig that works but have sometimes pretty weird to say.
The Danish girl easily could be a Dutch girl. In fact, besides the obvious looks, her pronounciation sounds Dutch.
The current Frisians in the Netherlands are from Denmark originally. Remember Frisia used to be stretching from Vlie untill the Scheldt after the Romans left. So Dutch and Danish have a lot in common too.
Exactly, I thought she was Dutch 😂😂
Frisian is the closest language to English in the world
She is Dutch. This is how to make themself look good
German girl too
That ex-husband wasn't being direct as a Dutchie, but being rude as an asshole. I'm Dutch, but if my guy would tell me: "oh wow you gained a few kilo's" .....
Yes. The directness is almost always to cut to the chase. Not just blurt out hurtful stuff. Cutting to the chase come of as a bit rude, but it's never 'insulting' rude
Had die moeten wachten tot ze in een pompoen was veranderd?Vrouwen hebben ook van die eisen over mannen dus de man mag ook zijn mening geven.
@@Pfirtzer ik weet niet met wie jij om gaat maar ik maak geen kk vernederende opmerkingen over het lichaam van m’n vriend of zelfs vriendinnen want dat is gewoon belachelijk
@@redfishswimming wtf? Really
Well, in some areas in North Holland a lot of Dutch people would find people offensively direct
My Dutch boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months, I moved to the Netherlands just over 3 months ago and next month I finally get to start taking Dutch classes! I know a few words but really looking forward to being able to have a real conversation in Dutch.......plus it'll mean he can't talk secretly in Dutch in front of me anymore haha
Veel succes!
Doe je best !
Het gaat je lukken!
Welkom in Nederland. Hoop dat je het leuk gaat hebben hier.
Learn fris too just in case they wanted to talk shit about you in front of your face at least you can argue 😂
'you gained 5 kilos'... That's an immediate death sentence in every culture. The Dutch included.
3:20. Saying Dutch don't speak English very well. That is false. We speak it better than in most countries. XD
while in school or in a company that uses it, yeah. Many dutchies let their English die with school
Viktor Rabowki
Ikr XD
@Sarah Hamilfan Dat was ook het eerste waar ik aan dacht, het gaat hier om een oudere generatie.
Its taught on a high level i Just turned seventeen, and I my english is better than the average native speaker
Dat kan je wel zeggen ja! Alleen misschien op de Filipijnen ( ben getrouwd met een Filipijnse) Is hun Engels net zo goed. En soms ook niet. Maar je snapt wat ik bedoel 😉😊
I used to live in Netherlands and can speak their language 🇳🇱 but there is no place like home, so here i am back to Philippines 🇵🇭 and enjoying life 😊 . Success iedereen!
Philippines in vegas doesn't like me.
T is grappig om te zien hoe snel deze mensen conclusies trekken terwijl ze waarschijnlijk maar 1 Nederlandse vriend of vrienden groep hebben gehad dus maar met 1 'soort' mensen zijn omgegaan
Ja deze mensen kunnen the truth niet aan.
Het is ook simpelweg lastig om Nederlanders zo snel samen te vatten
Dus dat
Maar ik denk dat een deel zeker wel klopt: als ik (bijvoorbeeld) het gemiddelde Oost-Europese land met Nederland vergelijk zijn wij Nederlanders toch wel een redelijk gesloten volkje dat zich niet bijzonder snel openstelt voor vreemdelingen. Dan Oekraïne waar ik zelf op vakantie was: terwijl ik me inmiddels redelijk kon redden in een gemiddeld restaurant in Kiëv (voor de duidelijkheid, ik was er in de winter, dan ben je er als toerist echt een uitzondering), zag ik op een dag twee Amerikaanse toeristen echt geweldig overdonderd naar de borden met gerechten staren (waar het alleen in Cyrillisch op vermeld stond). Binnen 3 seconden of zo kwam een stevige kerel glimlachend op ze af: 'Can you figure it out, my friends!?' . Beiden gaven aan dat ze niet wisten wat ze moesten bestellen, waarop hij ze meteen aan de arm meetrok en alle gerechten uit ging leggen. Dat zullen wij Nederlanders toch echt niet snel doen.
Daarnaast is het daar veel gebruikelijker dat iemand een toerist uitnodigt voor een avondmaal met familie als het wel klikt. Ik ging naar Oekraïne omdat een jongedame die ik in Nederland had ontmoet, me na een erg leuke dag samen uitgenodigd had eens in haar land langs te komen.
Die dag hadden we eigenlijk alleen zullen fietsen, maar m'n moeder was in een jolige bui en nodigde haar uit voor het avondmaal. Dat het in haar land heel normaal is dat een lokale inwoner een toerist waar het wel mee klikt voor zoiets uitnodigt, wist ik toen nog niet, maar sindsdien deins ik daar niet zo snel meer voor terug en ik vond het jammer dat ik een Bulgaarse die ik op het busstation in mijn stad trof (terwijl mijn stad bepaald geen toeristen-trekpleister is) op de dag dat ik m'n koffer voor m'n ries naar Kiëv kocht, niet rond kon leiden, terwijl ze dat heel leuk had gevonden.
In de dansklas waar ik (als het weer mag... zucht) als enige man wekelijks aan deelneem zitten een Ierse, een Duitse, 3 Russische, 2 Oekraïense, een Roemeense en Bulgaarse dame. En o ja... ook nog een uit Uruguay, naast 3 (mezelf meegerekend) Nederlanders. Die vertellen toch allemaal zo ongeveer dezelfde dingen ;)
Ik kan me niet voorstellen dat die allemaal dezelfde vriendengroep hebben ;)
Dat is waar
I'm Dutch myself and am watching these video's because my boyfriend is French and he has made comments about my directness XD
I really didn't see what he meant before... But watching more of these vids makes me view my "Dutchness" in a different light. :)
H vA it even varies to which part of the country you are. Compared to the more rural places, the Randstad is considered way more blunt, because they’re more direct. Originally I’m from a small village, but now I live in a big city and I much more prefer the directness here.
@@mebearcreations Yeah that is true indeed. I'm in quite a smal city atm. And it depends on how well you know the person. But people will be more tolerant and courtly towards strangers here, because there is "more room". They will however be almost the opposite when it comes to "their right" and the extend of them knowing you.
I thought all Dutch women were looking for a white western blonde provider and only men were allowed to date foreigners
@ where do you get your information from? You sound very ignorant right now.
longbow857 I lived there and I saw it on a daily basis . All girls coming from Eastern Eu and Latina chasing a white blonde man and all local girls not even talking to a foreigner. Now if u wanna deny reality is your issue. I think you’re the ignorant
A guy: You gained five kilos.
> he is just too dumb to know how to be loved. In my opinion, that is not Dutch directness.😂
I think we really need to differentiate rudeness and Dutch directness ( this is a cool trait of Dutch people to me).
To be honest, all my Dutch family and friends are so caring and sensitive to what they are saying to other people. Some people pretend they are direct (but just rude) and mostly they were from Amsterdam(not every Amsterdamers) 😜😂😄
our directness would more be "oh no those pants look hideous", or "yo if you do [x] your chances are gone with [x job]. instead of "yeaaahhh, they're fine..."
couldn't agree more! I definitely feel many of the Dutch people I know are careful with their directness. I can sometimes sense that they steer away from the topics/ wording that they think might be offensive. Unlike the Brits, part of their humour is to provoke others lol
I disagree. Depends on all sorts of factors/sutuations. In the case he said that to his girlfriend it couldve been directness. But yes, it also couldve been rude. Again. imo it depends.
hahahha but when i made a joke to my ex boyfriend who grew up in a dutch culture that he "gained weight" he got soooooo mad at me :D :( (he was on vacation, in our culture it is one way of saying yes you gained weight, it seems like you enjoyed your vacation so much) what i've learned is be careful with wordings and some direct people are actually sensitive when they are the one who receives the directness from someone else ;)
In fact, there's 5 kilos more to love!
When i got fatter, and people mentioned it, i used to reply:
"Meer om van te houden"
I use it too sometimes if a woman tells me she got fatter and asks me what i think, there's no good answer to that, so i bring out the naughty smile and say something like
"hee dat is alleen maar meer om van te houden!" :')
I'm not going to mention it myself, why would i go and do that?! lol
It's not about nationality, but personality. I know a lot of dutch people and all of them are absolutely different in their habits and acting.
Yes indeed it is more a personality thing. Except the video tells you more about how a country operate generaly, which all the habitants get used to in some degree. Like being punctual is really important in the Netherlands, ofcourse a lot of people would still be late. Because we value it more we have overall more consequenses being late here in comparison with for example Spain. Where it is more accepted to be late or doing tasks the next day, also this does not mean people from Spain can't or won't have to be punctual. It is only less a thing, so people are used to this and won't freak out as much as a typical dutch person would do in a similar situation.
I wish I could speak Dutch.... I've been here over 9 years.. but a car accident at the age of 16 left my memory in bits....I wanted to follow in my parents footsteps as nurses, my brain could not do it... and years later, i meet a dutch man, fall in love and move here... i simply cannot learn... my dutch is ok for a 2 year old sadly.....
That’s horrible. Isn’t there any way for you to regain your abilities? Best of luck in life ✨✨
Sad good Luck in your life
This is an accurate video! I laughted a lot, specially when one of the women mentioned the "I am hungry" case. My boyfriend at the beginning also told me: "Ok, you can go there to eat something". I am from Paraguay, and if you say something like "I am hungry" you expect that the other person is going to join you at least as a company eating something small. Nowadays I am more "dutch" so I can do the same thing to him haha.
@slangnocturno why not?
@slangnocturno Tall is enough for many women :) They treat people like a plastic figure. He could be rude, or not intelligent. As far as he is tall.
That is not dutch in my experience, but I see multiple people say it is. I literally never had this situation myself.
When young people go to study at a certain university, they are usually forced to leave their parents house, because it is too far away to travel to and fro on a daily basis. That's when they are eighteen, when they go live on their own. But most people don't study at a university, and some find their first choice in their home city. For such people it is (much) later. The average of leaving the parents house is 23,5 years old. Usually because it is very hard to find a nice place for yourself, that you can afford. Prices for housing have gone through the roof in the Netherlands.
Thanks. I couldn't have said it better. It annoys me that so many people look down on 'all those who don't/didn't study' while in reality it's a minority that does study.
And on the average for leaving your parents' place: in the Randstad where I live, be lucky if you can afford something when you're 28-30 years old. Most places are either far too expensive to rent or buy and council homes have a waiting list averaging 14 to 15 years, a number that is still increasing.
I'm 33 now and still live at home. The next year does not provide any prospect of leaving as prices for buying a place rise faster than I can save up.
@@weeardguy Am truly sorry to hear that. It's insane! Anyway, we left the Netherlands, for we couldn't afford to live there. One is working for a pile of bricks his entire life...
Currently we live in Germany. It was okay in Niedersachsen, but we really detest NRW.
Life has nice things, but also some less nice things.
Wish you all the best.
@@gardenjoy5223 Ah well I take relief in the fact I'm not the only one who's in the same position. So many youngsters in the Randstad want to move out for years already but just can't find a place at all. If you manage to find a partner and start living together things will look very different as the chances/options for a mortgage suddenly increase ALOT. A friend of mine managed to get into a council home this summer: she's 5,5 years younger than me and because the council-home is meant for youngsters, she could get it, as she was 27 at the time. And that's the worst thing: the companies that rent them out still stick to the original rules: you can only apply for a youngster council home when you're under 28 ánd you can (usually) only live there for five years, as they expect you to go to something better after that time. But currently, the council-market is so messed up, one has to be extremely lucky to be able to find another council home after that time, or be lucky enough to be able to rent in the free sector or buy something. The fact that my friend has to pay 732 Euro and something (the maximum amount of rent for a council home, a limit set by the government) for a 29 m2 1-room studio already says a lot. Yes, it is in Amsterdam, but my city (18 km's above it) and almost any surrounding region/city is none the better.
The best thing I can hope for is that the housing-bubble will burst AGAIN and prices just drop like mad. But they've been saying that a new burst will happen for years by now, but so far nothing has happened and prices have only increased 12% in the last year or so.
It's always weird when I go on vacation in the east of the Netherlands and sometimes look at properties for sale at local real-estate agents there. I can get a large sized family-home there for a price that hardly gets you a double-room apartment in my region. Thought about moving there, but when I read the local newspapers there, how all the youngsters are moving out because there's a lack of jobs in the area... yeah... well, that's not a great incentive to move over there.
Can't remember I've ever been to Niedersachsen, though I like Germany ;) Been there on many vacations, usually in the Rheinland-Pfalz area (Eiffelgebirge) .
Vielle Gruesse, alles Gute für das Neue Jahr ;)
@@weeardguy Danke dir ;) Wenigstens ist dein Deutsch gut genug für ebenfalls ein Abenteuer hier.
Best of luck in your life!
@@gardenjoy5223 Danke ;) Ich hab nur rezent wieder angefangen mein Deutsch zu verbessern. Nach der Realschule hab ich das nicht mehr regelmässig gesprochen. Am Tanzunterricht gibt es nun seit der neue Termin ein Deutsche Frau mit wie ich nun mein Deutsch wieder üben kann. (Normalerweise rede ich jeden fall von 'der Mädchen von Tanzen' weil jeder da erwachsen ist, ich bin der einige Mann)
Leider ist Tanzunterricht durch corona-massnahmen nun wieder verboten...
Ob mein Deutsch gut genug ist... hmmm ja verzweiflung ;) Ich denke ich mach das nicht slecht im vergleich mit viele Personen meine Alter (ich bin 33) .
Immer wenn ich Urlaub in Deutschland gemacht hatte (der letzte is jaren vorher), hat ich viele stunden Rundfunk angehört und ich habe immer versucht ein Deutsche Zeitung zu lesen und der auch selbst an zu fragen an der Kasse im supermarkt. Kann mir die erste mal noch erinnern: die camping wo meine eltern verblieben bietete ein mobile bäckerei der jede morgen am parkplatz kurz-verkauf hatte. Nächst der brötchen gefragt um ein Zeitung. Ich hab mich ein Bild oder was bekommen. Ich wustte nicht das nackte Frauen ein richtiger ding ware in Deutsche Zeitungen ;) und ich war 12 jahre alt ;)
Wo kommen sie ursprünglich vorher?
Dating my SO for 2 years now. He's very direct and I appreciate it, we dont dance around what's wrong. I help him keep organized and he helps me not work myself to death.
I totally agree on the work/life balance but in my opinion, working 40 hours per week is still disproportionate.
I knew him from 2017 .. he was my passanger .. at tht time he flying back to amsterdam.. and i fall in love with his eyes 😂.. and until today .. our relationship is on and off bcoz of heis thousands miles from me! But then he decided to meet me again in march 2020... and .. i cant wait for it.. i feel excited and nervous a bit! LDR
I mean I wouldn't say we have *no* taboos, but it's less of a taboo
I'm together with a dutch dude. They are very straight forward and in the beginning when I wasn't used to it I could proceed it as rude. But when I got to know him better I started to appreciate the honesty and the no beat around the bush attitude. I'm a Swede and trying to learn to be more like the dutch in that way because it's really different from how we Swedes do.
My dutch partner today just told me that I need to watch what I eat because My cheek is getting chubbier ... yup, he had to duck when my sandal almost flyover his face.
Ah, domestic violence jokes. How...adorable...
@Pero Djetlić yeah but men usually don't get shit about their weight? But you're right
He was just honest!
@rose rose Hij was gewoon eerlijk. Maar je hebt gelijk. We willen inderdaad niet weten wat daarna kwam. 🤣😂
@rose rose Echt wel! Hahaha! Hoop voor je dat jouw reactie HEEL LANG blijft hangen ;) Had je moeten zeggen "ik vond jou in het begin knapper..."
So cool to actually hear there accents in english even change because they are together with a dutch person and speaking it daily probably. I love the effort they do to learn the langauge!
3:28 flowers from a Dutch guy with no clear reason like a birthday or anniversary? I'm sooooooooooooooooooooooooooo envious! :P
if you're lucky you will get flowers at your funeral.
I just realised: I'm so incredibly Dutch!
On most of the topics, I can only see how effective we as Dutchmen are LOL
Machiel van der Schoot yup LOL
My Dutch guy is quite rude on the outside. But he has a gentle soul inside.
Ah, een bouwvakker
The Dutch call themselves 'nuchter' for which there is not an exact translation. Sober, clearheaded or matter of fact.
nuchter=down to earth
You are just plain rude people selfish who does not care about other people feelings and have no manners
@DJGahann the heat came to me. I never in my life wanted a dutch. He came to me begging me for months
@DJGahann i have met at least 10 dutch people men and women and all of them had complete disrespect if someone is taken or not to throw themselves on them . I will tell u more stories about my experience with dutch people later
@@antsel4255 i dont think you've met the right people then. even so, 10 dutch people cant speak for the rest of the netherlands
i dated some dutch guys before, have to say the first dutch guy i dated many years ago he was fantastic, as a genuine friend as well as great boyfriend. His parents were very caring and warmhearted person. he was very very special.
But most of the dutch guys i have met are just very plain, cold and distant. I do not see myself click with them well. They are too different from me.
@@xiacoenen9212 Haaaaaa, i used the google translate to check what you are tying to say. Honestly, i do not get these dutch guys. Most of them are weird, like they are so introvert and awkward.
@@xiacoenen9212 ja klopt
@@xw6475 Where are you from if i may ask?
Great channel LD (Bart) ! My wife is Italian, talks Dutch (20+ years) and speaks with a Brabantse zachte 'G' (soft 'g'?). The way she uses Dutch sayings (gezegdes) is unique and hilarious ! Just subbed to your channel and enjoying it very much ;-)
Well, isn't Italian full of soft sounds? I know someone from Uruguay who speaks some pretty good Dutch, but her accent still shows ;)
A friend of mine, who is from Russia, always tries to remember herself about the sound of the G. One time, when she was visiting my place and wanted to ask my mom something, she started with 'Gerda' (in the Russian way, so with a soft-K like sound for the G) and then corrected herself: 'Oh no... GGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGERDA!'
I made a special video for her with a nonsense-sentence with a lot of words with G's in them, and pronounced them extra 'fat' for her. She said it left her in stitches ;)
We got dialects
What I like about the Dutch are the windows, the uncovered windows of the homes where you walk on the streets and see what people is doing inside
I honestly would like to watch videos like this in Dutch, with English subtitles. How else am I going to learn it otherwise? 😂
They want you to go to their summer or winterschool and learn Dutch there!
Nina from Denmark: I believe you a correct. My mother aged 74 came to the Netherlands 54 years ago from Denmark. Lived here ever since. She speaks better Dutch than many people born and raised here do. Still thinks like a Dane, though.
Danish and Dutch is very similar, literally everything is
1:19 - 1:29 me, a dutch girl: Ja wat wil je dan? (Yea, what else do you want?)
Thats literally the first thing that popped into my mind. Anyone who can explain to me what the problem is lol im genuinely confused
What he wants to say is that not in all countries woman are so emancipated and independent.
She is expecting him to take her to lunch, not necessarily pay for the lunch but to do it together. :-)
Hahaha zo waar 😂
Lol same
@@cecil6465 I was thinking the same (and I'm also Dutch).
I’m a Filipina married to a Dutch man, we’ve been married for 17 years and until now I’m still struggling to understand him. Sometimes I don’t understand him, maybe because we have 13 years age gap (64 and I’m 51). 😅
Een hartenkreet, Bart: laat het extreem vervelende (muziek of herrie) weg van jouw anders zo mooie video's hier op CZcams. Het irriteert grenzeloos en maakt het een stuk moeilijker om te verstaan en te volgen. Bij voorbaat dank.
most parents speak dutch english you know with the huge accent they dont even try to hide thats why you always hear if someone is dutch after 2 words
Uhm...direct? So very much depends on the area. In the South for instance diplomacy is a must, so ‘being direct’ does not apply there.
And for the rest of what I just saw in this video: based on the personal experience of a few people. Don’t really recognise any of it.
Not for myself nor any of my friends or relatives.
Example : “they don’t speak English”.
Come on now. The Dutch are known for their language-switching-abilities: many foreigners I spoke to were trying to learn Dutch but noticed it was almost impossible cause everyone instantly started speaking English asa they picked up the slightest accent.
Just saying...🤷🏼♀️
She is referring to the elderly (her in-laws), who aren't great at speaking English. Also i think dutch directness in the north or south is still way more direct than any other country. So even if its less in the south is still very much direct compared to other countries
Brabo Engels 😜😂😘
I have to admit this comes from an experience with all 50+ women, but it was very amusing 😁
I'm Indonesian.
My dutch boyfriend and I have been together 8months.
He speak directly and to the point.
My dutch bf drink a lot and never get drunk 😄😄😄
#IndoDutchCouple
Ines Y I know alot of Indonesian (Students) who left the Islam for a Dutch guy! The most cry their ass off after marriage! I can tell you alot about These kinda relations. Most of this relation will end in divorce but yeaah enjoy!
@@NoorNoor-ul5zh yeah i dont think most european men would respect asian females in marriage. they probably see us as more "submissive" and don't bother to learn about our culture. better to stick with our own kind
Deens en Nederlands lijkt heel erg op elkaar dus het is ook geen verassing dat ik eerst dacht dat die knappe Deense dame Nederlands was. Ze heeft hetzelfde soort accent als een Nederlander die goed Engels kan spreken.
According to the video's description of a Dutch partner, I act as the Dutch of both of us, and I am Spanish! I even speak Dutch with my children while my husband speaks to them in Spanish. (We are living in Spain). So sure, those are generalisations...
My father is Dutch and mother is half German and half Finnish.
We live in Germany but we all speak Dutch fluently.
Duitsland ligt naast Nederland
@@lammertbijlsma7583 dat weet ik, maar wat wil je daarmee zeggen?
I love Dutch culture and the language. It's just so beautiful. I am a very direct person, but I'm not sure if a Dutch boy would be appropriate for me. I have a strong personality, and if a Dutch says something like "your dress is ugly", or "your cheeks are chubby", he wouldn't like my answer, because I would tell him his defect too. We would be very equal and it's possible that we wouldn't stand a similar character. Or the opposite can happen : we could enjoy our direct answers. I don't know. I'd love to meet a Dutchie to see how it works.
By the way, I'm shocked about schedule and agenda. Mediterraneans (I'm Spanish) make plans, but not everything is scheduled from the beginning. We live the present day and there are many unexpected things, and unexpected dates too. I have a question: do they plan when to make love too? I imagine a Dutch boy looking at his agenda and saying that he has 15 minutes on Monday morning from 15:00 to 15:15. Hahaha 🤣😂 I think that intimacy is something that comes spontaneously, and it can't be organized. I would answer that I stopped desiring it. 😅 (It's a joke).
Apart from these points, I would be happy to meet a Dutch boy and share many different things of our cultures. It would be very nice, but there aren't many Dutch people living here. Most part of them are tourists, and they aren't willing to start a serious relationship. 😒
The video was great. I loved it. Congratulations Bart. 😘
If your Dutch friend to be would say that your chin is getting chubby and you would reply to tell him his defect, that would make you a perfect Dutch woman. The women are equally direct and equal in most relationships. So, you would fit in perfectly in the Netherlands on your personality.
@@ronaldderooij1774 thanks for your comment. It's good to know it. I'm glad that I would fit in the Netherlands because I find it a gorgeous country and I'd love to visit it someday. There's a chance to study in Utrecht and I'll consider it. 😊
We don't plan and we do plan to make love sometimes, we don't plan it the way you think but I know SOME guys who are basically saying they want to have sex and to meet up. Sometimes they look to schedules and sometimes it's like "spontaneous". But these are just a few boys and not all of them, this also happened at the beginning of relationships and not when you've been together for a longer period of time. 😊
@@nikitaengelsman8349 Hahaha. 🤣I was kidding, but your comment is very interesting. I don't know how relationships work because I have never had any. I never had time to meet someone. But I guess that in the first months love encounters are more spontaneous due to falling in love and being passionate. Desire doesn't last forever and then they have to make "little plans" to make it raise again. It's not bad to admit it. Routine, fast life, working, etc makes it difficult to be with the loved one and wanting to make love. Someone is just tired after a long day. In these situations, I suppose that Dutch would look into their agendas to find a free time for a romantic date to increase passion and maybe something more happens after the dinner. I just wrote the previous comment because I found the video funny. There are also many Spanish couples who set a specific day to have sex. There's a typical saying which is "sábado sabadete". It means "Saturday little Saturday", and some couples think it's the perfect day to plan intimate moments. What about the rest of the week? It can be either spontaneous or not doing anything at all. 😂
@@cristina_garcia Nope, we literally plan everything, even at the beginning of the date. It's because Dutch people kind of have a busy life and we don't want to cause any inconvenience. I feel like a lot of people are scared to say they're busy when people stand at front of their door, but when you plan.. You both choose what the best time is for both of you and I really like that. It shows your being considered for the other person😊 and btw I've never dated too, I have a friend who loves dating 😂
Im dutch and most things i hear is just not true, now u can see that the dutch people are all so different. Its just the type of person you've been with, everyone lives different lifes, some people are organised and some people doesn't know what to eat when its already 18:00.
Its generally speaking... even you just did that by saying 18:00, which generally speaking is dutch dinner time🙄. Doesnt mean every dutch person has dinner at 6 but GENERALLY most do.
tptobias thats what i'm saying
@@lunavandermeij1658 yeah so why isnt it true? Its generally true.
Haha I, too, completely fail at the organising part 😂 7 PM, walks into kitchen, discovers there’s no food 🙈😂 But I remember as a kid all my friends had dinner at 5:30 or 6. Every day at the exact same time.
Apparently I need a Dutch partner. I hate it when people are not direct and want you to read their minds instead.
Hoi
One thing in our country is that we always adapt to outsiders speaking English for them.
Yeah I can say as a dutch person, none of this is really a general thing, everyone is different so plz don't take this video to serious
I love honesty
Ever think that there is a life behind Amsterdam?
what if they live in Amsterdam?
wat? daar gaat de video niet eens over
Exactly
As a guy with autism my gf's directness is blessing from the gods
we are like deal with it , respect everyone and get things done , and be yourself and dont bother what others think ..afterall we are all simply human . we dont like to put ppl in a box and label . much love from the netherlands , u are all beautifull human beings xxx
Yeah, nice words
1:54 Did you really censor the word "Taiwan"?
Why are we not allowed to know Red is from Taiwan?
It said china
@@dontspikemydrink9382 Switch on captions and try again.
@@hisss you misunderstand me. The blured text is china. Taiwan is correct
@@dontspikemydrink9382 Okay, that would make sense. Odd that they can blur it but not correct it though...
Might be one of the cultural problems uncle Xi has been trying to suppress
Nice! Gives and leaves a very good impression. The music I noticed just like the last seconds only and this time even music fit well - a healthy positivity, not at all an "a cross-reactivity anecdote" to give a doubt. I live here in The Netherlands (came as foreigner from other EU country) and I agree to That's true what these people are speaking and life is pretty much as this. Language respect and curiosity, enthusiasm is the "juice" to just start squeezing out of yourself and that is gonna be done to you with well life-integrated methods that this highly developed country have in property. All you need is well-tuned-on nerves! ;)
I'm Dutch and I don't tick a single box, mentioned here. But that's maybe because I'm almost 60 years old. My generation actually received an education, I guess.
That last bit reminded me of love actually. Be right back, going to watch a movie.
I'm Dutch... I didn't know I could tell a woman she gained 5 kg hahaha That will be fun tomorrow at work haha
@@dot-zx2xw Yes that's my specialty
It's been a year now, did you survive? :D
Having everything planned out would stress me out so badly. Knowing exactly which aisles to go down and making everything systematic would be burdening to me. I wouldn't do well in this country.
Waarom was er een landnaam geblokkeerd?
Why was there a land name blocked?
dutch culture is the best...
indonesia here
Leuke filmpjes altijd, maar mag het aub wat minder met de deuntjes op de achtergrond 😬👍
Borderline rudeness, yeah that isn't really accurate. Dutch people are direct, they say what they think and think what they say. It's a concept many others don't have nor can grasp.
For a healthy relationship, regardless if it's for family, friends, love or even random people, communication is key. You get the most done and everyone involved knows what is going on and what needs to be done. It's a logical way to do things.
Learning the language of your lover or friends is flattering, regardless of where you are from or what country your friends or lover is from. It's a clear sign of "hey, I try my best to work on our relationship as I feel it's worth it to me". Also, what the Danish girl said at the end is true, If you wish to be together you need to be able to understand each other. There for learning each other's language is a good thing for the relationship.
This is all great, but why can't you say this in Dutch, that's the thing that is really rude (even though almost all Dutch people do speak English). Same with this whole video where people are speaking together in couples, try to speak Dutch together and then we'll move forward and maybe form our opinion about you, just as the people in this video form their opinion about the Dutch
@@guidobonzet9203 The video is in English, why would I answer in Dutch? Not to hard to grasp for you I hope?
Also for the rest of whatever you are saying, I do not give a damn about political correctness, shoo! Go back to the rock from which you came.
@@SIG442 I find it really hard to grasp that you you would live in The Netherlands and not learn the language of your Dutch partner, but maybe you're not even in The Netherlands, i'm not sure so sorry about assuming that. Other than that, i very much disagree with your story about the rock i seem to be living under, i'm actually a dedicated teacher of Dutch to expats.
@@SIG442 Dus jouw antwoord kam gewoon normaal in het Nederlands, succes ermee! 🙂
Wooow een gezamelijke spaarrekening is een culture shock voor deze mensen?
C'mon Bart.. this is just an ad for your language school!
The music is very annoying and makes them very hard to understand!
We mexicans live With our parents until 35 or forever most of the times jajaja
The Netherlands are just another normal country. No culture shock. It's all the other countries that are crazy!
The reason I’m learning Dutch is DEFINITELY NOT because the average male height is 6ft, no that would be ridiculous!
Elke keer dat ik dit kijk vind k het alleen leuker hoe zij over ons denken enzo
Can you please please do one about "How the Dutch deal with mother in laws"
Last comment stole my heart..
ngl, I like that Nina from Denmark. Seems kind and fun to be around.
My story about mary with a Dutch man is on the 'Destination Sweetheart" by Red Star Line Museum. This changed my life a lot! Love and hate. There are a lot of kind and nice people among the Dutch men and I don't have no remorse but I only had not the chance to meer a good one. I needed many years to recover and to go further with my life.
Borderline-rude? That's him being polite :-D
I was with a thai woman and there was a text on my forehead WALKING ATM 😆
I married with a nederlands man but I still prefer to leaves in my tropical island Mauritius where I can have really fun and freedom in the nederlands you pay everything you only work and back home well that my opinion
I am married to a dutch guy, and for the language, I have learnt 3 languages,; javanese, Bahasa Indonesia, and english. So, I ask my husband to learn Bahasa Indonesia. Reason is, it’s fair for both of us, it will be his third language as well, second, after 350 years of colonization, at least you speak the language of the colonized country.
How did he respond?
His respond is, now he’s fluent in Bahasa Indonesia, and we even create vlog together, I am as cameramen, and he’s the host, reviewing food experience in Bahasa Indonesia. And I am studying dutch language as to respect him.
Well, I am sort of confused about this directness thing that the Dutch have. From my previous exp, there was a Dutchman who I had been talking everyday for 3 weeks. Then, one day I asked him whether he was seeing someone in NL at that time (I am in Indonesia). If he did, I asked him a favor to tell me. Then, he was mad at me for that question.
I didnt know what was wrong with the question. Because I think it was a fair question to ask. So, I would know what we were doing during those 3 weeks chatting everyday. Since he got annoyed by the question, I guess this directness thing doesn't apply always. He was a nice guy though. It's too bad that we can't keep in touch no longer.
It could be that he misunderstood your question and thought you were trying to hit on him while he really was not in for that anyway. It could also be that he just lost a lover in whatever way possible and your question just hit a weak spot. But from what I read, you were talking to him by screen. Questions can come over completely different if you miss body-language and intonation and can spark a completely different reaction then when talking to someone in real life.
Anyway, don't base an opinion on that one experience ;)
@@weeardguy Action speaks louder than words
It's funny how Dutch the Danish girls' accent is. Her looks too btw
First things for ladies. Don’t act like an animated puppet. Be yourself and act like an equal human.
That is about step one. Language ? Most of the Dutch speak multi of it. So that’s not an issue 🤗😁
Love from Amsterdam 🇳🇱
1:54 Why is her country of origin blurred?
came here married a dutch girl
chalk and cheese
best 35 years of my life made me a much much better person
I love to see this video. I'm Dutch and dating an American
Funny how the comment section has practically only Dutch people reacting.
I noticed this whenever there is a video like this.
They are the only folks watching these videos. Is it narcissism?
Gustavo Boom exactly my thought!
This says more about you than it does about the Dutch.
Narcissism is based on deeply rooted insecurity.
And I don't believe that the Dutch are insecure at all.
Dutch people watching this video shows their willingness to learn about themselves and foreigners.
Nah. I watch videos from Dana from 'Wanted Adventure Living Abroad' on and off and especially the videos in which she speaks German attract a lot of German viewers. It's just that people want to know what someone else has to say about the country they were born and raised in. But it can also be extremely refreshing to look at your own country from a foreigners' perspective.
Im dating with a dutch guy, but he's basically self centered. Or he only focus on one thing or daily activities rather than social media. I do love him though but for me he lacks time when it comes to me. He's busy in cycling, studying and etc etc. Like come on please update me like im worried hahaha.
I noticed that most people are interviewed in pairs but the (quite pretty) Danish girl is always sitting there on her own.
Why is that?
Question: are there LHBTI students in your Dutch learning classes?
1:52 I'm taking a wild guess that Red is from a country that China doesn't think is really a country...
Very interesting!
Not only in couple living together. Even with having friendship relations in USA is hard. In my experience . is hard keep a friendship relation.
Then i must be dutch. Although really South African, but its how i am. Direct, honest, attentive, detailed.
u sure about the south african part?
Why is Red's nationality at 1:53 blurred out?
Why did you blurr the nation of the asian women called Red? Because in the subtitles it just says she’s from taiwan hahaha
u forgoth to blurr the subtitle by red her culture
i was thinking that girl from denmark was dutch she looks dutch and her english accent sounds dutch