MY FIANCÉ WANTS HIS FATHER TO CHECK MY HYMEN BEFORE I GET MARRIED | EP 4

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  • čas přidán 29. 08. 2024
  • Kally and Hodo are back with s2 of answering the internets craziest dilemmas. Today we are bringing you a situation in which a male has asked his fiance to agree to a pre wedding hymen check from his father to prove she is a virgin. We would appreciate it if you would comment your thoughts below.
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Komentáře • 99

  • @abh1997
    @abh1997 Před 2 lety +107

    They’re stupid because the hymen can’t be checked. I’m sure they know that it’s just a reason to check someone’s hooha. A massive breach of privacy and utter disrespect. Makes me feel sick!

  • @ANa-qt7tt
    @ANa-qt7tt Před 2 lety +84

    no pls i pray she didnt get married to him. pls she cannot raise her children with these nasty people as grandparents. do u not fear allah?? even if ur not muslim, have u got no shame?? nahh how can u dehumanise anyone like that. not just anyone, ur WIFE?? nah wallahi these scenarios r giving my heart problems omgg

  • @valentinacuadros6680
    @valentinacuadros6680 Před 2 lety +51

    Also I am Muslim and I’m not sure if the girl is too but in Islam this is HARAM I can not stand people that do the most disgusting things and act like it’s ok

  • @larose5783
    @larose5783 Před 2 lety +33

    girl i saw this on tiktok and rushed here. this story is so disgusting, im disturbed

  • @Mariam-qd9yf
    @Mariam-qd9yf Před 2 lety +51

    The fact that he slapped her as well! She better take that to day of judgment and make dua he never finds a wife!

    • @oversharerspodcast
      @oversharerspodcast  Před 2 lety +9

      We’re not sure what their religion/ethnicity is but she definitely needs justice!!!

    • @Mariam-qd9yf
      @Mariam-qd9yf Před 2 lety +2

      @@oversharerspodcast definitely

  • @aishafaisal2249
    @aishafaisal2249 Před 2 lety +79

    I’m so angered by his audacity lucky escape girl eat ur pizza and be miserable you’ll find someone who will actually respect you ❤️

  • @anisabegum9781
    @anisabegum9781 Před 2 lety +24

    Astaghfirullah😭😭 that’s so tapped. He clearly has no respect for her, to be asking such a question.

  • @destinya5627
    @destinya5627 Před rokem +12

    I’ve seen a few Christians who choose to be abstinent who do a hymen check, but from what I’ve heard it’s always done by a doctor! With Muslim women this hymen check isn’t done because we already know the importance of modesty and sex after marriage. It’s the norm in our families and communities that women and men are taught about the halal vs. haram since young and are expected to conduct themselves modestly.
    This story in this video however is so different and is so perverted. It makes no sense. It’s an excuse for all these men to see her in her most vulnerable state while the dad basically molests her. Idk if this couple was “Muslim” or not, but this is super haram and I’m glad she cancelled the wedding.

  • @alishaxo5468
    @alishaxo5468 Před 2 lety +21

    Ma’sha’Allah you guys are literally stunning and this is the first video i’ve watched of yours and i subscribed within minutes! you guys are hilarious and your energy and vibes are so so immaculate 🥺🤍

  • @presko1
    @presko1 Před 2 lety +22

    I can't believe this. Who in the name of God(I know that this is not the right profile to say that) would make this "tradition" or should i call it sexual assault. And the fact that this man, his brother and uncles have the dignity to agree with that is making my blood boil. To that gal, I hope she dropped that piece of milky shit and set charges. And to the father, I hope he is happy that his wife had to go through with this bs. Overall these people need therapy and reality check. Plus to all women in that family they deserve a big apologize. I'm not gonna keep on going bc I will probably throw my phone in the wall. Btw nice makeup

  • @hallimamohamed6908
    @hallimamohamed6908 Před 2 lety +45

    This is actually sickening in front of the men of the family, why the men though? how is this ever allowed to be done, why are women always proving their virginity?
    That guy needs to therapy anger issues and ego issues, she needs therapy as she shouldn’t have gone through that, and name the culture that’s this common practice for as we need to educate the poor souls.

    • @jhnnbhfvv6405
      @jhnnbhfvv6405 Před 2 lety

      Yet men lie about theirs, I would rather stay single than marry a lair and non virgin man.

  • @donotpostmyusernameOK
    @donotpostmyusernameOK Před rokem +7

    Speaking medically not all women even have hymens Some people are born with so little hymenal tissue that it seems like they don't have a hymen at all.your hymen naturally wears down over time.The hymen can also stretch or tear quite easily before a woman has intercourse for the first time, through: activities such as horse riding and other sports. using tampons.

  • @cocoapommpom
    @cocoapommpom Před 2 lety +8

    handmaid’s tale vibes

  • @jughsjsfzbwhshhshshhs9876
    @jughsjsfzbwhshhshshhs9876 Před 2 lety +11

    Kaltuuun speaking Somali babe ! I love itttt we need a whole segment video in Somali!!

    • @oversharerspodcast
      @oversharerspodcast  Před 2 lety +7

      Hahaha we’re fish and chips so you’ll probably laugh at us 😂

  • @Saadsamira24
    @Saadsamira24 Před 2 lety +5

    Am just disgusted to hear this but Alhamdulillah she got out of it and pray no one has to go through such a thing

  • @ANa-qt7tt
    @ANa-qt7tt Před 2 lety +13

    slapped????? nah guys what r u doing to me. i pray he gets jumped so bad. im not even surprised that he slapped her, his entitlement is crazy.

  • @Shadaeprincessinspiration
    @Shadaeprincessinspiration Před 2 lety +17

    Please teach us more about the deen. That part was inspiring.

    • @Sajjadbhangwarnawabshah
      @Sajjadbhangwarnawabshah Před 2 lety

      Xxx

    • @modernstylehomes7535
      @modernstylehomes7535 Před 2 lety +1

      How about you watch CZcams videos by mufti menk and other sheikhs on important issues that you would like to know

    • @modernstylehomes7535
      @modernstylehomes7535 Před 2 lety

      P.s that woman is being hounded by jaahils , people who are Muslims but don't know shit about Islam . That's why your are told learn about your religion

    • @Shadaeprincessinspiration
      @Shadaeprincessinspiration Před 2 lety +4

      @@modernstylehomes7535 i do watch him, if they talk more about the deen. In sha Allah their reward will be greater. Theres nothing wrong in encouraging them to do good that will benefit them in the long run. In sha Allah.

    • @modernstylehomes7535
      @modernstylehomes7535 Před 2 lety +2

      @@Shadaeprincessinspiration okay sorry then coz I thought you wanted to learn the Deen from them that's why I said that check out some scholars

  • @lauramiller7690
    @lauramiller7690 Před rokem +3

    If he slapped you now before you're married run don't walk the other way once you are married he'll view you as his property and do whatever he damn well pleases it will only get worse if he won't stand with you now whatever makes you think he will later

  • @Chubby_Owl
    @Chubby_Owl Před 2 lety +6

    Oh my good and he said slightly embarrassing? Are you serious “SLIGHTLY” I am sorry to be honest he sounds like a weak men who can not even stand on his own foot and he will never support her in future

  • @Alex_A2
    @Alex_A2 Před 2 lety +9

    So my sister married a man and they had their wedding night is it still disrespectful and bad if his dad asked the man did you check your wife is a virgin and did she bleed because in my opinion it’s disgusting to ask your son that what do y’all think ?

    • @marshmallow7640
      @marshmallow7640 Před rokem +3

      I think it’s disgusting especially because not every virgin bleeds the first time anyway. That’s a weird question to ask your son. Also what if she doesn’t bleed, are they going to divorce her? You have already married the person and they gave you their body so it wouldn’t be right to turn on them

    • @farhiyaa4880
      @farhiyaa4880 Před rokem +3

      Tell them it's none of their business. All things inside marriage is private unless it's abuse.
      There is no way to prove husband is a virgin. We dont check if he is circumcised before marriage.
      The only thing both parties need to do is an STD test, report any genetic defects, medical history of all surgeries and medical conditions.

    • @AmuslimwithAopinion
      @AmuslimwithAopinion Před rokem +1

      Theirs no way a man is asking for the sake of self respect, he probably asked beacuse it turns him on. Asking about your sons wife's vaginas blood is perversion.

  • @mustafaabdulhafidh3257
    @mustafaabdulhafidh3257 Před 2 lety +5

    It's crazy and disrespectful

  • @Ice-emo-yt
    @Ice-emo-yt Před 2 lety +4

    Hymen doesn’t mean if you’re a virgin or not. You can’t tell a persons virginity only by asking

  • @asmerabuu7836
    @asmerabuu7836 Před 2 lety +5

    It's actually true lots of African communities have been practising the check your bedsheet after the first night culture

    • @asmerabuu7836
      @asmerabuu7836 Před 2 lety +1

      Also the checking virginity by the father is a practise it has been upheld by some Arab communities I saw it once in an Arab movie

    • @oversharerspodcast
      @oversharerspodcast  Před 2 lety +5

      Well the family is supposedly Greek so this might be construed as misguided

    • @najimaabdi6259
      @najimaabdi6259 Před 2 lety +3

      @@asmerabuu7836 what movie? That’s haram I’m sure In any religion of the books? Because how can your new in laws see your downstairs? I’m genuinely confused

    • @MixedAfro
      @MixedAfro Před rokem +1

      @@oversharerspodcast European monarchs used to do this as well. To the point that they would watch the consummation of the bride and groom!

  • @valentinacuadros6680
    @valentinacuadros6680 Před 2 lety +3

    This is so ridiculous wtf is this shit 😂😂 I would run for the hillllllllllls

  • @Ice-ha2467
    @Ice-ha2467 Před rokem +1

    Do you know what? Kally said that’s abuse and I was like ‘not really’ but then I realised that it’s coercion and it could be a way to suss out how mailable her will is and how easy he will be able to control and abuse her in the future. This is the ONE rule that Muslim families don’t budge with when it comes to their daughter - for a man to see you naked or any naked part of you if they are not your HUSBAND. If she gives in and bends that rule, there is not one thing she will not let slide with enough coercion. This is so sinister. And his words ‘prove your love’ 100% back up how this made me feel. Even if they aren’t Muslim. I think my thoughts still apply.
    Edit: I uploaded and then heard about the slap. No one can change my mind

  • @fluffypancakes9359
    @fluffypancakes9359 Před 2 lety +7

    May Allah bless you with a righteous husband and family. This is haram, they are not your mahram.

  • @fayaaden9545
    @fayaaden9545 Před 2 lety +4

    Lucky escape tbh. On another note can you please do make up tutorial because 😍

  • @siyu7052
    @siyu7052 Před 2 lety +3

    Love you guysssss ❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @lauramiller7690
    @lauramiller7690 Před rokem +3

    Oh hell no! It may be custom in his culture but as a woman that's a very private issue a lot of women don't even like having a male gynecologist and it would be over the top enough to expect his father but to put on a show for all the men in his family oh hell no honey! And for him to blow it off as being a little embarrassing. I would say telling me one all the women in your family to check to see if he's circumcised but men just aren't programmed that way they would just view it as showing it off proudly I don't think they understand modesty at all! I mean it would be some archaic ritual of days gone by to ask you to have it verified by a physician but to display yourself for all the men and his family most men wouldn't want other men looking at their soon-to-be wife's genitalia. If he respects you he wouldn't ask you to do that he would have to realize that it's an archaic ritual of his family or culture or whatever

  • @suderia7554
    @suderia7554 Před 2 lety +4

    I’ve never subscribed this quick

  • @zuzanali4130
    @zuzanali4130 Před 2 lety +2

    i love you guyz❤🦋kally nd hoda

  • @ZaraSalkida
    @ZaraSalkida Před rokem +1

    This is very disrespectful 💔please leaveeeeee girl😒they family are crazy💔and I don’t trust his fathers and uncles cause this is to there advantage and they don’t have dignity😭this is a huge deal breaker

  • @jhnnbhfvv6405
    @jhnnbhfvv6405 Před 2 lety +5

    Yet when we want to know the son past everyone tell us not to focus on it, like I am a virgin and want a virgin man why it is so much to ask? I don’t want a hypocrite or a fuck boy and these too always with men who sleep before marriage.

    • @farhiyaa4880
      @farhiyaa4880 Před rokem +1

      Dont take their word for it. Request medical history including past surgeries and health conditions, STD testing, Drug testing, etc.

  • @sadiiqcaydruz7874
    @sadiiqcaydruz7874 Před rokem

    Lmfao ❤😂😂😂😂😂😂Somali sisters 👯‍♀️ jokes that dude about I want a virgin 🤣

  • @Maryam-fv8zz
    @Maryam-fv8zz Před 2 lety +1

    Absolutely enjoyed this 😍😂

  • @lelyakera
    @lelyakera Před rokem +2

    That is just disgusting and horrible and haram (forbidden) in Islam. I know in the past in some rural areas in the day of wedding a woman would go with the husband to check if the bride is virgin and go out woth awhite towel stained with blood from the bride to show it to the other family members and maybe to strangers also and that is absolutely horrible and is the worst kind of abuse but at least it was a woman( which is still not acceptable) but for him to suggest that his father a man!! And his uncles !! His brothers!! All of them watch her naked lower part and even check if she is a virgin or lying(which means doubting her honor and honesty) that is a while new level of abuse, toxicity, replusiveness. I assumed he is muslim I'm not sure but if he is that is not a man to be trusted cause he has no honor. He knows that those are non mahrams and can't nee her nude and even her mahrams can't inly the husband can. So that means he is not religious and doesn't feat Allah. He also doesn't respect her at all as he wants her to go through this humiliating procedure. I don't know how she thought of him as good for her and compatible and everything is perfect when he has that mentality. She should thank God she knew taht before she alreday got married

  • @alexandrab5904
    @alexandrab5904 Před 2 lety +3

    No no no no no no no no no no no no wth no no no

  • @LittleStarsCare-oh4nn
    @LittleStarsCare-oh4nn Před 4 měsíci

    if his dad checks i might aswell get with the dad and he can watch us

  • @savannahs8914
    @savannahs8914 Před rokem

    If he doesnt trust you to be honest, but no

  • @ZaraSalkida
    @ZaraSalkida Před rokem +1

    Yessss be miserable and eat pizza
    You will find someone better with a good family

  • @Deejasrecipehaven
    @Deejasrecipehaven Před 2 lety +5

    How will he check it

  • @sadiiqcaydruz7874
    @sadiiqcaydruz7874 Před rokem

    Eat pizza 🍕 be miserable 😩 yes 🙌

  • @sadiiqcaydruz7874
    @sadiiqcaydruz7874 Před rokem

    Disgusting 🤢 and scary 😟 indeed 🤣

  • @aliah7613
    @aliah7613 Před 2 lety +3

    Hal video somali kuso duuba whos bater somali so sameya abayoyin

  • @jsjdjjsjdj4050
    @jsjdjjsjdj4050 Před rokem

    ما شاء الله عنكم يا اخواتي اتمنى لكم الهداية والتوفيق والسعادة والاستقامة

  • @sadiiqcaydruz7874
    @sadiiqcaydruz7874 Před rokem

    Love ❤️ my uk 🇬🇧 Somali girls 👧 accents plus so funny 😆 😅 funny 😁 am in Canada 🇨🇦 another funny 😆 girl 👧 Rahma Ali uk 🇬🇧 lol 😂 muah 😘 luv y’all bye 👋

  • @Shadaeprincessinspiration

    😳😳

  • @muslimahb2953
    @muslimahb2953 Před rokem

    Im interested to know what culture this is 😨

  • @samaraminashraf3002
    @samaraminashraf3002 Před 2 lety

    In some places they want you to put white on the bed an bleed-on the white sheets

  • @omarfarukh8101
    @omarfarukh8101 Před 2 lety +1

    This like

  • @norahanet5348
    @norahanet5348 Před rokem

    This content is rather disturbing and unnecessary.
    It seems unbecoming of pious women to be discussing these topics.
    Disappointing and indulgent.

    • @mariumarache1893
      @mariumarache1893 Před rokem +3

      Why? Does it bother you? Perhaps don't watch.

    • @norahanet5348
      @norahanet5348 Před rokem

      Astafiruallah

    • @laylaxc2722
      @laylaxc2722 Před rokem +2

      Not really. It brings awareness to this type of things. Quite frankly, you should be more disturbed by the men's actions.

  • @empresseyesopen6609
    @empresseyesopen6609 Před 2 lety +3

    found you guys on IG . Im glade l did.