My Addiction Story: Allan Started The Day With Vodka
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- Addiction is at epidemic proportions, here I sit down with recovering alcoholic, Allan Anderson. Now sober, he takes me through his past recognizing why he started to drink and how his social drinking escalated to full blown addiction for 10 years.
I originally met Allan as my personal trainer, so when he opened up to me about his recovery as an alcoholic I was surprised because he is just so fit! What shocked me most was when he shared that he used to get up and have vodka and orange juice for breakfast everyday. It was almost like he was talking about someone else; one of his clients who lived an unhealthy lifestyle.
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It’s funny when you stop drinking you end up watching loads of these videos. They give excellent reassurance that you are in the right path. Thank you.
Guaooo thank you for your comments… is exactly my own experience… clean for 6 months and I love to watch to keep myself motivated
WoW we are 3 😊
Me too, I enjoy watching these video.
238 days clean
Yes. I'm irresponsible and hurt myself & others while drinking. I'm responsible and want to nurture relationships while sober. It was a huge struggle for many years - off and on. The legal trouble, poor health, deflated pocketbook, fear, not being trusted by those I care about, and so many other negative aspects of drinking are not missed! Yes. We are on the right path.
12 days sober yeah yeah!!
Still clean bro? I'm 109 days and I HATE alcohol with a passion..... I know that I will never go back to drink again which is liberating.
365 days now!!
@Charles Smith some people can't have one.....
One is too many......
One hundred is not enough.
And once you have made the decision to stop... alcohol loses its attraction.
Today is my day 1 it's hard to stop😔
@@MrSupersmokesum420 it's not that hard if you accept alcohol has no benefits to you at all
De Wet Britz good luck and God bless.
I let go of smoking in my 40s and alcohol in my 50s. Drugs provide a short term excitement but bring you down to a dark place.
One of my musical heroes is the late Tom Petty who as a private man didn't reveal until late in his life his involvement with various substances -- I believe his saving grace was music; it trumped everything and prevented disaster, although after divorce he went through darkest period, and emerged. The fact that he died of an accidental overdose due to hip fracture was not about addiction, rather stubborness in the face of adversity -- tx for important observation -- a lot of people experiment and like you draw back -- I quit smoking with no problem and why I ended up an alcoholic is a different journey that no-one knowingly embarks on. Tx again
@@evelynbaron2004 i don't get you. He was perhaps privately addicted to fun drugs, then he died from a legal drug overdoing it? Yeah, overdoing the dosage.
I was a terrible crown royal drinker. I drank over a fifth a day. I have been 8 years now without a drink. I do say that I am proud of myself. You have to really want to quit.
126 days sober here, woot woot!
Fantastic, keep going x
Hope you still going well 😊
Wow!!!! So proud of you!!!!
Coming up in my 8th year of sobriety!
Wow! 👍🏼... wish this was my son....
Cool
That is so awesome!! Proud of you!!! You give me hope...not for me 🤗😊👍🏼 thank you!!! Take care
At the end of my 1st year sober be so proud of myself after 8, but I can wait. Don't want to be another 7 year's older just yet!!!
Great! I'm now 27 months!
32 days without a drink 🤗
How are you getting on?
Keep going Eddie
Update?
This is 6 months ago. How are you doing now?
He's now dead
Day 5 for me!
👏🏼 I’m proud of you!!!!!
H. P. Dominicus
Day 5 for me, too. This is my 2nd serious attempt. I stopped at 55 for two and a half years but was hit by a major crisis and slowly slipped back into it. Won't be complacent again, fingers crossed. Feeling good again and eating.
May 1st 2021: You still strong ??
@@wendycarter5718 Still strong here.
@@wendycarter5718 I still slip up here and there but overall my self control is way better than it was before. Thanks for asking
I'm only 18 days in residential rehabilitation unit and 18 days dry,early days I know but it's the start of a difficult journey, best wishes to you all x
+Joseph McKenna Well done and good luck on your journey to healing xx
Best wishes my friend.
Did you get withdrawals? If you haven’t or you haven’t experienced DTs, don’t keep going. I just finished getting out of mine and I was my muscles were spazzing out and had to be hospitalized. They said I was close to a stroke. And I’m only 20. That’s no good
Edit- don’t keep going in general not just if you haven’t withdrawn. 🤣☠️. You’re lucky they let you have a phone at residential.
Joseph McKenna
Joseph McKenna
Hey Joseph, how are you getting on? Your comment is now 3 years old so I hope you’re doing good my dude.
did you relapse, how is it going?
Recovering alcoholic here. Sober for 14 years. When I was drinking, I didn't want anyone to know. Now that I am sober, it doesn't matter anymore. My family, friends and associates all know about my problem and I get support from them.
Did the PAWS symptoms go away?
@@Davidpriest115 PAWS didn't have much of an effect on me. My sponsor (I could call him any time) helped me a lot, especially when I got over the physical symptoms.
Awe...🤗 there is real life hope...bless you!
He looks really healthy.
Thank you SO much for this interview- both the host and interviewee. I'm 35, have had EXACTLY the same problem and repercussions as this chap. I've wasted job opportunities, lost so much time and have neglected friends and family. It's a nightmare but ive been watching endless You Tube vids to find someone exactly like me and here it is. Thank you.
I'm glad it helped. I have over 150 guests stories of healing and hope on KirstyTV please watch and you will find universal shared truths x
Iv'e just come out of alcohol detox after drinking heavily throughout my 20's, I don't know when I became dependant but I was drinking vodka in the morning's and throughout the day just to feel 'normal' for at least four years. I have just become sober and because of what iv'e done to my liver and I can never safely drink again. I'm 31 years old, these video's help me to continue to realise how much in common the 'functioning' alcoholic has and why I can never, ever drink again. It's just not worth it.
Matt Nevens Yes never :) good on you for recognizing it kx
KirstyTV just an update, ive been sober for nearly 5 months now :)
KirstyTV will do ! :-)
don't ever think that you've won . stoped for 31 years and started back . now 72 and still fighting it.
Hope you're doing alright man. Hang in there
Wow his story really is relatable, and a lot more profound than the typical recovery stories.
My thanks to Allan 4 sharing his story. It helps many people including myself.
This is a very good interview. Great questions and she allows a full, intelligent answer. Thank you both.
Five and a half years sober on 15th October 2020!
Well done Allen you look great x Alcohol is poison and nearly ruined my life too.
I was doing the same 9 years ago. I am now 56 and sober the 9 years. Life still sucks at times as giving up the drink does not automatically give you a perfect life.
But I stay true to myself now. One thing not mentioned is intervention. I knew and admitted to myself I was an alcoholic and was very sick but I just didn't want to give up because the recovery drinks felt so good. Plus my entire life and the pub life was all I had. One day I was at home after a 3 day bender feeling very sorry for myself and my sister and husband came to visit. Their intention was to have a talk and gently intervene. They got to me at a weak moment and I agreed to have a go at sobering up. After 6 week of rehab I am still sober. My point is, family and friends should at least have a go. You never know how the person feels at that moment and it might just be receptive. The other point is I grieved over the booze for a long time. When the physical cravings subsided my mind would not let go. But, time does the job. I think that period was the most difficult for me. It's genuine grief for the life you once had minus the sickness. One thing I never let go of though is the memory of how I felt when in the depths.
I think back to the worst 3 day hangovers and that settles me. Those memories are almost too vivid.
I can't say I'll never drink again, just not today thanks.
Good luck to all of you. The pain of letting go has its rewards eventually even though in the initial stages of giving up life seems just too hard. It does get better with each day.
thankyou
Cheers :-)
Congrats
gungaldin well said
Thank you 🙏🏽❤️
This guy is telling my story. I would wake up at least two hours before I needed to so I could get drunk before work. I would always be sick and would have to drink throughout the day. I alway thought I was a failure and I thought I couldn't be loved. Honestly, I haven't found the right woman but that is okay. I am happy where I am at right now, without dying anymore.
I think he is right. Deep down every alcoholic realize that the thing they do is not normal. Now that I´m sober I realize that I never really denied that I had a problem with the booze. Just because you are addicted doesnt mean that you ar a moron.
Bless you. Tonight I asked a buddy to be my sponsor. But, I told him to make me work for it. Had 2.5 years clean, but now I need to work because I will be dead soon. I'm a fabulous drunk, which is good for my audience, but terrible for me. Too old for this crap.
grimlund so true lol.
Exactly!
That's my life... I need to stop but really hard
I hope you managed to 👍
BruteForce85 hello it’s my day 2 sober... alcohol is ruining my life... I’m starting AA today... I need help.. when I’m drunk I do coke and I’m going to be broke ... I’ll have to avoid all my addict acquaintances.. all the best
All the best bud 👍
Heard of the drug, Naltrexone? The Sinclair Method? Antabuse?
Sorry this is so long but is primarily to anyone in the very early stages of giving up. I'm on day 3. A couple of weeks ago I went from way too much to nothing too quickly and was sweating buckets and shaking like I was in a major earthquake. I had to cover a cup of tea or coffee with a tea towel if I was carrying it up the stairs to soak up what was being spilt. A weird one was major phobia of crossing busy roads when I was coming down too quickly. I'd avoid them like the plague. I'd need to drink before I tackled them, and I had to because the off-licence (I'm a Brit) was on the other side of said road. I was on a bottle of vodka or 3 bottles of wine a day. Be careful about going from that level (not saying anyone is) to zero too quickly. My typical immediate detox 'shake pattern' was they would kick in around 8 hours after stopping, and last for around 12 hours. I'd need half a bottle of wine to get anywhere near to them receding. No sleep, tossing and turning, get up without purpose, try again, etc. etc. all night, mind spinning negativity.
It's all relative I know but this time, over the course of 6 days this time I went 1 bottle of vodka, 2 wine, 1 wine and 2 beers, 4 beers, 2 beers, nothing.
As I say, I'm on day 3, albeit over a period of 8 days gradual cessation. Pretty good 8 hour sleep (but no REM, skimming the surface) simply because I'd barely slept at all for several. Early this morning I climbed my local hill and watched the sun rise, no physical detriment (other than general fitness of course!), it was lovely. Alcohol is still very much on my mind, It messes with the brain's synapses, it's a chemical neurological reaction as much as simply 'thinking about it', the brain has become so accustomed to the booze. Which makes me feel better about it, knowing it's not just the 'mad monkey'.
Apparently Magnesium and vitamin b1 (niacin) supplements are really good in the initial days to help alleviate withdrawal and to aid with the body resetting.
It has totally screwed my life. A few years ago I had a successful career and was mortgage-free. I left my partner because I could no longer stand her company before it become toxic for our two beautiful daughters (killed me leaving them but on balance the right thing, if I sort my shit out that is...) - for now I am borrowing money for rent from family and I am on benefits, looking for work - when I can be bothered to because I've been drinking, blocking it all out
This demise has happened over several years but what a (please excuse my language) fucking cunt 2020 has been! Covid lockdowns and isloation has exacerbated it all - I lost my most recent business because of the virus - plus barely seeing my beautiful daughters (I left my ex-partner the house and currently live in a hovel), plus I had treatment for skin cancer earlier in the year, etc. etc. etc. (me me me!).
The temptation to block out the pain of all that with more alcohol on a daily basis is about as rational as Donald fucking Trump, but it's there, niggling away like a bastard. But believe me, it just compounds problems. I could relate to so much of what this guy was saying. I avoided two £15 parking tickets early in 2020 and just before Christamas, had to pay baliffs £730. What a twat.
I've had enough of this bullshit, I'm out for good. Wishing good luck to all those who feel the same - let's weather the storm together (with support too - AA and 12 steps?) and the clouds will eventually lift. Onwards and upwards one and all!
Hows it going with the fight Stu? I'm a fellow brit just finished my first month off the booze. Totally know where you are coming from with the withdraw symptoms, they are horrific to go through. i lost 28lb's in weight because i just couldnt face food while withdrawing.
@@Daybreak575 Ah thanks for posting and being honest dude (or dudette). I'm ok, hit granite rock bottom in early May following a massive months-long relapse (what a dick), went cold turkey and ended up having a seizure, 6 hours in A&E on a drip. Immediately put myself up for detox, only 10 days but in a very controlled and medically monitored environment. I'd been really sceptical about AA/CA, etc. but knew when I came out it was merely the beginning. I now have a great sponsor, begin step 6 of the 12 tomorrow and it's finally beginning to click. Where are you? I'm UK. I could give you a link to one of the great online meetings I attend (BST).
Sometimes we need to it to hit HARD when we thought it couldn't hit any harder. I'm with you buddy x
Asking for help is so important..it saved my life 30 years ago
Exactly. You gotta want it.
Omg gosh!!!! 30???? That’s so awesome!!!👍🏼👍🏼
Perfect explanation of addiction!
Im 55 and just had to leave a career after 38 years, the fear of that has sent me into a nightmare situation where i'm drinking heavily each day this has had a devastating impact on all aspects of my life, i have lost my driving licence and a relationship which was both new and extremely rewarding. I can empathise wholely this man
I hope you will get yourself to an AA meeting this week friend. Get help sooner rather than later. Email me kirsty@kirstyspraggon.com for some resources i can send.
Yes a very important message to get out there. Addiction destroys lives.
If I had seen this 7 years ago when I was in total denial about my alcoholism, I wouldn't have taken this seriously. Now I'm 4 months sober and relating to every word he says. Thank you.
Loved the interview. I can relate 100%
This is my experience. Once I hit 30 I got sober completely. I tried all the drugs. Know how they all feel. No point in doing them anymore.
Same. I did all the drugs to see what they’re like. Had no problem quitting cocaine or heroin because the sellers are sketchy people and it’s not socially acceptable. But alcohol, I got attached and because it’s socially acceptable and it’s sold on every corner I found it the hardest to quit
There is no shame in admitting a problem and asking for help. Nobody sets out to become an alcoholic, but a new study suggests that 1 in 8 adults over 18 are alcoholic. I am one of them myself but 100% clean & sober today! Ask God to show you the way out and HE WILL!
I’ve been sober 7 months and It’s hitting me like a ton of bricks that I just wasted at least five solid years of my life. The existential dread is relentless when I think to myself that when this issue began I had my youth on my side...now I’m approaching 33 with no partner, no kids. A career, but barely. The thought that I drank my best, most fertile years away is soul crushing, especially because I did this to myself.
Well, just don't waste the next 5.
33 is still so young.
Awe...it makes me soooo angry how the addiction STEALS precious time!!!😡
I’m 23 and I’m worse than this man in the interview I’m scared I’m going to die all the time & constant vomiting
sobriety is wonderful
This is so great! I am glad to see more and more people opening up to this problem and shareing a message of recovery. I remember spending my first 5 years on AA meetings 3 times a day 7 days a week being lead to belive that I would have to go the rest of my life and that never sat well with me.
I realized I was through and never wanted to drink again no matter what. I took a chance on living life outside the rooms of AA but I wish I would have had success stories at my disposal like we have now. But life is amazing and you are creating an awareness that is well needed.
I just celebrated 12 years back in Aug 2014 while I was speaking in Toronto Canada so I know anything is possible when you want it bad enough. ..Thanks for the inspiration and showing me recovery is alive and well.
#StandwithSteve
Thanks Steve Dorsey I am so happy for you. Yes we need more stories to help support one another kx
This was my story too..I loved this
i am an alcoholic.....i stopped drinking for 6 days...but i started today....again....and its true its my pride which makes me keep doing it.....i work a lot but as soon as I'm off go get something to drink.........my breakfast is a 40 ounce reserve steel....i truly agree with this man.....my girlfriend is back and trying to help me......i have lost so much money, because of my drinking
Hi man. Do you a favour. Please, definitively, cut it out. Say never again to yourself. Keep the distance to the bottle and to places where you drank. It's time to begin again. Good luck man
I was just reading listening to this video, I hope you are sober now, and I will pray for you!
Please get some help.... drinking alcohol to excess is dangerous for your health. The sooner you kick this evil substance the better. Once you have quit you will wonder why you didn't do it earlier.
Stop or youll lose the girl soon
Start every day taking 3 shots of aristocrat. Vodka, hard. I hope you're doing better now, I'm now starting to try
Great honesty... thanks!
Thank you Allen..your story is helping many for sure. Bless you. Bless Kirsty too.
I put the bottle down 12 years ago. I stopped when my son called me out and asked why I was drinking so early in the morning. Funny thing is I hadn't stopped from the night before. I took everything alcohol involved and dumped it down the sink. The recovery had its challenges. However when you hit a day without drinking.... thats a victory!! "One isn't enough and there is never too many"
Incredible vulnerabilty. It takes strength to publicly do this (to me). I don't do breakfast drinks but i struggle with what is right for me. You're right, its all in the mind, ego. Kudos to you!
Last drink was New Year's Eve! Its still a fight!
Well done! How’s it going?
It's going to be, never forget though, active addiction is even worse.
Waking up without a hangover, being able to get behind the wheel of a motor vehicle without worrying about being breathalysed, the simple self respect that comes from not having had an alcoholic drink... these are the gifts of sobriety.
When you wake up on Monday don't drink on that day. When you wake up on Tuesday don't drink that day, and so on. All you have is today, don't drink today.
Awe...your honesty gives me hope for a loved one...thank you! Don’t give up!!! You’re WORTH IT...
This illness is like getting in the ring with Mike Tyson you will never win so stop fighting. Try AA the solution is there. Good luck.
Another great episode Kirsty - addiction effects so many families and Allan's story is really powerful.
Stephanie Taylor
This guy is awesome. So motivational.
It starts very gradually, and events in life make you drink more than you should, and more often than you should, until you reach a point where you believe alcohol helps you endure the day... It then can take years to realise you have a problem, and once you acknowledge it, it can take some time until you reach a point where you decide you need to actually do something about it. Usually the approach is to moderate the amount, which is impossible and the spiral continues, until one day you have a real bad event where you say to yourself you need to quit... This is the most important moment. After that you only need to do it, and ask for help if you need.
Some believe alcoholism is a Demon, I'm one of them.
I really think it is too. The demon wants us to be destroyed.
I believe the same thing it's a demon it's in there waiting to destroy you I am dealing with one my soul
There's a reason they call it "spirits".
Demons dont exist. The demon is yourself.
Энхболд Ганзориг always ?? Not quite
I'm 35 myself and have the same thing. Everything this man said describes me perfectly. I've drank every day since I turned 21. I was a good boy. I never drank in high school and not really even in college. Once I turned that age, it was open season. I still drink, every single rotten day and I want to stop *so* bad. I don't drink whisky, voka or wine. Just beer. But alcohol is alcohol, and it *will* kill you. Once you find a reason to drink, you're trapped. And to get out of that trap is the biggest struggle in anyone's life.
***** My story is the same as yours and the guy abbow, but i am 8 month sober. The way I got sober was on antabus and then I took it day by day. Being sober your mind will try to fool you into drinking and you need to be aware. You need to get a mindset that is telling you that alcohol is poison for you. For me it has been a very rough ride getting sober, but I wouldnt switch it for alc. I am much happier without it. The first 6 month is hard, but in time it gets easier and easier. In a month time im running a Marathon and I would advice you to exicise as it gives you the kick that you dont get from alc. Take the decision, get sober and stay sober. M
***** yes it takes great self work. To understand that reason and do the healing so you can move on with your life and fight the addiction x
Mads Baagø Congrats n 8 months and good luck on your continued journey x
Thanks a lot and thanks for adding the videos :-)
Mads Baagø Thanks honey we have over 100 up now check out the channel xxx
Ah Kirsty. So sweet of you to come back.
OMG this is my story so well articulated. I never take one sober day for granted -- I know C19 has been a great stress for us all and AA as an afflliation(sp)of like-minded souls has provided community in a time of isolation but however one gets sober I applaud us all the hardest thing in the world and the most essential - wonderful way to begin the day before taking out my dog for a long walk, unthinkable when I was drinking. Best wishes to all!!!!
Yes addiction is at epidemic proportions and we need to talk about it more. I loved Allan's story.
Great interview
it's been 31 years for me,I can't even explain why.I was addicted & sick with liquor as it gets,couldn't conceive or want to entertain the idea of a "life" without drinking,it was unfathomable to me.I won't say things are "so much better" I'd by lying.I'm still the same person,same self defeating tendencies,fears, anxieties,antisocial behavior,poor self esteem.Things just do just suck,no gettin around it .It's better in the way that I'm not in that twisted,sickening,living hell,drinking alcoholic nightmare & all that accompanies it ,ONE thing i'd say,if the willingness to change & there will be necessary changes,big ones & un popular changes.. you know.. the "do i really need to do this" changes,don't happen,i't will probably be a rough ride,it has to be an entire life change…
Same here. 25 years sober. Still self-serving
Meant to say self defeating. Not much has changed for me in 25 years but it so much better not to have the added misery of alcoholism.
Beautiful interview thank you :)
Wow, I love how he describes his alcoholism. So articulate. Really identify.
That was a great interview Allan. So proud of you and all your accomplishments. Always your friend....Avis
Bless you man, well done x
7 days sober 🙏
Wow!!!!👍🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Thanks gorgeous yes Allan is an amazing man and his story of recovery and addiction is very couragious kx
This is so good and accurate. I’m 11 months sober and am so glad I’m not doing what i was a year ago, life is immeasurably better now and so much easier, rewarding and less anxiety filled.
Wow!!!! 👍🏼👏🏼👏🏼
"Know that it can be so much better." Amen my brother.
It must be so hard to be an alcoholic . Or actually rather to be a recovering alcoholic.. It seems everyone in society drinks and conspires to make other people drink so it must be so hard to stay on the wagon. I think recovering alcoholics who manage to remain sober for the remainder of their lives are absolute heros! I mean that really does an iron will! After all, it's not like crack or heroin which ISNT served in every restaurant, corner shop, supermarket etc....!
Yes Matt Stocks it is a lifelong battle and journey for many kx
Especially if your genes are littered with addiction & you realize at 23 you can't have a single drop of alcohol for the rest of your life. Every day is a battle
+Anarcho Sharko Once I got happier I found I no longer craved addictive substances. When I was numbing emotions I craved them all.
I know it will get easier the more I persevere but it's no doubt a terrible age to deal with it as alcohol is central in almost every social setting.
These videos help more than you probably know though thank you
+Anarcho Sharko I'm really glad they helped. We have over 100 on KirstyTV. What I have learned is that numbing the trauma, pain, emotions is very common no matter what the story. The best thing you can do for yourself is learn healthy coping skills. Meditation, excersize, things that bring you peace and joy. Journalling. Art etc... Also make sure you find like minded people. Join local meet up groups for shared interests. Get involved in sports, I thought I was terrible at art and not creative and bad at sport. I now find I love to journal and run and play beach volleyball...who knew? let down the self judgments of what your good at and should do and explore and have fun x
That first morning swig of bottom shelf taaka vodka is the cleanest best pleasure.
the cleanest, best pleasure.
😔
A lead in the form of an interview. Great idea!
Don't plan life; it does work.
Thank you Allan.
the worst thing you can think of in the fight against alcoholism is to talk about the reasonable sufficiency of consumption
Trying to find the right dose.
I hope this man isn't only 45. But I'm appreciating those laughter lines.
THIS MAN....WOW i saw this a year ago..cannot believe how good he looks i hope he is still doing well
3 days so far after 10 years in China and almost dying many times. Wish me luck, tried it many times and failed. No infrastructure here to help the many many alcoholics. So it’s tough.
Keep up Allan ! Thank you for sharing your story !!!!!!!
I have an alcoholic brother... i don't know what to do to help him out, there are no support centers where i live..... trying to find a way through internet..... i wish i could send my brother this video without having him getting mad at me !
I wish you with all my heart to continue all the way to freedom !!!!
You can do it !
All that you seek is within you Zeke Barajas, keep up without judging yourself, feel blessed for all the experiences you created, use them to heal you!
Allow yourself to be free
forgive yourself, move on, life will lead you in other places when you're "awake"
Love yourself!
Perhaps a gentle email letting him know that you love and care for him deeply and though he may not be ready yet you wan't him to have access to resource for when he is. We also have an online course go to kirstytv.com and look at (shameless class) it is all online with therapists. You could even do it together. xo
Oh ! Thank you! we did write a letter with my mother at the past.... it didn't work ...not yet at least.... i don't know if i can live at the same place with him anymore, till he accept the offer to help him.... he is getting worse everyday..... i trust life, but i need some guidance on this one, i need help too and i don't know where to get it from... thank you for your advice, i 'll check it out !
There is Al-anon groups for families of alcoholics. I would start going to the meetings you will get guidance and support on how to handle this and not enable him etc.. also. xo
MusicAndOtherColors just send it. I know he will get upset but it will make him think. I wish someone grabbed me and sent me to rehab 4 years ago.
Two years, eight months sober.
TIME WASTED !! EXACTLY
How does he look so good WOW
Stephen Fermoyle right
Because he's sober
thank you for this interview. We saw so much of the terrible thing that went on with our loved one. I still do not understand it and I am not sure that he understands it. He is in a rehab facility now, the anger and fear is still there. I hope he really wants and will stop this time.
This is just to send good luck to all you guys and gals who are trying to give up the booze, and also to those who are on the wagon, here’s wishing you success in reaching and maintaining your goal. Love and Peace to every one of you. 🕊🕊🕊
I have learned that I may always have insane thoughts.....the difference now I don't let those insane thoughts turn into an act or action......as long as they stay inside my head and I don't act upon them I will always live a better life…...wished I had known that 40 years ago.....
25 days sober
Hows it going
Was never a full blown alcoholic, but I am a little over a full year without a drink, and used to be a drug addict; 2 years without my drug of choice. Feels good.
Alcohol is an evil substance. 4 months sober and not craving it at all. I hate everything about alcohol and will never go back.
1 year sober now!!!! Yee haw 😁
I would LOVE to hear those words come out of my 37 year old son’s mouth...😔
And by the way thank you!!!! I’m proud of you!!!! 👏🏼👏🏼👍🏼👍🏼
@@whatwillbem6825 It's taken many mistakes and nearly destroyed my life to get me to this point though, wish that I realised this much earlier though. Thanks for the kind words.
This may seem weird but I'm 63 and everyone I've ever known either was on drugs or was a drinker I have never met a true sober person and that is 😢
Great knowledge... be careful Depending on just AA . Lots of grumpy..do it this way....or else old guys there . ..at most meetings....Not All...most....They forget there is only ONE rule to be a Member....
The desire to Quit drinking Alcohol.
So my words to All with a drinking problem... is to do whatever works for you... 🌬🌌🌠🧘♂️ good Luck 2 All ❤
all you guys and gals are marvelous
10 months no drink
Omg!!!! There is hope for my son....🤗 thank you thank you
Inspiring
He should play Bill Clinton in the movie; he looks so much like him!
what's his first and last name? I'd love to send him an email! Thanks for the post!
20 days sober here
I need help. My organs (gall-bladder I think) hurts when I drink but I'm so addicted that I still drink despite this horrible pain it gives me. I'm 40 and I've been addicted since 34. Can anyone recommend a cost-effective group? AA? I used to be a good social drinker, I don't know what happened. Fuck, it's hard looking in the mirror at an addict.
I hope you will get yourself to an AA meeting this week friend. Get help sooner rather than later. Email me kirsty@kirstyspraggon.com for some resources i can send.
craig beck
Have you done anything? How are you?
My son is right there with you...and the sad part is how he JUDGES other’s...I know deep down it’s himself he’s talking about...right now he’s on the verge of losing the best job he’s ever had...no one can do this part for him but him...I sure hope you’ve taken steps to do something about this...I really do...makes me sick...when he’s sober he’s such a great guy...that monkey on his back controls him..that demon...take care your comment...is why I’m commenting...he just left to work...I hope to god he’s ok...take care...
I really get this guy. I had everything planned, and then life and people, and my growing awareness .... things went astray ... and now, things just happen as they will. Ain’t nothing we can all do about it. Go with it , enjoy the vagaries and mystery of Life :-)
Addiction is so very cruel and heartbreaking!
So what has changed for the better? What does he do know to replace the alcohol?
I am 22 years old. ive been drinking since I was 17 first time I drank was a full bottle of vodka. I have been trying to help myself to stop but I can't. I cant go a day without the booze, I always need my daily sip of beer, I wake up drinking beer before I go to sleep I drink, I have lost my job, my friends have drifted away from me because of my addiction, ive never had a girlfriend or anything like that because of my drinking problem, I want to change, I want to stop drinking but when I go a few hours after not drinking I get really sick, if I quit im not going cold turkey.
Research Campral and Naltrexone. Campral has saved my life and has taken away those terrible cravings. Good Luck....
It's not as hard as you may be telling yourself, just try stopping and do something else that is positive. Arm yourself with all the knowledge that you can get your hands on. Go to a meeting and just be a fly on the wall for a while, get FIT, eat healthy, try meditation, anything that is a positive activity is going to inspire you not to drink anymore.
Also don't put yourself in any situation where you will be tempted to drink for a long period....... That's how I did it and now I don't have a problem staying sober......Goodluck and godspeed!
6699H8LO i am only getting this now. Have u stopped drinking?. U are too young for this. Please find some help. If u want to chat let me know. I will send u my digs and chat on wussup. Find aa. Go to hospital try to get a detox.
Campral saved my life too, I was 1 litre rum 40%alcohol a day sober now
Hey man, I’m 37, I drink for 10 years, recently I stop for 30 days, I felt really good. How did I do that, I watched certain videos, Google stop drinking expert
Allen im a twin i am doing the exact things i thought i was the only one.....great. video
Thanks for sharing eric Graham I am glad you see your not alone. That is why I started the show to share stories to give hope. We have over 100 shows up now on KirstyTV I hope it helps kx
for me nothing could stop it until I got cirrhosis. went to the meetings, that didn't help at all. Allan had a great story to tell.
How did you know you had cirrhosis?
That’s what happened to my daughter n law...her eyes turned yellow and her stomach filled up like she was pregnant...she almost died...
i went on a month long bender after i turned 21 but since then i dont really fuck with alcohol unless the social situation basically requires it. Growing up with an alcoholic father really put it into perspective for me at a young age. i do thoroughly enjoy smoking marijuana however
I just quit my professional job through a text message to my boss who asked me if I was okay after not showing up for days on end. Last time this happened, about two months ago, the head of security showed up at my house and took me to the hospital. I'm terrified.. when I sober up my heart is going to be beating fast and aching. The worst part about it is that I still need to finish the work I've been doing for this company, which I dread terribly. Maybe it's time for a new career. I guess I'll probably be working at McDonalds now, anyway.
I thought I was the only one who got the tight chest,sore heart, beating too fast when I sobered. I quit my job before Christmas because of my addiction. It's tough brother, but if you really want it, you can stick with it. Reach out, don't be stubborn, exercise is great, go for a long walk.
Ya know, everyone, this why we want to be poets...no professional-job and free booze!
18 days
Wow!
Oh! my God, Allan, I'm in that same boat right now! I think I need help! I am 31 years old, I started drinking when I was 21 years old. I've always wanted to become a movie producer but sadly I've failed.
Joey Tortice Sorry to hear that man! Get well! i'm trying my self
But I won't let my addiction keep me down, I'll keep on trying, but thanks on that comment.
Same here brother!
I've work'd with this one Chef, and he told me that he had that same problem.
+Joey Tortice Idrank all the time but last 5 years totally out of control bottle and a half vodka a day 6 or 7 beers.Was hospitalized for about 17 days touch and go for a while.Went to rehab relapsed went again relapsed tried to commit suicide.I now go to group therapy 3x per week and a therapist once a week it is really helping been sober 9 months now but diagnosed with cirrosis and hepatatic encolapathy.Pls get help asap all the docs and nurses I have met were so nice and understanding.Good luck Be strong you are not alone.
I’m 37 years sober now because God made himself real to me , there’s no more crucial moment in a persons life then when he or she is encountered by god , that moment sets in motion the rest of one’s life ...( is sure did mine )
Amen !
Want to know how to deal with the shame. He still very methodical
Go to meetings, clean house, and help others. That is the best way to deal with shame. When people SEE that you are living differently, the trust will be restored.