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  • čas přidán 8. 09. 2024
  • One in six men are the victims of domestic abuse during their lives. They feel powerless because they think people won't listen. We will. Help is available - www.dynwales.org

Komentáře • 49

  • @abigailgonqueh6433
    @abigailgonqueh6433 Před 4 lety +22

    I'm a girl, but it makes me so mad to think that so many women get away with abusing their men terribly 🙄

  • @juliafleming810
    @juliafleming810 Před 8 lety +41

    I know I'm a girl but it breaks my heart to see that it's not just women that takes the abuse.

    • @theshawnatiom7918
      @theshawnatiom7918 Před 5 lety +8

      In most social experiments someone's whenever that subject comes up on video it's always seen as a joke
      czcams.com/video/GccCWo_eZdw/video.html we need to stop this idea it is a joke it is not and in most cases people are laughing that's how sad it is

    • @PasscodeAdvance
      @PasscodeAdvance Před 4 lety +11

      I'm happy as a man to hear that, we need more people like you so victims of domestic abuse get their justice

  • @miv-7776
    @miv-7776 Před 5 lety +50

    It's so sad that people laugh when a man finally speaks up about it, i just don't get how it's funny :(

    • @drummermanmusic6731
      @drummermanmusic6731 Před 4 lety +8

      ZeppelinFan_4221 The sad part is a lot of women they take it vantage of being a woman and they abuse the authority I had a lesbian stud live with me and she wanted to be treated like the guys but I did not understand but she said consider her as one of the brothers are living with me was very unpleasant because she nitpicks everything that I told her not to do in my apartment one day I guess she had enough and she went in the kitchen grab the knife and tried to stab me she didn’t do it God However I called the police she told me if they come that she will tell the police officer that I tried to hit her first because they will believe her because she’s a woman. All women nowadays have to do is cry pretend like they’re crying and the police officer is going to judge because the man mostly is bigger. Violence is well in the matter who hit who

    • @tracesprite6078
      @tracesprite6078 Před 2 lety +3

      @@drummermanmusic6731 It's a real concern. Stay safe and keep thinking clearly because it's a difficult situation.

  • @embee1983
    @embee1983 Před 4 lety +14

    Yes! I was humiliated, I was belittled, I was spat on, kicked, punched. Reverse psychology. Told I was useless, I couldn't get anyone better. She told me my friends and family hated me! They believe her and not me. I kept it secret for 11 years until one day i had enough and walked away forever. I'll never get over it, but I deal with it. I would rather be alone and I have been for the past almost 6 years. Nobody understands unless you've been there. It takes a hold of you. You blame yourself. You feel like you're a waste of space. Better the devil you know.

    • @epicstic
      @epicstic Před 4 lety +3

      Abuse is never your fault and you should never blame yourself for it. Never ask yourself what you could of dont to prevent it or think about hwat you did wrong abuse is the abuser's fault and they abuse because they want it to happen.

    • @tracesprite6078
      @tracesprite6078 Před 2 lety +1

      Hi Em Bee, I'm a woman and I'm so sorry that you were subjected to that experience. I hope you are gradually healing.

  • @kali3966
    @kali3966 Před 8 lety +19

    it honestly infuriates me that so many people just write off male victims of anything really. rape, abuse, you name it. it shouldn't matter what the gender of the victim is, it's a horrible action and should be treated as such.

  • @AlbertBalbastreMorte
    @AlbertBalbastreMorte Před 4 lety +15

    I'm Spaniard. It was actually thanks to a campaign in Wales I found out men are also victims of domestic violence. Im now active in Spain about male victims. Thanks.

    • @DennisRay99
      @DennisRay99 Před 3 lety +3

      Thank you

    • @tracesprite6078
      @tracesprite6078 Před 2 lety +1

      Hi Albert, how is your campaign going? Good on you for doing that kind of work.

    • @AlbertBalbastreMorte
      @AlbertBalbastreMorte Před 2 lety +1

      @@tracesprite6078 started a first edit of the documentary.

    • @tracesprite6078
      @tracesprite6078 Před 2 lety +2

      @@AlbertBalbastreMorte Good on you. Hope it all goes well.

  • @dmc41987
    @dmc41987 Před 4 lety +7

    I went through this myself and it was hard to speak up.

  • @sirskeptic
    @sirskeptic Před 4 lety +7

    We need this commercial in Aus.

  • @sthomas7211
    @sthomas7211 Před 4 lety +12

    There are very few videos of male abuse that have a comment section that isn't turned off. Hmm

  • @tracesprite6078
    @tracesprite6078 Před 2 lety +5

    Thank you Welsh government for taking this problem seriously.

  • @kurttoy5035
    @kurttoy5035 Před rokem +3

    PSAs such as this should air in the United States.

  • @scottiegirl2041
    @scottiegirl2041 Před 7 lety +9

    Just goes to show it's not just women who suffer as well

    • @beamboyz4901
      @beamboyz4901 Před 4 lety +1

      ScottieGirl20 bro girls will never hear it am telling it's a losing battle

  • @ateneiaaraujo2468
    @ateneiaaraujo2468 Před 4 měsíci +1

    I am a woman and i suffered bullying. Nobody helped me. They blamed me saying that I should defend myself because i was a tall girl. My father called me a weak. So, I know it is terrible when you suffer violence and nobody helps you.

  • @mariusevander2214
    @mariusevander2214 Před 2 lety +3

    I watched a short video a few years back , I think it was a AU / NZ PSA where a man is trying to repair his daughters bicycle with her and the wife comes in and launches into a tirade of verbal destruction , anyone finds it please let me know.

  • @saneman8147
    @saneman8147 Před 4 lety +3

    In Austalia it is one in three, 33%

  • @marisafaith8664
    @marisafaith8664 Před 6 lety +7

    Starting a campaign in Mexico

  • @Scorch1028
    @Scorch1028 Před 4 lety +3

    Bipolar Disorder occurs in equal numbers of males and females, and Borderline Personality Disorder occurs at 3 times the rate in females as it does in males. My ex-girlfriend would fly off the handle with very little provocation. I am fairly certain that she's either un-diagnosed Bipolar or Borderline. She would hit me, and then tell me that I "deserved" to be hit, and she would ask me: "What do you think you did, to make me hit you?" This woman was a control freak, and when she didn't get her way, she often became emotionally erratic. Her fits of anger that were like that of a psychiatric patient who needs to be sedated. Every day of our relationship I lived in fear that she was going to injure me -- if not with her fists, then with a frying pan or some other hard object. I finally left the relationship when she told me that she would "kick my a**, call the cops, and report ME for domestic violence." I couldn't risk getting in a legal mess on account of this clearly troubled woman. Thankfully, I live in my own place where I could be separate from her. Mental illness is a major component on female-on-male domestic violence. Unfortunately, women's mental illness is very rarely considered when we examine domestic violence in the United States because most of the focus is on the harm that men do (or could do) to women.

    • @tracesprite6078
      @tracesprite6078 Před 2 lety +1

      What a nightmare for you to have gone through. You were very sensible to get out of that relationship.

    • @AlbertBalbastreMorte
      @AlbertBalbastreMorte Před 2 lety +1

      Actually, mental illness and affective disorders are massive factors in domestic violence, both are written off as sexism when men are the perpetrators and as non existing when women are. A model that helps no one.

    • @tracesprite6078
      @tracesprite6078 Před 2 lety +2

      @@AlbertBalbastreMorte I completely agree, Albert. The way that some of those domestic violence perpetrators behave - it is clear that they are under massive strain. I think it is similar with the outbreak of Karens that they are having in the USA. They are kind of funny but also tragically mentally ill. Mental illness is not an excuse for being violent but it is part of the explanation in some cases. It also means that probably the best thing is to get out of the relationship. However a friend of mine said that her father stayed in the family for her whole childhood to protect her from her very violent mother. One of the many quiet heroes of our community.

    • @AlbertBalbastreMorte
      @AlbertBalbastreMorte Před 2 lety +1

      @@tracesprite6078 We certainly share similar views. My exgf had a violent mother and her dad stayed with her all along. Had he separated, the custody would probably have been given to her. Neither police nor law would stop the mother since she was a woman. I had to quit the relationship with my exgf eventually. An infancy and adolescence full of violence cannot be healed overnight. I just hope she doesn't become the violent type in the long run.

    • @tracesprite6078
      @tracesprite6078 Před 2 lety +1

      @@AlbertBalbastreMorte I'm reading Rosie Batty's book "A Mother's Story." Despite knowing that her boyfriend had raped her other friend and also knowing that he was mentally ill, she invited him back into her life and had a child with him. One of the issues that we need to face is that women in their thirties can be so desperate to have a child that we will have that child with just about anyone - with often disastrous consequences. We should warn women about this. Also Rosie's boyfriend had a mental illness which worsened because he was sleeping in his car at times and was unemployed all the time. I think some Australian state governments try to provide part time employment for mentally ill people. That can help to stabilize them a bit. We also need to ensure that mentally ill people can access humane accommodation so that their condition is more manageable. That might help to reduce the number of these tragedies where people suddenly go from bad to much worse. Yes, it costs money to provide such things but it costs the community emotionally to have horrors happening in our midst. And we need to openly discuss the fact that it can be extremely difficult to have a relationship with a person with an untreated mental illness so - yes - mentally ill people should feel some level of expectation that they will get treatment.

  • @pistolpete39
    @pistolpete39 Před měsícem

    My wife straight up tried to kill me. She took a cleaver to my face and forearm and then doused me in lighter fluid before trying to set me on fire. I was labeled by Judge Tarah Toohil (herself, a famous victim of domestic violence) as "involved in a domestic dispute," and "I exposed my child to domestic violence." I was an unwitting victim to a schizophrenic break that my wife was having. The court did not even look at her intensive inpatient psychiatric history, but instead ordered my Veteran's Affairs medical records. My confidential discussions with therapists were then used against me in court to label me as violent and defame me. My wife gets to see our daughter, it has been over three years since the attack and Judge Toohil will not let me speak to my daughter on the phone.

  • @stankyleginc.8157
    @stankyleginc.8157 Před 4 lety

    Fellas, don't be afraid to fight back.

    • @tracesprite6078
      @tracesprite6078 Před 2 lety +2

      Hi Stanky, I think you have to be careful to not use violence because the legal system is very harsh towards men who use violence for any reason. But forming support groups and publicizing what is going on is helpful, though this is a very persistent problem.

  • @bigcarswithnofinance
    @bigcarswithnofinance Před 4 lety

    Its 1 in 3 now

  • @Zuon94
    @Zuon94 Před rokem

    Is there an American equivalent to this?

  • @THRverssaille3376
    @THRverssaille3376 Před 4 měsíci

    It's so sad, woman are always considered victims but it's not the case many men are victimes of violence by theirs woman and they don't report it because the society will not believe them and they will make fun of them, also the laws are with the side of woman protecting them even if they are the criminals,
    we live in world where we give woman a bigger value then they are, I mean who build the world are men , who fight in wars are men, who are always humilated in prisons and highschool they are men

  • @jamayalett6596
    @jamayalett6596 Před 4 lety

    You should make this video using humans

  • @Brotherhoodagainstabuse

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