I too am interested in psychotherapy. A video about your experience in psychotherapy would be very interesting. I'm like you in that I'm not fond of therapy culture in general. "[Adam and Eve] weren't conscious and then they became conscious and everything fell apart and into fragmentation and you need to go back up through that hole in faith and stillness and trust and love and that's just the small little clear point of light which you need to head toward." "Is it a direct line?, I don't know, it's a direct light, anyway." You expressed everything brilliantly, and the image is beautiful.
It mostly annoys me that the default response to someone struggling is "go to therapy". Or advice for anything or anyone "they should seek therapy". Perhaps because it is neutral ground, but it feels like disposing of responsibility or connection. I knew nothing about therapy when I went - around 7 years ago - I was just desperate, and the transference and counter-transference possibly changed my life? But I do not know what to make of it, as ruminator. What interests you about psychotherapy? I like how it's actually against the current "mental health" paradigm. And thank you so much for commenting, it's good to know I managed to express something because I'm often not sure what I'm saying, it's really kind of you.
@@revontulet1845 Thanks for the reply. I hear you. People don't consider the alternatives to talking to a therapist. Telling somebody what happened is important. But talking can put you in a worse state. Talking about your trauma (not you, but the greater you) can actually make it worse. We're conditioned to believe that if traumatic events have emotionally wounded us, we need to talk about it. To some degree that's true. The mistake is thinking that if you talk about your trauma enough, you'll feel better. Instead, I say let's ask ourselves whether we got support for what affected us and a solution that works for us. It is controversial, of course, to suggest to traumatized people that they should consider talking about their trauma less. There is definitely a need to talk. But the helpfulness of talking ends. People sometimes focus too much on what happened to them and can't move forward. If we're going in circles by telling and telling, it's time for a new approach. In talking, there's a feeling that can rise up. Or a vortex can suck you in. That's not the feeling of healing. Talking can bring up that old emotional state and trigger that stress response. If you stop talking about it, you might find it easier to move forward in life. This advice might make some people angry. But what's more important is that this advice might bring some people true healing. Some people have a sensitivity to talking about trauma. When somebody says they don't want to talk about what happened, people often see that as defiance or foolishness or immaturity or irresponsibility. That's where therapy culture is destructive. Therapy is seen as the one thing to do about problems. It's that, or taking medication. And both those things can send your healing backward, not forward. The culture of sharing and disclosing and talking has spread beyond the therapy room. Many believe there is urgent value in having conversations about your trauma. But other people can't participate in your memories anyway, so it isn't really a way to connect, talking about your trauma. You can alienate other people when you say, "This is my trauma. What's yours?" We must stop making trauma the method we use to try to connect with other people. I think true connection happens when we don't lead with our trauma. Real connection happens when we lead outwardly with our self, not our story. It feels better to be true to yourself than to your story. The orthodoxy of talk therapy must change. There is also a dysfunctional hierarchy. Some professionals worry when we people have found healing methods that don't involve them. But you can have breakthroughs without having a professional involved. Besides, most people don't have access to professional help. What actually matters is finding a way to heal. Many of us have to experiment to discover what works. There is evidence and support for writing as a way to process emotions and heal wounds. When you're not talking about your trauma, you can be writing about it. Writing doesn't use the same neural pathways. For many of us, writing can be therapeutic, and talking less so because it can't be triggering. Some people get completely dysregulated by talking about their trauma freely. For some, their face might redden, their head pound, their heart pound, they feel dizzy, and so on. What's more ridiculous is that people might suggest to that person to talk about their trauma even more. Talking might not bring clarification, improvement, or insight. But you're not supposed to say that. It sounds like invalidating the person's experience. Therapy culture is like an extreme religious view where only one practice is allowed. There is a positive health benefit to writing about trauma. So writing is definitely an alternative. Writing is a way to express what happened without retriggering that adrenal response. If one finds that talking about trauma keeps one stuck, maybe try writing. Then we can keep moving forward. We can stay dedicated to ourselves and not to our stories. That way we can work on having an outward focus on others and connect. Another important element of trauma that is not always discussed in therapy culture is the need to allow grief and anger to complete their movements. But that's a different subject, so there's more on that here, if you're interested: www.healingandcptsd.com/grieving-cptsd
If you have a LUFs/lkfs audio meter, try to target -14 .. you tend to run quiet on a comparative level.
I'll look into this although I don't know what it is. Thanks!
I too am interested in psychotherapy. A video about your experience in psychotherapy would be very interesting. I'm like you in that I'm not fond of therapy culture in general.
"[Adam and Eve] weren't conscious and then they became conscious and everything fell apart and into fragmentation and you need to go back up through that hole in faith and stillness and trust and love and that's just the small little clear point of light which you need to head toward."
"Is it a direct line?, I don't know, it's a direct light, anyway."
You expressed everything brilliantly, and the image is beautiful.
It mostly annoys me that the default response to someone struggling is "go to therapy". Or advice for anything or anyone "they should seek therapy". Perhaps because it is neutral ground, but it feels like disposing of responsibility or connection. I knew nothing about therapy when I went - around 7 years ago - I was just desperate, and the transference and counter-transference possibly changed my life? But I do not know what to make of it, as ruminator. What interests you about psychotherapy? I like how it's actually against the current "mental health" paradigm. And thank you so much for commenting, it's good to know I managed to express something because I'm often not sure what I'm saying, it's really kind of you.
@@revontulet1845 Thanks for the reply. I hear you. People don't consider the alternatives to talking to a therapist. Telling somebody what happened is important. But talking can put you in a worse state. Talking about your trauma (not you, but the greater you) can actually make it worse. We're conditioned to believe that if traumatic events have emotionally wounded us, we need to talk about it. To some degree that's true. The mistake is thinking that if you talk about your trauma enough, you'll feel better. Instead, I say let's ask ourselves whether we got support for what affected us and a solution that works for us.
It is controversial, of course, to suggest to traumatized people that they should consider talking about their trauma less. There is definitely a need to talk. But the helpfulness of talking ends. People sometimes focus too much on what happened to them and can't move forward. If we're going in circles by telling and telling, it's time for a new approach.
In talking, there's a feeling that can rise up. Or a vortex can suck you in. That's not the feeling of healing. Talking can bring up that old emotional state and trigger that stress response. If you stop talking about it, you might find it easier to move forward in life.
This advice might make some people angry. But what's more important is that this advice might bring some people true healing. Some people have a sensitivity to talking about trauma. When somebody says they don't want to talk about what happened, people often see that as defiance or foolishness or immaturity or irresponsibility. That's where therapy culture is destructive. Therapy is seen as the one thing to do about problems. It's that, or taking medication. And both those things can send your healing backward, not forward.
The culture of sharing and disclosing and talking has spread beyond the therapy room. Many believe there is urgent value in having conversations about your trauma. But other people can't participate in your memories anyway, so it isn't really a way to connect, talking about your trauma. You can alienate other people when you say, "This is my trauma. What's yours?" We must stop making trauma the method we use to try to connect with other people. I think true connection happens when we don't lead with our trauma. Real connection happens when we lead outwardly with our self, not our story. It feels better to be true to yourself than to your story.
The orthodoxy of talk therapy must change. There is also a dysfunctional hierarchy. Some professionals worry when we people have found healing methods that don't involve them. But you can have breakthroughs without having a professional involved. Besides, most people don't have access to professional help. What actually matters is finding a way to heal. Many of us have to experiment to discover what works.
There is evidence and support for writing as a way to process emotions and heal wounds. When you're not talking about your trauma, you can be writing about it. Writing doesn't use the same neural pathways. For many of us, writing can be therapeutic, and talking less so because it can't be triggering. Some people get completely dysregulated by talking about their trauma freely. For some, their face might redden, their head pound, their heart pound, they feel dizzy, and so on. What's more ridiculous is that people might suggest to that person to talk about their trauma even more.
Talking might not bring clarification, improvement, or insight. But you're not supposed to say that. It sounds like invalidating the person's experience. Therapy culture is like an extreme religious view where only one practice is allowed.
There is a positive health benefit to writing about trauma. So writing is definitely an alternative. Writing is a way to express what happened without retriggering that adrenal response. If one finds that talking about trauma keeps one stuck, maybe try writing.
Then we can keep moving forward. We can stay dedicated to ourselves and not to our stories. That way we can work on having an outward focus on others and connect.
Another important element of trauma that is not always discussed in therapy culture is the need to allow grief and anger to complete their movements. But that's a different subject, so there's more on that here, if you're interested: www.healingandcptsd.com/grieving-cptsd
I've got to rewatch that disney movie
Me too
yay
Did you film this in heaven? What’s with the background?
No shade if you did film it in heaven, it’s just super bright.
The light kept changing
@@some_channel275 I hope we all get back to the light
you look like emily dickinson
also look like an eneatype 5
That's just the ghostly lighting! Although I am an Enneagram 5 :)