Just recently, I learned that Amy's eldest daughter Sophia got married. Sophia looked absolutely beautiful in her wedding gown and Amy looked sensational in her Mother of the Bride dress. I have a strong feeling that Amy Chua and her husband Jed Rubenfeld will be wonderful grandparents.
This is a good point, Joyce. As I said in the interview, this was a difficult book for me to read, for many of the reasons those critical of her and her methods have mentioned. But the ending is what the book is really about. Like all memoirs, it's about change and growth.
I read and throughly enjoyed reading the Tiger Mom book. I enjoyed the story about the Christmas card that was ripped up and rewritten as a keepsake. And I liked the chapter about applying Tiger Mom philosophy to the family dog. There are good stories musicians can relate too. When I came to the last few pages though I felt sadness. I thought - what great and brilliant and wonderful kids ... they face a life of disappointment because very few people how special they are. That includes people like me.
What a pleasant interview from both the interviewer and the interviewed person. And also I'm so glad I discovered this wonderful book Day of Empire just the other day in an Amsterdam library.. such a fresh look on among others Dutch History..
I was one of those people who reacted negatively to her at first, before I really knew anything about her. But after watching numerous videos and interviews with her, I have totally changed my mind. I think she is wonderful, brilliant, funny, smart, charming. What can I say? I am a huge fan! Go Amy! :D
I am an English teacher in China. I have seen first hand the impact of Chua's extremist philosophy; be the best of the best or you are worthless I have had to talk some of my students out of suicidal tendencies because of the pressure they face
I love Amy. I think she is a very funny, strong and intelligent woman. I read the book and laughed all the way through. A lot of people think she is not a loving mother. Well, that is not true from what I read and heard from her own daughters. I remember one story told by Sofia (her first born) that once she got a B in an exam in college. She felt bad and texted her mom with a response “Who cares. Mommy loves you! “ , I only see a successful parent honestly.
Raising kids is not a new science. We have been doing it for thousands of years. It's called love your children and guide them the right way. I am absolutely sure that mothers tens of thousands of years from now raised their kids the right way.
I am half-asian. My mother went to UCSB and my father didn't go to college. As a kid, I was encouraged to pick up surfing and pursue what I loved. Looking back, the one thing I feel my parents didn't instill in me was exactly what Amy is emphasizing: that I have the potential to be the BEST if, and only if, I apply myself. After not getting into my top college choice, I changed.
And now what are You doing ? I think in western countries de have to continue to learn Even when You are adults. But péople today doesn't ,want to learn .They want to bé Lazy in front of thé TV . This Amy Chua IS thé nightmare of démocrats. Péople are to bé responsible .You have to educate your childrens .But thé deep state doesn't want that. In France Scholl vegan so Bad. Péople have got so much allocations and they don't want to work so honorable citizens pay for Lazy péople.
You're right, it's not 'hard work', if you enjoy it, but still a person who finds something enjoyable, invests a lot of time into it.The young Bill Gates had exclusive access to computer systems which undoubtedly helped shape who he became.Mozart and Einstein spend countless hours in their field. And Newton's understanding of gravity was largely based on his intellectual mindset,and a chance encounter with a falling apple. Investing time, is relevant to intellectual productivity.
I am a hundred percent Chinese who was born and bred in Taiwan. Frankly I, who went to the best high school in Taiwan, had few pressure coming from my parents. Friends I met there are all elites from the entire country, but I never heard someone being pushed by their parents like the way Amy did. However, I exactly understand how and why Amy is implementing this kind of parenting way. That's why Chinese people pretty much "always" work harder, and succeed more then their counterparts.
Plastic surgery, Botox, and spending a lot on fitness, gym, personal trainers and expensive heathy food. She can afford it all. She chose her husband because he's a Yale Law School professor as well. She needs someone just as rich, shallow, prestige-seeking, and over-accomplished as she is.
Sure, I don't go out and party a lot like the western kids do, but I do often get a 98% when the average is a 65%, and that, knowing that I have potential achieve highly and that hard work and discipline pay off, is the best feeling in the world.
I wish she's my mom. . She's a hard worker, intelligent, and charismatic. I've read the book. I respect her views and I get her points. It's surprising how much she got misunderstood at times, mostly for "bashing western parents/culture" which I think isn't what the book is trying to convey.
I HATE this tiger mom mentality. It stems from ambition, inferiority complex, overcompensation, materialism and heartlessness of the mom (always from a backwards hellhole country) imposed on the helpless kids. It's a great way to create a robot or train an animal. It is STUPID and EVIL.
The people who "work hard" and the people who achieve -- are different sorts of people. The former bitterly envious of the latter. In some cases hard work can bring about success, but the link between hard work and success is viciously overestimated.
You're wrong. Ingenuity and innovation is what has generated most solutions to most problems. Productivity and hard work are good when it comes to carrying out the work needed to apply these ingenious solutions, but they don't generate the solutions themselves. Productivity/hard work is dependent on ingenuity/independent thought, not the other way round. SJ guardians depend on NT rationals to create systems that make room for productivity/hard work to take place, not the other way round.
Maybe under any conventional (western) theory, but the fact remains that nobody has solved a real world problem of relevance, without putting a considerable amount of time into it. So the ability to solve real world problems with unknown solutions, is in fact, related to hard work. However, many cultures (western in particular), have already gotten to the point where they no longer value,anything that is related to productivity, and instead superficial features - such as IQ.
This is the best way to parent your kids and as adults they thank her for making them successful high quality individuals. This is why Chinese women are the best mothers of all.
If you don't ask questions, you won't get answers. Ingenuity falls off of trees. Einstein owes his theories of relativity, in large part, to curious questions he posed to himself, beginning at age 16. And novelty has long been natural to the process of biological evolution, as is evident, for example, by the complexity of the human body. Generating unique and practical solutions, relies just as much on empirical thinking, as it does on specific cognitive processes (and limitations).
Education is a matter of indoctrination,enforcement and inducing fear and pain ; it simply functions that way. There is a reason why schoolkids shout "Schoolkid is soldiers(haksengeun guninida)", must wear uniform with rank and name tags and learn to march and salute. It has nothing to do with fun or such a thing. If,for example,schools teach children how to read newspaper and criticize the society, than such an education is considered subversive, not productive. After all,Rousseau's concept on education has proven to be wrong,
Chinese people need to stay in honour and respect their HOST country, US. It is and stay your host country. The place where you attain your FREEDOM + your knowledge. use your strength to serve the country NOT bullying other Americans. This is said by another asian. Without the States let you come in, you would be at the bottom of the sea now, or resting in your grave. Don't bite the hand that feeds you.
I second @chloebaoable and find your comments highly ignorant. And where on earth in the book do you see her writing any thing akin to 'bullying other Americans'? As a third generation Chinese born outside China (shall not name said country here), there is honestly a lot more to say about these 'host countries' who are actually living off immigrants who have contributed much to the development of the country.
In America, there's enough safety nets in place not every mother has to be a Tiger mother. In other parts of the world like Asia if you don't take care of your kids they won't be competitive enough to live a good life. Look at China, majority of the people are working poor competing for that low wage just to get by while because there are no welfare system like the US. If your kid isn't gifted enough to work in high paying jobs then you have to find cheap labor jobs.
Both USA and China are much more advanced and developed than Germany or France. Nowadays the USA is a collectivist society heavily influenced by Neoconfucianist value system, in contrast to Europe.
***** Of course China is much more advanced than Germany. 1)Computer-China has its own 64-bit CPU designs since a decade and uses them in their supercomputers. Germany can only make diodes for trains and ignition devices like tricore. 2)UAV industry-China's DJI, Yuneec ,Feiyu etc. lead the industry and now China makes its own Globalhawk like UAV and also UCAV. 3)Software-China has SNS like Weibo etc. Germany has no such thing. SNS is Korean invention just like the internet phone. Twitter,facebook etc. are scaled-down copies of Iloveschool which still is online. 4)Human genetics-China is now capable of manipulating DNA of embryos to create desirable and perfect human beings. 5)Space-China has landed on the moon and also launched a space station. Germany is far behind Korea which is not allowed to use its own 1st stage rocket and was forced to use Russian 1st stage by the US. 6)Planes-Germany cannot make jet fighters on its own but China makes stealth. 7)Nuclear fusion-China has reached 100 seconds but Germany hasn't. China is communist in its political system but its economy is far more efficient than Europe and is , unlike Europe, innovative. Besides, China controls,watches and tracks people with intelligent cameras. Germany has very very few cameras and most are analog tube based.
Her daughter is gunna grow up to be the most messed up person ! No one can be perfect ! you just can't force your daughter to be perfect ! she will turn out to be very insecure ! And it will take her a lot of time to get over it !
Does the fact that her parents are ethnic Chinese from the Philippines have anything to do with it? I'm really surprised that she was born and raised in the US. I'd think ABCs would never want to subject their kids to the traditional Asian way of raising kids. She seems extremely conservative, conventional, upwardly mobile, shallow, keeping up with the Joneses, etc. She also seems bipolar, OCD, with anxiety disorders. She needs to relax and mellow out.
First-gens usually embody many of their parents' values. Chua specifically mentioned in her book that she did not want generational decay to happen on her watch. But yes, many ABCs do infact absorb the values of the native culture around them and "mellow" out. Heck, this even happens with the immigrant generation like my own mother (although I'm pretty sure it also has a lot to do with my lowering grades over the years haha).
That is exactly what I mean. Please go and live in china. because you are born outside of China, how china used to be. Do you know that? Be grateful, and it is your time to pay back in stead of bullying others. The opportunities you had got outside of china. So please stop insulting Americans, I mean all Americans, when you live in America. Honour your host country. Otherwise Leave, and go back to where you came from.
This is possibly the stupidest thing I've seen on CZcams in a while. You're wrong as hell. They are Asians, and yes, they speak their native language. (2 different forms of Chinese). Do your research before you talk.
I bet you she is narcissist. People like her is the reason why there are soooo many kids are stoic, plague by a deep sense of loneliness and being emotionally disconnected. She need to stop what she is preaching and find a therapist. She can afford it, I am sure. #angry
It's a bit painful watching her talk, her demeanor, her whole vibe. She seems like a crazy lady who worships white/America too much. She's too into being a lemming, keeping up with the Joneses, status, and prestige. She has the worst values, and she's a total idiot.
My ears are bleeding from the continual changing from audio in the left and right headphone
Finally an interviewer that actually knows her work
Thank you!
UPDATE: Reapplied to my top choice college, and I got in! Brown University '15! Dreams can come true, if you make them.
Just recently, I learned that Amy's eldest daughter Sophia got married. Sophia looked absolutely beautiful in her wedding gown and Amy looked sensational in her Mother of the Bride dress. I have a strong feeling that Amy Chua and her husband Jed Rubenfeld will be wonderful grandparents.
Came here because a German newspaper reported about her new book. Saw the interview. Surprised.
Thanks, Bill.
Bill you did a good job in this interview.
Thanks, Michael!
+Bill Kenower This interview sucked balls Bill.
I've read her book. Perfectly and impressed.
Awesome interview. Amazing book. To those who are on the offensive, finish her book before you critique.
This is a good point, Joyce. As I said in the interview, this was a difficult book for me to read, for many of the reasons those critical of her and her methods have mentioned. But the ending is what the book is really about. Like all memoirs, it's about change and growth.
Fantastic interview!
Great interview!! xx
I read and throughly enjoyed reading the Tiger Mom book. I enjoyed the story about the Christmas card that was ripped up and rewritten as a keepsake. And I liked the chapter about applying Tiger Mom philosophy to the family dog. There are good stories musicians can relate too. When I came to the last few pages though I felt sadness. I thought - what great and brilliant and wonderful kids ... they face a life of disappointment because very few people how special they are. That includes people like me.
She is something… Talented like hell, and a hard-worker!
What a pleasant interview from both the interviewer and the interviewed person. And also I'm so glad I discovered this wonderful book Day of Empire just the other day in an Amsterdam library.. such a fresh look on among others Dutch History..
very inspiring book and talk!
great questions from Bill !
I like this interview
Very informative and educational.
Thanks her writing that book I'm know writing my book report
I was one of those people who reacted negatively to her at first, before I really knew anything about her. But after watching numerous videos and interviews with her, I have totally changed my mind. I think she is wonderful, brilliant, funny, smart, charming. What can I say? I am a huge fan! Go Amy! :D
I am an English teacher in China. I have seen first hand the impact of Chua's extremist philosophy; be the best of the best or you are worthless
I have had to talk some of my students out of suicidal tendencies because of the pressure they face
I love Amy. I think she is a very funny, strong and intelligent woman. I read the book and laughed all the way through. A lot of people think she is not a loving mother. Well, that is not true from what I read and heard from her own daughters. I remember one story told by Sofia (her first born) that once she got a B in an exam in college. She felt bad and texted her mom with a response “Who cares. Mommy loves you! “ , I only see a successful parent honestly.
I don’t think her kids think it’s funny
@@MoneyPlaysEveryDay Her kids have since laughed about it, thanked her and ended up being successful.
agree with u..
Raising kids is not a new science. We have been doing it for thousands of years. It's called love your children and guide them the right way. I am absolutely sure that mothers tens of thousands of years from now raised their kids the right way.
"from now"? I think you meant "ago".
I love Amy.....
I'm reading your book
I am half-asian. My mother went to UCSB and my father didn't go to college. As a kid, I was encouraged to pick up surfing and pursue what I loved. Looking back, the one thing I feel my parents didn't instill in me was exactly what Amy is emphasizing: that I have the potential to be the BEST if, and only if, I apply myself. After not getting into my top college choice, I changed.
And now what are You doing ?
I think in western countries de have to continue to learn Even when You are adults.
But péople today doesn't ,want to learn .They want to bé Lazy in front of thé TV .
This Amy Chua IS thé nightmare of démocrats.
Péople are to bé responsible .You have to educate your childrens .But thé deep state doesn't want that.
In France Scholl vegan so Bad. Péople have got so much allocations and they don't want to work so honorable citizens pay for Lazy péople.
You're right, it's not 'hard work', if you enjoy it, but still a person who finds something enjoyable, invests a lot of time into it.The young Bill Gates had exclusive access to computer systems which undoubtedly helped shape who he became.Mozart and Einstein spend countless hours in their field. And Newton's understanding of gravity was largely based on his intellectual mindset,and a chance encounter with a falling apple. Investing time, is relevant to intellectual productivity.
I am a hundred percent Chinese who was born and bred in Taiwan. Frankly I, who went to the best high school in Taiwan, had few pressure coming from my parents. Friends I met there are all elites from the entire country, but I never heard someone being pushed by their parents like the way Amy did. However, I exactly understand how and why Amy is implementing this kind of parenting way. That's why Chinese people pretty much "always" work harder, and succeed more then their counterparts.
That's better said.
she is 50 here. incredible
Plastic surgery, Botox, and spending a lot on fitness, gym, personal trainers and expensive heathy food. She can afford it all. She chose her husband because he's a Yale Law School professor as well. She needs someone just as rich, shallow, prestige-seeking, and over-accomplished as she is.
@@asterixe1 You sound insecur, jealous, lazy and under achieving.
OMG.Children must be free!
But yes, hard work may rely to a large extent on cognitive profiles. However, there is no guaranteed relationship between the two.
Sure, I don't go out and party a lot like the western kids do, but I do often get a 98% when the average is a 65%, and that, knowing that I have potential achieve highly and that hard work and discipline pay off, is the best feeling in the world.
Love Amy's parenting style.
Didn't know there was someone else out there who has the same parenting style ideas as me :)
They came from Thé empire of China .
Of course you want your kids to be successful and prosperous.
You do t have to be a dictator about it
I wish she's my mom. . She's a hard worker, intelligent, and charismatic. I've read the book. I respect her views and I get her points. It's surprising how much she got misunderstood at times, mostly for "bashing western parents/culture" which I think isn't what the book is trying to convey.
Guess no sleepovers for u
I HATE this tiger mom mentality. It stems from ambition, inferiority complex, overcompensation, materialism and heartlessness of the mom (always from a backwards hellhole country) imposed on the helpless kids. It's a great way to create a robot or train an animal. It is STUPID and EVIL.
@mymyhang
Where exactly does Amy not appreciate the US? Or is it just supposed to be a general statement?
haters gonna hate.
True! I see soooo much jealousy in the comment section....
The people who "work hard" and the people who achieve -- are different sorts of people. The former bitterly envious of the latter.
In some cases hard work can bring about success, but the link between hard work and success is viciously overestimated.
If hard work brings about success than every child in South America would be a millionaire.
You're wrong. Ingenuity and innovation is what has generated most solutions to most problems. Productivity and hard work are good when it comes to carrying out the work needed to apply these ingenious solutions, but they don't generate the solutions themselves. Productivity/hard work is dependent on ingenuity/independent thought, not the other way round. SJ guardians depend on NT rationals to create systems that make room for productivity/hard work to take place, not the other way round.
amy chua always the truth about education and is much better than pestalozzi or rousseau.
Maybe under any conventional (western) theory, but the fact remains that nobody has solved a real world problem of relevance, without putting a considerable amount of time into it. So the ability to solve real world problems with unknown solutions, is in fact, related to hard work. However, many cultures (western in particular), have already gotten to the point where they no longer value,anything that is related to productivity, and instead superficial features - such as IQ.
It's not adolescence. It may be adolescence in America.
This is the best way to parent your kids and as adults they thank her for making them successful high quality individuals. This is why Chinese women are the best mothers of all.
No. Tiger parenting = authoritarian parenting and it is the worst parenting style amongst the others. Also, I can feel that Amy Chua is evil.
Good interview but the interviewer's voice fades.
If you don't ask questions, you won't get answers. Ingenuity falls off of trees. Einstein owes his theories of relativity, in large part, to curious questions he posed to himself, beginning at age 16. And novelty has long been natural to the process of biological evolution, as is evident, for example, by the complexity of the human body. Generating unique and practical solutions, relies just as much on empirical thinking, as it does on specific cognitive processes (and limitations).
Education is a matter of indoctrination,enforcement and inducing fear and pain ; it simply functions that way. There is a reason why schoolkids shout "Schoolkid is soldiers(haksengeun guninida)", must wear uniform with rank and name tags and learn to march and salute. It has nothing to do with fun or such a thing. If,for example,schools teach children how to read newspaper and criticize the society, than such an education is considered subversive, not productive. After all,Rousseau's concept on education has proven to be wrong,
Chinese people need to stay in honour and respect their HOST country, US. It is and stay your host country. The place where you attain your FREEDOM + your knowledge.
use your strength to serve the country NOT bullying other Americans. This is said by another asian. Without the States let you come in, you would be at the bottom of the sea now, or resting in your grave. Don't bite the hand that feeds you.
I second @chloebaoable and find your comments highly ignorant. And where on earth in the book do you see her writing any thing akin to 'bullying other Americans'?
As a third generation Chinese born outside China (shall not name said country here), there is honestly a lot more to say about these 'host countries' who are actually living off immigrants who have contributed much to the development of the country.
In America, there's enough safety nets in place not every mother has to be a Tiger mother. In other parts of the world like Asia if you don't take care of your kids they won't be competitive enough to live a good life. Look at China, majority of the people are working poor competing for that low wage just to get by while because there are no welfare system like the US. If your kid isn't gifted enough to work in high paying jobs then you have to find cheap labor jobs.
Both USA and China are much more advanced and developed than Germany or France. Nowadays the USA is a collectivist society heavily influenced by Neoconfucianist value system, in contrast to Europe.
***** Of course China is much more advanced than Germany. 1)Computer-China has its own 64-bit CPU designs since a decade and uses them in their supercomputers. Germany can only make diodes for trains and ignition devices like tricore. 2)UAV industry-China's DJI, Yuneec ,Feiyu etc. lead the industry and now China makes its own Globalhawk like UAV and also UCAV. 3)Software-China has SNS like Weibo etc. Germany has no such thing. SNS is Korean invention just like the internet phone. Twitter,facebook etc. are scaled-down copies of Iloveschool which still is online. 4)Human genetics-China is now capable of manipulating DNA of embryos to create desirable and perfect human beings. 5)Space-China has landed on the moon and also launched a space station. Germany is far behind Korea which is not allowed to use its own 1st stage rocket and was forced to use Russian 1st stage by the US. 6)Planes-Germany cannot make jet fighters on its own but China makes stealth. 7)Nuclear fusion-China has reached 100 seconds but Germany hasn't. China is communist in its political system but its economy is far more efficient than Europe and is , unlike Europe, innovative. Besides, China controls,watches and tracks people with intelligent cameras. Germany has very very few cameras and most are analog tube based.
Her daughter is gunna grow up to be the most messed up person ! No one can be perfect ! you just can't force your daughter to be perfect ! she will turn out to be very insecure ! And it will take her a lot of time to get over it !
What the world needs now, is diploms pure diploms....
Does the fact that her parents are ethnic Chinese from the Philippines have anything to do with it? I'm really surprised that she was born and raised in the US. I'd think ABCs would never want to subject their kids to the traditional Asian way of raising kids. She seems extremely conservative, conventional, upwardly mobile, shallow, keeping up with the Joneses, etc. She also seems bipolar, OCD, with anxiety disorders. She needs to relax and mellow out.
First-gens usually embody many of their parents' values. Chua specifically mentioned in her book that she did not want generational decay to happen on her watch.
But yes, many ABCs do infact absorb the values of the native culture around them and "mellow" out. Heck, this even happens with the immigrant generation like my own mother (although I'm pretty sure it also has a lot to do with my lowering grades over the years haha).
Yeah, your life is perfect, we know.
That's rather superficial.
you are brainwashed into thinking that unless you are perfect then you are a failure. therein lies the danger of Chua's philosophy
oh i wonder why your daughter rebelled -_-
meant to write *worse yet YOU HAVE FAILED TO BRING TWO HEALTHY, SELF-ACTUALIZED PEOPLE INTO THIS WORLD*
That is exactly what I mean. Please go and live in china. because you are born outside of China, how china used to be. Do you know that?
Be grateful, and it is your time to pay back in stead of bullying others. The opportunities you had got outside of china. So please stop insulting Americans, I mean all Americans, when you live in America. Honour your host country. Otherwise Leave, and go back to where you came from.
This is possibly the stupidest thing I've seen on CZcams in a while. You're wrong as hell. They are Asians, and yes, they speak their native language. (2 different forms of Chinese). Do your research before you talk.
I bet you she is narcissist. People like her is the reason why there are soooo many kids are stoic, plague by a deep sense of loneliness and being emotionally disconnected. She need to stop what she is preaching and find a therapist. She can afford it, I am sure. #angry
It's a bit painful watching her talk, her demeanor, her whole vibe. She seems like a crazy lady who worships white/America too much. She's too into being a lemming, keeping up with the Joneses, status, and prestige. She has the worst values, and she's a total idiot.