After The Breakup | Cuffing Season Vol. 2 | Part 9 | Jerry Flowers
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- It’s hard to grieve over someone who’s still alive, like you eulogized the relationship, but the person is not in the cemetery!
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This message was preached the day my fiancé ended our engagement and relationship. It cannot be a coincidence. This is the start I needed to begin my healing journey to complete and total wholeness, I won’t accept anything less. Doing a relationship autopsy was so eye opening and I’m ready to begin the inner healing work to not make the same mistakes I made in this relationship. My spirit is encouraged this evening. This breakup will not break me, there is yet still more after this!
Amen. #PressOn
Praying for your healing and guidance through this
I'm right here with you. Just 15 days ago my fiance ended our engagement. It's so tempting to send this to him because I feel this is just a pause. But im going to continue to have FAITH and trust God. Work on me and prayerfully he wil do the same. I'll keep you in my prayers that you will heal and gain peace🙏
I am right here with you. The love of my life ended our engagement and it has broken me so deep. I know this word is going to help me. In the back of my mind and heart I still have hope but I have to trust God and start healing. I am determine to be healed and be whole with God and myself alone. It starts there....keep me in prayer as I pray for you too ladies.
@@laurendeese5184 praying for you
God will wreck your plans when He sees that your plans will wreck you🙌🙌🙏
He literally just left...he wasn't ready to be a Kingdom man...4 days before my birthday, A GIFT!!! Thank YOU GOD!
Amen sis what a gift .
Oh wow! I have a very recent similar story!
Same I prayed for god to remove him if he wasn’t for me and he left
Make sure you are examining self as well in Jesus' name.
"Sometimes, a breakup is for a kingdom purpose!"
Many times what we call rejection is redirection for RESURRECTION!!🙌🙏
" *The Biggest Red Flag is When You Cant See That Your One* " 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾💯
Before I watch this…. Father, open my mind to perspectives and place calm over me. Show me YOUR way, so that I may be healed properly and learn to forgive. I pray that others and not just ME benefit from this message. Thank you Lord, for the things I don’t have that will be placed in my life as you see fit. I know my sins, Father… yet I’m still bold enough to ask for YOUR favor. I humbly bow to you, in your Son Jesus’s name… Amen 🙏🏽.
Amen!! Can i add you on social media?
I wrote this message 11 months ago and I am now alone again. I still love the woman who left me on Wednesday. I can’t believe it, but I accept it. The love was not enough, the communication was shaky on a subject that was being addressed. However, there were things I was trying to do to show her she was my priority without her seeing what I was doing. Yet, this isn’t an excuse.. just what God’s Will is for me. I’m now back at the throne, praying for her healing and mine. I love her NO less, and I accept the part that I played. Jesus help us both move past the pain and grow better from the lessons we’ve learned. Amen 🙏🏽.
Praying for you too ❤️ 🙏🏿
Thank you for praying for us ♥️
Things fall apart easier when it was held together by a lie. 🙌🏽
This whole message make me wanna go apologize to all my exes. This is so uncomfortable and yet needed. Love you bro
Consider this as a confirmation. Do it. Don't wait for another time. Asking for forgiveness is freeing and it pleases God when we admit our mistakes and change for the better. We are not always right and it's important to admit this to ourselves, put our pride down and do what is necessary for our healing. That could mean we have to take responsibility for the hurt we caused other people even if we don't see it.
Love it
Self-reflection is a lacking trait in relationships. I know it's me. I have a clap back game, hard truth mouth. I'm working on it. Learning to hold my peace. Great word!
It’s a strength of yours that is just misused! Be gracious to yourself-and be encouraged that will gain the tools to slow down and analyze! The Holy Spirit will lead us and restore us where we lack :)
Me too! I realize I need to work on this
This is so true, I was in a 7 year long distance relationship. Honestly speaking, I allow him to compromise a lot of things that I believe as a Christ follower and he left me for another girl.. but I realized after I meet and married my husband..he was not what God had for me…then I found out he was and atheist. I would get so anger and mad at the time I wasted and we have mutual friends but Thank God for healing. God showed me, sis, not my will and God was right…sometimes we make things that are not my will and beg God to approve it…
Please this message is right on target…Obedience is better than sacrifice.
Where were y’all at when I was in college but let me say to all the singles and marries this word right here is fire 🔥…my husband and sisters, I got them listening..
"Just because ... it died ... doesn't mean something in ... you died."🗣️✨👑✨👑✨👑✨👑✨👑✨
You heal faster when you're doing what you're supposed to do. Amen. I can attest to that! Hallelujah!
God never cracks a Red Sea to return but to DEPART.
Gods timing is always perfect
That Was Just a Page in the Chapter of My Life🚶🏾♂️ I'm Moving On 🙏🏾💯
“That’s not Biblical that’s Mike Jones…” 😂
Looool too good hahha
THERE IS STILL MORE AFTER THIS !!🙌🏽
I’m recovering from my abusive, narcissistic husband of 23 years… I thank God for a certain Christian friend who was able to finely get me to see it…. Everything you say in this Jerry, is spot on. Thank you!
I've always tried to place an image on him that he just wasn't was. Broke up 1 day before our 1 Year Anniversary. God is taking me places that he could not go, he would be detrimental to me. It's hard but I know it's for my greater good!
Yasssss God
The hardest part is trying to let go, trying to move past it and move on...is when the man BOUGHT A WHOLE HOUSE ON THE SAME STREET I LIVE ON. so I see him and I see her almost every day. GOD HELP ME!!!
Today. I said goodbye today. Gods timing is perfect. I’m weeping. 🥺
Pfffffft I feel like this series is such a time for me. Bad relationships in every area of my life. Constantly toxic. Recovering from really bad church hurt years later. Now engaged with 2 babies and strugglingggg to manage it all. 😭🤯
After the Breakup | Cuffing Season | Volume 2 | Part 9
That wasn’t even a chapter. It was a page of your story.
Move on right.
Could it be so hard to move on because you thought they would stop you or you don’t know how to grieve someone who’s very much alive?
How do I grieve over something that is dead but the person is still alive?
THERE IS STILL MORE AFTER THIS!!
After the breakup.
Some breakups are God’s doing (divine) and other breakups are self induced.
What if the biggest red flag is when you can’t see that you’re one?
We’re sabotaging relationships and yes it hurts. But the problem is we are blindfolded by our own suffering that we keep birthing.
Bad doctrine leads you to bad routes. And bad routes are because of bad direction.
God will wreck your plans when He sees your plans will wreck you.
John 6:70-71
Luke 22:47-48
Mark 6:6-7
Saving faith is not the same as religious activity.
Matthew 7:22-23
A Judas kiss is deadly & purposeful.
Due to what you did to them, you’ve changed.
If you’re wounded, you’ll wound others.
You can’t be an effective doctor if you’re giving diseases & viruses to who you’re trying to serve.
What causes your relationship to die?
A homicide - I killed something. They killed something or we killed something.
Something God is trying to purify.
1.) It might be you if you produce junkyards instead of skyscrapers.
The lack of my wholeness creates in them brokenness. A whole glass can quench your thirst but the same glass if broken can cut you.
Just because you never lay your hands on someone doesn’t mean you’re not abusive.
Proverbs 18:21
Is the condition of my mouth a grim reaper (death) or delivery unit (births life)
2.) Are you the teacher & student?
Ignorant don’t know anything.
Arrogant thinks they know everything.
The worse combination.
They not listening to understanding, they are waiting for their turn.
Kingdom biblical lasting love is sacrifice, learning what the scriptures told you love is, and unlearning what you thought love was.
Husbands set the tone but there is nothing more frustrating to a wife when their husband is time death.
Proverbs 26:12
3.) When you have to have control.
Being with you feels like bondage.
There’s an interrogation process whenever you have to go somewhere.
They twist their insecurity and project it as your flaw.
Healing scares people who benefit from your brokenness.
They will end up trying to change who you are to become what they need.
4.) If you’re petty
A calculated comment/response that’s saturated in holding a record of wrong that you’re throwing in their face when you’re voicing a concern
You cannot want mature love by being childish.
Does everything have to go your way?
That’s childish.
Proverbs 25:21-22
5.) If you’re not faithful
It’s a constant choice to remain. People don’t abandon who they want, they abandon who they were using. Most people are loyal to opportunities, not to people.
6.) If you’re a liar
One lie causes one to question all truth.
Are you getting upset because they don’t believe your lie or because you can’t control them anymore?
Things break apart easier when they were held together by a lie.
Ruth 1:4-5
Ruth 2:8-11
Sometimes that breakup was for a purpose.
Type and wanted them.
Had my back, was always there.
Just because it died doesn’t mean something in you dies.
Many times what we call rejection is redirection for resurrection.
Notice your downward decline while you were with them.
God has a Boaz for you, something better.
Matthew 10:11-14
If it’s worthy, let your peace be on it. If it’s not, let your peace return to you. Learn to shake it off.
One of the methods as you go on to the next relationship, or opportunity, you have to shake the dust off to what happened.
Bitterness only contaminated the container.
1.) Staying in a place that you’re not received is wasted time. Wasted time prolongs what’s really yours.
2.) God always gives us shake it off space.
You’ll use the same sand for a new seed.
3.) Take your peace with you.
Am I the one contributing to hurt?
Sometimes it was them & God is saying He has better.
Hard Truths
1.) You will miss them & think about them. But missing them is not a permission slip to return. When it gets cold, and certain holidays. Healing is a messy process. One day you’re alright & the other day you’re crying your eyes out. God never cracks a Red Sea so you can return. He only parts it so you can depart.
2.) You’re always going to have mutual friends. Don’t make them choose sides. Sometimes they stay friends with you to see how you’re really doing.
3.) You will get angry, sin not. Don’t get upset for a state that was only a season.
4.) Some things you’re gonna have to throw away. Social media is a scab picker. It’s a trigger. You’re healed not when your cut is a scab but you see the person who hurt you, but you don’t wanna cut them back.
5.) Why did this die? Understanding the cause of death is crucial. Don’t question your value because someone doubted it. You’re so valuable for where God is sending you. He will deal with it.
6.) Discover destiny. Purpose expedites healing. You’ll realize it hurt but it wouldn’t work for what God is calling you to do. It’ll help you heal.
7.) Pursue destiny.
Thanks for sermon notes !! Great job… very helpful
Thank you
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Thank you very much Sister 🙏🙏
Thank you!
I needed this. I've been lost the past month. My kids' mom and I have been divorced for a year but have still been in relation with each other. Physically and emotionally. I still felt like her husband, being there almost every other day. I was helping, listening, and at times encouraging, loving, and taking care of her like a husband does. I was convenient for her. Now, there is no longer a role that I've had for the past 10 years. No more physical or verbal contact. No more convenience. After hearing this, it shook me to the core. Thanks for this video and for some healing.
This was sooooo good! This message was just confirmation of why my last relationship ended earlier this year. I THANK GOD for ending it and reserving me for the kingdom marriage he designed for me to be in.
I feel this message is more so for my ex even though he wasnt the best for me. Mine was divine intervention. EDIT: 20 Mins in its for me too.... When i was with "Maelon".. ..my purity died
I’M GETTING MY PEACE BACK! God bless you and your family.
Just prayed asking God to take control and give guidance on a situation then I get the notification for this video.
This is so in time that it’s pleasantly scary!!! PREACH JF!!!
there is still more after this In Jesus name
This year I have related to all your videos… I couldn’t even believe I just went through this… got very ill for 3 days and tonight I finally wake up and start feeling better, then on CZcams and here this video is….. God really speaks directly to me through you. Thank you. 🙏
Whew Chile! There’s No mistake I was led to this video just a few days after ending things with someone I held on to tight this year while grieving the loss of my mother.. but God kept saying, you gotta let him go, it’s time to let go. I thanked God this morning for the courage to love myself unconditionally even if it’s heartbreaking.
I'm going through the same thing. 🙏
Same! Right after my mom passed, I got involved with someone I KNOW God didn't send, but I held on because I did not want to suffer another loss. After breaking up with him, on and off, he broke up with me but wanted to keep that door of access open. I entertained him for awhile, but I need to regain my self-worth and love myself enough to not let myself be used like that.
This message was on time. Uncomfortable a bit, however it was what I needed to hear!!
I am so ready to do the Work!
Completely uncomfortable, but oh so needed!
Whew 😰 it’s hard doing the work . Been working on myself every since the break up . And not jumping into another one until whole again. This message was so deep on so many level. Especially when he said a narcissist can walk away and justify his behavior . No accountability , the lies , cheating the using. My problem is learning how to forgive myself for wasted years .
This Word right here Pastor hit the target. I use to be the one who would always accuse the other person and would run when times got hard or if I seen the familiar. I had to take a step back and reevaluate myself so that I could receive what God had for me. Your videos have helped me heal in areas that I didn't know was damaged and have helped me to elevate my Christian walk. Thank you Pastor Jerry and Sistas Tanisha and all the other Sistas and Brothas in your ministry and I pray that God continues to bless y'all above and beyond any measure!!!!!!!!
Thank you Holy Spirit for this word, message a few times!!!
When You got to the last two points - discover Destiny and pursue Destiny - the breakup WAS worth it. It took every fiber inside of Me to walk away and not look back once but now that I know what My Destiny has always been, wow...Thank You, Jesus - I couldn't have done it without You.
I needed this I have really been through so much after I broke up with my kids father I took a year to myself to learn myself and for spiritual growth and I fell in love with someone I thought to be my friend and within the year of the relationship I found myself feeling more alone than when I was actually by myself I did everything in my power to try to keep it working but there was only so much I could do I had to realize I cannot heal Someone I can fix the damage only thing I can do is love you And that wasn’t enough it was like apologies was foreign language sad fell for a narcissist an the relationship became toxic And I just feel like it was a waste of time because I can’t get back this year I put into it . So I’m m trying to walk away with being feeling secure with my decision which I am but like I said I feel played with my time because that’s the most valuable thing I have Because he know he couldn’t be the man that I need him to be
I understand your pain my sister in Christ...similar situation happened to me around 2 years ago. I used to think of the wasted time, effort and love that could have been better used for God's purposes and plans, even used to say that to God the Father, God the Son and God the Holy Spirit in prayer 😆
However, I hope to encourage you by saying it's better everyday with the Holy Spirit just renewing my mind and thought patterns to where I now praise God for the good and the bad.The process will take time but the fruits of the Spirit are so worth that time ❤ 😀 God's got this - He always had and He always will...
NB..in writing this reply to you, I just realized how very grateful I am for this continuing singleness season with the Holy Spirit ❤ Hope this blesses you
God bless you Rachel 😍
THERE IS STILL MORE AFTER THIS IN JESUS' NAME. AMEN.
The very first message I heard from Redefined TV was about taming the tongue. I searched CZcams and found this Ministry! I have been growing with this Ministry for years ❤️❤️❤️
3 years out from my last relationship and still gained so much ❤️
Important for success: Sacrifice, learning, and unlearning
Just because it died doesn't mean something in you dies...🙌🙌🙏😊
Watched this 4 times 🥺 so timely thank you Jerry!
This is my second time watching omg 😳 this was really good.
People don’t abandon things that they want. They abandon things that they were using!!!! Wow wow wow!
THERE IS STILL MORE AFTER THIS!!! 🙌🏼
The Lord separated us to mature us . He told me that He was my husband prior to doing so. Do you have videos on temporary separations? @RedefinedTv
That sounds like you came together too soon due to lack of Patience. And because of that lack there was need to separate after coming together. @Redefined TV always says we are Prepared for our Assignment and then we get our Spouse which acts as a Helpmeet to that Assignment. Not we are brought together, then separate , then bring us back together. That would be confusion and God is not the Author of Confusion.
@@yahkar Yes...we had no patience...we didnt even know about covenant love or purpose. Lord told me He was my husband and now I know we have to be walking in our calling as well. Lord showed us both on separate occasions that we both need to be sold out to HIM before we can be married. We were idolizing each other. I let him go a month now. I'm learning alot...undistracted.
@@yahkar Lord gave me a dream too telling me we have assignments together.
It's not confusion, its growing. We didnt know.
It's the lies you don't even ask for ..that confuse me
This was preached 7months ago but this was right on time!!! Ill be listening to this a couple of times!!!! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!!
Wasting time prolongs what is REALLY YOURS! ❤
I watched this looking internally. Asking God to help me fix that which is in me. Doing a relationship autopsy is so integral, it's hard, yucky, but necessary and I wouldn't change it for anything. My spirit is lifted and encouraged to do the work. While I don't see many men commenting, my prayer is that more men can look within to heal and give glory to God. One thing I was able to immediately do after watching this, give God honor and Glory! In his name Amen and thank you.
There's still more after this.. oh God help me Lord! Through tears im struggling to believe i will be ok and healed.. pray for me everyone 🙏🏼
THERE IS STILL MORE AFTER THIS! 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
THERE IS STILL MORE AFTER THIS!💆🏽♀️
IM GETTING MY PEACE BACK IN JESUS NAME!
Thank you, I really needed this after leaving an 11 year old relationship.
This message was so deep and clear! Thank you Pastor Jerry! ❤️
Jerry Flowers always does wonderful sermons! It resonated with me deeply in my core. Thank you thank you! I thank God for your life and may He blessed you and your family!
This checked me humbled me and freed me all at the same time THANK YOU JESUS THE TRUTH MAY HURT BUT IF WILL SET YOU FREE🙌🏼
Thank you for saying like it is Pastor Jerry! God continue to bless 🙏
8 Months Later, Still Healing...Or Am I? Am I Holding On Subconsciously Or Just Not Being 100% Intentional? This Isn't My 1st Heartache...And I Felt Like I Needed To Feel That Pain In Order To Learn From My Mistake...I So Needed This Message...I'm Finally Going To Intentional To Give It To God And Heal...Intentionally 🙏 Thank You!!!
You betta teach this thang Doc! We don't need an emotional doctrine, we need solid, biblical doctrine!
THERES STILL MORE AFTER THIS ❤
Verbal abuse cuts harder than any physical abuse!!!
THERE'S STILL AFTER THIS
I am getting my Peace back !!!!!!! Thank God
Judas is necessary to the assignment!!!
There’s a lot I wanna say , but I’ll just say I thank God for your ministry and this word Pst. Flowers 🙏🏾. I needed to hear this ❤️🩹
Search and examine my heart YAH and find it good; try me and purify me like gold, burning away all together is not aligned with your Will or Spirit.
Halalo ath YA'OH!!!
So many jams! 💍💍💍
Shalom la-cha chahn!!!
Wasting time prolongs what's Really yours🙌🙌🙏.. If it didn't work with Mahlon there must be a Boaz. You are so valuable God is reserving you for what He is sending you.🙏
What a Word! Thank you Jesus🙏 May God richly bless and favour Redefined TV, Pastors Flowers and their ministry. I pray God's grace to keep preaching with grace and truth
“Maybe I’m dusty because I haven’t addressed the sand of the former village”
Lord- how I needed this today
Lord I wasted more yrs of my life... almost 5 yrs. But Lord Help me just let go..... let u hv 1st place. In my life.
After dating a woman with the intention on marrying her my time effort energy I didn't think I could get over the breakup. Now I feel as if I was so into the relationship I forgot about God even though I would pray about it pray for her pray for me but it wasn't in his will for me. Now I have come to terms with it. This one is rough on me
This is just too good! 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
So so real Pastor!
I'm not leaving my peace with anyone. It had to end with Mahlon, because God has more in store for me.
There is still more after this 🙏🏽🙏🏽
This has truly blessed me! 🙌🏽🥺
Amen , message was an eye opener. Thank you
THIS IS GOING TO BE GOOD!!! I NEED THIS PASTOR!!!
There's still more after this🌬️✨✨✨
thank you so much for sharing this with us
Went through this whole healing process over the summer and it's been so freeing!!!! Nothing quick or easy about it!
Amen Pastor and yes I felt that in my soul! Had to pause to share it on Fb. God bless you!
There's still more after this. Man oh man this hit home directly. Thank you so much for this.
This was necessary!! Good word Pastor Flowers
Needed this. Thank You 🙏🏾
This was an amazing word !!!!! Thank you so much 🙏🏾🙏🏾
Awesome ‼️ messg!! God bless y'all! 🙏 🙏
God thank you! Pastor thank you! I need this, I need this now!
I needed this.
There is still more after this 🙏🏽🙌🏽
Amen.. Woe I cant wait to hear this!!! There is still more after this
So grateful for your teachings. This word helped me a lot.
THIS IS GOOOOD PASTOR FLOWERS
Profound!! I am so thankful for God speaking through you! 🙌🏻 🙌🏻 🙌🏻
Thank You so much for this. It is helping me out so much I’ve watched it everyday for encouragement ♥️💜💙💚
There’s still more after this!! Amen