5 Habits That Have Improved My Life ✨
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- čas přidán 23. 07. 2024
- In this video I'm sharing 5 habits that have really impacted my happiness this year - A few of these are a little counterintuitive but have really helped me, take what resonates and leave the rest!
TIMELINE
00:00 Intro
00:47 Habit 1
3:09 Habit 2
5:13 Habit 3
7:01 Habit 4
9:20 Habit 5
10:15 Habit 5.2
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💫 A QUICK BUT IMPORTANT NOTE...
You always know you best. Please take with you from this video what resonates and leave what doesn’t. My thoughts are always changing and evolving, and I might get things wrong. I appreciate you watching this video in a mindful way.
I actually never commented any video before and I’m sorry if my English is not perfect as I’m Italian. I just want to say that I had the hardest time of my life last year, I lost my nephew, my health and my job because of it and I thought that was it. I follow you from a long time and you inspired me to actually take action on my situation and it help me so much to get motivated to pick up my life again. Please Michelle never stop and thank you!
hope you feel better and sorry for your loss!
You've been through a lot. Sending you love and peace. Keep going. The world needs you, more than you know.
So refreshing. One thing I’ve learned is that focusing too much on myself and spending too much time alone makes me MISERABLE. Which is counter to the generic self help narrative… focusing on others is where purpose and happiness truly lies. And yes of course you have to fill your own cup, but I think many of our cups are overflowing!
Yesss I feel it, the less I think about myself the happier I am! Sending you lots of good feelings
Honestly- I wonder if the super self focus content is semi-propaganda. The more isolated we are the more we buy, the less we unite for our common interests
@@clairbear1234 crazy to think about! :o
I also have a self improvement channel:) let’s grow together💪
I think no one can “self-care” themselves into happiness. It’s meant as a small temporary energy upload so that one can spend that energy on others in the most positive way. Then happiness can flourish. But anyone trying to achieve fulfillment by focusing on themselves will only be vastly disappointed and may try to “self-care” themselves out of the emotion but inadvertently only increase the lack of fulfillment. This doesn’t necessarily apply to those going through life trauma. Get help. Even out and then move on. In currently trying to implement the moving on part from an unwanted divorce 5 years ago. But me focusing on it too much has not helped.
I was actually admiring the slightly darker hair before you mentioned disliking it! It looks so nice!! 😄
Thank you!! I'm actually much more into now that it's been a week or so, appreciate youu
Omg. The fixation on feelings is the reason I stopped Daily journaling. It was making me more unhappy.
I am currently trying Morning Pages and it works way better for me. Because it is a stream of conciousness, it‘s not all about the feelings but also about random stuff popping in my head. So no dwelling on hard emotions. Thanks for validating my gut feeling! 🧡
Oh I’m 100% with you - journaling has to be done in a certain way to be helpful, otherwise I can get way too self focused. Sending you lot of good energyy
This is so interesting because I stopped morning pages because my brain always wen t to the negative part and I ended up ranting for 3 pages every morning and it made me so miserable. Now I try guided journaling and it really helps me 😌
@@Studio-Iwow! How different our brains work 🤯 I never go into negative thoughts with my Morning Pages. Actually, this Morning i wrote about how I am questioning if I am doing something wrong because they are always neutral or leaning positive 😅
I also have a self improvement channel:) let’s grow together💪
@@Studio-IThis is me too! I loved morning pages for over a decade, but then I realized that when I wake up is when I have the most negative and self-critical thoughts, and focusing on them was not helpful.
You just consistently smash it out of the park Michelle. I don't know what exactly it is, but i always leave your videos with some go go juice to sort my life out. Thank you for all the effort you put into your channel, from a long time lurker
😭 appreciate you, I love to hear this, and appreciate you breaking lurker code to leave this kind comment. Sending you tons of good energy.
that second habit is what I’ve been trained to do with suicidal thoughts throughout my whole journey with major depression-just see that thought and let it float on by. even though that was really difficult for many years, now I might have a thought of death or suicide pop into my head, but instead of thinking, “oh that’s so terrible that I’m thinking that! I must be getting worse!” I just think “okay, that’s there, now it can float away.” it’s honestly so life-changing, and I can’t believe I’ve never thought about anxious thoughts in that way. I will 100% be trying to do the same thing with my anxiety. I feel like my anxiety about being anxious is what I really get caught up in. thanks for the advice 💓
Why haven't I thought of applying it to that before? That's brilliant. Especially the "oh no oh no I must be getting worse here it comes oh god" thoughts that come after thoughts about 💀 can really make me spiral. It's really a self-fulfilling prophecy. Thank you for sharing.
Hi, I've been a loyal subscriber for years but your vibe completely changed this year and I love to see it. You seem happier and more confident, this recent video really helped me, thank you
Stay happy and confident girl! You got this! I also have a self improvement channel:) let’s grow together💪
I have followed you for ages, and you were one of the first youtubers of my productivity youtube phase a few years ago!
Since than, a lot happened, I started struggling more with self doubts, overwork and general life chaos. I started to put more and more pressure on myself. Often I used productivity and optimization videos almost as if to punish myself, comparing myself to very isolated standards and obsessing. I decided leaving this 'bubble' was necessary. You were one of the only youtubers I occasionally still checked out just to see what you are doing. 'Live admin days' was a concept that stuck to me and so did you :).
This new wave of videos is the first one that I started to consistently watch again. It is so nice seeing you come to similar realizations as me at a similar time - productivity alone doesn't make you happy...but you can productively work on your mental attitude. That how good you are at feeling proud has a higher impact on your feelings of pride for your work, than the actual work you are(n't) proud of.
Your videos are as concretely helpful as always, but with the focus on happiness and a strong mental management aspect, they are bringing so much peace and calm, long lasting motivation for me. It's great, and I feel like it is making me fall into a more sustainable motivation bubble instead of a pressure productivity bubble.
Very cool to get follow the glimpses of your life that you share with us! In my head you evolved from an idealized role model to a person that is growing with me. It feels like going full circle. Thank you so much, really! I am usually one of those ghost CZcams consumers, that do not interact. But from time to time something convinces me to say something, and now was one of the times. Thanks again! :)
Keep going, super proud of you for prioritizing your goals and taking this opportunity to grow! I also have a self improvement channel:) let’s grow together💪
Habit one resonated with me so much and I've since shared it with a few friends. I also really love that you're one of the few people in this space that seem so non-individualistic. I love your emphasis on the importance of community/friendships/connection. It's wild to me that this is one of the most important aspects of happiness (and societal equilibrium) and yet it's so rarely discussed in the ''self-help'' industry!
love this michelle!!!
That first habit is the habit that I am
Currently working on and I mean I have a lot of work but there’s progress. I never thought about my reactions to things until I finally went to therapy this year and she put so much emphasis on being aware of my feeling, staying calm, and being okay. I think the kid thing you explained is a great way to think about it, I practice that with my own kid and never thought I should do that with my own situations.
This was incredible! Absolutely love them all, especially number one!😊 thank you for this ❤
The first one is already calling me out 😂 in the best way, though.
You're so right. When I was younger, I went from no emotional regulation to being far better at letting feelings be feelings (shout out to DBT for that!). A couple of year ago, I was working on finding that balance between letting myself rest on bad days or whatever and just accepting them because I've found that can be a way of not feeling them too if you're too strict...
but then a lot of big scary life stuff started happening all at once and I've gotten stuck in that dragged out feelings loop for a bit over a year now. I needed that reminder, so thank you!
PREACHHHHHH! Omg!!!! I needed this wow!!! Wow! Thank you!
This makes so much sense😳😳😳❤️🎉🎊
Every time you post something my brain just goes YEP THIS IS FOR ME!!❤
You look so happy! You're radiating it :)
I love the no should or musts principle! I need that! Also going to try the woop process too! Thanks for the video!
I needed this. You nailed it.
loved the video! finally not the basic habits. Sooo helpflul, i can really see myself implementing these new habits
This couldn't have come at a better time. Getting reflective on my time off from work and want to get a head start on next year's theme / goals - can't wait for your new year content as well!
Never took so many screenshots on a video !! SO INSIGHTFUL❤
Wow I’ve never heard that first piece of advice and I think it just changed my whole life… so glad I found your channel. SUBSCRIBED
The timing of this is really great for me - WOOP seems especially helpful.
I just would like to share that I deeply appreciate your content. I really needed this video today. Thank you for making my day brighter ! ❤
I love your videos so much you can just see how much time thought research and effort goes into what you do! This is definitely a favourite for me! Will be applying this to help me with some habits I’d like to change!
I really needed this video! I’ve had a bit of an ick 2023 - I’ve made progress but I feel like I’ve been managed by other people’s expectations.
Definitely going to take some of these habits forward after my late 2023 reset!
I just binge watched five years of your videos. And I just made a very hard phone call, thanks to your inspiration. Thank you for being amazing. 😊
I noticed that I have to stop focusing too much on myself. Otherwise, I go into a depression rabbit hole. So, I find other things to focus on when I start getting like this. I love this video, and it is so refreshing. I love your top by the way. I love connecting with people, too, but I also love spending time alone.
This hair color is actually so beautiful with the color of the blouse you are wearing. You look radiant!
Muchelle, you inspire me soooo much. Thank you for being such a beautiful human being. You look soooo beautiful and radiant on this video. ❤
Great video, thank you! ❤️
This is what I need! 😊
this is spot on! our feelings are not often accurate and the way we react to our thoughts our feelings is within our control
I also have a self improvement channel:) let’s grow together💪
I can relate soooooo much to the hyper fixation
Really good advice, I'm going to try the woop method
I love love love every single one of your videos!!!! Keep up the good thoughts and I'm so thankful that you share them with such openness
Always learn something with your videos ❤️
Amazing, thank you so much for introducing me to the concept of metacognitive therapy, that is going to really significantly help me. Thank you :)
Ah, I have been saying this about feelings for so long. The theory of feeling everything as valid is a bit too much self-love, ya know? We can go too far with babying ourselves and then we don't "grow up". Part of maturing is - as you say- learning to roll with the punches and not be affected by every ebb and flow as though you are the only character in life.
You got this! Yes, so true! The older I get the more I realize it’s all about how we respond to those challenges. I also have a self improvement channel:) let’s grow together💪
I want a way to remember to do all these things. It sounds great
You actually look really pretty in this hair color too ❤❤❤
Love it
Your hair looks beautiful, more natural 😊, great tips!
Thank you so much!
I have to admit that I m looking forward for tomorrow in case you post a new video :) just been watching so much of your content again and done one of your skillshare classes sunday. You are such a positive for my year 2023, you ll be in my year review haha. I have implement so much in my life thanks to your advises. I appreciate you and your content so so so very much !
Love this for you! Keep learning and growing:) I also have a self improvement channel:) let’s grow together💪
@@katherine.n.martinez thanks lovely 🥰
Great video!!!
Yasssss new Muchelle b video.. winner🎉
Sending you good thoughts!!
Such great content
So crazy! I just had the same experience with the hair.
Looks like you got a new camera. The video quality is great
Omg I love this video
When a difficult feelings come up, I first recognize it: "Oh, I'm feeling anxious. I wonder why? What are you trying to tell me? Am I tired?" I recognize it, and then get curious with questions that don't really need an answer. Like if an answer pops in my head, that's fine but it's not a demand. And then I try to visualize this emotion as a person, like my best friend. Like if this emotions was my best friend and they just started reacting as the emotion is causing reactions in me, what would I think? What would I say? And I'm immediately flooded with compassion and quietness. I let them have the floor. Go ahead, feel fussy, feel too much, tell me whatever dumb, small, slightly nasty thing. It becomes a listening instead of a participation. And it doesn't feel like I'm feeling them as much as it feels like I'm allowing them space and time like how I would a friend, with complete understanding and nonjudgmental. She's Anxious, but she really just cares. She's Angry, but she's really just hurt. So of course you can stay, and of course you matter. You feel them and as you are I'm right here when you're ready to move out of it, I'm right here when you're ready to talk. Then I cruise throughout my day, every now and again, checking back in to see if Anxious is still around, or Anger, and they are sometimes, but most of the time, they feel validated and have shimmered. Sometimes they stay longer, especially Jealousy, but it all leads to openness for every part of me to have space while I still work, or hang out or do the life I have.
I thought the darker hair was intentional! I looooove it!! 💗💗💗
Thank youu
Like your hair now 😻
I received information about WOOP with my health insurance and was like: naaah, I don't have time. then I hear you talking about it and now I'm doing a course on it in my health insurance company :)
The should-ing!! Whenever I catch myself thinking that ugh I should've done A instead of B, I try to shift my focus on what can I do from now on? Because having done B instead of A is something I can no longer change, but I can still move forward from where I am currently to achieve what I want to happen.
7:00 no shoulding ❤
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this is off-topic, but I love the shadow/smudge root that you have going on right now! its nice for winter coming up. Would you ever go brunette again?
Hmm I can't see myself doing that but never say never!! Right now I think I'll definitely stay blonde for a little while.
How did you exactly do to meet all those new people? Like where did you find them/got in contact with them? ☺️
Facebook groups!! (The gold coast has one called make new friends on the gold coast with like 10K members) Bumble bff! Instagram!
Habits hobbies interest make life easy or difficult? How to change bad habits?
I swear you look like Shila from the series 'Santa Clarita's diet'
You are beautiful woman
As someone who has ADHD, "directing attention" is the epitome of neurotypical advice 😂 Loved the rest though ❤
Beautiful girl beautiful face sweet lips sweet voice💋💋💋🤎