The rest of the story: As we continue our relationship it’s clear that my parents don’t like him, but they can’t really give up what I would call good or justifiable reasons. They’ll say he’s just not a good “fit for the family”. They don’t tell me to stop dating him (because they can’t, I’m an adult) but they do tell me that I need to keep them and him separate. They don’t want to really hear about him and he’s not welcome at their house or cabin. he’s never cheated on me, abused me, he has no drug problems etc. nothing that a normal parent would cite as a problem. Eventually it became an ultimatum given to me by my parents. They’d tell me that if you continue to date him, eventually it will be either him or us and you’ll have to choose. Among other things they would tell me that he’d never be an attorney, which is what he wanted to do, and insinuating that he probably wouldn’t be much of anything at all. After undergrad I started working at a financial firm. He graduated from undergrad at UC Berkeley and was accepted to law school across the country. We were always very serious about each other and made the decision to do long distance until he graduated and moved back to Ca. My boyfriend has since graduated from and Law School, moved home, and took the bar last month. He starts work this October, and had a contract since last year. They have known about this as well. Now, 6 years into our relationship I call my parents and tell them that we are going to be moving in together. About 20 minutes later I get a text, from my mom, saying that she doesn’t want to rain on my parade but that this “path” excludes her and my dad from my future. That they love me but they can’t be in my life if I choose to be with my boyfriend. I told them I would never understand. Since then, they have sent me more and more text messages saying stuff like “we feel like we’re losing our daughter” “this is heartbreaking” etc. and all at the same time including that this is “my choice” and my fault. I texted my parents that I thought my boyfriend and I should come over and talk, that texting about this kind of thing is stupid, but not to be patronized or belittled and if it turned to screaming that we would leave. My parents then replied that they wanted to see me face to face to talk but that my boyfriend isn’t allowed. My boyfriend even called my father the night of the initial “we can’t be part of your life” text to try and talk or meet up and see if there was a way to talk through any legitimate concerns. My dad did not answer and responded until a week plus later, only to text him that they haven’t really ever liked him, that he wants to work through it with me alone, and it’s mine and my boyfriends fault for not trying to address things earlier. Among other ridiculous “reasons” to not like my boyfriend were “Berkeley isn’t a ‘man’s’ college.” - my dad. One time in college, my professor lost my final exam, and when I found out via my final grades and was frantically calling her to figure out what happened, my parents told my boyfriend “see this is why we didn’t want her to have a boyfriend in college”, they’ve found ways to blame him for everything. The only thing that ever had any merit was that he wasn’t working yet. Well, this was because he was going to school to be a lawyer. (apparently marrying someone who will make a lot of money is a bad thing?) My boyfriend is the nicest, most calm and peaceful person ever and he loves me more than anything. But apparently their pride is more important than being wrong and accepting him. I guess I’m just trying to figure out if this is normal? Or if it’s as wrong as it feels to my boyfriend and I. **boyfriend as well as my parents and myself are of the same race. Somewhat similar financial status as well. **no important details left out, I promise. I wanted objective feedback. Believe me, if there was more, my parents would make it known to me and I would have included it in this post.
Hi everyone, updating you all on this long awaited “resolution.” After many more hurtful texts from my parents that said they can’t accept my partner and that it doesn’t matter if he’s a good fit for me, if he’s not a good fit for my “family” then it’s never going to work out, I went over in person to meet with them and pick up my legal documents. They made it clear that my boyfriend was not welcome and that this was a “family matter” they needed to speak with only me about. (Clear manipulation obviously) So, I went alone. I’m on my way, I know what I think and how I feel, I’m very sure of what I plan on saying. (Thanks to Reddit I have additional confirmation that I’m not crazy or wrong or a bad person, but they are in fact in the wrong). It was strange, walking into your parent’s house and feeling like you’re meeting strangers. Kind of felt like having a 26 year long relationship and being broken up with via text, then having to go pick up your shit and memories from your Ex’s house… Except that ex is your parents.
After about an hour of small talk, we got into the nitty gritty convo about the elephant in the room. A previous text that week had said, “we don’t expect to change your mind…we just want to talk.” but it’s clear that this in person meeting was a last ditch attempt to shake me from my reality and into theirs. They came at me from every angle, “he’s not a man’s man” -dad “I don’t respect him” - dad “I hate him, he’s taking away the most precious thing in our life, how could you not hate someone like that.” -dad, even at some point physically threatening him. My mom was either agreeing or adding little tidbits and reminders of things she doesn’t like about him. Some of which are things I mentioned in my previous post about when I went to meet his family and didn’t see her and my dad too. Mentioning also that she doesn’t like that I made the first move to talk to my boyfriend and not the other way around. You get the gist. It was all out war on my BF. They tell me I’m depriving them of a son in law. They say he is selfish for not breaking up with me years ago when he realized that my parents didn’t like him. They even just started blindly throwing out shots like “I don’t even know if he has any friends.” (Like WTF mom and dad, of course you don’t shit about him because you’ve made me keep my relationship out of earshot for 6 years ) but I digress.
It ends up being a 3 hour long conversation where I spoke for all of maybe 5 minutes with my heart rate at 150 the whole time (thanks for reminding me of that Apple Watch). They also don’t fail to mention a few other shining points such as: “We knew you would put this on us, this is not an ultimatum, we are just reacting to YOUR decision and choices”. -Was their reply to my saying, “this is not my choice, this is an ultimatum you’ve given me and neither my BF or I want this.” ”We knew you would make us the bad guys because we’re not #Team boyfriend’s name.” “Any of your friends and family who say we will come around or it will get better is lying to you and saying what you want to hear.” They asked me why they should like or be impressed by my BF, I told them various accolades. Dad replied with “education doesn’t impress me.” I told them how wonderful he was through some of the toughest times in my life (college) and how he supported and kept me sane when even my parents were coming down on me about how I wasn’t doing enough. They said “that’s what any boyfriend would do”. (Ummm no mom and dad, it’s not, and the two of you certainly were making me feel worse that entire time) They said because my BF’s dad helped him get through school by paying his tuition that he’s had everything in his life handed to him. dad said “I think you’re mom is having an epiphany about who you’re becoming.” Like I’m some monster. they said “we feel like you’re not listening to us” because I’m not just blindly agreeing to break up with my BF. dad said “this kind of thing happens all the time” (as if that makes it normal or justified) At the end, I have to break the news that in between all of the hurtful texts and prior to this meeting, my BF and I signed a lease and moved in together. Nothing they were going to say was going to sway me otherwise, even they said that. So we had taken the leap and made the move the weekend before this meeting. I was commuting about 20-30 minutes before the move, and my commute is the same after the move. Only difference is we now live in the same city that my BF (new attorney with crazy early and late hours) works in. Believe me I had all kinds of requirements prior to this move, it has to be safe, have in unit washer and dryer, safe parking, etc. & it’s only for a year or two while we save $ so we can buy a home. Contrary to my parents belief, I’m capable of rational decisions… I tell them first that we signed the lease and where it is, (ya know, to try and lighten the blow that I am outright “disobeying” them). They start going off about how “oh of course, making it easy on him again”. (They saw me always going to my BF’s house as me catering to him, even though the only reason was because we were never comfortable being together at their house, then of course he became essentially banished). So they see this move as me being some smitten teenaged idiot, not about how this is a relationship with compromise. They tell me that my commute is going to be brutal and that I’m lying to myself if I think it’s not. (Again, I have already been doing it for a week. I KNOW it’s not any worse, it’s a prettier drive even. )But it’s clear that I can’t slowly ease into it and I have to just rip off the bandaid because they are straight up just wrong and trying to convince me that I don’t know what I’m talking about. So I say, “IVE ALREADY BEEN DOING IT FOR A WEEK! WE MOVED IN LAST WEEKEND.” They are just dumbfounded. lol. Like I thought you guys said you weren’t planning on changing my mind so why so surprised that I just went ahead and made my choice???? My mom starts crying. My dad keeps saying “you fucked up kid.” It’s about 10 pm at this point so now that they know I have a slightly longer drive home they are kind of sweeping me out the door so I can get home before it gets too much later. My mom gives me this big sobbing hug. At this point I’ve run out of tears. I was crying throughout the entire conversation but at this point was just over the bullshit. My dad who rarely even tells me that he loves me gives me this awkward desperate hug too that just kind of makes me roll my eyes. I get in the car and drive home just totally exhausted and confused. Truthfully they did a good job of again, making me question my own thoughts and choices. But I get home and just start spilling everything that they said to my BF. He’s not surprised, but as I said in my last post, he remains Swiss in all of this and doesn’t say anything shitty about them. He just holds me close and lets me vent. Something else that came up during our lovely 3 hour discussion was my anxiety, I have previously shared with them that I think they are a huge source of it and had been throughout my childhood as well. Prior discussions have always gone nowhere “you had it so easy, we don’t ask that much of you.. etc.”. Clearly not listening to me. So I brought it up again in this discussion, how my parents are a huge source of anxiety and my BF is a calm rock in all of it, that I’m so grateful he’s such a great partner. My dad screams at me how he never laid a f*ing hand on me and how he was physically disciplined as a child and that he can’t own that he and they could have anything to do with my being an anxious person.” He even says “you need fucking therapy”. (Like yes dad, thank you, I sure do, and also F you.) Also said “I have a hard time swallowing that I had anything to do with your anxiety, you’re going to have to work out those demons with yourself”. Alllll of this to say, the answer you’ve all waited for is that I moved in with my BF, am keeping mom and dad at arms length, and also I have started therapy. It’s 26 years of emotional abuse and narcissism to unpack and learn from, but I’m working through it. The guilt tripping and lack of boundaries is so real and has been so real for forever. I know my situation isn’t as bad as others and is also worse than others, but for all of you out there in similar situations, seek therapy. It is a really good thing. There’s so much behavior to unlearn and grow from. Even if you don’t think it’s that bad and that you’re doing “fine”, see a therapist if you can. Your abusers have learned behavior too, they have learned how to get to you and how to manipulate you, whether it’s vindictive or not. They have learned how to make you do what they want and think what they think and then they know how to make you feel horrible about doing anything differently. Seek counsel in family and friends whose advice you trust, seek therapy, and above all trust yourself. I still get very emotional about all of this, it’s still a very fresh wound. I mourn the relationship I had with my mom and the one I will never have with my dad. My health is definitely suffering at the moment from all of the stress, but I’m working on getting my mental health back and I know my body will follow. Breaking the wheel is hard and terrifying. It’s like being a crate trained puppy forever and finally being allowed to go outside, but outside is unknown. The crate is all you know and even though you know the crate is confining and freedom is in front of you it’s all so unfamiliar, uncertain and frightening. You know what’s behind you and it’s easy to want to run back to it. But no matter what is in front of you, it’s better than the crate. The crate is not living for yourself, its living for someone else. So go out and make your own life. I hope this story can help someone else out there like me who was seeking validation about their feelings and situation. Thank you again to all the redditors who shared their thoughtful insight and advice. It truly got me through the most difficult days of my life. Internet: 1 Entitled Parents: 0
It seems like OP’s parents basically expects the bf to do everything for her, expects him to be more “manly” and seem oddly traditional, so yeah… hopefully OP decides to cut contact with them, they don’t sound that great to be around at all
If I were you, I would keep a distance from those parents and continue the relationship with the guy. This has to do with your own happiness. Don’t let your parents talk you out of being with a decent guy that can provide for you. Remember, this is your life, and you get to decide who you spend the rest of your life with, because one day your parents wont be here. if I were you, I would keep them at a Distant and stick by my man side. Don’t let your parents tell you what to do. You are an adult, and if they have a problem with it, then don’t talk to them, remove them from your life permanently.
How is trying to keep warm when its freezing weird and rude? And the man should drive? Sounds kinda sexist. Women are allowed to drive. They have been for over 100 years now.
If you got a mother and father aren't like that, you need to find a new mother and father cause they sound like trash to me. They have no right to tell you who to pick that pick. Is from God himself? He sends people your way so that you'll be happy. Your parents aren't happy because they're losers
Is op an only child? If she is and the parents act like this, it likely stems from isolated control of their one and only baby(child). It is more common for parents with one kid to obsess over her life in an unhealthy way. There is nothing wrong with the bf, but they probably wanted op to get with someone who was already successful. Someone who didn't have any problems but had money,talent, and success. Those men only exist in books or movies. Plus, Op and bf will have a stronger relationship because they became successful together and did long distance.
The parents are setting up a terroristic situation. They are choosing not to be in your life, not the other way around. They sound toxic. I recommend you tell them that your door is always open, and whatever choice they make, you will deal with it. This is your boundary, and you will not engage in this conversation with them again. They can choose to loose a daughter, or to accept her partner.
They may not like him but if they love you, they won't burn their bridges and they will forge new ones. If they don't love you enough to do this, go no contact.
My wife's Grandparents did that shit. Realized their grandkids hated them. Grandpa died alone and Grandma is all apologetic about how mean she was, because she doesnt wanna die with no one coming to see her like when she had to bury her husband. They keep fucking up, same is gonna happen to them.
They just p*****d that you have someone else in your life n you no- longer " under their thumb". Simply blank them n enjoy your life with your boyfriend!
Get the feeling parents wouldnt like any boyfriend.think they maybe thot she would stay with parents and keep them.they may have had another man in line for her
It seems your parents are narcissistic or something like that... go live with your boyfriend he is your own family and from what you said he will probably make you happier than your parents ever could. Don't let your parents ruin such an important relationship. If they want to exclude them selves it's their loss!
Kaku ne dusre kaku ko mara to phele kaku ne use gali de diya aur fir dusre kaku ko chapple se mar kar rola diya aur phele kaku ko jail ho gya kyuki dusre kaku marne ka acting kar ne laga tha lekin jab hospital me dusre kaku tha to dusre kaku ne thik ho kar apne ghar chala gya... 10 sal bad jab phele kaku jail se nikal gaya to fir u se pata chala ki dusre kaku ne marne ka acting kiya to us ne police ko inform kiya lekin police ne u se mara aur ghar bhej diya ghar pahuch ne ke bad phele kaku ne badla lene ka fasla kiya... Part 2 at 100 likes
When uncle hit the other uncle, the first uncle abused him and then hit the other uncle with a stick and made him cry and the first uncle went to jail because the other uncle started acting as if he had killed him but when the other uncle was in the hospital, the other uncle recovered and went to his home… 10 years later when the first uncle was released from jail, then he came to know that the other uncle had acted as if he had killed him so he informed the police but the police hit him and sent him home, after reaching home the first uncle decided to take revenge…
The rest of the story: As we continue our relationship it’s clear that my parents don’t like him, but they can’t really give up what I would call good or justifiable reasons. They’ll say he’s just not a good “fit for the family”. They don’t tell me to stop dating him (because they can’t, I’m an adult) but they do tell me that I need to keep them and him separate. They don’t want to really hear about him and he’s not welcome at their house or cabin. he’s never cheated on me, abused me, he has no drug problems etc. nothing that a normal parent would cite as a problem.
Eventually it became an ultimatum given to me by my parents. They’d tell me that if you continue to date him, eventually it will be either him or us and you’ll have to choose. Among other things they would tell me that he’d never be an attorney, which is what he wanted to do, and insinuating that he probably wouldn’t be much of anything at all.
After undergrad I started working at a financial firm. He graduated from undergrad at UC Berkeley and was accepted to law school across the country. We were always very serious about each other and made the decision to do long distance until he graduated and moved back to Ca.
My boyfriend has since graduated from and Law School, moved home, and took the bar last month. He starts work this October, and had a contract since last year. They have known about this as well.
Now, 6 years into our relationship I call my parents and tell them that we are going to be moving in together. About 20 minutes later I get a text, from my mom, saying that she doesn’t want to rain on my parade but that this “path” excludes her and my dad from my future. That they love me but they can’t be in my life if I choose to be with my boyfriend. I told them I would never understand. Since then, they have sent me more and more text messages saying stuff like “we feel like we’re losing our daughter” “this is heartbreaking” etc. and all at the same time including that this is “my choice” and my fault. I texted my parents that I thought my boyfriend and I should come over and talk, that texting about this kind of thing is stupid, but not to be patronized or belittled and if it turned to screaming that we would leave. My parents then replied that they wanted to see me face to face to talk but that my boyfriend isn’t allowed. My boyfriend even called my father the night of the initial “we can’t be part of your life” text to try and talk or meet up and see if there was a way to talk through any legitimate concerns. My dad did not answer and responded until a week plus later, only to text him that they haven’t really ever liked him, that he wants to work through it with me alone, and it’s mine and my boyfriends fault for not trying to address things earlier.
Among other ridiculous “reasons” to not like my boyfriend were “Berkeley isn’t a ‘man’s’ college.” - my dad. One time in college, my professor lost my final exam, and when I found out via my final grades and was frantically calling her to figure out what happened, my parents told my boyfriend “see this is why we didn’t want her to have a boyfriend in college”, they’ve found ways to blame him for everything. The only thing that ever had any merit was that he wasn’t working yet. Well, this was because he was going to school to be a lawyer. (apparently marrying someone who will make a lot of money is a bad thing?) My boyfriend is the nicest, most calm and peaceful person ever and he loves me more than anything. But apparently their pride is more important than being wrong and accepting him.
I guess I’m just trying to figure out if this is normal? Or if it’s as wrong as it feels to my boyfriend and I.
**boyfriend as well as my parents and myself are of the same race. Somewhat similar financial status as well. **no important details left out, I promise. I wanted objective feedback. Believe me, if there was more, my parents would make it known to me and I would have included it in this post.
Hi everyone, updating you all on this long awaited “resolution.”
After many more hurtful texts from my parents that said they can’t accept my partner and that it doesn’t matter if he’s a good fit for me, if he’s not a good fit for my “family” then it’s never going to work out, I went over in person to meet with them and pick up my legal documents. They made it clear that my boyfriend was not welcome and that this was a “family matter” they needed to speak with only me about. (Clear manipulation obviously) So, I went alone. I’m on my way, I know what I think and how I feel, I’m very sure of what I plan on saying. (Thanks to Reddit I have additional confirmation that I’m not crazy or wrong or a bad person, but they are in fact in the wrong).
It was strange, walking into your parent’s house and feeling like you’re meeting strangers. Kind of felt like having a 26 year long relationship and being broken up with via text, then having to go pick up your shit and memories from your Ex’s house… Except that ex is your parents.
After about an hour of small talk, we got into the nitty gritty convo about the elephant in the room. A previous text that week had said, “we don’t expect to change your mind…we just want to talk.” but it’s clear that this in person meeting was a last ditch attempt to shake me from my reality and into theirs. They came at me from every angle, “he’s not a man’s man” -dad “I don’t respect him” - dad “I hate him, he’s taking away the most precious thing in our life, how could you not hate someone like that.” -dad, even at some point physically threatening him. My mom was either agreeing or adding little tidbits and reminders of things she doesn’t like about him. Some of which are things I mentioned in my previous post about when I went to meet his family and didn’t see her and my dad too. Mentioning also that she doesn’t like that I made the first move to talk to my boyfriend and not the other way around. You get the gist. It was all out war on my BF. They tell me I’m depriving them of a son in law. They say he is selfish for not breaking up with me years ago when he realized that my parents didn’t like him. They even just started blindly throwing out shots like “I don’t even know if he has any friends.” (Like WTF mom and dad, of course you don’t shit about him because you’ve made me keep my relationship out of earshot for 6 years ) but I digress.
It ends up being a 3 hour long conversation where I spoke for all of maybe 5 minutes with my heart rate at 150 the whole time (thanks for reminding me of that Apple Watch).
They also don’t fail to mention a few other shining points such as:
“We knew you would put this on us, this is not an ultimatum, we are just reacting to YOUR decision and choices”. -Was their reply to my saying, “this is not my choice, this is an ultimatum you’ve given me and neither my BF or I want this.”
”We knew you would make us the bad guys because we’re not #Team boyfriend’s name.”
“Any of your friends and family who say we will come around or it will get better is lying to you and saying what you want to hear.”
They asked me why they should like or be impressed by my BF, I told them various accolades. Dad replied with “education doesn’t impress me.”
I told them how wonderful he was through some of the toughest times in my life (college) and how he supported and kept me sane when even my parents were coming down on me about how I wasn’t doing enough. They said “that’s what any boyfriend would do”. (Ummm no mom and dad, it’s not, and the two of you certainly were making me feel worse that entire time)
They said because my BF’s dad helped him get through school by paying his tuition that he’s had everything in his life handed to him.
dad said “I think you’re mom is having an epiphany about who you’re becoming.” Like I’m some monster.
they said “we feel like you’re not listening to us” because I’m not just blindly agreeing to break up with my BF.
dad said “this kind of thing happens all the time” (as if that makes it normal or justified)
At the end, I have to break the news that in between all of the hurtful texts and prior to this meeting, my BF and I signed a lease and moved in together. Nothing they were going to say was going to sway me otherwise, even they said that. So we had taken the leap and made the move the weekend before this meeting. I was commuting about 20-30 minutes before the move, and my commute is the same after the move. Only difference is we now live in the same city that my BF (new attorney with crazy early and late hours) works in. Believe me I had all kinds of requirements prior to this move, it has to be safe, have in unit washer and dryer, safe parking, etc. & it’s only for a year or two while we save $ so we can buy a home. Contrary to my parents belief, I’m capable of rational decisions…
I tell them first that we signed the lease and where it is, (ya know, to try and lighten the blow that I am outright “disobeying” them). They start going off about how “oh of course, making it easy on him again”. (They saw me always going to my BF’s house as me catering to him, even though the only reason was because we were never comfortable being together at their house, then of course he became essentially banished). So they see this move as me being some smitten teenaged idiot, not about how this is a relationship with compromise. They tell me that my commute is going to be brutal and that I’m lying to myself if I think it’s not. (Again, I have already been doing it for a week. I KNOW it’s not any worse, it’s a prettier drive even. )But it’s clear that I can’t slowly ease into it and I have to just rip off the bandaid because they are straight up just wrong and trying to convince me that I don’t know what I’m talking about. So I say, “IVE ALREADY BEEN DOING IT FOR A WEEK! WE MOVED IN LAST WEEKEND.”
They are just dumbfounded. lol. Like I thought you guys said you weren’t planning on changing my mind so why so surprised that I just went ahead and made my choice???? My mom starts crying. My dad keeps saying “you fucked up kid.” It’s about 10 pm at this point so now that they know I have a slightly longer drive home they are kind of sweeping me out the door so I can get home before it gets too much later. My mom gives me this big sobbing hug. At this point I’ve run out of tears. I was crying throughout the entire conversation but at this point was just over the bullshit. My dad who rarely even tells me that he loves me gives me this awkward desperate hug too that just kind of makes me roll my eyes. I get in the car and drive home just totally exhausted and confused. Truthfully they did a good job of again, making me question my own thoughts and choices. But I get home and just start spilling everything that they said to my BF. He’s not surprised, but as I said in my last post, he remains Swiss in all of this and doesn’t say anything shitty about them. He just holds me close and lets me vent.
Something else that came up during our lovely 3 hour discussion was my anxiety, I have previously shared with them that I think they are a huge source of it and had been throughout my childhood as well. Prior discussions have always gone nowhere “you had it so easy, we don’t ask that much of you.. etc.”. Clearly not listening to me. So I brought it up again in this discussion, how my parents are a huge source of anxiety and my BF is a calm rock in all of it, that I’m so grateful he’s such a great partner. My dad screams at me how he never laid a f*ing hand on me and how he was physically disciplined as a child and that he can’t own that he and they could have anything to do with my being an anxious person.” He even says “you need fucking therapy”. (Like yes dad, thank you, I sure do, and also F you.) Also said “I have a hard time swallowing that I had anything to do with your anxiety, you’re going to have to work out those demons with yourself”.
Alllll of this to say, the answer you’ve all waited for is that I moved in with my BF, am keeping mom and dad at arms length, and also I have started therapy. It’s 26 years of emotional abuse and narcissism to unpack and learn from, but I’m working through it. The guilt tripping and lack of boundaries is so real and has been so real for forever. I know my situation isn’t as bad as others and is also worse than others, but for all of you out there in similar situations, seek therapy. It is a really good thing. There’s so much behavior to unlearn and grow from. Even if you don’t think it’s that bad and that you’re doing “fine”, see a therapist if you can. Your abusers have learned behavior too, they have learned how to get to you and how to manipulate you, whether it’s vindictive or not. They have learned how to make you do what they want and think what they think and then they know how to make you feel horrible about doing anything differently.
Seek counsel in family and friends whose advice you trust, seek therapy, and above all trust yourself.
I still get very emotional about all of this, it’s still a very fresh wound. I mourn the relationship I had with my mom and the one I will never have with my dad. My health is definitely suffering at the moment from all of the stress, but I’m working on getting my mental health back and I know my body will follow. Breaking the wheel is hard and terrifying. It’s like being a crate trained puppy forever and finally being allowed to go outside, but outside is unknown. The crate is all you know and even though you know the crate is confining and freedom is in front of you it’s all so unfamiliar, uncertain and frightening. You know what’s behind you and it’s easy to want to run back to it. But no matter what is in front of you, it’s better than the crate. The crate is not living for yourself, its living for someone else. So go out and make your own life.
I hope this story can help someone else out there like me who was seeking validation about their feelings and situation. Thank you again to all the redditors who shared their thoughtful insight and advice. It truly got me through the most difficult days of my life.
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Thank you for doing this, but oh my god, it's so much to read
@@elisikez9138 plus I had to edit them down for character limit and weird symbols in the update
It seems like OP’s parents basically expects the bf to do everything for her, expects him to be more “manly” and seem oddly traditional, so yeah… hopefully OP decides to cut contact with them, they don’t sound that great to be around at all
If I were you, I would keep a distance from those parents and continue the relationship with the guy. This has to do with your own happiness. Don’t let your parents talk you out of being with a decent guy that can provide for you. Remember, this is your life, and you get to decide who you spend the rest of your life with, because one day your parents wont be here. if I were you, I would keep them at a Distant and stick by my man side. Don’t let your parents tell you what to do. You are an adult, and if they have a problem with it, then don’t talk to them, remove them from your life permanently.
How is trying to keep warm when its freezing weird and rude? And the man should drive? Sounds kinda sexist. Women are allowed to drive. They have been for over 100 years now.
Take it with a grain of salt they will not be spending their life with him you will be, and they are just fishing for petty reasons not to like him❤
I like your videos, and I would watch more of them if you had them titles so that I could watch the next video in the story.
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If you got a mother and father aren't like that, you need to find a new mother and father cause they sound like trash to me. They have no right to tell you who to pick that pick. Is from God himself? He sends people your way so that you'll be happy. Your parents aren't happy because they're losers
Is op an only child? If she is and the parents act like this, it likely stems from isolated control of their one and only baby(child). It is more common for parents with one kid to obsess over her life in an unhealthy way. There is nothing wrong with the bf, but they probably wanted op to get with someone who was already successful. Someone who didn't have any problems but had money,talent, and success. Those men only exist in books or movies. Plus, Op and bf will have a stronger relationship because they became successful together and did long distance.
So sad for Glados
I was gonna comment this
GLaDoS*
Oh wow a woman who has a car and willing to be the driver. That’s like one of my marriage points. I hate driving.
Her parents sound petty as hell
It's not OP's parents fault, the creator forgot few screws.😅😅😅😅😅
The parents are setting up a terroristic situation. They are choosing not to be in your life, not the other way around. They sound toxic. I recommend you tell them that your door is always open, and whatever choice they make, you will deal with it. This is your boundary, and you will not engage in this conversation with them again. They can choose to loose a daughter, or to accept her partner.
They may not like him but if they love you, they won't burn their bridges and they will forge new ones. If they don't love you enough to do this, go no contact.
Bro driving is cool tho like
* Tokyo drift plays
My wife's Grandparents did that shit. Realized their grandkids hated them. Grandpa died alone and Grandma is all apologetic about how mean she was, because she doesnt wanna die with no one coming to see her like when she had to bury her husband. They keep fucking up, same is gonna happen to them.
They just p*****d that you have someone else in your life n you no- longer " under their thumb". Simply blank them n enjoy your life with your boyfriend!
how come these all arent long enough and keep getting cut off mid explanation?
So what was the ultimatum ???
I can't find anything of this, but I'm assuming it was something like leave him or be disowned.
It was basically the parents saying “him or us”
Wolfgang is the girl that gets pressured into sex and when they come out about it Kelly just replys that they said yes
I'm literally in the middle of a Click video and it was this EXACT STORY in the video. IT WAS LITERALLY ON THIS STORY. BRO ISTG THE INTERNET IS SCARY
Get the feeling parents wouldnt like any boyfriend.think they maybe thot she would stay with parents and keep them.they may have had another man in line for her
It seems your parents are narcissistic or something like that... go live with your boyfriend he is your own family and from what you said he will probably make you happier than your parents ever could. Don't let your parents ruin such an important relationship. If they want to exclude them selves it's their loss!
We're is part 2
Glados?
What is you don’t have friends💀
Kaku ne dusre kaku ko mara to phele kaku ne use gali de diya aur fir dusre kaku ko chapple se mar kar rola diya aur phele kaku ko jail ho gya kyuki dusre kaku marne ka acting kar ne laga tha lekin jab hospital me dusre kaku tha to dusre kaku ne thik ho kar apne ghar chala gya... 10 sal bad jab phele kaku jail se nikal gaya to fir u se pata chala ki dusre kaku ne marne ka acting kiya to us ne police ko inform kiya lekin police ne u se mara aur ghar bhej diya ghar pahuch ne ke bad phele kaku ne badla lene ka fasla kiya...
Part 2 at 100 likes
When uncle hit the other uncle, the first uncle abused him and then hit the other uncle with a stick and made him cry and the first uncle went to jail because the other uncle started acting as if he had killed him but when the other uncle was in the hospital, the other uncle recovered and went to his home… 10 years later when the first uncle was released from jail, then he came to know that the other uncle had acted as if he had killed him so he informed the police but the police hit him and sent him home, after reaching home the first uncle decided to take revenge…