If God Is Sovereign, Will He Let You Marry the Wrong Person?

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  • Would God let you marry the wrong person? Is there just one "soul mate" for everyone? Here are 4 answers to the question, "Is it possible to marry the wrong person according to the Bible?"
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Komentáře • 451

  • @Kabaselefh
    @Kabaselefh Před 5 lety +216

    God warned me not marry my ex but I did it anyway and paid a high price of disobedience. That woman almost killed me, had it not been Almighty God coming to my rescue, I would be dead by now. Please folks, listen to the Holy Spirit guidance when it comes to relationships.

    • @kerwynsmart4462
      @kerwynsmart4462 Před 2 lety +2

      Woww thank god u alive a
      And sorry u went thru what u thru

    • @theovurden4822
      @theovurden4822 Před 2 lety +3

      I married someone for 20yrs & nothing really worked out.

    • @becareful3404
      @becareful3404 Před 2 lety +1

      Amen. Thank God for his grace and mercy

    • @iidentifyasayoutubertoday7025
      @iidentifyasayoutubertoday7025 Před rokem

      God also does not approve of divorce.
      So I guess you disobeyed Him twice

    • @kimberlyreed5236
      @kimberlyreed5236 Před rokem +3

      @@iidentifyasayoutubertoday7025 Not necessarily. If adultery took place, then God would permit divorce. But He’d rather you try to work it out, demonstrating unconditional love, faith and forgiveness.

  • @Nolaperu
    @Nolaperu Před 5 lety +280

    Back in 2013, I almost got married despite the toxic relationship, God's constant conviction and feeling no peace
    We broke it off, and she married someone else a year later.
    I stayed single in 2017 for a year after years of failed and dysfunctional relationships. So I listened to God and focused solely on Him.
    I married my best friend two weeks ago, she encourages me, on fire for Christ, and a mature, godly woman. The list is endless. 😊😉
    Trust in God's plans, and let Him lead you. When I met my wife, I was content in being single serving God. But I trusted God's lead to give her a chance. I'm so glad I did.
    Let God mature you and help you grow. Focus on God first. And before you tell me "but I'm 30 or 40, etc". I'm 42 and she's 47. Don't tell her I told you. 🤫😉
    God bless!

    • @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
      @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger  Před 5 lety +26

      This is an awesome testimony! Thanks for sharing this brother!

    • @justinwilhite617
      @justinwilhite617 Před 5 lety +8

      awwwh God bless brother ✌🏾✊🏾🙏🏾❤

    • @727killuminati
      @727killuminati Před 5 lety +5

      Amazing!! Happy for you 💘🏆

    • @dreamwishergirl
      @dreamwishergirl Před 5 lety +9

      I went through so many toxic relationships in my late teens and early twenties. After I really got a wake up call after the last I stayed single and I’m the happiest I’ve ever been 💕

    • @iUein
      @iUein Před 2 lety +1

      ✨Thank you for sharing. I’m single 58 years old, but I look young for my age. Most people assume, I’m in my late 30’s. My dilemma is, I’m too shy. A introvert. I love God so much. Yet, I’m so sad and lonely.
      Your comment to , Trust God’s plan. Thank you. I will be a husband one day.

  • @zanipherboodhai836
    @zanipherboodhai836 Před 5 lety +191

    God dont make you marry the wrong person we do that for ourself and then we regret it that is my saying

  • @durkp3812
    @durkp3812 Před 5 lety +25

    I married the wrong person in direct disobedience to the Spirit’s leading. It was 12 years of misery, manipulation, infidelity and curse. It resulted in major disaster that I couldn’t share on a public site. I’m still picking up the pieces but God in his mercy delivered me from an awful decision I made.

  • @ivawood8996
    @ivawood8996 Před 5 lety +179

    God was speaking to me through the Holy Spirit and told me not to marry someone. I was disobedient and married him anyway. Our marriage wasn't blessed, God was not in it. 20 year's later I divorced him. God was trying to protect me from narcissistic abuseabuse and infidelity. As a Christian I thought I was doing the right thing by staying married to this person that was manipulating me constantly and emotionally abusing me. I had to realize that God said NO 20 year's ago and he didn't change his mind! I also had to realize that this man had on many occasions tried to lead me into sexual sin outside of our marriage.
    I knew in my heart that God was leading me to divorce him.
    One final thought.... God cares more about your relationship with him than he does about your relationship with a toxic individual.

    • @NinaGaekwardCheng
      @NinaGaekwardCheng Před 5 lety +11

      Sister Iva Wood, your life story almost match with mine! I am now born again Christian and absolutely love my Messiah living God Jesus Christ. But I wasn't Christian then when I was getting married to my narcissist husband 22 years ago. I was from a Hindu background family and I use to worship idols. On the wedding day, something inside me was telling me " to stop the wedding" but I didn't and got married to my husband anyway in a registered office in India. Little did I know that I will be the victim of domestic violence and abuse by my husband and in laws in England where I live now. (I was well protected and was loved by my parents and my brother in India always. )But my abusive and violent ex husband have never given me any form of respect forget un conditional love! I have officially separated almost 2 years with my husband. Basically my husband have walked away. We are heading for divorce very soon. After I got married with my husband and arrived in England my husband started to show his true colours gradually. I was never the perfect girl/woman for him and he always compared me with other English and Chinese women!! And constantly criticised me for every small things. (My husband is a very, very manipulative and abusive man.) He is 9 years elder than me. But he is always attracted to very young women/girls !! I have gone through domestic violence a lot by my husband and my in laws. I'm Indian and my husband is Cantonese Chinese (Christian) but behind close doors I have gone through domestic violence and abuse for decades by my husband and my in laws on and off/most of the time. My in laws are Church going Christians and they says that they love Jesus Christ, but behind close doors they have treated me like trash!!! My in laws have never accepted me in their family ever, and have always outcast me like a alien and blamed me for everything. If I took the courage to speak up they shut me up by saying I am shouting ,and in England people are not allow to shout!!! I have never cheated on my husband ever, but my husband have. I was also told by my husband that if I don't give him children then he will sleep around ourside with other girls to have children. Because I believe in marriage institution so I have worked very hard in my marriage to keep my husband happy.But it didn't work out. My life I have finished it myself! I have tried for decades to respect and love my husband immensely, but my Christian husband didn't respect me ever. And recently he told me that he has never accepted this marriage and he have never loved me and never will and we don't have any future together and he left . I have gone through domestic violence and abuse almost all the time. And got blamed for everything by my husband and my in laws. My in law told me that they HATE me because I am Indian and I am from slumbs! And I suppose to respect them because my Indian culture says so..!! They accused me that I did black magic on their brother to get married to him, so that I can come to UK and take his money and assets! My in laws even told me that I am a witch from India married to their brother by using black magic! But, my husband was the one who went to India 22 years ago to get married to me without his siblings presence. My fault is I wanted a man/husband who will love me un conditionally. But sadly I have failed.

    • @marinal4788
      @marinal4788 Před 5 lety +6

      Wow.., reading your story is very identical to mine @ IVA WOODS I’ve been in a very similar situation for 15 years ( were not married though )
      And children are involved... I know god showed me many signs from the beginning but i carried on anyway and it’s been toxic ever since from he’s lies narcissistic emotional abuse and have stayed because I was thinking god wouldn’t want me to leave because children are involved..,
      This relationship has lead me to sin and has brought out the very worst in me
      I have been praying about this but I don’t seem to be hearing an answer to what I should do which has made me stay....
      All I focus on is following Jesus... but I feel this relationship is hindering my walk...

    • @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
      @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger  Před 5 lety +2

      I'm so sorry you had to go through this.

    • @joshuayeboah9405
      @joshuayeboah9405 Před 5 lety +17

      God will not lead you to a divorce as he hates it

    • @sophietsafcas6371
      @sophietsafcas6371 Před 5 lety +9

      NINA GAEKWARD CHENG I’m so sorry for your story and wish you all the best for your future. Your relationship with Jesus is your priority so pray that he can heal your past and lead you into a blessed future 🌺💕

  • @AuntieEmsApothecary
    @AuntieEmsApothecary Před 2 lety +16

    God showed me the person he wanted me to marry yet I was young and in the world. I slammed that door many times with the man I should have married, Satan used the man I married to get me away from God. I spent almost 5 years of abuse, heartbreak, feeling unloved, and then finally abandoned with our 1 year old and pregnant with our second. He abandoned us for another woman that had her own kid. The last year we were together he left us 3 times and each time I thought God wanted me to make my marriage work and fight for it. It was always me fighting for the marriage, never him. I realize finally God was trying to remove him and I kept going against God's will. God showed me 2 days before he planned to abandon us on our daughter's first birthday that he had been cheating and was planning to leave us. This last time was the final straw and I see now God saw his heart and that he was bringing me away from God. I wish I could go back in time because I wouldn't have wasted 5 years of my life with someone who never truly loved me. If the relationship isn't rooted in God it'll never work and it's not God's will for our lives. I dont know what God has planned for me and my babies but I'm trusting in him!

  • @divineprovidence803
    @divineprovidence803 Před 5 lety +37

    Live a single life and you eliminate the risk of marriage breakdown and divorce. You can still find fulfilment and happiness living as a single person. God did not intend for every person to have a partner. Some are blessed with the gift of singleness. God bless.

    • @ItsAshley08
      @ItsAshley08 Před 4 lety +3

      It is truly a blessing to stay single.

    • @clarivelgomez1092
      @clarivelgomez1092 Před 3 lety

      How do you know u have that gift?

    • @marvelgracious4360
      @marvelgracious4360 Před 3 lety +2

      I don't quite agree with God not intending for every person to have a partner. The Bible says God created them male and female, it's not God's will for us

    • @msliberated3899
      @msliberated3899 Před rokem

      @@marvelgracious4360 you haven’t read the New Testament

  • @molierresignoga
    @molierresignoga Před 5 lety +65

    I think he would "LET" you, because you have freewill. But I don't think he will SEND you the wrong person.

  • @sirenamontreala.k.aelibatt4699

    God gave us free will so we need to be careful what we choice to do with it 😊 God bless and thank you for a great explained video😊

    • @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
      @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger  Před 5 lety +3

      Very true Sirena!

    • @valianttruth3745
      @valianttruth3745 Před 5 lety +1

      Yes! ☺

    • @kenle5378
      @kenle5378 Před 5 lety +1

      Sirena Montreal A.K.A Eli Battle Angel even if we make mistakes continuously God forgave our action and redirect us into a new horizon of a better future but humans keep repeating until we regretted our action and learned to open our eyes to the truth

    • @gracefellowship9494
      @gracefellowship9494 Před 5 lety +2

      Jesus Padilla this is misinformation. Yes, Jesus calls but you still have to choose to listen. God is outside of time and space and knows our choices before we make them.

    • @keturah1980
      @keturah1980 Před 4 lety

      Exactly.... Its freewill!!!

  • @absolutlytrue
    @absolutlytrue Před 3 lety +16

    We were both in Bible college when we married. He appeared to be a great Christian and a wonderful preacher The Bible says that you shall know them by their fruit. He had a horrible temper and slapped me so hard that my glasses flew off of my face. it was always all about him. He was always disappointed and angry with me. He wanted me to make a lot of money to support him in the ministry. I was married for 8 years to this angry frustrated man. I finally told my parents what my marriage was like. My father loaned me 5k to retain a lawyer. Although I had a restraining order, he would not obey it and was arrested multiple times. He had a court-ordered psychological exam and was diagnosed with a Narcissistic Personality Disorder. I am no longer living a life where I am walking on eggshells. Make sure your future spouse is capable of empathy and kindness. Make certain that they value you for who you are, and not how they can use you.

    • @msliberated3899
      @msliberated3899 Před rokem +1

      Glad you got out and had family support. Pray for me.

  • @kamsavart
    @kamsavart Před 5 lety +27

    I did marry the wrong person and almost 19 years it ended in divorce. I wish I knew then what I know now. But praise God for his tender mercies and sovereignty.

    • @gneza1
      @gneza1 Před 3 lety

      sorry about your story Andre. hope you find peace in God's now

  • @GG-wi2ij
    @GG-wi2ij Před 3 lety +17

    I think I married the wrong person. We have never been on the same page spiritually. He would be ok just to warm a bench and be a closet Christian. I always wanted so much more, but I was too afraid of the pain of breaking up And didn't trust God to lead me to a man I could respect spiritually. Now I can only be happy with him if I tune down my passion for spiritual things and just focus on the things of this world. 😭 if you are single and reading this, it is sooooo much better to follow God as a single person than to marry someone who doesn't want to serve God and have passion as much as you do.
    You do not want to get stuck. You better make for sure for sure you're marrying who God wants you to.
    My dreams have died and I'm miserable.

    • @gladevangel
      @gladevangel Před 2 lety +3

      I was supposed to get married to a man last year, but we always fight and hurt each other. We are still together even I pushed him away many times. We still fight a lot, and same as you, we are not on same page spiritually, even in Spiritual topics it will end in fight. Everytime I discuss about breaking up, He would get angrier and left me crying with the pain he would cause. I am praying that God would deliver me from this kind of relationship.

    • @sarahashleywatson
      @sarahashleywatson Před 9 měsíci +1

      God can still bring good out of any situation. He works all things for our good. Just because your marriage isn’t what you pictured or hoped it would be, doesn’t mean God is not working in it. Pray for new dreams and for God’s continued leading. He will not let your heart, giftings, talents, or relationships go to waste if you surrender everything to Him. He is the God of transformation.

    • @gb-yn2re
      @gb-yn2re Před měsícem

      on the other hand if he is not abusive or cheating you can do what God is calling you to do without him.

  • @archangel0137
    @archangel0137 Před 5 lety +31

    Yes, it is possible to marry wrong person, such a painful situation to be in. Best advice for all us single guys: find the right girl and get it right FIRST time!

  • @adiscourse9489
    @adiscourse9489 Před 5 lety +67

    We have free will - and, yes, he will. Our choices are ours.

  • @patriotgirl4865
    @patriotgirl4865 Před rokem +6

    The day of my wedding, I asked the Lord if this was the right person and decision. I sensed absolutely no doubts. This was November of 94. We had both become born again in September of 94.
    Well, after 30 years of dealing with two completely different personalities and many battles, we are still in love and still together. I think God often gives us a partner to show us the worst we can be, as well as the best. Selfishness is a real marriage issue, and we all have a degree of it. Last time I told the Lord I'd had enough and was leaving, I distinctly heard the Holy Spirit say, " I will never allow it". I heard the words, not just an impression. Oh yes...God is sovereign over our marriages.

  • @pripriakua2341
    @pripriakua2341 Před 5 lety +18

    Before i met my husband i asked the most high to let me meet the right personne. I was 17years at that time. One week after i met a boy of my age. We tried to know each for a long time before we deceided to move togather. Some years after we were togather, got married in our 20ties.( we took the time to no each other before going further in our relation ship.) We are both chrisrians. And the most high is the head of our relationship.
    12 years later we are still togather, married with two children and still in love with each other.
    I knew further in our marriage that he also asked the most high. To give him a wife. This makes me laugh because we mad the same prayer at the same time not knowing that the most high will answer to our prayers. He did it.
    He is my first love and i am his first love.
    My feelings for him are still intact. 😁
    I know this is the will of the most high. Shalom.

  • @robraver
    @robraver Před 5 lety +55

    I bet you will get some warning bells sounding in your head if your prospective partner isnt the right one for you.

    • @robraver
      @robraver Před 5 lety

      @twinflame allstar2 and a lesson for Christians too.

    • @keturah1980
      @keturah1980 Před 4 lety

      @Phoenix Uprising that was an exception not the standard..... And God specifically told Him to marry her as a witness against the nation of Israel. Exceptions biblically are not always standard's

  • @katherinelydon7306
    @katherinelydon7306 Před 2 lety +7

    I believe we have free will and God will allow us to marry whoever we choose. He gives us warnings but ultimately it’s our choice.

  • @kevine406
    @kevine406 Před 5 lety +49

    Before looking for the right Godly woman to marry, I decided to get down on two knees before getting down on one to propose.
    Focused on allowing the Lord to guide my steps, He started putting in my spirit that she was coming in a few months. Then, about 2 months prior to her encounter, the Holy Spirit told me the exact week I would meet her. He told me that once I surrendered a habit in my life, He would bring her that same week.
    About one month prior, I started gearing up to die to myself and allow the Lord to take that sin away from me. After 4 weeks of procrastination, on a Sunday night, I got down on my knees and promised the Lord I would walk away forever from the unrepented sin in my life that His Spirit was convicting me of.
    On Wednesday, three days after repenting, I met her. Now, we have been married 11 years.

  • @RhI3Ma
    @RhI3Ma Před 4 lety +9

    God didn’t let me marry the wrong person also I was fasting recently and had a dream from god where he said you are praying for a different person to who I have for you so now I changed my prayer. His interference in our life and will is the best.

  • @livingunashamed4869
    @livingunashamed4869 Před 5 lety +29

    Totally agree, good stuff. Believers should marry other believers but once married its a covenant that God has ordained.

  • @classy937
    @classy937 Před 5 lety +39

    This is for me! I asked God this question today. Thank you! God answers prayers!

  • @lynnv8501
    @lynnv8501 Před 5 lety +15

    I've read some of the other comments, and have to agree, that when we ignore God's word, or the Holy Spirit's prompting, yes we might indeed marry the wrong man. I've done this at least once in my life. I've been divorced twice. Now I know better.

  • @latonyanorwood7746
    @latonyanorwood7746 Před 5 lety +54

    This Word is so good and true. I know wisdom protects the heart. Follow the biblical ways and u must have Faith. I receive this Word and Bless you Man of God.

    • @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
      @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger  Před 5 lety +2

      I'm so glad you found this video helpful!

    • @thymeforpclifelife4391
      @thymeforpclifelife4391 Před 5 lety

      Christ Way not the biblical way. Because me people misinterpreted the biblical way all the time saying follow Christ's teachings not the biblical way which is the same thing that people get them confused

  • @steffiebeffie3468
    @steffiebeffie3468 Před 4 lety +9

    Thank you. I married à man high on the narcissistic scale. God led me to finding it out. I've taken my power back still in the marriage and somewhat at peace. God has come to my defence. I am so blessed.

    • @doityourselfartoftheheart1715
      @doityourselfartoftheheart1715 Před 4 lety +3

      Re listen to this video sister in Christ..
      Gods preventing us to marry wrong person
      once your married you are married to the right person(no excuse)
      therefore once your married to unlikely person focus on serving God and Gods love
      theres no such things a perfect christian marriage
      Narcissistict tendencies is not buy choice tho this people sounds that this is their lifes personal choice its a deep pain force in their heart and mind since who knows how long
      narcissistic personality is not the end game
      Gods grace is..Christ salvation is..Lets not put God power and love in a box( you cant change the person you can only share the word of God by words and actions)
      God can make everything impossible possible dont give up focus on the prize)
      Therefore ask God to search your heart..Let Him guide you in your actions and dicisions..
      If your being gaslighted remember who you are in Christ pray and be calm
      and if your being angry remeber who this person is on Christ for Jesus comes to the world for all that sinned
      Theres opportunity to share the gospel and words of the lord..
      its written in the bible do not separate to your unveliever spouse(diffrent from those categorized as Christian) show in your actions the way of the Lord so they will turn to the Lord (Christian or not if unbeliever)
      If theres physical abuse or tendencies analyze things that causes it and avoid provoking the person..separate for the mean time if needed for safety but do not cut ties..Always pray for your spouse healing..He might be the one agressive and causing distress but hes also the one suffering things we never imagined cuz we always looking into our own heartache..
      whatever kind of narcissist person he is its an abused also that caused him that.
      You don't have to be abuse wife you only need to follow God
      I hope your not gonna try to reset your life to escape this mess..Our life on earth is short we cant make it perfect by reseting again and again..God maked a good useful pot out of shattered pieces of pot not a new clay...
      Just share Gods love by actions or word
      You dont have to heal the person its Gods work..Let God and rest..
      Let them carry their own burden but if they need rest come to the Lord..

  • @TwiCit
    @TwiCit Před 5 lety +21

    Never heard anyone explain being married this way. Thanks for sharing

  • @noemieguerrier
    @noemieguerrier Před 5 lety +21

    1. Once you are married, you are married to the person God wants you to be married to
    2. God will not lead you to marry the wrong person, but he would let you marry the wrong person
    3. God would let you marry the wrong person because God would let you enter into an unbiblical marriage if you choose to
    4. While I believe in the literal sense that you can marry the wrong person, I believe it is more helpful to focus on honoring God in marriage rather than trying to avoid pain (my favorit point ! When he speaks about Jésus who loves his Church even she's unlovable... Amen )
    Thanks brother. God bless you, from France !

    • @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
      @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger  Před 5 lety +1

      And may the Lord bless you as well!

    • @butterfly-pf8lj
      @butterfly-pf8lj Před 4 lety

      @@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger would if your husband was physically abusive and u have been separated for three years but cant get a divorce. Is that a sign god still wants u to stay married or move on and keep praying fornthe divorce

    • @menghanzhang1844
      @menghanzhang1844 Před 4 lety

      Mary Preston May you keep staying tight with God alone! He will give you answer! Giving you a hug.

  • @ladyt9169
    @ladyt9169 Před 5 lety +15

    Bulid your relationship with God remember God Say trust no Man and put God 1st and allow him to pave the way..

    • @ladyt9169
      @ladyt9169 Před 5 lety

      Who God join together let no Man (That's the bit I like 😊) divide Amen.... That's Right God is Sovereign!

    • @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
      @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger  Před 5 lety

      Thanks for sharing this :)

  • @garlicgirl3149
    @garlicgirl3149 Před 4 lety +7

    PREACH!!!!!!!!! OMG! My pastor has been talking about this for the past year. You just summarized all that he has been saying in 11 minutes. Of course, he went into more depth in sermons but yes you broke it down. WOW! Someone finally willing to go out on a limb and break it down and tell the truth.

  • @babie4299
    @babie4299 Před 5 lety +5

    This is such a great video. Deep truth intertwined in it. It ministered to me.Especially the part where you mentioned if a person you are married to starts to act up, that doesnt mean they were wrong for you. Wowww. Thank God for His Grace .

  • @jimmywallisjr3718
    @jimmywallisjr3718 Před 5 lety +14

    But I've been so lonely....I might marry the wrong girl....lord help me to wait...all my life all i wanted was to please you and make you proud of me...forgive me lord...i have been out of control...its all an act lord..search my heart and you find your name above all other names..King of kings And Lord of lords..as it is written...i am a jealous GOD...have no other gods before me...it is you I put my trust in..forgive me father...my soul belongs to you...in Jesus mighty name i pray amen..for ever and all eternity i will always ove you.. Sincer..Jimmy Wallis

  • @Beautiful-Truth-Teller
    @Beautiful-Truth-Teller Před 4 lety +2

    *Lord* this video hit home. *God* is a *gentleman* and he won't force nothing on you. Thanks for this video.

  • @fashionsprophet
    @fashionsprophet Před 5 lety +8

    You can choose to do whatever you want to do. It's called free will. Thank God for the Holy Spirit that leads and guides! However, poor decisions that do not include God and were not vetted through prayer, the word, and fasting do equate to very real consequences.

  • @Laoriginal718
    @Laoriginal718 Před rokem +3

    If you’re already married that doesn’t mean you’re married to the right person it just means you’re bound regardless.

  • @AnonVocals
    @AnonVocals Před 5 lety +12

    I believe in Proverbs 3:6. If I acknowledge Him then He will direct my paths. Based on His plans for me in Jeremiah 29:11 and Him being my Shepard in Psalm 23 I doubt I will marry the ‘wrong’ person. To me wrong is anything outside of the will of God.

  • @garebear1364
    @garebear1364 Před 4 lety +1

    God has been teaching me and changing me through the biblical counsel you give. Your videos and books have been a tremendous help to me....thank you for your godly example in your ministry and your marriage. The effects of your work will ripple into eternity! May God continue to bless you, brother!

  • @kiwi5118
    @kiwi5118 Před 5 lety +21

    This question has been on my mind for weeks. Thank you so much for clarity

  • @garanimalz
    @garanimalz Před 5 lety +1

    I love your videos! Well rounded on both sides without throwing the “free will gospel”. Thank you for your videos!

  • @vincentkahindi1
    @vincentkahindi1 Před 5 lety +1

    Wow! That was powerful. I needed that message. God bless you so much.

  • @jaidai2717
    @jaidai2717 Před 5 lety

    You touched on so many truths that hit home for me. This video was a blessing. Thank you.

  • @tealgilmour9963
    @tealgilmour9963 Před 5 lety +7

    What GOD has joined together, let no man pull asunder, problem is, WE do the joining!

    • @Pacifica74
      @Pacifica74 Před 2 lety

      Eye popping comment! So true.

    • @msliberated3899
      @msliberated3899 Před rokem

      Facts! If it ain’t ordained by God then it’s our joining and will.

    • @emmasmith7590
      @emmasmith7590 Před měsícem

      And in this situation, when things are BAD… we are free to leave or must stay in the abuse

  • @joymosley8997
    @joymosley8997 Před 5 lety +22

    This is so good!!! Very biblical. In a nutshell it's according to your obedience

    • @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
      @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger  Před 5 lety +5

      I agree, we have to obey the word of God in all different contexts. When we are single and dating we have to make sure we marry a biblical person, and once married we have to obey God's commands for marriage.

  • @urbanmetal7802
    @urbanmetal7802 Před 11 měsíci +2

    My daily prayer: Just turn me back to dust where I came from. There was no pain, no suffering, no nothing. I was in peace before I had life.

  • @sakhumziplaatjie2994
    @sakhumziplaatjie2994 Před 5 lety +1

    Thank you so much. This is an amazing post♥️. Great teaching

  • @ReinaBRamos
    @ReinaBRamos Před 5 lety +5

    I love every single video you post. God has given you so much wisdom on how to share His words. Thank you for the work you do. I am looking forward to read your books

  • @arceliacody3546
    @arceliacody3546 Před 5 lety +2

    IT IS VERY HELPFUL INDEED!! I TRUELY LEARN THE DIFFERENCE AND IT MAKES SENSE. UR RELATING TO THE BIBLE VERSES MADE IT CLEARER. THANKS A WHOLE BUNCH. YOU MADE MY DAY!!

  • @topnotchtn4538
    @topnotchtn4538 Před 5 lety +2

    This gives me much comfort. Thank you.

  • @Maggie-em3ew
    @Maggie-em3ew Před 5 lety +2

    The Lord have been teach me that He doesn't want idols in our lives. That is one of the reason why people fail us. Is God protecting our hearts.

  • @deshonehenry4975
    @deshonehenry4975 Před 5 lety

    This video was very helpful and biblically informative. You definitely hit the nail on the head about love isnt about how you want your s/o to act.

  • @vcassol6989
    @vcassol6989 Před 5 lety +3

    Hi pastor Mark! Thank you for your videos! Your biblical advices are been watched from Costa Rica! 😊😊😊😁🇨🇷

  • @poolboyinla
    @poolboyinla Před 5 lety +8

    Thank you very much for spreading the truth.

  • @exquisitejewelrikkei2957

    This was very helpful and new way for me too look at the subject!

  • @laurisher9006
    @laurisher9006 Před 4 lety

    Thanks Mark, you're saving lives!!!

  • @DailyMaddie
    @DailyMaddie Před 5 lety +9

    AMEN 🙏🏻 GOD IS GOOD AND HIS LOVE ENDURES FOREVER 🙌🏻💗

  • @realliferealtalkwithbiggs777

    Yo this was crazy good. Wow! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾💥

  • @incorruptibleword4513
    @incorruptibleword4513 Před 5 lety +3

    Short answer is yes God will let you marry the wrong person but if you were even listening to him at all you probably wouldn't do it.

  • @ronb7095
    @ronb7095 Před 5 lety

    Thank you. Good solid teaching.

  • @claudetteearle3052
    @claudetteearle3052 Před 5 lety +2

    I love your video and you're correct about the issue of language because my way of explaining this subject would be different ....in language only but meaning the same thing. However, this isn't easy to get across in simple terms and you have done it very, very well. Thank you.😀

  • @forerunnerforjesus1291
    @forerunnerforjesus1291 Před 5 lety +9

    If I ever heard the TRUTH, it is DEFINITELY spoken here. Thank you.

  • @olengndiango
    @olengndiango Před 5 lety +1

    This was helpful. God bless you!

  • @menghanzhang1844
    @menghanzhang1844 Před 4 lety +3

    I was praying this question for a long time. God give me answer. Thank you! 🙏 God bless. When I was with him, I heard a voice that “he will be your husband”. Even though I am experiencing hard time in the relationship with him, I know that God is still with me and protecting me. I’m becoming a better person. My heart is filled with more and more joys, loves and peace. Praise God! Your video helps me with more understanding and willingness to accept God’s plan. Worship God alone in marriage. 💕 Wish I could have more joy and trust in my heart so that I’m able to do it with pleasure.

  • @rengellebandoy9610
    @rengellebandoy9610 Před 5 lety +5

    Yes it has. 11 years of marriage is not that easy to throw away despite the naysayers from both sides of the camp...
    I have recently become a solo parent but de-facto separated...
    This question has been really plaguing me for quite sometime now & I am truly humbled that God has used you as his medium to answer this marital dilemma of mine. Things are starting to have more clarity now...
    It is my constant prayer that may my (ex) spouse be also brought back to God as I am now-- in accordance to HIS will & divine plans for us both. Amen and Amen.

    • @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
      @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger  Před 5 lety +1

      I'm so glad this video was helpful to you

    • @rengellebandoy9610
      @rengellebandoy9610 Před 5 lety

      This would be my only ask - a prayer that our Lord may grant me clarity & discernment in lidtening to His words so that I may have the wisdom when it comes to major decisions most esp where my children may be affected.
      Thank you kindly and God bless you more🙏🙏🙏

  • @tiaroleii4173
    @tiaroleii4173 Před 5 lety +7

    We serve a God of Covenant. Let everything be God's will and not our freewill. God bless everyone looking for a spouse 💖💖💖

    • @robraver
      @robraver Před 5 lety

      so you dont make any decisions at all?

    • @tiaroleii4173
      @tiaroleii4173 Před 5 lety

      Our GOD is a faithful GOD. He said "Whoever is not sin, Cast the first stone " I hope you don't committ any sin at all.Coz my Jesus died on the cross for my sin and my husband's sin. Still we love each other and we both love Jesus 💖💖💖

    • @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
      @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger  Před 5 lety

      Thanks for sharing Tia :)

  • @zackwestrules
    @zackwestrules Před 3 lety +1

    This is hands down the best explanation of sovereignty I’ve ever heard. I have been plagued for a year with thinking God was forcing me to be miserable because he is sovereign. It’s been a rough year. Thank you brother.

  • @mikaxmax
    @mikaxmax Před 5 lety +4

    You should do podcasts! It would be helpful to listen to while driving

  • @petrinapremavathi8544
    @petrinapremavathi8544 Před 5 lety +11

    We trust in The Lord. He will neber, never and give us negative or wrong things.

  • @sangeethamg3572
    @sangeethamg3572 Před 5 lety +1

    Lord I believe you truly from my heart my marriage should be done according to your will hallelujah Amen

  • @Awi-chwan-78
    @Awi-chwan-78 Před 5 lety +5

    Thank you for this now I know what to do thanks, even though i haven't seen it this video is really helpful

  • @octaviosreality4648
    @octaviosreality4648 Před 5 lety +4

    I believe for the most part that our free will choices is sometimes misused and God honors our will. Wisdom and skill sharpening is then needed for correction and sustaining what God has allowed.

  • @avivafernandes6169
    @avivafernandes6169 Před 5 lety

    Thank you Mark for this wonderful message. God will not allow me to marry a wrong person because i always pray for the inner heart of the man rather than his physical appearance. I pray for the man to love God first.

  • @lti134
    @lti134 Před 5 lety +10

    Almost like buying the wrong car, oh boy I
    Should have bought the older model “

  • @DanE-ew1yt
    @DanE-ew1yt Před 11 měsíci +1

    I found God and my Lord after I married the wrong person 12 years ago. We're currently getting a divorce.

  • @lifereceiver3661
    @lifereceiver3661 Před 5 lety +29

    1 Corinthians 7:28 NIV
    But those who marry will face many troubles in this life, and I want to spare you this.

    • @SoddingSuperHero
      @SoddingSuperHero Před 5 lety +1

      Life Receiver Don’t God love Godly marriages?

    • @mrsaye499
      @mrsaye499 Před 5 lety +6

      I welcome those marital "troubles" with the RIGHT person.🙂

    • @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
      @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger  Před 5 lety +6

      Thanks for sharing, it also says, "If anyone is worried that he might not be acting honorably toward the virgin he is engaged to, and if his passions are too strong and he feels he ought to marry, he should do as he wants. He is not sinning. They should get married." (1 Corinthians 7:36)

    • @CYMRUKID69
      @CYMRUKID69 Před 5 lety

      There are a lot of problems with the teachings of Paul. See the JESUS WORDS ONLY site you will be surprised.

    • @keturah1980
      @keturah1980 Před 4 lety +3

      @@CYMRUKID69 Paul's words are consistent with Jesus. You just lack understanding.

  • @olengndiango
    @olengndiango Před 5 lety +13

    I admonish all brothers and sisters in the body of Christ. Dont get married to the wrong person because there is a high possibility of them wrecking your life. Being unequally yoked is not Gods will for His children. But as Pastor Mark said if you do get married to the right person it does not mean paradise. Marriage should reflect Christ and the Church.

  • @janetfeig5
    @janetfeig5 Před 5 lety +2

    Best response to this question.

  • @sherwoodwalker573
    @sherwoodwalker573 Před 5 lety

    Great advice

  • @2thankfulnGrateful
    @2thankfulnGrateful Před 5 lety +2

    Blessed the presenter of the word tonight! When you mention God said be a giver than a receiver. What if I have been the giver all my life with the relationship in my life? Do I just be humble and stay gracious of that? I'm still in that cycle. The guy I'm in love with suppose to be my big jump, however your last video gave me other insights of him in a different light. How ungrateful he is verbally abusive, tries to manipulate me to make feel I'm wanted, but in reality I've been used,mentally,spiritually. Thinking how foolish I was yet again. So I ask God, am I supposed to be just a giver and never be a receiver of being loved or having that blessed union my parents shared flaws and all.

    • @lifereceiver3661
      @lifereceiver3661 Před 5 lety +1

      1 Corinthians 7:28 NIV
      But those who marry will face many troubles in this life, and I want to spare you this.

    • @2thankfulnGrateful
      @2thankfulnGrateful Před 5 lety

      @@lifereceiver3661 I thank you for this word.

    • @shadele17
      @shadele17 Před 5 lety +3

      If you are not married yet you have the choice to walk away. If you are already married that's a different case entirely.

    • @2thankfulnGrateful
      @2thankfulnGrateful Před 5 lety

      @@shadele17 so true! Thanks sugars

  • @tashiajones3970
    @tashiajones3970 Před 3 lety +1

    I agree with this video, so well put.
    I think what is becoming the issue here is not if separation or divorce is acceptable but if remarriage is.
    I am separated for 4 years and divorced for 2. Through my time I have sought God in this matter intensely. Fasted and prayed, fought with God and fell on my knees in worship and adoration for what He is doing. All I can say from my experience with God in this matter is that the union of marriage is sacred, the vows that are taken before God is not likely and the COVENANT cannot be broken by man. Whether the person you married at the time of marriage was a sinner or later became a sinner does not make them the person God destined for you. The person God destined for you is YOU, your persevering for God in any all situations and not looking to any man to provide that. Therefore if your expectations of the marriage are not met you are not disappointed. In the instances where there is physical or any type of abuse, yes please do not remain in that marriage. However God does not Condone remarriage either in such instances as your heart should be so fixed on Him only that you would not seek outside affection. Also in the case of infedelity, it was due to the 'hardness of their hearts' that He permitted divorce. Meaning thier unforgiveness, as God seeks Holiness before all else. However if you have Christ in you and allow separation for a time and you 2 can mutually work it out, you should return to your spouse.
    Please listen and read more on rejoice marriage ministries and BTG Movement. They are beautiful testimonies and ministries of marriage true to God's heart and word.
    Be blessed everyone. In Jesus name

  • @virginiathornton8480
    @virginiathornton8480 Před 5 lety +2

    Excellent.

  • @armannikoghosyan1345
    @armannikoghosyan1345 Před 5 lety +6

    Even if you choose the wrong person...if you truly love Him ..He can bring to you a wife which wont ruin your life in Christ..at any way He is in control..and His wisdom is endless and magnifisent..but i wanna beg Him to have mercy on us..and Help us in making the most important choises of our lives ..so as it will glorify His Name...and Bless us and our families❤✅

  • @Lovingmyselfthroughmyeyes

    Right on time

  • @caracal82
    @caracal82 Před 5 lety

    Hi Mark. I'm new on your channel and I'm instant subscriber. I have a question. You said in one of your videos that downloading movies falls into category of theft. Can you elaborate or even make video about it? I download a lot and I see it completely differently. I would love to have a discussion about it. God bless and keep up the good work.

  • @cristianarellano1141
    @cristianarellano1141 Před 2 lety +2

    God saved me from a bad relationship. I thought she was the one. But she was unequally yoaked. It hurt but God knows the true person for me to marry. I trust the lord no matter what.

  • @imaidiot1997
    @imaidiot1997 Před 5 lety +1

    He gave you freewill plus his word after that its your choice

  • @jvhamby5
    @jvhamby5 Před 5 lety +2

    He allows us freewill. But we are dumb enough to ruin ourselves.

  • @artistocracy
    @artistocracy Před 17 dny

    I was with my husband for 16 years before I was saved in an ungodly relationship, therefore as a God fearing woman with an ungodly husband I stay and live according to God’s word, and serve this man who is now 74 with some mental illness, because God saved me this way to look after him and keep praying for his salvation. His illness was traumatic for 2 years for each of us differently, but he has settled and I am at peace so we can both be happy.

  • @michaelcrandall1841
    @michaelcrandall1841 Před 5 lety +3

    Well said. You may have just saved my marriage. Going on 2 years of a sexless marriage, and my wife has turned from faith in Christ to yoga and Eastern meditation. There were no warning signs. Please, no comments about how I should have seen signs or heard God warning me. Don't be like Job's miserable counselors that had all the answers but not all the information to give proper counsel. Just wanted to share that I will now try to love her as Christ has loved me. Great video. Really helped me. God bless you my brother in Christ.

  • @CristinaGonzalez-jz4sq

    Praise God ♥️

  • @mukasairene7544
    @mukasairene7544 Před 5 lety +1

    Thanks for the correction.

  • @benmontey3438
    @benmontey3438 Před 5 lety +19

    Hello. Would you be willing to do a video and or series on long distance relationships?

    • @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger
      @ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger  Před 5 lety +3

      Here is a video I did on that topic: czcams.com/video/AGeSOWm8UjU/video.html

    • @patrickclarke3645
      @patrickclarke3645 Před 5 lety +2

      Wow my gf of 6 years broke up with me and started dating someone after one year of been apart. I am in grad school so it is very tough. She wanted me to commit which I was planning to do very soon but i am conflicted whether to try and save the relationship or let her continue seeing this new person. The only good is that my relationship with God is rekindled because of this whole situation.

    • @FamiliaGhatas
      @FamiliaGhatas Před 5 lety +1

      I just got married to a man God blessed me with . For 2 years we went back and forth between Israel and NYC . It’s not easy but God blessed us by opening doors I didn’t think exited .
      Hope it helps ❤️

  • @lisahelms7642
    @lisahelms7642 Před 5 lety

    Yes, people do it everyday. You will do it again and again until you seek the truth. God’s Truth is tell all and acceptance of it. Many are still in unbelief...

  • @summernight7587
    @summernight7587 Před 4 lety +1

    God gives us freewill. We must choose wisely according to his word

  • @yomidada3760
    @yomidada3760 Před 5 lety +5

    I'm a single brother, and I do feel the need for a relationship now than when I was younger, the people I sometimes like are in a relationship or don't like me, also I consider my financial situation. What do I do? I'm not necessarily the dating type, I believe if I love you for marriage we could court and get married, can you advise bro?
    Also are your counsel just on relationship?

  • @Healthynutrient321
    @Healthynutrient321 Před 5 lety +15

    My lord jesus christ never allow to me marry wrong person to me I trust in him full of my heart

  • @jcprice5424
    @jcprice5424 Před 5 lety

    Wow deep.

  • @carolewise
    @carolewise Před 5 lety +1

    Yes! If you are so stuck and doing what you want to do he gives you free will. Then you will be sorry later.

  • @Awi-chwan-78
    @Awi-chwan-78 Před 5 lety +1

    I have a favor can u do this channel all the videos but the audio in spanish? For my parents..?

  • @childofthemosthighgodtoya6447

    Amen thanks cuz he told me that to

  • @joshgano3632
    @joshgano3632 Před 5 lety +1

    hi mark i was wondering about gods will i want to live in the woods but i dont know if i should or not because it might not be gods plan could you please respond thanks

  • @johnsonjohn3880
    @johnsonjohn3880 Před 5 lety

    Nice