DESTINY PAYTON | How to HEAL When Your Child's Father Puts You in JAIL | Dear Future Wifey Ep802
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- Healing from divorce is a long road, but it is possible. Laterras sits down with Destiny Payton and she opens up about her healing journey after a turbulent divorce, sharing her resilience through challenges like incarceration. Together, they explore past traumas and family history, revealing the profound impact on marriage choices. Discover Destiny's healing, her perspective on forgiveness, dealing with breakups and where she stands in her journey to love.
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[00:00:00] - Opening segment
[00:03:40] - What happened to Destiny Payton?
[00:09:02] - How did Destiny surrender to the jail system?
[00:15:48] - Using dialogue to avoid conflict
[00:19:42] - Dealing with past traumas and EMDR Therapy
[00:27:57] - How do current experiences bring up old trauma?
[00:29:55] - Timeline of Destiny’s past relationship
[00:36:32] - Unaddressed trauma
[00:41:35] - How does your childhood affect your energy?
[00:43:25] - The impact of the death of Destiny’s older brother on her life
[00:45:01] - Destiny’s experience with reality TV
[00:52:52] - Handling betrayal
[00:59:18] - Is your ex allowed to date?
[01:06:36] - A message for Destiny’s ex
Key Quote:
“God didn’t take the storm away, but he gave me peace” - Destiny Payton.
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Married to hate is a real thing. It’s the worst trauma and then people don’t understand how you end up broken and just expect you to be over it.
Can't even imagine!
YUP...
Trust mi
Unfortunately it happens more often than people think.
There is NOT safety in marriage for many women.
That is one of the reasons I hate how the church (and other places) push marriage as the be all end all pinnacle we should all want to reach!!
Hugggs ❤ Psalm 139
My husband after 30 years together had me arrested for removing a camera that he put up to watch me when he was not home. The police tired to convince him not to proceed but he said “ I want her F!!! Ass arrested. That gave me the strength to end this relationship once and for all. We had children together and I was a stepmother. Ive healed and totally glad it’s almost over through the divorce process. Yeah winning.
Wow! I’m sorry that happened. God bless you on your healing journey.
Thank you friend, my life is a cautionary tale, learn from me daughter! Stop, Look and Listen! Im wishing you all the best. @@iAm83raine
@onlyonekiney What's the rest of the story? If you lived in the same house, how could you be arrested for removing a camera?
Wow!!! That’s crazy!
Mine tried to have me arrested for reactivating the security system that he stopped paying for. He called the police and said the same thing. SMH. The police asked him to just chill til the divorce was over. He didn’t. But it turned out I got the house, the security system and all. So bye Ashy!
Learning about her background is some insight about why she's so guarded. Thank you for opening up. It will help so many women! 🙏🏿
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But you could see on the show Destiny and her husband didn’t like each other?
Fact check y'all so gullible so quick no wonder y'all keep getting fooled
She ain't guarded. She's a liar.
If she was so guarded she wouldn't be besties with Martel Holt
I agree! We judge behavior so quickly without taking time to assess that this behavior may be a result of some serious trauma. Interesting story. Wishing Destiny the best.
I went through that in my 1st marriage. He hated me bc I didn't become the person he was trying to mold me to be. He was bothered that I have self-will that he couldn't manipulate and dominate smh
Same. He tried to control me but I snapped out of it real quick. HE divorced me while I was pregnant and told the court the child wasn’t his. When it came to the DNA he didn’t want to do it, the court forced him and he was embarrassed.
DESTINY!!! How we wish we had gotten to KNOW YOU on LAMH! Your story is so powerful! So many layers!! We’d LOVE to see THIS version of you on anybody’s show. I pray you OVERCOME it ALL!
Exactly if she woulda opened up she would still be on there!
I totally agree. It would have been nice to get to know her more but I do understand sometimes are hard to bring out...possible triggers and such
You wouldn't have seen it because she needed time to come up with this story
@@blkwomenrinthebuilding What?😮
@@blkwomenrinthebuildingExactly she lying....again!!
I love that you prayed over her and her ex husband and their child. Prayer is powerful and a praying man is a blessed man!
That prayer blessed me. I am new to this show and love every minute of it. Have subscribed right quick.
AMEN
a powerful statement that Destiny said which stood out to me was her saying "I prayed for God to stop the storms...God didn't take the storms away BUT He gave me peace" GLORY to GOD🙌🌷 46:34
God will cease some of those storms if she stops lying 🤥
@@Flowergirl1028you under multiple comments saying she lying😑 stfu
@@Flowergirl1028😮
Destiny is still very much in trauma healing. The way she is sitting is a coping skill to protect herself. That is a soothing technique to keep a person calm and regulated. Even her rubbing her arm at times shows that she is still going through her healing. I appreciate her showing up as the best version of herself and telling her story and showing us that all things can be healed.
Are you a therapist
A trauma therapist
@@ShellyMcleod-tk7xb nah just have worked in a clinical environment for yrs and sitting in sessions with kids as support. I’m refusing to go back to school for the actual license
I agree with you re: the body language, trauma, pain etc., but it's likely that people who have been traumatized & neglected in many ways like Destiny has, cannot and do not have appropriate relationship boundaries, move in and through their shadow-side, due to instinctual need to survive and effort to self-preserve... inadvertently developed inappropriate, clever, manipulative, predatory survival skills. In essence, once victims have now become victimizer & the abuser. Destiny has lived most of her life in survival, PTSD mode. Many don't have the education & training and level of compassion required to facilitate a friendship with a person like Destiny because #1 she's not a child, she's a grown woman whose quite aware and conscious of her manipulative maneuvers, thus capable of understanding consequences. Destiny won't stop lying and manipulatiing until she receives the deep therapy required to surrogate and facilitate healing. The thuggery "personification" designed to protect her isn't working for her, neither will the victim personification (lies). *Only the truth sets us free*
Come again Sister,
FALSE! She is a LIAR!!!!
That part…I’ve been married, but not in a marriage…
I am open to love and real marriage. I Believe God for her and everybody in this type of situation. IJN. Amen.🙏🏾
@@seedofabraham0149your comments show you hate women but have the name seed of abraham. A disgusting disgrace.
We need to hear both sides and know why it happened?
Amen BeeAMac-jc8yp
I'm at the 43 minute mark, in Costco fighting back tears because I soooooo identify with her masculine energy and why guys have told me all my life that I'm too hard. I didn't receive love from my mom, and both parents were in the home up until middle school. Thank you for this ❤
No judgement here at all, I promise. But we have to be so careful to not to ignore when God lets us know, don’t link up with that person. When we attach ourselves to people that didn’t have no business in the first place being in our lives, we write a chapter or chapters that wasn’t supposed to be in our life story. I hate sis had to go through that. It was all for her making. God doesn’t waste anything. But even in that, if It wasn’t in my original plan from God, I don’t wanna add anything or anyone to it! Not in 2024! If God don’t endorse them, do what the first 3 letters in “endorse” says…..END it!
PREACH!!! We have to stop being so hell bent and intent on being married above all! Its not a prize you win.
Preach!!! Recent breakup and I know he is wrong for me.
Exactly because we got to start taking accountability as to why we even get into situations in the first place, no one puts a gun to your head to be with them, there's something unresolved with you to either ignore the red flags or you lack discernment!
Oh my God... I pray for her healing and healing of her family trauma 🙏 ❤️ 💓
She should write a book...
"I won't have to be a THUG in my marriage"...that hit 😢❤
That was their problem. Destiny thinks she’s the man with her big dyck energy and those are her words.
She’s a lying phony who thought she was going to use her ex for his money. Her ex husband peeped game and left her.
When she said he couldn’t protect her bc he was raised to protect someone else…. That hit HARD! Main reason me and my husband are separated
Married to someone that now seeks pleasure in your pain speaks volumes… This is something everyone should ponder when dealing with people known to seemingly seek pleasure in the pain of others they were in relationship/married to. Empathy is something that we all need to show others especially when we need compassion too.
This comment sounds foolish. This is a literal everyday occurrence in relationships. Particularly on the part of women. Where do u think the phrase "hell hath no fury...." came from. Women routinely utilize all kinds of mechanisms to "punish"/bring bout pain to their former mates. Utilize children, parents, who.ever to carry out their ends. What.makes thissl particular one-sided account unique?
It's a weak man that would do this.he doesn't fear God. 😢it a true saying, "what goes around ,comes right back around.
She regurgitating what Mel said. She's trying to cause her ex pain because he saw thru her BS and divorced her.
She's been trying to get back at him ever since!
@@janetday5431Her ex wasn't a weak man. He was a man who saw thru her bullsh+t and wouldn't let her use him.
She's been on her getback EVER SINCE!
right cause he didn't lay down and allow her to use him. Maybe he did abuse her physically I don't know, can't say that with 100% certainty, and if he did may he be exposed and pay restitution
But I won't bet that he did cause there's zero consistency in her statements. I think she's exhausted from trying to stay 10 steps ahead, and up to her neck with trying to hold all her lies and manipulative strategies together. Its pay the piper time. r@@blkwomenrinthebuilding
Her ex was bitter, and no matter who started it, his heart was dark and hurting her because she was wise enough not to want to continue dealing with his actions. She was supposed to stay and deal with it. My ex stated those words to me.
My husband had grown comfortable with abuse and thought no matter what he did, I would just keep taking it. Restraining Order!!! He went too far. 🤷🏽♀️
He divorced her!
@@tattqueen1494Exactly! People like to talk without any background information. He walked away from her
Child those court papers say otherwise.
@@msjay025They sure do
I'm so happy to see Destiny. She seems less guarded and has a measure of peace. I'm so glad she told her story. It puts context to who she is. I've always like Destiny. I'm sure her telling her story was freeing. I'm going to pray for her. She'd been through so much. She touched me when she said she's "been married, but never in a marriage." I felt every bit of that. Wow... She put words to how I felt. I can relate.
Destiny is full of sugar honey and ice tea.if any of this was true she would’ve kept that check coming and spilled the coffee. Now she sees melody’s coins from the abuse, now all of a sudden she was abused. Deformation is gonna bite yo booty, while you running that mouth.
How could she talked about it, the judge order her not to! 23:27
@@user-qx6ld5di8yShe said on the reality show (her words). she’s been speaking on other channels.
@@user-qx6ld5di8y Rewatch this video and come back. She clearly said she couldn’t talk about it on the show! What kept her from telling her “truth” in all the other interviews she’s been in?! She lying!
@@maewhite7359 dam y'all melometers are a kill joy...y'all must really believe that the world revolves around her.
What is it, trauma bond...please stop it.
We all saw Destiny very guided about her reality on that show. To the point Carlos told her to open up a bit more.
This not about Melody, just can't help yourselves 😊
I understand why she protected herself so much on the show now . I wish her the best on her healing journey ❤
I'm in a divorce process for over 10 years now. Every year, something else comes up, I was sued for the house that I have a mortgage in my name, my house was vandalized, and I had to get a restraining order. This has caused my financial obligations to be ballooned, and the list goes on....But God!!
Gosh. 😢 I’m sorry you’re dealing with this.
Gosh. 😢 I’m sorry you’re dealing with this.
Trust in God it's gone her better
Oh wow. He wanted you to put you through hell
Prayers for you🙏🏽
All I can say, is there two sides to every story, and I can’t make a judgment call without hearing the other side!
Absolutely. Thats what I greatly respect about this podcast. He always leaves the door open for the other party to tell their side😊.
I agree cause this is so heartbreaking!
Its her story she told it , at some point you will hear his no one ask you to reply just read it as a good story. That is why so many women die
@@joanhalley8215how rude are you! Everyone has an opinion and no one is downplaying Destiny’s truth! Comments are made and all viewers will not have the same opinions!!!
@@joanhalley8215Say it again.
My child's father had me put in jail after we were leaving the child support hearing in front of our son. I didn't know what was going on. I thank God for sending me the right public defender to fight with me. And all the charges were dropped and expunged.
OMG 😲....I no his face cracked
What could you possibly be charged with regarding child support! That’s crazy!
I'm afraid of the Law Enforcement officers and would have never called them because the children father was an officer
To God be the Glory
Her story is a lesson in so many ways....bless her heart for moving forward
She hasn't moved forward.
She is using her bestie Martel....handbook
what's the other half? I think a lot of us are responding to her life story, what she has gone through with her family, mom and brother.
Yep
I’m praying for you Ms. Destiny, “May the Lord bless you and keep you. The Lord make his face to shine upon you and be gracious to you. The Lord lift up his countenance upon you and give you peace.”
- Numbers 6:24-26 Amen 🙏🏾
Hearing her story makes so much sense! For instance, Melody not speaking to her after shooting LAMH probably triggered her abandonment issues and she wasn't able to communicate it properly. Poor girl, no wonder she's so guarded. Bless her
Yes!And she probably herself didn’t connect the trigger until she started her healing journey 😢
I liked Destiny on L&MH and always kinda felt that she was misunderstood. I appreciate her for being so vulnerable and continued prayers for healing and happiness🙏🏾
Me too!
Me too and I feel like viewers only started hating her because her and Mel fell out
@@lexxtalkaboutitexactly!!!! Mel did her wrong but Destiny paid the price!!!!
I like Destiny too! The fans have it out for her and I think that's wrong... hopefully she can get back on another show.
@22danewb no she got messy on the show because she had all this saga going on behind her own closed doors with this man, so she couldn't see that she should have never ever played on Martell side because just like her husband was causing her drama, so was another woman experiencing drama from her spouse...so females never know when to stop
This woman exudes strength and seemingly has learned from her life. Many blessings!
The scene with her and her ex on LAMH was telling enough he acted like he could care less about Destiny and very much controlling behaviors. She’s been thru a lot, continued blessings for Destiny
I agree something was off with him, can't put my finger on it, I thought he was illiterate only to find out how educated he was. But I don't think for 1 second Destiny was as innocent as she demands people think of her in this interview. I see right through the verbal, rehearsed camouflage. Not being truly transparent will have ppl side-eyeing you everytime. Many women who are victims of abuse will come to her side and that's what she's hoping for. I don't consider being trumped financially and proper use of the law abuse. I think Laberrick used his resources be it finances or proper use of judicial system (which he had every right to do) to fortify and aid his court battles, and because she was broke busted and disgusted and possibly incompetant of law, does. NOT automatically infer he was evil and guilty of wrong doing because he used the truth and could afford an attorneys professional services. It looks like it's Destiny's "fork in the road" pay the piper moment. She simply hasn't done and refuses to do the internal work required to self reflect, own HER mistakes in friendship & marriage to gain victory & overcome her fiery trials of self introspection. NO MATTER the source of her fears i.e. abandonment, abuse, neglect; these have no respect of persons...these
atrocities happen to the best and worse of us. The only way out for the best/worse is healing, therapy, blaming no one. Some breakthroughs require healing - healing requires the TRUTH and the truth is victims cannot be victorious if they remain victims!
I had never heard of Destiny or her ex so I listened with unbiased ears. I have the utmost respect for Latteras and the moment he called her to pray and he further affirmed the prayer did IT for me. ❤ Keep doing God’s work, being a vessel, and staying human through spiritual grounding. You are loved and supported.
Girl,don’t let her lying tail fool you. She is a horrible person.
Same
Destiny has given other interviews where she explained certain situations differently, which makes it hard to believe what she’s saying... there’s so many holes. I’m on the outside looking in and have no right to judge but it does seem as if this interview was strategically chosen.
I empathize with her up bringing, no relationship with her mother, the loss of her brother, experiencing a failed marriage, etc. In order for her to genuinely heal and be truly happy she must also take accountability and be honest with herself. GOD is aware and knows all! Her and her son are in my prayers.
WHAT U SAID!!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
So true!!
I agree with you. Very strategic interview.
Yea I’m a lil confused 😮
The timing = strategy‼️So what made her trauma any greater or truthful than the other lady still going through it after years of divorce just like HER! Everyone doesn’t Heal the same nor do they succeed the same‼️
This all makes sense. When Destiny was on LAMH, I always believed that there had to be some hurt somewhere. I am glad you are now finding your peace in a more conducive space.
But continued to Hurt fellow females going through their traumatic experiences-but why????
@@exquisb8974She didn't do a damn thing to any of them chic's on that show.
Destiny has been hurt and she is showing it in her posture and words. I wish her healing so she can attract what she desires. ❤
After 20yrs!!! 🗣️ of marriage, I am now a single woman 2ys. 5mos.. but divorced finalized 03/2023. When the Lord allowed the breaking and the awakening the little girl woke up and a temper tantrum everyday smh BUT God!! The spirit of the Lord lifted up and standard for me and stopped the way of the enemy!!! 🙏🏾❣️
I thank the Lord for his divine protection 🙏🏾❣️ The embarrassment unbothered moments I can relate to her story, Thanks for sharing Destiny ❣️
(EMDR) STANDS FOR EYE MOVEMENT DESENSITIZATION AND REPROCESSING. It’s used to treat( PTSD) POST TRAUMATIC SYRESS DISORDER. IT IS ALSO USED FOR OTHER AREAS OF CONCERN ALSO.
I pray for healing for Destiny and resolve between her and her ex for the betterment of their son. Psalm 147:3-
He heals the brokenhearted; He binds up their wounds.
2 Corithians 4:7-8
However, we have this treasure in earthen vessels, so that the power beyond what is normal may be God’s and not from us. We are hard-pressed in every way but not cramped beyond movement; we are perplexed, but not absolutely with no way out.
Our Heavenly Father has definitely been with Destiny. He has his hand on her. I appreciate her saying God has not taken the problem away but has given her peace.
Amen!
I pray that people will listen to Destiny’s story with an open mind/heart and not solely prejudge her based on LAMH. May her heart be completely restored in Christ Jesus 🙏🏾💕
AMEN!❤😊
In Jesus name! 🙏🏽🙏🏽
Thank you! It's Mel crew!!!!!!
Good morning. This is such a sad story. My heart goes out to her and her child. Thank God she has faith. Just know God is right there with you while you are going through this storm. Continue to lean on God and he will carry you. Peace and Blessings!!! And this too shall pass!!!❤
I love her lightheartedness... I know she has a deep pain that she is working through and I pray for her success.
Prayers goes to Destiny on her healing journey🙏
I'm so happy she was able to speak out the truth. And yes, it is a slap in the face when you have children by the same man that had you arrested. He definitely sought pleasure in my pain. BUT GOD🙋🏾♀️
We all must rap what we sow * Right our wrongs * treat folks how we want to be treated * = hopefully she’ll stand in her truth 1 day =Ironically she wasn’t the only person going through THEE EXACT SAME THING 🤷🏼♀️-=But God
God bless Destiny. I've always felt like she’s been misunderstood because we didn't know her whole story. Hopefully, the drama with her ex can heal, and she can peacefully co parent.
Idk her and don’t know who she was married to but I’d love to hear his side of the story too because none of this make sense to me.
You are right in your assessment! She is a known liar!!
Your assessment is absolutely spot on.
She is a huge liar and has told different versions of what she spoke here.
One thing about a liar....they FORGET their lies.
I definitely want to hear his side now!!!
She isn’t known as a liar, she didn’t tell her story on the show
@@shirellediana Actually she is! She did many, many interviews where she contradicted what she said in each interview. So yeah, she is a known liar! Pull the receipts!
When a person say they love you and turn on you that person has evil in their heart.You reap what you sow. Karma is real.
I stand in the gap for this family’s healing. Amen
LATERRAS IS DOING THE WORK. HES CREATING ROOM NATURALLY FOR OTHER WOMEN TO FEEL LIKE WOMEN. I LOVE THIS. DESTINY IS DOING THE WORK ALSO. PROUD OF YOU BOTH. WHEN YOU FIND CONTENT IN JUST BEING YOU THEN YOU'LL BE ABLE TO GIVE YOUR DIARY TO YOUR WIFEY, LATERRAS. I LOVE THIS
Allegedly, some of the stories Destiny is telling - she’s told before BUT with a different twist. Just saying.
@@seedofabraham0149 Soooo, he placated women by inviting Derrick Jaxn and getting flack from women and losing coins???.... Smh
Destiny Payton, you are an aaaaaammmmaaaazing human being!!!! May God continue to bless you!!!!
This was a great interview. I have a new found like and respect for Ms. Destiny. Sending healing and positive energies her way
It IS unfinished Destyni! I miss you on the show! I love Destyni. I get her! She's just real! I love her and understand her story and her struggle. She is a chosen one and has gone through so much because God has great things for her. I wish her love and all the best!
She wants compassion for her abuse but supports her bff Martell who was even more abusive to his ex wife. The math isn’t mathing 🥴. Treat others how you want to be treated 🤷🏾♀️
Latteras,.... bless you heart for speaking to Destiny's ex in a positive way and having Destiny pray as well. A change is coming and will blow Destiny's mind. She said, you were Jesus but I loved how you said a believer in Jesus. He was in the midst and HIS transformation will take place. Buckle up Destiny! You are loved! 🎉❤🙏🏾
It’s amazing to me that she speaks of her ex husband and her truth yet still runs the streets with Martell who is just as bad if not worse!!!!
You’re a hater spreading lies and deceit. If you’re a Christian, you’re not very good at it!
This is the comment that I was looking for!!! I never understood how she as a woman can align herself with a man like him, knowing that he did a lot of the things, if not worst, to his ex-wife that her husband did to her. Alignment is everything, Destiny should be careful about who she is connected to in this season. She's been through enough already, but moving forward, she should disconnect herself from men like him.
Destiny knows more than the public and she is not connected in anyway to the Holts marriage. She wasn’t married to them. I’m sure you know some not so perfect people too. Y’all hold folks to unrealistic standards and they don’t owe you anything.
Melody is still very friendly with Destiny's ex, so I guess same applies to her too? If what Destiny is saying is the truth, Mel should stay clear of him as well.
There are two sides in marriage. Perhaps her ex should be invited on to tell his truth. I only know of her from Love and Marriage Huntsville. She was not very nice. Fighting and arguing with everyone except Martell. She did not represent herself the way she did on your podcast. People probably would have treated her better if this is a true representation of who she really is.
Destiny has a lot of healing to do...anger rest in her and it directs a lot of her decisions...most probably abandonment issues plague her...I can definitely relate to her
I see her soft side it shows ❤.
Although I can’t relate to her specifics, I agree with you on this!
@@imarimoneyqueen8537 although I’m no t a fan of hers, you can see her softer side. If she ever decides to pull back the layers & walk in 100% self I’m pretty sure she’s 💯🎯
We gotta love our kids more than we hate the co-parent. I believe I heard that quote on your platform or just online in general and it’s the most important lesson I’ve learned!
Continued prayers for Destiny. When she said "Don't do it" and Laterras says I'm not. I'm like well I am bc I definitely let the tears fall for yall. Destiny cried too bless her heart.
Me too!
God didn’t take the storm away but he gave me peace 🙌🏽🙏🏽❤️
Destiny if you aren’t ready to tell the WHOLE truth please don’t share anything because you DO NOT HAVE TO!!!
This interview is so triggering 😢I’m living the reality of much of this now. To lay with a person, love them, plan a life and a child only for them to be your enemy all along! Especially when they feel like you haven’t “obeyed” them! God bless her!
I'm praying for your peace, healing, release, and restoration in the name of Jesus!
@@lisajsnipes thank you so much 😊 God bless you!
Glad to hear Destiny story because she was definitely painted in a weird light. I have a new found respect for her and I pray her strength and deliverance out of the hands of the devourer who seeks to destroy her in Jesus Name.
Amen!
I agree! Amen!
Destiny is a WHOLE LIAR and it's sad AF
But
Now I see why her and Martel are best friends.
@@blkwomenrinthebuilding you don’t just stop being friends with someone because they are going through something in life good or bad, whether you agree with what they did are not that’s where real friends are needed to be there but also correct you when you are wrong. My prayer for her still stands and is sealed in the heavenlies I don’t know her personally to say what she is and is not.
Love seeing this side of her. Miss her on the show before the hardness took over, but I understand it now. Glad the host was not constantly laughing this time. He checked her accordingly when he was speaking to her ex. Love the moment of prayer and hope that Destiny stands in agreement and believes it can get better
I pray your total healing in every area even from what you don't know, and may God open your eyes to the king he has for you and your son ...🙏 Nothing but goodness ❤
Amen!
I have a family member that has gone thru still going thru this kind of situation. He wants to control the situation so he lies to get what he wants. Abusing the system, and the judge is buying it all. It’s crazy!
Eye movement desensitization and reprocessing (EMDR) therapy. I heard that this type of therapy will open up supressed trauma. Bless her heart. I pray she continue to push forward and ket God unfold all that he has in store for her.
She could have sent her marriage certificate to the insurance company🤣🤣🤦🏾♀️Lies
This one got to me crying. I can relate to so much of her story. I am so sorry for everything she went through. She is a strong, wise, and beautiful woman.
I was hated by my whole family and the things they did to me was horrible. Till this day I love them though I have no contact with them. And crazy thing they still attack me. As I'm on my healing journey they still try to find me and leave controlling messages. Today has been a little rough though I'm trusting GOD in it. Honestly, I'm struggling. I'm eating to cover what I'm feeling. Please pray for me.
Sending love and light your way. I'm praying that God does something extra special for you to brighten your day 🙏🏾💖
❤❤❤. Please continue to set appropriate boundaries for yourself and your mental health. 🙏🏾 God will send you the right people.
@@josetteesau, Thank you, very much for your kind words. I'm hanging by a thread.
@@nikkyshamz2696, Thank you, very much for your kind words! I've been patiently waiting for a long time. Being strong is all I've known. Today has been a day.
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Destiny sweetheart. I will not judge you another day. I will pray for you and love you for who you are. You’ve been to the pit of hell and back. I get you now. Thank you for opening up and letting us in. You didn’t have to do that. Be strong baby girl. ❤️
Yes🙏🏽
I swear she finds in all her interviews that she still brings up Mel in some way but never mentions the money Mel left her because of her electric disconnect notice on her door..
Thank you SO VERY MUCH for being ministry BEYOND the hurt, the doubt, and the trauma. Thank you for speaking healing into the atmosphere and taking the position of being her covering right there and speaking the peace into the atmosphere for the sake of a young male who is witnessing all of this.
I am in agreement with you Laterrus for healing over all persons parenting - because the children watch and learn. You can groom them in spiritual and mental health or you can doom them by perpetuating the trauma.
Amen, amen, and AMEN it IS done!!
Okay I dont believe this interview, I’m going through a divorce after 30 years, I know EXACTLY why we are divorcing ! No question. Maybe she is not being totally transparent because she is still going through it.
U can do it Destiny! I had 3 beautiful babies with an ex husband similar to ur Ex husband . My youngest is now 15. My babies and I have made it with lots of therapy. It wasn’t easy but we’ve done it be encouraged you will be just fine.🙏🏽♥️
At this point, this is defamation of character, and Laberric needs to put a stop to this. This woman is constantly going on smear campaigns of that man. It's the clout chasing for me. Laberric's lawyer needs to handle this. This has been going on for too long.
Agreed because she’s a liar!
She said he has reopened the divorce because she is doing these interviews. So he is on it.
When did she speak about him ?She has been very guarded about her marriage .She has realized not speaking about this has only hurt her more and not protected her .
Speak on it Destiny baby ❤
She’s going to be back in court and she’s going to tell the next podcast host who will listen to her that she doesn’t know why he keeps taking her to court. He should file a civil suit for defamation of character and/ slander.
Think people if she didn't forge his name on anything. WHY DID THEY ARREST HER!!! COME YA'LL
She brought up.....TALK ABOUT IT!
Charges were filed ,she has a case pending .Innocent until proven guilty ..That’s for the courts to decide .Grace should be given to her for sharing her traumatic story ..She didn’t have to tell if ..
@@christinerobbins8808grace bc she experienced “trauma?” We all experience trauma at some point in our lives. It’s about her character! I don’t know her personally, but she has shown that she has a lot of character flaws from cheating to stealing…
This was a great watch. The interview allowed me to see her in a different light than how she was portrayed on the show. ❤
I have been watching this channel for about 6mths. This is the first time I am commenting. I have gone through a similar journey. My ex Fiance is in jail for kidnapping, false imprisonment, battery, family violence, and 2 other misdemeanors. My life has been turned upside down since this. I came home from the hospital and found you on CZcams and have been watching your channel ever since then. Since doing some work on myself I thought when a man from my past came to me that I was ready for a good man but then had a falling out with him because there were some things I didn’t like about him. During Destiny talking about her therapy she said something that made me realize that the reason I didn’t like those thing about the “good man” is that those 2 things reminded me so much of my child abuser. See I was assaulted and touched on the regular as a child and this man smelled like him and his body type was the same. Not until this episode had I even thought about it. Thank you for bringing her on and thank you for everything you do to help people heal from their pain and give people like myself faith that God has the right man out there for me. Just be patient and live life. God will bring him to me when it’s time. I feel that in my soul. But even if it never happens I will be okay as well. Thank you and God bless!
I have a friend and recently asked her to not disclose to me when she's speaks to her ex because he's done lowdown things way lower than cheating. She still wanted to marry this man and I feel still do. I told her ain't no way I'm in a wedding or participating in it just for her to wake up a year or two later and act like signs weren't there.
I get how Destiny feel but I'm positive he's been this same man for years. This marriage dissolved before the baby was a year therefore imagine how the pregnancy was. This man behavior was not new. Leave these mean men where they are. Now you gotta work extra hard to make sure your kid don't pick up the same ill characteristics as his dad when it comes to him and his love interest.
There’s always 2 sides to every story. Sometimes people tell the same story ‘differently’ depending on who they’re talking to. Just saying.
, There are three sides to every story; his side as he sees it, her side as she sees it and the whole truth as God knows it to be! But for the grace and mercy of God .... 🙏🏽
Licensed insurance agent of 23 years here….(she) would have to be placed on the insurance prior to the child’s birth to cover any charges for the baby. All insurance companies have open enrollment periods (OEP) where you can add, drop dependents, i.e. child/spouse etc., for any reason. Aside from that, you have special elections periods (SEP) when you can do the same within typically 30 days of that event with proof. For clarity, any charges related to the delivery and prenatal care of the mother would only be covered if she was placed on his insurance prior to the birth of the child. If he added the baby as an SEP, it would only cover charges after the birth/eff date. She may have thought, if he added her (if she wasn’t on there already) after the fact, the insurance would cover the charges, they would not. Btw, she couldn’t be added to the policy as an SEP because marriage was over 30 days.
You never know what a person has gone through and going through. I pray that the entire situation gets better all the way around.🙏🏽
“I being marry but not in a marriage” I love when she said this. I was raised by a man too so I relate to her. It’s important that we really take time for courtship and go through every step necessary to have healthy relationships. I am still working on it.😊
The insurance thing makes no sense to me because did she not receive prenatal care prior to birthing her child. Was the insurance not verified at the onset of prenatal care?
THIS!!! 👀
Right He works for the government and military benefit!
Right!!! The facility verifies this. They don’t ask you to verify your own coverage so why would they ask him?
I am so befuddled by this. Wasn't she on the insurance card? We don't just add people when something happens. Either you have coverage or not.
He most likely drop her from his insurance which u can do at anytime and the hospital tried to confirm because they got notified and thought was strange
Then, she didn't refinance the home. I need everyone who has purchased a home before to use your intelligence when listening to that part.
That's not how refinances work and she's lying.
That part 🙄
All I can say is there are pieces missing from this story I’ve been following her since LAMH. We all need to take accountability for our actions when a marriage ends and I didn’t hear not once that Destiny did.
She talked about it after leaving the show!
Not that my 2¢ matters, but she said he physically abused her. At that point, what she may or may not have done is irrelevant if it's true. What could she have done to deserve that? On top of that, she did acknowledge imperfection on her part. She said she desires a relationship where she doesn't have to be a "thug." I wouldn't consider that an imperfection on her part if that came from a place of self-preservation through self-defense and based on her saying that she didn't consider herself to be abused at first because she fought back, it sounds like it was coming from a place of needing to protect herself because not only was she not being protected, she was being attacked. Remember, she said a therapist they met with told her that if she did not leave, he would kill her. The relationship needed to end. Whatever she did that may have contributed to the end of the relationship was ultimately what needed to be done because if she was being abused, that relationship needed to end. There is nothing she could have done that would make, contribute to or justify a man physically abusing her. And there is nothing she could have done to make a relationship with a physically abusive man healthy. My point is that there is nothing she could have contributed it could have avoided doing that would make her marriage last in a healthy way because a relationship with a physically abusive man cannot be and is not healthy and should not work or last. Whatever she did or did not do in this particular relationship that contributed to it ending or not being successful is irrelevant because he was physically abusive and the marriage was going to be toxic, unhealthy, and dangerous regardless of anything she did or did not do because there is nothing a woman in a physically abusive relationship with a man can or cannot do to cause or prevent him from physically abusing her if he is able to do so. Except leave (and ultimately, that is not always true because statistically the most dangerous time for a woman in a physically abusive relationship is when she is about to leave or soon after she has left.) A physically abusive man will hit the woman he's in a relationship with if he has decided to do so regardless of who she is, how she is, or what she does or does not do. So, if she is telling the truth and I would never accuse a woman who says she was physically abused of lying about that, then there is no accountability for her to take in this particular relationship because if he decided it was okay to hit her, he was going to hit her no matter what as long as he felt he was able to, and if he was hitting her the relationship and the marriage needed to end regardless of any other circumstances. I'm not a fan of Destiny Payton, but I will stand with her in solidarity as a woman who is a survivor of domestic violence and especially as a Black woman who is a survivor of domestic violence. I'm not saying that you intended to suggest that she should take accountability for being abused. But suggesting that a woman who was in a physically abusive relationship should take accountability for any wrongdoing in that relationship does equate wrongdoing or flaws on her part to the abuse she endured and even justifies it to some people. It's like asking a woman who tells you she was assaulted, "okay, but what did you do wrong in the relationship?" What difference does it make what she did? I know you probably didn't intend to imply that but in this particular relationship, anything she may have needed to take accountability for in any other relationship is irrelevant because the relationship was going to be unhealthy, unsuccessful and dangerous no matter what she did because he was going to be physically abusive to her if he decided to no matter what she did or did not do. If he felt like it was okay to hit her, he was going to find a reason to hit her so that was always going to be a problem in this marriage because it was HIS problem, a problem that existed in the relationship because of him, because it came from him and from within him and therefore she could only mitigate or avoid any interaction with the problem by the relationship ending.
A person that has ever loved you or truly loves you and has some fear of God will not want to harm or cause you pain (at least not intentionally) whether you are in a relationship with them or not.
A person that does not have peace will not give you peace, so you protect yourself but at the same time recognize that they donot have the love of God and also they maybe dealing with deep issues and trauma, so you forgive them and move on, remembering that we played a role in choosing them.
Great episode ♥️
This is so enlightening. Thank you.
I tapp'd in because I hadn't seen this in a while...the caption didn't draw me in; it made me sad HOWEVER had I known it was Destiny of L&MH I wouldn't have hesitated! I'm a watcher of that 'show' and the realest cast members and she is/was one of those. Now I'm tuned in 👁👁
I remember when she first started on LAMH, and the first thing she did was attempt to curse Kimmy out for saying something she felt was degrading about her husband. Now to hear that she was in an abusive relationship the whole time is so shocking. I pray that she truly heals from this and that she forgives her ex-husband. Forgiveness is not for him but for her. Laterras, you are a true man of God, and it was very encouraging when you prayed for her and her ex-husband. May God continue to bless your ministry. Your wife is on her way! Loved your letter. ❤❤
Not just saying this because of watching this interview, but I've always had a soft spot for Destiny. Even though ppl have a lot of negative things to say about her, my feelings have never changed towards her.
I agree I’ve always liked her no matter what people said or did to her. She has lots of trauma that is relatable. I wish her the best.🙏🏽💪🏽
This is the same woman who just two weeks ago took pictures of her ex-friend kids around the woman whom her ex-friend husband cheated with. This woman is reaping what she sow.
Thank you!!! Exactly!!!
Exactly! No sympathy here. Is she using this interview to get back on the show? I certainly hope not. She has no problem messing with others. God don't like ugly and he's not fond of cute.
She was smiling on her mugshot. She thinks this is a joke, and it's not!
This was so needed. Such similar situations in my marriage. Thank you Destiny. Thank you Laterras.
I don’t like the way the friendship was handled with Mel but putting that aside a few things. She tells certain truth that are favorable to her while leaving a lot facts out that maybe favorable to the other side.
Soo true!! And she’s so deceptive!! Ur discernment is on point!!
That healing journey definitely brings up those things we put in our dark box. Your story Sis...thank you for being transparent even though it's triggering you 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🤗
Good to see her on the podcast! Looking forward to watching.
Destiny thank you for sharing your story. I am praying for you as you continue your healing journey. It took strength to come and speak your truth.
So good to be back on these youtube streets and catching up on so many great interviews. The learning curve continues on to 2024.
I’m so happy the in studio interviews/conversations are back. I was finding it hard to connect to the large panels/events. Not sure why but the close one-on-one conversations just hit different. Great conversation with Destiny.
This was an amazing interview laced with life lessons and the healing power of talking through your life traumas. I’m praying all things will work together for the good of this young woman and her family, to include her ex-husband. I pray his heart was convicted and he will walk in love towards the mother of his son. Thank you again DFW, I truly love and appreciate the topics covered and people willing to share their lives with us. May God continue to make His face shine upon you and your team, May He give you all His Peace! ❤
This episode had me in tears 😢😢😢😢, thanks for sharing
Aww Destiny!! This is so good for you! I’m so glad you got a chance to tell more of your story! 🙏🏿🙏🏿❤❤
They asked not to have her back because she wasn’t transparent… Had nothing to do with getting paid… They didn’t want her back…
Blessing to you Destiny...sometimes you dont even want to be that strong you have to be to survive❤❤❤ great interview best wishes to you and your baby boy
😢Yes, it's very real. My ex husband put me in jail too. He was military. Wrote a book about my story The Strength In The Life of An Ex-Military Wife
I survived a military marriage as well-pure hell. When people thank me for my service, I accept it either way gracefully, because I absolutely scarified myself in that mess. Never again with a military member.
Lord please those are worst liars on earth .
This podcast introduces me to so much. I've never seen Love and Marriage Huntsville so I was lost in the beginning of this interview but it is always good to hear people's backstory. We gain emotional intelligence and sympathy when we learn from others. This was such a real conversation... Thank you!
She went press DV charges for DV. judge denied her. Let's hear Laberick side.
It's hard to regard her in any way after she watched Martell treat her then Friend Melody they way she did. She is now hanging with the woman and man who heart Melody to the core. She has no loyalty. I can't with her! She's has not been a good friend!
Many women have stories of trauma that want to be heard, understood and seen. I'm glad the DFW exists to share these stories. We are more connected than separated, I pray we can spread empathy and kindness. You never know who needs it.
Laterras your pray for Destiny's ex-husband was heartfelt and awesome! Love your heart to have enough compassion to uplift and encourage her ex! God bless you and thank you for this amazing episode❤