Why Do Women Always Have to Be Nice? | Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie & Mary Beard | Google Zeitgeist

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  • @natashaadams8195
    @natashaadams8195 Před 4 lety +95

    Chimamanda is so fly and she just oozes elegance. I want her entire wardrobe 😍

  • @Farah-mz2nz
    @Farah-mz2nz Před 4 lety +117

    chimamanda's beauty is another level.

  • @nameless592
    @nameless592 Před 6 lety +86

    The shine and health in that hair 👏🏾

  • @imalwayslucky9633
    @imalwayslucky9633 Před 6 lety +132

    Chimamanda is so good, smart woman. I always like her natural hair style.😘😘

    • @NoName-pc7et
      @NoName-pc7et Před 3 lety

      I do not fancy African braids,twists etc because it has done alot if damage to my beautiful natural hair. I prefer press & curl...it is easy to care for & doesn't contribute to BALDNESS!

  • @clarak.mallah4137
    @clarak.mallah4137 Před 3 lety +4

    I'm watching this because of chimamanda Ngozi Adichie.

  • @siimegift2197
    @siimegift2197 Před 5 lety +55

    Chimamanda is extremely beautiful

  • @shirleyonyeukwu6099
    @shirleyonyeukwu6099 Před 4 lety +21

    You inspired me chimamanda. You tell stories in an unforgettable way.

  • @nagatb05
    @nagatb05 Před 4 lety +48

    My little daughter (4 years old) started to observe😂
    She asked me why dad is asking you to bring something, and why you accept that he should serve himself, she said.

  • @cathykaeshow7779
    @cathykaeshow7779 Před 4 lety +29

    These women are impressive. Chimamanda adechie my chi girl. I aspire to be like you

    • @onm9957
      @onm9957 Před 4 lety

      It'll better if you aspire to be yourself.

    • @cathykaeshow7779
      @cathykaeshow7779 Před 4 lety

      @@onm9957 🙄 You are a little lost see sir/madame

    • @onm9957
      @onm9957 Před 4 lety +3

      @@cathykaeshow7779
      Lost but, Better found than you at least.. Only a lost recognizes another lost.. You're alone there..
      It was just an advice.. Not a opportunity for us to exchange..😪 if you want take it if don't want don't.. Not my business.😏

    • @cathykaeshow7779
      @cathykaeshow7779 Před 4 lety +1

      @@onm9957 because i asked for advice 🙄... Give advice to people who ask for it. And if you don't understand what someone posts it's to ask tah.. Yendani uko na upuba wanu sha

    • @onm9957
      @onm9957 Před 4 lety +3

      @@cathykaeshow7779
      😪
      whatever you said in your dialect.. Back to sender..

  • @clarak.mallah4137
    @clarak.mallah4137 Před 3 lety +15

    Chimamanda says she likes to argue with actual people, and not ghosts 😄😄😄😃😃 She's right.

  • @flyyzone3009
    @flyyzone3009 Před 4 lety +21

    I love Chimamanda, & what She stands for!

  • @magangajoy
    @magangajoy Před 4 lety +19

    Black women are just beautiful!

  • @feelfreetv776
    @feelfreetv776 Před 4 lety +30

    The whiteness in the room is exhausting. Wonderful job Chimamanda.

  • @manoharanshanmugam3284
    @manoharanshanmugam3284 Před 4 lety +21

    I am watching this interview from India. Very effective words from this chimmanda. Very nice

  • @jcortese3300
    @jcortese3300 Před 3 lety +5

    OMG CHIMAMANDA NGOZI ADICHIE AND MARY BEARD THAT IS TOO MUCH AWESOME FOR ONE STAGE.

  • @wairimumacharia2339
    @wairimumacharia2339 Před 3 lety +5

    Love her words.Chimamanda is fantastic, Mary as well

  • @leeothome
    @leeothome Před 6 lety +25

    Very interesting interview with two amazing writers, I really enjoyed! Love you Chimamanda!

  • @aurorarose1815
    @aurorarose1815 Před 3 lety +10

    "......unearthed his organ what are you supposed to do bow down to it?" 🤣🤣

  • @vivianideh8543
    @vivianideh8543 Před 6 lety +20

    Chimamanda I love your courage for going for what you believed in.....True my you inspire me

  • @chidiobianyor4186
    @chidiobianyor4186 Před 2 lety +2

    I like the way she keeps quite when others are talking. She's a very good listener

  • @bilqeesoloko5254
    @bilqeesoloko5254 Před 6 lety +28

    I like Mary Beard.... Give them a polite reply. I do that too not because of the gender stereotypes but because being polite is my virtue as a human being first, as a Muslim too.

    • @tulifranz9336
      @tulifranz9336 Před 4 lety +3

      bilqees oloko , the coin has two sides. Live and let live.

  • @chiamakamadu2715
    @chiamakamadu2715 Před 4 lety +5

    I love you Chimamanda!

  • @clarak.mallah4137
    @clarak.mallah4137 Před 3 lety +4

    Chimamanda is fantastic!

  • @netsanetethiopia59
    @netsanetethiopia59 Před 2 lety +1

    My Chimamanda, you are the next president of Nigeria

  • @chinedumblog.9004
    @chinedumblog.9004 Před 3 lety +3

    Chimamanda is really great.

  • @joanamanwi
    @joanamanwi Před 3 lety +9

    I loved every bit of this. The panel is amazing.

  • @ayodeler39
    @ayodeler39 Před 5 lety +42

    Let's cover all bases! Chimamanda for James Bond...

  • @anntobben162
    @anntobben162 Před 3 lety +2

    I love her so much !

  • @briandegoede4483
    @briandegoede4483 Před 3 lety +11

    Respect to both but Mary Beard shows that age and experience matter.
    Laughing and being polite are just as powerful as hostility.
    Possibly more so when dealing with chauvinism and entitlement.
    The pen is mightier than the sword. Always

  • @MyChoicestWarrior
    @MyChoicestWarrior Před 5 lety +28

    Love the two women so versed and independent in their knowledge. My take on this conversation is, don't follow other's convictions. Take your own stand based on your understanding of life, and dont feel too bad when people criticize your stand. People grow and change. Same person who criticized your stand will change to take on your stand tomorrow. Also, will interest me to know how Adichie's approach to critics will evolve in many years to come. Will she lean towards Beard's approach?

    • @nomfundogcabashe9572
      @nomfundogcabashe9572 Před 4 lety

      A lot of people who once were on the critising end have unlearned what they thought was acceptable and normal. It's good that people grow and change. Change is sometimes good. Not everything that foreign is bad.

  • @njangagnes9716
    @njangagnes9716 Před 6 lety +14

    i lover your spirit mama Ngozi

  • @len1708
    @len1708 Před 4 lety +9

    I just have to look at your hair Chimamanda and full in love with you. Great!

  • @Ladyfaithke
    @Ladyfaithke Před 2 lety +2

    Love the conversations.

  • @aprilbehnke9611
    @aprilbehnke9611 Před 5 lety +9

    Love them both so much.

  • @theblackpearl7035
    @theblackpearl7035 Před 4 lety +24

    Chimamanda i feel like she is a long lost sister

  • @roxiet7016
    @roxiet7016 Před 2 lety +1

    Always enriching to be in the presence of beautiful brilliant lady
    Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie💛🌟
    Her genius her elegance soo inspiring…🎶✨
    Thank you.. great share!
    Ashe’O

  • @otiuzoamaka8356
    @otiuzoamaka8356 Před 3 lety +2

    Free elegance
    Ur smile always get me smiling
    Chimamada

  • @lilianander4414
    @lilianander4414 Před 5 lety +10

    God bless you Chimamanda i like your personligt and wonderful words of wisdom and knownledge. You have a good spirit.watching You from Sweden.
    Be blessed with the Good work

  • @anna.rrrrrr
    @anna.rrrrrr Před 5 lety +7

    Wow wow wow, great interview!

  • @nelliemwendo141
    @nelliemwendo141 Před 2 lety +1

    Keep it up lady.You are a genius

  • @maisondusuave
    @maisondusuave Před 2 lety +1

    Everyone's supposed to be nice!

  • @ikeaub
    @ikeaub Před 2 lety

    Wow, such an act of politeness to even consider writing a reference to someone who had been mean to you clearly puts you head and shoulders above mean spirited people.

  • @Renayng2305
    @Renayng2305 Před 6 lety +3

    Love you ;)

  • @totosheyi
    @totosheyi Před 3 lety +5

    When I am truly angry I am very polite... A true take down is calculated. I need you to know that I'm coming for you. Hihihi

  • @Rick3795
    @Rick3795 Před 3 lety +2

    she is soooo beautiful

  • @elineeugenie5224
    @elineeugenie5224 Před 4 lety +3

    Very good advice from NATO😉

  • @muhammedsuleiman6480
    @muhammedsuleiman6480 Před 2 lety +1

    She's proud of Africa

  • @ogonebasiamang2163
    @ogonebasiamang2163 Před rokem

    Very interesting interview

  • @amokeodotobios
    @amokeodotobios Před 6 lety +3

    Supermax!

  • @megeez
    @megeez Před 4 lety +4

    I was only interested in what Chimamanda has to say. but the old lady is good too.

    • @LaVictoireRosee
      @LaVictoireRosee Před 3 lety

      Mary Beard has some excellent books. I recommend her essay Women and Power.

  • @topgurl9313
    @topgurl9313 Před 2 lety +1

    Chimamanda is actually very funny as well as smart 😂💖

  • @MyAkachi
    @MyAkachi Před 5 lety +9

    loooooool @ 11:00 "What are you even supposed to do? Are you supposed to bow down?"

  • @brightirene7695
    @brightirene7695 Před 3 lety +1

    The aim of being outspoken person in society,is to open the minds of those that are aware and unawares,to let them know what is going around them that might be acceptable to them but,uncomfortable to others. I my right about this?

  • @lavenderflowers1075
    @lavenderflowers1075 Před 3 lety +3

    Reducing ourselves to just male or female; black or white etc is really sad. Humans are more than that.

  • @DirtyFastingLife
    @DirtyFastingLife Před 2 lety +6

    White privelge allows you to be NICE...you don't have to be angry...what are you fighting for??..Nothing...

  • @mojoyindurotoye6896
    @mojoyindurotoye6896 Před 6 lety +45

    i wish she said "no ... arrogance."

    • @louise-yo7kz
      @louise-yo7kz Před 5 lety +3

      Be firm in your sentiment

    • @tulifranz9336
      @tulifranz9336 Před 4 lety

      Mojoyin Durotoye , why not?? What's wrong with it??

    • @nomfundogcabashe9572
      @nomfundogcabashe9572 Před 4 lety +2

      Perhaps her confidence come across as arrogance. Let people think whatever, we are done with fighting and trying to explain ourselves

    • @mojoyindurotoye6896
      @mojoyindurotoye6896 Před 4 lety

      Tuli Franz because she said what she said the first time

    • @mojoyindurotoye6896
      @mojoyindurotoye6896 Před 4 lety

      Nomfundo Gcabashe she said arrogance and the woman corrected her when she knew what she was saying

  • @gbemietryphoza
    @gbemietryphoza Před 2 lety

    ❤️❤️❤️🔥🔥🔥🔥

  • @ogyaherd9667
    @ogyaherd9667 Před 2 lety

    "..politeness is a mechanism of control."

  • @menberedegefu7505
    @menberedegefu7505 Před 3 lety +1

    Always great to hear Chimamanda's POV. They shake their core it is funny to see all those white men , it is written all over their faces!

  • @mineamen4431
    @mineamen4431 Před 5 lety +1

    what if we teach both daughter and son to cry and they start getting change their attitude to be more emotion and week over things, how could we respond to bring them back to be stronger? Anyway, I like your both brilliant advice

    • @glorymasesa8860
      @glorymasesa8860 Před 4 lety +9

      Being emotional does not necessarily equate to being weak

    • @cathykaeshow7779
      @cathykaeshow7779 Před 4 lety +4

      Crying when you are hurt has a bigger strength to it than just brushing it off.

  • @richardbirmingham5585
    @richardbirmingham5585 Před 3 lety +2

    chimamanda ...does it demean her brains to say she is HOT!

  • @oonaallen9550
    @oonaallen9550 Před 2 lety

    True black achievement is unremarkable, it shouldn’t be, just expected

  • @wy7128
    @wy7128 Před 4 lety +1

    lmao. this is funny.

  • @john_air
    @john_air Před 2 lety

    because you once thought you had to
    now you question that beleif and start to challange it
    thus no more
    good job

  • @MsMEAGAIN1
    @MsMEAGAIN1 Před 5 lety +4

    Why would someone threaten rape!? I don't understand!

    • @laurelpeterman4995
      @laurelpeterman4995 Před 3 lety +2

      Don't read comments then because that garbage is everywhere...and that's just CZcams

  • @DirtyFastingLife
    @DirtyFastingLife Před 2 lety +2

    Nothing wrong with getting your teeth cleaned and descaled...that is just basic tho..😁

  • @krishnarajbastola50
    @krishnarajbastola50 Před 4 lety

    Like

  • @ogyaherd9667
    @ogyaherd9667 Před 2 lety

    "...we have arrogance for breakfast every morning... (joking - i mean confidence..)"
    [moderator - arrogance?!?!?]

  • @DirtyFastingLife
    @DirtyFastingLife Před 2 lety +1

    Hold up she's 55 years old?????

    • @graceygrumble
      @graceygrumble Před 2 lety +2

      No, she is mid-sixties, but when she was 55, A.A. Gill was offended that such a woman should appear on TV. She wasn't decorative enough for him.
      He'd like women on TV in America, because they all have to be good-looking. At 55, if they haven't been shoved out of the door already, they've had work done!

  • @saathviksuresh6452
    @saathviksuresh6452 Před 4 lety +1

    Well that's changed now hasn't it. Masculinity is now taught to be violent. So now it's a little hypocritical isnt it

    • @vroxxzz
      @vroxxzz Před 4 lety +1

      What do you mean by it's 'taught to be violent'? Do you think we teach it or its encouraged or it exists and we just allow it? Surely not- if anything i would have thought that violence in general and masculine violence in particular, is increasingly frowned upon.

    • @saathviksuresh6452
      @saathviksuresh6452 Před 4 lety +1

      @@vroxxzz I'm agreeing with you. Masculinity isnt toxic. People are saying it is when it's just being a male. Toxic masculinity isnt real it's just being a dick.

    • @cathykaeshow7779
      @cathykaeshow7779 Před 4 lety +1

      Toxic masculinity exists it's different according to where you are from.

    • @saathviksuresh6452
      @saathviksuresh6452 Před 4 lety

      @@cathykaeshow7779 in first world countries like the us or the uk. Not the rape capital of the world

    • @Churros1616
      @Churros1616 Před 2 lety

      @@saathviksuresh6452 being male does not mean you are masculine, being masculine does not mean you are tóxic. Toxic masculiniteit is a specific kind of masculinity. You change the narrative and act as if people say masculinity is toxic.

  • @swankyangelo8527
    @swankyangelo8527 Před 2 lety

    My mom does not look 55. You look 80. Don’t know what she’s talking about! I can’t understand or keep up

  • @jueshua148
    @jueshua148 Před 6 lety +23

    That was strange that she suggested that women, at 55 years old who look better than her, must have had "work done". She is obviously referring to plastic surgery, and not going to the gym. That is a hell of a thing to say, especially from a so called feminist.

    • @chikadim3772
      @chikadim3772 Před 6 lety +2

      dont mind her,my mum is more thann 55 and she looks very good,she doesnt even work out and she has not done any plastic surgery.

    • @diamond852
      @diamond852 Před 6 lety +21

      Why am I not surprised that you're adding to what she said to make it sound worse than what she said. At no point did she talk about better looks. She specifically mentioned things like grey hair, which isn't about looking better; it's about looking older. But you decided to display your own biases with your paraphrase. She should have done a better job of not putting all older women in the same category because there are many who don't age as much. Still, you obviously have issues.

    • @diamond852
      @diamond852 Před 6 lety +4

      talk2me9ja You should have at least watched the video to know tho the op was referring to.

    • @diamond852
      @diamond852 Před 6 lety +5

      talk2me9ja You want to know why Africans are not respected? Because people like you make ignorant comments like yours and show that they have no comprehension skills because even when they are told that they're commenting on the wrong person they still go ahead and run their mouths. A sensible person would have realised that I was trying to tell them that the original post was not about Chimamanda. I'm sure you haven't even understood what I've just said.

    • @diamond852
      @diamond852 Před 6 lety +9

      talk2me9ja Who cares about what you think and whom you respect? Actually I'd be very worried if I were respected by someone who doesn't understand plain English and who is too lazy to know what he/she is talking about but who doesn't let the emptiness of his/her understanding stop him/her from displaying foolishness to the world. The Africans I know are thankfully not like you but you give them a bad name. Grow up.

  • @dereksamueldani7336
    @dereksamueldani7336 Před 4 lety +7

    Feminism is as problematic as Masculism. Both worldviews are incomplete. Just to be a man is to love a woman and respect her. Just to be a woman is to love and respect him. The world is beautiful. Be in love with the world.

    • @okeekpagha2126
      @okeekpagha2126 Před 3 lety +3

      You frame feminism and masculinity only in the romantic relationship which is very limiting. Broaden your view, then listen to this interview again, maybe it will make more sense to you

  • @clarak.mallah4137
    @clarak.mallah4137 Před 3 lety

    I'm glad he was punished for it! Why will you insult someone's private part? Disgusting!

  • @Rachel57567
    @Rachel57567 Před 3 lety

    Laughter as a response to sexism? It’s not funny, Mary...

  • @nyembsafric1
    @nyembsafric1 Před 4 lety +1

    Nice...lies

  • @jonmartin7343
    @jonmartin7343 Před 6 lety +3

    FFS I actually like Mary Beard, didst know she was an SJW pity. :/

  • @PamelaNam
    @PamelaNam Před 4 lety

    Race is not an identity marker in Nigeria? Whites and orientals are constantly being reminded that they owe the blacks something.

    • @philiswambhele1590
      @philiswambhele1590 Před 4 lety +7

      Don't they?

    • @okeekpagha2126
      @okeekpagha2126 Před 3 lety +5

      For a Nigerian, that's not their problem at all. Because most people Nigerians interact with are other Nigerians. For white and orientals who are the minority in this country, it's understandable how this can be their reality. But, based on chimamanda's experience as a Nigerian, it makes sense that she can say this.

    • @Churros1616
      @Churros1616 Před 2 lety

      Who are the blacks? Do you live in Nigeria? Chimamanda is speaking for her experience, obviously white Nigerians and Asian Nigerian can tell their experience about living in Nigeria as a minority. Their experience is different from Chimamanda her experience as a Yoruba Nigerian woman is differsnt, she didn’t realize her race because the majority of the people in Nigeria are Nigerian.