HOW GHANAIAN SOCIETY SEES THE TYPICAL GHANAIAN MAN #1
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- HOW THE GHANAIAN SOCIETY SEES THE TYPICAL GHANAIAN MAN | GHANA CULTURE 01
This video is exclusively my observation and experiences as a typical Ghanaian male in a Ghanaian Society. Others may have a different view on this topic but most are similar. Therefore this isn't an exact behavior of our society but the general observations made.
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I’m American living in cape Coast and we either have to move out when we have a job or help pay bills. If you don’t have a job, you have to be in college or university. But if you disrespect your parents because you feel that you are grown, your parents will put you out, job or not.
Amen 🙏 My African American🌹 Sister, Amen 🙏.
Same here in the US.
Haha a the disrespect part is what most of us here don't really do just the African child is educated to respect and the slight disrespect WI land u places u don't wanna be. Welcome to cape coast officially
@@EkowSimpson Aww ok
Ekow this is an excellent series and conversation. In speaking with Ghanaian men that have never traveled outside of the country the stress to conform to societal norms is real! The problem with that is the elders know the conditions of Ghana. Most men are not able to get educated beyond high school and if they do, like you said the pay is still not good. So how can they expect you to get married, have children, build a house and take care of extended family if the economic means are not there? I do love the communal aspect of the society. You all take care of each other, but the expectations of the man are grand and like you said causes stress and depression.
On the other end of the spectrum is the African American man that is expected to go to college (get in debt), get a job and get out of the home to get himself together to prepare for his future wife (if that is what he chooses) and children. My sons are 26 and 22 (youngest is still in college). I have taught them to get yourself together FIRST, then take on a wife and children, home, etc. In the US it is a very individualist type society. Every man (and woman) for him or herself. This creates a downfall in the AA home. AA men are not expected to take care of there extended family because it is understood that your parents should already have a career and taking care of themselves. Now they are expected to step up and take care of their parents when their parents can no longer take care of themselves due to mostly health reasons. And it is mainly the female in the family that takes the lead in caring for the parents.
This is going to be a great series because if a person in the diaspora plans to move to Ghana, they have to have a clear understanding of society norms and they have to understand what role “the man” plays in the Ghanaian culture because it will affect a woman that is dating or plan to marry a Ghanaian man.
Question for you Ekow … do you agree with the societal norms or expectations placed on the Ghanaian man?
Such a great submission and insight on your culture.
And to answer your question no I don't accept that or those nroms. Some of them are too unnecessary
If you like, I would love to be on the panel and share with the diaspora about my experiences over the last 8 yrs if you choose to do a conversation from that perspective
Sure thing I will create a link for that and then we good to go
In America it’s circumstantial. If you in the hood you just blessed to make it out alive. 18 is a blessing to see. Marriage as a whole isn’t pushed in any community it’s actually looked as a trap sadly. Nothing is much traditional but being a man is universal In having the heart to want to be build and work toward something
the ghanaian system really makes the man so hard that he cannot handle certain things
In the US it’s tricky because it all depends on the cultures. It’s a cultural melting pot. While it’s a general US culture it’s also specifically cultural norms based on the ethnic group/race. It’s also the conservative cultures vs the liberal cultures.
For example I’m African American and I’m expected to marry, help out with my parents, because my parents, and grand parents did the same.
However most African Americans are not expected of these things.
We don’t have to have a house. An apartment is ok. But most African American guys are expected to have “swag” dress nice, have a nice car, make good money, and take women out on dates and pay for everything.
I see things are pretty much difference but the same in the sense that some of the things u mentioned are expected but not forced on people.
This is a very powerful video understanding the Ghanaian perspective and experience. Please continue this series next referring to the Ghanaian women and her perspective!
Sure thats the next topic
Thanks for the great insight, i am beginning to get a feel of the impact of the culture on the Ghanaian man. Please make more of such videos. New subscriber here!
sure more of such videos are coming our way, thanks for watching and share this video pls
I am USA. And truly the similarities are just about the same. Or once was. Nowadays, people are less likely to push the 18 year old out the door because of public forums speaking up more about if the parent isn't raising them or sending them out to the streets prepared than the streets will raise them and the outcome isn't favorable. Back in the days long ago, men were prepared better because of the trades learned in schools and the time put in at home. Reality t.v., and pretense is raising the children today. Materialistic matters is raising the children today and if the girls are making babies then the grandmother/parents are raising that child.
Fastforward, adolescents and young adults are waking up and have dreams and making plans. It is almost correct to say that the children are becoming the caregivers of the adults for several reasons but not because they want to as an honor. It can be an automatic honor but depending on what was instilled in the child from birth. Women are becoming the college grads at a much more rapid pace that men. They want Glam and Boss attitude!! If Americans were forced to do what Ghanaian children do the results wouldn't be the best because I don't feel that respect exist as much for the household, elders or the Law.
I have been Bless when it comes to the life and situation of my only child which is a son.
Everything that you have described is very true about the pressures of "boys to men" in Ghana or "boys to boys" in Ghana because not many of them are ready or are equipped when they come to their women offering to be a spouse. They become burdens and "WE" as the wives have to raise the children and them too because they lack mental, emotional, sexual maturity. The women just deal with it. It isn't necessarily peaches and cream because of what they LACK.
As an American woman who married a Ghanaian man, originally it seemed all precious and beautiful after and during my teaching him everything FOR OVER 5 YEARS, but then, I begin to experience ABUSE.
DO YOU HAVE A EPISODE FOR THE EXPLANATION OF ABUSE FROM GHANA MEN???
wow this a great insight there , thanks for adding up and making us all learn
I think these cultural traditions are a great idea.
None of these things apply in the US and it has resulted in various social issues:
High single mother rate & Crime
High Homelessness Rate
Elders rotting away in Nursing homes
What I see now is younger Africans especially in major cities adopting American culture and you guys too will soon start to have the same issues i highlighted above.
It's glad u have expressed and given insight as to the effect of not having such cultural values. Yes there seem to be a lot the diaspora here and they surely exhibit their culture. Same way the Africans on the land upload their culture
So perfectly said!! Its coming very fast, and its damn scary! The west has managed to permeate into the clean, pure, and traditional African culture! So so sad! It started from the introduction of the INTERNET! I call them the INTERNET GENERATION! It takes me back to a statement my ever intelligent father who was way ahead of his time, made, way back in the 70s, which we were too young to understand, but now, we caught up with it, and so sad to watch! " people should be careful what they ask for, too much modernization, will eventually cause u to lose your FREEDOM!" Yes, my daddy said this in the 70s. I'm just glad he's not here to see what the internet exposure has done to the generations! The traditional way of living is disappearing, everyone is exposed to the western world so readily and easily, they've all left home to go and chase whatever they see on their free CNN, their computers, countless private tv stations, so no one to take care of the elderly like traditional was established, they all want to have money and most importantly obsessed with owning CARS, (they seriously see this metal on wheels as tangible status, sad!), etc, to see themselves as having arrived and made it, before the girls will go out with u,(what a shame). The ones who couldnt travel have abandoned their traditional homes and run off to the big cities, with very limited education or almost none, so end up just flailing about in the cities, left their beautiful, healthy, clean villages, so they dont want to farm anymore, so now, the chinese and Europeans have taking over the villages and farming and making boat loads of money, etc.etc. I can go on and on and on,etc. Sadly watching the traditional, enviable, African way of living, that makes us unique, disappearing, and it's sadly creating such confusion and chaos, becos they are trying to force two different cultures to work, no, it cant work! Humans can only survive in one space consistently! U cant force a square peg in a round whole...(hope I said it right). If only our GREATEST GENERATION were here to see what more foolishness we have allowed the "others" to inflict on us! They already allowed a little if it to affect our way of living, i.e., the British way of living, now, this generation are forcing the American way of living to destroy the African unique way of living! Ugh, I could cry!
I also wanted to add this Ekow in America unfortunately sex is publicized more to the society than positive good relationships of married couples it is based on your perception and the way that you grow up on whether you feel like a marriage can bring you more stability but I guarantee that in our society that kids know more about sex more than they know about what a good husband and a good wife is because in our society in America they promote sex all the time 24/7 and they promote relationships that are dysfunctional not positive marriages on purpose
oh wow , that is way different , so in America sex is like a normal thing for everyone . wow im really learning from this
Thank you for sharing this Eco because as a American woman that dates a lot of Ghanaian men in America because I live by a US military base and in my city it's a lot of Ghanaian it's a lot of Nigerian Cameroon Senegalese it's a lot and this what you told what you said is one of my biggest issues with the African man when they come to the US because when I see African men that have three jobs and they don't get any sleep and they don't have any fun and they never get to enjoy what they work hard for I always wonder why and what you said about them having to take care of their family or their frowned upon this is exactly what I am coming to understand is the reason why they work that hard but me as an American lady I'm trying to figure out how I can actually be with the Ghanaian man and find balance with him when he has that type of a burden on his head it's very very difficult but thank you for this video it's so I opening and it is very very true that that there's specific things in your culture that are different and because of that we have to find a balance to be able to date an intermingle with each other
Yes. It's mostly the same in the US, I'd say. Except that there's a trend of placing elders in old people homes sadly.
yes that side is kinda funny tho but its serious when u are to take care of ur mum but u put them in old people home.
In the US, we are not expected to buy our parents a home, as, that is the responsibility of the parents. Young adults are expected to get their own place(apartment or house). If I choose to buy a home for my parents, that is quite rare and awesome.
right but here is kinda different, and thats the stress part
@@EkowSimpson Thank you for sharing and may GOD bless you Ekow Simpson in all you do.
You are helping us in the Diaspora and may the help be returned back to you 100 fold💜
@@africandreamsinhaze365 amen
This is very good, I was in Ghana will soon go back, yes there is some difference men are not forced to marry however, there is respect for them if they choose to marry as far as after 18 living in your parents home in the US is a no, no however, not saying it do not happen but the norm is either you go to college or get a trade start a bank account if they intend to stay in their parent home , but the difference in families they are not expected to take care of extended family however, it's up to the couple if they want to contribute each household is different.So as parents get old the children will probably take care of them in some cases; most parents have worked and have accumulated their own. This is a good topic, but you are right need to continue. I really love the mother land but there is topic of discussion that need to be addressed as well the US. Thanks !
Very well said and we will continue to give out the relevant information on the Ghanaian society
Yes I think too much pressure put on the men I am a Caribbean woman and I'm in love with a Ghanaian man I love him and I respect him and I am going to make his life much easier and better
Great topic Sun!
Thanks
Well the culture here in the US is a little different. There is the expectation of getting married and having children, but, not to the point of stress. Many married couples in the US choose to not have children. And there are many that do not marry.
that issue with not having children is nice but here , no way, u need to have a child by all means LOL
Hey Ekow excellent piece. Keep the good work you are doing up. Liked your cape coast tourism promotional video as well. Sound track was good. Which artist played that song, with the guy on the jet ski.
thanks for the kind words, i will look into that and send u the song title
@@EkowSimpson Thanks Ekow and very grateful. Will get in touch when coming to Ghana next.
Here in my island our parents welcome us to stay as long as we want. It is up to you to make the decision of moving out or having your own place. No one give you hassle about it unless you do not want to get married. Your friends might make some comments but just making fun. A lot of men do.not get married at all. Some would have children from a lot of sisters and do not marry anyone at all. No body would pressurise you about it. This culture you refer to would make the brothers leave and won't come back home. It would be too much to handle. 😆
definitely too much to handle
That's my man ♂️🇬🇭🇬🇭
u are welcome my brother
And that is exactly why the society will remain poor
yes and it will be hard to get us out of that
Ekow, why are you not married, Player 🐇? 😀
Hahaha I'm married with 2 kids
@@EkowSimpson Wow, 😀 my bad, thats great! Congratulations 🎊 👏 🥳! God Bless 🙌 You and🙌 Your Beautiful🌹Wife and Kids. 🙏
@@EkowSimpson How many side pieces for chairman? I bet you and Rashad McCrorey got all the babes,,,lol lol lol