Afternoon Tea Etiquette With Miss Sue Flay
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- Afternoon Tea Etiquette With Miss Sue Flay - Ever wondered about the correct way to eat a scone? Jam first or clotted cream first? How do you stir your tea properly?
Here are some fun top tips on afternoon tea etiquette - by etiquette rebel "Miss Sue Flay".
One of my very first afternoon tea videos (simply for FUN - before the hate mail arrives!)... No, high tea is not just at a high table, I am aware... it’s more of a full meal, with a cooked element and usually served later in the day... this video was edited (shocker!) and doesn’t include ALL information.
And no, I NEVER usually allow my dog to drink from my China, I AGREE, it’s not nice... but I was asked to for the purposes of this video and I’ll forever regret that choice, but please, no need for the nasty comments, I’m well aware of my human error. Eddy actually has his own Instagram account (@EddysLastYears) and is currently dying due to cancer, so any vile comments would be better kept to yourself, just please be kind... it would be most appreciated.
In fact, if you’re here for a truly serious lesson in etiquette, please go & search for a boring and stiff-upper lipped etiquette coach elsewhere (there’s plenty of those out there with silver spoons in places you wouldn’t want silver spoons!) - afternoon tea is supposed to be fun and my best advice is to enjoy HOWEVER you like, life’s too short to be told how to fold a napkin... seriously! Thanks so much for stopping by.
Visit: misssueflay.com...
Important: NEVER stick out your finger either you hold a tea cup or a glass. You cannot apply in the XXIc. what was considered a good manner [and depicted in painting] if the XVIII and XIX cc (at least definitely in these cases) - your will be looked and perceived like a "parvenue" . It's considered bad manners for a long time now for the very reason: 'Nouveau riches' and 'parvenues' tried too hard to copy upper class and stuck out their pinkies too mach and at any opportunity. It became a signature of bad manners vary fast [even a satire]. So, talking about manners, watch your pinkie, keep it close to your other fingers. (A historian here :))
The dog is so precious...The pinky is never out... yikes... that is worse than the dog licking the plate!! She admitted to being an etiquette rebel. Yes she is, haha!!! Very entertaining... wrong...but entertaining!!!
CC Jones it was gross, I don’t ever allow it - my videographer suggested it - now I get all this hate - it’s not pleasant, I agree.
Everyone who owns a dog loves him sipping out of a teacup! People are so very uptight.
America needs more of this.
Bill Elliott does it though?
I'd have agreed with you if she knew what she was talking about. But since she was just making shit up, then no, America has enough con artists at its helm. It doesn't need any more in other areas of their lives.
I can assure you that you dont. Most of us in UK only have time for a cup of tea and a biscuit. Outside of the home it's almost impossible to get a good cup of tea here. I've had better tea in New York and Paris.
Who is this for?
Totally gives the wrong impression of British people.
No, no, no
As soon as I saw the comic book style set, I knew I was in the right place. But as an American, I am slightly fascinated by the Conish vs. Devonshire cream debate. It's kinda like the North vs South iced tea debate: Most Northerners add sugar (if any at all) after the tea is cooled while Southerners add sugar while it's steeping making official Sweet Tea.
The Brits actually don't really care about this "great debate"... we just enjoy ourselves Brooke.. it's truly the best way!
No pinky is necessary. Neither a hook.
TheMrsliferette
Indeed but what is the proper ediquette concerning tea time in your boxer shorts?
never never ever break your scone to bits!!! just into half!
Just enjoy it!
They actually did break it piece by piece in the 1800s and buttered each piece before eating
You are absolutely correct.
The Basics of Eating a Scone Properly
Scoop out clotted cream and jams onto your plate, enough for one scone.
Break apart a small bite-sized portion of scone with your hands or if using a knife, cut the scone horizontally.
Use a knife to slather on cream and jam onto the broken-off piece of scone.....
My mother would have left the table if I broke my scone in half and started taking bites out of it. That would be considered terribly rude and anything but lady like ....
I’m quite sure that if you we’re privy to finishing school you would break apart your scone into delicate bite-size pieces as is appropriate in polite society.
Love this! haha. Although as a Devonshire girl we love to have cream first then jam, the scone is merely the tool to get the cream in the mouth.
Karen Mitchell Karen, I like this... very much the tool to get cream in mouth - I Like that a lot! Miss Sue Flay ; )
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+Karen Mitchell Haha;)
She got more things wrong than she got right. If she wants to break with tradition and do things her own way in her home, then bully for her. But she made a video called afternoon tea etiquette and then proceeded to leave out all the etiquette associated with afternoon tea. So many non-English are going to watch this and think this nonsense is actually true. You never EVER stick your pinky out (that's a huge faux pas) and high tea is tea served in the early evening late afternoon period which is a full meal. That's high tea, not just tea served on a high table. And that's just for starters. How can anyone teach etiquette when they can't even hold the cup correctly? She's no expert. Just someone looking for social media attention.
Thank you so much for taking the time out to watch and for commenting, especially on Christmas Day - I'm honoured you'd waste such a day in my little space on the World Wide Web. Pinkies up.... Because why the heck not.
Arya's Kill List oh my if she's so wrong write our queen then ta.
@@sueflay9922 No. "To begin, you need to..": implying you're discussing proper etiquette. Don't be salty. Arya is making a more than fair point.
Gökotta thank you for stopping by.
@@RunninUpThatHillh Shut up.
Tea on a high dining table is not 'high tea'.
'High tea' is what you might call supper or dinner ;)
That said - it's a rather nice tea set you have and it would be nice to share a cuppa and chat :)
Slartibartfast Not an extensive guide - the film would have gone on for ever if it was ; )
Yes, they are two very different things indeed, afternoon tea and high tea. :)
I love the little touches which add to the fun of the video, such as the way you wink and your doggie sharing in the fun ! Thank you so much, I'm a fan for life !!
Great video! Glad I came across it! You've just gotten yourself another subscriber, Ms. Flay!
Thank you very much for subscribing Leo
The pinky thing came about because small porcelain cups have very small handles and made that way so you would only hold them in a dainty delicate way. this often meant that you could only use two or three fingers and hence the little finger.
Love your beautiful tea service china but the dog licking out of the gorgeous saucer , not so much👎sorry...😔
Yeh... I didn't like to do it either, but the video editor told me to ;-) It's not standard practice, worry not
Patricia Cox
I agree with you miss cox
I thought maybe doggy has his own, personal cup😊...
I can totally relate to the sausage fingers thing :D That really made me laugh, thank you! I was told to touch my thumb and first finger together into the handle, and use my middle finger to steady the cup. It works well for me!
Lisa Lewis haha enjoy 😉
Thank god I'm European. These habits are way better than what's happening on the other side of the Atlantic.
Adi D. I’m also currently European... Just saying
Thank for showing me how to stir the sugar in tea.
Thank you, it was interesting. And I want to add a comment: when I saw in the beginning of the video how you gave your dog to lick tea from the cup I felt unpleasanty and rejection. I believe people and animals should have separate dishes and cups. In the end it's good that you are interested in this topic. I feel the same way :)
I'm so glad you stopped by Vasilisa, now matter how much unpleasanty this video gave you.
i have cats and i got seperat dishes for them to i even wash them last
I love the name Sue Flay , if it is your actual name i truly apologize for the laugh it gave me . It sounds so much like the french Soufflet and i could imagine it very well being a drag queen name with a huge bouffant chignon hairdo calling her Miss Sue Flay !
Morgan Olfursson a little fun - I don’t take any of it seriously ; )
Your utterly charming and knowing wink says it all : that it's all about having fun alongside good manners . A real pleasure to watch !
Did teas with the kids when they were little, reminding them their manners were not quite up to snuff for a visit from the queen, we had great fun with that. They didn't know who the queen was and they didn't care.
Never ever smash your butler over the head with a confectionary tray,
Always remember to break wind into a hanky in front of guests.
Always smash every piece of bone china at the dinner table afterwards.
Don't Gallop a horse into the dining Area high on cocaine.
Don't say Fuck or Cunt.
Never invite the poor or homeless or insensibly Fat to an English tea party.
Don't wrestle a local Afghan hound to the ground and arrest it for Bicycle theft.
Always leave the premises very angrily with racist disdain.
Headbutt Partario Battersby Lillyhammer and Milly Trouther Longshank to thank them for their kind hospitality
Always curtsy constantly and apologise constantly while bowing and grovelling constantly, whilst consistently constantly courting crows from Croatia.
Never set fire to any beard or eyebrow.
Always turn up 4 weeks late for a tea party to make sure you get their early enough.
Always laugh at every comment.
Never ever ever, never, ever, never ever point at a tea cloth or white napkins, but always wipe your genitals after bathroom breaks with a "red" napkin.
I really hope this helps, or I will get very Angry.
Ultra Destruction Agency well, damn, it’s how I live my life... superb advice 😂👌
Hi,Could you tell me the name of the picture on the wall and
where did you purchase it? E
Also is it a canvas or poster print hard to tell but it looks beautiful. Also what size is yours looks like the perfect size for where i want to place it Would appreciate your reply.Thank you very much🌹
pinkypromise111 Yes it’s an original painting by Henderson Cisz
Okay, I must know. What is the brand name and pattern name of that gorgeous pink flowered/speckled China??
I've read where the crease faces inward not on the outward part of the lap...
What about the order in which food is eaten? I was brought up that the order was sandwiches, then scones and teabread, then plain cake, then fancy cakes, then biscuits.
Eat in which order you like Jay, stop panicking and enjoy!
What’s the difference between tea bread and a scone or regular cake? I’m not sure exactly what tea bread is specifically.
The bottom tier is first (finger sandwiches), then the middle tier (scones), then finally the top tier (desserts). So, you're correct.
very nice video and i love the china and also the painting on your wall...who is the artist? is it thomas kinkade by any chance...thanks for sharing
Janet Velazquez thanks so much - Ita by Henderson Cisz
Ok dog drinking tea in cup turned me off I stopped there I wanted to gag I have two dogs but they don't eat or drink out of our dishes.
Me too Sharon, it's gross.... I never let it happen, but the videographer wanted it for the video.... First and last time trust me 😱
Yeah I definitely hear you, I remember when I was a young child my mother had these friends who had this dog and he would literally sit at the kitchen table with them they had this chair/stool thing that he was trying to sit on and he would literally sit there at the table and they would give him a plate and he learn to sit there and eat with them and it was just out rages lol
Thank you for the thorough explanation!
I love to have High tea at 4 O'clock on the Queen Mary 2...Thank you for posting this lovely video!
It's important to note, that's it's called afternoon tea and not high tea being shown above. Many from North America seem to get the two mixed up. High tea is a more substantial meal (fish, meats, and the sort) served around dinner time. It is served at a "high table" (hence the name) and with high-backed chairs. Afternoon tea (as above) is between 3-5 pm, and is typically served on a lower table with lower chairs.. These days.. not always so anymore.
Dunking?. No no no. Tea is not chocolate. It's something delicate, and finding crumbs in your cup it's not really nice.
You clearly know nothing about etiquette firstly you fold the napkin in half and dab your mouth withe the inside so it doesn't go on your clothes or the floor! We also use the thumb and the index finger to pinch the cup then use the middle finger to hold I up. You only split the scone once which is in half !
Clearly.
JE Photography UK - relax! It is not life and death!
Love your dog and great to see he participated in the event.
Thank you ! Miss Souflee !
Oh my gosh, a zombie tea party?! Yes please!!
Books With B So much blood... so much fun!
do u have and jammie sandwich recipies and tea recommendations for someone who is trying to throw a tea party just for fun
Blake reeder I think Google would be your friend ; )
I struggle a lot with my pinky, is always up because it hurts when i try to relax it. People sometimes tell i look "snob" because of of that.
Tea and decor looks wonderful. I'm looking for the tea cup strainer. Any suggestions 🤔
This video is great! I was just wondering the difference of a traditional afternoon tea for the cream tea
I am amazed of having do many wrong teachingd about afternoon tea etiquette nowadays including this video！
Jackie it’s simply my take and if you don’t like it, feel free to share your own tips ✨
I LOVE your beautiful tea cups. Can you tell me where you got them? Thank you for such a great video!
Thanks so much - a random mix of antiques and Wedgwood :-)
You are absolutely charming, Miss Flay. You are most welcome for tea here in Spain.
Mark Woldin thank you very much - you’ll regret that invite ; )
Really good video...... but you should only break your scones in half, you should never dunk biscuits and when holding your tea cup pinch your thumb and index finger in the handle and let it rest on your third finger; your other fingers should lay underneath, they must not all be on the handle.
I think she made this up herself! afternoon tea!
Didn't warm the tea pot or the tea cups.
How do you know I didn’t warm them up?...
Awww sweet....ms. Soufflé 💕
Hi miss sue. I love your video. I watched some of those afternoon tea videos on youtube. I love all of them. Afternoon tea is such a beautiful tradition.
May you have a tipp for me... How do i ensure that i can enjoy my tea hot. I love love love to have it hot. In porcelaine temperature goes down quite quickly. For that reason i bought a turkish tea pot. It provides excellent and hot tea.
But i ADORE all this china porcelaine tea services too. Do you have some tricks to share... how to serve hot tea with a traditional china porcelaine tea service?
Big hug and thank for the lovely video.
I would be so paranoid to have afternoon tea with people. Then again, I'm an American.
It's great fun David, you should try it ☕️
David Barnhart Same here and ditto!
Ha! Excellent vid! “Breaking Bad” tea party? Without the blue meth, I hope! Or perhaps with and that’s what makes you rebel!
Then you would need some chicken from Los Pollos Hermonos. But that might be another never, never.
"because of my big sausage fingers" ... xD
The strainer..put it on the table?
no frills just enjoy tea at time suits you
As an American, I will take my tea in a mug and I will put my milk in after as I need to gauge the strength of the tea. Honestly, I am just here for the pastries and good conversation. Everything else is of no interest. Except for your awesome looking dog. If the dog just happens to get a bit of scone while we’re chatting, more’s the better.
My friend and I are hosting a tea for the women at church. My big question is, what do you do at teas besides eat and drink? Are there any fun games you play to bring the women together?
Kimberly Glunz I’m sure google is your friend here - I never really played games, but enjoyed playing music/inviting live musicians to play...
Hygiene is more important than formal affectation!
The piece of gum I just scraped off the bottom of my shoe is more important than formal affectation.
Holding the quality of someones character to ransom over pointless and arbitrary rules of etiquette is right up there as one of the most imbecilic things people can do.
To be honest guys, I don't follow my own advice, it's simply for fun if you are interested in the topic and the "proper ways"....
... Please note this is very Tongue-In-Cheek - you really don't need to panic yourselves.
First, only and last time my dog ever did that.... all for fun, I actually found it a bit gross myself, so don't need to tell me twice.
August Kling
Well I guess that cancels out tea time In my boxers sans skid marks
Is it etiquette to serve tea to your guests on an Americanised oversized sofa?
kaashee No, you’re probably right, I should really be sat on my tuffet, eating my curds & whey....
What about the talk? What does one talk about, Miss Sue?
Anything you like - maybe just no hateful discussion, and avoid discussing religion, politics & money...
Delightful!
Allow me to give you an advice of "proper etiquette".. NEVER let your dog eat or drink out of your cups and plates.. NASTY!
Eve agreed, read my other comments below on this, I NEVER usually do this, I was asked to for this video for fun and forever regret that... now, please continue to BE KIND. Thank you.
A good choice of name! I nearly fell for it!
Very nice!, I've had many tea parties and friends love them! Better than the Ritz! ..... where do u get the heart shaped sugar?
Isabel Bagioli John Lewis (British department store ; )
Thanks.. I was educated.. 😊
Thanks for this! I cant wait to try this!
The English are refining me.
How do you know whether you're getting Cornish or Devonshire creams? They look the same. I'm an American, by the way.
They are the same its a bit of snob value.....however clotted cream is cornish .....clotted cream is just baked in oven then chilled it makes for a thick cream.and intensifies the flavour almost butter like...
The grass in the region is very lush and green making for rich cream
coashddjj2 Cornish crown their scone with cream on top 😉 If you head to my blog you can also see a behind-the-scenes tour of Roddas Clotted Cream... it was an honour!
@@sueflay9922 Thank you 🙂
You lost me when you allowed a dog to slurp in that cup of tea. No thank you.
Patrina Copeland Nah it was gross, I don’t ever allow it - my videographer suggested it - now I get all this hate - it’s not pleasant, I agree.
Patrina Copeland - loosen up! It was a joke!
I loved that the dog was offered some tea!
One of those embarassing people who try but never quite succeed at getting it right.
....Story of my life
Is the clotted cream sweetened, just curious.
Thank you. You have a beautiful tea set!
Nice vid. But dunking a biscuit not so good I think. Spoils the tea anyway.
Bluewren Reilly no rules - the tea police wont come get you if you do decide to dunk ; )
Finger sandwiches first, then scones, then cakes...
Dunking biscuits are very bad manners.... I know, because i do it !
You can't really take her seriously when her name is soufflet.
Louis Auguste De France It’s Miss Sue Flay actually...
Miss Soufflé
Hihi, sorry I got that first.
Lovely video, though.
Did you know , by any chance, that was brought into England by Princess Catarina de Braçança, daughter of His Magesty The King João IV of Portugal, when she married King Charles II of England, around 1660? The Princess introduced the habit of drinking tea at any time during the day as she was used to in Portugal while living with her parents The King and Queen Of Portugal, back in the 17 century. Much later , in the XIX century The 7ª Duchess of Bedford introduced the "five o'clock tea in London.
Thanks for you
Now I can invite tea party
interesting :-)
I Love Tea.
Thank you..
What is the point of putting your pinky up??
The Grand America in Salt Lake City Utah USA, please visit and video!
Hello Miss Sue Flay, I watch your afternoon tea and love your gold tea spoons, I love to buy tiny tea spoon and a tiny gold tea fork to use it with cake....PLEASE HELP ME WHERE CAN I PURCHASE THOSE SPOONS AND FORKS IF THEY SALE A TINY FORK TOO....I hope to hear from you soon......Thank You so much for your help !!!!!
Hi Kristi - I'm afraid these are antique spoons from a local antique shop in Ely, Cambridgeshire, so I've no idea where these would be purchased, I'm very sorry! Good luck on your hunt!
Hi Sue Flay, 'Well" Thanks if you ever find out an Antique Shop that sell those pretty TINY GOLD SPOON AND FORK,,,,,PLEASE let me know, would very much appreciated :)
Thank You Sue !
Sue Flay I don't have a tiny gold spoon, so I use my regular size silver spoon for my tea time....I don't like it at all because my silver spoon is too big, the color does not match. My tea cup, saucer, tea pot and tea caddy all have a gold trim ... I'm still looking, hope one day soon I can find a store that sell tiny gold spoon and fork !
Very nice 👍👍
I loved your video, It is a really a good inspiration for people
Thank you very much, just a little bit of fun : )
come to Hyderabad, India we got Irani chai and osmani biscuit
Dos:
Drink
Eat
Enjoy
Don't:
Don't do things at expense of etiquette and other people
As someone from England, you should only care whether you and your guests are enjoying your time. Stop wasting your time on etiquette, you're just drinking tea and eating cake and scones. It's an enjoyable event, don't make it hard and annoying for yourself
Connor Moorhouse Simply a bit of old English fun - agreed Connor, best to enjoy it however you like... I prefer my zombie teaparties, much more fun!
True, life is too short and etiquette rules may be cool but enjoying your life to the fullest the way you want is even cooler! One rule we should all follow: avoid toxic, full of negativity people and choose our friends wisely...
hello miss souffle ;) lolllll
Deeping anything in your tea is a no-no for three reasons: 1) we bring food to our mouths not the other way round, as the biscuit gets soggy there is a risk of it breaking or tea dripping midway. It looks disgusting and makes you look like a toddler. 2) you are depreciating the tea you are being served. It shows that either in your opinion it is a cheap tea that requires extra flavour, or you are unable to distinguish good from cheap and it is so that you don't mind tainting good tea with biscuit flavour, you might offend the host. 3) your cup will look a mess in the end. Some people might disinvite you in future just to avoid the tea deeping ritual.
Sue flay ??? Funny. My name is bru lay, of course. Please to meet cha. B, il.
M Watts- Riley Haha what are the chances? Nice to “meet” you...
And how do you drink your tea? I was to slurp quietly so that you get all flavours of your tea, is that right?
Patti, making a sound is traditionally said to be rude, no slurping.... However I say do what you like - it's rude to point out people's bad habits, so just go for it!
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#CreamB4Jam
Omg another ridiculous video on how to vandalised the sophisticated and civilised afternoon tea.....take it down
fran mellor Cheers for stopping by Fran and wasting minutes of your life with me - I’m honoured
@@sueflay9922 Do you have any rebuttals? I assume not since you give the same response to everyone that tells you your information is blatantly incorrect.
Gökotta Do you know what? I’m actually grieving currently, following the death of somebody very close to me, so none of this is very important and your rudeness simply isn’t necessary. Please, why can’t people just be nice human beings instead of trolling and just being damn rude?
@@RunninUpThatHillh The comment never corrected her, wich automatically means it's not feedback and it's just destructive opinion. It's just an I-Hate-This-Take-It-Down comment.
this was one of the best videos I have seen on afternoon tea. I am shocked that you don't have more subscribers!
Thank you very much Dee Dee!
I'm guessing because everything she advised is incorrect and actual tea drinkers are aware of that fact. No one is going to subscribe to someone giving them faulty and potentially embarrassing advice.
FiPinkin'sup
"Etti-ket"?
I have a good question?!
Love the heart-shaped sugar cubes! Where did you get them?
Good old John Lewis 💕
Lovely video, quite comical when you called your fingers sausages! Lol
Low tea on a low table and high tea on a high table. You are kidding right?
No, I'm deadly serious... It's important life skills you're learning here... 😂
Miss Sue Flay You either have afternoon tea at any sized table or high tea which is A different meal altogether.
Miss Sue Flay Try Googling High Tea to discover what it is all about.
+tnurse50 great idea, I will do, thanks : )
what about the harmful bacteria in doggy's mouth? eewwwwww!
S A Q Agreed - I hate that too - my videographer asked me to do it against my usual rules and I’m eternally paying for it... 😳
Is that Kates engagement ring?