why does this have to be a thing 😭 i feel like im cursed with this stupid anxiety. i can't be like this forever, ill never get through life if im afraid of speaking to people 😭
Here, but I've got to have my phone on me 24 hours waiting on a phone call.... Really scared, but comforting to know so many others struggle with this.
This is just superb, I been tryin to find out about "how to help someone with extreme social anxiety" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Ever heard of - Telaavar Anxious Amanita - (Have a quick look on google cant remember the place now )? It is a great one off guide for removing the root cause of social anxiety without the hard work. Ive heard some great things about it and my work buddy got excellent results with it.
This was great, I been tryin to find out about "social anxiety debilitating" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Ever heard of - Telaavar Anxious Amanita - (do a google search )? It is a smashing exclusive guide for removing the root cause of social anxiety without the headache. Ive heard some incredible things about it and my mate at last got great results with it.
@@jayswrld1447 SAME! I literally have to call one of my teachers to do a stupid quiz on the phone or something. IM SO SCARED. I only have 8 minutes until I have to call
it’s so weird, the act of dialing a number and hearing the phone ring is infinitely worse than actually talking on the phone. my anxiety is up during this but once someone answers and i respond, i calm down, cause they’re more often nice than not. 🙄🙄 why it gotta be like this
At my work place every time the phone rings I freeze. And now that im learning phones it'll be my turn so im not excited about tomorrow. Especially if its a super complicated order im afraid ill freeze or mess up. Hopefully I won't have to 😔
So far all of these videos skip over the casual phone call, between family members, friends, and potential friends. The open ended, unpredictability of these types of calls makes my anxiety amp up a lot. More so than a call with a specific purpose
I know what you mean. I feel like doing meditation or some calming breathing for 5 minutes or longer before the call can help a lot. Though often im not disciplined enough to do that myself.
This is so true . Casual phone calls with people I know are worst . I am so scared that what should I say next , what to talk , what response should I give . I even mess up badly in these talks.
I’m scared of phone calls with new online friends because I have the strong fear that my relationship with them is only “virtual” (with texts) and once we actually talk with our voice we have nothing to say and can’t keep the conversation going. it applies to meeting in real life too. this would be a big let down for me, as I sadly have high expectations, so I would feel like I “lost” that person just because the call wouldn’t match how we text and it would destruct my perfect idea of friendship with them. I would like to overcome this fear though because I’m sure there are some people out there who are passionate about how they text just as how they talk, be it a call or real life conversation.
Same problem bro. I think too much before dialing a call. Sometimes I think it's a time waste. 😀if I don't call my relatives then they always goes like; why r u not calling us. Have u forgotten about us etc. So first thing we hv to do is love people, don't judge them, don't take their words seriously and make the conversation short (about 10-15 minutes) bcoz when I talk too much I start babbling rubbish . Always listen to them, understand them, don't say too much about yourself or your things, instead inquire them. Let them answer / tell for you. Don't say unnecessary things. It's some of my points that I use. Thank you.
Whenever I know I have to take a phone call, I keep dreading the day as it gets closer, running through all the bad possibilities in my head and trying to plan what to say right until the phone rings. I answer it very robotically -- letting 2 or 3 beeps go by to make it seem like I wasn't just sitting there, huddled up in a blanket and staring at the phone. Then during the call I'll be very quiet, mostly relying on strategically timed variations of "OK"; "Yeah", "Right", "Mhm", to make it sound like I'm actively listening when in reality I'm just sweating and shaking and waiting for the call to end. If it's just a random call, especially from a private number, I don't pick up. I know you can only overcome phobias by exposing yourself to them, but it's just so much stress for me, only to find out it was a spam call or something.
I've come to the point where I actually got so nervous talking to someone over the phone ,that later I started feeling dizzy and sick...still feel sick the day after
My biggest problem would be number 3. I don't seem to really have hearing problems, but I struggle SO MUCH with understanding what the person is saying when i'm talking on the phone, I get incredibly embarrased when I ask them to repeat like 2 or 3 times because I couldn't understand what they said even AFTER the repeats, and it's just really bad when I still didn't understand and just decide to answer something random like a "yeah" after that. I wish phone calls would sound more clear.
the worst ones are calls to make important appointments with people you've never talked to before (therapists, for one, ironically) or calls about job applications. those are actually the WORST. i feel like i can't breathe for days in advance
Hey guys, just calm down and think of the person on the other side of the phone as "nobody to be afraid of". Take a deep breath as phone is ringing and focus on why you called. Once I get a live person, I exhale slowly and say "yes"(exhale again) or "let's see"(exhale again) to calm my voice down, then speak as focused and clearly as possible to state why I called. If I have a question, I will start with "question" , then (a quick exhale thru mouth), and continue with my question. Those quick exhales thru mouth, go a long way to help my voice fluency! As I speak, I basically exhale wherever I would place a comma if reading text. This gives me air to carry on to my next words. Practice often. Not professional advice, just what helps me. God bless!
Brigitte Plata well just stay calm at all times don’t worry if it’s a boy that you like and just pretend it’s you’re friend that helped me calm down a lot
I don’t like calling. I have social anxiety and I’m usually quiet. Worst of all, it feels awkward af because my family would hear- or if someone walks in and embarrases me…
I always found talking on the phone stressful. I remember drawing a blank when asked to repeat a couple of simple call signs in the army. Super embarrassing. So I went nuts and got a job at a call centre. After three years of talking to people everyday - as well as talking to a lot of people on Skype - I feel a lot more comfortable. However, even now I feel anxious when receiving a call from a number I don’t recognise. But I can handle it.
I was just left a voice-mail about setting up a job interview and going to call them back has my heart pounding. Idk why but answering or dialing the phone is a big cause of anxiety for me but once I'm actually talking I'm fine 🙃
This is why back in the day it was really good that cell phones weren’t a thing. When I called a friend, I had to say, “Hi, is so and so available?” Sometimes I would have to talk to my friends parent for several minutes before hearing from them. If you had never called that home before, it’s a complete stranger if you have never met their family. It really helped me today with things like this.
same lol, i tried calling once, my voice was shaking and they kept saying "can you repeat that" i just gave the phone to my mom cuz i couldn't speak, and after that i haven't eaten pizza since
@@Sofia-bl9cb wait really....that's great. Maybe I'll try to get out of my comfort zone too. (Actually yk I have this job to calling people I get really anxious during the call....but the call is usually kinda awkwar, or maybe I feel like that. But after I saw this I think I'll try to be nice to them and listen to them that's it.) Thanks for this.
I've always been scared of phones and I was dumb enough to take a call center job... In my 3rd language, that I'm least confident in. Abusive callers that I had no way to truly help. The pay was very good, but after less than a year of denial and feeling like throwing up getting in the car in the morning, spending my breaks on the floor of a locked bathroom stall in the dark, lowering my shift to 6 hours and yet coming home at 3 pm and taking a nap everyday out of exhaustion, I quit. I had to work 2 more weeks but I just couldn't get out of bed, I went to work one day and just ran away, hid in a bathroom stall in a different place. I went to therapy 3 times before I was too crippled to go there, as well. If I don't manage to make money with art with the least amount of human interaction, I don't know what job to get to support myself. One which wouldn't make me say I'd rather die this very instant. Breathing techniques never helped, I feel this annoying knot in my stomach even during the most relaxing yoga session. Writing notes beforehand does help me concentrate a but better, but I keep having to stop myself through the day from lamenting what I said wrong.
I feel your pain man. I'd be the same in a call centre job, I just know it. Try looking for warehouse jobs or something else with minimal to no customer interaction, so you won't be dealing with complete strangers everyday. Art is risky, let it be a secondary source of income, it can blossom from there.
I had to call a number today cause I ignored it last week, I was stressing over the weekend about this phone call I’ve got to make on Monday, even on the day I’ll say to myself I’ll give it 1 more hour then I’ll ring them, honestly it’s torture but there just becomes a point where I just tell myself to man up and just get it over with
I never take phone call from anyone, specially an unknown number. I think this all came up because of a boss that I had who was a terrible person treating others.
I hate it 😱 especially when I have to make appointments. When I have to make the call my heart beats so fast it feels like its gonna come out of my chest. I know it's irrational, but I can't stop the physical symptoms I get. It takes me a few minutes to build up the courage to make it. What mostly scares me is if I mess up or stammer. I had one bad experience in particular when I had to ring up my bank to change my details. I stuttered so bad that I talked complete gibberish.. It would be funny if it wasn't so pathetic 😂
Nothing wrong with silencing your phone sometimes. You'll get to it when you do. Nothing wrong with texting someone saying I don't have privacy now we can either text or talk later. People need to get back in the habit of asking if it's not an emergency 'is this a good time to talk?' The problem is we have lost our common sense with phone calls. People used to know to get a sense when they called if it was a good time or not which may depend on the subject or length. There is a difference between a short call about changing the time we are meeting and a long emotional call and context matters. Yes there are emergencies and urgencies. We need our phone social skills back and we need to stop labeling anyone who doesn't want to be on call for everyone everywhere all the time for any conversation as "phone phobic"
I'm not scared to talk on the phone at all. But every time my phone rings my heart drops and I get a rush of adrenaline. It all came after the vet called me to tell me that my dog passed away. Ever since then I guess my brain thinks phone calls are a bad thing. Especially if it's a number I don't have saved in my phone. I have this uncontrollable feeling like it's bad news or I'm I'm some kind of trouble when I do nothing illegal or wrong in life to be in trouble. It's tiring
Crazy thing is; I can't stop talking when I'm face to face. But ever since I was pretty young (I'm 50 now), back in my teens, when we only had landlines, I was never one to have long conversations on the phone. I don't know what it is. Face to face, you can't shut me up (until I run out of steam of course) but I've always found phone conversations so awkward. Actually, I even find Zoom calls much better than phone calls; maybe because there's video, much much better honestly.
I've put off calling the IT department to reset my password for 2 months now. I know the call will be simple and make me feel better but Im too scared.
Im working as a Call Center agent for 3 weeks but still I feel anxious and nausea. Its been 3 weeks since I eat regularly, my sleep is always 4 hours a day. I always overthink. My body feels weak. My stomach is always aching. I noticed that I also dont feel happy in my life anymore when I started working at this nature for first time. I want to quit. But I needed the money to support our daily needs. :(
I shake when I have to make a phone call. And I rehearse what I will say. It’s so hard to overcome cause I also have bad hearing and don’t want to sound stupid when I don’t understand something.
I manage to call my mother once a month, this is not enough for her. It is not only about strangers ( I have not problem ignoring them) my friends tend to think I don't mind our friendship, sometimes I have problems even with messages. I try to send letters, but everybody says, "does anyone write letters anymore?"
Same for me except that when I live away from my family for more than a month, it’s always awkward coming back and saying hi again, I even dread it sometimes. My own family who I grew up with and I feel awkward talking to them
@@kaizersolze i mean that i have terrible anxiety to make calls. I have anxiety to talk to people in person too. But it is extreme in calling over phone. I panic everytime and i take hours to make a single call and usually i wont call bcoz of extreme fear. I hope you understand.
I have closed too many deals on call, I know exactly what kind responses , I am going to get. But than too can't stop being anxious and scared before every call I make.
Whenever, I've to call a stranger, I feel so anxious but it may be because here many people are too rude to stranger's calls. Even with friends, I feel more comfortable over text messages.
I'm fine with calling/starting and carrying on a conversation over the phone...it's when it's time to end the conversation and say bye that I'm *SO* awkward. Who should start the "I'm glad we had this conversation" or "well it's been good talking to you," how do you wind it down to "goodbye"' and who should be the one to say goodbye first???
At the end of the conversation you can say "alright bro, I got some [more] stuff to do, so Imma let you go". They will probably say "okay, me too". Then you can say "alright, bye-bye" or "k den" or "peace out" or whatever closer you like then hang up. Just like how you start off the conversation quick "hey man, wassup?", you end it quick.
@@rustinstardust2094 After _they_ return the closing, hang up. They acknowledged what you said, so you can hang up. A phone call from today (a transformer exploded): Me: Well anyways, I was just checking to see if you had power. I know you have to be up in the morning, so I'll holla at you later. Friend: Alright then, later. Me: Later. [press hang up button]
As someone who loves the phone, this is all over the place. Is the problem a short call or a long call? If you can't make a phone call, how do you expect to find a mate? I would take making a phone call every time over facing rejection (and possibly scorn); you can just hang up the phone whenever you want.
People do not ringing you to complicate your life or make it harder, sometimes it's just to get or offer simple easy information which you either know or don't know. Creating a list of affirmations and reading them before is helpful making or taking calls You can say" no thank you" to a person on the phone. I bet you can ring family or friends but maybe not a professional, well mostly they need a simple answer or to confirm a detail. Remember it's not what you have to do, most the time think 'UNO-REVERSO!' it's what they're doing for you.
My mom literally just told me that i have to start making phone calls because i was nervous to answer someone that was calling her phone lol so now im watching this
You should not feel sad about your anxiety. Just try to practice some of our tips and be patient. However, if you think this is affecting your life significantly, you may look for professional help.
I’m so afraid of talking on the phone… I get so nervous to the point where it will affect me all day and my stomach starts to hurt and sometimes I will actually throw up and cry.. and also I have a stuttering problem which makes it worse…😭😭 I’d rather just text someone and not call them… I hate having this anxiety… I need help and I don’t know where to start… it’s holding me back on getting a job and being in a relationship…😩😩
me (in my head): there’s a SPECIFIC way everything must be said. if it’s not said in the “correct” way the person you’re speaking to, over the phone, will think you’re stupid reality: no one really gives a frick
Anyone struggle with over sharing and talking wayyyy too much when you are on the phone? As well as the fear of just having to make the call at all.. like on top of that ..I always feel like I said the wrong things and I definitely overshare
In my office , when i have to make some calls i am so afraid and always mess up things... i will says things that not meant to say .. after handing up i will feel so bad...
why does this have to be a thing 😭 i feel like im cursed with this stupid anxiety. i can't be like this forever, ill never get through life if im afraid of speaking to people 😭
I’m the exact same
goes away with practice :)
Im scared of talking either 😟
the more u practice ,the better it gets
iakumaaah more life brother
Who else is watching this like 30 minutes before an important phone call?(':
2 minutes*
literally 30 minutes before lmao
31 minutes lol
Here, but I've got to have my phone on me 24 hours waiting on a phone call.... Really scared, but comforting to know so many others struggle with this.
This is just superb, I been tryin to find out about "how to help someone with extreme social anxiety" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Ever heard of - Telaavar Anxious Amanita - (Have a quick look on google cant remember the place now )?
It is a great one off guide for removing the root cause of social anxiety without the hard work. Ive heard some great things about it and my work buddy got excellent results with it.
I'm too scared of phone calls
young hope same💀
Thank god i'm not alone, i though i'm the only one feeling that
Change what you said to “I am confident on the phone and love them” that will help you
This was great, I been tryin to find out about "social anxiety debilitating" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Ever heard of - Telaavar Anxious Amanita - (do a google search )?
It is a smashing exclusive guide for removing the root cause of social anxiety without the headache. Ive heard some incredible things about it and my mate at last got great results with it.
fr they literally make me uncomfortable because i don’t know how to start or end the call 💀
Guys I just realized if we had to call each other none of us would have the courage to do it 😭 😂
😂😂oh that's what
LMFAOOO
LMAOOO
🤣🤣🤣🤣BRUHHHH
Yeah i will rather jump off a bridge than make a phone call😁
I swear I thought I was the only one I’m soo scared and nervous and never picked up the phone
Fax know I have to deal with VIDEO calls with TEACHERS it's so horrible😖
@@jayswrld1447 samw but i dont even pick them but i have to cuz theyre so strict
@@jayswrld1447 SAME! I literally have to call one of my teachers to do a stupid quiz on the phone or something. IM SO SCARED. I only have 8 minutes until I have to call
Same I thought I was the only one too!
I thought it was rare or maybe I'm autistic but I see we are many lol
I'm terrified of phone calls :(:(:(
Let's chat over the phone
Manuel Gonzalez _bruh_
This is so..! Me
Same. Even thinking of talking over phone is terrifying
I almost throw up whenever I recieve an unknown call lol
I am getting my phone anxiety heightened just by watching this video.
it’s so weird, the act of dialing a number and hearing the phone ring is infinitely worse than actually talking on the phone. my anxiety is up during this but once someone answers and i respond, i calm down, cause they’re more often nice than not. 🙄🙄 why it gotta be like this
True
Exactly THIS!!
At my work place every time the phone rings I freeze. And now that im learning phones it'll be my turn so im not excited about tomorrow. Especially if its a super complicated order im afraid ill freeze or mess up. Hopefully I won't have to 😔
@@myotherhalfhi7336I know this is pretty late, but how did it go?
if they are rude then its not a problem you can also raise voice but actual problem is when there is a official call
So far all of these videos skip over the casual phone call, between family members, friends, and potential friends. The open ended, unpredictability of these types of calls makes my anxiety amp up a lot. More so than a call with a specific purpose
I know what you mean. I feel like doing meditation or some calming breathing for 5 minutes or longer before the call can help a lot. Though often im not disciplined enough to do that myself.
@@maxwellcooper2 bro i tried meditation and guess what i felt more anxious during meditation is that normal
This is so true . Casual phone calls with people I know are worst . I am so scared that what should I say next , what to talk , what response should I give . I even mess up badly in these talks.
Same! I can call a business with ease, it’s phone calls with family friends and acquaintances that really make me panic.
I’m scared of phone calls with new online friends because I have the strong fear that my relationship with them is only “virtual” (with texts) and once we actually talk with our voice we have nothing to say and can’t keep the conversation going. it applies to meeting in real life too. this would be a big let down for me, as I sadly have high expectations, so I would feel like I “lost” that person just because the call wouldn’t match how we text and it would destruct my perfect idea of friendship with them. I would like to overcome this fear though because I’m sure there are some people out there who are passionate about how they text just as how they talk, be it a call or real life conversation.
Relatable
Same with me
Same it's like this with so many of my friends mainly because their my twins friends and I borrow them 😂
me but with a relationship 😩
Yes, this is the same case with me :(
I can talk on the phone but as far as dialing to make a call I can't do
Now there must be another video for that.
Same problem bro. I think too much before dialing a call. Sometimes I think it's a time waste. 😀if I don't call my relatives then they always goes like; why r u not calling us. Have u forgotten about us etc. So first thing we hv to do is love people, don't judge them, don't take their words seriously and make the conversation short (about 10-15 minutes) bcoz when I talk too much I start babbling rubbish . Always listen to them, understand them, don't say too much about yourself or your things, instead inquire them. Let them answer / tell for you. Don't say unnecessary things.
It's some of my points that I use. Thank you.
I'll pay you $10 to call me.
Whenever I know I have to take a phone call, I keep dreading the day as it gets closer, running through all the bad possibilities in my head and trying to plan what to say right until the phone rings. I answer it very robotically -- letting 2 or 3 beeps go by to make it seem like I wasn't just sitting there, huddled up in a blanket and staring at the phone. Then during the call I'll be very quiet, mostly relying on strategically timed variations of "OK"; "Yeah", "Right", "Mhm", to make it sound like I'm actively listening when in reality I'm just sweating and shaking and waiting for the call to end. If it's just a random call, especially from a private number, I don't pick up. I know you can only overcome phobias by exposing yourself to them, but it's just so much stress for me, only to find out it was a spam call or something.
Same here
I have to make a dentist appointment but my anxiety has been vibe checking me ✌️😔
Currently having the same situation rn.
Why can't they just email me 😭
Exactly 😭😭
@@lekhanadeseti8559 I have to phone a veterinary practice to ask for a placement on Monday 😭💀
@@lucyb8802 good luck bruh😭
@@lekhanadeseti8559 thankyou bro 😭😭😅
Shut up you both
Even if it’s someone I know like a teacher, I still break down in tears
Been trying to gain the courage to call my doctors for the past 30 mins and I just can’t do it
Watching this to do so rn💀
I am trying to get an appointment past 2 days and still cant do it. I am terrified😫
Omg same I couldn't even call for emergency situations like an ambulance
SAME 😭
I have no trouble speaking to anyone in real life but not on the phone 😅
Same 😓
I've come to the point where I actually got so nervous talking to someone over the phone ,that later I started feeling dizzy and sick...still feel sick the day after
The illustrated face reminds me of lemongrab.
Your comparison is unacceptable!
lemongrab but make it brown
unacceptable conditions!! unacceptable!!
omg i thought i was the only one thinking that 😂😂🤣🤣😭
I see it lol
I don't know why but when I call someone, I panic. I don't know why, I just do.
Literally same 😭✋
Same here 😭
I take hours to make a simple call and most times i wont even call
@@stardust942i know same, it’s so terrifying
My biggest problem would be number 3.
I don't seem to really have hearing problems, but I struggle SO MUCH with understanding what the person is saying when i'm talking on the phone, I get incredibly embarrased when I ask them to repeat like 2 or 3 times because I couldn't understand what they said even AFTER the repeats, and it's just really bad when I still didn't understand and just decide to answer something random like a "yeah" after that. I wish phone calls would sound more clear.
Dude that is literally me. If someone isn’t talking clearly I legit don’t understand them
I thought I was the only one and something is wrong with me
Koya nope nothing is wrong with you, also i love your hobi profile pic
@@kinisha5021 thank you 🙂
a boy i’ve been talking to wants to call me tonight and i’m about to cry
Same girl same :(
Omg same
HOW DID IT GO HOW DID U DO IT I CANT EVEN SAY HI BRUH
natalia k omg so it went surprisingly well i was so awkward at first thoo😭😂
same same sameee ughh😞
the worst ones are calls to make important appointments with people you've never talked to before (therapists, for one, ironically) or calls about job applications. those are actually the WORST. i feel like i can't breathe for days in advance
I get really anxious when i have to call
Coronavirus made me do phone calls then i ended up here
Hey guys, just calm down and think of the person on the other side of the phone as "nobody to be afraid of". Take a deep breath as phone is ringing and focus on why you called. Once I get a live person, I exhale slowly and say "yes"(exhale again) or "let's see"(exhale again) to calm my voice down, then speak as focused and clearly as possible to state why I called. If I have a question, I will start with "question" , then (a quick exhale thru mouth), and continue with my question. Those quick exhales thru mouth, go a long way to help my voice fluency! As I speak, I basically exhale wherever I would place a comma if reading text. This gives me air to carry on to my next words. Practice often. Not professional advice, just what helps me. God bless!
There’s this boy he is gonna call me in a second and I’m so nervous ty for that
Roblox GuRl do you have any tips cause im in the same situation right now...
Brigitte Plata same. I’m so nervous
Brigitte Plata well just stay calm at all times don’t worry if it’s a boy that you like and just pretend it’s you’re friend that helped me calm down a lot
Brigitte Plata like act like it’s one of your Bestfriends
I don’t like calling. I have social anxiety and I’m usually quiet. Worst of all, it feels awkward af because my family would hear- or if someone walks in and embarrases me…
I always found talking on the phone stressful. I remember drawing a blank when asked to repeat a couple of simple call signs in the army. Super embarrassing. So I went nuts and got a job at a call centre. After three years of talking to people everyday - as well as talking to a lot of people on Skype - I feel a lot more comfortable. However, even now I feel anxious when receiving a call from a number I don’t recognise. But I can handle it.
I was just left a voice-mail about setting up a job interview and going to call them back has my heart pounding. Idk why but answering or dialing the phone is a big cause of anxiety for me but once I'm actually talking I'm fine 🙃
This is why back in the day it was really good that cell phones weren’t a thing. When I called a friend, I had to say, “Hi, is so and so available?” Sometimes I would have to talk to my friends parent for several minutes before hearing from them. If you had never called that home before, it’s a complete stranger if you have never met their family. It really helped me today with things like this.
So truue
i'm scared to call for a pizza lol
same lol, i tried calling once, my voice was shaking and they kept saying "can you repeat that" i just gave the phone to my mom cuz i couldn't speak, and after that i haven't eaten pizza since
update: i can now call any place no prob, and even be friendly with them/joke a bit🥺 in time after you try a bit you will be able to too!
@@Sofia-bl9cb wait really....that's great. Maybe I'll try to get out of my comfort zone too. (Actually yk I have this job to calling people I get really anxious during the call....but the call is usually kinda awkwar, or maybe I feel like that. But after I saw this I think I'll try to be nice to them and listen to them that's it.)
Thanks for this.
Me too I make my wife call
I usually ask "can I habe a pizza please?" and then answer any questions after
I've been procrastination that phone call that my boss wants me to make but now I really gotta do this. I don't want to risk losing my job over this.
I've always been scared of phones and I was dumb enough to take a call center job... In my 3rd language, that I'm least confident in. Abusive callers that I had no way to truly help. The pay was very good, but after less than a year of denial and feeling like throwing up getting in the car in the morning, spending my breaks on the floor of a locked bathroom stall in the dark, lowering my shift to 6 hours and yet coming home at 3 pm and taking a nap everyday out of exhaustion, I quit. I had to work 2 more weeks but I just couldn't get out of bed, I went to work one day and just ran away, hid in a bathroom stall in a different place. I went to therapy 3 times before I was too crippled to go there, as well.
If I don't manage to make money with art with the least amount of human interaction, I don't know what job to get to support myself. One which wouldn't make me say I'd rather die this very instant. Breathing techniques never helped, I feel this annoying knot in my stomach even during the most relaxing yoga session. Writing notes beforehand does help me concentrate a but better, but I keep having to stop myself through the day from lamenting what I said wrong.
I feel your pain man. I'd be the same in a call centre job, I just know it. Try looking for warehouse jobs or something else with minimal to no customer interaction, so you won't be dealing with complete strangers everyday. Art is risky, let it be a secondary source of income, it can blossom from there.
Omg…. I’m currently going through the same exact thing… it’s almost 4 months and I just want to give up😢
I had to call a number today cause I ignored it last week, I was stressing over the weekend about this phone call I’ve got to make on Monday, even on the day I’ll say to myself I’ll give it 1 more hour then I’ll ring them, honestly it’s torture but there just becomes a point where I just tell myself to man up and just get it over with
Even though it's quite simple tips it literally helps a lot in all aspects of life. Thank you GCF!
No problem!
I never take phone call from anyone, specially an unknown number. I think this all came up because of a boss that I had who was a terrible person treating others.
Watching this because my boyfriend wants me to call him first lmao
bfyudbtyvgety me
Sameee lol
how did it go?
Sameee😭 and I still didn’t do it yet
how did it go
I hate it 😱 especially when I have to make appointments. When I have to make the call my heart beats so fast it feels like its gonna come out of my chest. I know it's irrational, but I can't stop the physical symptoms I get. It takes me a few minutes to build up the courage to make it. What mostly scares me is if I mess up or stammer. I had one bad experience in particular when I had to ring up my bank to change my details. I stuttered so bad that I talked complete gibberish.. It would be funny if it wasn't so pathetic 😂
Same here 😂😂
This is one of my new favorite videos! Thank you so much for helping people like me with phone anxiety.
I prefer to text than call. I get more confident and more time to think and put my words together.
I have to make a phone call to schedule a dentist appointment, and im so anxiousy heart is racing so fast idk how to calm down wtf
same 😭
That's literally me
pov: your boyfriend always wants you too talk on the phone but you very inscure about your voice 😐
ME
Omg me
THATS FCKIN MEE!!!!! 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
I can talk to strangers on the phone but not my damn friends 😂
Same 😂😂
Lol
Same
Nothing wrong with silencing your phone sometimes. You'll get to it when you do. Nothing wrong with texting someone saying I don't have privacy now we can either text or talk later. People need to get back in the habit of asking if it's not an emergency 'is this a good time to talk?' The problem is we have lost our common sense with phone calls. People used to know to get a sense when they called if it was a good time or not which may depend on the subject or length. There is a difference between a short call about changing the time we are meeting and a long emotional call and context matters. Yes there are emergencies and urgencies. We need our phone social skills back and we need to stop labeling anyone who doesn't want to be on call for everyone everywhere all the time for any conversation as "phone phobic"
Actually I don't have a problem talking to complete strangers but my anxiety goes up whenever I need to talk to people who are "not so friends"
I'm going to get a random phone call at any time over the next few weeks for an interview about getting therapy. I'm so nervous lmao.
I'm not scared to talk on the phone at all. But every time my phone rings my heart drops and I get a rush of adrenaline. It all came after the vet called me to tell me that my dog passed away. Ever since then I guess my brain thinks phone calls are a bad thing. Especially if it's a number I don't have saved in my phone. I have this uncontrollable feeling like it's bad news or I'm I'm some kind of trouble when I do nothing illegal or wrong in life to be in trouble. It's tiring
I sound nervous but in person I'm perfectly calm
That´s intersting! Thanks for sharing! ;)
Crazy thing is; I can't stop talking when I'm face to face. But ever since I was pretty young (I'm 50 now), back in my teens, when we only had landlines, I was never one to have long conversations on the phone. I don't know what it is. Face to face, you can't shut me up (until I run out of steam of course) but I've always found phone conversations so awkward.
Actually, I even find Zoom calls much better than phone calls; maybe because there's video, much much better honestly.
Ik this is supposed to be for business but I just wanna play Minecraft with friends
I've put off calling the IT department to reset my password for 2 months now. I know the call will be simple and make me feel better but Im too scared.
Im working as a Call Center agent for 3 weeks but still I feel anxious and nausea. Its been 3 weeks since I eat regularly, my sleep is always 4 hours a day. I always overthink. My body feels weak. My stomach is always aching. I noticed that I also dont feel happy in my life anymore when I started working at this nature for first time. I want to quit. But I needed the money to support our daily needs. :(
You will do it man I have anxiety of the phone but I m trying my best to overcome it
@@callum5633 Thank you for encouraging me! I appreciate! Hope youre doing well too! :) Im okay now, Im enjoying my work! ❤️
She's waiting for ma call rn. But i told her i need to run quick errand. Yet here i am😭
Omg same, I don't know what to do. 😭
4 years later, still haven't made that phone call. Lol
I just got a receptionist job.. and THANK YOU SO SO SO MUCH..
You are so welcome!
I can't even answer calls from my own family and friends. What type of stupid fear is this?😭😭😭
Seems like you're not comfortable with them
I shake when I have to make a phone call. And I rehearse what I will say. It’s so hard to overcome cause I also have bad hearing and don’t want to sound stupid when I don’t understand something.
My teacher called me and the only thing I said was "okay ma'am".
I have no idea what she said the whole time
You should not feel bad about that. Just try to follow these tips, and you´ll be better next time! ;)
You can also practice with a friend or just call someone you are comfortable speaking to also. Having a nice song one before helps me also.
I manage to call my mother once a month, this is not enough for her. It is not only about strangers ( I have not problem ignoring them) my friends tend to think I don't mind our friendship, sometimes I have problems even with messages. I try to send letters, but everybody says, "does anyone write letters anymore?"
Same for me except that when I live away from my family for more than a month, it’s always awkward coming back and saying hi again, I even dread it sometimes. My own family who I grew up with and I feel awkward talking to them
Sending letters is dying out, so that makes it even more special. Bonus if you can write in cursive.
I text to my friends. But they think i dont care enough to make a call and they ignore my msgs. It makes it even worse. I cant call anyone:(
@@stardust942 What do you mean by "cant call"?
@@kaizersolze i mean that i have terrible anxiety to make calls. I have anxiety to talk to people in person too. But it is extreme in calling over phone. I panic everytime and i take hours to make a single call and usually i wont call bcoz of extreme fear. I hope you understand.
I have closed too many deals on call, I know exactly what kind responses , I am going to get. But than too can't stop being anxious and scared before every call I make.
I really love your channel. Thanks for useful videos, they've helped me a lot.
Wow, why didn't i think of breathing? This whole time i've not been doing that! Such a helpful tip!
Whenever, I've to call a stranger, I feel so anxious but it may be because here many people are too rude to stranger's calls. Even with friends, I feel more comfortable over text messages.
I'm fine with calling/starting and carrying on a conversation over the phone...it's when it's time to end the conversation and say bye that I'm *SO* awkward. Who should start the "I'm glad we had this conversation" or "well it's been good talking to you," how do you wind it down to "goodbye"' and who should be the one to say goodbye first???
At the end of the conversation you can say "alright bro, I got some [more] stuff to do, so Imma let you go". They will probably say "okay, me too". Then you can say "alright, bye-bye" or "k den" or "peace out" or whatever closer you like then hang up. Just like how you start off the conversation quick "hey man, wassup?", you end it quick.
@@kaizersolze After I say "'bye" or "k den," do I hang up right then or wait until they say bye too and then I hang up?
@@rustinstardust2094 After _they_ return the closing, hang up. They acknowledged what you said, so you can hang up.
A phone call from today (a transformer exploded):
Me: Well anyways, I was just checking to see if you had power. I know you have to be up in the morning, so I'll holla at you later.
Friend: Alright then, later.
Me: Later. [press hang up button]
Here i am scared to call customer care
I have no problem of face to face or calling people. But answering phone call is another issue. I don’t know why 😣
I'm shaking right now 😔
As someone who loves the phone, this is all over the place. Is the problem a short call or a long call?
If you can't make a phone call, how do you expect to find a mate? I would take making a phone call every time over facing rejection (and possibly scorn); you can just hang up the phone whenever you want.
Social anxiety
@@saarinenj1 You can let it hold you back or do something about it. What's your choice?
It took me a day to call and cancel an appointment.
Who else hates to phone with friends? 😂
People do not ringing you to complicate your life or make it harder, sometimes it's just to get or offer simple easy information which you either know or don't know.
Creating a list of affirmations and reading them before is helpful making or taking calls
You can say" no thank you" to a person on the phone.
I bet you can ring family or friends but maybe not a professional, well mostly they need a simple answer or to confirm a detail.
Remember it's not what you have to do, most the time think 'UNO-REVERSO!' it's what they're doing for you.
My mom literally just told me that i have to start making phone calls because i was nervous to answer someone that was calling her phone lol so now im watching this
When i tried to call my Auntie i but in the numbers but as soon as its time to press call i start shaking, sweating and crying help me
You should not feel sad about your anxiety. Just try to practice some of our tips and be patient. However, if you think this is affecting your life significantly, you may look for professional help.
That's literally me, I'm glad I'm not alone
I’m so afraid of talking on the phone… I get so nervous to the point where it will affect me all day and my stomach starts to hurt and sometimes I will actually throw up and cry.. and also I have a stuttering problem which makes it worse…😭😭 I’d rather just text someone and not call them… I hate having this anxiety… I need help and I don’t know where to start… it’s holding me back on getting a job and being in a relationship…😩😩
I LITERALKY NEED TO CALL MY CRUSH RN AND I can’t i’m SO SCARED AND OANICKING
I HAVE TO CALL HIMMMM
me (in my head): there’s a SPECIFIC way everything must be said. if it’s not said in the “correct” way the person you’re speaking to, over the phone, will think you’re stupid
reality: no one really gives a frick
This... actually helps! Thank you!
I just drank a couple of beers...let's see how it will go!!!
But maybe, if I stop breathing. I won’t have to make the phone call. .
I guess I should try that.. hmm..
I literally throw up whn i talk to my in laws
I’m just trying to find a way to talk to my dad during quarantine
watching this because my sister won’t wake up to reschedule a hair appointment for us and she’s 18 and i’m 12...
People are always asking me to repeat myself on the phone
I'm a great supporter of your page😊😇💛
I have to make a call to a company to get a internship. It's been stressing me out for hours now since I dont know what they are going to say.
I have a phonecall in 30 minutes to select my online classes for this year. I feel like crying bruh
I have to call one of my online teachers in 10 minutes. And I'm literally crying I don't know what to do.
I have to call to set up a phone interview and I'm so so nervous :/
I did it but I think I was too late because no one picked up but I left a message :|
Well done! There was definitely a great start!
i have to be on the phone with a youth exchange officer sometime in the week and i have major phone anxiety so i'm kind of freaked out
Thank you :)
I'm now going to video call my crush😬😬
ughh i need to shadow a dental hygienist which requires a lot of phone calls ;-;
You can do it! ;)
Anyone struggle with over sharing and talking wayyyy too much when you are on the phone? As well as the fear of just having to make the call at all.. like on top of that ..I always feel like I said the wrong things and I definitely overshare
In my office , when i have to make some calls i am so afraid and always mess up things... i will says things that not meant to say .. after handing up i will feel so bad...
i watching this so i can be closer with my friends over the phone call 😭
Hey! You can try doing the tips we've shared and see if it helps you.
can I get the full script
I got a freeze on my credit card and have to call to fix it....pray for me.😂😓
So weird I’m a receptionist but yet I can’t call my friends