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110% matches my experience. Lying is useless. My intuition is extremely sharp, my super power. Sometimes I am almost afraid to know the truth and feel a little dismayed to know. But I know this is a gift that requires the highest respect and gratitude for it. Also I seldom ask a question that I don't already know the answer to.
This is so true, INFJs can just TELL when someone's lying or being inauthentic, one of my life dramas right now is- the person who raised me recently died (it's been a little over a year now) and I went to stay with my maternal family in order to get on my feet, and these are some of the most untruthful people I've ever seen in my life. I told my maternal grandmother before I came- "Do not talk crap about mama I won't tolerate it", she couldn't wait until she could start blaming everything she perceived about me that's "wrong" on mama, and then started slandering her- slandering the dead, even worse she started spouting lies about abuse- worse yet there were other incidents about these subjects- even those these people have pushed my boundaries, I still gave them chances- until I couldn't anymore, this is the most ridiculous situation I've ever been in in my life, and somehow everyone's blaming me for...I suppose being the bad guy- but really it's just my INFJ personality that can't tolerate people who maliciously lie, manipulate, gossip, and have no respect for set boundaries. I usually stay isolated away from them but honestly I can't wait to get away from these people.
If a person is so inclined to dominate a conversation, I let them. Not only does it prove they are rude and self centered, it also gives them a chance to show all of their cards. If they exaggerate, commit the sin of omission, or flat-our lie, I don't even have to show my cards. it's game over. Door slammed. If necessary, I toss the arsenal of ammunition their lies generously supplied to me and toss them into the grave they dug for themselves. They are now dead to me. My friend says my method is manipulative and judgmental. Manipulative? - maybe on the part of the liar. Judgmental ? Hell yes! How are we supposed to exercise good judgment if we don't judge?
Yes it is terrible to pick up on someone's lie and there's no way to put them on the spot about it so I reconcile in my mind that the person wants to impress me or is not conscious to their lie because they are still lying to themselves.
I would love to pick your brain to find out what you know and how you learned it. You have such intense emotions emanating from you it’s almost overwhelming. (In a good way) When I look at your eyes, I can see why most people would be intimidated. There is Intelligence, passion and, a lust for life in them that I do not see in normals. Your videos are Brilliant!!!
Yes I can tell whenever someone is lying-everyone lies. I try to be true and speak the truth but sometimes I lie too. To me the intention that is for the motivation behind it, is important. Is it done to tear someone down, is the liar someone I know is a narcissist, is it to garner sympathy to get something from people, or is it a lie to protect someone, or to keep a secret you have no right to tell. As an INFJ-Sometimes it’s just easier for us to lie-to say and you’re busy-rather than go to a social function you know you’re gonna be miserable at and will take you days to recharge your energy after.🤗😉
I have done a specific video regarding how I used this ability while on Jury Duty, plus I had found similar references in your previous video's like- "An INFJ rants on how she hates fake spiritual people" - dated June 30 2018 "INFJ's are annoyed when others don't see someone's true colours" - dated June 9 2018 and implied in "INFJ's do not trust so-called experts (Heebie-Jeebie Alert)" dated December 13 2017.
I have a database, too. Mostly mine takes special note of people who are likely dangerous to me because they elicit behavior patterns that align with people who have been very dangerous to me. I have a lot of trauma that has shaped this function,
I understand exactly what you are talking about!! I refer to my brain as a warehouse of filling cabinets lol 😂 Like in the movie Dreamcatcher by Stephen King. The character has files n files stored in his head n that’s kinda what it’s like. I always keep photo files, it’s like a flip book of memories. Thank you 🙏🏻 for your awesomeness 👍🏻 Love ❤️ your videos!
Another thing linked to other people's lies...I tend to always tell a person if I know they're lying and if we're in a relatively good relationship and I find it very usefull actually. Because after they know that I know if they're telling the truth, they start to be more honest by each conversation. And this is just something a friend noticed- he said how everybody always tells me their secrets and that I'm the one that knows the most about each person in our group. It fascinates me how people tend to trust you more if they know you're able to read them immediately. Hope this makes sense
Yep, I just know. Even if I don't know the exact details, I can detect something is up. I may not let on that I know to keep the peace but you can only hold it in for so long.
You are so right about this. I just let them be if they are not in my few valued people. It just can't be helped comparing how a story is told this time or details that flex degrees in many directions.
Shout out from Guam (Asia-Pacific) n a big n warm hello?🌹 I love your videos so far n intend to get to all them lol... I guess that's an INFJ thing, always expanding our minds. I'm new at learning about me n just wanna express the relief of knowing I'm not alone, was pretty overwhelming...i both cried n screamed (I was already 59)...always said I was the black n that I don't think I'm from earth😂🤣😂✌ n would really say that bcoz that's how I felt lol... yup, we're definitely authentic n I can't handle when I can't coz then I'm just not a happy camper lol. Ty so much for sharing who you are n Im just thankful that what is inside of me, you express n describe to the T bcoz I could never explain bcoz I didn't know.😢 that can get really frustrating n I just withdraw😞 anyways, I'm a lot healthier now bcoz my spirituality has boomed in the past year n half n I hate to say it but COVID gave the setting to go totally inward without outside interference. Ty so much n bless you more for all the goodness you do n give to others! I really appreciate you! 🌹❤✌👍🙌🙏🎁✝️🌈🎉
When we are interacting with someone we know is lying, what is the bottom line for us? I think we should ponder this and really carry it out to its logical conclusion. What do we gain from interacting/having a relationship with someone who is proven to be one who lies to us? I feel we gain nothing beneficial. Think about it--if a person can't be completely truthful, what is his/her motive? Is it to cover up their own flaws? Possibly. Is it to demean us? Possibly. Is it to try to hurt us? Possibly. Is there any good that can come from them lying to us? (maybe in the most trivial matters like maybe they're afraid to acknowledge that they don't like our clothing, hairstyle, etc) I think we are talking about much more significant matters here. When the INFJ antenna goes up, we should listen to it and ACT ON IT. How does it make you feel when you know someone is purposefully lying? Does it foster resentment toward that person? Is that healthy for us? How does our gut respond? Anxiousness? Increased heart rate? Etc, etc. I mean, really, how many times does a person have to lie to us for us to remove them from our circle? One, two, three times? In those one, two, three times, have we been hurt in some way? Have we gained something beneficial from this person. (again, I'm talking about a significant matter that might exist between us and them.) Let's face it--we all lie from time to time. I will say it is much harder for an INFJ to lie because it's kind of not in our DNA. We can find other ways to "skirt around" an issue without outright lying. (not sure if that's a beneficial trait either--oops) What I'm trying to say here is this-- Is this person beneficial in our lives if we let them remain in our circle with their lies? What will we gain by removing them from our circle? (possibly less pain/hurt for ourselves) Do we need them in our "circle" for some reason? We INFJ's should love ourselves enough to not allow someone in who is not going to be authentic. Just move on. No need to waste our valuable time if the interaction/relationship is not beneficial. And, we might just help someone become more authentic if we exercise our boundaries and say No to them. It is true that your circle of friends/family/acquaintances may get quite a bit smaller, but better a small circle of authenticity than a large circle of in-authenticity.
Interesting video Boom! Yes very true! Although it's an interesting point that "truth" is subjective, depending on the conversation you're having sometimes people are not telling you the factual truth but they are telling you their emotional truth, they might not have been driving at a hundred miles an hour factually it was more like 60, but what they are trying to do is tell you how it felt in the moment, I figured that out a while ago it's why people embellish and exaggerate their stories, factual story telling isn't very interesting where as emotional storytelling is much more engaging. It's the more sinister kind of lies that really get our "spidy sense" going, yes first question is why? What are you hiding and why do you need to hide it? Mostly it's insecurity on some level, big question is how insecure is this person, the answer is in how much they lie and how big the lies are, lots of big lies equalls big problems and a person you can't trust in any way at all, lower level liars are more of an inconvenience they may not be bad people at heart but it's still not worth trusting them. I can't tell u how many times I've been talking to someone and what they were saying sounded "fishy" and no I can't just call them out, but I will probe their lie with some seemingly innocent obvious questions to see what they say, sometimes I think there may even be an unspoken knowledge between the two of us that we both know you're lying, like they can tell I haven't really swallowed it but I just won't say so, I guess the shrug of agreement and then ending the interaction is probably a big hint also, lol 😃
Great video! This helps me understand my actions around someone I live with and am trying to help raise... It's so frustrating because I want to write him off yet children need to be taught! He was adopted as a toddler and emotionally abused until early teens. To get away from the abuse he came to live full time with his adopted father and I. I pointed out to him right away that he had a problem with lying and that I understood he had probably started only to protect himself however he's safe with us and need to learn how to tell the truth! 4 years later and he's just becoming more skilled at lying...! If anyone has any tips that could possibly help, I would love to hear them!!! Thank you!
Have you tried pointing it out every time he lies? When people lie around me a lot, I will just take to pointing it out every time, and eventually, they will stop. Liars don't like being caught in a lie. :)
I tried in the beginning to point out each time he lied that had a negative impact, however I have four biological children that are younger than him that live with us as well and most times he will blame things on one of them or just say it wasn't him indicating that it was one of the other kids... since every lie doesn't has evidence or proof he will play the victim card, such as, "I always get blamed for everything", and "that's the same kind of things my adopted mom did to me" and "the little kids get away with everything" and "no one ever trust me even though I'm completely innocent" BS. We've tried at times to point out all the times that we know for certain that he lied and how it leads up to us not believing him but it never seems to sink in to his thick head and he continues trying to argue back no matter how firmly we word things! He's toxic and an extreme manipulator. I honestly believe he is fairly high on the spectrum of narcissistic personality disorder and I don't use that word lightly! If not NPD he's two separate people and can't, doesn't or won't align with the other person inside himself that didn't do what he was supposed to, when he's standing there saying he didn't do whatever the offense was. I always try very hard to treat him similarly to my children or as much as possible (always taking each individual child into consideration) since when he was younger part of his abuse was being treated completely opposite of his other siblings and like he was an outsider in his own home. While my children don't lie nearly as much or as freely as he does, they have and do lie at times... I believe that I have been lied to so often and because I try to be as fair as possible and not accuse falsely, as I would hate being falsely accused myself, it has really messed me up and to a certain extent, made me doubt trusting my intuition. Most of the time I find out later that I was right to believe my intuition, but by then I doubted myself so much and it's making me crazy. When he's in the house it's like a fake intruder, a heavy dark black cloud, pressing in, swirling around me sucking out all of my energy. I can hardly tolerate it anymore however you should know how stubborn INFJs are and I refuse to allow him, at this point to break up my 9-year relationship just because of him and his toxicity! He turned 18 this past fall but between his fetal alcohol syndrome and his ADHD I don't know when he's going to be able to be out on his own. It's a full-time job making sure he doesn't hurt and or rub off on my own kids. When he was 17 I had him take the MBTI even though he doesn't appear to really know who he is, as he will do anything and everything to make new people that come into his life like him... if he's around one of his father's friends, my children's friends or my own friends, he is always following us around trying to get attention, brag about himself, trying to make himself look like he's all that PLUS a bag of chips! During the mbti I was the one in control and read him the questions... I told him he may be too young since a person doesn't always know know who they are when they're so young, so we may not recognize him and he may need to do the test a couple years later. I also told him he needed to make sure before he answered the question that he was not answering what he thought someone else would want him to think or say or what he had been taught to think or say. I would question him on some of his answers and remind him that he couldn't care what other people would think about his answer and we would agree on an answer... We came up with him being an ESTP or an ESTJ... I feel fairly confident he's one of those personality types and it's helped me approached him in a way that he responds better however he still the same attention-seeking bragging, liar! Because I'm so dang stubborn and I can also see what amazing people each child "could" be, I have no one to blame except myself for feeling like I'm going crazy! I first found your videos about a week ago and ever since I've been binge "listening" Thank you for all your time!!!
I wonder why I feel that I wish the other as well as myself well after I desided a person is someone I want to detach myself from. When I think back to those moments I think I feel burning pain, and not anger. I feel a rich pallete of feelings for the other, as well as myself. I think of reality. how we all have our place. Interesting that we both dislike cruelty and mistreating and lying patterns, that we both come to the same conclusion. we both distance our selves. but the feelings or how it's colored, is different. - ENFJ
Yoi and I are exactly alike..always tried to tell peiple I feel like I have a sticky brain..with old school filing cabinets inside..lol Im 50...and if I cant recall something I can almost always know the first letter..Ill go to my files and find what I need..I too canlock those files forever...nice to see someone else do that
I don't know how much I can detect lie But one thing I make sure when 'I' lie is to make as genuine as possible (and have answers and made-up proofs to make them believable)🤦♀️😅😂😂😂😂😂 Especially when I don't receive a phone call🤦♀️🤦♀️
I totally agree with being a lie detector and also I don’t like how I can tell if someone is lying 🤥 to me probably why I am a hermit so I don’t have to make them look bad lol
I know i was to late but, I'm not sure yet is im true INFJ or not bcs I wonder how to know at that moment when someone is lying... bcs sometimes I just hearing someone stories and after that my other friend told me that, that person is lying, and I just like "ohh, okey im not surprice"... Maybe I know that he was lying but not at that moment, you know wht I mean... can someone explain to me, how to know when you know 🙂↕️
We can't explain how we know what we know. If only we could. A lot of times, I know things, but there's no way for me to explain how I know. That's how introverted intuition works. :)
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110% matches my experience. Lying is useless. My intuition is extremely sharp, my super power. Sometimes I am almost afraid to know the truth and feel a little dismayed to know. But I know this is a gift that requires the highest respect and gratitude for it. Also I seldom ask a question that I don't already know the answer to.
Yes!! Awesome...
This is so true, INFJs can just TELL when someone's lying or being inauthentic, one of my life dramas right now is- the person who raised me recently died (it's been a little over a year now) and I went to stay with my maternal family in order to get on my feet, and these are some of the most untruthful people I've ever seen in my life. I told my maternal grandmother before I came- "Do not talk crap about mama I won't tolerate it", she couldn't wait until she could start blaming everything she perceived about me that's "wrong" on mama, and then started slandering her- slandering the dead, even worse she started spouting lies about abuse- worse yet there were other incidents about these subjects- even those these people have pushed my boundaries, I still gave them chances- until I couldn't anymore, this is the most ridiculous situation I've ever been in in my life, and somehow everyone's blaming me for...I suppose being the bad guy- but really it's just my INFJ personality that can't tolerate people who maliciously lie, manipulate, gossip, and have no respect for set boundaries. I usually stay isolated away from them but honestly I can't wait to get away from these people.
Wow! Good luck with this. 🤍🤍
If a person is so inclined to dominate a conversation, I let them. Not only does it prove they are rude and self centered, it also gives them a chance to show all of their cards. If they exaggerate, commit the sin of omission, or flat-our lie, I don't even have to show my cards. it's game over. Door slammed.
If necessary, I toss the arsenal of ammunition their lies generously supplied to me and toss them into the grave they dug for themselves. They are now dead to me.
My friend says my method is manipulative and judgmental. Manipulative? - maybe on the part of the liar. Judgmental ? Hell yes! How are we supposed to exercise good judgment if we don't judge?
Hahaha!! Good point.
Yes it is terrible to pick up on someone's lie and there's no way to put them on the spot about it so I reconcile in my mind that the person wants to impress me or is not conscious to their lie because they are still lying to themselves.
Yes!!!
I would love to pick your brain to find out what you know and how you learned it. You have such intense emotions emanating from you it’s almost overwhelming.
(In a good way)
When I look at your eyes, I can see why most people would be intimidated. There is Intelligence, passion and, a lust for life in them that I do not see in normals.
Your videos are
Brilliant!!!
Awww, thanks so much for the kind words!! I am so grateful. :)
Yes! I hear more what people don't say than what they do say.
Absolutely!!!
Yes I can tell whenever someone is lying-everyone lies. I try to be true and speak the truth but sometimes I lie too. To me the intention that is for the motivation behind it,
is important. Is it done to tear someone down, is the liar someone I know is a narcissist, is it to garner sympathy to get something from people, or is it a lie to protect someone, or to keep a secret you have no right to tell. As an INFJ-Sometimes it’s just easier for us to lie-to say and you’re busy-rather than go to a social function you know you’re gonna be miserable at and will take you days to recharge your energy after.🤗😉
Yes!!! Exactly. The intention matters.
I have done a specific video regarding how I used this ability while on Jury Duty, plus I had found similar references in your previous video's like-
"An INFJ rants on how she hates fake spiritual people" - dated June 30 2018
"INFJ's are annoyed when others don't see someone's true colours" - dated June 9 2018
and
implied in "INFJ's do not trust so-called experts (Heebie-Jeebie Alert)" dated December 13 2017.
Heebie jeebie alert 🤣🤓❣️💕
Loveeeee this!!
I have a database, too. Mostly mine takes special note of people who are likely dangerous to me because they elicit behavior patterns that align with people who have been very dangerous to me. I have a lot of trauma that has shaped this function,
Yes!!!! I know what you mean.
Yes, especially when toxic people are like magnets to me
I understand exactly what you are talking about!!
I refer to my brain as a warehouse of filling cabinets lol 😂
Like in the movie Dreamcatcher by Stephen King. The character has files n files stored in his head n that’s kinda what it’s like. I always keep photo files, it’s like a flip book of memories.
Thank you 🙏🏻 for your awesomeness 👍🏻 Love ❤️ your videos!
Awww, thank you so much!! Love your enthusiasm. xx
Ok
I’m always trying to find out why they are lying idk why but motives are important to me. I do almost always catch ppl lying. It’s a gift
Yes!!!
Can you please make a video on "How to not care what people think about you?"
YES---please do!!! That's probably the hardest one to overcome and deal with!!
Great topic!! I'll add it to my list. :)
@@BoomShikha Thank you so much,will be waiting for it😇❤️
Another thing linked to other people's lies...I tend to always tell a person if I know they're lying and if we're in a relatively good relationship and I find it very usefull actually. Because after they know that I know if they're telling the truth, they start to be more honest by each conversation. And this is just something a friend noticed- he said how everybody always tells me their secrets and that I'm the one that knows the most about each person in our group. It fascinates me how people tend to trust you more if they know you're able to read them immediately. Hope this makes sense
Yes!! It makes absolute sense.
Yep, I just know. Even if I don't know the exact details, I can detect something is up. I may not let on that I know to keep the peace but you can only hold it in for so long.
Exactly!
You are so right about this. I just let them be if they are not in my few valued people. It just can't be helped comparing how a story is told this time or details that flex degrees in many directions.
Awesome. Thanks for watching!!!
Shout out from Guam (Asia-Pacific) n a big n warm hello?🌹 I love your videos so far n intend to get to all them lol... I guess that's an INFJ thing, always expanding our minds. I'm new at learning about me n just wanna express the relief of knowing I'm not alone, was pretty overwhelming...i both cried n screamed (I was already 59)...always said I was the black n that I don't think I'm from earth😂🤣😂✌ n would really say that bcoz that's how I felt lol... yup, we're definitely authentic n I can't handle when I can't coz then I'm just not a happy camper lol. Ty so much for sharing who you are n Im just thankful that what is inside of me, you express n describe to the T bcoz I could never explain bcoz I didn't know.😢 that can get really frustrating n I just withdraw😞 anyways, I'm a lot healthier now bcoz my spirituality has boomed in the past year n half n I hate to say it but COVID gave the setting to go totally inward without outside interference. Ty so much n bless you more for all the goodness you do n give to others! I really appreciate you! 🌹❤✌👍🙌🙏🎁✝️🌈🎉
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What’s funny is they don’t realize how obvious it is they’re lying. We might even get pissed they think we’re that dumb to not see the lie.
Yes, exactly!!
Same
Good video! Thank you!!
Glad you liked it! :)
When we are interacting with someone we know is lying, what is the bottom line for us? I think we should ponder this and really carry it out to its logical conclusion.
What do we gain from interacting/having a relationship with someone who is proven to be one who lies to us? I feel we gain nothing beneficial. Think about it--if a person can't be completely truthful, what is his/her motive?
Is it to cover up their own flaws? Possibly.
Is it to demean us? Possibly.
Is it to try to hurt us? Possibly.
Is there any good that can come from them lying to us? (maybe in the most trivial matters like maybe they're afraid to acknowledge that they don't like our clothing, hairstyle, etc)
I think we are talking about much more significant matters here.
When the INFJ antenna goes up, we should listen to it and ACT ON IT.
How does it make you feel when you know someone is purposefully lying? Does it foster resentment toward that person? Is that healthy for us? How does our gut respond? Anxiousness? Increased heart rate? Etc, etc.
I mean, really, how many times does a person have to lie to us for us to remove them from our circle? One, two, three times? In those one, two, three times, have we been hurt in some way? Have we gained something beneficial from this person. (again, I'm talking about a significant matter that might exist between us and them.)
Let's face it--we all lie from time to time. I will say it is much harder for an INFJ to lie because it's kind of not in our DNA. We can find other ways to "skirt around" an issue without outright lying. (not sure if that's a beneficial trait either--oops)
What I'm trying to say here is this--
Is this person beneficial in our lives if we let them remain in our circle with their lies?
What will we gain by removing them from our circle? (possibly less pain/hurt for ourselves)
Do we need them in our "circle" for some reason?
We INFJ's should love ourselves enough to not allow someone in who is not going to be authentic.
Just move on. No need to waste our valuable time if the interaction/relationship is not beneficial.
And, we might just help someone become more authentic if we exercise our boundaries and say No to them. It is true that your circle of friends/family/acquaintances may get quite a bit smaller, but better a small circle of authenticity than a large circle of in-authenticity.
Love that you said to just move on! Yes!! Just move on. That's awesome.
I love what you said about "skirting the issue" so true!
Interesting video Boom! Yes very true! Although it's an interesting point that "truth" is subjective, depending on the conversation you're having sometimes people are not telling you the factual truth but they are telling you their emotional truth, they might not have been driving at a hundred miles an hour factually it was more like 60, but what they are trying to do is tell you how it felt in the moment, I figured that out a while ago it's why people embellish and exaggerate their stories, factual story telling isn't very interesting where as emotional storytelling is much more engaging.
It's the more sinister kind of lies that really get our "spidy sense" going, yes first question is why? What are you hiding and why do you need to hide it? Mostly it's insecurity on some level, big question is how insecure is this person, the answer is in how much they lie and how big the lies are, lots of big lies equalls big problems and a person you can't trust in any way at all, lower level liars are more of an inconvenience they may not be bad people at heart but it's still not worth trusting them.
I can't tell u how many times I've been talking to someone and what they were saying sounded "fishy" and no I can't just call them out, but I will probe their lie with some seemingly innocent obvious questions to see what they say, sometimes I think there may even be an unspoken knowledge between the two of us that we both know you're lying, like they can tell I haven't really swallowed it but I just won't say so, I guess the shrug of agreement and then ending the interaction is probably a big hint also, lol 😃
Love this insight!!!! I do this too!!!!
Yes!!! Brilliant!
Great video! This helps me understand my actions around someone I live with and am trying to help raise... It's so frustrating because I want to write him off yet children need to be taught! He was adopted as a toddler and emotionally abused until early teens. To get away from the abuse he came to live full time with his adopted father and I. I pointed out to him right away that he had a problem with lying and that I understood he had probably started only to protect himself however he's safe with us and need to learn how to tell the truth! 4 years later and he's just becoming more skilled at lying...!
If anyone has any tips that could possibly help, I would love to hear them!!! Thank you!
Have you tried pointing it out every time he lies? When people lie around me a lot, I will just take to pointing it out every time, and eventually, they will stop. Liars don't like being caught in a lie. :)
I tried in the beginning to point out each time he lied that had a negative impact, however I have four biological children that are younger than him that live with us as well and most times he will blame things on one of them or just say it wasn't him indicating that it was one of the other kids... since every lie doesn't has evidence or proof he will play the victim card, such as, "I always get blamed for everything", and "that's the same kind of things my adopted mom did to me" and "the little kids get away with everything" and "no one ever trust me even though I'm completely innocent" BS. We've tried at times to point out all the times that we know for certain that he lied and how it leads up to us not believing him but it never seems to sink in to his thick head and he continues trying to argue back no matter how firmly we word things! He's toxic and an extreme manipulator. I honestly believe he is fairly high on the spectrum of narcissistic personality disorder and I don't use that word lightly! If not NPD he's two separate people and can't, doesn't or won't align with the other person inside himself that didn't do what he was supposed to, when he's standing there saying he didn't do whatever the offense was. I always try very hard to treat him similarly to my children or as much as possible (always taking each individual child into consideration) since when he was younger part of his abuse was being treated completely opposite of his other siblings and like he was an outsider in his own home. While my children don't lie nearly as much or as freely as he does, they have and do lie at times... I believe that I have been lied to so often and because I try to be as fair as possible and not accuse falsely, as I would hate being falsely accused myself, it has really messed me up and to a certain extent, made me doubt trusting my intuition. Most of the time I find out later that I was right to believe my intuition, but by then I doubted myself so much and it's making me crazy. When he's in the house it's like a fake intruder, a heavy dark black cloud, pressing in, swirling around me sucking out all of my energy. I can hardly tolerate it anymore however you should know how stubborn INFJs are and I refuse to allow him, at this point to break up my 9-year relationship just because of him and his toxicity! He turned 18 this past fall but between his fetal alcohol syndrome and his ADHD I don't know when he's going to be able to be out on his own. It's a full-time job making sure he doesn't hurt and or rub off on my own kids. When he was 17 I had him take the MBTI even though he doesn't appear to really know who he is, as he will do anything and everything to make new people that come into his life like him... if he's around one of his father's friends, my children's friends or my own friends, he is always following us around trying to get attention, brag about himself, trying to make himself look like he's all that PLUS a bag of chips! During the mbti I was the one in control and read him the questions... I told him he may be too young since a person doesn't always know know who they are when they're so young, so we may not recognize him and he may need to do the test a couple years later. I also told him he needed to make sure before he answered the question that he was not answering what he thought someone else would want him to think or say or what he had been taught to think or say. I would question him on some of his answers and remind him that he couldn't care what other people would think about his answer and we would agree on an answer... We came up with him being an ESTP or an ESTJ... I feel fairly confident he's one of those personality types and it's helped me approached him in a way that he responds better however he still the same attention-seeking bragging, liar! Because I'm so dang stubborn and I can also see what amazing people each child "could" be, I have no one to blame except myself for feeling like I'm going crazy! I first found your videos about a week ago and ever since I've been binge "listening" Thank you for all your time!!!
You are soooo on the 💲💲💲 Boom!
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@@BoomShikha I actually used excerpts of this to "enlighten" a rare but impending recepient of mine. 😂
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I always can detect lie, even someone i just met and sometimes i just pretend dnt knw anything
NICE!! :) A good skill to have.
Ditto!!! Exaaactly! I’m an infj too.
Awesome!!!
Sociopaths lie about trivia because to their mind it proves they are in control
Makes sense!!
I wonder why I feel that I wish the other as well as myself well after I desided a person is someone I want to detach myself from.
When I think back to those moments I think I feel burning pain, and not anger. I feel a rich pallete of feelings for the other, as well as myself. I think of reality. how we all have our place.
Interesting that we both dislike cruelty and mistreating and lying patterns, that we both come to the same conclusion. we both distance our selves. but the feelings or how it's colored, is different.
- ENFJ
That is absolutely fascinating stuff! Thanks for sharing the perspective from an ENFJ's side.
Yoi and I are exactly alike..always tried to tell peiple I feel like I have a sticky brain..with old school filing cabinets inside..lol Im 50...and if I cant recall something I can almost always know the first letter..Ill go to my files and find what I need..I too canlock those files forever...nice to see someone else do that
Hahha! Amazingggg. :)
I don't know how much I can detect lie
But one thing I make sure when 'I' lie is to make as genuine as possible (and have answers and made-up proofs to make them believable)🤦♀️😅😂😂😂😂😂
Especially when I don't receive a phone call🤦♀️🤦♀️
Hahaha!!!
Wow this is so true.
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Very accurate!
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if you've felt lying just run to explain the reasons asap (if you can still find him/her)
Yes, that’s what I have been trying to do. :)
Yes, that’s what I have been trying to do. :)
I totally agree with being a lie detector and also I don’t like how I can tell if someone is lying 🤥 to me probably why I am a hermit so I don’t have to make them look bad lol
Yes!!!!
I know i was to late but, I'm not sure yet is im true INFJ or not bcs I wonder how to know at that moment when someone is lying... bcs sometimes I just hearing someone stories and after that my other friend told me that, that person is lying, and I just like "ohh, okey im not surprice"... Maybe I know that he was lying but not at that moment, you know wht I mean... can someone explain to me, how to know when you know 🙂↕️
We can't explain how we know what we know. If only we could. A lot of times, I know things, but there's no way for me to explain how I know. That's how introverted intuition works. :)
Than why most of the time we believe narcisist or psycopath?
Keep going , and have a Great life 🙂
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Very similar
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Do you have a huge database in your mind I don’t have to write nothing down people call me elephant man because I don’t forget about nothing
Yes, I absolutely do have that database as well!!!
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