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Wow I'm 6 years behind you, literally had this epiphany myself a few periods ago. Thank you for the confirmation x

Hi Boom Shikha , I am curious to know if you are from India ? because Shikha is an Indian name . Another coincidence , my name is Shikha and I am an INFJ too

You also need someone who is doing things so you have something to talk about with them otherwise your brain doesn’t know how to relate to people without discussing someone else’s life first. INFJ is very dependent on others for their ability to engage with others. Learn to start with yourself.

INFJ wants a partner of who they want to be not who they are

INFJs like motivated people so they can live through them vicariously.. not so that they will get up and do anything themselves. They want someone who reminds them of who they want to be.. riding coat tails

We can mimick evil to protect ourselves but I personally do not think there is any evil in me. It's the opposite and somehow whatever thing that might be perceived as mean at a time, we are always thinking it's for a greater purpose in the end 😂

Can you do a video on how exhausting it is to feel everyone energy at all times

Hello Boom thanks for this video on ADHD, Can you please tell me whether you're INFJ-A or INFJ-T? Can you tell me the difference between both?

This makes absolute sense, and I can see it play out in so many areas of life.

I just discovered I'm an INFJ, which has answered a lot of questions for me. I'm an Empath/HSP, and I'm learning to navigate all these feelings. I love your energy, and all the info you provide. You make a great coach. Thanks. Also, I agree with you that Narcissism is everywhere right now...crazy times.

Hey.. Hope you are doing good. I have a problem with decision making. Its so energy draining thinking of all the loops and holes. Once i take a decision, i am super cool and dont look back and stand strong there. Because i have thought of every possible scenarios out there. Its a bit out of context but still....

Look before you leap...... 🌌🔭

That is so true. I haven't been diagnosed but i always thought it was super cool for people to have adhd like being connected strongly to God and their magical personal intuition a gifted way of living and the earth knowing your purpose and pulling your feet body mind and soul into right path if you allow it. (Enfp) i get in trouble with my impulsive chatter. Or joyful affectionate open hearted dancy chattery huggy ways Im too raw and then i wonder if the past will return to haunt me. I really admire your independance. Something I've always put in the back because im a people pleaser and am afraid of proving myself and that i know what is actually great for me. Thank you for sharing and posting 💫🌍💫🦋🍦💌🌞🎶👾🎶✌️💞🤝🥰🙏🌷❤️‍🔥🌷❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ Happy Friyay!❤ Blessings!!!

Youare an INFJ Specialist 😁👍 All the points you say are awesomely true 😁👍

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The judging function aims to conclude fast. Black/white is often very efficient AND "CLOSE ENOUGH" calls in regarding how WE should get involved with it or no. Based on previous experiences observed by Ni, Se etc. The issue is with unknown and polarised thinking due to low IQ or social conditioning. However, it's not an INFJ issue. I say at a YOUNG age when our opposing functions are not developed its an issue but later on its more beneficial than it is not. Since it is based on valid statistical data. Experience. Better leave out two good people than deal with 10 bad ones. Others' issues are no concern of ours. Get rid of the habit of wasting your time on it. Period. /INFJ

Constantly underlining how you are not to be messed with or implying how exceptionally tough you are actually makes you look ... well ... less than tough.

Not everyone has great big hearts in this world so we are looked as weak and don't fit in with people

Getting it yet?

Exactly correct 👍

Orion Kelly channel gives a lot of info about INFJ

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czcams.com/video/P_NGn5OTYbE/video.htmlsi=IDCbmzroRkskh8Lz He is also an INFJ this video will help you to know your Purpose of Life.

Yeah I thought I was going to disagree with this video but its actually spot on.

I've learned to NOT operate in the B&W or good/bad mode. It just doesn't function in more complicated situations as you get older. Scott has it exactly below. It's evolve or die, Boom.

It's either my way or the highway...... 🛣 ⚫️ Operating in black & white when instead we should be concentrating on the fifty shades of gray that lie between ⚪️ Perceiving these subtle nuances should be second nature in every INFJ empath, especially since the rest of the world doesn't deal in absolutes. All-or-nothing attitudes & inflexibility have no place in a rapidly changing world & you must adapt to survive 🦖 The Quixotic quest for perfection is a Grand Illusion...... Most Sincerely, ~~An imperfect INFJ 🖕🏻😘 🌌🔭 P.S. Chase the rainbow 🌈 ✨️

Thank you 🙏🏿

Please make a podcast or video on infj's journal I mean what they love to journal kind of stuff

I'm an INFJ who has both mild autism and ADHD. I used to question my true personality type because of this an now I can accept myself for who I am and work on my own personal healing and recovery for much brighter and healthier days to come. I can take each day easily and slowly.

I wish I could enjoy myself around groups and loud people. It makes my life so much more difficult not being able to hang out in large groups. Everyone seems to LOVE it so much as if they are in pure ecstasy in an extremely loud and obnoxious group but I hate it. I hate social events. I just went to my best friends wedding and put on a face the whole time pretending to enjoy it but I absolutely hated every single second of it.

I am always early as well. Hour /hour and a half in everyday appointments, 3-4 hour Airport. Same reasons, and what-ifs. Otherwise, I am not aware of ADHD for me. (I could be wrong! ). I am an INFJ.

Oh yes, I definitely do these things too! For time, if I can, I will do a "practice drive" to a place to see how long it takes. I know that is not always possible, though, so when I don't know, I do overestimate time. With money, I think my ADHD and OCD tendencies are at work. I worry after a day of spending where I'm at budget-wise. So I'll pull up my Excel spreadsheet budget and plug numbers several days a week. After finding out the damage, it gives me relief to know. But even going off what I did before, I struggle to estimate well but tend toward over estimation. Luckily, I usually have some left over instead of under. 😅

Im always turning up early to things - can't stand being late 'in fact, I'd rather be really early and wait than turn up on time - not sure why that is ( my brother is the exact opposite- always just on time or late! If we ever need to meet each other, we never turn up at the same time , even if we agree to , ha ! 😊

Don't think it's an INFJ thing Boom - I traveled overseas extensively for decades and was pretty precise on travel times, distances and costs. Unless I'm an exception to that. ADHD I don't know, but sounds more like it to me...

Just this June, first time to take a flight, I was like 5 hours early With my clothes to wear, I prepare Sunday, the clothes I wear for the whole week. When I buy grocery, it's for 1 month supply or buy 2 items 😅😂

Definitely an issue for me as well; forwarded this video to my adhd buddies. I also am always early because I learned young being late destroyed my ability to be centered. However I am always waaaay to early Adhd + infj= interesting life

I think this is why we prefer lots and lots of information and repetition, if we can do that we will be ok. The problems start with unfamiliarity, and being caught off guard. I think youre right allowing lots of time for things related to timing, and appointments etc decreases stress. Nearly half a century into life and I STILL more often than not try to expect way too much out of a day hour minute etc...the unexpected variables of life taunting me always lol. Lots of paper for budgeting, and referencing said paper often will keep us out of the poor house. Nomatter how you look at it, the rationale being at the top of mind will nearly always "look" like obsession, paranoia control issues or whatever to people on the outside looking in. We're just trying to maintain😂 No clue if that is INFJ traits or ADHD. Its the variables that bite us in the behind...every time though. Must be why we have so many extra contingency plans whirling around in our heads 😊 Great video :)

This is definitely me 😂😂🥴🥴100% gotta figure out a good method!! It’s a process .. I’m just now starting to write important information down to make my life easier …I get distracted so easy & forget quick

Wow you have a vibrant smile❤

It's so confusing how people say that we're crazy or weird when they are with is but then calls us mentally broken for not taking them back. That's some narcissistic ish

This is a helpful perspective. Thank you! I am an INFJ who has ADHD and other neurodivergent qualities and I do often struggle with perfectionism. And I will try this concept.

what do you do when you don't even know if you are thinking all or nothing on something?

As an autistic person with pretty severe adhd and past trauma, I greatly struggle with all or nothing mentality. It's so important for me to keep in the forefront of my brain when even just going out to go for a hike or something simple and enjoyable like that, that "this is just for fun". It's so easy for me to get overwhelmed and just not want to go out and do anything at all. Thankfully therapy has helped

Boom Shakalaka! Thank you!

This is mad useful advice

What are nfjs?

I’m honestly scared to just call out of the blue.

This isn't usually linked to personality types. This is a neurological issue that should be checked with a doctor. Im not an INFJ and forget to breathe at an almost constant. My breathing rate drops down to 1 or 2 breaths per minute if im not much and its not health. Mind-body connections won't help. Its a dysfunction of the nervous system and that can get dangerous.

You are describing me so well its splits the arrow that hit Bullseye.<smile>

Dealing with money is difficult. When I was younger it always made me feel degraded to reduce things to monetary terms; everyone in the world seemed to do much better at it than me, and I was always feeling like an idiot, with my 'ideals' while they all went for the cash. Now I'm reaching retirement age and I have things in place. My ex destroyed my first retirement plan, and my 2nd wife almost did the same with my present one last year (that's been abated for now). So I do have a system in place, and am set to retire in less than 3 years. You do need to have everything automated because INFJ's suck at money matters. Payments going in, deductions going out, everything. I'm one of those few who HAS managed to get a teleworking job where I can work long term, so I'll have a pension, savings plan and SS benefits coming.