I haven’t yet completed watching, but I wanted to pop on here and say- I can’t agree more with the sentiment about having children in the context of regret. My husband and I have one daughter. I conceived at 39, and she was born soon after I turned 40. Now she is 2. I would give my right arm to have more babies and add to our family. I mourn the fact she will be an only child with no siblings to grow up with, and grow old with. We did her no service waiting so late in life. If I could do it again, I would have more babies, and have them younger. It will probably be one of my biggest regrets in life. That said- Thank God for the miracle that our daughter is. I am forever grateful to experience being a mother, and witnessing the beauty of a growing child and human. There is no greater joy. Family. It’s really all that matters. And you simply don’t fully understand until you become a mother. Thanks for this conversation. ❤
I have 3 kids ages 12, 10, and 2. The older boys are so much help our little girl. All are such a blessing. It's so refreshing to hear you guys! Thanks
I suffered about not having 3rd child but after learning i am in a neurodiverse marriage...i am thankful for more time to workout, go for lunches with friends, etc.
My first grade public school teacher rememberd me 27 years later and introduced me too the class it was her last year she retired Mrs Buck was like miss Frizz from magic school buss
Very much enjoyed hearing your experiences. Nate and I share so many things and hearing your perspective is wonderful. Blessings on your adventures in Christ!
Thanks for paying attention to us student/mothers. But I wish this episode could introduce more of how she managed to fulfill the task of childcare and schooling. Both my husband and I are phd students and our son is 2years old. I am in humanities, my husband in computer science. Our son has brought so much joy to us, but I found the parenting task is overwhelming sometimes. We are international students so we don’t have families around to help and it’s very hard to find a daycare in this small city plus very expensive. My progress has been delayed for two years due to pregnancy and childcare. There are many practical concerns for people not to have children. A good society should provide more support for moms.
@@TammyPetersonPodcast Thanks for your reply, Tammy. Your idea that our meaning of life lies in the service for a higher good encourages me a lot. As an international student who grows up in China and converts to Christianity after coming to US, I agree with what Dr. Peterson said about the danger of totalitarian regime and the current failure of humanities education in western countries. Most of those who come from communist/socialist countries know how valuable the Western civilization is. Many young people in China now don't want to marry, not to mention having children. They claim themselves to be "the last generation" because they realize how disposable and hopeless their lives are and they don't want their children to live such a life anymore. Luckily, I have been listening to Dr. Peterson's podcasts, in which he mentions the importance of having children. Plus, the Bible tells us to be fruitful and multiply. I don't regret the choice of having children, but in reality, there are still a lot difficulties to overcome. Normally i need at least 4-5 hours per day for writing my dissertation and applying for the jobs, but my 2y/o son is so demanding that he needs constant attention from adults. Maybe I should learn how to train him to spend time on his own.
@@Violet-gh5nw if you son has a safe bedroom to be in, he can amuse himself for quite some time. My daughter could amuse herself for 1 hour at 12 months old. If someone is within hearing range of him, he isn’t alone. Also, I had a friend who had 2 kids the same age as mine. We exchanged kids a few times a week so we each had uninterrupted time . There is a way to find the time for 4 hours of a day. Pause and meditate to find a better way . Don’t give up and put up boundaries so you can do your work. Best of luck
I remember being told once that a woman is not a complete woman until she has given birth and is there wholeheartedly to raise the child. Attentive mothers are a stepping stone all children need to find meaning in life. A true mother's heart does indeed say, "how can I teach my child, if I don't know myself" Fulfilling work is found first in the home. Much love
Tammy, I respect you and I am hoping that you can have people on your podcast that want to save the victims of the slavery of trafficking of children today. The story of Tim Ballard as depicted in the move starring Jim Caveziel is a true story which exposes how insidious this is. I implore you to consider looking into this and spread this message. It’s so tragic here on the southern border that so many children are unaccounted for. I ask you to please discuss this with Jordon as well. Sound of Freedom. As moms and grandmothers…
@@TammyPetersonPodcastI had to come to your channel to thank you for your part in wanting to have a conversation with the wife of Tim Ballard. I don’t know her name but I just watched Jordon’s interview with Tim Ballard and Jim Caveziel. Your response to me gave me the hope that indeed their message would get out. You have the heart of a mother as Tim described about his wife as your channel clearly shows.
I love it when women talk about childbirth! Thank you. After my ex-husband, who ideates a female persona for himself, started claiming my contractions, I especially marked female lives.
Thank you both for this very interesting and intimate interview. I just wanted to say something on a matter that you touched upon during your conversation. The conversion of the Agia Sofia (saint Sophia) Church into a mosque. Most Greeks including myself are saddened by this and consider it to be desecration of our holy ground. Moreover, when the Church was initially converted into a mosque after the 1450s a lot of the murals were destroyed in the process of being crudely covered in order to prevent depictions of Jesus, Mary and the saints which is forbidden in the Muslim religion. The sacking of Konstantinople in 1453 with the resultant occupation of Greece for 400 years together with the 1922 destruction of Smyrna, the continued pogroms in the 1950s and the killing of millions of Greeks both on Greek and Turkish soil by the Turkish governments has been a painful topic which is never forgotten here in Greece. Turkey's animosity has never seized towards the Greeks with Turkey making claims on the Aegean islands up until now. All the best from Greece! x
Next time in Jerusalem, at 7 am in the Holy Sepulchre a dozen (max) or so local believers (mostly wonen) gather at Edicule for short Franciscan-led mass several days each week; don’t be late! Also, at vespers time the Russian Orthodox nuns at Mary Magdalena (the gold onion dome above Gethsemane) sing acappella the most exquisite worship you’ll ever hear. Time stops at both places. Lastly, a prolonged visit during and after the Jewish High Holy season will change your life, especially if you’ve soul searched during the preceding weeks of the Jewish month of Elul.
This is pretty specific but would someone with esophageal atresia/tracheoesophageal fistula be a good candidate for this treatment? The surgery site where the two ends of the esophagus are stitched together can narrow due to scar tissue.
The day you go decifer the greek version may i please join and would you please narrate it allowed by voice translation via zoom if anything but in person would be a honor too see the original greek bible best of luck and God bless
How Human Nature Works Human nature is the desire to receive, also called “desire to enjoy,” and it functions by receiving what is beneficial to itself and rejecting what is harmful. Everything in our lives is built upon this calculation where we first try to distance ourselves from harm, and then seek how to draw ourselves closer to what is beneficial. Human nature also includes a multilayering of systems that work simultaneously on still, vegetative, animate and human levels. One of those systems is our bodily one, which operates involuntarily. If our bodies are healthy, then they know what is good for them and draw that goodness to themselves. After the bodily system, there is the emotional system, which also functions relatively according to instinct. From the emotional system, we move to the mind, and from the mind to the intellect, and so on. That is, we have systems over systems that concurrently work on receiving what is beneficial and rejecting what is harmful. Such is human nature and the essence of our lives. Our every desire, thought and action operates according to the calculation, “How can we receive what is most beneficial to us and reject what is harmful?”
@@TammyPetersonPodcast yes, but it's like saying that Michigan is in Canada. Apart from that, there is a vast cultural and spiritual gap. In Patmos the language spoken is Greek. The religion is Christian Orthodox. In Turkey the language spoken is Turkish is the country is secular and Muslim.
"The uncertainties of life and the vicissitudes of existence do not in any manner contradict the concept of the universal sovereignty of God. All evolutionary creature life is beset by certain inevitabilities. Consider the following: 1. Is courage-strength of character-desirable? Then must man be reared in an environment which necessitates grappling with hardships and reacting to disappointments. 2. Is altruism-service of one’s fellows-desirable? Then must life experience provide for encountering situations of social inequality. 3. Is hope-the grandeur of trust-desirable? Then human existence must constantly be confronted with insecurities and recurrent uncertainties. 4. Is faith-the supreme assertion of human thought-desirable? Then must the mind of man find itself in that troublesome predicament where it ever knows less than it can believe. 5. Is the love of truth and the willingness to go wherever it leads, desirable? Then must man grow up in a world where error is present and falsehood always possible. 6. Is idealism-the approaching concept of the divine-desirable? Then must man struggle in an environment of relative goodness and beauty, surroundings stimulative of the irrepressible reach for better things. 7. Is loyalty-devotion to highest duty-desirable? Then must man carry on amid the possibilities of betrayal and desertion. The valor of devotion to duty consists in the implied danger of default. 8. Is unselfishness-the spirit of self-forgetfulness-desirable? Then must mortal man live face to face with the incessant clamoring of an inescapable self for recognition and honor. Man could not dynamically choose the divine life if there were no self-life to forsake. Man could never lay saving hold on righteousness if there were no potential evil to exalt and differentiate the good by contrast. 9. Is pleasure-the satisfaction of happiness-desirable? Then must man live in a world where the alternative of pain and the likelihood of suffering are ever-present experiential possibilities." The Urantia Book, Paper 3, Section 5. Thank you and God bless you both!
The remark she makes at the beginning ;"No one has ever regret having more children" is not true.....unfortunately a lot of women that lived before us that had no access to contraceptives, did regret the number of children they had, even when they accepted them when they were born........Apparently she has no idea what she is talking about, although in this time the inverse is also a big problem....
@@TammyPetersonPodcast I have seen that in my surroundings heard it from older women, and know this is still happening in cultures with lots of children. She said the opposite and that is also an opinion! Lots of woman can't handle to many children, that is why they do dangerous abortions themselves!
@@TammyPetersonPodcast My son explained to me that you react this way because the main group you might be focused o, are young women who have learned to say things {opinions} which are not based in reality, this is not the case with me,I am 55 years old and I talk from experience. Think that you had 5,6,7 Mikhaila's , children with health problems, you would have done what you could, and you would have loved them but you would not have been so happy every time you where pregnant....
I haven’t yet completed watching, but I wanted to pop on here and say-
I can’t agree more with the sentiment about having children in the context of regret.
My husband and I have one daughter. I conceived at 39, and she was born soon after I turned 40. Now she is 2. I would give my right arm to have more babies and add to our family. I mourn the fact she will be an only child with no siblings to grow up with, and grow old with. We did her no service waiting so late in life. If I could do it again, I would have more babies, and have them younger. It will probably be one of my biggest regrets in life.
That said-
Thank God for the miracle that our daughter is. I am forever grateful to experience being a mother, and witnessing the beauty of a growing child and human. There is no greater joy.
Family. It’s really all that matters.
And you simply don’t fully understand until you become a mother.
Thanks for this conversation. ❤
How do you know you can't have more kids? Are you certain? What about in-vitro?
As long as you are not in menopause there is an option of IVF
So nice to hear sweet female voices encourage each other.
I could listen to tammy peterson for hours. Such a sweet spirit. Love love love her.
I have 3 kids ages 12, 10, and 2. The older boys are so much help our little girl. All are such a blessing. It's so refreshing to hear you guys! Thanks
Hope you don't spoil the girl because she's "your little girl" while you expect the boys to step up. If you don't you'd be common and "normal".
Parentification is abuse
I suffered about not having 3rd child but after learning i am in a neurodiverse marriage...i am thankful for more time to workout, go for lunches with friends, etc.
My first grade public school teacher rememberd me 27 years later and introduced me too the class it was her last year she retired Mrs Buck was like miss Frizz from magic school buss
Very much enjoyed hearing your experiences. Nate and I share so many things and hearing your perspective is wonderful. Blessings on your adventures in Christ!
Thanks for paying attention to us student/mothers. But I wish this episode could introduce more of how she managed to fulfill the task of childcare and schooling. Both my husband and I are phd students and our son is 2years old. I am in humanities, my husband in computer science. Our son has brought so much joy to us, but I found the parenting task is overwhelming sometimes. We are international students so we don’t have families around to help and it’s very hard to find a daycare in this small city plus very expensive. My progress has been delayed for two years due to pregnancy and childcare. There are many practical concerns for people not to have children. A good society should provide more support for moms.
How much time do you need to yourself each day? Your kids can learn to spend time on their own so you can do what you need to do.
@@TammyPetersonPodcast Thanks for your reply, Tammy. Your idea that our meaning of life lies in the service for a higher good encourages me a lot. As an international student who grows up in China and converts to Christianity after coming to US, I agree with what Dr. Peterson said about the danger of totalitarian regime and the current failure of humanities education in western countries. Most of those who come from communist/socialist countries know how valuable the Western civilization is. Many young people in China now don't want to marry, not to mention having children. They claim themselves to be "the last generation" because they realize how disposable and hopeless their lives are and they don't want their children to live such a life anymore. Luckily, I have been listening to Dr. Peterson's podcasts, in which he mentions the importance of having children. Plus, the Bible tells us to be fruitful and multiply. I don't regret the choice of having children, but in reality, there are still a lot difficulties to overcome.
Normally i need at least 4-5 hours per day for writing my dissertation and applying for the jobs, but my 2y/o son is so demanding that he needs constant attention from adults. Maybe I should learn how to train him to spend time on his own.
@@Violet-gh5nw if you son has a safe bedroom to be in, he can amuse himself for quite some time. My daughter could amuse herself for 1 hour at 12 months old. If someone is within hearing range of him, he isn’t alone. Also, I had a friend who had 2 kids the same age as mine. We exchanged kids a few times a week so we each had uninterrupted time . There is a way to find the time for 4 hours of a day. Pause and meditate to find a better way . Don’t give up and put up boundaries so you can do your work. Best of luck
I remember being told once that a woman is not a complete woman until she has given birth and is there wholeheartedly to raise the child.
Attentive mothers are a stepping stone all children need to find meaning in life.
A true mother's heart does indeed say, "how can I teach my child, if I don't know myself"
Fulfilling work is found first in the home.
Much love
What a great conversation
Tammy, I respect you and I am hoping that you can have people on your podcast that want to save the victims of the slavery of trafficking of children today. The story of Tim Ballard as depicted in the move starring Jim Caveziel is a true story which exposes how insidious this is. I implore you to consider looking into this and spread this message. It’s so tragic here on the southern border that so many children are unaccounted for.
I ask you to please discuss this with Jordon as well. Sound of Freedom.
As moms and grandmothers…
Thank you for your comment and encouragement
@@TammyPetersonPodcastI had to come to your channel to thank you for your part in wanting to have a conversation with the wife of Tim Ballard. I don’t know her name but I just watched Jordon’s interview with Tim Ballard and Jim Caveziel. Your response to me gave me the hope that indeed their message would get out. You have the heart of a mother as Tim described about his wife as your channel clearly shows.
I love it when women talk about childbirth! Thank you. After my ex-husband, who ideates a female persona for himself, started claiming my contractions, I especially marked female lives.
Great conversation! I loved hearing about the children and grandchildren!
We do story of the world also. It’s so fun. It’s definitely written in such a way that my 6 and 10 year old can understand.
Inspiring ! so grateful for pioneers in education - so gratified to see homeschooling become mainstream
I think what Kate experienced at the monastery was divine humility which changes us (also parenthood, service, etc)
Ty for all your content.
I’m sorry. I was sure Patmos was in Turkey. Thank you for your comment
I watched this just to experience their personalities, so comforting
Thank you both for this very interesting and intimate interview.
I just wanted to say something on a matter that you touched upon during your conversation. The conversion of the Agia Sofia (saint Sophia) Church into a mosque.
Most Greeks including myself are saddened by this and consider it to be desecration of our holy ground. Moreover, when the Church was initially converted into a mosque after the 1450s a lot of the murals were destroyed in the process of being crudely covered in order to prevent depictions of Jesus, Mary and the saints which is forbidden in the Muslim religion. The sacking of Konstantinople in 1453 with the resultant occupation of Greece for 400 years together with the 1922 destruction of Smyrna, the continued pogroms in the 1950s and the killing of millions of Greeks both on Greek and Turkish soil by the Turkish governments has been a painful topic which is never forgotten here in Greece.
Turkey's animosity has never seized towards the Greeks with Turkey making claims on the Aegean islands up until now.
All the best from Greece! x
Tammy when are you doing the podcast with Katherine Ballard?
As soon as I can set it up
44:40 What a sensation. Holy places must be so energetically powerful to be immersed in.
Next time in Jerusalem, at 7 am in the Holy Sepulchre a dozen (max) or so local believers (mostly wonen) gather at Edicule for short Franciscan-led mass several days each week; don’t be late! Also, at vespers time the Russian Orthodox nuns at Mary Magdalena (the gold onion dome above Gethsemane) sing acappella the most exquisite worship you’ll ever hear. Time stops at both places. Lastly, a prolonged visit during and after the Jewish High Holy season will change your life, especially if you’ve soul searched during the preceding weeks of the Jewish month of Elul.
Thanks for your comment
This is pretty specific but would someone with esophageal atresia/tracheoesophageal fistula be a good candidate for this treatment? The surgery site where the two ends of the esophagus are stitched together can narrow due to scar tissue.
My third baby shares your due date . How fun!
The day you go decifer the greek version may i please join and would you please narrate it allowed by voice translation via zoom if anything but in person would be a honor too see the original greek bible best of luck and God bless
Tammy, PLEASE interview
Dr. Jennifer Frey 🙏
How Human Nature Works
Human nature is the desire to receive, also called “desire to enjoy,” and it functions by receiving what is beneficial to itself and rejecting what is harmful. Everything in our lives is built upon this calculation where we first try to distance ourselves from harm, and then seek how to draw ourselves closer to what is beneficial.
Human nature also includes a multilayering of systems that work simultaneously on still, vegetative, animate and human levels. One of those systems is our bodily one, which operates involuntarily. If our bodies are healthy, then they know what is good for them and draw that goodness to themselves. After the bodily system, there is the emotional system, which also functions relatively according to instinct. From the emotional system, we move to the mind, and from the mind to the intellect, and so on. That is, we have systems over systems that concurrently work on receiving what is beneficial and rejecting what is harmful.
Such is human nature and the essence of our lives. Our every desire, thought and action operates according to the calculation, “How can we receive what is most beneficial to us and reject what is harmful?”
Latin in 2nd grade wow thats kool public schools suck no offense i still had a favorite teacher my first grade teacher Mrs Buck
Patmos is in Greece, not Turkey!
Yes but it’s very close
@@TammyPetersonPodcast yes, but it's like saying that Michigan is in Canada. Apart from that, there is a vast cultural and spiritual gap. In Patmos the language spoken is Greek. The religion is Christian Orthodox. In Turkey the language spoken is Turkish is the country is secular and Muslim.
"The uncertainties of life and the vicissitudes of existence do not in any manner contradict the concept of the universal sovereignty of God. All evolutionary creature life is beset by certain inevitabilities. Consider the following:
1. Is courage-strength of character-desirable? Then must man be reared in an environment which necessitates grappling with hardships and reacting to disappointments.
2. Is altruism-service of one’s fellows-desirable? Then must life experience provide for encountering situations of social inequality.
3. Is hope-the grandeur of trust-desirable? Then human existence must constantly be confronted with insecurities and recurrent uncertainties.
4. Is faith-the supreme assertion of human thought-desirable? Then must the mind of man find itself in that troublesome predicament where it ever knows less than it can believe.
5. Is the love of truth and the willingness to go wherever it leads, desirable? Then must man grow up in a world where error is present and falsehood always possible.
6. Is idealism-the approaching concept of the divine-desirable? Then must man struggle in an environment of relative goodness and beauty, surroundings stimulative of the irrepressible reach for better things.
7. Is loyalty-devotion to highest duty-desirable? Then must man carry on amid the possibilities of betrayal and desertion. The valor of devotion to duty consists in the implied danger of default.
8. Is unselfishness-the spirit of self-forgetfulness-desirable? Then must mortal man live face to face with the incessant clamoring of an inescapable self for recognition and honor. Man could not dynamically choose the divine life if there were no self-life to forsake. Man could never lay saving hold on righteousness if there were no potential evil to exalt and differentiate the good by contrast.
9. Is pleasure-the satisfaction of happiness-desirable? Then must man live in a world where the alternative of pain and the likelihood of suffering are ever-present experiential possibilities."
The Urantia Book, Paper 3, Section 5. Thank you and God bless you both!
The remark she makes at the beginning ;"No one has ever regret having more children" is not true.....unfortunately a lot of women that lived before us that had no access to contraceptives, did regret the number of children they had, even when they accepted them when they were born........Apparently she has no idea what she is talking about, although in this time the inverse is also a big problem....
How do you know what women in the past experienced? That sounds like an opinion.
@@TammyPetersonPodcast I have seen that in my surroundings heard it from older women, and know this is still happening in cultures with lots of children. She said the opposite and that is also an opinion! Lots of woman can't handle to many children, that is why they do dangerous abortions themselves!
@@TammyPetersonPodcast My son explained to me that you react this way because the main group you might be focused o, are young women who have learned to say things {opinions} which are not based in reality, this is not the case with me,I am 55 years old and I talk from experience. Think that you had 5,6,7 Mikhaila's , children with health problems, you would have done what you could, and you would have loved them but you would not have been so happy every time you where pregnant....