Thank you. I needed to hear this right now. It has been 2 years since my spouse died. I am always asking why am I not better, I still grieve. This makes total sense
Now in year two and its the hollow emptiness that is draining me. its stopping me from feeling anything but this deadly ache. I have tried so hard nothing takes this pain away . thank you Megan at least n now I know it's not me losing it
I was married to John for 38 years and he died suddenly a little over 2 yrs. ago. We met when we were 16 yrs.old and he was my best friend. I’m literally 1/2 a person now and I don’t know who she is.
Im in the same situation but my wifes death was 16 months of painful struggle after colon cancer surgery. She urged me to remarry because she loved me so much and didnt want me to be lonely. Dont be so hard on yourself and ask yourself what would he want for you now? Get out there girl and be your beautiful self. Love will find you if you fill your heart with love.
This is me. I lost my best friend, best EVERYTHING 1 year, 2 months, and 2 days ago. I’m not the same person. The person that used to speak to strangers, cashiers, ANYONE-and smile with meaning-is GONE. I have no desire to continue living. Nothing to look forward to. Just existing, taking care of my family as needed, looking forward to bedtime, so I can go back to sleep and forget again for a while. He was 56. We were together 35 years, married 33 years. I feel sad and sick and left behind to take care of everything. Please pray for me and my family.🙏
I knew her since I was 5 we wet together 35 years ago she passed at 52 she was my best friend I miss her every day I sleep 4 hours a night and I am miserable my kids are grown I miss her more and going into year two is getting worse we have to support each other I have no close family so I have so hers adopted me hopeless Is normal I think
I'm DEVASTATED DON'T WANT TO TALK ABOUT ANYTHING ELSE BUT HIM. MY HUSBAND WAS MY LIFE MY EVERYTHING. NO MATTER WHO WE TALK IS NOT THEY. JUST WANT TO BE WITH HIM SOON.
I've heard it before from people I know that year two is harder. I missed most of the first year after my father's death because I was caring for my mom, so the second year was my actual time to come to terms with grieving him. My mother died 8 months ago and it's even worse because I grieved the vital person she had been and now I'm grieving her loss and dealing with the resulting turmoil of my life. Starting over completely by finding a new job, a new place to live, a whole new life without my parents. The family home in which I lived with my mom will be sold. All in one fell swoop! So yeah, second year of grieving my mother will be challenging. No choice but to just keep swimming.
Feeling this heavily very much as it’s the second year without my beloved adopted mom.💔😢💔 Her birthday just passed, and as Mother’s Day comes up, along with my beloved late father’s death anniversary. Now parentless I’m in a very dark pit, of deep sorrow & sadness…😔😥😔 It’s oftentimes super isolating and lonesome. Many can’t and would never understand sadly, thank you Meghan because I also seriously don’t even want to be in this world anymore.💔😪💔 #GriefHurts
I have heard before, year two was no better. Now at that stage, I could see why. I feel a setback, a small worry he would be forgotten, and each passing month is internally setting me off because he is getting further away. No more new memories, as it officially ended on this physical plane in April 2023. I miss my man so much!
It's been 2.5yrs since I lost my husband he was my best friend. He entered my life in 1968 and passed in 2022. I can't think straight and can barely function. I was 18yrs old he 4yrs older I'm not 75. When I read your post it was if I wrote it. I still keep his name on my Facebook and other things. I can't even go thr his closet. I wish many of us were close enough to get together. We need support. We're like a silent people. Take care
50 weeks in and I was thinking I should be feeling better by now, right? But if anything I feel worse. It does help to know this is typical, but it doesn't lessen the loss. 💔
Whew, thank you for this. I had heard this but in my 1st year part of me couldn't believe it (so you're right about controlling when we hear this!! :-)). Now, just beginning year two, yes it really is true, and it is harder. It is very helpful to hear it from you though.
My mom passed away unexpectedly and tragically September 2021. It’s coming to the 2nd anniversary that she died and the grief I’m feeling is of despair 😢 Thank you for sharing this. I’ve lost so much support from friends and family over this time and feel so alone and miserable. It’s affected every aspect of my life. When i try to express how i feel, I’m dismissed or my feelings are minimized, even by the mental health system. Thank you for sharing this. It’s validating to know I’m not alone.
Year two was absolutely horrible of my grief of my mom because my brother in-law died of suicide almost a month before my mom’s second anniversary, shock shock, it was near where we live. Absolute hell.
Hi, I am reading your book at the moment, I’m now in the second year of losing my mum I have to agree it’s so much harder. It’s only a month into the second year. It is crazy to think as the calendar flips over into the second year that we think all will be a lot better. I said to myself okay I made it through one hell of a year so now I need to move forward and not be so heartbroken. Well it didn’t work out that way and I feel worse. Yes I may have somehow got through that last year but now I have to figure out how to get through the rest of my life without my mum :(
This is me. This is my whole life mindset. ....you put in the work, you are diligent and you get the result. I went to everyone I knew who had gone through grief so I could learn “the right way” I should do it so I’d do it quickly, effectively and efficiently and not carry out the same “failures” of others who’d done it “wrong.” It’s not like that at all
It’s only been a little over a year. Everyday at 5 pm I start to go to open the door and wait from him to come home. I know he won’t, but the habit is hard to break.
THANK YOU for posting this. I lost my mom almost a year ago very unexpectedly and suddenly and it’s been an indelible and heartbreaking experience. Videos like this help so much.
I was married to my high school sweetheart for 51 years. We were both pretty young & it was kind of like growing up together. I think that first year of grief you don’t know what to expect. And you are hopeful that you are stronger during year two. But it has not been for me- This year friends & family are not around as much. I’m afraid I’m not very hopeful about my future! But I haven’t given up!
don't give up just keep moving forward with your life. Understand fully...grief is the most difficult emotion a human has. It gets better..now and then...for longer periods of time.or not.... It's difficult when others don't want to hear about "him"...as if we should be over it..etc etc. Well, all will have their own grief to deal with at some point and we can be there to actually listen to them ok. Chin up and don't give up on yourSelf. He wouldn't want that.
I count weeks - it’s now week 47 and week 43 since the funeral. I know I need to stop counting and limit myself to the yearly anniversaries otherwise I’ll struggle to create a new life. I’ve decided that, after the December 2023 and January 2024 anniversaries I need to let go of my grief as best I can until the next yearly anniversaries. I have to try real hard to do this.
I woke up one morning with my brain ahead of the rest of me. First thought was "what if this was all a dream?" Then, I started wondering how far back would that dream go? My mother's death in December 2022? My dad's death in September 2021? Five years? Seven? How far back? Why would I have such a cruel thought? It's torture!
I feel seen… it’s 3am , at this moment grief feels never ending … and some how watching this and feeling a little validated made it 5% better ..
Going on to 4 year death anniversary and I am still a grieving mess.
Thank you. I needed to hear this right now. It has been 2 years since my spouse died. I am always asking why am I not better, I still grieve. This makes total sense
Now in year two and its the hollow emptiness that is draining me. its stopping me from feeling anything but this deadly ache. I have tried so hard nothing takes this pain away . thank you Megan at least n now I know it's not me losing it
14 months... feel worse. so alone... no supports. couldn't care less about anything..
I was married to John for 38 years and he died suddenly a little over 2 yrs. ago. We met when we were 16 yrs.old and he was my best friend. I’m literally 1/2 a person now and I don’t know who she is.
Im in the same situation but my wifes death was 16 months of painful struggle after colon cancer surgery.
She urged me to remarry because she loved me so much and didnt want me to be lonely.
Dont be so hard on yourself and ask yourself what would he want for you now?
Get out there girl and be your beautiful self.
Love will find you if you fill your heart with love.
This is me. I lost my best friend, best EVERYTHING 1 year, 2 months, and 2 days ago.
I’m not the same person. The person that used to speak to strangers, cashiers, ANYONE-and smile with meaning-is GONE.
I have no desire to continue living. Nothing to look forward to. Just existing, taking care of my family as needed, looking forward to bedtime, so I can go back to sleep and forget again for a while.
He was 56. We were together 35 years, married 33 years. I feel sad and sick and left behind to take care of everything.
Please pray for me and my family.🙏
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I knew her since I was 5 we wet together 35 years ago she passed at 52 she was my best friend I miss her every day I sleep 4 hours a night and I am miserable my kids are grown I miss her more and going into year two is getting worse we have to support each other I have no close family so I have so hers adopted me hopeless Is normal I think
I'm DEVASTATED DON'T WANT TO TALK ABOUT ANYTHING ELSE BUT HIM. MY HUSBAND WAS MY LIFE MY EVERYTHING. NO MATTER WHO WE TALK IS NOT THEY.
JUST WANT TO BE WITH HIM SOON.
Thank you. I also heard this at the right time, 1 year and 3 months since the passing of my wife
I've heard it before from people I know that year two is harder. I missed most of the first year after my father's death because I was caring for my mom, so the second year was my actual time to come to terms with grieving him. My mother died 8 months ago and it's even worse because I grieved the vital person she had been and now I'm grieving her loss and dealing with the resulting turmoil of my life. Starting over completely by finding a new job, a new place to live, a whole new life without my parents. The family home in which I lived with my mom will be sold. All in one fell swoop! So yeah, second year of grieving my mother will be challenging. No choice but to just keep swimming.
I needed to see this. My dad passed last November and my bff yesterday. It’s really hard. Grief is hard.
You say it better than anybody else on this painful topic of grief.
Feeling this heavily very much as it’s the second year without my beloved adopted mom.💔😢💔 Her birthday just passed, and as Mother’s Day comes up, along with my beloved late father’s death anniversary. Now parentless I’m in a very dark pit, of deep sorrow & sadness…😔😥😔 It’s oftentimes super isolating and lonesome. Many can’t and would never understand sadly, thank you Meghan because I also seriously don’t even want to be in this world anymore.💔😪💔 #GriefHurts
💕💕💕 hold on in threre you are not on your own 💕💕
I have heard before, year two was no better. Now at that stage, I could see why. I feel a setback, a small worry he would be forgotten, and each passing month is internally setting me off because he is getting further away. No more new memories, as it officially ended on this physical plane in April 2023. I miss my man so much!
It's been 2.5yrs since I lost my husband he was my best friend. He entered my life in 1968 and passed in 2022. I can't think straight and can barely function. I was 18yrs old he 4yrs older I'm not 75. When I read your post it was if I wrote it. I still keep his name on my Facebook and other things. I can't even go thr his closet. I wish many of us were close enough to get together. We need support. We're like a silent people. Take care
Thank you so much for this. I feel less alone and that it isn't over yet. Far from it. Second year has been a long one and really difficult.
You made me cry.
I stumbled across this today and realized that I'm in month 11. So timely. Thank you.
50 weeks in and I was thinking I should be feeling better by now, right? But if anything I feel worse. It does help to know this is typical, but it doesn't lessen the loss. 💔
Whew, thank you for this. I had heard this but in my 1st year part of me couldn't believe it (so you're right about controlling when we hear this!! :-)). Now, just beginning year two, yes it really is true, and it is harder. It is very helpful to hear it from you though.
My mom passed away unexpectedly and tragically September 2021. It’s coming to the 2nd anniversary that she died and the grief I’m feeling is of despair 😢 Thank you for sharing this. I’ve lost so much support from friends and family over this time and feel so alone and miserable. It’s affected every aspect of my life. When i try to express how i feel, I’m dismissed or my feelings are minimized, even by the mental health system. Thank you for sharing this. It’s validating to know I’m not alone.
This was posted on what would've been my son's 23rd birthday. I lost him 2 years ago and this second year is so hard.
Year two was absolutely horrible of my grief of my mom because my brother in-law died of suicide almost a month before my mom’s second anniversary, shock shock, it was near where we live. Absolute hell.
Megan you are 100% correct.
The only answer I have for what I’m searching for, what I need, is my husband…😢😢😢
God bless your heart.
Hi,
I am reading your book at the moment,
I’m now in the second year of losing my mum
I have to agree it’s so much harder.
It’s only a month into the second year.
It is crazy to think as the calendar flips over into the second year that we think all will be a lot better.
I said to myself okay I made it through one hell of a year so now I need to move forward and not be so heartbroken. Well it didn’t work out that way and I feel worse.
Yes I may have somehow got through that last year but now I have to figure out how to get through the rest of my life without my mum :(
I feel more comfort living with this intense pain and waiting for my turn
This is me. This is my whole life mindset. ....you put in the work, you are diligent and you get the result. I went to everyone I knew who had gone through grief so I could learn “the right way” I should do it so I’d do it quickly, effectively and efficiently and not carry out the same “failures” of others who’d done it “wrong.” It’s not like that at all
It’s only been a little over a year. Everyday at 5 pm I start to go to open the door and wait from him to come home. I know he won’t, but the habit is hard to break.
The some...
Yes it’s true, 2nd year was the worst after loosing my daughter to mental illness/suicide…..
The ONLY THING I WANT IS TO BE WITH MY HUSBAND.
It's a year in 2 days. It found me on schedule. Thanks. I think. Blah. I'll do it. I don't want too. I'm doing it.
Wow!! You are soooo RIGHT ON!! Thank you for this!!
THANK YOU for posting this. I lost my mom almost a year ago very unexpectedly and suddenly and it’s been an indelible and heartbreaking experience. Videos like this help so much.
I was married to my high school sweetheart for 51 years. We were both pretty young & it was kind of like growing up together. I think that first year of grief you don’t know what to expect. And you are hopeful that you are stronger during year two. But it has not been for me- This year friends & family are not around as much. I’m afraid I’m not very hopeful about my future! But I haven’t given up!
don't give up just keep moving forward with your life. Understand fully...grief is the most difficult emotion a human has. It gets better..now and then...for longer periods of time.or not.... It's difficult when others don't want to hear about "him"...as if we should be over it..etc etc. Well, all will have their own grief to deal with at some point and we can be there to actually listen to them ok. Chin up and don't give up on yourSelf. He wouldn't want that.
Thank you for the information. It helps the pain
I have found year three so so so very hard , so yes it can get harder
It is so very difficult and no way to escape
I count weeks - it’s now week 47 and week 43 since the funeral. I know I need to stop counting and limit myself to the yearly anniversaries otherwise I’ll struggle to create a new life. I’ve decided that, after the December 2023 and January 2024 anniversaries I need to let go of my grief as best I can until the next yearly anniversaries. I have to try real hard to do this.
I woke up one morning with my brain ahead of the rest of me. First thought was "what if this was all a dream?" Then, I started wondering how far back would that dream go? My mother's death in December 2022? My dad's death in September 2021? Five years? Seven? How far back?
Why would I have such a cruel thought? It's torture!
I lost my beloved girlfriend of ten years
Last year she committed suicide
I don’t think I will ever
Recover suicide it is
Different death
Спасибо!
I am finding grief so hard since my gran past all I want to do is 😂 but I say I can’t doing it Sarah here who scratch so I don’t cry
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