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  • @TakeNoneForTheTeam
    @TakeNoneForTheTeam Před 2 lety +169

    Dad (and boss only in name), you're a soft spoken man with a heart that's unequaled. You've raised your daughter to be far too savvy to allow you to remain out of the camera's eye. Welcome to the channel!!!

  • @PaulWhitedWoodStoneIron
    @PaulWhitedWoodStoneIron Před 2 lety +100

    Please don’t feel uncomfortable behind the camera “dad”. Your obviously a great man and your wife also. I believe all of the people subbed to this channel enjoy your enlightenment every now and then. 👍

  • @davidconaway2830
    @davidconaway2830 Před 2 lety +75

    As a father of one daughter I can see and hear the love and pride "the boss" has in his children and their growth into young men and women. Stuff is stuff but the value is in his children.....profound and so true!

  • @throngcleaver
    @throngcleaver Před 2 lety +55

    You often don't realize what you have, until you lose it, but when one door closes, another one opens. This is a great channel, and a great family. Thanks for saving them, Boss.

  • @TheMadManPlace
    @TheMadManPlace Před 2 lety +69

    A man's most precious "asset" is his family - all else comes a lowly 2nd.
    May I please tell you that you have raised your children to be strong individuals - so be proud.
    As long as you get up one more time than you get knocked down, you are a winner and imparting that strength to your children will mean that they too are winners - have a good work ethic and are not scared of a little bit of work.
    Please do not be so camera-shy because you have many many people out here in CZcamsland that see you as an example to emulate.

    • @KenBreon
      @KenBreon Před 2 lety +4

      Thank you very much for the comment. It is heart felt. Ken.

  • @stevewilson4852
    @stevewilson4852 Před 2 lety +47

    Part of the measure of a person is not who they are when everything is fine, but what they are after adversity strikes. Stuff is just that -- stuff. It can be replaced. Thank you and God Bless your family for sharing tough things.

  • @andrewcrossley1938
    @andrewcrossley1938 Před 2 lety +22

    Thank you for sharing this part of your life Emerald, your father is a fantastic man and an inspiration, we just have to look at the other members of the family in your previous videos as proof of what an incredible husband/father he is.
    God bless you all.

  • @pastorelmer2
    @pastorelmer2 Před 2 lety +14

    You have two daughters that appear to be very mature beyond their years. Your whole family has a work ethic that is sadly missing in our culture today. Thank you so much for allowing us to visit with you and your family. You are a blessing.

  • @patstreet6690
    @patstreet6690 Před 2 lety +11

    You can see the true character of your Dad and your family in this video. Thanks for sharing this story.

  • @deanbenedict707
    @deanbenedict707 Před 2 lety +8

    The boss is the boss!!!! Please keep doing these. Your grandchildren will appreciate it.

  • @robertsimmons1264
    @robertsimmons1264 Před 2 lety +8

    Em, tell the boss he's the boss, and we love him. Praying for you all.

  • @TimS366
    @TimS366 Před 2 lety +50

    The attitudes and personality of all of this wonderful familly shine through on this channel and make it a very rare and precious gem. Thanks to Em for sharing everyone with us.

  • @rightsideofthegrass8114
    @rightsideofthegrass8114 Před 2 lety +26

    "I didn't have a complete understanding of what I valued ...." Oh my! Sir, if these words touched only few people, your discomfort from discussing this topic was worth it many times over. This is wisdom that does not come from textbooks or academia. Bossman, you give yourself some kudos for allowing the events to shape a worldview that is badly missing in 2022 society. The Lord puts things into our life to shape us, refine us, mature us. Your priorities were shuffled for the good of you, and of your family (e.g. the young lady standing beside you). "Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others." Phil 2:3-4. You are a walking demonstration.

    • @KenBreon
      @KenBreon Před 2 lety +3

      Thank you, Ken.

    • @YouLookinAtMe-Bro
      @YouLookinAtMe-Bro Před 2 lety +3

      Yes indeed, and well said.
      Dad and Mom are great parents with awesome morals and high standards.
      And their children are so fortunate to have them as role models.
      I have no doubt the children will raise theirs the same.

  • @chrispflanz3845
    @chrispflanz3845 Před 2 lety +4

    I have never commeted on a single youtube video. You are an amazing Dad and American. Inspirational.

  • @mikefrost3756
    @mikefrost3756 Před 2 lety +12

    Your father is a very humble man. You are blessed to have such a great example. When are you going to interview your mom?

  • @ross6343
    @ross6343 Před 2 lety +41

    Well...now I know where you young ladies get your 'presence of character' - your drive - from! And Dad...I wish more 'fathers' were just like you...me thinks the world would be much brighter for it! And Dad, you can be well chuffed with your daughters sense of taking pride in their work ethic. I know it takes teamwork to raise children, so, and this may be ask, a 'Mom' interview would be nice. Thanks for the great video! Cheers to a great 2022!

  • @TheAgentAssassin
    @TheAgentAssassin Před 2 lety +9

    Seems like a man with a heart of gold. It's been an honor to witness this man talk.

  • @flybywire5866
    @flybywire5866 Před 2 lety +9

    My late father often told me me, when they were looking for a house and bakery in 1959, he made sure it was not in a flood zone. He never was in a flood, neither me, wasnt even born at that time. But that was so important to him. Just about 5 km from here is a river , the rhine(its germany, near cologne) . The villages close to it know what floods are. Despite the litte distance we are in a high spot in this rather flat area. We never had any problem with water, also not in very strong rain, when houses just 300 m from us had flooded basements. Every time i hear about raising rhine levels or heavy rain, i am so glad we are in right this spot, because my dad choose well.

    • @KenBreon
      @KenBreon Před 2 lety +2

      Yes, he did choose well. Be Bless and “high and dry”. Thanks, Ken.

  • @dancox5572
    @dancox5572 Před 2 lety +22

    That was refreshing. You girls are fortunate and your families attitude reflects it. Thank you for your time sir. Twas nice to hear from you again.
    From millet Alberta Canada.

  • @paulrambone6705
    @paulrambone6705 Před 2 lety +12

    I love your channel. Your dad seems like a hell of a great guy. I guess that is why he raised such kids with good work ethics like yours.

  • @dougalexander7204
    @dougalexander7204 Před rokem

    To hear this story makes clear the Boss and his wife are perfect examples of knowing what matters. There is a reason the children are beautiful young people inside and out.

  • @bobraymond6135
    @bobraymond6135 Před 2 lety +23

    You may be uncomfortable being on camera, but you do a terrific job explaining things and it seems you are a natural. Keep coming on. Really enjoy listening to you!

  • @oby-1607
    @oby-1607 Před 2 lety +7

    A man who works and sacrifices for his family is a man and a hero. The family will always recognize that. And that is why we are alive, for family.

    • @KenBreon
      @KenBreon Před 2 lety +3

      My family is my purpose. “Boss Man”

  • @jamesc7526
    @jamesc7526 Před 2 lety +20

    I completely understand the loss of what I call replacement consumable parts that were collected. You never really understand the value in dollars and convenience of all those parts until you lose them. It sucks.
    And for the record, you young ladies are blessed beyond words to have a Dad like your Dad.

  • @jeffery19677
    @jeffery19677 Před 2 lety +7

    Hey, "Boss". Do you know how many kids want to work in the business as a career? Surely a couple of them will want to pursue other interests. Yes, "Boss", you have to do this again because you love your daughter and will help her grow this channel. Em, keep up the good work. This is one of my favorite channels. I am so tired of the political arguing. This is refreshing. Yes, politics may affect the business, but if it is discussed, I am sure you won't drone on about it.

  • @niemisofgc
    @niemisofgc Před 2 lety +13

    Your Dad is awesome, love his views on life

  • @slitaitana6212
    @slitaitana6212 Před 2 lety +8

    We all appreciate that given your reservations about technology and maybe being a slight bit camera shy that you take time to pop in and give everyone a glimpse into the boss man himself. Take care of the family and hoping for nothing but the best for all of you.

  • @JayMumper
    @JayMumper Před 2 lety +15

    Phenomenal. Thanks for giving the rest of us a glimpse inside. "Boss" - it's no wonder you have strong & confident children. Em - you are mature well beyond your years. You have a very bright future. Please keep sharing - you're an inspiration.

  • @musicalal3752
    @musicalal3752 Před 2 lety +24

    Enlightening observations from someone who has survived and recovered from a devastating natural disaster. Thank you for sharing, rest assured that your insight is indeed of interest. Looking forward to hearing more of your opinions and observations again in the future, if you're up for it. Best regards.

  • @fred4547
    @fred4547 Před 2 lety +8

    Dad/Boss’s reluctance to share is understandable. I hope that Mom/Boss will share her thoughts too.
    To have parents that place their children first, is a blessing.

  • @Yodie208
    @Yodie208 Před 2 lety +3

    I built a house on top of a mountain, In order for the bank to approve the mortgage they required me to get a flood inspection., I told the loan officer that the last time there was a flood up here Noah had to build himself an ark. The inspector was laughing as I was writing out the check.

  • @Urbicide
    @Urbicide Před 2 lety +3

    Boss Dad is a good man. Wishing you the best.

  • @salvadorsepulveda6415
    @salvadorsepulveda6415 Před 2 lety +4

    A Man who does not take life for granted given that second chance. Continued Blessings to All, 🙏

  • @fredericktownhomestead8094

    Thank you Boss for talking to us.
    I was a logger (tree feller) for much of my working life.
    What you call a log lot we called a "show". I logged in the big pines and oaks of New Hampshire.

  • @dugganwoodworks
    @dugganwoodworks Před rokem +1

    Family is everything. You're a good man. Sometimes we do things we dislike for a very long time to ensure our family is provided for.

  • @lestatangel
    @lestatangel Před 2 lety +3

    Y'all did good y'all doing good. Ain't no quitters ever did good.

  • @whatscoldoing5627
    @whatscoldoing5627 Před 2 lety +11

    Yet another example of a very strong and healthy family unit. Well done to both of you for this intimate glimpse of your lives and to the whole family for pulling together. You are all a true inspiration to all of us.😁👍🏆

  • @michaelduy9055
    @michaelduy9055 Před rokem

    1996 we went through the same experience. A tiny trickle of a creek on the property turned into a river after 16inches of rain. You lose your peace after that. We also sold our house, and at the closing the buyer's attorney mentioned that the house is no longer in a flood plain and flood insurance was not required. Wow!

  • @leer-winnobbeefarms2131

    We've all heard, "What doesn't kill us, makes us stronger." It's obvious - this is true in the case of you and your family. God's blessing on your lives. Lee

  • @philiphall5232
    @philiphall5232 Před 2 lety +3

    You are an awesome Father and a man. Thank you for sharing.

  • @trevortoop5166
    @trevortoop5166 Před 2 lety +6

    I love your family. You girls are amazing and give your dad a backslap. He is a real man - dying breed.

  • @rodcormier7428
    @rodcormier7428 Před 2 lety +7

    Always great to see your videos.... enjoy them very much ... nice to hear from the big boss man ... keep up the awesome job and thanks for the video

  • @Deutschehordenelite
    @Deutschehordenelite Před 2 lety +6

    Thank you for sharing the story, very heartfelt.

  • @Rob89139
    @Rob89139 Před 2 lety +3

    Still impressed with the wisdom of the Bossman

  • @HiLineTree
    @HiLineTree Před 2 lety +7

    You said that any man would have done the same thing. As much as I’d like to think so, I know better than that. Quite a story. Some people can rise to an occasion and immediately make instant decisions and summon strength to do the seemingly impossible. The Lord helps those who help themselves. Great to see a man step up and do what you did for the love of his family. Would hope to shake your hand someday. Good job. Thanks for sharing.

    • @KenBreon
      @KenBreon Před 2 lety +3

      I look forward to that day. “Boss Man”

  • @agkleppel6235
    @agkleppel6235 Před 2 lety +3

    best wishes, greetings and blessings from germany...

  • @roberttribbie9179
    @roberttribbie9179 Před 2 lety +13

    Appreciate Dads patients in retelling the story. As a new comer to the channel I was unaware of this event until the last video. Hearts and Prayers to you all, in your endeavors!!!

  • @danielhelpingstine3202

    I just watched your 2 videos about the flood. Thank God you're still here to tell the story!!!
    May God bless you and protect you and your family always

  • @AR15231
    @AR15231 Před 2 lety +3

    And this years Pulitzer Prize for interviewing goes to Emerald! Glad your out of the flood zone, be safe.

  • @mikemckain6556
    @mikemckain6556 Před 2 lety +7

    I love the Boss Man. Definitely tell he is not comfortable in front of the camera. Way to rock the beard. Most men will choose their family over anything else every time. So glad that you all survived the flood

  • @divitdean2359
    @divitdean2359 Před 2 lety +7

    God Bless You and your family, love the videos, May I just say you have raised some great children !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • @lbatlas2
    @lbatlas2 Před 2 lety +2

    That Man is a hero. God Bless you and your family.

  • @ron.v
    @ron.v Před rokem

    I see a daughter who is extremely proud of her dad -- and for good reason.

  • @lloydr.6271
    @lloydr.6271 Před 2 lety +7

    Sir, There are humble people who in adversity shine. Thank you for sharing despite the pain. We learn, we grow, we move on and we are better people and by example we help the people we love and hopefully those we will never meet who hear our stories. Thank you for your service. Bless you.

  • @karlnelson6593
    @karlnelson6593 Před 2 lety +6

    Love hearing people talk about episodes where they grew into their wisdom. More??

  • @the2012fad
    @the2012fad Před rokem

    Thanks, Pops.
    I grew up without a family, so - for me - to know that there are still real men in this world - gives me hope.

  • @gamla65
    @gamla65 Před rokem

    In February 1953 1/3rd of the Netherlands was flooded, 1.836 people died. One of my neighbours was so traumatized that she relocated to our village, the first one from her home that kept dry. But still They had a big boat on blocks in the back of the garden, from wood like an ark, fully stocked with food and water. In the mid 70'S we would play on the deck of that boat as young lads.That was the only way she could cope.
    So I can fully understand the impact of that experience on your dad.

  • @michaelthompson2748
    @michaelthompson2748 Před 2 lety +4

    Your Dad is indeed a special man…

  • @VernonChitlen
    @VernonChitlen Před 2 lety +6

    Have you thought about getting a smaller tracked log loader like a JD 2154g? Out west here "shovel logging" rules. It would make it more practical to harvest the "tops" of the hardwoods for firewood. Bunching them and logs for the longer skids for your grapple skidder. Excavator with grapples will work too, but clearance sucks for passing over stumps and not so handy for loading trucks.

    • @KenBreon
      @KenBreon Před 2 lety +2

      I am not financially ready for that step. It is on my mind. Thanks, Ken.

  • @richardanderson2742
    @richardanderson2742 Před 2 lety +4

    Your father's experience and awakening to true value is parallel to what made "The Greatest Generation" great. Facing real hardship with life and death implications focuses one on what is truly important and what is ephemeral. Your father rose to the challenge and likely is uncomfortable with receiving accolades for doing so. His humility and strength is to be admired.

  • @Wrenchen-with-Darren
    @Wrenchen-with-Darren Před 2 lety +2

    My God continue to bless your family. 👍

  • @semasis9032
    @semasis9032 Před rokem

    So true..I can relate to your Dad Boss.. I was a changed man after my fiery trial. Literally turned my life and values a whole 180 degrees.

  • @kurtcraig3421
    @kurtcraig3421 Před 2 lety +2

    when Em said "and now we live on the top of a mountain" That's how you take the risk of another flood and anymore sleepless nights, out of the equation.

  • @jeffjohnson5421
    @jeffjohnson5421 Před rokem

    What an awesome story. You are a blessed man with a beautiful family.

  • @ishure8849
    @ishure8849 Před 2 lety +5

    G'day LCLY, I run a Lucas Mill down under and I've been to the US and Canada a dozen times. I enjoy watching milling vids of your timbers and I've watched quite a few of yours and now I feel comfortable like you boss man to comment, Ishman.

  • @wileycoyotesr8623
    @wileycoyotesr8623 Před 2 lety +3

    I like this Boss. He's a good one. He has respectable life standards.

  • @davemarshall706
    @davemarshall706 Před 2 lety +1

    As a father to 5 adult children i can relate. You and your wife have raised a strong klan. Family is strength.

  • @DelSimmons
    @DelSimmons Před rokem +4

    Great to hear from the man of the house. Thanks for doing the video, Dad. I just stumbled on this channel that Em has created no it brings me much joy. Tons of respect for the way you’ve raised your family. These kids of yours are pretty incredible and it is easy to see that you and your wife have done an amazing job raising them and they will go a long way in life after you and I are retired or gone. And in the end, that is our biggest job as fathers, as I know you know. 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

  • @bruceporter1388
    @bruceporter1388 Před 2 lety +10

    Seems like she new exactly when to "interupt" you. Perfect! Something nice to look forward to on a Sunday evening when a new video comes out. Thank you for the honest answers. Looking forward to Terri sharing a few thoughts. Your priorities are certainly in the right place. I have four grown children and am proud of them. Sometimes the persona now is that working to take care of ones family is wrong. Best to you and love Em's videos.

  • @joshmiller8663
    @joshmiller8663 Před 2 lety +2

    Please tell your father he's a great man and better father. and I wish your family and it's business all the success in the world. love your channel.

  • @bigrigger5617
    @bigrigger5617 Před 2 lety +2

    Thanks for story behind the story. Good luck

  • @THACKER71
    @THACKER71 Před 2 lety +7

    Sir, you have to be the most humble man I have ever seen on you tube. You have a beautiful family who obviously respect and love you unconditionally. You remind me so much of my grandfather who I lost many years ago but seeing the way you act, talk and respond to questions brings back so many great memories of him, so for that, Thank you. I know you feel uncomfortable around the cameras but your presence is so appreciated and welcoming. Thank you sir for your true humbleness and honest appreciation and love you show for all of your family. If more men were like you I'm sure the world would be a better place. God Bless You Sir

  • @robinjohnson6816
    @robinjohnson6816 Před 2 lety +6

    Sir, you are a true gentleman. I love your honesty, values and work ethic, we could all learn a thing or two from you, and your wonderful family. I am in my 60's live in the UK and wish we had more people like you in this world. God bless you.

  • @billsandrelli957
    @billsandrelli957 Před 2 lety +5

    Your Father is a special person as are you all love your videos, keep them coming please.

  • @peteryoomla156
    @peteryoomla156 Před 2 lety +5

    Thanks for the information, the kind and humble perspective on life and the things you value. Mankind needs more real fathers like you.

  • @mikemckain6556
    @mikemckain6556 Před 2 lety +2

    And tell the Boss Man, yes he will have to get in front of these devices again.

  • @WhiteysWickedWorkshop
    @WhiteysWickedWorkshop Před 2 lety +7

    I have been so sucked into this channel and its videos like these that keep me coming back for more. You guys are awesome, hardworking and real. There arent enough real people in the world anymore. So we all thank you for that. Its also nice to know that you are from the great state of PA. So be good be safe and keep on being real! God Bless!

  • @grandpaloubroadway2020
    @grandpaloubroadway2020 Před 2 lety +2

    Family is everything, stuff is just stuff and can be replaced

  • @terryfoust4802
    @terryfoust4802 Před 20 dny

    you are truely blessed sir, i remember that flood all to well , just like it was yesterday. i feel for you and your family!

  • @johne.hilbert2046
    @johne.hilbert2046 Před 2 lety +3

    As a 20 year volunteer firefighter, (3rd generation). I can assure you, not all men are cut from the same cloth. Having "IT" in you, is far too uncommon in this day.

  • @hooperv
    @hooperv Před 9 měsíci

    God Bless you all. I don't know you but I'm very proud of you and your girls.

  • @tommcmillan3143
    @tommcmillan3143 Před 2 lety +2

    Great story and great come back!

  • @johnvelas70
    @johnvelas70 Před 2 lety +2

    only broke my toe BUT dinged an "un-dingable" nerve

  • @whitesnake370
    @whitesnake370 Před rokem

    Your lucky to have such a good man as your dad. He chooses his word carefully. And knows what really important. Good job dad at raising buttifle girls with good heads to back you should be proud

  • @thedelcodave
    @thedelcodave Před 2 lety +12

    To the boss man I understand your reluctancy to speak to the camera. Just the few times you have spoke has made it crystal clear that you are a kind and wise man with the capability to articulate important life lessons and skills. Many on the outside world can benefit greatly from your lessons. I have full confidence that you will become comfortable in front of the camera and have the ability to change peoples lives. Keep up the good work.

  • @andyjones6361
    @andyjones6361 Před 8 měsíci

    My friend once in a while God shows us how much we have !! God gave me my life’s dream with a beautiful Christian lady and wonderful children. And in 97 I just about through it all away. So painful I tear when I think about how bad I felt at that time!!
    I know you appreciate your family. Near misses are good once in awhile

  • @omnipitous4648
    @omnipitous4648 Před 2 lety +1

    Best wishes my freind. Doing what you have to do for your family is the most comendable acheivement you will ever have.

  • @mikepetitt9624
    @mikepetitt9624 Před 2 lety +5

    Thank you for sharing your amazing story! Your family and your dad are amazing people! Soooo happy you all came out the other side well! It’s nice to see your family all helping run your business together! I try and do the same with my girls!. I’m glad I stumbled across your channel. Best of luck to you all….

  • @dougeiswerth8683
    @dougeiswerth8683 Před 2 lety +4

    I can tell you're a good man and raising a great family! As we all know you don't like doing the videos, lol, but thanks!

  • @jeffsmith9328
    @jeffsmith9328 Před 2 lety +8

    Boss ur a very interesting man to listen to. Very informative would be great to see more of ya explaining the differences and techniques of logging. And u have a very hard working family. And ur raising them with values most kids these days just wanna be in front of screens. Once again thanks for the info. I’ve got 122 acres woodland that I wanna get selective cut going to walk it and video it and hopefully get in contact with ya and tell me the ins and outs of marking it

  • @fitch8363
    @fitch8363 Před rokem

    Thank you. The discussion of values was extraordinarily well done. There are lessons in there for everyone who has a family.

  • @caryharper9190
    @caryharper9190 Před rokem

    Lucky to rise to the occasion. Well said! I had one that was very important to me. We had been flooded out. I worked out of town. And when I got off that morning. I found out all roads was blocked going into town. And my wife was begging me to come home. So I had my mother-in-law dropped me off on a dirt road as close as possible. And walked over half a mile in flood water up to my chin. I was unable to swim. My work boots was to heavy for that. It was extremely cold day and cold water. When I came out on the other side. An old man who had seen me, was waiting on the other side. He asked why in the hell did I do that for. I simply smiled and said, my family needs me. And walked the rest of the way into town. The old man stood there until I was out of sight. With a very befuddled look on his face.

  • @luicunninghamritchie4806
    @luicunninghamritchie4806 Před 2 lety +1

    ‘Dad’ your children and your spouse must be proud to have you as their guiding light. They all must be very proud of you

  • @rorylobban4789
    @rorylobban4789 Před 2 lety +2

    A truly humble man who has had the opportunity to see the light and sort his priorities as a result. Things that can be bought can be replaced. Things that cannot ..... Cannot.
    Very simple but the plain logic seems to pass most folks by.

    • @KenBreon
      @KenBreon Před 2 lety

      Thank you, “Boss Man”

  • @georgeshotrodbarn2113
    @georgeshotrodbarn2113 Před 2 lety +4

    Sir you saved your beautiful family you have my respect. i have never been tested to that level and hope i never will be. but things could have gone very bad if it was not for your actions.

  • @Neo-un3oh
    @Neo-un3oh Před 2 lety +8

    What a great family. Your Father is definitely a doer and a man of not many words. Much respect!
    Keep up the drive and the vlogs

  • @garybilan1109
    @garybilan1109 Před 2 lety +2

    great video and words

  • @josephnotch8217
    @josephnotch8217 Před 2 lety +12

    Em I love when you get the Boss ( Dad ) on the vlogs. I think he is an inspiration for all. he reminds me of my own dad soft spoken and seemingly kind hearted with a wealth of knowledge to share. He has instilled a good work ethic in his family something that seems rare nowadays. I realize its tough for him to be on the vlogs but I greatly appreciate it when he is. Em keep on encouraging him to join you more I really enjoy listening to him. And Dad thanks for opening up and sharing your feelings and thoughts. Hope your family has a great New Year

  • @oliverwoodcraft9733
    @oliverwoodcraft9733 Před 2 lety +2

    Man of honor. Thank you for sharing

  • @FlipandTheBlueMule
    @FlipandTheBlueMule Před rokem

    Very Heart breaking for a parent !!