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  • Level up your career with a free coaching session: ck.chat/garry-tan
    We've all heard the saying. "you are an average of your closest 5 friends". I think for the most part, this is true. But there's more to it than that. Find out what in this video.
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    0:00 Why Scott Galloway is wrong!
    1:05 You ARE who you hang out with
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    3:13 Don't let it go to your head
    4:42 Rob Machado & Kelly Slater on success
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    6:23 Dealing with sociopaths as a creator
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Komentáře • 387

  • @patrickalegria7620
    @patrickalegria7620 Před 3 lety +37

    "Geeks beats sociopaths." A title of a good research/essay to make.

    • @EmreSafak
      @EmreSafak Před 3 lety

      It's not true, though. Look at politicians.

  • @cookies888100
    @cookies888100 Před 3 lety +156

    Gary Tan is such a real one.
    Literally teaching us how to spot the fake and snakes.
    Big thanks!!

  • @seanji
    @seanji Před 3 lety +61

    i think scott’s advice borders on sociopathic behavior. if you follow it to a tee, it will definitely put you in the wrong direction of only valuing people based on selfish reasons. but i think if you take it with a grain of salt, it leads you to meet new people who you may look up to and want to learn from. just my opinion on it, don’t take anyone’s advice to an extreme.

  • @ThisIsTechToday
    @ThisIsTechToday Před 3 lety +37

    So good, Garry. I always appreciate all the wisdom you share and finding the nuance in things in a way that isn't about using and abusing people but benefitting others, the world, and seeking to be a level-headed, and good person.

  • @hippocratech
    @hippocratech Před 3 lety +43

    Not at that level, but remember going to parties during med school with people asking other people what they do. If it was not medicine-related, they just neglected the person and moved on. Hated every minute of it. The good thing is that you could spot these people right away and decide whether to continue hanging out with them.

    • @paytonj2620
      @paytonj2620 Před 3 lety +6

      It's sad that ambitious people size up every person in their life based on a social or economic currency rather than how they can give & build shared core convictions.

    • @hippocratech
      @hippocratech Před 3 lety

      @@paytonj2620 Couldn't agree more. Glad that I found friends who just wanted to hang out and not always talk about work, goals, achievements, and money.
      Thanks @Garry Tan for putting this video out.

    • @jameezybreezy9030
      @jameezybreezy9030 Před 3 lety +1

      @@paytonj2620 *some ambitious people

    • @geeo_official
      @geeo_official Před 3 lety

      How dumb it is to let people down who do different things. How can you grow that way?

  • @TheFangGirl
    @TheFangGirl Před 3 lety +32

    LOL 7:11 is my favorite part - "don't do that - that's gross!" This is why I don't like going to networking events in the bay area and attend meetups or learning nights instead. Thanks Garry for another great video.

  • @gigaxxiv
    @gigaxxiv Před rokem +5

    Soooo fricking good to hear this message…
    There was always just something that ‘seemed’ so wrong about the sociopathic approach to getting ahead despite how popular it’s become as of late.
    Thanks for sharing Gary and for leading from the front.

  • @dwightchamberlain4117
    @dwightchamberlain4117 Před 3 lety +1

    Really enjoying your channel Garry and especially your genuine desire to help others and to really change the world. Really refreshing and encouraging! I’ve been in tech my entire career and listening to you makes me want to keep running for another 20 years!

  • @rockjockchick
    @rockjockchick Před 3 lety +1

    Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! That kind of advice always bugged me and I could never pin point why exactly. You nailed it!
    We have had to drop a few “friends,” but the truth is they were the toxic sociopaths.
    I’m happy to be finally clear on this distinction. This video was beyond helpful for me. It is life changing.
    Thank you! Thank you!

  • @KevinYang
    @KevinYang Před 3 lety +1

    "There's always something someone can teach you" This is so true! Everyone has a unique perspective and being able to have all these opinions just allows everyone to grow together

  • @jakosko1
    @jakosko1 Před 7 měsíci +1

    GARRY! You've literally hit a nail on its head for me! I used to be such a "sociopath" during parties and gatherings but could not figure out what was wrong all the time! I've realised I want to listed to my true self and seek out the people I REALLY want o the around. Not just those that seem or sound successful. The next step is to unlearn to ask the "what do you do?" question at the start of my conversations. THANK YOU!

  • @arnavbathla145
    @arnavbathla145 Před 3 lety +2

    Firstly, I absolutely love how you’re testing the video editing and intros. Literally shows how content creation is done from a product mindset.🛠
    And ofc love the overall content as well🚀

  • @oonaofsauceland6354
    @oonaofsauceland6354 Před 2 lety

    Most helpful video ever ,I've always had a problem with nit-picking ur friends according to wealth and success ur gonna surround urself with arrogant assholes instead of true friends who truly make u happy.

  • @gabrielvieira300
    @gabrielvieira300 Před 3 lety +1

    Thank you so much for this video Gary! I've always worried about this sort of advice whenever I failed at something, because if you don't know anyone who's successful you might actually believe they are all sociopaths of some kind.

  • @Raykdang
    @Raykdang Před 3 lety

    Justin Kan and Garry are two of the most authentic people I follow. No agenda, no sales, but truly beautiful and unbiased wisdom. This is what we need. Keep it up and looking forward to the next video!

  • @jakeoverflow
    @jakeoverflow Před rokem +1

    I LOVE this. Not only is it helpful career advice, but it’s morally admirable. It’s culturally important to honor your roots and to be loyal toward the people who love and care about you, no matter what their career or financial status, and you’ll be happier for it :)

  • @fitforfreelance
    @fitforfreelance Před 3 lety +2

    That gratitude and appreciation for the people in your circle helps so much!

  • @yonanz
    @yonanz Před 3 lety +2

    so good, Gary. What profound wisdom. I've learnt this myself in the past 2 years going through countless networking dinners. Realised this but good to see that validated through your videos. Cheers from Singapore

  • @easeaC10
    @easeaC10 Před 3 lety +2

    Gary, you have a lot of great content, but this one really shows what your thinking and attitude is, this is the base/ foundation/ roots from where you create and this type of thinking is leveling up the society, the common sense and consciousness.

  • @stevexie8511
    @stevexie8511 Před 3 lety

    Thanks for making this video and now it’s crystal clear on the priority on whom one should be hanging out with. I really like the community of creators > community of social paths. It reminds me of the mantra of whether one wants to be a producer or a consumer of the society.

  • @powerfreeliving
    @powerfreeliving Před 3 lety +9

    This advice answered a question I had for a while! It’s about surrounding yourself with the right tribe. Thanks for sharing your insight, Garry! Very helpful ☺️

  • @garyongyc
    @garyongyc Před 3 lety

    Your heart is absolutely in the right place, Garry. Thanks for this. There are many who need a poignant advice and/or reminder like this, including myself.

  • @GrowWithWill
    @GrowWithWill Před 3 lety +2

    Love this Garry. Completely agree on your take. Provide value to others and just be genuinely curious in others and in learning. You should be leveling up your ideas and your frameworks for different thoughts.

  • @MrBradleydoering
    @MrBradleydoering Před 2 lety +2

    I’ve been trying to find the words to describe this! There are so many “business people” who just seem to be hustling to make the quickest buck instead of building something valuable. I believe these are the people that you’re calling sociopaths.

  • @Kevtf
    @Kevtf Před rokem

    Really like this message and your humility coming from someone successful. Never thought of it in terms of geekiness and creators, but that's what a lot of my current friends are despite not having tons of net worth. One of the best old playground songs goes "Make new friends, but keep the old. One is silver and the other's gold"

  • @heyheidi8
    @heyheidi8 Před 3 lety +1

    Garry, just found your videos, and omg they are so captivating and inspiring. I’m always like, was that really 15min? Felt like 5.

  • @Nima-Salami
    @Nima-Salami Před 8 měsíci

    What a beautiful message, man! ❤
    What a great distinction between the two. This is something that I personally resonate with and I know many other people around who do too. I just never knew how to clearly describe it yet. This video inspired me to talk about this topic with more people. Thank you! 🙏

  • @maddy3656
    @maddy3656 Před 2 lety

    I absolutely love this message. 💗 I think benevolence should be the number one criteria to determine whether you want someone to be your friend, not money or status.

  • @teerapongpushpavanija4318

    In the day that I’m so exhaust to catch a successful like a sociopath guru recommend.Your video help me and it’s very positive and supportive thank you so much.

  • @tlz8884
    @tlz8884 Před 3 lety +1

    Thanks for the clarity, and reminder on importance of creators over people who just talk really well.

  • @marrymechocolate4981
    @marrymechocolate4981 Před 2 lety

    Garry you are awesome, thank you sharing and teaching us 🙏 what a incredible lessons because I always thought I have to keep upgrading my friends. This sincerely enlightened my eyes. That’s why I always felt empty in connecting with them and it’s like dragging me to talk to them.

  • @TallDrinkForAMan
    @TallDrinkForAMan Před 3 lety +1

    Dig this new intro more! Keep up the solid work Garry!

  • @eduardovaldez-modonese5517

    Loved this video. So many things resonated.
    As a photography graduate and someone who spend 10 yrs as a part of the plastic arts scene, the worse for me is when your friends who are creators turn into creator-sociopaths. I’m sure that happens in every scene.
    Now I make furniture and invest. I got less friends, or a smaller social circle, but I enjoy my environment much more.
    I do try and surround myself with people who are better than me at different things. But I only do it organically, as life gives me the chance to meet those people.
    Being on a hunt for successful people is vomitive.

  • @chidinwaka9231
    @chidinwaka9231 Před 3 lety

    Thank you for sharing such a gem Garry, I always learn something new every time.

  • @donkeykongsdad1312
    @donkeykongsdad1312 Před 3 lety

    I think leveling up your peers can be what you said too.. the most benevolent people. That’s what I consider a level up not who makes more money. It’s true though you will either rise or fall to their level. You can’t carry them nor them carry you. It’s like when you play instruments.. you don’t want to play with people your level. You need to get around people with more experience so that you can learn. At any given time, we all need Peers, Mentors, and Students. We have to be learning, teaching, and have people who we can reflect and bounce ideas off of with. Great video, you are appreciated! Thank you~

  • @AdnanSpace
    @AdnanSpace Před 3 lety +9

    I am thankful that i realised this early in my life and changed my friend circle at the right time.

  • @strategy_gal
    @strategy_gal Před 3 lety

    I couldn't agree with you more! I like how you emphasized how important it is to be real and true no matter what! Great video, Garry!

  • @srinivasavarmakalidindi3837

    Such a great message Garry. You are a compassionate man.. Love what you do and share. Thank you so much..

  • @mclarentee
    @mclarentee Před 3 lety +1

    Thank you! This video really comes at the right time. I have followed your youtube for over a year when you have less than 10K subscribers. Your videos always inspire me.
    Since I followed your channel, I have grown my crypto startup from 2 co-founders to become 23 people without backing by VCs. I also made some financial success thanks to the bull market. I started to think this is a waste of time to talk to my friends who have not believed in me when I joined crypto space in 2017. I started to decline their requests for gathering as I wanted to be with crypto people who share the some vision with me.
    After watching this video, I will think more about my attitude in this weekend.

  • @TinaLeder
    @TinaLeder Před 3 lety +3

    Growing up in *LA,* I *FELT* this "gross" behavior everywhere.😥
    I always thought it was interesting how *"main stream successful people"* (now looking back were the creatives) had "normal" friends and would be the ones *WILLING* to talk to me lol
    You articulated this so well.

  • @_lfaustoo
    @_lfaustoo Před 3 lety

    WOW! New format, SAME FIRE CONTENT! I love you, Garry!

  • @bopaz554
    @bopaz554 Před 3 lety

    Thanks Garry. You're really an inspiration. So much value in your videos.

  • @georgeokonkwo7717
    @georgeokonkwo7717 Před 3 lety +1

    The value creation of the group of friends will always define the group, you can't cheat your way to the top. Nice one Gary!!!!

  • @deetercesler447
    @deetercesler447 Před 3 lety

    Really enjoying seeing you here and on Twitter saying more and more of what you really think. Love the strong opinions

  • @uxbykilian3148
    @uxbykilian3148 Před 3 lety

    Your content is on another level👏💯this channel will go platinum real soon.Give this man a Grammy

  • @Ranjanwatson
    @Ranjanwatson Před 3 měsíci

    Thanks Garry, it helps me to align my perspective of growing my startup.

  • @marvinbernal
    @marvinbernal Před 3 lety

    I’m glad I stumbled across this channel over the past few months. Thanks for your humbling advice.

  • @dchasser
    @dchasser Před 3 lety

    This is a wonderful message, Garry. Inspired and excited to learn more!

  • @aadams5864
    @aadams5864 Před 3 lety +3

    Ran into this early in my career when my reputation started growing. Totally agree!

  • @shawnR3838
    @shawnR3838 Před 3 lety

    Thank you very much for your hardwork and consistency in giving all your best... Deeply appreciated

  • @panther009cpt
    @panther009cpt Před 3 lety

    The level of insights that Garry is sharing is master class. I wish his insights were available when my career first started. Thanks for sharing and most importantly being candid.

  • @EnriqueHerbella
    @EnriqueHerbella Před 3 lety

    Garry, you are awesome! Thank you so much for everything that you do and stand for!

  • @weizouang2626
    @weizouang2626 Před 3 lety +2

    Love the new intro!

  • @mbemandul
    @mbemandul Před 3 lety

    Gary, this is amazing. Thank you for sharing that kindness matters in this world!

  • @PortfolioAutomotive
    @PortfolioAutomotive Před 3 lety +1

    Always enjoy these videos, thank you for sharing 🙌

  • @ChaiTimeDataScience
    @ChaiTimeDataScience Před 3 lety +1

    Garry, your channel is the education everyone wishes they had in University!
    Thank you for all of these golden nuggets.
    - An aspiring founder/dev from India :)

  • @abhiumn
    @abhiumn Před 3 lety

    Thank you Garry for leading people in the right direction, and letting them know that it is ok to choose virtues and be a better person than maximizing for local gains.

  • @rtsoccerplayer
    @rtsoccerplayer Před 3 lety +3

    Garry is a blessing to society

  • @Piermusic
    @Piermusic Před 2 lety

    So on point Garry!!!!!!!!!!! Love that you're talking about this!!!!!!!!

  • @poyen_hsieh
    @poyen_hsieh Před 3 lety

    Love it Gary! Making an important distinction here. It is a million times better hanging out with friends who wants the best for you than just for them. The later is exactly what sociopaths do... Nevertheless, these sociopath, just like you said may have just taken the wrong advice. I hope they come and see this video. Let's CHANGE! I also want to argue that the best way to upgrade your friend is to upgrade yourself :)

  • @chanorou2075
    @chanorou2075 Před 3 lety +1

    This was absolutely amazing. Thanks a million

  • @kehindemajolagbe6581
    @kehindemajolagbe6581 Před 3 lety

    I like your take Garry. As always, thank you for sharing :)

  • @janpoguntke746
    @janpoguntke746 Před 3 lety

    Loved the video. One should also ask oneself if life isn't about more than leveraging contacts. Just enjoy your friends and the time you are spending with them.

  • @alchemist_one
    @alchemist_one Před 3 lety

    Thanks, Gary. It's great to see someone in your position saying this.

  • @kDev7659
    @kDev7659 Před 3 lety

    well said, love the values you share Gary, success is holistic and not one dimensional

  • @readmycomment3157
    @readmycomment3157 Před 3 lety

    I find it encouraging to hear from you that being a good person is still of value in business, in a landscape that appears to be dominated by creepy power driven sociopaths. I hope its true.

  • @shotimemillionaire
    @shotimemillionaire Před 3 lety +12

    Creators are a unique bunch ... they seek the highest, truest expression of themselves. Another banger Garry!

  • @gtcdon
    @gtcdon Před 3 lety

    Thanks for all the stuff till now... just followed your channel yesterday... waiting for more... will share to my creator friends

  • @peterchin7796
    @peterchin7796 Před 3 lety

    I'll keep your advice in mind, thanks so much Garry

  • @Indians-In-Germany-With-Dipak

    Yet another inspiring video Garry
    Appreciate your contribution.. thanks a tons 🙏🙏🙏

  • @meronpansukidayo
    @meronpansukidayo Před 3 lety

    Garry you're the best. Thanks for calling out the sociopaths.

  • @arifsetiawanshift
    @arifsetiawanshift Před 3 lety +1

    Great video. I'm looking for this advice for years.

  • @kodykendall
    @kodykendall Před 11 měsíci

    Thank you, Gary. Very good food for thought here, goes to the value of keeping long term relationships to help keep you grounded and keep a balanced perspective

  •  Před 3 lety

    Ok! THIS STATEMENT OF VALUES made me definitively want to work with Jerry Tan or his organization. Synergy comes about from shared values, and happiness at work is a MUST now for a whole generation of CREATORS. 🤩

  • @sakukahkonen
    @sakukahkonen Před 2 lety

    Thank you Garry!

  • @kylerodgers3608
    @kylerodgers3608 Před 3 lety +2

    Gary, I don’t know if you realized this, but this video taught me a lot about how you rose to success and the obstacles you faced. Humans can’t not relate information to their personal lives

  • @george_davituri
    @george_davituri Před 6 měsíci

    Garry thanks for sharing your thoughts, it's super interesting as always

  • @sircitrus
    @sircitrus Před 3 lety

    Always look forward to your videos. Thanks

  • @juanedocordero7127
    @juanedocordero7127 Před 3 lety

    One of the best.... Garry!!! All the best

  • @yvonnemartin3158
    @yvonnemartin3158 Před 2 lety

    Great advice! Been looking at all your start ups! Amazing 🙌

  • @Skylla54
    @Skylla54 Před 3 lety

    0:52
    "A community of soziopath will never outperform a community of Creators"
    Uff, I had to pause to sink this sentence in. Thats a quote that i will remember. On point!

  • @natzblazin
    @natzblazin Před 3 lety +1

    Really digging your msg! I relate to a lot of this and feel like your able to say what im thinking a lot better than I can, (so I can share easily with friends haha). Been following since the coinbase video and I must say, feeling the same vibes as when I first followed graham Stephan at 10k and thinking to myself, this guys gonna blow up! Great advice whether you want to build that billion dollar business or simply be a better person, haha peace ✌️

  • @Random.Thoughts21
    @Random.Thoughts21 Před 3 lety

    All of a sudden this has become my favorite channel.

  • @tomlee1865
    @tomlee1865 Před 3 lety

    Thank you for all your videos Gary! Literally lessons that some will take a lifetime or a costly mistake to learn

  • @vivekgr3001
    @vivekgr3001 Před 3 lety

    Thank you Garry for this amazing video!

  • @kenstaroz1536
    @kenstaroz1536 Před 3 lety

    Thank you Garry 🙏🏻 🙏🏻 🙏🏻

  • @gcajones
    @gcajones Před 11 měsíci

    Garry, I respect the message that “upgrading” friends who are networking just for opportunities will lead you to friendships with sociopaths. I was waiting for a message about “if you made it in life as an entrepreneur, here’s how you can it for my friends (eg. I did it via Y combinator or career karma with specifics). However the message I got was “stay away from sociopaths instead upgrade to geeks and creators.” I’m an ambitious person but life and friendships are not as black and white as that. Can you speak to leveling up the good friends you already have in life? Thanks for the great content!

  • @realijeomalove
    @realijeomalove Před 3 lety

    I’ve always naturally associated myself with creators. And I see the benefit in that! Gary you spot on with this one!

  • @hwp8139
    @hwp8139 Před 3 lety

    Thanks! I really needed this

  • @jennyy7439
    @jennyy7439 Před 3 lety

    I love this video!! Thanks!!

  • @paramveerdhoot6415
    @paramveerdhoot6415 Před 3 lety

    Love this!!!

  • @paul_pierre
    @paul_pierre Před 3 lety

    My respect for Garry just went up 10x. Thank you for saying the right thing. A leader this makes.

  • @shenseanchen
    @shenseanchen Před 3 lety +2

    The moment when Gary said micro optimisation really hit me. Can totally relate.

  • @A_Brion
    @A_Brion Před 3 lety

    This was great Garry. I'm a early 30s entrepreneur who's a low level millionaire but I don't have any new friends and still keep up with my my best friend from high school and couple friends from college days. I want to connect with other 7-8 figure entrepreneurs/business owners but they seem like psychopath and a-holes like you described. I feel better not trying to suck up to those type of guys just for friendship.

  • @MohammadRauf1
    @MohammadRauf1 Před 3 lety

    I like Garry's format ... short 10-20 minute spot-on advice. Keep it up, Garry!

  • @nathandessalegne3970
    @nathandessalegne3970 Před 3 lety

    You're an absolute gem Garry!

  • @NotMe-rn7jm
    @NotMe-rn7jm Před 3 lety +1

    amazing! one of a kind!

  • @gdthegreat
    @gdthegreat Před 3 lety +1

    This is definitely true and happened with me, during college I used to hang out with loosers and felt same and now in good company, feeling great.

  • @ayodejibabalola565
    @ayodejibabalola565 Před 3 lety

    Again, thank you GARRY!

  • @waltondornisch7662
    @waltondornisch7662 Před 3 lety

    AHHHHHHHH... My cool breeze just wafted in... feels so good...Thank you, Garry.